Would You Believe What She SAID
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss cheating in relationships and how to deal with it. We also discuss the dangers of lying to your partner and why we should always tell them the truth. We discuss cheating, cheating, lying, lying and lying AGAIN!
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but the first instance you caught him cheating you stayed well obviously i had the doubts over
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the four years right yeah yeah yeah go ahead um no i've never had an experience like that
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or i don't know if a man's cheated on me i don't know about it i don't search you know
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yeah you don't know no no so you it might have happened but you just don't know i just don't
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know i don't look for the thing is with men if you look for it you'll find it if you want to
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find it talking to you yeah oh yeah same problem um yeah i don't look for that kind of thing so
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yeah as far as i know no but maybe okay um let's start here yeah um i reckon i have i never really
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saw anything in particular but i had very strong convictions that i was and then you know like
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when this is why i say sometimes men talk to your mic sorry yeah men like unprovoked because i i knew
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but then i'd ask him and then sometimes he'd say no and then other times he'd be like okay yeah
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because you know when i i make him feel safe i'm like no just tell me the truth it's fine
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and then he's like okay yeah and then and other times when i do bring up he's like i didn't say that
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i'm like yeah yeah you did so i never really found anything properly but i just i really need you think
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you want to know you don't no do you know what i can handle the truth i never ask questions if i can't
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handle that answer yeah like i will be ignorant i will happily live ignorantly but i would ask a
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question when i know that i can handle the truth and i think it doesn't matter what it is
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it doesn't matter how bad it is please always tell me the truth yeah i don't care how bad it is
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yeah yeah it's easier just to be truthful waste like don't waste anybody's time then and i hate it
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when men are like oh you can't handle the truth and it's like no i can handle the truth a lot better than you
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lying i think someone can handle the truth though i think sometimes we i think sometimes women
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say you can handle the truth but you actually can't because i think and i think that's why
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a lot of guys would then lie even after you tell them because a lot of women would like just tell
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me and we'll talk about it but when he then tells you the truth it's now a whole argument it's a whole
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thing you can't you don't you don't have a proper conversation about it which is why i love them
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lie about it you know where a lot of girls go wrong men will test whether they can be truthful with
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you throughout the relationship yeah and you don't clock those little tests where you might say
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something and see how you respond to it it might not be a big thing but that response tells us a lot
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about how you behave yeah so when it comes to the big things there's no way to tell you anything
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no but you know what it is the response she gives you when she first finds out when she says she can
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handle the truth is going to be far better than when she finds out you've lied to her because that's
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when she's vandalizing your car do you get what i mean if he gets caught if he gets caught it the
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reactions are far worse so even if she says she can handle it and she reacts it's going to be a lot more
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better than when she finds out that you've lied on top of that i've seen women with the same
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do you know what i've seen women with the same energy can't even lie to you i'm like i i get why
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the guy the guy was scared but he should cheat in the first place definitely that is the biggest
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lesson even more though huh i don't think guys can handle the truth any better no they can't they
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they definitely can't i will die i will die on the spot my immune system will shut down
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if we told you the truth about all the things that like we thought when you asked for our opinion
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dead yeah i'm honest i'll die don't do it i'll go i'll end up in hospital
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i'm glad that you admit that ego is fragile serious what what about you auntie
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yeah a few times a few times i can think of two two different times and once
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boyfriend at the time was supposed to be supposed to go out he didn't turn up so i went to his house
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and young lady outside the door oh wow yeah that's rich i just said hi i asked for him
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and i says you know and she goes oh he's upstairs i said oh i'll come up
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and he was in bed he's saying threesome and he just looked like threesome he does have a heart
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attack like all the color just drained out of his face and i just said hi
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and she said would you like a cup of coffee i said yes please
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she went downstairs to get the coffee and she and he looked at me and i said what you want me to say
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do you want me to freak out i said no i'm not going to do that i said the poor girl i said she
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don't know any different and she's come up and she was just like hi and she's trying to cuddle him
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in bed because they were in bed and he's sort of like and i'm saying is that your man and she said
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yeah i said hug him up girl so so were you the main chick or the side chick i was the main you were
