00:00:00.300Most men are chasing a dent in the world. It's followers, recognition, a bigger stage, while overlooking the one place they can actually make the biggest difference, and that's the town they live in and the people right next to them.
00:00:13.540Today's conversation is about making an impact over income, why being known by 10,000 people in your own community beats being famous online, and why we're robbing our kids by shielding them from the consequences of their bad choices.
00:00:29.540But we also get into giving yourself permission to try new things without committing to them forever, managing risk without letting fear run your life, and knowing when to say no so the service that you do doesn't burn you out.
00:00:45.260My guest today, Casey Lofthouse, is a mechanic, tow operator, former search and rescue volunteer, mule packer, country line dancer, and one of the most capable and generous men that I know.
00:00:57.420he's also someone I'd call first personally if I was in a in a rough spot if you've ever felt like
00:01:03.680you don't matter because you're not quote-unquote making your mark this conversation might change
00:01:09.940how you see your own value whether you're broke down stuck in the sand or frankly just having a
00:01:16.060bad day it's all kind of part of the adventure what matters is who shows up and how you're a
00:01:22.980man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart your own
00:01:27.740path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time. You are not easily
00:01:33.580deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who you are. This is
00:01:40.880who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself
00:01:46.280a man. Men, welcome to the Order of Man podcast. If you're new here, I am Ryan Michler, your host
00:01:52.460and the founder. We're doing things different. Just had a big product redesign. I said product,
00:01:59.440but a podcast redesign. The studio is brand new and it looks incredible. We're still working on
00:02:07.420some camera angles and increasing the quality of the visuals, but the studio is like 95% there.
00:02:13.500So make sure you check this video out on this podcast out on YouTube at youtube.com slash
00:02:19.260Order of Man, because I think you're going to like what you see. I hope you do anyways.
00:02:23.580I've got a really, really good one lined up for our first in-person podcast in this new studio.
00:02:29.500Keith Yacke joined me, but that was a shell of what it became. So make sure you check this one
00:02:34.100out. It's with my good friend. His name is Casey Lofthouse. We'll get into that in just a minute.
00:02:39.740And also speaking of good friends and capable, I think every man ought to have himself a good,
00:02:45.260high quality knife. I think Casey would agree, although we didn't talk about that necessarily
00:02:49.640on the podcast, he would probably agree based on what I know about him. And if you're looking for
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00:03:01.220breaking down an animal out in the field, cutting meat for your family as you cook and prep dinner,
00:03:07.420protecting yourself, defending yourself. I mean, you name it. There's a thousand different uses
00:03:11.900for a good high quality knife. And I would look no further than my friends over at Montana
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00:03:24.760up. You're always cooking. And you know, being a man does, does not shut off. And a good man always
00:03:30.480has a good knife. Again, Montana knife company.com use the code order of man. Let me introduce you
00:03:36.380of my guest. His name is Casey Lofthaus. He spent most of his life just being the guy that people
00:03:42.800call when things go sideways. He runs an organization called Winterton Automotive Towing,
00:03:48.640also Casey's Auto Repair in my hometown, Hurricane, Utah. And he has documented his
00:03:55.860backcountry rescues and towing people out of weird predicaments and situations on his YouTube
00:04:01.800channel over at Casey's Off-Road Recovery since 2007, so almost 20 years now. He spent years with
00:04:09.320Washington County Search and Rescue and has been involved in Utah's off-road and land use community
00:04:15.140for decades. And that includes helping launch one of the largest state off-road events in 2003.
00:04:23.280But this guy packs mules into the backcountry and hauls out hunters and big game and
00:04:28.600people in predicaments they don't want to be in. He pulls authentic wagons with his beloved mules
00:04:35.260in commemorative treks. He's a Renaissance man. He does it all. But he grew up as one of 13 kids
00:04:42.040and learned hard work and community service from his dad and from the men that he worked for as a
00:04:47.560teenager when he was a kid doing welding. He's a classic country vocal performer, a country line
00:04:56.600dancing instructor, a longtime commercial beekeeper. He's also an honorary lifetime member
00:05:03.980of the Dixie Amateur Radio Club for his work building repeater systems in Southern Utah.
00:05:09.500They're still using decades later. I think you guys are really going to enjoy this one. I think
00:05:17.300you're going to hear from a guy who is a lot like us and a lot better than me anyway, in a lot of
00:05:25.920ways enjoy this one guys casey what is up man uh i bet you didn't know you're gonna help me set up
00:05:32.940this podcast studio today i'm always up for an adventure you said it's better than your real
00:05:37.800your real work yeah i happen to fix cars or tow cars it's a little bit better project than that
00:05:43.980but you're not doing that much anymore right like you got a team that's doing it oh yeah i have a
00:05:48.880great group of guys that work down at the shop um good good cover on the tow trucks when i need a
00:05:54.960day off and other than that you can always say no that's true do you say no i don't imagine you're
00:06:00.400the kind of person who says no though i think that's the catch i don't say no to people that
00:06:05.860are in need most of the time if i'm available or can have you know have one of the crew go but
00:06:10.560you know sometimes in your career you get to the point to where you start to worry about what your
00:06:17.160impact is versus how much money you're making so that's kind of where i'm at what's your what kind
00:06:23.560of impact do you want to do you want to have like you're starting to look at more like legacy right
00:06:28.220then well just how you can impact people's lives over what you can charge them i mean you have a
00:06:34.560single mother that's in need and she needs a toe and she's having a hard time already and then you
00:06:39.420find out it's her birthday so you can be impactful in little ways like that over being motivated by
00:06:45.740the money that you might get so okay so hear me out on this it's i'm not gonna say it's easy to
00:06:51.940say that but I will say it's easier to say that as I'm 45 years old finances are a lot better
00:07:00.160right today than they were 20 years ago so how do you manage that that idea with I got to put food
00:07:07.680on the table though well your family and is your priority of course but as you said when you become
00:07:14.560more comfortable in life and your career and your finances then you're able to you know help people
00:07:20.320that are in need or help people that uh need a leg up or just a hello like it's just kind of one
00:07:26.160of the things is i've noticed in my life it changes like kind of what your priorities are
00:07:31.500in your younger days you was always hustling to make money because you had to to survive and now
00:07:37.060you get to a point in life where you're more comfortable and you can help people that are
00:07:43.380kind of struggling leave a bigger tip you know that kind of stuff yeah do you feel like you've
00:07:47.500always been like that like how is that because i've told people and you may not know this but
00:07:51.780i've told people when i talk about you it's all bad stuff but no when i when i talk about you
00:07:57.540because we've been friends for a long time but when i talk about you you know i i often describe
00:08:03.440you as somebody who's extremely capable who's extremely caring shirt off shirt off your back
00:08:09.720kind of guy um you know if i was in a pickle i'd probably call you don't you're like don't call me
00:08:15.840But, no, if I was, you'd be one of the top people I'd call because I know, like, okay, Casey's going to help me, number one.
00:08:23.100He's going to want to help me, number one, and he's going to be capable of helping me, number two.
