Pearl - May 31, 2026


Based Nigerian Man Says Christian Women Should Obey Their Husbands!


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00:00:00.000 Okay, so you're saying instead of like nagging him, they should pray for him.
00:00:03.480 They should pray for him. That is the main thing. Nagging has never solved any problem in any way.
00:00:09.000 Nagging. Rather, it escalates the problem.
00:00:12.920 Is that a Nigerian accent?
00:00:14.420 A Nigerian, yes, ma'am. 0.99
00:00:15.380 Nigerian, okay.
00:00:16.100 Yes, ma'am.
00:00:16.740 So what do you think of the question? Should women obey their husbands? 1.00
00:00:20.320 Yes, ma'am, they should. And they have a lot to benefit from that. 1.00
00:00:24.840 Okay.
00:00:25.120 they get the gift from god and god said just like jesus said that the husband should love
00:00:31.600 the wife just like he loved the church and they should obey him and the women should respect their
00:00:37.920 husbands should respect their husband that's the only thing they need nothing more no matter 0.99
00:00:44.240 whatever you want to give to the man respect is the key and you know women don't understand 1.00
00:00:50.800 they are the neck and mend is the head they can control the man the way they think they want to 1.00
00:00:58.800 if they obey the husband i respect the husband if they move the neck the neck the head will move
00:01:05.680 but the problem is this pride nobody wants to know about god anymore and if they obey the word of
00:01:13.520 god everything in the bible if we do obey the word of god i'm telling you the truth this world
00:01:21.120 would be a better place for us to live and if you're dying you would die with a smile going
00:01:27.200 here from heaven so i have a question why is the word obey so controversial the main thing is this
00:01:35.920 why it's so controversial is in the sense of is this something we're talking about respect and
00:01:45.640 that is that obedience and when you're wrong say you are sorry sorry does not kill anybody
00:01:53.980 whether the husband is wrong say sorry to the wife when the wife is wrong say sorry to the
00:02:00.220 wife and the life and the family will live in peace okay so question do you
00:02:06.100 think it's the wife's job to police if the husband's following God in every
00:02:13.240 situation what is supposed to be is encouragement they say what does it
00:02:19.600 take to rocket a man to the top is to get a good woman to fuel him and they
00:02:25.980 said who marries a good woman marries a goal a jewel the main thing is this when pray for each
00:02:36.460 other rather than you going after your husband to know wherever he is or wherever he's following
00:02:43.660 god pray for him because it's not easy to be the head okay so you're saying instead of like nagging
00:02:50.140 him they should pray for him they should pray for him that is the main thing nagging does has never
00:02:55.020 solved any problem in any way, nagging. Rather, it escalates the problem. Exactly, it escalates the
00:03:03.100 problem. Okay, so what do you think of women taught Bible studies? To teach Bible studies? 1.00
00:03:09.180 Like for women to teach Bible, like do you think that women should teach? Oh yeah, 1.00
00:03:14.140 you know one thing is this, one thing you have to know about women is this, women can do something 0.99
00:03:20.860 and he forgets everything about it within a few minutes and go back to god and god listens to 0.90
00:03:27.720 them that's what they don't understand but they think you know forcing men or using hash words
00:03:35.540 will ever solve the problem it will not and if you go by what is in the bible like uh mary
00:03:44.140 madeleine and all those jesus we are with who we are the disciples not the apostles
00:03:51.660 they contributed to the growth of the church and if you remember when jesus was raised you know
00:03:57.660 rose from the dead who were the one of the people that went there mary madeleine right yes these
00:04:03.820 had to teach decided to tell you where they were the disciples not the apostles being a disciple
00:04:09.740 of god means you have to bring people into god bring people closer to god and that's why it's
00:04:16.380 good for people to for women to change the bible because and they are closer to the children so a
00:04:22.700 little bit off topic question but i'm curious because you're from nigeria so i'm curious your
00:04:27.020 thought on this do you think it's okay for men to have more than one wife uh just by you know
00:04:33.660 what the bible says is supposed to be one but you know in africa it's not a tradition you understand
00:04:41.260 but you indeed it's not the case now that we it was before that we don't know much about
00:04:48.940 christianity well there's some people um that are part of christianity that argue that they can have
00:04:54.940 more than one and so i was just it's not um most christians say no but some say yes so i was just
00:05:00.780 curious yeah like i think they they use the case of like i don't know there's some people in the
00:05:06.220 bio i don't know it but they're they there's people have interviewed that argue it's okay
00:05:10.700 they thought they think about the old testament yeah yeah yeah they have so you can't go back
00:05:15.580 but is it if you if you can understand or if you may hear from me there is this
00:05:23.500 This genetic gene in men, it reduces prostrate because sometimes you may not have urge for
00:05:40.540 your first wife, but the second wife, you may have that urge to go, to be with her, and
00:05:49.440 And that reduces the, you know, the prostrate problems in men. 0.98
00:05:53.800 Well, I was just more thinking because there's so many women now. 0.64
00:05:57.540 So there's more single women than single men.
