Pearl - 40 Year Old Women Have So Many REGRETS

00:00:00.000 and i also wanted to travel and enjoy being married so we're married almost 10 years before

00:00:04.480 we had our children and there's a lot to be said for waiting this generally means that the woman

00:00:10.080 um was looking for a better option on the side all right what's going on my ninjas today we are

00:00:16.240 reacting to women regretting things so as you guys know um as women we just have a 10 like

00:00:22.240 worst decisions possible and we don't often change our behavior but we do we do regret things right

00:00:29.680 So today we're going to watch women talking about why they regret things and see if we

00:00:35.360 can translate the womanese.

00:00:36.760 If you guys have any, you know, thoughts in the comments about how you would translate

00:00:40.840 it, let me know.

00:00:41.980 33 last month and here are the things I regret.

00:00:44.900 Honestly, never imagined myself being over 30.

00:00:47.600 Number one, I regret not learning how to actually make my knowledge money.

00:00:53.160 All my life I've been taught that it's very bad to want money.

00:00:56.540 as a woman you should want family and love and if you want money you are a bad person i was told to

00:01:02.620 go to the university i went i have two university level degrees bachelor degree master degree

00:01:08.140 education is definitely needed but honestly i never thought that i need my skills to create

00:01:14.140 system that's gonna constantly bring me money after having master's degree i chose to go to

00:01:19.660 cosmetology school because i felt like i have to work hard to make money and i have to have a

00:01:24.380 business so i was like i want to have a beauty salon i did not think about that by choosing

00:01:29.500 cosmetology career my job will be to physically give my body somewhere and physically do physical

00:01:37.260 labor that's why creating s i like how women call cosmetology school physical labor that's incredible 0.99

00:01:43.740 system that's gonna bring me money without me physically standing somewhere that was very 0.99

00:01:49.340 important if you if you're thinking to go to a cosmetology school or do physical labor think

00:01:54.300 about that you will have to most of your life and and standing in oh my gosh that is

00:02:04.300 of all the things to regret if your body physically not working you're not eating so having a degree

00:02:10.220 and using a degree is two different things and you should think which degree you can actually

00:02:15.980 use to make this system for you number two i regret not having kids earlier of course it's

00:02:21.100 sensitive topic but now i'm 33 i'm with my partner for four years we're trying to have a child and

00:02:27.260 i've always wanted to have kids before i'm 30 and again if i would have kids before i'm 30 no matter

00:02:33.980 how i would feel much better i feel like after 30 i should be focused on different things and i'm

00:02:39.260 still stuck in my 20s again i don't really hang out with my friends i don't really have any friends

00:02:44.460 who has no kids and your body is changing you're tired if before it didn't matter i could plan

00:02:50.060 anything i want right now after 30 i have only certain amount of energy i can spend and i have

00:02:56.260 to choose the tasks during the day so having a child is going to be much more much much more

00:03:01.720 physically and mentally challenging than it's in in your 20s and i thought i should live my life

00:03:06.580 and travel and it's so nice and everyone was building families raising kids when i was

00:03:11.500 traveling but now what i see is that i'll have to face challenges of raising a child after 30

00:03:17.020 well all my friends already traveling with their kids or they have nannies they have business so

00:03:22.720 kids are not a problem for you to care who are your friends it sounds like none of them are

00:03:27.260 raising their kids all the things you want to do if go back to number one you chose your career

00:03:33.020 wisely and and your kids are more likely to have autism understand that you have okay so she wishes

00:03:37.780 she has kids sooner all right well fair enough all right next lady right here went into my 30s

00:03:43.220 with absolutely no tattoos i went into my 31st year and just said go big or go home we're gonna 1.00

00:03:48.800 start our tattoo journey and go straight for the hand i just why do women have journeys and you

00:03:55.260 know what's the worst part about making a mistake in your 30s is you had 10 years to figure out how 1.00

00:03:59.100 to not make mistakes in your 30s and yet you know she watched all of her friends get tattoos regret

00:04:04.200 it and then still was like f it i'm gonna do it too because i love hand tattoos so as you can

00:04:09.240 imagine the first question out of most people's mouth is what if you regret it what if it's not

00:04:14.280 in style five years from now so like any other regret i have in my life i'll just use humor to

00:04:20.920 cope and i'll just get funnier so that's a win secondly my personality is always in style oh my

00:04:27.560 god look at her face okay next my biggest regret having kids later in life let's see her is my

00:04:33.560 biggest regret about having kids later in life. So I had my first daughter when I was 34. I had

00:04:40.200 my second daughter when I was 36. I'm now 37. And we waited to have kids intentionally. It's

00:04:48.680 something we talked about, prayed about, but I really wanted to be financially stable before we

00:04:52.820 had kids. That was the main reason. I also wanted to travel and enjoy being married. So we were

00:04:57.100 married almost 10 years before we had our children. And there's a lot to be said for

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00:06:51.300 couldn't find it um usually women i mean it's the same reason why women get pregnant by nba players 1.00

00:06:56.260 fast. Usually when a woman's sure about a guy, the pregnancy happens relatively quickly. 1.00

00:07:03.740 To have kids, there are many benefits like financial stability, maturity, all of those 0.92

00:07:07.800 things. But this is my regret. I genuinely regret not having them sooner. And here's why.