00:08:27.200Well, and I think it's interesting you say that because, I mean, as an early age, my dad always taught me to be a hustler.0.95
00:08:33.240He's like, you know, you'd say something like, this sucks.0.95
00:08:36.580And he's like, no, it doesn't suck.0.96
00:08:38.140Just knuckle down, buckle down, and just do it, do it, do it.
00:08:40.620And so he would always instill like the value of hard work, but then along with that, you know, was like being able to serve people in your community, help the elderly, you know, all of those things kind of got instilled with me at a younger age.
00:08:57.200Not, not just my dad, but other people, um, you know, growing up that set examples for
00:09:03.120me at a young age, even as a young teenager, just, I went to work for MacArthur Welding
00:09:08.500in St. George as a young man and, uh, Sam and Dan and Joe and Eldon and those, those
00:09:14.900guys were like pillars of the community, you know, and Dan was the mayor for a lot of years
00:09:18.800and they were just great examples of what it meant to, you know, be, uh, community oriented
00:09:26.620and be kind of you know somebody in the community that the community can count on it so those guys
00:09:31.460really set me up for success at a at a young age just by their example yeah yeah i think it's good
00:09:38.160it's hard because i think now what people are young young people met young boys and young girls
00:09:42.680are looking at as far as examples go or like i don't know some some pop star or some you know
00:09:49.680athlete that they see on tv or some tiktok influencer and it seems like we've moved away
00:09:55.480from and part of that i think too like i love small towns we live in a fairly small community
00:09:59.560it's growing but yeah it's growing for sure we live in a fairly small community and i think
00:10:03.440there's just something to be said about a town where people know each other and they know your
00:10:08.000parents and your wife and your kids and your friends and so like there's some accountability
00:10:13.660in that that i think there's a way when you have a bigger town yeah and i think that was the thing
00:10:18.080um growing up in a small town it's like if you're if you're going to get in trouble or you're going
00:10:23.760gonna be out raised in hell you're you're gonna know your parents you know about it you know and
00:10:27.980i i really kind of do miss the days where there was uh personal accountability where the police0.94
00:10:33.900officer would just say you know do you want do you want to take you do you want me to call your dad
00:10:37.860which funny it's funny that i mentioned that because lincoln my boy lincoln uh he's 18 he
00:10:44.220uh runs around with your boy brecken and yeah they
00:10:47.880he got pulled over and the officer said well either we can write you a ticket or we can call
00:10:55.540your dad what did he say what did he say he say write me a ticket he said well you're gonna have
00:10:59.740to write me a ticket my dad's out of state out of town out of service like you can't call my dad
00:11:04.200right now anyways it's just good in a community um you know to still have that small town feel
00:11:10.420um we have a wonderful police department here that it takes a village to raise kids and you
00:11:16.300know the school teachers that set the example and the principals and all of that the coaches um
00:11:21.440and so it's been kind of a trip raising kids and lincoln's my youngest 18 now and
00:11:26.580it's just kind of neat to see i mean i guess you could say i've got some of the benefits of the
00:11:33.660good old boy oh just because i know all the officers from working on their cars and trucks
00:11:38.000and just being involved in fundraisers and so you know part of what i said earlier about being in
00:11:43.660the community, being part of the community. You have benefits down the road because you've been
00:11:48.480a good person or you've been part of those groups and those community initiatives to raise money or
00:11:55.440whatever somebody's in need. And so you kind of get that paid back in time over little funny
00:12:01.000things like that with one of the officers that just knew me, knew my kid and says, hey, you got
00:12:05.700a couple of choices here. Yeah, that's fun. So I grew up in Perlin and it kind of reminded me.
00:12:10.800so i had this story when i was a kid where we we had this little gang and uh my my version of a
00:12:19.680gang is we went out on friday or saturday night and toilet paper the oh yeah house or whatever
00:12:25.100or set firecrackers off in a pod at 2 a.m and right you know but we went we there was four or
00:12:32.760five of us and we went to this house and it was it was a girl you know a girl ra it was a cute
00:12:39.160girl our age and so we toilet papered her house but we had this brilliant idea that we'd bring a
00:12:43.600bunch of shaving cream with us oh boy so we brought shaving cream and we wrote because we our gang was
00:12:48.580called tpb toilet paper bandits and so we wrote tpb on the side of her house wood siding house and
00:12:57.340we got to that was like a friday or saturday night we get to school on monday
00:13:01.960and the principal called the five of us in or whatever it was and he's like hey uh brother
00:13:10.580johnson he was the ups driver right he's like hey he came by and asked me to give you these letters
00:13:15.920so we each got a letter and it said so you're like 16 17 years old and the letter said dear
00:13:24.220tpb member thank you so much for graciously volunteering to come paint my house this weekend
00:13:31.160i'll expect you at 7 a.m paint will be here show up ready to work busted and so we all went and
00:13:40.520it was mr johnson like i said he was the ups driver in town that's and he he had the paint0.95
00:13:46.320ready and we painted his house um but he was cool about it you know like he wasn't a dick0.67
00:13:51.780he was like hey like you guys messed up here's your accountability but he was there he was out
00:13:59.060hanging out with us his wife came out and brought lemonade and sandwiches for lunch
00:14:03.320yep and it was it was cool it was a good experience for us because there was a level
00:14:08.100of accountability yeah without just trying to wreck a kid's life because i did some dumb thing
00:14:13.680when he was 16 years old and i think that's important for parents to remember to be be
00:14:19.000adults instead of juveniles when your kid's in trouble and you're like you don't necessarily
00:14:23.940want to see your kid in trouble or admit that maybe he made a mistake but at the same time
00:14:28.460if you can communicate with the other parents and the staff and say hey what can we do to
00:14:32.880you know change his mind or change his behavior like you make them uncomfortable a little bit
00:14:37.960they're more more likely to not repeat the same behavior and so instead of being a big baby about
00:14:45.340when your kid gets in trouble just like you know they're coming to pick you up and you're going
00:14:49.400with them today yeah you're gonna work and so that's i think that's an important thing with
00:14:53.420Well, I think there's also this thing now where it's like, my dog's here. This is new. Anybody who's listening, you're catching a very raw version of the leveling up of the podcast. So you spent an hour and a half or something with me trying to set up cameras. My dog's right here hanging out. Camera angles are weird, but we're getting to figure it out.
