Pearl - Conservative Women Are Turning Marriage Into a STATUS SYMBOL

00:00:00.000 man and ask him what's been the best investment you've ever made he's going to say the woman that

00:00:04.320 he chose to marry because as a woman you have more power over your relationship than you yeah 0.98

00:00:08.480 so again that's a gynocentric thinking the worst investment they've ever made is the woman they've 0.89

00:00:12.960 chosen to marry because you know you're only like 19 you don't see how this plays out yet and it all

00:00:17.680 plays out terribly your divorce is going to be terrible my divorce will be terrible everyone's

00:00:21.440 getting divorced so just accept it oh no i'm above the statistics everyone that thinks they're above

00:00:26.080 the statistics or become the statistics you think and no i don't mean be manipulative and controlling

00:00:31.120 i mean you have the power to build a man into something he couldn't become on his own

00:00:35.520 or destroy him and his reputation every single successful couple that i know in my own personal

00:00:39.680 life has a unique set of skills talents or gifts that complement the other person's unique set of

00:00:44.960 skills talents or gifts and they use those to build together so what i am saying is that the

00:00:49.520 men who have high standards for themselves are not just looking for a beautiful woman they are

00:00:53.440 also looking for a woman who has high standards for herself they're kind of taking any woman at 0.92

00:00:57.760 this point who has the skills talent yeah so again these are women that want to take credit for 0.98

00:01:02.880 everything and there's a lot of easy money given to women so it builds their egos um they think 1.00

00:01:07.920 that you know she probably thinks she's hot for her social media following but it's a

00:01:11.440 fake job it's not real so there's all these fake jobs in place to make us feel special my job's

00:01:17.040 fake so it's hers again here's a woman believing in this delusion i just want to show you guys

00:01:21.440 why you can't believe in this stuff my husband's salary went up by 100k after he proposed to me

00:01:27.600 yeah so again she's going to take credit um yeah it's gifts character that complements his we were

00:01:33.280 never meant to use those skills to compete with each other but to complement each other if you

00:01:37.600 were to sit down with a successful married man and all right let's see who's next all right this e

00:01:42.160 girl is the reason i started these videos i was so frustrated watching what these longs were posting

00:01:47.920 first of all, I avoided having a baby for five plus years because of watching

00:01:52.480 their content was so discouraging, heavy, exhausted and like, oh, geez, girlfriend,

00:01:57.840 like you're making this look miserable. Well, I actually got pregnant. I experienced this baby

00:02:02.400 and I'm like, I love this. I don't want to become like them. What do I do? And so what I did is I

00:02:07.440 called up the boomers. Hey, why were you so happy? And why are all like the millennials and Gen Z's 1.00

00:02:12.560 so miserable and they're like simply over complicated yeah well they over complicate it 1.00

00:02:18.000 because women over complicate everything they put these kids in all these programs where men just 0.79

00:02:23.200 say it's good enough but the boomers weren't happy either i've looked at older women and i think i'm 1.00

00:02:27.440 going to do a reaction later they're just as everything is controlled everything is driven

00:02:33.040 by guilt mom guilt and if you can release all of that and just mom guilt i mean you guys feel

00:02:38.000 guilty because you're terrible mothers i mean release mom guilt how about release your terrible

00:02:44.080 habits choices and your terrible mothering you know what i mean fashion way you're going to find

00:02:50.100 so much more freedom and joy in motherhood and truly that's how it started and my first video

00:02:54.640 that i ever launched was just cut the bottle cut the white warmer and that's what blew up and so i

00:03:00.260 called myself the low maintenance mom trying to make your routines more low maintenance and it

00:03:04.680 refreshing to this generation because all they're seeing is exhausted tired that's actually not bad

00:03:10.040 advice women do we do over complicate everything it's got to be complicated and if it's not you're

00:03:14.760 not a good boss all right let's see spicy latina how has that been with submission you already know

00:03:22.200 the answer we already talked about okay so i was telling our yeah terrible right because again 0.86

00:03:29.320 they're superficial people you can tell how they're dressed you know what i mean they're they

00:03:33.800 got a bunch of heavy makeup plastic surgery they never look modest ever right that one of the

