JustPearlyThings - April 08, 2023


You will NOT Believe What She Said


Episode Stats


Length

11 minutes

Words per minute

190.2758

Word count

2,095

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

19

sentences flagged

Hate speech

4

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Summary

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In this episode of the BDSM podcast, we discuss the healthiest relationships in the world and how to get into one. We also discuss the dangers of sex outside of BDSM and the lack of women who are willing to take on the role of being a dom in a BDSM relationship.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 extreme but you actually see the very clear actually this will it's controversial if you
00:00:05.720 think about it but it's the healthiest relationships are from the bdsm community and i will i will
00:00:13.800 explain why okay i need you to define healthy no no i need you to like if we're going to claim this
00:00:20.520 the reason why i say it's healthy is in order to be able to be in that type of relationship
00:00:27.260 because it is so extreme to the point where sometimes there is a chance of death yeah because
00:00:32.620 people engage in such extreme activities you need extreme trust in order to get into it is there is
00:00:39.860 there any data that backs this up so the the idea this just sounds like this sounds crazy so i i know
00:00:46.160 i'm i'm gonna give you the example okay because things are so extreme you're not just going to do
00:00:52.800 it even though it's a fantasy you're not going to do it unless you trust that person's not going to
00:00:56.820 actually kill you does that make sense so you have to discuss all the details you you say what do i
00:01:02.820 like what i don't like they talk about what are the things that you might consider what are the things
00:01:08.300 what is a hard no what is a soft no what is and after you've done all of that and you agree that
00:01:13.140 you're going to give it a try you have to have a safe word so what happens in that relationship
00:01:19.740 one person's the dom one person's the sub who holds the power the dom but is that just sexually
00:01:28.820 though what about outside no no no no that's that's yes that's that's that's a trick question
00:01:34.140 the ultimate power is the sub why because they can attend when it stops exactly and that's the beauty
00:01:41.160 of submission ladies it's the beauty of submitting because you know that you trust that person so much
00:01:48.800 that you literally trust them with your life and it's beautiful because you say to this man i am
00:01:54.480 willing to submit to you i trust you ultimately for my livelihood and my well-being ultimately i trust you
00:02:02.280 100 and i know that if it because it is negotiable if i am uncomfortable even slightly and i don't i
00:02:10.600 want to get out of it i want to step away you have my back you will respect me and you are going to give
00:02:16.300 me that ability to walk away and just just to add to that um i think when women hear submission 1.00
00:02:24.000 they just think like the man's in front and they're just behind like trodding along like i'm telling you
00:02:30.520 women that does not that's not what submission means like and there's certain points like i said
00:02:34.620 before that men actually like you to be uh in the forefront so like i said before in a family you go
00:02:41.260 to a family gathering right we don't want to be putting up plates for the kids and making sure
00:02:46.120 everyone's fed like that's that's when you can dominate the situation it doesn't mean we have to be
00:02:49.540 head hunched all the time it just means the majority of the time we're your safety we're there for you to
00:02:55.960 protect you we're there to provide for you so it hasn't got to be all the way like where you're
00:03:00.420 just trotted along and we're like in front of you there can be certain points where they dominate
00:03:04.440 so um i'm curious for you why do you think there's a shortage of um wives i think i don't i i think 1.00
00:03:12.820 they're uh jeopardizing their chances to be wives but i think there's a lot of potential husbands 1.00
00:03:17.580 but you could also make the argument there's shortage of both because they're being turned off because
00:03:23.300 does that make sense because of the law yeah yeah and so yeah but i think more women are jeopardizing 1.00
00:03:29.840 their uh potential to be wives but but i think there's loads of potential husbands who can
00:03:34.340 actually get into the husband role like they could be but it's just they don't have the right girl to 1.00
00:03:39.260 become that exactly what what mistakes do you see girls make that takes them out of the running to 1.00
00:03:45.120 be wives um i don't know i just want to if i could just simply say it well if they're if they could
00:03:53.580 easily get sucked into things like feminism like you know overall yeah i know people say oh but 1.00
00:03:59.460 there's this type of feminism you know i think we could all agree that all this like men are trash and
00:04:06.380 all that stuff that's probably the biggest mistake if you can if you can allow that in
00:04:12.160 you know in your mindset and think that that's okay that's probably the biggest one
00:04:18.880 that turns men off because you can even just say that's that that's enough because in feminism they 1.00
00:04:25.420 say you don't have to do this he could just accept you the way you are you don't have to do anything
00:04:29.460 you just have to exist and going back to the actual topic of what we're talking about the bar is set
00:04:34.700 very just ridiculously high for men to the point where i i used i think that they deliberately do
00:04:41.240 that to take the piss it's just so high it's unattainable but for women i feel like there is no
00:04:47.720 but it doesn't even exist so you can see that you see the girls on my 300 pound life with a man
00:04:53.760 is that monthly i haven't even seen that
00:04:58.000 yeah i personally i personally think that the problem these days in modern culture whatever
00:05:05.160 you want to call it is that people is actually focusing on the wrong things so these girls are 1.00
00:05:10.820 talking about and i think there was recently these guys who came in and said they were high value men