00:15:16.560well and you know that's a that's a good lesson is you know we can we can talk about what's going
00:15:24.100on behind the scenes we can talk about you know all the other nonsense that goes on life in life
00:15:30.300but um i think the one note you can take away from that is just be your true authentic self
00:15:35.460um sometimes when you're you're building a program or building i mean i did that youtube
00:15:41.500channel for a while and yeah i i decided early on i was like i'm just gonna be myself and i think if
00:15:48.340you can be yourself um on camera in person in the community like it's just more authentic it's more
00:15:56.600real it's just uh just you get what you get i think people relate with it more you know i i
00:16:03.520honestly believe like we're just we're kind of tired collectively of ai's great like we used we
00:16:09.500used ai as we're set i'm like what how do i fix this camera and it pulled right up it's like oh
00:16:13.460you can't that's what it said that's what it told me you can't you can't okay and then it gave me a
00:16:19.040product recommendation of something to buy instead yeah perfect um but i think you're right like i i
00:16:24.600think we're so burnt out on ai i think we're frustrated with fakeness and i just think there's
00:16:32.160something something powerful for a lot of people of just being real and like you said being authentic
00:16:36.920and i was gonna say earlier before my dog interrupted us and he's if if you're on youtube
00:16:43.360like he's chilling right here buying it out now which is actually kind of cool like i didn't even
00:16:47.880think but maybe the dog has just become a staple of the podcast um no but what i was gonna say
00:16:54.360earlier is uh you know you have you have these situations now where a kid goes to school and he
00:17:03.560mouths off to a teacher or even worse he hits a teacher which is increasingly common and he gets
00:17:09.780in trouble at school and the mom calls up and it's usually a mom like it's a single mom typically
00:17:13.960she calls up and she's like i can't believe you did this it's like whoa hold on and like when i
00:17:19.760was a kid if i said oh i got in trouble mrs smith you know yelled at me or whatever she my mom was
00:17:25.720like well what'd you do yeah exactly not like what did miss smith do she's like what did you do to
00:17:30.480deserve to be yelled at right and it's different now like yeah it's not there we're just missing
00:17:35.700a whole lot of personal accountability in it i mean it it goes for i mean adults through kids
00:17:41.360i mean your own man that can't take accountability for their behavior um just you know lacking
00:17:47.980integrity all of those types of things i think that we need to take a step back and you know
00:17:52.760start all being better at self i mean you hate to take your licking but sometimes when it's coming
00:17:59.280you just have to say you know i made a mistake i mean men never like to say sorry nobody likes to
00:18:05.160say sorry and admit they were wrong but i think that um sometimes if you can step back and you
00:18:10.900know recognize that i'm i'm not perfect by no stretch of the imagination i make mistakes every
00:18:15.760day but if you can uh take personal accountability if you've offended somebody if you've done
00:18:21.800somebody wrong in business um you know whatever whatever it is is go have that conversation and
00:18:28.280settle the score you'll feel a lot better about things um just just being humble you know not
00:18:35.920being so arrogant that you can't admit your faults and see that you hurt somebody or whatever i think
00:18:40.520that um i mean you want to talk about criminal criminal accountability when you're speeding or
00:18:46.180or whatever that you know that's just this plays right into it if you think about what the
00:18:50.780repercussions are for a speeding ticket you know they can be expensive 300 something bucks yeah
00:18:56.000And then, uh, so, you know, being, being more thoughtful in your daily actions and activities
00:19:03.200to where you don't have those repercussions and it applies to kids.
00:19:06.500I think, um, you know, kids are lacking accountability and I think it starts at your
00:19:12.040parents, you know, your, your teachers shouldn't have to teach your kids how to behave in public.
00:19:17.560You know, that should already be instilled in them before they ever.
00:19:20.380But I think what happens is we become so accustomed to, for example, the public school
00:19:25.360system where i i just think for the most part it's just looked at free daycare right like mom
00:19:32.200and dad go to work more increasingly so mom than than dad um and it's like cool let's dump our
00:19:39.120kids off they'll be gone and out of hair our hair for eight hours yeah you know my ex and you know
00:19:44.000my ex um and you know my family really well like we we have the luxury of her being able to homeschool
00:19:50.580the kids still even after the divorce but a lot of people are not in that situation where
00:19:56.600you know it's like we we have to go to work but then they also look at it as dump as free daycare
00:20:02.600and dumping their kids off right but the thing that i struggle with more than anything with that
00:20:06.600scenario is when you get home it's not like those people are talking to their kids about what did
00:20:12.260you learn what did you go through come help me you know i don't know with with your your son
00:20:16.840your youngest i don't know if he ever came and helped you at the shop or swept floors or dump
00:20:21.640trash i mean my kids helped me with store order a little different work but store orders when i was
00:20:27.100a kid my first stepdad he was a cabinet maker and my job was to go out there and get that push broom
00:20:34.860when i was a kid sweep that shop up after work well it's just teach them a little bit of
00:20:39.460responsibility i mean that's why i've um you know the kids that have like a chore list they have
00:20:48.000um like if you have animals like we have animals livestock pigs whatever chickens you know you try
00:20:53.700to get them involved in like the day-to-day even just it's something it's your responsibility to
00:20:58.460feed the dog and cats you know it's just give them give them that chore and have expectations
00:21:02.760that they'll complete it and i think as as a young kid as a toddler they learn those routines and
00:21:08.440those responsibilities and then when it's something bigger you know we all have responsibilities as
00:21:13.340adults and so if your kids learn that responsibility as adult um they get their first job and they know
00:21:19.300they're expected to be there from eight to five and they get a lunch and they they can't just take
00:21:23.920two weeks off the first two weeks they're working you know yeah those types of things and it's a
00:21:29.300transition obviously when you're getting out of high school and stuff but it's it's interesting
00:21:35.380to watch the young men and women that you know grew up with my kids that are kind of transitioning
00:21:42.020into adulthood some of them have kids some of them don't you know but man the day you have kids
00:21:46.760they're your whole world changes yeah it does and um it's like make or break you you just kind of
00:21:53.740like you're you you're responsible for these new little human beings and you know you don't believe
00:22:00.720it when they're toddlers and you've spent the last six months up awake all night crying babies but
00:22:06.020the time goes by so fast oh it does um but those little lessons that they learn
00:22:13.620responsibilities and like you say communicate hey what did you do today you know we can all
00:22:19.420be better at that even even lincoln now i just say hey how was work and fine you know you may
00:22:24.560not get a lot out of it but you show some genuine interest in what they're up to um and you know
00:22:31.840overall every everything else is lead by example you know try to do your best to be a good parent
00:22:36.880and um because they're they're like a parrot you know they're going to learn from your behavior
00:22:43.380um they they definitely will you know you you're a product of your parents so and you know even
00:22:53.380more than your parents is like the other people i mentioned earlier the people in your life that
00:22:57.260are that set the example for your own like you're a product of your environment yeah um i learned
00:23:03.620that early on when i was a young man i had a a group of guys i was working with i got in trouble
