JustPearlyThings - You Won't Believed What She CONFESSED To

00:00:00.000 that happened to you not what like the the dating someone for a long time and

00:00:05.100 he had no I've had several relationships that now I look back I think actually

00:00:09.780 that was never going anywhere either I always thought it was me deciding that

00:00:14.100 but then you think actually he never was gonna do my thing man can waste time

00:00:18.720 did he did he end up like marrying someone else right after did they never

00:00:22.380 get married um a couple of my exes I think a manager sometimes I think it's

00:00:28.280 like girls will try to make a guy that doesn't want to be a husband a husband 1.00

00:00:31.580 yeah I mean he's just not a husband so I was just curious if the guys like were

00:00:34.860 they not husbands or like they were never gonna marry you to me they weren't I

00:00:38.300 don't actually think they were husbands I wasn't happy but they may well be now

00:00:43.540 this was obviously I'm 35 this was in my 20s early 20s I think that women date 0.96

00:00:52.100 potential so me dating someone at my own age at that point might have been the

00:00:56.360 problem I think I've not really dated older I've not really I've been a bit

00:01:00.980 weird about it but actually maybe that's a better idea not now my my fiance's

00:01:05.720 younger but I'm just saying that I I've lost my train of thought you know if a

00:01:12.500 guy doesn't get married after the age of 35 he only has a 15% chance of ever

00:01:16.340 getting married that crazy for women it's like 0% oh wow I think what is it by if a

00:01:23.000 woman doesn't if a woman doesn't have a child by 35 the chances of her having a 1.00

00:01:26.540 child drop to about zero well she's single by 30 the chance of her the chance

00:01:30.620 if she's single at 30 the chance of her ever having like a kid drops below 50%

00:01:34.640 right so you're like she's more likely to not have a kid than have one what does

00:01:37.640 that tell you about sexual market value of a woman that's a scary statistic right 1.00

00:01:40.620 that's a harsh reality for me I'm getting married I would like to have kids my

00:01:43.940 partner would like to have kids but I am 35 and the chances and I think that

00:01:47.720 should be taught to so girls because at the moment you see a lot of celebrities 1.00

00:01:52.160 they've paid for IVF they've had their expose and they're doing it older but

00:01:56.000 they've got millions of pounds to achieve things it isn't actually easy to

00:01:59.120 achieve in the real world what do you wish you knew at 25 not to date anybody

00:02:04.760 for pretend for their potential because the chances of them fulfilling that

00:02:09.140 potential are quite slim that actually a man who is a go-getter a man that is a

00:02:13.640 hard worker driven they already are and it's not going to come from me pushing

00:02:17.960 them they already are that person and then yeah would you say you dated more

00:02:22.340 for like looks in your 20s mmm not based on my exes no but I I do think that

00:02:30.300 that's what you look for definitely I think but I've I've sort of oh sorry me this

00:02:40.880 way sorry it's because I'm looking at power that's what I'm done it's me lost

00:02:48.440 where I was again I asked if you you dated for looks in your 20s yes not based on my

00:02:53.780 exes no but I do think that charisma I'd say I went for the funny one the loud one

00:03:01.040 the confident one you know they weren't always the best-looking one but but I

00:03:05.300 think that that comes off as like a masculinity in a way so I think that's what I

00:03:09.500 was attracted to and then I'd get in the relationship and realize actually they

00:03:13.500 weren't doing anything else and I still you're hooked there they had a lot of

00:03:18.020 practice to get that funny yeah a lot of free time okay what did you think of the

00:03:25.400 body count when does is high value off the table for a woman I think it is a 1.00

00:03:30.380 slightly age-related as well I think that if I had a kid or a niece or well I do

00:03:36.320 have a niece I would say just hold on to your virginity for as long as you can 1.00

00:03:40.280 but I think that early 18 if you start having sex when you're 16 maybe you slept

00:03:47.700 with one person and then 20 maybe two you know and then if you're 35 and you've

00:03:52.400 had a few relationships and it'd be a little bit above but I think that there's

