Pearl - October 26, 2024


10 Reasons WOMEN Prefer SINGLE LIFE Over RELATIONSHIPS ｜ Pearl Daily


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Why do women prefer to be single? Why do they have more time for themselves? And why is it that they re enjoying freedom and freedom only when it comes to dating? Why are women choosing a single life over a marriage?

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00:00:00.000 Good afternoon. Good evening, ladies and gentlemen. Welcome to another episode of Pearl
00:00:06.100 Daily. I am your host, Pearl, and this is the Audacity Network. I think that it's important
00:00:12.500 when we talk about modern women and modern problems and the direction that society is going 0.91
00:00:19.340 that I'm not necessarily ascribing morality to it. I'm not trying to communicate one way is right
00:00:25.940 and one way is wrong. But life has choices and trade-offs and it's important that we see what
00:00:32.480 the necessary end of the way our society is going. So we all know that men tend to pick for fertility, 0.89
00:00:40.520 beauty, and youth. Those three things are what men pick for. But the average age of first marriage is
00:00:47.000 around 30 years old and it keeps going up and up and up based on the generation.
00:00:53.080 So what does this mean?
00:00:55.020 That means men, when they're in their sexual peak is around 35 to 40 years old, and they
00:01:02.500 tend to cash out of the sexual marketplace earlier than we do, because when we're at
00:01:07.500 our peak, we don't have a tendency to marry.
00:01:11.520 Now, we want to ask, why is that?
00:01:14.080 So we're going to go through the 10 unexpected reasons women are choosing to stay single. 1.00
00:01:19.620 Far from something to dread, lots of women are choosing a single life. 1.00
00:01:24.600 It's no longer simply about meeting the right one.
00:01:27.680 The truth is going in it alone can bring much more fun and freedom.
00:01:33.900 Why do women prefer to be single? 1.00
00:01:36.320 The answer is plenty of reasons.
00:01:38.700 Number one, they're no longer buying into the fairy tale.
00:01:42.380 Sorry, Prince Charming, but you were a little bit late, so I went and saved myself.
00:01:47.340 The happily ever after narrative is starting to feel pretty outdated.
00:01:52.100 Stories we grew up on about women being rescued by men
00:01:56.220 no longer ring true as the 21st century years.
00:02:00.260 What's more, a lot are sounding pretty sketchy.
00:02:04.140 Sleeping Beauty was awoken by a kiss when she was unconscious.
00:02:08.060 Er, I'm sorry, but I think Prince needs a lesson in consent.
00:02:12.660 Luckily, these days, a lot of women see the fantasy for what it is. 1.00
00:02:17.340 just an illusion. This, that's not to put a downer on relationships, but real life is never
00:02:23.860 so easy and neither are real relationships. They're a lot of work and understandably,
00:02:30.000 not all women want to make it. So what is the first reason? We don't want to do work. 1.00
00:02:35.720 I don't know what to tell you guys. Number two, relationships are hard work. Far from magically
00:02:41.260 fixing everything in your life, relationships take time and energy. There's also evidence to
00:02:48.740 suggest that women may have to contribute more of that energy into a relationship. For starters, 1.00
00:02:55.280 the burden of emotional support can fall disproportionately on women. According to a 0.95
00:03:00.980 Harvard Business Review, we can blame stuttered sub-gender stereotypes for this. Women are often 1.00
00:03:07.860 expected to be communal which is typically reflected in caring and nurturing for others
00:03:13.660 there is more pressure on them to be kin keepers who manage relationships within the family and
00:03:20.620 community my first question guys is what family and what community are we are we blind are we
00:03:27.260 like what it's not really a thing all right men are traditionally expected to be more
00:03:32.300 agentic from a young age, rational, strategic, and assertive, even if this results in being
00:03:40.220 less cooperative and considerate. And it's not just emotional work. Studies have shown that
00:03:45.180 women spend double the amount of time compared to men caretaking, tackling chores, and doing 1.00
00:03:50.220 housework. Researchers looked at 19 studies that use data from 70,000 individuals all over the
00:03:57.240 world they concluded that women are far more out spend far more hours on unpaid labor in a 0.97
00:04:04.460 relationship that has a negative impact on their mental health no wonder then the single women 1.00
00:04:12.420 may be healthier okay guys so we got number one we are not buying into the fairy tale number two
00:04:20.220 hard work. Three, it's better for your health. Yep, that's right. Being single could be a
00:04:26.900 lifestyle choice that offers perks as well as having strong social networks. There's evidence
00:04:32.440 that single folks may be physically fitter too. You know what? I would believe that. And the reason 1.00
00:04:38.160 I'd believe it, I mean, the moms don't have time to spend four hours taking selfies in the gym. 1.00
00:04:43.660 I mean, they don't have time for that. They might just have to eat less. Do you know what I mean?