00:07:15.700 When you're a female, especially if you wait to have kids until you're mid to late 30s, 0.97

00:07:19.840 as you know your risk of complicated pregnancies birth defects genetic disorders those go up as

00:07:26.900 you age your chances of pregnant getting pregnant goes down and you're just more tired you're more

00:07:32.820 exhausted it's harder on your body and usually fatter Giselle Buttigieg or whatever had a kid 1.00

00:07:39.560 in her 40s but it's like she's been thin her whole life ladies have you have you been thin 1.00

00:07:44.000 your whole life no 19% body fat no I haven't and the thing is we absolutely love having kids and

00:07:50.920 I kind of have this feeling like if we would have had kids five years sooner or 10 years sooner

00:07:55.680 we would probably have another kid or two because we just love our children so much and something

00:08:01.740 that people don't talk about or tell you about having kids and some people do I guess but it

00:08:06.820 just gets better and better our three and a half year old is absolutely amazing I know I'm biased

00:08:11.560 because i'm her mom but she has the coolest personality she's so fun she's fun to hang out

00:08:16.760 with and she's just like your little buddy that you want to do everything with it's amazing and

00:08:21.080 she has her own personality and it's honestly like the sweetest most incredible thing and i

00:08:26.200 do think that our culture especially in america has fed this path to women that after college

00:08:32.840 you need to focus on your career for the next 10-15 years and then maybe have a family the

00:08:38.120 focus is definitely not you know go to college and have kids and figure out career later so i went

00:08:43.800 down that path you know i had a very successful mother she's amazing she did incredible things

00:08:48.280 with her career um i went down that path as well started my own business right out of college did

00:08:55.080 that for almost 15 years built my career had a lot of purpose enjoyed what i did but i can honestly

00:09:01.000 tell you that nothing compares to the purpose contentment and joy that i experienced from

00:09:05.880 being a mom and having children and it's true you only get so many eggs you only have so much time

00:09:11.800 women have this finite window where you can get pregnant i was thinking about it we said that it's

00:09:16.440 a finite window but isn't that finite if it starts at like 14 and it goes to 34 i was thinking about

00:09:22.600 this the other day i'm like it goes to like 40 that's i obviously um it's mostly before 30 35

00:09:31.240 whatever but i was thinking i'm like i don't know if it's as finite like the way we describe it i

00:09:36.280 just don't think is that accurate it's like 20 years start a family and it's worth it yes you

00:09:43.160 know it is easy okay so she's talking easier in many ways to wait so that yeah it's either you

00:09:49.240 have financial stability or energy stability okay let's see her regret not having children when they

00:09:55.960 were younger get me wrong starting my family in my 30s was the most responsible decision like

00:10:00.680 financially mentally emotionally physically actually i lied i don't think physically i think i

00:10:05.640 just have more energy and youthfulness in my 20s but everything else like it made sense for us to

00:10:11.640 start our family in our 30s but the one thing that i think about is like as our kids get older i know

00:10:17.240 we're not going to be like old old i can't help but think like when i was younger i thought like

00:10:24.440 40s was old and i don't know i also think about like when my kids go to college and it's like

00:10:30.360 mom's weekend or whatever like when i go down there i'm like i'm feel like i'm gonna be ancient

00:10:36.760 versus my experience in college even though my mom didn't come to any of my mom's weekends like

00:10:41.480 most of the moms were like in their late 30s for me if my oldest decides to go to college 0.88

00:10:47.080 she will enter college when i'm 50. i mean i know i got the asian don't raisin effect but 0.78

00:10:54.440 what makes me the most sad is if my children yeah the other thing is um grandparents

00:11:01.800 most the next generation won't really know what it's like to have grandparents because a lot of

00:11:08.280 them will be passed away by the time they get two of age they'll remember them it's kind of like

00:11:13.020 that with me i don't really remember my most of my grandparents very well i had one grandma that

00:11:17.520 lived past well like most of my grandparents were dead by the time i was 12 i don't really remember

00:11:22.900 but I to have children like I'm gonna be old old it makes me sad makes me sad to think yeah so

00:11:30.220 anyways um all right guys do you know any women in their 30s and what are some of their regrets

00:11:35.920 um a lot of the women in their 30s seem to regret not having kids sooner so um do you know women in

00:11:40.460 their 30s um that had kids then do they regret not starting sooner let me know in the comments

00:11:44.540 like the video and I'll see you next time

Pearl - June 06, 2026

40 Year Old Women Have So Many REGRETS

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