00:23:08.880like literally two months after my 18th birthday and i went in front of the judge and the judge
00:23:15.860says well you're going to learn right now that hanging out with the wrong kind of people is
00:23:22.380going to make or break who you are in life. So you go down to the county jail on Friday night
00:23:28.560and you get to stay in there until Sunday night and I'll make sure you make it to work Monday
00:23:33.480morning. Whoa. And that was all it took. One weekend in the county jail as an 18 year old for
00:23:39.220me to say, I'm not, I'm not going there. I'm not crying. And there, there probably is lines that,
00:23:44.420you know, you have to decide if you want to face the repercussions in life, but you know, there's
00:23:50.820that fixed me for for so far so good i'm on 47 48 whatever without without being back in the
00:23:57.360back in the clink for the weekend stint with the judge trying to tell me you know shake his finger
00:24:04.520what did you do i was with a bunch of kids um we went down to the movie store i rented my movies
00:24:11.260i had an account blockbuster or whatever yeah i lived right down there and two of the kids i was
00:24:15.400with stole two movies well of course i was driving didn't have a driver's license so
00:24:20.080the kids they wanted to run and i said go ahead i'll tell them who you are just you just will
00:24:24.700stay here the clerk comes out and i just put the truck in park and face the consequences
00:24:29.560and i got my butt in a ringer over it because like the judge says you were here you were driving
00:24:35.080yeah you shouldn't have been driving and you know the the officers were great and they said you know
00:24:40.920we understand the situation and they they give me the old what for and i was like i'm done with this
00:24:47.080like i'm i'm not gonna get in trouble ever again that's funny so it's one of those things in life
00:24:51.280that's kind of uh i'm not ashamed of it it's one of the things you know part of life part of life
00:24:56.420and the hell that i had raised and you know growing up in a wild household but uh yeah it was
00:25:04.420it was a good example for me to for the judge to just say that's it never don't get in trouble
00:25:10.460anymore i mean good for him because it seems like anymore judges are overly lenient right like i
00:25:17.320remember so i don't think i've ever i might have ever shared this publicly but oh yeah so here we
00:25:24.880go you got me this is a tell-all today when i was a kid i was probably i don't know 19 20 years old
00:25:31.720uh we went over to a house party and i was definitely underage drinking for sure0.99
00:25:37.240and uh we saw the lights outside and the cops came and knocked on the door and some idiot0.74
00:25:44.720actually opened the door without a warrant for the cops i'm like you don't have to open the door0.97
00:25:48.760if the cops come calling by the way unless they have a warrant or they break in like you're not0.97
00:25:53.620obligated to open the door but some idiot did and um me and a buddy of mine we ran into the0.98
00:26:01.700garage and i've hid in a closet like not a great hiding spot there's like a little storage closet0.99
00:26:07.880in the garage right so the cops come in and they're like hey we know you're in there and and
00:26:14.560i'm like i'm not i didn't say anything i'm like i'm not coming out like we know you're it like
00:26:18.080we know you're in there like you literally know where to go it's not their first day yeah and um
00:26:24.140so i'm like well like i mean they know i'm in here and then one of them said we're gonna get
00:26:30.180the dog we're gonna go get the canine and that's gonna that's gonna be worse than it needs to be
00:26:34.780root yeah and i was like all right so i opened the door and come out and there was a little bag of
00:26:39.840of weed in the garage and it what it was not mine i know everybody says that but like truly like i
00:26:47.120did i'm not i never was i never really like smoked weed right like i drank don't get me wrong i
00:26:52.280drank so um yeah the cop just pinned it on me he's like oh it's possession of marijuana like
00:26:59.380what are you talking about like it was wrong place wrong time exactly um and so you know i didn't get
00:27:05.820arrested hey come on go go go lay down no right there lay down lay down good boy again this is
00:27:15.960pretty raw today so it's perfect my dog's just chilling but i didn't get arrested they gave me
00:27:22.860a ticket for underage drinking they gave me a ticket for a possession of marijuana charge a
00:27:27.280small amount like it wasn't you know a big amount or whatever i paid like 1500 bucks and i'm like
00:27:32.280that's the last time oh yeah i didn't have to go to jail or anything but i think just like having
00:27:38.040consequences you know you don't have to throw the book at people but there has to be some sort of
00:27:41.920consequences some some you know for young kids just some sort of wake-up call and i feel like
00:27:46.960too many people um i i feel like in in the name of you know preserving ourselves we're robbing our
00:27:56.500children of the benefit of their consequences for bad choices yeah and like i mean nobody wants to
00:28:02.760see your kids of course not but at the same time it's like if you can keep them on the straight
00:28:09.160and narrow then you don't have to worry about the consequences i mean you're you're going to get the
00:28:13.280speeding tickets and the car wrecks and the stuff like that but you know i would prefer that my kids
00:28:19.860avoided the weekend in jail yeah you know that'd be ideal it was not the best experience that i've
00:28:26.160ever had and uh and then the dumber thing was there was people in there for dumber reasons i
00:28:31.740was there like um unpaid parking tickets and all kinds of stuff and i'm just like oh man i'm a
00:28:37.780criminal and i get in there and it's like people are in there for just ignoring a court date and
00:28:42.660it's just it's it's just stacks on top of you know when you get into the court system
00:28:47.860you know they might be lenient when you get to court but you have to show up to court yeah or
00:28:52.620you're going to end up in jail and you know it was just an interesting perspective um i i may or
00:28:59.600may not have been exposed to pointing of those opportunities to drink and do drugs and all that
00:29:04.940stuff as a kid but i watched some of the examples the bad examples in life and i decided early on i
00:29:11.780was like i'm i'm not going to do any of that and so i i was able to stay away from the drugs and
00:29:17.260alcohol in the party party scene i was not that was that was a challenge for me as a kid for sure
00:29:22.920so and i i think my outlet is um i love to country dance and it's actually where i met my wife is
00:29:31.740country dance and oh really in saint george oh i didn't know that so then you know it kind of
00:29:36.440transitioned into that was kind of one of my earlier jobs is is teaching dance okay and so we
00:29:42.480would teach uh you know swing dance and line dance and you know all the couples different
00:29:49.500dances like the cha-cha and the lariat waltz and just all those dances and so that kind of
00:29:55.300kept me on the edge of you know i gotta be you know down to john's place on wednesday night to
00:30:01.320teach couples dances and then i gotta do line dances thursday and then you know line dance
00:30:07.580friday and saturday so i was four days of the week that i was you know from 7 30 to midnight or one
00:30:12.940o'clock and then of course you got to go to denny's yeah of course cheese fries oh yeah with ranch and
00:30:17.740i did that drunk by the way yeah like we're we both went to denny's but we had our different
00:30:22.480vices it sounds like so i mean that's kind of that that dancing country music dance and um
00:30:28.100john carter's dance hall in saint george there's lots of people that that remember those good old
00:30:34.240days uh i think there's a new place in saint george yeah it's opening or something right
00:30:38.820red rock swing or something is that what it is yeah yeah so you know dancing was a good outlet
00:30:43.720for me after the whole it's interesting so okay so this is kind of a an interesting maybe angle
00:30:50.920to this i mean you know but by all accounts we would say ah casey's a man's man like he's capable
00:30:56.160he's got you love your you love your mules you know you love your your wagons you like you're
00:31:02.500mechanic you're obviously very capable you're search and rescue like we would say any by any