00:04:47.740 it turns out the idea of letting yourself go when you were coupled up might not be so far off the
00:04:53.060 mark. Researchers looked at the health habits of 13,000 men and women between the ages of 18 and
00:04:58.580 64. What they discovered is that single people who had never married worked out far more often
00:05:04.920 each week. Yep. Meanwhile, another study found that people weighed on average five pounds less
00:05:10.700 than their married counterparts have lower BMIs. Why? Well, it probably is something to do that 0.89
00:05:17.240 when you're single, you have more time for yourself. Number four reason why modern women 1.00
00:05:23.000 are single. We are in, they're enjoying their freedom. Casual dating can be great fun. It's a
00:05:30.520 great, it's a chance to connect without getting tied down or making a commitment. More women are 1.00
00:05:36.640 taking this opportunity to simply see what's out there. Apps provide us easy access to a whole
00:05:42.860 host of potential studers at the swipe of a screen. Of course, plenty of women choose not 1.00
00:05:49.800 to date at all and they find they have perfectly full lives without romantic partners on the scenes.
00:05:55.340 In fact, studies have shown that women lead busier lives than single men do. They do more
00:06:00.420 activities and have more friends. Yes. And the reason being for this is because life,
00:06:06.540 You have to understand, a lot of times conservatives try to sell that women are somehow tricked into not having children, that women are just coerced, feminism brainwashed.
00:06:20.460 Guys, if the roles were reversed and men could download a dating app and get 5,000 matches, 5,000, do you think it would be a little bit difficult to get them to settle down?
00:06:33.800 If men could, remember, average women can get flown out by top 10% men. Do you think if men
00:06:42.100 could get access easily to all of the most attractive women that they know,
00:06:48.600 do you think it would be a little bit difficult to get them to settle down?
00:06:53.040 That's what's going on. Or if men, they tend to be, I don't want to say that because we're on
00:06:58.500 YouTube. I'll say that on the network. But if men got jobs that were pretty simple, didn't have to
00:07:06.200 do a ton of work and had a good work-life balance, work from home, do you think it'd be kind of hard
00:07:12.120 to get them to settle down? Do you think it'd be difficult? Okay. In short, they have a lot going
00:07:17.080 on and aren't looking to fill any kind of void. Single women get a lot more time to focus on 1.00
00:07:22.140 their own interests, education, career, and life goals than women in relationships. They value 1.00
00:07:27.220 their independence and want to make themselves the main focus and priority in their lives. So
00:07:32.520 many women's needs no longer are fulfilled exclusively by a relationship, including the 1.00
00:07:39.420 next on our list. Sex and relationships no longer go hand in hand. Sure, for some people, sex out of
00:07:46.660 a relationship is taboo, but for many more, it's not. Sexual freedom has increased in large parts
00:07:52.960 of the world and sex can be enjoyed outside of relationship with far less stigma. Hookup culture
00:07:59.060 lets ladies get certain itches scratched without committing. After all, having sex isn't just about 1.00
00:08:06.040 making babies. Many women, myself included, have decided that kids just aren't part of the life 1.00
00:08:11.900 plan. Who says women who don't want to sow their wild oats to? That's exactly what some women are 1.00
00:08:18.860 choosing to do don't they get lonely there's a world of difference between being alone and being
00:08:24.860 lonely and mind you guys i never say that this has no consequences i don't say that but what i am
00:08:33.020 saying is nobody's brainwashed nobody's tricked all this is is people are doing the easy thing
00:08:40.220 and the fun thing it's it's the same thing when you get really drunk and you're hung over that's
00:08:44.700 the consequence what we have now is we are being given so much power with the internet power to
00:08:52.700 make money power to get access to high-level celebrities power to be at the coolest social
00:08:59.980 events if you're attractive enough all of this is fun and exciting and most women don't want 1.00
00:09:06.620 to be hunkered down that's how that's how they see it right horse's mouth by an average guy they
00:09:12.700 They don't want to give up this exciting lifestyle for an average man.
00:09:18.480 That's why you don't see women settling down until that lifestyle starts to go away. 1.00
00:09:27.060 They age out of being a bottle girl. 0.98
00:09:28.840 We age out of the dating apps, right?
00:09:31.920 Where you don't get as much attention as you used to.
00:09:34.760 That's when you see.
00:09:35.960 But the issue is now there's so much technology that is prolonging this.
00:09:41.460 so there's technology to you know make your teeth whiter there's technology to
00:09:46.860 make people look younger boob jaw all of them all of this stuff right okay so they prefer solitude
00:09:54.500 I'm currently in a relationship but hands down one of the most difficult adjustments was losing
00:10:00.100 a lot of peace and quiet I'd grown accustomed to you see I am one of the many women out there
00:10:05.200 who genuinely enjoys and values alone time. It doesn't make me sad. I'm not bored.
