JustPearlyThings - Would You Believe What She SAID

00:00:00.000 but the first instance you caught him cheating you stayed well obviously i had the doubts over

00:00:04.560 the four years right yeah yeah yeah go ahead um no i've never had an experience like that

00:00:11.120 or i don't know if a man's cheated on me i don't know about it i don't search you know

00:00:16.560 yeah you don't know no no so you it might have happened but you just don't know i just don't

00:00:20.960 know i don't look for the thing is with men if you look for it you'll find it if you want to

00:00:25.040 find it talking to you yeah oh yeah same problem um yeah i don't look for that kind of thing so

00:00:31.760 yeah as far as i know no but maybe okay um let's start here yeah um i reckon i have i never really

00:00:39.680 saw anything in particular but i had very strong convictions that i was and then you know like

00:00:46.480 when this is why i say sometimes men talk to your mic sorry yeah men like unprovoked because i i knew

00:00:53.600 but then i'd ask him and then sometimes he'd say no and then other times he'd be like okay yeah

00:00:59.360 because you know when i i make him feel safe i'm like no just tell me the truth it's fine

00:01:05.920 and then he's like okay yeah and then and other times when i do bring up he's like i didn't say that

00:01:11.280 i'm like yeah yeah you did so i never really found anything properly but i just i really need you think

00:01:17.280 you want to know you don't no do you know what i can handle the truth i never ask questions if i can't

00:01:23.200 handle that answer yeah like i will be ignorant i will happily live ignorantly but i would ask a

00:01:27.520 question when i know that i can handle the truth and i think it doesn't matter what it is

00:01:31.440 it doesn't matter how bad it is please always tell me the truth yeah i don't care how bad it is

00:01:35.920 yeah yeah it's easier just to be truthful waste like don't waste anybody's time then and i hate it

00:01:40.800 when men are like oh you can't handle the truth and it's like no i can handle the truth a lot better than you

00:01:44.800 lying i think someone can handle the truth though i think sometimes we i think sometimes women 1.00

00:01:50.880 say you can handle the truth but you actually can't because i think and i think that's why

00:01:55.280 a lot of guys would then lie even after you tell them because a lot of women would like just tell 0.90

00:01:59.760 me and we'll talk about it but when he then tells you the truth it's now a whole argument it's a whole

00:02:04.160 thing you can't you don't you don't have a proper conversation about it which is why i love them

00:02:07.680 lie about it you know where a lot of girls go wrong men will test whether they can be truthful with

00:02:11.840 you throughout the relationship yeah and you don't clock those little tests where you might say

00:02:15.200 something and see how you respond to it it might not be a big thing but that response tells us a lot

00:02:18.640 about how you behave yeah so when it comes to the big things there's no way to tell you anything

00:02:22.240 no but you know what it is the response she gives you when she first finds out when she says she can

00:02:25.920 handle the truth is going to be far better than when she finds out you've lied to her because that's

00:02:30.960 when she's vandalizing your car do you get what i mean if he gets caught if he gets caught it the

00:02:35.840 reactions are far worse so even if she says she can handle it and she reacts it's going to be a lot more

00:02:40.800 better than when she finds out that you've lied on top of that i've seen women with the same 1.00

00:02:44.480 do you know what i've seen women with the same energy can't even lie to you i'm like i i get why 1.00

00:02:48.080 the guy the guy was scared but he should cheat in the first place definitely that is the biggest

00:02:51.840 lesson even more though huh i don't think guys can handle the truth any better no they can't they

00:02:56.160 they definitely can't i will die i will die on the spot my immune system will shut down

00:03:03.600 if we told you the truth about all the things that like we thought when you asked for our opinion 0.73

00:03:07.840 dead yeah i'm honest i'll die don't do it i'll go i'll end up in hospital 0.82

00:03:12.160 i'm glad that you admit that ego is fragile serious what what about you auntie

00:03:20.800 yeah a few times a few times i can think of two two different times and once

00:03:29.920 boyfriend at the time was supposed to be supposed to go out he didn't turn up so i went to his house

00:03:35.440 and young lady outside the door oh wow yeah that's rich i just said hi i asked for him

00:03:43.840 and i says you know and she goes oh he's upstairs i said oh i'll come up

00:03:52.400 and he was in bed he's saying threesome and he just looked like threesome he does have a heart

00:03:57.200 attack like all the color just drained out of his face and i just said hi

00:04:04.320 and she said would you like a cup of coffee i said yes please

00:04:08.000 she went downstairs to get the coffee and she and he looked at me and i said what you want me to say

00:04:13.040 do you want me to freak out i said no i'm not going to do that i said the poor girl i said she

00:04:17.280 don't know any different and she's come up and she was just like hi and she's trying to cuddle him 0.61

00:04:22.080 in bed because they were in bed and he's sort of like and i'm saying is that your man and she said

00:04:27.440 yeah i said hug him up girl so so were you the main chick or the side chick i was the main you were

00:04:35.440 the main yeah but that was it but i just after that i just terrorized him nicely who did she think 1.00