00:06:00.060 So I was just curious if you ever thought that like in the future, that could be something
00:06:03.740 that comes back.
00:06:04.740 No, let me tell you, you see, we have so many ladies, so many women that do not have 0.73
00:06:12.940 husbands you know but they have kids it's because of this behavior we're talking about respect
00:06:20.540 that's why a lot of women now are not in their husband's home because you can't have two captain 0.97
00:06:26.780 in a ship you cannot come and you want to rule the family no god has is a crown that has been 0.95
00:06:35.820 given to men to be the head of the family okay and you can never take it away from it is originally
00:06:42.940 from god do you think that's taught in this church the what that do you think that's taught that men
00:06:49.420 are the head of the household in in this church oh yeah yeah yeah men are the head of the household
00:06:55.500 well i'm saying like do they preach to the women that they must obey here or would you say yeah
00:06:59.500 they do it here you know there's a retreat here i attended a retreat in 2009 that is one of the
00:07:08.220 topics of the retreat that men women should respect their husband okay so that the family can move 0.96
00:07:15.740 very well and it's because of this uh in all respects you know women not respecting and
00:07:21.020 obeying their husband this will be you know obey me obedient is not even the main issue
00:07:27.580 the main thing is respect and when you respect you obey well do you think um that some churches
00:07:33.900 are maybe not this one but do you think some are afraid to teach that the obedience uh yeah
00:07:40.380 i think so you know depending because some churches get afraid because of uh maybe a lot 0.80
00:07:47.100 of women are making some contribution they don't want to they don't want to yes they don't want to
00:07:53.500 preach what will you know what will make them to be against the oh i'm not going to make any 0.91
00:07:59.740 contribution anymore but this is the time the world has come to a situation that we have to
00:08:05.180 say the truth and the truth will set us free you know because then they're worshiping their worship
00:08:11.340 because then they're worshiping money right not god that's it because sweeping things in under
00:08:15.820 the carpet has never solved any problem and it's not going to solve the problem tell the way it is 1.00
00:08:21.340 that and especially again adultery you know please and tell them that women 0.90
00:08:29.340 one husband and one wife no matter what the situation is even if your husband 0.57
00:08:35.920 doesn't know whatever you think he make love or teach him and if you if the
00:08:41.260 woman knows teach your husband and if the husband knows teach you why do you
00:08:45.220 think that churches preach against men watching porn but they don't preach
00:08:49.900 against women not sleeping with their husbands even though they're equally as common well my
00:08:56.700 dear sister you know like i told you a lot of things are going on a lot of bad things are going
00:09:01.980 on that's uh yeah they don't want to be honest to certain things they try to you know blend it and
00:09:09.820 everything but it has never solved the problem because if they teach the word of god what god
00:09:16.220 says in the bible and if we live by what is written in the bible this world will be a better
00:09:22.460 place because even if you know you see the problem we're having in the world is man-made
00:09:27.900 rainfall comes during rain season this is what made by god see every season comes by itself
00:09:35.100 and this is where the you know what god made it to be but the problems we have in the world if you
00:09:41.820 find out either due to people who want to acquire more than they should, even for those
00:09:48.500 who are not in the world yet, they want to acquire, and a lot of people are suffering.
