Pearl - October 08, 2026


“Dating Wasn’t Always Like THIS” @JustPearlyThings

Mentioned
Cook
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Episode Stats


Length

2 minutes

Words per minute

178.15

Word count

494

Sentence count

59

Harmful content

Misogyny

5

sentences flagged

Hate speech

2

sentences flagged


Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
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00:00:00.000 You're saying dating stems from prostitution?
00:00:02.360 It was considered almost similar to this gray area of prostitution historically.
00:00:07.840 And people would get arrested. 0.74
00:00:09.840 There was a time where you cannot take these women and check them into a hotel because she was not your wife.
00:00:14.480 So it was a very taboo type activity. 0.54
00:00:18.140 Okay.
00:00:18.580 I want to do the fact check thing on that.
00:00:20.640 Hold on.
00:00:21.260 I just had it.
00:00:22.940 Now, they're taking my statement.
00:00:25.180 All right.
00:00:25.520 They're taking my statement.
00:00:26.240 It kind of like acknowledges.
00:00:28.220 Where'd it go?
00:00:29.060 I'm going to freeze that.
00:00:30.360 Too broad, as stated, historical sources say early American dating was sometimes conflated with prostitution and that some dating practices grew out of the working class treating and commercialized courtship.
00:00:42.980 But dating itself did not simply originate from prostitution.
00:00:46.120 I see what you're saying.
00:00:47.720 You see what I'm saying?
00:00:48.540 Prior to her father or her brother selecting a mate who would inevitably already be in
00:00:56.320 the social circle, already a member of the same church.
00:01:00.480 Yes.
00:01:00.820 Now men are paying to play, basically. 0.66
00:01:03.300 Interesting.
00:01:04.220 So that would be called, what would that be called?
00:01:06.880 Oh my God, that was so good.
00:01:09.840 Mate selection by your father or brother?
00:01:12.440 Quartine. 0.99
00:01:12.720 Quartine.
00:01:12.740 Okay, yes.
00:01:13.440 Oh, look at him, Cook.
00:01:14.900 Look at this man, Cook. 1.00
00:01:16.040 A lot of women will say now, bring back courting. 1.00
00:01:19.260 Being with where you're chaperoned? 1.00
00:01:21.000 Is that what you're...
00:01:21.880 Chaperoned.
00:01:21.900 Okay, okay, okay.
00:01:22.380 You would have a date that wasn't transactional.
00:01:24.700 You would meet at the family porch.
00:01:26.660 The man would be introduced to the family.
00:01:28.580 The brother, the father, the scenario.
00:01:30.400 So that would be courting.
00:01:31.400 She's not dating in secrecy.
00:01:32.960 Well, I would argue in...
00:01:34.460 Apologies for the interruption.
00:01:36.080 I feel like we could go back and forth.
00:01:37.640 We're good.
00:01:37.720 Okay.
00:01:39.140 I would argue that even sitting on the porch is transactional.
00:01:43.340 I'm on the side of transaction.
00:01:44.980 I'm on the side of transaction, and I am not triggered by that use of the word transaction.
00:01:52.220 And I wish that we would have more open conversation like this so that we could give less power to, like, one little word.
00:02:01.540 Because in my opinion, it is a transaction because these people are trading time.
00:02:06.740 And time is more important and more valuable than money because you can never get your time back.
00:02:11.860 Now we're on the same page.
00:02:12.780 We see eye to eye on this one because we can read between the lines.
00:02:15.560 I've often found that when you put the money transaction up front, if those people agree, they actually have a better time.
00:02:23.900 I would agree with that, although people are incredibly uncomfortable talking about money.
00:02:30.220 Mostly the people that don't have any or that are very scared and just kind of live in a scarcity mode, which I don't want to go too far over there.
00:02:40.460 okay so were you finished with your your giving your concept of dating or your okay