Pearl - Having a Child is Post Nut Clarity To Women

00:00:00.240 What up guys, welcome to my coffee talks. Today I have a black coffee with half and half and sugar-free syrup.

00:00:07.100 So today I want to talk about how women go through post-nut clarity after they have children.

00:00:12.560 So a lot of men say that their wife changed after they had kids.

00:00:19.460 And I'm going to talk about this topic with a little bit more empathy for women. 0.99

00:00:24.180 A lot of times as women, we cannot help how we feel.

00:00:27.260 We can help how we act, but we cannot help how we feel about things.

00:00:31.980 And there are times when it is damn near, it feels impossible to control your emotions as a woman.

00:00:40.160 There have been times in my life when I've been in a relationship, right?

00:00:43.540 And I really, really thought I was right.

00:00:45.860 And in my head, I'm like, I am completely right.

00:00:49.720 Men don't really complain. 0.99

00:00:51.320 They don't really talk about their point of view.

00:00:52.580 we don't really hear them out a lot um because men one they're not really listened to and they're 0.96

00:00:57.700 kind of shit on if they complain sorry but two they just don't complain in general 0.99

00:01:04.220 and um when the guy finally gave his point of view I realized I was being the asshole right 0.99

00:01:11.060 I realized oh shit I'm wrong uh but in that moment like I really felt like I was right 0.99

00:01:17.740 you know? Um, and there are times as a woman where like, you're almost like there's a hamster 1.00

00:01:24.800 wheel going through your head where you wonder, you're like, and me being like the most self-aware

00:01:31.320 woman ever. Um, it's still difficult for me, right? Where I'll be upset or I'll feel a certain

00:01:37.640 way about something. And I'm just like, is this my emotions talking or is this valid? And you

00:01:42.640 literally don't know. Now when women have children, women go into marriage wanting the marriage to 1.00

00:01:49.220 work out. I think it's kind of silly to say that women are like hoping to get divorced but at times 0.87

00:01:56.600 we as people just want something so bad and we don't realize why we're doing it. Like for example

00:02:03.600 I think the things that men do subconsciously to get sex like they'll be in the friend zone for

00:02:08.180 years subconsciously helping a female friend in hopes of one day getting just a little bit of

00:02:13.900 poonanny it might not even be conscious like in their head right but they're hoping that maybe 0.99

00:02:19.800 one day they'll um they'll get that poonanny right women have the same thing with marriage 1.00

00:02:27.540 and children so being a low status as a woman is like death to us that's how it feels right 1.00

00:02:34.460 and as women it's actually helpful to realize that's what everyone's vying for so it's not as

00:02:42.060 important as you think right like getting married that's higher status having a child that's higher

00:02:47.480 status I know there's the argument that the right-wing e-girls to gaslight us say oh well 0.98

00:02:53.140 no it's not you know not in this society no it's higher status to marry a hot guy 1.00

00:02:58.960 so women in order to achieve that status the hamster wheel runs and when the you know clock 1.00

00:03:05.180 starts winding down it's more and more likely that our hamster wheel is convincing us we like a guy

00:03:09.940 um when a lot of times we really don't and the same way a lot of you guys um not a lot but

00:03:16.960 because most men don't have this choice but a lot of men will think they like a woman like they'll 0.99

00:03:21.560 really think that they like a woman and then they'll hook up with her and realize oh shit 0.96

00:03:26.860 I don't actually like this woman I just wanted to hit but lucky for you guys you could just walk 1.00

00:03:33.460 away for us we don't know um if we like a guy until after we have his baby and that's when it

00:03:41.020 changes it's like once the person gets what they want now this kind of transitions into a lot of

00:03:47.580 people I'm kind of undefeated when it comes to e-girls um except Brett Cooper half um and I'll 0.79

00:03:54.360 explain it. Um, I sort of predicted, I thought Brett Cooper, when she initially got married,

00:04:02.940 that she wouldn't embarrass her husband and she wouldn't go, you know, crazy and do all that stuff.

00:04:08.900 Right. Um, but I predicted differently because of her behavior at the daily wire. So Brett Cooper,

00:04:17.340 this this seems off topic um but it it connects just wait when she um she got a position at the

00:04:27.140 daily wire now brett cooper i had to do it all on my own um not all sorry i had to do become a

00:04:34.400 youtuber without the help of a big media corporation um and i had to get famous on my own

00:04:40.040 this included dming a bunch of people to come on my show i did my own makeup um not that i wear

00:04:46.680 much anyway. Um, but like, um, she has no idea how much work was done for her and how she is not

00:04:55.140 special or awesome or different or anything. It was all done for her. Um, just like, I have no

00:05:00.740 idea how much easier it was for me than a man in my position. Like, um, you know, Terrence,

00:05:07.700 for example, he's a guy with way more experience in the field, not as famous. That's how I feel

00:05:12.720 about the women that signed down big media companies i'm like you bitches have no idea 1.00

00:05:17.040 how much work they did for you so when she got what she wanted which was fame right you kind of

00:05:22.320 get to see what her character is is she going to be loyal to the people that helped her get there

00:05:26.580 and you saw her after get crash out on the daily wire but women like brett cooper they're the worst 1.00

00:05:32.940 and i'll tell you why because they what they do is they gossip behind the scenes right she had her

00:05:38.220 mom and her friends gossip about the daily wire. They have the friends do the dirty work while

00:05:44.260 they play innocent. It's the biggest bullshit ever. I grew up with women like this. So when 1.00

00:05:49.460 she got what she wanted, I changed my opinion on if she was going to stay married because I saw 0.58

00:05:54.520 what she did when she got what she wanted. Now, again, as a woman, the character of women isn't 1.00