00:09:54.560 Can women be obedient if they're telling their husbands what to do? 0.98
00:09:58.640 Ah, no. 0.99
00:10:01.820 You don't tell your husband what to do.
00:10:04.780 What you do is encourage, you know, give you advice.
00:10:09.660 You come like as a family.
00:10:10.660 it's a kind of community and if you know what is going on that without family you can't have church
00:10:17.680 the first church we have is family and if the devil is fighting everything he can do to destroy
00:10:25.560 the world the family and as soon as he destroys the family he has already destroyed the church
00:10:30.920 because two of them, if the family is not in unity
00:10:36.860 or is not in, you know, in the same, what will I say,
00:10:43.840 in the same agreement, you will see the wife might be going
00:10:47.340 to a different church and the husband will be going
00:10:49.400 to a different church, and then the family is divided.
00:10:53.100 And when the family is divided, it can never stand.
00:10:56.700 Why is it viewed as so wrong to view your husband
00:10:59.940 as a superior?
00:11:00.920 Because women always say, oh, I can't be inferior to him, but I say, why is that wrong? 0.54
00:11:06.720 You know, like, as a mother, like, I would be above the children, right?
00:11:11.960 So why is it wrong for women to view as men as above them?
00:11:15.360 That is the problem. 0.91
00:11:16.360 It has already been said, women should be under the horseback. 0.99
00:11:22.920 it is because of that craziness of being on the top that is making women to you know to 0.85
00:11:30.520 disobey their husband not to be what they are when you are in your own position it has already
00:11:37.080 you know god has already made it to be be in this position and be in this position
00:11:41.480 does not mean that your contribution cannot you know help in the family in every situation
00:11:48.760 you give your own idea like in my family i would say look at what i think what do you think so
00:11:54.840 that we can come together you know and make sometimes we ask the children when they choose
00:12:00.920 you know like now the children are grown you ask them what do you think these are what i then we
00:12:05.880 come to a conclusion and pray over it and when we pray we ask god to give us a you know a kind of
00:12:12.440 answer that will help the only thing is because he's in the mind of the women
00:12:18.280 that's a we will manage superior no it's not like i tell you it's the neck that turns the head yeah
00:12:25.880 you know yeah but that's not wrong right what's what's your boss is superior to you so why is it
00:12:30.680 wrong that your husband's like what's wrong exactly is this something like a company yeah 0.91
00:12:35.480 but it's because of this uh you know the craziness the craziness of oh i just want given women too 0.92
00:12:41.320 much power huh and they get an advice from others you will see women that are not in their husband's 0.95
00:12:47.320 home they will come and give you tell you oh why are you obeying that woman if it's my husband
00:12:52.520 i will do this and they go to bible study and then they say i will study not to listen exactly
00:12:57.560 and then when you go and try and visit that woman you will see that he she is obeying she obeys the
00:13:04.200 husband more than if she what she teaches she will come and tell you oh i can't take that the way
00:13:10.680 she gets to the husband you you'll be asking the husband sir you know yeah just to deceive others 0.85
00:13:16.520 yeah but it's left for the women if advice is given to you they said advice is like a medication 0.94
00:13:22.520 so we got to get women out of the bible studies then no not to get them out of the bible studies
00:13:27.320 they are supposed to be part of the bible story so that they will know the teaching of christ 0.74
00:13:32.520 and follow it but the only thing that they listen to it they don't do it yeah you know follow my
00:13:38.520 teaching but not my behavior and you know i advise it like a medication you take it and know whether
00:13:44.920 it's good for you and if you find out that it's destroying your home you drop it and say that the
00:13:50.440 side effect is not good for my body that's what it is great thank you you have you have a lot
00:13:55.880 of courage saying those things so i appreciate you coming out thank you so much you were