Pearl - 10 Reasons WOMEN Prefer SINGLE LIFE Over RELATIONSHIPS

00:00:00.000 Good afternoon. Good evening, ladies and gentlemen. Welcome to another episode of Pearl

00:00:06.100 Daily. I am your host, Pearl, and this is the Audacity Network. I think that it's important

00:00:12.500 when we talk about modern women and modern problems and the direction that society is going

00:00:19.340 that I'm not necessarily ascribing morality to it. I'm not trying to communicate one way is right

00:00:25.940 and one way is wrong. But life has choices and trade-offs and it's important that we see what

00:00:32.480 the necessary end of the way our society is going. So we all know that men tend to pick for fertility,

00:00:40.520 beauty, and youth. Those three things are what men pick for. But the average age of first marriage is

00:00:47.000 around 30 years old and it keeps going up and up and up based on the generation.

00:00:53.080 So what does this mean?

00:00:55.020 That means men, when they're in their sexual peak is around 35 to 40 years old, and they

00:01:02.500 tend to cash out of the sexual marketplace earlier than we do, because when we're at

00:01:07.500 our peak, we don't have a tendency to marry.

00:01:11.520 Now, we want to ask, why is that?

00:01:14.080 So we're going to go through the 10 unexpected reasons women are choosing to stay single.

00:01:19.620 Far from something to dread, lots of women are choosing a single life.

00:01:24.600 It's no longer simply about meeting the right one.

00:01:27.680 The truth is going in it alone can bring much more fun and freedom.

00:01:33.900 Why do women prefer to be single?

00:01:36.320 The answer is plenty of reasons.

00:01:38.700 Number one, they're no longer buying into the fairy tale.

00:01:42.380 Sorry, Prince Charming, but you were a little bit late, so I went and saved myself.

00:01:47.340 The happily ever after narrative is starting to feel pretty outdated.

00:01:52.100 Stories we grew up on about women being rescued by men

00:01:56.220 no longer ring true as the 21st century years.

00:02:00.260 What's more, a lot are sounding pretty sketchy.

00:02:04.140 Sleeping Beauty was awoken by a kiss when she was unconscious.

00:02:08.060 Er, I'm sorry, but I think Prince needs a lesson in consent.

00:02:12.660 Luckily, these days, a lot of women see the fantasy for what it is.

00:02:17.340 just an illusion. This, that's not to put a downer on relationships, but real life is never

00:02:23.860 so easy and neither are real relationships. They're a lot of work and understandably,

00:02:30.000 not all women want to make it. So what is the first reason? We don't want to do work.

00:02:35.720 I don't know what to tell you guys. Number two, relationships are hard work. Far from magically

00:02:41.260 fixing everything in your life, relationships take time and energy. There's also evidence to

00:02:48.740 suggest that women may have to contribute more of that energy into a relationship. For starters,

00:02:55.280 the burden of emotional support can fall disproportionately on women. According to a

00:03:00.980 Harvard Business Review, we can blame stuttered sub-gender stereotypes for this. Women are often

00:03:07.860 expected to be communal which is typically reflected in caring and nurturing for others

00:03:13.660 there is more pressure on them to be kin keepers who manage relationships within the family and

00:03:20.620 community my first question guys is what family and what community are we are we blind are we

00:03:27.260 like what it's not really a thing all right men are traditionally expected to be more

00:03:32.300 agentic from a young age, rational, strategic, and assertive, even if this results in being

00:03:40.220 less cooperative and considerate. And it's not just emotional work. Studies have shown that

00:03:45.180 women spend double the amount of time compared to men caretaking, tackling chores, and doing

00:03:50.220 housework. Researchers looked at 19 studies that use data from 70,000 individuals all over the

00:03:57.240 world they concluded that women are far more out spend far more hours on unpaid labor in a

00:04:04.460 relationship that has a negative impact on their mental health no wonder then the single women

00:04:12.420 may be healthier okay guys so we got number one we are not buying into the fairy tale number two

00:04:20.220 hard work. Three, it's better for your health. Yep, that's right. Being single could be a

00:04:26.900 lifestyle choice that offers perks as well as having strong social networks. There's evidence

00:04:32.440 that single folks may be physically fitter too. You know what? I would believe that. And the reason

00:04:38.160 I'd believe it, I mean, the moms don't have time to spend four hours taking selfies in the gym.

00:04:43.660 I mean, they don't have time for that. They might just have to eat less. Do you know what I mean?