00:10:10.940 I feel deep contentment spending time by myself. So rather than longing for a man in my home,
00:10:16.660 I took great pleasure in having a space that was my own. We're all built differently. Some
00:10:21.140 of us like solitude and aren't in a hurry to give it up. Seven, they get their self-esteem
00:10:25.360 from within. Far too many of us are still defining ourselves and our self-worth based
00:10:30.780 on relationships but it's much easier to be single when you don't look for someone else for
00:10:36.940 your happiness far from making you weird in many ways choosing to be single is a reflection of
00:10:43.020 strength okay next they won't settle for less than they deserve right so this number eight is gonna
00:10:50.460 be delusion delusion for the win okay some people feel so lost being single that any relationship
00:10:58.540 will do. So they bounce from disaster to disaster, wondering why it never works for them. So what is
00:11:04.020 this? Again, dating apps have given us as women access to men that never in our lives we would
00:11:10.140 have access to. You know, a woman from a small town used to go marry her high school sweetheart.
00:11:15.860 Now the most beautiful woman in a small town can be flown out by Andrew Tate, Channing Tatum,
00:11:22.220 or really any high level celebrity that wants a different girl every week. This access has made
00:11:28.960 us think we're more attractive and special and awesome than we are. Of course, there's a difference
00:11:34.700 between high standards and impossible standards, but having a healthy and fulfilling relationship
00:11:39.420 should be everyone's baseline. Women who feel confident and content as single girls aren't 1.00
00:11:44.720 frantically looking for anyone to fill in the vacancy. If they do want a partner, they are
00:11:52.300 prepared to wait to find a person and situation that does well for them. That may take time,
00:11:57.340 but luckily there's no rush. They don't feel the same urgency to settle down. The average age for
00:12:03.320 getting all of that grown-up stuff is rising. We're putting off relationships, marriage, kids,
00:12:07.800 and mortgages until later in life. And again, guys, why is this? It's because as women, they want to 1.00
00:12:13.860 make us feel young forever. And that is what they're selling. They're always selling that
00:12:19.460 we are going to be young forever, attractive forever, and anything that makes us feel young.
00:12:25.120 According to the conversation today, the number of single adults in the U.S. and many other
00:12:31.160 nations across the world is unprecedented. And the numbers don't just say people are staying
00:12:37.940 single longer before settling down. More people are staying single for life. We have hit certain
00:12:43.400 milestones and increasing perhaps that's down to the fact that what it's considered old is also
00:12:50.600 changing right so now again she's doing it she's saying what's old is changing you know 30 35 that's
00:12:58.520 being near middle age it really is you're not a kid you're an adult but now they're trying to
00:13:05.000 prolong that as long as possible while your grandma may have been married and pregnant by your age
00:13:10.520 you may still be dragging your butt home from the club at 4 a.m. Women are enjoying active 1.00
00:13:17.500 and youthful feelings for much longer. Again, same thing I'm showing you guys. It's no longer
00:13:24.220 socially unacceptable. And that's the last stage of all of this. They always try to normalize
00:13:29.680 anything. You know, the other show when we were talking about STDs and there was the young woman 1.00
00:13:35.480 who had herpes. One of the things they were saying is that it's not abnormal and that everybody has
00:13:41.260 it. So again, that's what they try to do. Something that's abnormal, they try to make normal.
00:13:48.460 And I hate to say it, guys, it kind of works because many things are considered normal today
00:13:54.080 that would have been crazy like 20, 30 years ago. Okay. Words we used for single women like 0.69
00:14:03.000 spinster didn't exactly have positive connotations and made you feel sexy and unwanted. While the 1.00
00:14:09.220 male version bachelor was far cooler and brought to mind James Bond. Bonds of the world who
00:14:14.900 admiredly have avoided being tied down by a woman. I'm not suggesting patriarchal notions don't exist
00:14:21.400 but they have eased off. Nain says normal everyone has it. No they don't. I know they don't but I'm
00:14:28.180 telling you that's what they try to do is they make things normal like now it's normal it's not
00:14:34.080 good but I see fat fat people all the time and if you look at a picture from 50 years ago you didn't
00:14:40.760 see any right it's those kind of things that become more normal women are choosing to stay 1.00
00:14:46.280 single simply because they can nowadays okay so I'd like to say this is from the horse's mouth
00:14:53.600 nobody was tricked I need to stop hearing that we were tricked we were brainwashed
00:15:00.140 guys when you put yourself in the female lens it makes perfect sense it makes complete sense 0.91
00:15:07.340 because most guys and I know you guys are all going to say you wouldn't most men if they had
00:15:14.540 access to 5,000 women from an app what do you think that men would do they would same thing 0.65
00:15:21.920 Now, I'm not saying this is good or bad, but if I had to predict if men had access to 5,000 women
00:15:30.760 and it was easy, it would be pretty difficult to get them to settle down. Right now, we're seeing
00:15:36.820 the reverse. Okay, exactly no one was tricked. Women just took full advantage of not being judged 0.99
00:15:42.940 and shamed. There is no right or wrong, but life is about choices and trade-offs. And what I don't
00:15:49.200 like is when people make certain choices and they complain about the consequence of them. That's all
00:15:55.000 I got. Make sure you like the video and subscribe to the channel and I'll talk to you guys next time.