Pearl - May 31, 2026Based Nigerian Man Says Christian Women Should Obey Their Husbands!
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In this episode, we discuss the controversial question, Should Women Obeys Their Husband? and how women should obey their husbands. We also discuss if it's okay for men to have more than one wife.
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Okay, so you're saying instead of like nagging him, they should pray for him.
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They should pray for him. That is the main thing. Nagging has never solved any problem in any way.
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So what do you think of the question? Should women obey their husbands?
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Yes, ma'am, they should. And they have a lot to benefit from that.
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they get the gift from god and god said just like jesus said that the husband should love
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the wife just like he loved the church and they should obey him and the women should respect their
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husbands should respect their husband that's the only thing they need nothing more no matter
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whatever you want to give to the man respect is the key and you know women don't understand
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they are the neck and mend is the head they can control the man the way they think they want to
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if they obey the husband i respect the husband if they move the neck the neck the head will move
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but the problem is this pride nobody wants to know about god anymore and if they obey the word of
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god everything in the bible if we do obey the word of god i'm telling you the truth this world
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would be a better place for us to live and if you're dying you would die with a smile going
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here from heaven so i have a question why is the word obey so controversial the main thing is this
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why it's so controversial is in the sense of is this something we're talking about respect and
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that is that obedience and when you're wrong say you are sorry sorry does not kill anybody
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whether the husband is wrong say sorry to the wife when the wife is wrong say sorry to the
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wife and the life and the family will live in peace okay so question do you
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think it's the wife's job to police if the husband's following God in every
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situation what is supposed to be is encouragement they say what does it
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take to rocket a man to the top is to get a good woman to fuel him and they
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said who marries a good woman marries a goal a jewel the main thing is this when pray for each
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other rather than you going after your husband to know wherever he is or wherever he's following
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god pray for him because it's not easy to be the head okay so you're saying instead of like nagging
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him they should pray for him they should pray for him that is the main thing nagging does has never
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solved any problem in any way, nagging. Rather, it escalates the problem. Exactly, it escalates the
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problem. Okay, so what do you think of women taught Bible studies? To teach Bible studies?
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Like for women to teach Bible, like do you think that women should teach? Oh yeah,
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you know one thing is this, one thing you have to know about women is this, women can do something
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and he forgets everything about it within a few minutes and go back to god and god listens to
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them that's what they don't understand but they think you know forcing men or using hash words
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will ever solve the problem it will not and if you go by what is in the bible like uh mary
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madeleine and all those jesus we are with who we are the disciples not the apostles
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they contributed to the growth of the church and if you remember when jesus was raised you know
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rose from the dead who were the one of the people that went there mary madeleine right yes these
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had to teach decided to tell you where they were the disciples not the apostles being a disciple
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of god means you have to bring people into god bring people closer to god and that's why it's
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good for people to for women to change the bible because and they are closer to the children so a
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little bit off topic question but i'm curious because you're from nigeria so i'm curious your
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thought on this do you think it's okay for men to have more than one wife uh just by you know
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what the bible says is supposed to be one but you know in africa it's not a tradition you understand
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but you indeed it's not the case now that we it was before that we don't know much about
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christianity well there's some people um that are part of christianity that argue that they can have
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more than one and so i was just it's not um most christians say no but some say yes so i was just
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curious yeah like i think they they use the case of like i don't know there's some people in the
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bio i don't know it but they're they there's people have interviewed that argue it's okay
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they thought they think about the old testament yeah yeah yeah they have so you can't go back
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but is it if you if you can understand or if you may hear from me there is this
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This genetic gene in men, it reduces prostrate because sometimes you may not have urge for
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your first wife, but the second wife, you may have that urge to go, to be with her, and
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And that reduces the, you know, the prostrate problems in men.
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Well, I was just more thinking because there's so many women now.