00:05:14.880 and they wear flashy stuff they act you know a certain way and i can tell you that a high value
00:05:25.280 woman the ones that you actually the good ones that you want as a wife they're not going to say yes to 1.00
00:05:30.240 that guy because they're gonna see him and be like oh he's so insecure he needs to drive a lambo in 0.95
00:05:36.480 order to feel slightly slightly better about himself slightly because guess what big under all those
00:05:43.260 cologne nice shirts whatever gucci bells whatever you want to call it it's a very insecure person who
00:05:51.360 needs that physical reassurement because guess what the the real men the real value men they don't wear
00:05:59.940 anything flashy you don't even know they have money that's the beauty they wear same t-shirt every day
00:06:05.220 and they're the true men with the values they're the ones who they're dangerous they they know their
00:06:10.720 stuff and if they want to inflict danger they know but the beauty about them is that they have that
00:06:15.500 that that everything's under control so if anyone wants to mess with them you know you're gonna get
00:06:21.360 burned but because they're so in control and in their king energy they they they the girls know that
00:06:27.860 he is a good person to be with because he can protect me but he also will respect me and love me
00:06:33.860 so i think yeah i'm sorry paul um so quick question um this is just from the chat um have you had a
00:06:40.440 bdsm relationship personally me no but it's something that you saw 50 shades of gray and
00:06:47.340 you're like sign me up no no sign me up can i just put it out there that 50 shades of gray is the worst
00:06:52.800 depiction of bdsm there is okay ever it is it is a completely wrong and that is an abusive relationship
00:06:59.180 that is not bdsm that is not a consensual relationship every woman fancy what's the 1.00
00:07:04.060 guy's name because i know they was all reading the book on the train oh mr gray yeah it's the same
00:07:07.780 thing girls like the handmaid's tale this is the thing like so girls are attracted to 1.00
00:07:13.340 they're that's the thing they're confused what they want is the healthy relationship the king
00:07:19.000 who is you can tell he can inflict you know trauma and real real real real things like he can protect
00:07:27.880 his family he can protect his people but he controls it he's in control of himself these girls are fooled 1.00
00:07:34.620 because they don't we sometimes when you're young and you don't know better you're fooled by these
00:07:39.180 girls you know girls intuition we're not fooled let's not use that language because it's not correct
00:07:44.120 women women's intuition is so freaking i'm not saying we're not we know we are not like that 0.62
00:07:49.040 that's like when we say words like fooled it's implying that we don't know what we're doing
00:07:53.240 and that it's a cop-out for women it's like oh we're fooled by the flashy stuff come on okay i'm not
00:07:58.500 trying to say that i'm not trying to say that everyone's like that but from personal experience i i was
00:08:04.140 i i was i am a person who fell for someone who i thought was a king he tried he didn't see a single red flag
00:08:13.860 because i would i didn't know how to see it you didn't okay this is the thing i was like i'm just
00:08:18.420 being like i'm just being real with you it just sounds like excuses no no no i i of course i believe
00:08:23.000 you yeah and actually for the longest time i noticed that i attracted the same type of guys
00:08:28.040 men that unfortunately didn't think about me it was all about them it wasn't about me and
00:08:33.340 and and you know what i realized that what what's the constant here me yeah that's the one thing
00:08:39.620 that hasn't changed so why am i getting the same experiences so rather than try to say that it's
00:08:45.180 their fault i looked at myself and i said what am i not what am i missing right how long did it take
00:08:52.540 you to get there though like what age did you start looking at yourself because that's what i
00:08:55.700 encourage all my female friends to just look at themselves and see the problems within themselves
00:08:59.540 before they start pointing a finger yeah look you should start start whenever i mean the thing is
00:09:04.760 is that like i was always a bit late in dating scene anyways like my first and only boyfriend was
00:09:09.760 when i was 22 i was with him for two years i honestly thought this was someone i was going to
00:09:15.020 marry that's how serious i was but guess what he was a narcissist he gaslighted me all the time his
00:09:20.280 whole family was was he diagnosed um he's very self-centered and everything was about but he was never
00:09:28.480 diagnosed because okay because again this in a way is an excuse like with that women use because if he 1.00
00:09:34.680 hasn't seen a therapist and he hasn't been professionally diagnosed you can't diagnose him as a
00:09:38.680 narcissist i think it's difficult because i know it's not it's not it's not difficult you know it's
00:09:43.060 like if he if he's not hasn't been diagnosed as a narcissist we can't just go around calling people
00:09:47.800 narcissists so i'm gonna say narcissistic traits what that means is that a person is coming across a
00:09:52.880 certain way but they're not diagnosed i apologize if anyone takes offense to that i think i want to
00:09:56.980 answer pearl's question um with regards to what are the mistakes women make um in becoming a wife so 1.00
00:10:04.080 i think personally today's women think that identifying with feminism is a good long-term strategy 0.64
00:10:11.980 and it's clearly not because as you said men appreciate youth men appreciate fertility so
00:10:19.760 i think the biggest problem of feminism for me is that feminism encourages independence right 1.00
00:10:26.380 and in today's society for females independence means in my opinion incredibly promiscuous so they 1.00
00:10:34.580 end up sleeping with multiple guys figuring to do the same thing as men because ultimately 0.55
00:10:38.780 independence me you can do what you want right by yourself but it's clearly not as many of you know
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