00:04:40.560 you did the right thing to torment she thought i was his friend oh well why would you because i've got

00:04:47.920 a lot of male friends and she always saw us with a lot of men together but obviously the energy you

00:04:53.040 came with as well wouldn't be someone that you would assume was a big guy because you're very

00:04:57.200 calm and collective it's not awful no but i should say most girls the instant response be to run 0.99

00:05:01.760 upstairs they've been trying to grab a grab a plate and do something i was like hi i'm here i'm coming

00:05:07.520 you wanted to talk to him like you you wanted to talk to him yeah as you should like listen right

00:05:11.440 as far as she was concerned i was his friend i became her friend too oh you know i'd pop around

00:05:17.840 there like when i was talking to the guys because we'd all hang out around this i'd pop around she

00:05:21.680 said oh he's not in you know i'm just cooking i gotta pop down to the shop to get some out

00:05:25.760 fun i said this is what you're having for dinner right this is what you're having for dinner yeah

00:05:31.120 he used to want to play at parties for me and then he wouldn't invite her i'm like what do you mean

00:05:35.360 you're not coming tell him i invited you it's my party he's playing that more psycho and then no 0.55

00:05:42.240 and then i just left it at that but i don't know i think he cheated on her because another time i just

00:05:47.040 saw all of his car had all paint all over it oh wow and i was just like what happened to your car

00:05:54.000 like it wasn't me that became a drama yeah i wouldn't do that i wouldn't do that i wouldn't do

00:05:58.000 it's not worth it yeah what am i going to argue with us what was i supposed to do it's not her fault

00:06:02.880 so moral of the story is pull up no no don't ever come to the house and catch him out

00:06:09.840 saying to like torture him over like time then just like go ham on them because you could have

00:06:15.040 easily just taken their jaw off and then that'd be it over done with no do you know who's taking

00:06:18.720 his jaw off who's the guys not the girls because she didn't know take his jaw off and then walk down 0.90

00:06:28.640 i could never hit a man because if he hit me back it'll hurt

00:06:31.200 so i agree with that if i hit a man i'd expect him to hit me but that's what i'm saying that's why

00:06:35.440 i don't hit men i'm not stupid i'm not gonna hit a man and knowing that he's gonna hit me back

00:06:41.760 because i believe that if you hit somebody they're gonna hit you back

00:06:43.760 i'm not hitting anyone yeah and another time i got cheated on um i was a supervisor in the bus

00:06:50.720 garage and i got a phone call my boyfriend was a night bus driver and i got a phone call

00:06:57.840 in the past a message on to this person and i said yeah can i ask you to speak and she said his

00:07:02.320 girlfriend i said okay then and i've been seeing him for a couple of years and then when he was on his

00:07:08.240 break i said oh can i have a word he said yeah no problem i said your girlfriend found she wants you

00:07:13.360 to phone her back he flipped out i was so calm he freaked out i said to the manager i said you're

00:07:19.920 gonna need a new driver in a couple of months within a couple of months he was gone

00:07:24.320 that was it because and that was one and the thing is i made him we had like this relationship

00:07:30.000 contract that i'd signed and laminated and got him to sign and it was like you tell me because

00:07:35.120 i find that you're cheap that's it yeah no i hear that so he just flipped out it's in a personal

00:07:39.520 contract you wrote up yeah typed it and everything oh wow laminated it got to sign it of what i

00:07:45.680 expected and you break any one of them that's it do you do that with my non-division no but i feel

00:07:50.560 that i needed it to do with it with him yeah i feel like i need to start doing that why didn't you freak

00:07:55.680 out like so many girls when that happens um like i think a lot of times we have a hard time like

00:08:00.800 remaining calm how were you able to control your emotions i didn't take it personally he's just a

00:08:05.680 man and he's just it was there available and he just it happens in it take notes so you know i

00:08:11.120 didn't take it personally i mean i didn't think yeah oh my god she's sexier than me or she can do 1.00

00:08:15.600 this i just thought the opportunity came up because as far as i'm concerned you got a few more friends

00:08:20.720 go ahead because it could be a female friend you're going to sleep with it could be a woman down the road 1.00

00:08:24.560 that you meet up so it don't really matter so i'm not going to say you can't have female friends

00:08:28.560 so he had female friends and that was one of them so um did you break up with him after that

00:08:33.680 instantly he knew it was over because he signed the contract yeah and what about the other one

00:08:38.160 instantly instantly yeah what do you think of girls that stay in those situations do you think that's 0.98

00:08:43.200 good or bad then they're going to start talking about trauma after that

00:08:49.200 it's up to them but whatever you get i mean if it can happen once i mean you can accept it if you

00:08:53.600 want to accept it but if you accept it then put up with it in it don't say nothing yeah because a lot

00:09:00.240 of times like we accept it and then complain about trauma later but yeah we accepted it yeah we put

00:09:05.440 ourselves through it yeah i mean you got to think to yourself what value you're putting on yourself that

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JustPearlyThings - April 07, 2023

Would You Believe What She SAID

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