00:31:07.980objective measure we'd say oh it's a man's man but then you have this other side and i don't
00:31:12.240think it's another side but i think it's not commonly looked at in the same lens where you
00:31:17.820you sing you know you dance and so you have this artistry side to you that i think a lot of men
00:31:24.740either we don't either either we we do and we don't talk about it or we don't because it's not
00:31:32.220you know manly or whatever like it what that's kind of you don't you know what i'm getting out
00:31:36.800here i'm kind of curious about that so i'll break the news to you i have 12 siblings you do and of
00:31:44.120course i was stuck in the middle of five girls so i have a feminine side okay yeah fair yeah it was
00:31:51.020groomed into you at an early age i'm not looking were they painting your nails and doing your hair
00:31:55.740and trying to dress you up i'm not looking for the best dress or anything like that but i mean
00:32:01.040my sisters, they, they were part of the crew. I mean, they obviously impacted me, you know,
00:32:06.400who I am today growing up. Five girls stuck right in the middle of them. And, um, it was a0.89
00:32:13.860wonderful thing because like I say, we just as young kids, we'd always dance. Like my grandparents,
00:32:20.160um, my grandpa was a heck of a musician and they would play for the band and they would do the
00:32:26.160dances um he'd call out the square dances so even from a as a young kid i was exposed to the the
00:32:32.680elite hall in cash valley um and we'd go square dancing and you better learn how to dance really
00:32:39.200fast because the floor in the elite hall is suspended okay it bounces to the beat of the
00:32:44.860music and the and the step of the dancer so if you get off you're it's like jumping on a trampoline
00:32:49.620and the kids jump and knock your knees out from underneath you it's the same difference on the
00:32:53.480dance floor. And so, you know, you say that, but, um, I guess more than anything, it's probably my
00:33:01.360personality or personality disorders or whatever it might be. Um, OCD, whatever you want to call
00:33:08.460it, whatever it is, is I, I have a lot of interest in so many different things. And I always tell
00:33:14.400myself, I'm like, man, if I would just focus on one thing, I'd be good at something. So, I mean,
00:33:18.980i've had i've had so many great experiences because i'm like if i want to check something
00:33:24.000out in life i just go do it like i love dancing um i'm a vocal performer so i like i can sing
00:33:30.520about i mean i prefer the classic country stuff yeah kind of my era of music and kind of what i
00:33:36.140grew up with um but like there's no reason why not to experience new things like i love to dance
00:33:43.620like and i love music like music is just healing it's good for everybody i mean but all the other
00:33:49.600interests um like my mules and horses i pull authentic wagons we do commemorative tracks
00:33:55.440um just stuff that interests me i just go full bore on it and figure it out and just go enjoy it
00:34:03.620and if i don't like it i go do something else i mean it's just i think that's cool i i wish more
00:34:09.320men would just give themselves a little bit more permission to explore because i think what ends
00:34:14.160up happening is you have guys who are like you know they might have an interest for example you
00:34:19.280know maybe it's search and rescue or like hunting has become a big part of my life for the past 10
00:34:23.560years i haven't hunted my entire life right um you know and i'll ask people i'm like hey come
00:34:28.260on a hunt with me and they've wanted to they're like just come with me they're like making excuses
00:34:33.140yeah just everything's no and i'm like wait what if you just said yes and i think what happens for
00:34:38.120a lot of guys is they're like well they at least they may not vocalize it but what they believe is
00:34:42.540that if i if i dabble right if i try that thing then i'm committed to it it's like no you're not
00:34:48.800committed you just try it and if you like it you take the next step and if you don't you take a
00:34:53.620step back and that's fine too well and it's like you hear the saying um if you're 40 years old and
00:35:00.080you don't have a barbecue or a sawmill i mean you got to try something new um i don't know
00:35:07.080i i've had such a variety pack of i mean because i love the four-wheel yeah i mean i started uh
00:35:14.000winter four before jamboree it's one of the biggest off-road events in utah in 2003 shelby
00:35:19.040was in the car seat i mean it's it's just crazy how that has evolved and grown and um i've always
00:35:26.420been part of the off-road jeep community in southern utah in the state of utah with land
00:35:32.260use issues like all that stuff just kind of is things that affect me in my life so i've always
00:35:38.360been involved with like anything motorized i love motorcycles you're not still a suzuki guy are you
00:35:43.420oh yeah i still have that what is that what is that what is that all about i want to know
00:35:47.980you got my son you like you you had an influence on my son and he that's his first vehicle like
00:35:53.300don't buy that by example and he bought it and then sold it i'm like good and then he bought
00:35:57.160a ranger and now now he drives your kids audi i'm like dude we got to get you away from the
00:36:02.200loft houses suzuki's and volkswagens baby oh that's i said audi yeah it's a volkswagen
00:36:07.380yeah um oh i love my toys too i mean like i say four wheelers 510 military trucks
00:36:14.420um i got that's right snowcats snowmobiles fastball i mean whatever just just find the
00:36:20.720weekend to go do it i just uh i have stuff becky calls it a collection but um yeah go out and just
00:36:28.820go go try it go have fun go yeah i mean it's nothing for me i get a call on a thursday
00:36:35.020afternoon for a guy that's got buffalo down in the grand canyon and he says hey i need some help
00:36:39.780getting these two buffalo out on you know i got two hunters i'm like all right buffalo in the
00:36:44.700grand canyon yeah they're all over down there really yeah i had no idea kaibab all that whole
00:36:49.960yeah really look it up oh i didn't know it's pretty awesome
00:36:52.920men real quick i'm going to pause i i hope you're enjoying the conversation i i have faith that you
00:36:59.540are but i want to say something as we roll into q4 of 2026 i almost got the date wrong because
00:37:07.160it's crazy that's 2026 regardless here's what i see every year guys just wait until january to
00:37:13.360get serious about their lives which means that they literally write off 25 a quarter
00:37:19.200of their entire year. It's 90 days that you're never going to get back. And I personally am
00:37:26.800not willing to give that up. I'm not as productive in nine months as I would be in 12.
00:37:32.120But inside of our brotherhood, we call it the Iron Council. And it's the council for a reason.
00:37:36.380And it's iron for a reason. We're in there sharpening each other. And we're going into Q4
00:37:40.500with a battle plan. Very clear targets for how you show up for your family, your health, your work,
00:37:46.400your community, like Casey's been talking about today, broken down week by week, day by day,
00:37:52.240task by task. A plan by itself isn't the thing that works though. The thing that works is having
00:37:59.240a group of men, a band of men who know what you committed to and will call you out respectfully
00:38:08.220when you start slipping. That's what real accountability is. It's the kind that Casey's
00:38:13.260talked about where, you know, someone expects you to show up and actually follow through on what you
00:38:18.580said you're going to do. So if you want this to be the best quarter you've ever had, not just
00:38:23.160one you survive, get in now because this year isn't over yet. And I don't want you to write
00:38:28.860off 90 days of your life. 90 days doesn't sound like a lot, but when you start thinking about it
00:38:33.120in the context of 25% of your year, you could do some massive things this year. That's what I want
00:38:39.560for you. That's what the men inside the iron council want for you. So join us today. The
00:38:44.440year isn't over. So just don't, don't start acting like it is. Head to orderofman.com
00:38:50.860slash iron council. That's orderofman.com slash iron council. And I will see you guys
00:38:56.720inside. So they'll call you up and say, Hey, come pack us up.
