WOMEN Can Get Away with ABUSING Men
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Summary
In this week's episode, I'm joined by my good friend Cassie Jayne to discuss abuse in the home and in the workplace. We discuss the issue of domestic violence in the UK and how it's a gendered crime. Women are far more likely to experience abuse than men, but why is it not talked about in the media?
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can we talk about the abuse thing okay because the other thing is women will never talk about
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them hitting the guy first how many they said there's a lady here in the uk that she worked
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at women's shelters like and she said 80 of the time the women were equally if not more abusive
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than the men yep but they'll only talk about the man's part in it why why is that because men are
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doubly more likely to commit violent crimes like that's the step against all the men i'm not going
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to say anything i can't but that's a fact like men are doubly more likely they're also they're also
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more likely to be the victim of violent crimes when it comes to mutual when it comes to abusive
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relationships more likely than not they're hitting each other no i'm gonna jump in straight both of
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them and jump in so mind you i like it's publicly knowledge that i was previously in abusive
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relationship so for you to automatically state that you know for me there wasn't any physical violence
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but abuse i feel like we have to openly since we have this platform discuss that there's very many
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different types of abuse there's emotional there's coercive control financially very different types
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it is a gendered crime women are far more likely to experience abuse than men will if we're speaking
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about violence out on the streets of course that's completely different women are not out fighting
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and knifing each other down but in the home women especially in the pandemic it has increased and
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it's like 70 right yeah one-sided one-sided most abusive relationships are mutual meaning
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they're usually hitting each other when it comes to one-sided abuse it's more likely that the woman's
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hitting the man and he's not retaliated and often it goes unreported because there are cases
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where they even call the police on a woman and they'll still arrest the man but where have you
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got your statistics from that's my question to you because they go over it on twitter cassie no it's
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not twitter it's cassie jay has a whole documentary that goes over it that's that's not a fact
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that's just a documentary she pulls up the studies in it that's fine subjective study
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you get it's not a well but i want to weigh in can we get the national stats can we get the
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i want to speak on this topic completely differently and honestly i used to have a similar like view i always
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thought women were like more likely to be victims of that but i just had woman after woman after
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woman come on my show if you're being abused why wouldn't you go to the police that's anecdotal
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evidence i mean and that's it's also victim blaming no it's not it's that's definitely victim blaming
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also there's a lot of hitting just like in life and i feel like you know these snowflakes
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but it's true but it's true we live in the real world and i feel like there was a lot more that
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kind of like that went on a hundred years ago and you know people just kind of got along these days
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you get me too if like a girl gets her ass grabbed at a picture you know it's like you're in a picture
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and a guy grabs her butt and it's like i was raped like i am a victim of rape it's like oh right yeah
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they were great they did yeah and that's not grape that's just a little grab you know probably
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inappropriate uncomfortable is that really something to write home about i don't think so
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and i also think that in like relationships it gets heated sometimes now it's one thing if someone's
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getting pummeled to the floor and you know it's really serious but if there's a little slapping
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around or there's a little bickering maybe it gets a little uh hey i'm gonna insult you and back around
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i don't know are we really gonna we're gonna split apart the marriage over that i think it's got to
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be pretty extreme to me i think there's levels to it and it doesn't make sense if someone's punched if
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sterling comes over and punches me in the face i'm calling the cops like why i don't i don't understand
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all these girls that come forward they're saying oh i was abused it was horrible this this and that's
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you know i'm probably not gonna i don't think you need to end the marriage over over do i do i think
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you need to end the marriage over one slap no but how many how many i mean within what time frame you
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know if you have 10 slaps 10 slaps in a week that's a lot imagine just checking it every week
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this week two slaps this yeah i don't i don't think i don't think but this goes back to what i was
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saying earlier it's always like the worst case scenario but i think like we're going back to the
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um everyone can call the police i just don't think it's that easy i just think if you're going
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to come on a podcast and say that you were abused like i hope you have a police report to back it
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up because otherwise that's definition of care i i i yeah yeah i don't know you i don't know your
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life for sure i'm just saying like in that case i don't think it's easy to say you know if i get
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punched i can call the police when maybe that person i haven't been physically abused but if that
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person's threatening me my child my my life my i just don't think it's that easy to say i just think
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abuse as a whole is not an easy conversation i would more so want to go i understand but before you get
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the chance to call to that police how do you know that your life can't be taken or there's so much
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manipulation and it's certainly as soon as i was in a safe situation i know i i understand but
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sometimes the did the police do everything to guard you did the police have some 24 hours
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surveillance on y'all don't have guns here so it's better yeah that's the problem there's a whole lot
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that's that's the problem it's better than air no but what my thing is my issue is when women
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come forward and say they were abused and they have no evidence to back it up and they can defame
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a man and assassinate his character well where people know who you dated and you have no evidence
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that it happened so then you get girls coming on the show there's no there's no proof of it no
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defamation and as a whole is i think that could go both ways like if it's a guy saying that about
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another guy yeah it's not a gender thing and yeah but guys don't do that in general they probably do
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they probably do slam each other this motherfucker they don't they don't come on here and do that i've
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done the show for a year but i'm saying i i talk to people on the street who talks to more people than
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me i don't think we should we should victim blame or like not believe like women when it comes to
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situations like this but one thing pearl said that was actually really really um important is if um
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i'm with my partner and we've had a fight why am i gonna go report it as an abuse
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should be reported as a fight that's one thing that like a lot of women get away with as well
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if it's a fight it's a fight and that's when they're taking the reports now and they're now
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realizing actually so did you hit him back and then now they're stuttering i hate that in women
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because firstly your story you just know already you being a woman you got that upper hand so that's
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why you went forward and reported it as an abuse from the get-go that's the that pisses me off
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go and say we had a fight yeah and then tell them a story so it's for the it's the police the police
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job to decide exactly what's going to be done you know with the evidence and the proof and everything
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but most times they get back together so because there are women who will absolutely
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go to a go to the police or whatever and report their boyfriend or whatever for abuse
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purely out of spite yeah purely because and it is it is sickness it is sickness twisted but they do it
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because they know they can do it and they know they can get away with it because there's zero
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repercussion it's not a lot it's um come on sterling it's probably a lot more than you think
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no i've probably a lot i mean i would not try there's going to be no way to measure that
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statistically you can't because um yeah there is because it's based on evidence yeah but you're
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not going to know who's like how are you going to know how many women went and lied because it's
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based on evidence is there anyone and didn't and the woman decided because women decide not to
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