00:03:39.400 hardest things that i'm learning right now in marriage is submission i thought submission would

00:03:43.960 be easy i'm like yeah i just get to lay back and submit and let him do everything like this is

00:03:49.000 great like i can do this and then now i'm actually in marriage and i have an issue i have a submission

00:03:53.320 issue like actually like i am a control freak yeah so i like to just control every situation

00:03:58.680 and like give my input in every situation and i think that i'm like right 90 of the time but no

00:04:04.680 i'm not though and that's the issue and rice is always clocking me and he's always telling me

00:04:09.480 um that i need to do a better job at submitting which i do and it's a struggle because we're 1.00

00:04:13.160 spicy girls and it's hard but the beauty is in see women always rebrand insufferability 0.52

00:04:19.160 as a different they say we're spicy instead of i'm a i'm insufferable it just never ends 0.58

00:04:26.120 women gaslighting just goes on forever that you love and trust bryce so much and you trust that

00:04:31.400 he's being led by god and so you know if he's ever asking something of you it comes from totally no

00:04:38.280 that's what makes submission so beautiful right is that we know that we're being led by god when

00:04:43.800 we're led by them totally all right let's see who's next another one savannah we have lived in

00:04:49.720 three different cities since being there oh by the way when a woman when they move a lot usually it's 0.91

00:04:53.800 to sign the woman is torturing the man because men tend to like routine and being in the same 0.83

00:05:00.340 place where women like chaos or they have a man with like a female mindset and in each of those

00:05:06.040 places that we moved to we had no friends prior to living there and no family that lived there 0.71

00:05:10.780 and we partially did this on purpose because what i have found is when you are trying to create a

00:05:15.900 new identity you are you have found or what he has found in three different cities since being

00:05:20.920 married. And in each of those places that we moved to, we had no friends prior to living there

00:05:25.380 and no family that lived there. And we partially did this on purpose because what I have found

00:05:30.320 is when you are trying to create a new identity, you are trying to start a new life, you're trying

00:05:35.120 to build something new, it is much harder to do so when you are surrounded by your old life.

00:05:40.820 And when you move somewhere new where you know absolutely no one, it does a couple things. Number

00:05:45.020 one, it forces you to meet new people and connect with new people and build new friendships.

00:05:48.840 relationships and number two it allows you to hyper focus on the vision that you and your spouse

00:05:55.040 want to create I think a lot of times the advice is okay once you get married you kind of want to

00:05:59.480 settle down you want to be near your family you want to raise your kids with a village etc

00:06:03.240 I have fully accepted the fact that I am not going to have a village when we have children

00:06:08.620 I am not going to have help right down the street my parents aren't going to live right down the

00:06:13.240 street we may not be able to go on as many date nights we may not be able to travel as much that's

00:06:17.120 fine i'm going to embrace that season when it gets here but it is necessary for us to not have that

00:06:22.840 village that's a sacrifice i'm willing to make because that decision was but do you see the

00:06:26.680 point of this is to bring attention i'm so awesome it's just so insufferable i'm so awesome because

00:06:33.080 i'm willing to make this look how great i am i mean required to become the people that we are

00:06:39.680 now it was required for our growth it was so necessary look at us look at our relationship

00:06:43.940 if i reflect back on the this divorce is going to be terrible for past two years of our marriage

00:06:49.580 and where we started to where we are now the number one thing that i would tell someone

00:06:54.820 is move away you and your husband move move away yeah um i would only say that if they're close to

00:07:03.060 the mother get away from the mother it will help you grow exponentially we all right let's keep

00:07:08.680 going engaged or married i used to think that posting somebody online made the relationship

00:07:13.720 more real what i learned is that it just makes the heartbreak more public and then uh you know

00:07:19.320 okay basically she's saying don't post your husband or boyfriend um the reason she's saying

00:07:24.840 that is because she was a failure in love right and i've been a failure too it is what it is so

00:07:29.720 but when you're a winner in love you don't mind posting it because you're a winner you get what 0.96

00:07:33.400 you want out of men but she obviously didn't because probably insufferable right um it is what

00:07:39.160 it is most of us are insufferable so um here we go elijah whoa whoa whoa the reason to post your

