You Won't Believed What She CONFESSED To
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In this episode, I chat to my good friend, Jess, about the age difference between men and women when it comes to sex and sex appeal. We discuss the difference between women and men in the modern world and how it affects the sexual market value of a woman in her late 20s and early 30s.
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that happened to you not what like the the dating someone for a long time and
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he had no I've had several relationships that now I look back I think actually
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that was never going anywhere either I always thought it was me deciding that
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but then you think actually he never was gonna do my thing man can waste time
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did he did he end up like marrying someone else right after did they never
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get married um a couple of my exes I think a manager sometimes I think it's
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like girls will try to make a guy that doesn't want to be a husband a husband
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yeah I mean he's just not a husband so I was just curious if the guys like were
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they not husbands or like they were never gonna marry you to me they weren't I
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don't actually think they were husbands I wasn't happy but they may well be now
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this was obviously I'm 35 this was in my 20s early 20s I think that women date
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potential so me dating someone at my own age at that point might have been the
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problem I think I've not really dated older I've not really I've been a bit
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weird about it but actually maybe that's a better idea not now my my fiance's
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younger but I'm just saying that I I've lost my train of thought you know if a
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guy doesn't get married after the age of 35 he only has a 15% chance of ever
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getting married that crazy for women it's like 0% oh wow I think what is it by if a
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woman doesn't if a woman doesn't have a child by 35 the chances of her having a
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child drop to about zero well she's single by 30 the chance of her the chance
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if she's single at 30 the chance of her ever having like a kid drops below 50%
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right so you're like she's more likely to not have a kid than have one what does
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that tell you about sexual market value of a woman that's a scary statistic right
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that's a harsh reality for me I'm getting married I would like to have kids my
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partner would like to have kids but I am 35 and the chances and I think that
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should be taught to so girls because at the moment you see a lot of celebrities
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they've paid for IVF they've had their expose and they're doing it older but
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they've got millions of pounds to achieve things it isn't actually easy to
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achieve in the real world what do you wish you knew at 25 not to date anybody
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for pretend for their potential because the chances of them fulfilling that
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potential are quite slim that actually a man who is a go-getter a man that is a
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hard worker driven they already are and it's not going to come from me pushing
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them they already are that person and then yeah would you say you dated more
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for like looks in your 20s mmm not based on my exes no but I I do think that
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that's what you look for definitely I think but I've I've sort of oh sorry me this
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way sorry it's because I'm looking at power that's what I'm done it's me lost
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where I was again I asked if you you dated for looks in your 20s yes not based on my
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exes no but I do think that charisma I'd say I went for the funny one the loud one
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the confident one you know they weren't always the best-looking one but but I
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think that that comes off as like a masculinity in a way so I think that's what I
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was attracted to and then I'd get in the relationship and realize actually they
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weren't doing anything else and I still you're hooked there they had a lot of
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practice to get that funny yeah a lot of free time okay what did you think of the
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body count when does is high value off the table for a woman I think it is a
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slightly age-related as well I think that if I had a kid or a niece or well I do
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have a niece I would say just hold on to your virginity for as long as you can
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but I think that early 18 if you start having sex when you're 16 maybe you slept
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with one person and then 20 maybe two you know and then if you're 35 and you've
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had a few relationships and it'd be a little bit above but I think that there's
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no need to go out yeah I think what's the number oh sorry yeah I'm sorry early 20s I'd say like
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five what me what age is high value off the table for a woman probably 25 okay so so so five then
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okay roughly five five 25 yeah what do you think yeah five five after five high
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values off the table finished I'll say below double digits to be honest that's the most
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common answer I get I get like yeah ten is well I get when I ask how many bodies
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is too many bodies it's always prefer five I'll deal with ten fifteen maybe if
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she's hot what do you think well it's funny that a lot of people land on five
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that's like statistically kind of the average for women in the Western nations
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like and so you're kind of going well as long as she's kind of average which is you
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know I think it's a fair standard that is about the average yeah reported I mean
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obviously there's gonna be some variances because people I whatever but on the
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grand scale it's probably not off by more than one the one I the one I read was
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higher than that it was like eight I think that might have been like Sweden or
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something like a really like egalitarian sort of open society that could happen