00:04:47.740 it turns out the idea of letting yourself go when you were coupled up might not be so far off the

00:04:53.060 mark. Researchers looked at the health habits of 13,000 men and women between the ages of 18 and

00:04:58.580 64. What they discovered is that single people who had never married worked out far more often

00:05:04.920 each week. Yep. Meanwhile, another study found that people weighed on average five pounds less

00:05:10.700 than their married counterparts have lower BMIs. Why? Well, it probably is something to do that

00:05:17.240 when you're single, you have more time for yourself. Number four reason why modern women

00:05:23.000 are single. We are in, they're enjoying their freedom. Casual dating can be great fun. It's a

00:05:30.520 great, it's a chance to connect without getting tied down or making a commitment. More women are

00:05:36.640 taking this opportunity to simply see what's out there. Apps provide us easy access to a whole

00:05:42.860 host of potential studers at the swipe of a screen. Of course, plenty of women choose not

00:05:49.800 to date at all and they find they have perfectly full lives without romantic partners on the scenes.

00:05:55.340 In fact, studies have shown that women lead busier lives than single men do. They do more

00:06:00.420 activities and have more friends. Yes. And the reason being for this is because life,

00:06:06.540 You have to understand, a lot of times conservatives try to sell that women are somehow tricked into not having children, that women are just coerced, feminism brainwashed.

00:06:20.460 Guys, if the roles were reversed and men could download a dating app and get 5,000 matches, 5,000, do you think it would be a little bit difficult to get them to settle down?

00:06:33.800 If men could, remember, average women can get flown out by top 10% men. Do you think if men

00:06:42.100 could get access easily to all of the most attractive women that they know,

00:06:48.600 do you think it would be a little bit difficult to get them to settle down?

00:06:53.040 That's what's going on. Or if men, they tend to be, I don't want to say that because we're on

00:06:58.500 YouTube. I'll say that on the network. But if men got jobs that were pretty simple, didn't have to

00:07:06.200 do a ton of work and had a good work-life balance, work from home, do you think it'd be kind of hard

00:07:12.120 to get them to settle down? Do you think it'd be difficult? Okay. In short, they have a lot going

00:07:17.080 on and aren't looking to fill any kind of void. Single women get a lot more time to focus on

00:07:22.140 their own interests, education, career, and life goals than women in relationships. They value

00:07:27.220 their independence and want to make themselves the main focus and priority in their lives. So

00:07:32.520 many women's needs no longer are fulfilled exclusively by a relationship, including the

00:07:39.420 next on our list. Sex and relationships no longer go hand in hand. Sure, for some people, sex out of

00:07:46.660 a relationship is taboo, but for many more, it's not. Sexual freedom has increased in large parts

00:07:52.960 of the world and sex can be enjoyed outside of relationship with far less stigma. Hookup culture

00:07:59.060 lets ladies get certain itches scratched without committing. After all, having sex isn't just about

00:08:06.040 making babies. Many women, myself included, have decided that kids just aren't part of the life

00:08:11.900 plan. Who says women who don't want to sow their wild oats to? That's exactly what some women are

00:08:18.860 choosing to do don't they get lonely there's a world of difference between being alone and being

00:08:24.860 lonely and mind you guys i never say that this has no consequences i don't say that but what i am

00:08:33.020 saying is nobody's brainwashed nobody's tricked all this is is people are doing the easy thing

00:08:40.220 and the fun thing it's it's the same thing when you get really drunk and you're hung over that's

00:08:44.700 the consequence what we have now is we are being given so much power with the internet power to

00:08:52.700 make money power to get access to high-level celebrities power to be at the coolest social

00:08:59.980 events if you're attractive enough all of this is fun and exciting and most women don't want

00:09:06.620 to be hunkered down that's how that's how they see it right horse's mouth by an average guy they

00:09:12.700 They don't want to give up this exciting lifestyle for an average man.

00:09:18.480 That's why you don't see women settling down until that lifestyle starts to go away.

00:09:27.060 They age out of being a bottle girl.

00:09:28.840 We age out of the dating apps, right?

00:09:31.920 Where you don't get as much attention as you used to.

00:09:34.760 That's when you see.

00:09:35.960 But the issue is now there's so much technology that is prolonging this.

00:09:41.460 so there's technology to you know make your teeth whiter there's technology to

00:09:46.860 make people look younger boob jaw all of them all of this stuff right okay so they prefer solitude

00:09:54.500 I'm currently in a relationship but hands down one of the most difficult adjustments was losing

00:10:00.100 a lot of peace and quiet I'd grown accustomed to you see I am one of the many women out there

00:10:05.200 who genuinely enjoys and values alone time. It doesn't make me sad. I'm not bored.

00:10:10.940 I feel deep contentment spending time by myself. So rather than longing for a man in my home,

00:10:16.660 I took great pleasure in having a space that was my own. We're all built differently. Some

00:10:21.140 of us like solitude and aren't in a hurry to give it up. Seven, they get their self-esteem

00:10:25.360 from within. Far too many of us are still defining ourselves and our self-worth based

00:10:30.780 on relationships but it's much easier to be single when you don't look for someone else for

00:10:36.940 your happiness far from making you weird in many ways choosing to be single is a reflection of

00:10:43.020 strength okay next they won't settle for less than they deserve right so this number eight is gonna

00:10:50.460 be delusion delusion for the win okay some people feel so lost being single that any relationship

00:10:58.540 will do. So they bounce from disaster to disaster, wondering why it never works for them. So what is

00:11:04.020 this? Again, dating apps have given us as women access to men that never in our lives we would

00:11:10.140 have access to. You know, a woman from a small town used to go marry her high school sweetheart.

