Order of Man - May 06, 2016


FFN002： Protect, Provide, and Preside

Topics
responsibilities of men providing protect
Hosted by
Ryan Michler
Mentioned
Jocko Willink Leif Babin Steadfast
OoM 059： An Insider's Look Into Approaching Women with Sarah Jones OoM 060： Jocko Willink on Leading Yourself and Men

Episode Stats


Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

211.09

Word count

1,538

Sentence count

148

Harmful content

Misogyny

7

sentences flagged

Toxicity

3

sentences flagged

Hate speech

5

sentences flagged


Summary

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The role of a man is to protect, provide, and preside. This goes back thousands of years and hasn't changed much since then. The question is, can a man handle it? Can he handle it well?

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 You're a man. You're committed to the work required to forge your own destiny.
00:00:04.600 Your blood. Your sweat. Your tears.
00:00:07.920 You will not be defeated. You cannot be deterred.
00:00:11.480 Nothing stands between you and the victory you seek.
00:00:14.640 You're a rock. Steadfast, resolute, and unwavering.
00:00:18.420 And, at the end of the day, the job will be done.
00:00:22.480 Welcome to your Friday Field Notes.
00:00:25.400 Men, welcome back to your Friday Field Notes.
00:00:28.120 Now, this is only the second time we've done the Friday Field Notes,
00:00:31.020 but last week I got some great feedback, so obviously something's working.
00:00:34.540 We'll continue.
00:00:35.520 Now, my job on this show, this is a short show.
00:00:37.780 We do the full show every Tuesday, but the Friday Field Notes, obviously, on Friday.
00:00:42.120 And my goal is to make you think.
00:00:43.420 The last thing I want for you is to follow me or anyone else blindly.
00:00:47.900 I think a real man is somebody who can think for himself.
00:00:50.700 He discerns what information to implement, and then he takes action based on his own decisions.
00:00:55.120 Now, with that said, and since this is a short show each Friday, I just want to jump right into this.
00:01:01.240 I've had a lot of people ask me what it means to be a man and what separates men from women.
00:01:05.780 And there's the obvious, but I'm not going to get into that today.
00:01:08.140 You can figure out that one for yourself.
00:01:09.700 What I want to talk about today is the way in which we, as men, go about our lives.
00:01:14.900 In this case, I want to talk with you about the responsibilities of men.
00:01:18.580 And these responsibilities, they go back thousands and thousands of years.
00:01:21.220 It hasn't changed, and I don't anticipate the responsibilities will change anytime soon.
00:01:25.460 Now, the way in which we approach our responsibilities may have changed, but not the underlying duties
00:01:30.540 themselves.
00:01:31.700 And the reason I want to talk with you about this is because I see more and more men every
00:01:35.820 single day shirking their responsibilities.
00:01:38.000 There's a ton of guys out there who are absolutely doing what they need to do as men.
00:01:43.280 And then on the flip side, there's a ton of guys out there who are doing the exact opposite
00:01:47.240 of what they actually should be doing.
00:01:49.900 So with that said, what is it that a man needs to be doing?
00:01:54.360 I'll tell you this.
00:01:55.020 A man's primary responsibility is to protect, to provide, and preside. 1.00
00:02:01.240 That's it.
00:02:02.320 So today, I want to break down each one of those.
00:02:04.380 Protect, provide, preside.
00:02:06.100 And I want to break them down briefly for you because your ability to understand what
00:02:10.460 I'm talking about and then carry out the responsibilities that we're going to discuss today is your ultimate
00:02:16.400 measure as a man.
00:02:18.100 So first, protect.
00:02:19.300 This is the reason that you and me, that men are built the way that we're built.
00:02:23.760 Generally speaking, men are bigger.
00:02:25.840 They're stronger than women. 1.00
00:02:27.040 And that's all for a reason because our job is to protect our loved ones. 1.00
00:02:31.620 And when shit really hits the fan, people are going to look to the man. 0.99
00:02:36.540 When an intruder breaks into your house, your wife is going to tell you to check it out. 1.00
00:02:40.420 When there's a spider running around the house, it's your job to kill it.
00:02:43.280 When there's a natural disaster or, more recently, active shooter-type situations, it's the man's
00:02:49.600 responsibility to put an end to it.
00:02:51.940 This is your job, fellas.
00:02:53.100 And the question is, can you handle it?
00:02:54.820 Can you defend yourself?
00:02:56.100 Are you physically fit?
00:02:57.460 Are you trained with a weapon?
00:02:58.920 Can you think rationally about an emergency situation?
00:03:02.100 Can you keep your cool and can you keep collected when everything else is chaos all around you?
00:03:08.820 If not, if the answer is no to those questions, then I question your ability to lead as a man.
00:03:13.420 Now, if you have some room to grow in this area, great.
00:03:15.660 Do it.
00:03:16.380 This is what you're supposed to do.
00:03:17.740 Now, I hear a lot of people that will say, well, all men aren't warriors.
00:03:20.580 And that's true.