00:03:56.420 no need to go out yeah I think what's the number oh sorry yeah I'm sorry early 20s I'd say like

00:04:07.800 five what me what age is high value off the table for a woman probably 25 okay so so so five then 1.00

00:04:15.800 okay roughly five five 25 yeah what do you think yeah five five after five high

00:04:25.340 values off the table finished I'll say below double digits to be honest that's the most

00:04:41.040 common answer I get I get like yeah ten is well I get when I ask how many bodies

00:04:46.740 is too many bodies it's always prefer five I'll deal with ten fifteen maybe if 0.73

00:04:52.320 she's hot what do you think well it's funny that a lot of people land on five

00:05:00.040 that's like statistically kind of the average for women in the Western nations 1.00

00:05:05.160 like and so you're kind of going well as long as she's kind of average which is you

00:05:08.660 know I think it's a fair standard that is about the average yeah reported I mean

00:05:12.980 obviously there's gonna be some variances because people I whatever but on the

00:05:15.920 grand scale it's probably not off by more than one the one I the one I read was

00:05:20.960 higher than that it was like eight I think that might have been like Sweden or

00:05:24.500 something like a really like egalitarian sort of open society that could happen

00:05:28.280 for me you know so and oh were you doing like world yeah okay no it's like it's

00:05:32.720 more Western world it's more like England America Canada you know like sort of

00:05:35.540 like the G20 whatever you want to call it so there there could be you know some

00:05:39.500 variance in that but that's good though it's it averages fine it's a it's such

00:05:44.860 it's such an interesting thing let me tell you guys this like here's the

00:05:47.220 question I would ask right and here's it like a legitimate statistical question

00:05:51.080 I'm interested in this right as a man's income and options go up options 0.57

00:05:56.480 meaning more women are willing to sleep with them therefore he gets to choose who 0.96

00:05:59.540 he wants to commit to because that's what a man does at the end of high value he

00:06:02.540 chooses who he commits to right he's the one that controls the commitment the

00:06:05.360 woman controls the sex right as a man's options go up does that number change 1.00

00:06:11.060 an interesting question because like well the body count for a girl that's 1.00

00:06:15.860 acceptable to him to form a long-term relationship like I know a dude we

00:06:18.920 actually both know a dude with Henry that like is where the chick right now 1.00

00:06:22.340 and like you can tell she's been with a lot of dudes but the guy's so

00:06:25.360 inexperienced and naive he's just happy to have a woman he's like yeah I have a

00:06:29.000 woman is he well off or no no no no not at all but I'm thinking like but I'm

00:06:33.560 thinking like if this guy was like as this guy right he's young but as he

00:06:36.740 rises through life he's like you know it's more money more money more so

00:06:39.620 whatever that metric you use for value whatever whatever you know gains more

00:06:43.220 opportunity more more social value he might look at that chick and be like you 1.00

00:06:48.500 know what I can do better you know because like the same that your friend is

00:06:52.160 picking up a 300 pound chick it's like most of the guys that go for that by the 0.96

00:06:55.580 way there's actual studies on this as well right and they say that poor men

00:06:58.580 prefer fatter women and I look at that study go it's not that they prefer it's 1.00

00:07:02.060 just who they can get it's just like the market has a certain equilibrium right

00:07:04.940 there's a surplus of that there's way too many chicks that are oversized there's 1.00

00:07:08.060 way too many lazy broke-ass dudes and then the market surplus adjusts itself

00:07:11.840 they're really a match made in heaven heaven's a strong word heaven heaven's a 0.94

00:07:16.880 strong word but that's funny because this lady in the green dress here was 1.00

00:07:19.940 saying like yeah I had some guys living with me that never really thought they were

00:07:22.820 gonna marry me and my first thought was like I wonder if there are very low

00:07:25.700 ambition men oh right yeah because they're comfortable being in a 1.00

00:07:29.660 imperfect situation what happens is in this young gentleman here in front of

00:07:32.900 me in the matching suit he was saying earlier he's like I want a girl that

00:07:35.780 that pushes me to and motivates me and I'm like no you don't if a woman has to 1.00