00:07:45.000 significant other is so you aren't being pursued by other people that people know you're in a

00:07:49.240 relationship concealing your relationship keeps everyone open and hitting on you therefore allowing

00:07:53.800 micro cheating everything she said is nonsense you should 100 post your relationship to respect

00:07:58.200 your partner all right hold on guys the second you post somebody people start creating a story

00:08:03.240 and then if it doesn't work by the way then she got engaged and made it a big spectacle so they

00:08:07.560 just can't help themselves out you're not just grieving a relationship you're dealing with

00:08:11.160 narratives created by people online based on like five percent of the actual information

00:08:16.200 and 95 of what they think happened is completely wrong access is earned instagram makes us think 0.99

00:08:25.480 access is free some things are i always wonder how women say stupid things so confidently 1.00

00:08:32.360 sacred before they're public. The strongest relationships I've seen didn't grow because 1.00

00:08:37.140 thousands of strangers watched them. They grew because two people pursued Christ together in

00:08:42.240 private. No one needs to know about every guy you go out to dinner with. No one needs to know about

00:08:46.660 every relationship. Yeah, don't tell people about your whoredom. That's what she's saying. 1.00

00:08:50.660 Nobody even matters unless they're going to be your husband. And then post away if that's what

00:08:56.480 both of you guys want, because what you'll have then is covenantal. Yeah, it doesn't mean anything

00:09:01.100 though because you'll get divorced covenant is public courtship doesn't have to be don't post

00:09:07.580 all right let's keep going yeah i know i've seen the guys that you date of course you're not going

00:09:11.420 to submit to that random guy at the bar that has no job but when you meet the man that wakes up

00:09:14.700 4 am yeah women actually submit to men with no jobs all the time that's what the conservative 1.00

00:09:18.540 women they think their men are higher status because they have a job but high job a job 1.00

00:09:23.020 doesn't equate to real ninja and that's a woman respect real ninja is behaving in a way that's

00:09:28.060 high status you know with self-respect and most men are in such scarcity that they just can't do it

00:09:33.820 i mean opens his bible and treats you with love and respect and treats your mom with love and

00:09:36.700 respect and takes care of his health and has an extremely hard work ethic and wants to build a

00:09:40.220 family and wants to build a legacy and put the ring on that finger i think you're gonna change 1.00

00:09:44.140 your mind yeah again because here's the thing uh women that don't want to do the burden of 1.00

00:09:51.420 performance need the status they need that's what the ring is they're saying i need status it's not 0.90

00:09:56.700 about love supposed to submit to random men you're not even supposed to submit that's just

00:10:00.460 inaccurate okay if your husband didn't observe you submitting before you guys were engaged like

00:10:08.540 submission is something you have to practice you're not going to get into marriage and magically

00:10:12.940 be able to submit super well your boyfriend i don't care what guy gets mad about that you are

00:10:17.420 supposed to submit to the man who has committed his entire life to you and who is submitted to

00:10:21.900 god in direct relationship with god this is the biblical order and when you change your standards 0.99

00:10:25.980 for the men that you surround i just can't be lectured about the biblical order from a woman

00:10:30.380 with a ton of makeup and a skin tight t-shirt where i can see your tip do you know what i mean 0.92

00:10:36.380 i just can't i can't under self-quick and then here it is men become the husband worth the wife

00:10:41.980 submitting to now see again men you know submission is something given to you by god it's not something

00:10:48.220 you have to earn so if a woman doesn't want to submit like every man is supposed to have a wife

00:10:54.620 but um now like like men will always convince other men to be slaves to women for female validation

00:11:01.020 and you say you know what i'm done messing around and you change your standards for yourself and say

00:11:05.500 i'm going to become the woman that that type of man would want to marry your whole mindset around

00:11:10.380 all of this changes you no longer say i hate men i can never submit to a man no you say i want the

00:11:16.140 man who follows god and therefore i will follow him and you will stop surrounding yourself with

00:11:20.780 the men who do not deserve your time or your body okay stop giving it out for free and you will begin

00:11:25.260 to attract the man who does all those things that i just listed who works hard who treats you with