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So I was just curious if you ever thought that like in the future, that could be something
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No, let me tell you, you see, we have so many ladies, so many women that do not have
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husbands you know but they have kids it's because of this behavior we're talking about respect
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that's why a lot of women now are not in their husband's home because you can't have two captain
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in a ship you cannot come and you want to rule the family no god has is a crown that has been
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given to men to be the head of the family okay and you can never take it away from it is originally
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from god do you think that's taught in this church the what that do you think that's taught that men
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are the head of the household in in this church oh yeah yeah yeah men are the head of the household
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well i'm saying like do they preach to the women that they must obey here or would you say yeah
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they do it here you know there's a retreat here i attended a retreat in 2009 that is one of the
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topics of the retreat that men women should respect their husband okay so that the family can move
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very well and it's because of this uh in all respects you know women not respecting and
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obeying their husband this will be you know obey me obedient is not even the main issue
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the main thing is respect and when you respect you obey well do you think um that some churches
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are maybe not this one but do you think some are afraid to teach that the obedience uh yeah
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i think so you know depending because some churches get afraid because of uh maybe a lot
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of women are making some contribution they don't want to they don't want to yes they don't want to
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preach what will you know what will make them to be against the oh i'm not going to make any
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contribution anymore but this is the time the world has come to a situation that we have to
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say the truth and the truth will set us free you know because then they're worshiping their worship
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because then they're worshiping money right not god that's it because sweeping things in under
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the carpet has never solved any problem and it's not going to solve the problem tell the way it is
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that and especially again adultery you know please and tell them that women
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one husband and one wife no matter what the situation is even if your husband
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doesn't know whatever you think he make love or teach him and if you if the
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woman knows teach your husband and if the husband knows teach you why do you
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think that churches preach against men watching porn but they don't preach
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against women not sleeping with their husbands even though they're equally as common well my
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dear sister you know like i told you a lot of things are going on a lot of bad things are going
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on that's uh yeah they don't want to be honest to certain things they try to you know blend it and
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everything but it has never solved the problem because if they teach the word of god what god
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says in the bible and if we live by what is written in the bible this world will be a better
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place because even if you know you see the problem we're having in the world is man-made
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rainfall comes during rain season this is what made by god see every season comes by itself
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and this is where the you know what god made it to be but the problems we have in the world if you
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find out either due to people who want to acquire more than they should, even for those
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who are not in the world yet, they want to acquire, and a lot of people are suffering.
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Can women be obedient if they're telling their husbands what to do?
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What you do is encourage, you know, give you advice.
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it's a kind of community and if you know what is going on that without family you can't have church
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the first church we have is family and if the devil is fighting everything he can do to destroy
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the world the family and as soon as he destroys the family he has already destroyed the church
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because two of them, if the family is not in unity
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or is not in, you know, in the same, what will I say,
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in the same agreement, you will see the wife might be going
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to a different church and the husband will be going
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to a different church, and then the family is divided.
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And when the family is divided, it can never stand.
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Why is it viewed as so wrong to view your husband
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Because women always say, oh, I can't be inferior to him, but I say, why is that wrong?
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You know, like, as a mother, like, I would be above the children, right?
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So why is it wrong for women to view as men as above them?
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It has already been said, women should be under the horseback.
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it is because of that craziness of being on the top that is making women to you know to
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disobey their husband not to be what they are when you are in your own position it has already
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you know god has already made it to be be in this position and be in this position
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does not mean that your contribution cannot you know help in the family in every situation
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you give your own idea like in my family i would say look at what i think what do you think so
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that we can come together you know and make sometimes we ask the children when they choose
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you know like now the children are grown you ask them what do you think these are what i then we
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come to a conclusion and pray over it and when we pray we ask god to give us a you know a kind of
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answer that will help the only thing is because he's in the mind of the women
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that's a we will manage superior no it's not like i tell you it's the neck that turns the head yeah
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you know yeah but that's not wrong right what's what's your boss is superior to you so why is it
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wrong that your husband's like what's wrong exactly is this something like a company yeah
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but it's because of this uh you know the craziness the craziness of oh i just want given women too
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much power huh and they get an advice from others you will see women that are not in their husband's
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home they will come and give you tell you oh why are you obeying that woman if it's my husband
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i will do this and they go to bible study and then they say i will study not to listen exactly
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and then when you go and try and visit that woman you will see that he she is obeying she obeys the
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husband more than if she what she teaches she will come and tell you oh i can't take that the way
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she gets to the husband you you'll be asking the husband sir you know yeah just to deceive others
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yeah but it's left for the women if advice is given to you they said advice is like a medication
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so we got to get women out of the bible studies then no not to get them out of the bible studies
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they are supposed to be part of the bible story so that they will know the teaching of christ
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and follow it but the only thing that they listen to it they don't do it yeah you know follow my
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teaching but not my behavior and you know i advise it like a medication you take it and know whether
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it's good for you and if you find out that it's destroying your home you drop it and say that the
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side effect is not good for my body that's what it is great thank you you have you have a lot
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of courage saying those things so i appreciate you coming out thank you so much you were