00:03:21.940 I'm not suggesting that you have to be a warrior to protect everything you care about.
00:03:25.200 I'm not asking you to conquer nations.
00:03:26.560 I'm telling you that you need to be able to protect your domain.
00:03:30.460 So you don't have to be a warrior to do that.
00:03:32.840 But you do need to get good and proficient at certain skills.
00:03:36.980 So remember, protection.
00:03:38.520 Next, provide.
00:03:39.860 Again, spanning back thousands of years, men's primary responsibility was to provide. 0.95
00:03:43.860 Now, thousands of years ago, it may have been a fresh kill or a cave to dwell in
00:03:48.620 and a big enough leaf or something like that to cover ourselves.
00:03:51.560 But today, it's very much the same.
00:03:52.780 Food on the table, a place to live, clothes on her back.
00:03:54.920 And if you're not providing those things for yourself and your loved ones,
00:03:58.900 is there really a reason to have you around?
00:04:01.660 Now, I know more and more women are entering the workforce. 1.00
00:04:04.040 And to that, I say, great.
00:04:05.060 I have no problem with that.
00:04:06.180 I think that's a wonderful thing.
00:04:07.700 And if you happen to be in a relationship where the wife maybe goes out to work 0.92
00:04:11.140 and you stay at home, that's great too.
00:04:13.180 Because this concept of providing goes well beyond just the physical contributions
00:04:16.860 that you bring into the household.
00:04:18.040 But are you providing mental and emotional support for your family?
00:04:21.880 You guys are the rock.
00:04:23.420 You're the foundation in which your family needs to build upon.
00:04:26.840 So provide.
00:04:28.100 Providing for your family, your business, your community, your loved ones.
00:04:31.360 The third P I want to talk about is preside.
00:04:33.660 I'm talking about leadership here.
00:04:35.000 It's your job.
00:04:35.720 It always has been to lead your family, your business, and your community.
00:04:39.500 Again, I think I might have some hate on this one because women will tell me, 1.00
00:04:43.160 well, they can lead too.
00:04:44.320 That is true.
00:04:45.220 Of course they can.
00:04:45.980 Women can lead and quite effectively. 0.97
00:04:48.520 There are women out there who I've been led by who are completely capable of handling 1.00
00:04:52.360 the task at hand.
00:04:53.760 But a woman is not expected to do that the same way that a man is. 0.81
00:04:58.080 That's what I'm talking about here.
00:04:59.500 Typically speaking, you as a man are going to be looked upon as a leader.
00:05:04.460 How are we going to raise our family?
00:05:06.000 What direction is the business going to go?
00:05:08.040 What's best for the community as a whole?
00:05:09.620 And your ability to lead effectively literally spells the difference between success and
00:05:14.420 failure in your family and your business and your community.
00:05:16.900 One great resource that I encourage you to check out is the book Extreme Ownership by Jocko
00:05:22.940 Willink and Leif Babin.
00:05:24.180 In fact, I'm going to be releasing my podcast interview that I'm excited.
00:05:27.080 I'm stoked about with Jocko Willink next Tuesday.
00:05:30.140 So make sure you tune into that.
00:05:31.460 Again, I want to be clear here.
00:05:32.560 Women do have the ability to do all the things I talked about. 1.00
00:05:35.860 Provide, protect, and preside.
00:05:37.320 But at the end of the day, you as a man are going to be expected to bring home the bacon.
00:05:43.000 You're the one who's expected to keep everybody safe.
00:05:45.440 You're the one who's expected to lead people to the promised land.
00:05:48.640 Maybe you have the ability to do that and maybe you don't.
00:05:50.920 Either way, all of us men could step up to the task a little bit better.
00:05:54.360 And that's what the world needs from us.
00:05:56.000 Protect, provide, and preside.
00:05:58.980 Now, if you guys want to learn more about how to do this, go to our website.
00:06:01.860 Go to orderofman.com slash fieldnotes.
00:06:03.960 Dig around the site a little bit.
00:06:05.740 You can learn more about who we are at Order of Man, what we do.
00:06:09.000 And while you're there, you might even want to consider joining our elite mastermind,
00:06:11.980 The Iron Council.
00:06:12.920 This is where we talk about all of this stuff and so much more and actually how to implement
00:06:16.660 it in your life, which is the most important part.
00:06:19.420 So with that said, remember again, guys, next week, tune in to my conversation with literally
00:06:23.960 one of the baddest men on the planet.
00:06:25.840 He's a retired Navy SEAL commander of Task Unit Bruiser, bronze and silver star recipient.
00:06:30.340 He's also a New York Times bestselling author of Extreme Ownership.
00:06:33.680 His name is Jocko Willink.
00:06:35.440 You're going to want to tune in for that.
00:06:36.840 Catch you next week, guys.
00:06:37.760 But until then, remember, it is our job to protect, provide, and preside for the ones
00:06:43.440 that we care about.
00:06:44.980 Those are your Friday Field Notes.
00:06:46.940 Now, it's time to crush your excuses.
00:06:49.340 Own your choices.
00:06:50.580 Accept responsibility.
00:06:52.440 And live manfully.
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