00:11:31.340 respect and love who wants to take care of you who wants to have a family who wants to build

00:11:35.740 something with you i get there's a lot of reasons that you may say i just don't trust men i hate

00:11:39.980 men i don't want to be around men maybe it's something that happened in your childhood but

00:11:43.420 a lot of you are just surrounding yourselves with the wrong men to simply have fun to simply mess

00:11:49.420 around and it is messing with your mindset around yeah a lot of people have fun and that's how they

00:11:56.060 meet their husbands what you could build i'm from millennials people just met at the bar

00:12:00.940 hookup culture was our marriages you know what i mean in a marriage all right let's keep going

00:12:06.140 your hand if you remember a few years back when i got blasted by a huge content creator with over

00:12:11.740 a million followers and now you're about to get blasted by a bit raise your hand if you remember

00:12:15.660 a few years back when i got blasted by a huge content creator with over a million followers

00:12:21.340 who are saying i have now you're about to get blasted by a with two million followers 1.00

00:12:26.460 so you you ladies are glutton for punishment she's like oh no i got blasted and then she 1.00

00:12:31.900 brings attention to the fact that she got blasted get the what are you doing i've as a wife trained 1.00

00:12:39.100 trained my mind to want and desire sex with my husband. I trained my husband, like, do you 1.00

00:12:46.300 understand how embarrassing that is to your husband? Imagine if my husband said, I trained

00:12:51.980 myself to want to have sex with my wife. I think I would kill myself. I think I would literally die 1.00

00:12:57.780 of embarrassment. That's the most embarrassing thing I've ever heard. We need to find the senses

00:13:02.460 in your head. Let's talk about that for a second, because I'm sure you're thinking, yeah, I would

00:13:06.780 blasted you for that too not gonna lie that's why i said that hear me out it's not as crazy

00:13:12.060 as you and then she's gonna give more explanation that doesn't sound good do you know what i mean

00:13:17.580 like it's supposed to make it better and it never makes it better thanks intimacy it's always been

00:13:22.620 great i've always been attracted to my husband but i understand the law of atrophy if i wanted things

00:13:29.740 to stay amazing i would have to put in the work to be intentional even when the chaos of life

00:13:36.940 started coming we had four babies back to back everyday life things can very easily take over

00:13:42.780 your entire marriage this happens to millions of couples across the world all the time when they're

00:13:47.100 having the babies and they're working and they're doing housework and they're trying to build

00:13:51.420 businesses and want to have a social life and all their energy just goes into survive you know your

00:13:56.380 Your social life is kind of supposed to be your family after you have kids.

00:13:59.100 I will know the fun, romantic parts of marriage is kind of get pushed to the wayside.

00:14:04.200 So now this thing that once they just couldn't get enough of, they like don't even want it

00:14:10.000 anymore.

00:14:11.000 And let me just say, I never wanted that to be me.

00:14:16.160 So I decided prevention is the best medicine before I even got to that place where I'm

00:14:21.220 looking around like,

00:14:22.220 you see all these content is oh look how awesome i am uh where's the good i made sure to get my mind

00:14:30.220 intentional it's not just the sex that goes romance flirting the fun the playfulness it will

00:14:35.980 just slip away this isn't about being attracted to your husband or not this isn't about being married

00:14:41.180 to a bad yeah you guys never you're not making a bad human or you yourself all right she's just

00:14:47.420 going to talk herself into more once paid rent for a man and is now fully provided for okay you're 1.00

00:14:52.700 bragging about paying rent for a man and now being provided for god help us women are just 1.00

00:14:58.300 gold diggers in excess by her man i mean my husband literally just did an optional ten 1.00

00:15:05.020 thousand dollar repair on my car because i wanted it i can tell you that as a woman giving taking

00:15:11.980 care of providing for a man will not make them love you receiving having good energy

00:15:21.260 being grateful pointing out beauty being happy and raising the vibe well as a woman who wants 0.89

00:15:28.060 paid right i know that's the problem is men reward that women are just so lazy and men reward doing

00:15:33.420 nothing all the time all right let's see i value provider man obsessed with me for the past 14

00:15:37.980 years by doing these 14 things i'm going to tell you right now with no extra explanation either