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for me you know so and oh were you doing like world yeah okay no it's like it's
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more Western world it's more like England America Canada you know like sort of
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like the G20 whatever you want to call it so there there could be you know some
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variance in that but that's good though it's it averages fine it's a it's such
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it's such an interesting thing let me tell you guys this like here's the
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question I would ask right and here's it like a legitimate statistical question
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I'm interested in this right as a man's income and options go up options
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meaning more women are willing to sleep with them therefore he gets to choose who
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he wants to commit to because that's what a man does at the end of high value he
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chooses who he commits to right he's the one that controls the commitment the
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woman controls the sex right as a man's options go up does that number change
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an interesting question because like well the body count for a girl that's
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acceptable to him to form a long-term relationship like I know a dude we
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actually both know a dude with Henry that like is where the chick right now
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and like you can tell she's been with a lot of dudes but the guy's so
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inexperienced and naive he's just happy to have a woman he's like yeah I have a
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woman is he well off or no no no no not at all but I'm thinking like but I'm
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thinking like if this guy was like as this guy right he's young but as he
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rises through life he's like you know it's more money more money more so
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whatever that metric you use for value whatever whatever you know gains more
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opportunity more more social value he might look at that chick and be like you
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know what I can do better you know because like the same that your friend is
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picking up a 300 pound chick it's like most of the guys that go for that by the
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way there's actual studies on this as well right and they say that poor men
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prefer fatter women and I look at that study go it's not that they prefer it's
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just who they can get it's just like the market has a certain equilibrium right
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there's a surplus of that there's way too many chicks that are oversized there's
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way too many lazy broke-ass dudes and then the market surplus adjusts itself
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they're really a match made in heaven heaven's a strong word heaven heaven's a
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strong word but that's funny because this lady in the green dress here was
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saying like yeah I had some guys living with me that never really thought they were
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gonna marry me and my first thought was like I wonder if there are very low
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ambition men oh right yeah because they're comfortable being in a
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imperfect situation what happens is in this young gentleman here in front of
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me in the matching suit he was saying earlier he's like I want a girl that
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that pushes me to and motivates me and I'm like no you don't if a woman has to
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motivate you if oh no you don't if a woman has the moment issue then if a woman
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has to motivate you in a relationship you will both be bitter and resentful
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I agree with that like like my woman is like hey I do you need to travel on that
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trip do you do this I'm like yeah like you know like I I told my girlfriend who
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became my wife I was like I'm really really ambitious gonna be working all
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the time you have to deal with that if you don't that's okay but that's gonna be
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me and so and I find that her attraction for me stabilizes and even goes up
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because I am achieving new things all the time and and she won't deny that I
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agree with that completely I work six days seven days a week that's what I do
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and I'm not gonna stop doing what I'm doing because I'm able to provide what
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I need to provide and no matter what arguments happen you're still happy with
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what I'm doing because it shows that I'm doing what I need to do I would ask an
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interesting question anybody here grow up with a two-parent household like my
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parents were together for most most of my life okay and I experienced this right
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like my mom was constantly frustrated and a little resentful at my dad because he
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wasn't as ambitious as she was has anybody ever experienced that that's a
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terrible really I saw that as a kid that's a terrible that's a bad
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relationship to observe that's a bad relationship because what happens pearl
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you know this what happens with the moment a woman out earns a man yeah
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instantly so it's like you want to really motivate your guy no you don't
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support him no but that's it yeah mate support always not be the guy should have
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his own drive his own ambition his own motivation he should have his own goals
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and then the woman's like hey you go yeah positivity at home night you know not
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actually because I made the mistake of thinking that I could motivate people that
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don't have any motivation any drive any goals and they're happy to win and not
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very but that guy won't choose a 300 pound woman with 20 ducks like he just won't
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period he just won't why would he I still agree with what you said as well you know
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it's interesting it's like women we pick non monogamy in our 20s like so it's like
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interesting is this is the first time in human history where women have been in
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control of sex like historically you either go with the guy that steals you
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you know what I mean or or your dad you can either comply with him or you're dead so