00:11:15.860 Now the most beautiful woman in a small town can be flown out by Andrew Tate, Channing Tatum,

00:11:22.220 or really any high level celebrity that wants a different girl every week. This access has made

00:11:28.960 us think we're more attractive and special and awesome than we are. Of course, there's a difference

00:11:34.700 between high standards and impossible standards, but having a healthy and fulfilling relationship

00:11:39.420 should be everyone's baseline. Women who feel confident and content as single girls aren't

00:11:44.720 frantically looking for anyone to fill in the vacancy. If they do want a partner, they are

00:11:52.300 prepared to wait to find a person and situation that does well for them. That may take time,

00:11:57.340 but luckily there's no rush. They don't feel the same urgency to settle down. The average age for

00:12:03.320 getting all of that grown-up stuff is rising. We're putting off relationships, marriage, kids,

00:12:07.800 and mortgages until later in life. And again, guys, why is this? It's because as women, they want to

00:12:13.860 make us feel young forever. And that is what they're selling. They're always selling that

00:12:19.460 we are going to be young forever, attractive forever, and anything that makes us feel young.

00:12:25.120 According to the conversation today, the number of single adults in the U.S. and many other

00:12:31.160 nations across the world is unprecedented. And the numbers don't just say people are staying

00:12:37.940 single longer before settling down. More people are staying single for life. We have hit certain

00:12:43.400 milestones and increasing perhaps that's down to the fact that what it's considered old is also

00:12:50.600 changing right so now again she's doing it she's saying what's old is changing you know 30 35 that's

00:12:58.520 being near middle age it really is you're not a kid you're an adult but now they're trying to

00:13:05.000 prolong that as long as possible while your grandma may have been married and pregnant by your age

00:13:10.520 you may still be dragging your butt home from the club at 4 a.m. Women are enjoying active

00:13:17.500 and youthful feelings for much longer. Again, same thing I'm showing you guys. It's no longer

00:13:24.220 socially unacceptable. And that's the last stage of all of this. They always try to normalize

00:13:29.680 anything. You know, the other show when we were talking about STDs and there was the young woman

00:13:35.480 who had herpes. One of the things they were saying is that it's not abnormal and that everybody has

00:13:41.260 it. So again, that's what they try to do. Something that's abnormal, they try to make normal.

00:13:48.460 And I hate to say it, guys, it kind of works because many things are considered normal today

00:13:54.080 that would have been crazy like 20, 30 years ago. Okay. Words we used for single women like

00:14:03.000 spinster didn't exactly have positive connotations and made you feel sexy and unwanted. While the

00:14:09.220 male version bachelor was far cooler and brought to mind James Bond. Bonds of the world who

00:14:14.900 admiredly have avoided being tied down by a woman. I'm not suggesting patriarchal notions don't exist

00:14:21.400 but they have eased off. Nain says normal everyone has it. No they don't. I know they don't but I'm

00:14:28.180 telling you that's what they try to do is they make things normal like now it's normal it's not

00:14:34.080 good but I see fat fat people all the time and if you look at a picture from 50 years ago you didn't

00:14:40.760 see any right it's those kind of things that become more normal women are choosing to stay

00:14:46.280 single simply because they can nowadays okay so I'd like to say this is from the horse's mouth

00:14:53.600 nobody was tricked I need to stop hearing that we were tricked we were brainwashed

00:15:00.140 guys when you put yourself in the female lens it makes perfect sense it makes complete sense

00:15:07.340 because most guys and I know you guys are all going to say you wouldn't most men if they had

00:15:14.540 access to 5,000 women from an app what do you think that men would do they would same thing

00:15:21.920 Now, I'm not saying this is good or bad, but if I had to predict if men had access to 5,000 women

00:15:30.760 and it was easy, it would be pretty difficult to get them to settle down. Right now, we're seeing

00:15:36.820 the reverse. Okay, exactly no one was tricked. Women just took full advantage of not being judged

00:15:42.940 and shamed. There is no right or wrong, but life is about choices and trade-offs. And what I don't

00:15:49.200 like is when people make certain choices and they complain about the consequence of them. That's all

00:15:55.000 I got. Make sure you like the video and subscribe to the channel and I'll talk to you guys next time.

Pearl - October 26, 2024

10 Reasons WOMEN Prefer SINGLE LIFE Over RELATIONSHIPS ｜ Pearl Daily

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