00:39:02.520Or Wednesday night. And I'll be out on the road at 5 a.m. in the morning with eight or
00:39:06.24010 mules to go get a hunter off the back country or i mean i'm and do you go just do that like hey
00:39:12.040this is fun or you're like cool it's a thousand bucks or like what i got i mean i'm not a guide
00:39:16.700or an outfitter by no stretch of the imagination but it's like people that i know yeah um they're
00:39:21.700always good to you know pay you for fuel and some time if you want but like i i'm not ever going to
00:39:26.740go be an outfitter and go you know take tourists through to zion national park on saddle mules or
00:39:32.460anything like that but right um i love to go haul a hunter up on the mountain or go retrieve an
00:39:38.060animal or anything like that didn't you tell me a story about i don't remember when this was
00:39:44.020you lost a mule i think on maybe a search and rescue i lost a mule on that buffalo
00:39:48.900is that what it was what happened there well he he uh we had a blow up and we had a string of
00:39:55.080mules together and they just scattered in the woodwork and the nice thing about a mule is
00:40:00.260they'll usually always go back to the truck but it took him a while to find his way back i was just
00:40:05.180you know hoping he didn't lose a pack or something but we lost him just about dark and he came
00:40:09.680tromping into camp with we actually had three of them um but we ended up going and finding them um
00:40:17.220the last one was caught up in a tree with the with the riggins but oh yeah the other the other
00:40:22.980two that went missing they came back all on their own but but didn't you have one like fall off a
00:40:27.100cliff or something um not not exactly we we've had them go off the trail and tumble to the bottom
00:40:33.900before i thought you told me you lost one and it like fell off a cliff and he's lost a couple on
00:40:39.680pine valley maybe that's what it was it was one of andy ballards oh man but yeah when you get out
00:40:45.860in the back country and you're on these rough trails i mean you can lose animals yeah you know
00:40:51.140but hey it's pretty dangerous sitting on the couch too so yeah i mean that's a good way to
00:40:56.500look at risk you know a lot of people be like oh it's risky you know i could get hurt or i could
00:41:00.420have a problem but nobody nobody thinks twice about getting in their truck and heading down
00:41:04.260to the gas station for a red bull at two in the afternoon but there's still a risk profile with
00:41:08.200that itself talk about make your heart flutter well i like red bull so but that's a risk i'm
00:41:13.620willing to take for a red bull every now and again a little pick me up yeah a little jolt
00:41:17.560but yeah but it is interesting because i don't think people we take risks every day but most
00:41:23.200most of us don't even really consider that what we're doing has a risk profile to it
00:41:30.660well and i kind of got ruined in my in my earlier days because i
00:41:35.520i did search and rescue for a long time in washington county and so i can see how easy
00:41:42.200it can go from being alive to being dead and so i i don't say i was paranoid but i was a little
00:41:49.800more cautious like we'd always go canyoneering we we'd go through the park um do the big big
00:41:56.240repels and canyoneering trips with the kids as much as we could and you know swimming and water
00:42:03.180recreation is like you're not wearing a life jacket when you're recreating in the water you're
00:42:09.160nuts because i mean from my perspective seeing it firsthand is you can be dead in a big hurry
00:42:16.140in the water um and i'm paranoid i would say i am paranoid about water really i i don't want to
00:42:23.980drown because i see how fast and how we i mean i've recovered 14 year old kids 10 feet from the
00:42:29.860shore and nine feet of water i mean and you go over with the boat and you can look down there
00:42:34.600and see them on the down on the bottom waiting for the divers and and they just i mean it makes
00:42:38.640sucked in a bunch of water or they got cold under or what just didn't get back to shore you know
00:42:43.300swimming too far overexerting yourself and so it's on my gosh i know about risk because in search
00:42:49.480and rescue you see the results of risk management that you know people people didn't nobody wants
00:42:58.460to go out and get killed while they're having fun but the thing is is if you go swimming in an area
00:43:04.300you're unfamiliar with in cold water whatever it is like i i would say i am pretty cautious about
00:43:10.280water activities just because if you don't have a life jacket on you get in trouble then
00:43:13.820there's no you know you're not going to have bumps and bruises right you're dead you're dead
00:43:18.820and so i kind of get really nervous about water activities there was a story uh i think it was
00:43:25.340it wasn't this summer i think it was last summer it was up towards towards film or somewhere maybe
00:43:30.600it's in delta at the res up there or whatever and yeah just a young young boy was i think he
00:43:37.760was doing some tubing behind a boat right and uh the the rope got wrapped around him
00:43:44.240and dragged him under the water right and his friends were trying to prop him up and hold him
00:43:49.760up and they couldn't and you know he's a young he was like 11 12 years old if i remember right
00:43:56.100and it's gone just on a weekend of having fun yeah and i think that's important too um risk
00:44:04.260management is a thing it's i mean you don't want to let it ruin your life i mean but at the same
00:44:10.120time you have to be super conscious of what the results are i mean you crash on a motorcycle it
00:44:14.880hurts yeah you know and uh but pushing your limits to the when you crash on a motorcycle that you're
00:44:20.480in the er for you know a month instead of a day you know there's just yeah i've got i've got a
00:44:29.660uh a cousin but by previous marriage where he's out dirt biking hit a jump landed hit hit his chest
00:44:37.880on the the handlebars yeah and it separated all of his rib his sternum from his ribs and pushed
00:44:43.220into his chest yeah they had to pull it back up and staple it i don't even want to know what they
00:44:49.400did but it's like well that's that's one thing i've we go back to our kids is i love it to get
00:44:55.020our kids out there on motorbikes four-wheeling jeep and you name it um but risk management's
00:45:01.080important making sure your kids i mean i i tell lincoln all the time i'm like you know you're at
00:45:06.280that point in your life where if you can make it past the next three or four years you're free
00:45:10.140sailing you know yeah right you'd be you should be all right but right now you're you're at that1.00
00:45:14.580stage in your life and that age in your life like wear your seat belt don't be stupid you know i0.99
00:45:19.220talk to my kids about risk management and they tell me that i'm paranoid and i'm like no just1.00
00:45:24.460put your damn life jacket on when you're when you're at the lake on your your longboard or0.98
00:45:29.000whatever it is and um don't don't think that you're a better swimmer than you are and don't1.00
00:45:35.500think that you're a sissy because you put a life jacket on like just put a life jacket on or a0.80
00:45:39.220helmet or a seat belt or a seat belt all of those things yeah so yeah risk management i wouldn't
00:45:44.600mind dying an old man but i'm not gonna ruin my life worrying about how i'm going out of here
00:45:49.880either if i yeah you know i've always i've kind of joked around and said you know the best way to
00:45:54.600go would be in a fight with a grizzly bear um not that i would want that but like if i get to choose
00:46:00.500but i'm also going to try to avoid getting eaten by a grizzly bear you betcha yeah so
00:46:06.840just go out and have fun i say i mean i i do all types of things um both i mean social i mean
00:46:15.380work's fun. I have a good time at work and we, we, uh, I don't say it's a party every day, but
00:46:21.280we just have a good time with each other. And we have, you know, we joke around and have fun and,
00:46:26.480um, work hard so that we can take those holidays off or the long weekends and
00:46:31.380just, just go live it and enjoy. I mean, try a new hobby. When I was a kid, I loved tying flies.