00:07:39.860 motivate you if oh no you don't if a woman has the moment issue then if a woman 1.00

00:07:44.300 has to motivate you in a relationship you will both be bitter and resentful

00:07:46.820 I agree with that like like my woman is like hey I do you need to travel on that

00:07:52.160 trip do you do this I'm like yeah like you know like I I told my girlfriend who

00:07:56.120 became my wife I was like I'm really really ambitious gonna be working all

00:07:58.700 the time you have to deal with that if you don't that's okay but that's gonna be

00:08:01.640 me and so and I find that her attraction for me stabilizes and even goes up

00:08:06.560 because I am achieving new things all the time and and she won't deny that I

00:08:10.460 agree with that completely I work six days seven days a week that's what I do

00:08:15.460 and I'm not gonna stop doing what I'm doing because I'm able to provide what

00:08:19.040 I need to provide and no matter what arguments happen you're still happy with

00:08:23.720 what I'm doing because it shows that I'm doing what I need to do I would ask an

00:08:26.960 interesting question anybody here grow up with a two-parent household like my

00:08:29.340 parents were together for most most of my life okay and I experienced this right

00:08:32.600 like my mom was constantly frustrated and a little resentful at my dad because he

00:08:37.880 wasn't as ambitious as she was has anybody ever experienced that that's a

00:08:41.000 terrible really I saw that as a kid that's a terrible that's a bad

00:08:43.700 relationship to observe that's a bad relationship because what happens pearl

00:08:47.180 you know this what happens with the moment a woman out earns a man yeah 0.99

00:08:52.060 instantly so it's like you want to really motivate your guy no you don't

00:08:55.280 support him no but that's it yeah mate support always not be the guy should have

00:09:01.280 his own drive his own ambition his own motivation he should have his own goals

00:09:04.460 and then the woman's like hey you go yeah positivity at home night you know not

00:09:10.580 actually because I made the mistake of thinking that I could motivate people that

00:09:15.140 don't have any motivation any drive any goals and they're happy to win and not

00:09:18.840 very but that guy won't choose a 300 pound woman with 20 ducks like he just won't 1.00

00:09:22.340 period he just won't why would he I still agree with what you said as well you know

00:09:28.460 it's interesting it's like women we pick non monogamy in our 20s like so it's like

00:09:33.020 interesting is this is the first time in human history where women have been in 1.00

00:09:35.960 control of sex like historically you either go with the guy that steals you

00:09:39.580 you know what I mean or or your dad you can either comply with him or you're dead so

00:09:42.900 this is the first time in human history we're a hundred percent in control of sex

00:09:46.160 because there's consequences for the men and we're also a hundred percent in

00:09:49.320 control of who's born so what happened you would think like when women were in 1.00

00:09:52.320 control of sex that we would pick monogamy right but it's interesting

00:09:56.160 because women when we are at our peak like we're in our prime we pick non 1.00

00:09:59.320 monogamy in our 20s and typically like women pick non monogamy because we're

00:10:03.560 going we find 80% of men is unattractive not just okay not just nah we find them

00:10:07.880 as ugly so because we find 80% of men is unattractive that means we're sharing 20% of

00:10:11.860 men and so yeah so we're picking and because in our 20s like you were saying

00:10:16.080 like you can't pick a guy for ambition like maybe it's social status what

00:10:19.380 whatever it is so basically women share women men in their 20s and then their 0.55

00:10:23.820 30s pick pick a leftover guy typically that they wouldn't have picked in their

00:10:27.720 20s I am yep I agree with that as well same yeah I definitely agree with that you

00:10:33.080 always see the age-old things like when I was in school you get the really the

00:10:37.400 Chris looking girl that everyone wanted and she would only pick who she deemed to be 0.85

00:10:42.320 really handsome or whatever it was and then as she got into her 30s had three or

00:10:46.220 four children and body shapes now no longer the same all of a sudden because

00:10:51.540 for me I truly believe that men as they get older they become more attractive