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the main yeah but that was it but i just after that i just terrorized him nicely who did she think
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you did the right thing to torment she thought i was his friend oh well why would you because i've got
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a lot of male friends and she always saw us with a lot of men together but obviously the energy you
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came with as well wouldn't be someone that you would assume was a big guy because you're very
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calm and collective it's not awful no but i should say most girls the instant response be to run
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upstairs they've been trying to grab a grab a plate and do something i was like hi i'm here i'm coming
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you wanted to talk to him like you you wanted to talk to him yeah as you should like listen right
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as far as she was concerned i was his friend i became her friend too oh you know i'd pop around
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there like when i was talking to the guys because we'd all hang out around this i'd pop around she
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said oh he's not in you know i'm just cooking i gotta pop down to the shop to get some out
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fun i said this is what you're having for dinner right this is what you're having for dinner yeah
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he used to want to play at parties for me and then he wouldn't invite her i'm like what do you mean
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you're not coming tell him i invited you it's my party he's playing that more psycho and then no
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and then i just left it at that but i don't know i think he cheated on her because another time i just
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saw all of his car had all paint all over it oh wow and i was just like what happened to your car
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like it wasn't me that became a drama yeah i wouldn't do that i wouldn't do that i wouldn't do
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it's not worth it yeah what am i going to argue with us what was i supposed to do it's not her fault
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so moral of the story is pull up no no don't ever come to the house and catch him out
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saying to like torture him over like time then just like go ham on them because you could have
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easily just taken their jaw off and then that'd be it over done with no do you know who's taking
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his jaw off who's the guys not the girls because she didn't know take his jaw off and then walk down
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i could never hit a man because if he hit me back it'll hurt
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so i agree with that if i hit a man i'd expect him to hit me but that's what i'm saying that's why
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i don't hit men i'm not stupid i'm not gonna hit a man and knowing that he's gonna hit me back
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because i believe that if you hit somebody they're gonna hit you back
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i'm not hitting anyone yeah and another time i got cheated on um i was a supervisor in the bus
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garage and i got a phone call my boyfriend was a night bus driver and i got a phone call
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in the past a message on to this person and i said yeah can i ask you to speak and she said his
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girlfriend i said okay then and i've been seeing him for a couple of years and then when he was on his
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break i said oh can i have a word he said yeah no problem i said your girlfriend found she wants you
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to phone her back he flipped out i was so calm he freaked out i said to the manager i said you're
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gonna need a new driver in a couple of months within a couple of months he was gone
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that was it because and that was one and the thing is i made him we had like this relationship
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contract that i'd signed and laminated and got him to sign and it was like you tell me because
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i find that you're cheap that's it yeah no i hear that so he just flipped out it's in a personal
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contract you wrote up yeah typed it and everything oh wow laminated it got to sign it of what i
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expected and you break any one of them that's it do you do that with my non-division no but i feel
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that i needed it to do with it with him yeah i feel like i need to start doing that why didn't you freak
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out like so many girls when that happens um like i think a lot of times we have a hard time like
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remaining calm how were you able to control your emotions i didn't take it personally he's just a
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man and he's just it was there available and he just it happens in it take notes so you know i
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didn't take it personally i mean i didn't think yeah oh my god she's sexier than me or she can do
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this i just thought the opportunity came up because as far as i'm concerned you got a few more friends
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go ahead because it could be a female friend you're going to sleep with it could be a woman down the road
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that you meet up so it don't really matter so i'm not going to say you can't have female friends
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so he had female friends and that was one of them so um did you break up with him after that
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instantly he knew it was over because he signed the contract yeah and what about the other one
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instantly instantly yeah what do you think of girls that stay in those situations do you think that's
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good or bad then they're going to start talking about trauma after that
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it's up to them but whatever you get i mean if it can happen once i mean you can accept it if you
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want to accept it but if you accept it then put up with it in it don't say nothing yeah because a lot
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of times like we accept it and then complain about trauma later but yeah we accepted it yeah we put
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ourselves through it yeah i mean you got to think to yourself what value you're putting on yourself that
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you're staying as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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