00:46:38.820Oh, I wasn't much of a fisherman, but I love tying flies. And I mean, my dad is kind of the
00:46:44.300same way I mean he's he's into ham radio so of course I got to try ham radio yeah and so that
00:46:49.960got me in one of those civic groups as a young man and I got an honorary lifetime membership in
00:46:58.200the Dixie Amateur Radio Club because I helped him set up their whole new repeater system and
00:47:02.200oh really years on their board and just helping with all their project and you know some of those
00:47:07.000it's not that big of a deal but it's just one of those little rewards that I told you earlier that
00:47:12.220you you get those rewards in life for just being part of that stuff and even now i love ham radio
00:47:19.040they're gearing up to do this uh the saint george marathon yeah and they're in charge of all this
00:47:25.440uh emergency supplies all the aid station supplies the shuttles and they coordinate that on all these
00:47:31.940radio frequencies that and repeater systems that 20 years ago i helped set up well that's cool
00:47:38.440they're upgrading them and do sure yeah of course so i got involved with it because the new president
00:47:43.320called me and he says hey i need some money i'm like all right let me make some calls so of course
00:47:47.620i call the utah four-wheel drive association and i call desert roads and trails and i you know make
00:47:54.040a bunch of calls to these civic organizations that are non-profits and i say hey the hammer
00:47:58.660leader club's working on this and they need 20 000 bucks so whatever it was i think i raised
00:48:03.560fifteen thousand bucks and three phone calls to these others is that right it's just because you
00:48:08.380were involved with them in the past and so i mean so many interests so many i mean and not enough
00:48:15.380time i'd love to do more with ham radio and um but all of those little interests that i have i'd say
00:48:21.980just go give it a whirl give it a try try something new um you meet new people i mean some of my best
00:48:29.260friends i met through the whole mules and horses you know to this day some of my very best friends
00:48:35.460um i met through that i met you know some other friends through search and rescue that i mean we
00:48:43.040talk every day and so all of those have a time and a place in your life when you're you know when
00:48:49.780you're available just go do it being part of a rotary club or a lion's club or whatever and you
00:48:56.200just meet so many people and all of those people that you meet you know you you may not recognize
00:49:02.000it that day but you know years later you're running each other in business and you have
00:49:06.840a business relationship and you're sending work back and forth so it's like i've noticed in my
00:49:12.900life when i when i encounter people that are you kind of know like your first few times you meet0.87
00:49:19.640them like you can the older you get the more you can kind of cut through the bullshit yeah no doubt
00:49:24.620You can tell whether somebody's, you know, worthy of your time or your business and whatever it is.
00:49:30.720And some of those are the best because you just, you have this common respect for each other.
00:49:38.540You know, I benefited, you know, because of my involvement with fundraiser with the police department.
00:49:44.260And they bring vehicles in for maintenance.
00:49:47.640You know, whether that's quid pro quo or whatever you want to call it.
00:49:54.120And so that's kind of an interesting thing that I've started to recognize in my life is all those relationships that you, even if it's just an encounter with somebody for a few minutes or once or twice, you see him several years later and you both made an impact on each other and you see each other and you say, hey, it's like we, it was yesterday we met, you know, and it's been 10 years or whatever it is.
00:50:19.920and so that those are kind of some neat little things i mean
00:50:23.160look i mentioned some of those jobs that we go do with the mules and you you go out there and you
00:50:29.440have one of those experiences with a with a guide or or whatever and you have this relationship and
00:50:35.780he's so appreciative he's like he just randomly touches base with you hey what are you doing and
00:50:41.140i don't need you but you know how is life how's things and we're passing through do you want to
00:50:45.200grab dinner and so just those little chance encounters that you get with people that years
00:50:50.900later it's it's kind of rewarding to kind of have those connections yeah you just don't know i think
00:50:56.960also one of the things you know as i was thinking about because we've been trying to set this up for
00:51:01.780a couple weeks now two three weeks now um i think one of the things i appreciate about you is you're
00:51:08.840one of those men in the community who as much as I feel the way about needing help or you know
00:51:15.840needing something you'd be there I'm sure there's a thousand plus people that would describe you the
00:51:22.640same way and I think that's really important for men who might listen to this podcast to understand
00:51:28.800is you know we we spend a lot of time trying to be impressive and trying to like make our dent in
00:51:35.160the world or whatever right and i think you're somebody i i want to tell you i admire you because
00:51:40.540you're somebody in the community who you know you care about people um you want to help people you
00:51:46.920want to serve and and everybody knows you for that and and you know like are you globally known are
00:51:53.460you world no but you know what there's 10 000 people here who are like no casey's a big part
00:51:59.140of the community and we we have personally benefited from the way he's shown up in our life
00:52:05.440and i wish more men understood that yeah well and i appreciate you saying that because i i have
00:52:10.120really strived to i mean i don't always do it but i mean i try to treat people with kindness
00:52:17.900i have so many opportunities in my line of work to help somebody
00:52:22.700and you know you can say no you can draw the line you can have your limits
00:52:28.720um but you know it really is rewarding to have you know people like i mean especially you just
00:52:35.440to tell me that to my face because you don't always hear it i mean people tell you things but
00:52:39.660you know i think that one thing that's helped me a lot is i i have people in my life that
00:52:48.120have helped me and they just randomly call out of the blue hey what are you doing or just even a
00:52:55.080text like and so if i'm driving down the road and i think oh i need to call sean and see what he's
00:53:01.380up to and then an hour and a half later you're still bsing with him on the phone you just haven't
00:53:06.120talked for a while and and so it's it's definitely been rewarding like you say in a small town i've
00:53:11.860tried to treat people with kindness um one thing that i do that i don't tell very many people and
00:53:18.760maybe i shouldn't tell them right now but i now everybody's gonna know your tricks man no um
00:53:24.260when i go through the drive up at wendy's very rarely do i not buy the food for the guy that's
00:53:31.200behind me and it's just one of those things that i started doing one day as a joke and
00:53:36.400it turned into a routine and so becky will look at my credit card receipt and say where did you
00:53:40.860go to wendy's or how many i'm just gonna start following you around he's going to wendy's right
00:53:45.380now i'm gonna follow you and pull in behind you yeah so i i finally had to start paying with cash
00:53:50.620a good question at home but you know i i have been tremendously blessed in my life as far as
00:53:57.540um family and friends and um business i've just had some great opportunities and even more so that
00:54:06.580is the opportunity to serve people like you say there's there may be some something to be said
00:54:13.720for i don't i don't necessarily i don't want to disappoint people but i'm just me like i want to
00:54:22.840be my genuine self i want to be authentic i want to be you know what i portray when you come stop
00:54:29.720by my shop to say hi i get that a lot people just swing in the shop yeah i should have a coffee pot
00:54:34.540and a pop machine and more chairs because it's kind of like the social hub of those yeah it's
00:54:39.340like old when old yeah old timers used to do it around the barber shop or something at the
00:54:43.400barber shop and so it it's kind of fun to just have those people coming in and just rotating
