FFN002： Protect, Provide, and Preside
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Summary
The role of a man is to protect, provide, and preside. This goes back thousands of years and hasn't changed much since then. The question is, can a man handle it? Can he handle it well?
Transcript
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You're a man. You're committed to the work required to forge your own destiny.
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You will not be defeated. You cannot be deterred.
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Nothing stands between you and the victory you seek.
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You're a rock. Steadfast, resolute, and unwavering.
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And, at the end of the day, the job will be done.
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Now, this is only the second time we've done the Friday Field Notes,
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but last week I got some great feedback, so obviously something's working.
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Now, my job on this show, this is a short show.
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We do the full show every Tuesday, but the Friday Field Notes, obviously, on Friday.
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The last thing I want for you is to follow me or anyone else blindly.
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I think a real man is somebody who can think for himself.
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He discerns what information to implement, and then he takes action based on his own decisions.
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Now, with that said, and since this is a short show each Friday, I just want to jump right into this.
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I've had a lot of people ask me what it means to be a man and what separates men from women.
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And there's the obvious, but I'm not going to get into that today.
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What I want to talk about today is the way in which we, as men, go about our lives.
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In this case, I want to talk with you about the responsibilities of men.
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And these responsibilities, they go back thousands and thousands of years.
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It hasn't changed, and I don't anticipate the responsibilities will change anytime soon.
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Now, the way in which we approach our responsibilities may have changed, but not the underlying duties
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And the reason I want to talk with you about this is because I see more and more men every
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There's a ton of guys out there who are absolutely doing what they need to do as men.
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And then on the flip side, there's a ton of guys out there who are doing the exact opposite
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So with that said, what is it that a man needs to be doing?
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A man's primary responsibility is to protect, to provide, and preside.
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So today, I want to break down each one of those.
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And I want to break them down briefly for you because your ability to understand what
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I'm talking about and then carry out the responsibilities that we're going to discuss today is your ultimate
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This is the reason that you and me, that men are built the way that we're built.
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And that's all for a reason because our job is to protect our loved ones.
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And when shit really hits the fan, people are going to look to the man.
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When an intruder breaks into your house, your wife is going to tell you to check it out.
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When there's a spider running around the house, it's your job to kill it.
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When there's a natural disaster or, more recently, active shooter-type situations, it's the man's
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Can you think rationally about an emergency situation?
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Can you keep your cool and can you keep collected when everything else is chaos all around you?
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If not, if the answer is no to those questions, then I question your ability to lead as a man.
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Now, if you have some room to grow in this area, great.
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Now, I hear a lot of people that will say, well, all men aren't warriors.
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I'm not suggesting that you have to be a warrior to protect everything you care about.
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I'm telling you that you need to be able to protect your domain.
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But you do need to get good and proficient at certain skills.
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Again, spanning back thousands of years, men's primary responsibility was to provide.
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Now, thousands of years ago, it may have been a fresh kill or a cave to dwell in
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and a big enough leaf or something like that to cover ourselves.
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Food on the table, a place to live, clothes on her back.
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And if you're not providing those things for yourself and your loved ones,
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Now, I know more and more women are entering the workforce.
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And if you happen to be in a relationship where the wife maybe goes out to work
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Because this concept of providing goes well beyond just the physical contributions
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But are you providing mental and emotional support for your family?
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You're the foundation in which your family needs to build upon.
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Providing for your family, your business, your community, your loved ones.
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It always has been to lead your family, your business, and your community.
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Again, I think I might have some hate on this one because women will tell me,
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There are women out there who I've been led by who are completely capable of handling
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But a woman is not expected to do that the same way that a man is.
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Typically speaking, you as a man are going to be looked upon as a leader.
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And your ability to lead effectively literally spells the difference between success and
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failure in your family and your business and your community.
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One great resource that I encourage you to check out is the book Extreme Ownership by Jocko
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In fact, I'm going to be releasing my podcast interview that I'm excited.
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I'm stoked about with Jocko Willink next Tuesday.
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Women do have the ability to do all the things I talked about.
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But at the end of the day, you as a man are going to be expected to bring home the bacon.
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You're the one who's expected to keep everybody safe.
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You're the one who's expected to lead people to the promised land.
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Maybe you have the ability to do that and maybe you don't.
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Either way, all of us men could step up to the task a little bit better.
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Now, if you guys want to learn more about how to do this, go to our website.
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You can learn more about who we are at Order of Man, what we do.
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And while you're there, you might even want to consider joining our elite mastermind,
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This is where we talk about all of this stuff and so much more and actually how to implement
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it in your life, which is the most important part.
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So with that said, remember again, guys, next week, tune in to my conversation with literally
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He's a retired Navy SEAL commander of Task Unit Bruiser, bronze and silver star recipient.
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He's also a New York Times bestselling author of Extreme Ownership.
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But until then, remember, it is our job to protect, provide, and preside for the ones
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Learn how at orderofman.com forward slash fieldnotes.