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this is the first time in human history we're a hundred percent in control of sex
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because there's consequences for the men and we're also a hundred percent in
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control of who's born so what happened you would think like when women were in
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control of sex that we would pick monogamy right but it's interesting
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because women when we are at our peak like we're in our prime we pick non
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monogamy in our 20s and typically like women pick non monogamy because we're
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going we find 80% of men is unattractive not just okay not just nah we find them
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as ugly so because we find 80% of men is unattractive that means we're sharing 20% of
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men and so yeah so we're picking and because in our 20s like you were saying
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like you can't pick a guy for ambition like maybe it's social status what
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whatever it is so basically women share women men in their 20s and then their
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30s pick pick a leftover guy typically that they wouldn't have picked in their
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20s I am yep I agree with that as well same yeah I definitely agree with that you
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always see the age-old things like when I was in school you get the really the
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Chris looking girl that everyone wanted and she would only pick who she deemed to be
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really handsome or whatever it was and then as she got into her 30s had three or
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four children and body shapes now no longer the same all of a sudden because
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for me I truly believe that men as they get older they become more attractive
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so even with even with the Botox nowadays we can see your forehead not moving
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we can see it like oh it's like so shiny you know
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exactly as well so then you get those women in their early 20s who didn't necessarily want to pick you
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now all of a sudden they want to pick you when they're in a situation where it's like now you
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come back and say yeah because I mean they don't have as much bargaining power it's like you
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got to go half off you know what I mean and so now it's like they really will run
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to the guys that we rejected in our 20s and our 30s and say take me with you
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know and guess who they're gonna cheat on you with because the guys that they
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hooked up with their 20s exactly so they're going right back yep yeah which
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which I think that's like why we really talk about what we do it's not really to
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shit on women but it's like a lot of men are naive to this they think oh she
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really likes me because she's coming in in my 30s or maybe she just overlooked me in
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high school but she never look you she's just you know the other guys didn't work
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out your second choice they just don't know she bet against you yeah and you
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let her back in you're in trouble yeah that's it's harsh I don't I think that
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women some women just make a lot of mistakes and they're looking in the wrong
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way because I'm like a relationship person I wasn't just like you know going
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all around the place but what's high value when you're younger or what you think is
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how I value when you're younger isn't what you're not kind of linking it to a
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husband yeah you know you're not hunting you're right you're right because when
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women get closer to 30 it's like they look more for long-term security so in
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their 20s it goes back to what we were saying they say tends to be looks more
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like prime genes so they say okay these guys are the ideal genes that I want for
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for whatever reason maybe it's social status maybe whatever but then in their
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30s they tend to go for like long-term security and like safety and so you know
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basically it's like alpha beta like they pick the alphas in their 20s and the
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betas in their 30s yeah and women don't typically respect debate I mean I hate
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the word alpha and beta and you don't realize as well that when you're saying
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the bait is like that's say at school at college I'm just the good-looking guy is
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the one that all the girls want but you don't realize these guys over here are the
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ones that are gonna make the money have their own businesses you're not that's
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just not in your head at all you just want it's an attraction it's not you're not
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thinking it through if you see what I mean it's not like a decision you've made
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on purpose well there's a reason historically like the dads would keep
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their daughters away from certain guys mm-hmm like this is why no that's why
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women like we suck at relationships we don't pick the right guys in general
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because this is the first time because in the 20s it switched where women used to
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live with their their dad and then they went straight to their husband so there
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was no period it like in between and so that in the 20 thousand women started to go
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out you know that's what they say the roaring 20s they started going to the
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parties you know they cut their hair off and it's wild stuff and so that was the
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first time where women were more in control of sex and more in control of
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who they were picking and that's when you start to see the birth like women
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having less children and that's when you well you see the divorce rate more go
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down in 65 when women were a hundred percent in control of reproduction
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because we got a birth control but my whole point is that when women are in
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charge we make bad choices like children yeah give us too much freedom we don't know