00:54:49.860through and like it is it's been rewarding over the years to have a business in hurricane and have
00:54:54.800just that small town camaraderie just to be able to you know be in a position to help people if
00:55:02.860they need it i don't i could always charge a little more or or i could you know what i'm saying
00:55:07.800yeah yeah like um but that's that's common right now it's like i gotta go out and get mine
00:55:13.200and you know to a degree sure you got to put food on the table and roof over your head
00:55:17.120but like i mean i have i have guys that'll call me i had a guy today um i don't know who he is
00:55:22.360he just messaged me and i could tell in his message he sent on instagram he's in a desperate
00:55:26.720spot man his wife's like hey i want a divorce and he's suicidal and i'm like call me yeah i have no
00:55:32.960idea who this guy is i'm like dude call me here's my phone number just call me yeah or just giving
00:55:38.440out my personal you know email or but yeah and that's what we should do that's what you should
00:55:43.760do and i i will say i did the youtube thing for quite a while with the casey's off-road recovery
00:55:49.820um it was a great time i still do recovery and and off-road towing and i have my shop i mean i've got
00:55:56.020multiple streams of income i make a little money singing i mean whatever you can do to make a
00:56:01.320couple bucks here and there but there's also when people are like that and you have that you know
00:56:07.900public you're a public figure basically in your community whether however small that is to around
00:56:15.100the world or around the united states whatever your your impact is to those people is you should
00:56:21.100definitely should make yourself available i mean you're not a mental health counselor i'm not yeah
00:56:25.960but there's many times where people random people have reached out to me that were struggling
00:56:30.780you know mentally and maybe suicidal thoughts stuff like that struggling with finances and
00:56:38.180personal relationships and there's like you say many times where i don't know who these people
00:56:43.440are from the man in the moon and they'll reach out in a message and so you always wonder like
00:56:49.420what you know what should my interaction be here but it's always like kindness and support you know
00:56:54.420don't you don't like need to get like personally in invested in it sure yeah at the same time
00:57:02.960like these people are reaching out because they don't know where else to go um and i've had lots
00:57:07.740of those i mean facebook messages pop up yeah just random people um and conversations open
00:57:15.400because of a similar circumstance you found yourself in earlier and they you reach out to
00:57:20.860them or they reach out to you and you have a nice little interaction and and so that can be a positive
00:57:25.780side of the social media thing and having you know having set the example for somebody having
00:57:31.300in your community but yeah that's a that's an interesting aspect of that is just because you
00:57:37.400don't know who as you go about your day-to-day life doing your podcasts and i go about my day-to-day
00:57:42.400life um who who you're impacting who's who's watching you as an example um you just never
00:57:50.060know how many people i mean the word goes back to you know a kind word and a smile can make
00:57:56.420somebody's day because you don't know what they're going through i had a situation it wasn't too long
00:58:01.700ago where i was at a restaurant and a like a server was kind of being rude or like it was
00:58:08.980some it was it was weird it was a very strange scenario and then got my food order wrong or
00:58:13.140whatever and in a moment of in a moment of divine intervention i think i was like you know what i'm
00:58:20.700just gonna be kind to this person instead of being a dick right like i don't know what she's going
00:58:24.500through she's having a bad day or you know maybe she's got a kid who's sick or her husband's a0.99
00:58:29.920jerk i don't know i have no idea and so i just decided to be a decent normal human being and0.97
00:58:36.500i was on my way out and somebody's like hey ryan and i didn't know who it was or hey ryan
00:58:41.780and i turned around they're like hey uh i don't we don't know each other but i listened to your
00:58:47.220podcast and this was a guy who's sitting behind me in the restaurant and he's like i just wanted
00:58:53.100to tell you i thought it was pretty cool how you handled that yeah and i was like oh shit well0.74
00:58:58.200yeah people are watching and i was like i'm glad i was not an asshole to that person not not only0.94
00:59:04.320because she didn't deserve it but also because there are eyes on you as a as a leader in your
00:59:09.480community as a leader in your family like there's always eyes on you well and if i say right one
00:59:15.100more time to write um it's the truth like if you put yourself out there you have expectations like
00:59:24.580and that's what i go back to the being your genuine authentic self i mean everybody is more
00:59:32.580than capable of losing their cool and of course yeah but if you're a little more engaged in your
00:59:39.660response i mean i've i've been in a situation where i've made an ass out of myself yeah and0.95
00:59:44.860i look back on it going well that was pretty stupid you know and have to apologize as we went
00:59:50.340back to that um but there's always those times where you can you recognize that and you can make0.89
00:59:57.580a difference by leaving her a little better tip writing her a note or whatever it is like you can
01:00:04.280be thoughtful and you can you can impact her life and i've had those circumstances where i may have
01:00:10.420been being a smart aleck when i bought the meal for the table next door that was making fun of
01:00:17.240my kids you know and i left them a little note said you know i could hear them talking calling
01:00:22.360us the homeless family really so i bought their meal and then i wrote from the homeless family
01:00:26.600on the ticket and had the, you know, those types of things. I mean, like all in good fun, but I
01:00:31.920think that those parents who were enabling their kids and, and, you know, like condoning the
01:00:37.240behavior by participating in it, like, I think they got the message. Yeah. Like the people that
01:00:43.120were sitting behind you that we were making fun of can afford to buy your meal. And we've been
01:00:47.500out working all day long. My kids right by my side, helping some elderly lady with her lawn
01:00:53.480and our yard and our cleanup yet we go to the store and you're sitting behind me in your
01:00:58.200your penny loafers and your suit coat making fun of us because we're dirty and we're the homeless
01:01:03.900family you know and and i heard it going on behind me so i bought their dinner and then you know i
01:01:08.340kind of laughed about it as i seen the waitress bring their ticket out you know and it so those
01:01:13.680types of things i mean yeah maybe i shouldn't have done that but it was better than going over there
01:01:18.220and bumping into the dad's chair and wanting to fight.
01:01:20.420Yeah, I was going to say, like getting physical, right?
01:01:22.240Yeah, so those types of things, I mean, you have fun with that,
01:01:26.180but it's better than making a scene in the store by calling them out.
01:19:55.780You know, some of the old timers are the most rewarding because they can't get off the couch.0.96
01:20:01.120they they're kind of they're they're kind of stuck in their wheelchair or whatever you know0.99
01:20:05.200they they were veterans they served the country they you know they're just old-timers but they
01:20:09.560they kind of live through my land so to speak and so you guys want to check any of that stuff out
01:20:15.180you sure can and uh i appreciate the opportunity to get on and chat about life and my perspective and
01:20:21.300kind of just have that opportunity it was fun now i appreciate it thanks brother you bet
01:20:28.140All right, man, Mr. Casey Lofthouse, so honored that he was the first one to come into this new and improved, updated studio.
01:20:36.560I love having conversations with Casey.
01:20:39.140He's been a friend for decades at this point, but he's somebody who is like us, somebody who wants to do good, who wants to be a good source of influence and good in the community.
01:20:51.480and somebody I think all of us resonate deeply with,
01:20:54.820even though he's a little bit more involved than 99.9% of us.
01:21:01.920But I love this guy and I was glad to have him on.
01:21:04.060So make sure you check out his YouTube channel