00:15:42.380 dying my hair nor botox are on this list i communicate my raw feelings out of the desire

00:15:46.940 to connect to not fight i do one tiny thing differently every time we have i let him provide

00:15:51.660 for me completely despite my high level ability to provide for myself i accept compliments with

00:15:56.300 gratitude and not deflection i am soft as a wife and alpha as a mother i embrace my feminine energy

00:16:01.660 even if it's not traditional it's never a step-by-step plan it's always like these vague

00:16:06.300 things that are not plans like girly i follow listen to and voice my intuition i prioritize

00:16:12.700 my family's energy as a unit i state my needs and expectations without begging i master the

00:16:17.820 environment and mood of the home i consistently remind him that we are on the same team i know my

00:16:22.460 near existence is enough and that i do not need to do to be loved i put my self-care and emotional

00:16:27.660 management above most else i have the happiest lightest energy in the room follow for more love

00:16:32.060 hacks yeah guys if you want to talk love happy hacks talk to a man i started this page when i

00:16:38.060 was 19 which was really not that long ago but my life has changed a lot since then and when i first

00:16:43.100 started this page i had no idea the ways in which my life would change i had no idea how quickly my

00:16:48.860 audience would grow i was simply just bored and wanted a little hobby and i feel like my content

00:16:54.780 has not evolved with me it has not grown and changed with okay what she's saying she got into

00:17:00.860 controversy because she wanted the easy money right i'm in controversy and there's it's easier

00:17:06.620 to get money when you're controversial but she can't deal with it and be a big girl and deal 1.00

00:17:13.020 with the consequences so it's just women complaining i want to have my cake and eat it too

00:17:17.820 me as much as i would like it to and it's my fault that you guys don't know me that well you

00:17:23.500 guys know my controversial opinions and hot takes but you don't know me as a person that well and

00:17:29.340 and that's my fault. And from here on out, my content is going to change because I've changed

00:17:35.160 as a person and I want my content to reflect that. I no longer really care to post a ton of

00:17:42.100 controversial opinions. And my perspective changed on that because of the business partnership I was

00:17:47.540 telling you guys about a few days ago. They did not choose to work with me. And now she's going

00:17:51.820 to blame someone else because they aligned with my values. And now she's going to talk shit about 0.99

00:17:56.460 the people that helped her get more famous, right? They chose to work with me because they saw 1.00

00:18:00.700 controversial content and knew that it would get views. And I am going to defend myself on this

00:18:05.260 claim that some people are making. I have never been paid to say anything. That's not how a

00:18:10.200 business partnership works. A business partnership, most of the time, a business partner comes in,

00:18:15.420 they say, hey, for example, we're going to buy 4,000 units of merch, and then we're going to

00:18:19.940 take a percentage. Now she's going to pretend to be different while basically doing the same thing. 0.78

00:18:23.640 the profits. That's how it works. So when I say I didn't make a dime off that business 1.00

00:18:28.400 partnership, I did not make a dime. I have never been given a dime to say anything. But when I

00:18:34.500 first started this page and I was posting controversial opinions and hot takes, that's

00:18:38.180 what was getting views. That's what was going viral. So I just kept continuing doing the same

00:18:42.840 thing. But the result of that is that my audience doesn't know me as a person as well. And I really

00:18:48.700 am choosing to take the high road. Yeah. Okay. Know me as a person. This is a job, bitch.

00:18:53.640 oh my god okay i just can't these e-girls are so just spoiled spoiled business partner and i'm 1.00

00:18:59.800 spoiled but i can't i just can't stand blaming other people just take it out situation i can

00:19:06.040 go after them a lot harder but i ended this partnership in july it's september now i'm no

00:19:10.760 longer gonna let it have power over me and instead i'm going to focus on building my own vision not

00:19:15.800 her husband's vision her vision right this next chapter for me is about rebuilding myself your

00:19:20.920 femininity content showing up completely authentic online all right i'm done all right i'm done i love

00:19:27.080 you guys thanks for watching e-girls thanks for being e-girls keep me employed forever

Pearl - September 24, 2026

Conservative Women Are Turning Marriage Into a STATUS SYMBOL

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