00:06:01.620 like it's not what you do wrong it's how you respond to being corrected and they're you know

00:06:10.420 it's the same thing when she publicly embarrassed her husband by flirting with clavicular

00:06:15.120 it wasn't that she did something wrong um it was either her husband's too afraid to correct her

00:06:21.680 or she's got too big of an ego to take correction right so what happens to women like like her 1.00

00:06:29.880 she has her kid now she has her marriage now she starts changing she starts like she she never two 0.99

00:06:37.240 years ago would have did that whore photo shoot right the the little little dress like she never 1.00

00:06:43.440 she would have put on her son dress and pretended to be a traditional woman but now she got what 0.98

00:06:47.860 she wanted and I think I think as people right um it's kind of blinding um a lot of times one

00:06:59.780 we're not honest with ourselves about what we want we don't know what we want and we don't

00:07:04.600 realize subconsciously a lot of the things we're doing is in order to get something so

00:07:08.780 a lot of times women like Brett I don't even know if it's um conscious like I I think it's 1.00

00:07:14.380 like in their hindbrain right um and you see this with men and a lot of their female friends like 0.99

00:07:21.360 I don't think they're consciously thinking oh I need to get laid I need to get laid I'm going to

00:07:26.400 dedicate this amount of hours or um their need to be like liked you know there are certain men that

00:07:34.120 have such a need to be liked and approved of that they just allow everybody in their life to walk

00:07:39.780 all over them you know um and I don't know if they've ever sat down and thought it out and said

00:07:45.360 why do I keep doing does that make sense um and there's certainly been instances in my life where

00:07:53.000 I didn't realize why I was doing something it was because I wanted something else right

00:07:57.400 so I don't know are you guys are we following today or am I too all over the place these coffee

00:08:04.920 thoughts um so anyways that happens with women when we get married right it's not that women 1.00

00:08:12.060 have this grand plan although I'm sure some do right it's that sometimes what we want overshines

00:08:21.100 um, uh, sometimes we want the marriage more than the man and we don't realize it till after we get

00:08:29.220 it. Um, and it kind of goes on to this broader question in society. Should women have choice 1.00

00:08:38.640 on who they sleep with? Right. And I compare women and men's love, um, to what I believe

00:08:47.960 God's love, um, should be to his, I believe is to us. And what I believe a father's love is to

00:08:55.040 his children. Mothers have a very controlling love. So like mothers, if you do something nice

00:09:02.980 for your mom, she'll hold, or if your mom does something nice for you, she holds it over your

00:09:07.380 head forever. Like they never stop her. It's like almost hell on earth, accepting favors from

00:09:12.680 mothers, because they'll hold it over your head. Where fathers, they go to the ends of the earth 0.99

00:09:18.800 for you, and they'll never mention it again. They'll never hold it over your head. They will

00:09:22.840 not, um, I understand there's some controlling fathers, that is a thing, but in my experience,

00:09:30.660 um, fathers just want good behavior, and over a certain age, they do want you to have choice,

00:09:37.700 right? And they want you to love them freely, and if you don't, you don't. Where mothers,

00:09:42.060 it's like they have a controlling type of love where they get mad at you they crash out if they

00:09:46.320 don't get their way it's just like hell on earth um and that's just the type of love they have

00:09:52.640 and so the most pure type of love is where it's like um a non-controlling love you can stay or

00:10:01.440 you can go anytime anytime you can come or go into my life that's um like a love out of like

00:10:09.180 desire and not obligation. And I think that's what God wanted for us, right? He put us on earth

00:10:13.840 and he said, you guys can love me or not. And unfortunately, most people on earth chose not,

00:10:20.420 right? We're living in like hell on earth. It's like, I mean, there's only fans models in the

00:10:25.320 street. I mean, it's like, it's like the devil's world, right? So, um, but God said, I want this

00:10:32.660 free type of love. And I think that's kind of what men did with women, right? So men, before there

00:10:38.880 was religion societal obligation all this stuff and they said we're going to take all that away

00:10:42.920 and see if you really love us and it turns out most women don't and so the question is do you

00:10:49.800 want a controlling type of love where the wife has to stay even though she would rather not and 0.91

00:10:54.540 if it was up to her she would ruin your life right um or do you want a love that's only there um

00:11:02.520 or would you prefer like a free love and everybody wants women to like them like everybody wants

00:11:12.040 women to like men they don't like that's like all of society's problems is women just can't 1.00

00:11:17.320 bring ourselves to like men we don't like and when you give women choice we choose the same 0.98

00:11:21.660 men it's it's like a circle but then if you force women to be with men they don't want to be with

00:11:26.960 what tends to happen is they torture those men, right?

00:11:32.380 They don't actually want to be there.

00:11:34.160 You ever, any of you been in a marriage where the wife really like obviously

00:11:37.840 doesn't want to be there?

00:11:38.540 She tortures you. 1.00

00:11:42.180 So I don't have the answers.

00:11:43.540 I don't know what you do with this.

00:11:50.620 I don't know what you, you know.

00:11:53.260 And so that's kind of the question maybe I leave with you guys.

00:11:56.960 is would you rather have society force women to be with men they don't want to be with 1.00

00:12:03.120 or would you rather give women choice and usually like the man answer is like oh well the women

00:12:09.520 should just like those men and it's like well it doesn't do you like fat women no 0.99

00:12:16.080 unfortunately we're just not like that so anyways um if you think i'm missing something in this

00:12:23.600 analysis, please put it in the comments. Like the video. Let me know your coffee order. I love you

00:12:28.280 guys and I'll see you next time.

Pearl - April 07, 2026

Having a Child is Post Nut Clarity To Women

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