00:10:55.700 there's a reason they age like fine wine

00:10:57.680 that's a phrase women age like milk 1.00

00:11:01.580 so even with even with the Botox nowadays we can see your forehead not moving

00:11:07.360 we can see it like oh it's like so shiny you know

00:11:12.200 exactly as well so then you get those women in their early 20s who didn't necessarily want to pick you 1.00

00:11:17.380 now all of a sudden they want to pick you when they're in a situation where it's like now you

00:11:21.520 come back and say yeah because I mean they don't have as much bargaining power it's like you

00:11:24.440 got to go half off you know what I mean and so now it's like they really will run

00:11:29.180 to the guys that we rejected in our 20s and our 30s and say take me with you

00:11:33.020 know and guess who they're gonna cheat on you with because the guys that they 0.81

00:11:36.220 hooked up with their 20s exactly so they're going right back yep yeah which

00:11:41.180 which I think that's like why we really talk about what we do it's not really to 0.99

00:11:44.840 shit on women but it's like a lot of men are naive to this they think oh she 0.97

00:11:47.840 really likes me because she's coming in in my 30s or maybe she just overlooked me in 1.00

00:11:51.440 high school but she never look you she's just you know the other guys didn't work 0.99

00:11:54.740 out your second choice they just don't know she bet against you yeah and you

00:11:58.880 let her back in you're in trouble yeah that's it's harsh I don't I think that

00:12:04.280 women some women just make a lot of mistakes and they're looking in the wrong 1.00

00:12:07.580 way because I'm like a relationship person I wasn't just like you know going

00:12:11.840 all around the place but what's high value when you're younger or what you think is

00:12:18.600 how I value when you're younger isn't what you're not kind of linking it to a

00:12:22.740 husband yeah you know you're not hunting you're right you're right because when

00:12:26.520 women get closer to 30 it's like they look more for long-term security so in 1.00

00:12:30.000 their 20s it goes back to what we were saying they say tends to be looks more

00:12:32.880 like prime genes so they say okay these guys are the ideal genes that I want for

00:12:37.920 for whatever reason maybe it's social status maybe whatever but then in their

00:12:41.760 30s they tend to go for like long-term security and like safety and so you know

00:12:46.080 basically it's like alpha beta like they pick the alphas in their 20s and the

00:12:49.180 betas in their 30s yeah and women don't typically respect debate I mean I hate 1.00

00:12:53.100 the word alpha and beta and you don't realize as well that when you're saying

00:13:00.180 the bait is like that's say at school at college I'm just the good-looking guy is

00:13:04.500 the one that all the girls want but you don't realize these guys over here are the

00:13:07.920 ones that are gonna make the money have their own businesses you're not that's

00:13:10.800 just not in your head at all you just want it's an attraction it's not you're not

00:13:14.820 thinking it through if you see what I mean it's not like a decision you've made

00:13:17.520 on purpose well there's a reason historically like the dads would keep

00:13:20.340 their daughters away from certain guys mm-hmm like this is why no that's why 1.00

00:13:25.080 women like we suck at relationships we don't pick the right guys in general 1.00

00:13:28.620 because this is the first time because in the 20s it switched where women used to 1.00

00:13:32.760 live with their their dad and then they went straight to their husband so there

00:13:37.640 was no period it like in between and so that in the 20 thousand women started to go 1.00

00:13:42.240 out you know that's what they say the roaring 20s they started going to the

00:13:44.760 parties you know they cut their hair off and it's wild stuff and so that was the

00:13:48.540 first time where women were more in control of sex and more in control of 1.00

00:13:52.200 who they were picking and that's when you start to see the birth like women 0.99

00:13:55.020 having less children and that's when you well you see the divorce rate more go

00:13:58.480 down in 65 when women were a hundred percent in control of reproduction 1.00

00:14:02.700 because we got a birth control but my whole point is that when women are in 1.00

00:14:07.040 charge we make bad choices like children yeah give us too much freedom we don't know

00:14:10.860 what we're doing yeah

JustPearlyThings - August 03, 2023

You Won't Believed What She CONFESSED To

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