Pearl - Is MODERN LOVE Built on SECOND CHOICES？ The Truth Behind MEDIA & RELATIONSHIPS ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 So for those of you that don't know, Friends is a sitcom that was in the early 2000s.

00:00:05.200 It ran for about a decade.

00:00:06.420 When you look at this stuff from a red pill perspective, you kind of see, you start to

00:00:12.240 see the shows in the early 2000s that you loved and are very funny.

00:00:16.400 Like I'm not going to deny they're very funny, but you see them from a different lens.

00:00:21.400 So this is Friends and it's about a group of friends in New York.

00:00:25.220 I think they're in their 20s to 30s, dating in the city, relationships, and just basically

00:00:32.100 hanging out in downtown New York. And one of the women in the show is a girl named Rachel. 0.87

00:00:37.980 Now, Rachel and Ross, which is this guy here, have a bit of a history. Ross is a dorky guy. 0.96

00:00:47.040 Rachel's the pretty prom queen type. And this is a video. The friends in the city in their 20s 0.95

00:00:53.980 and 30s are reacting to a video of them from high school.

00:01:23.980 have a wonderful idea. Okay, so now what makes a guy an alpha versus a beta in terms of the dynamic

00:01:30.840 in the relationship? It's not black and white, right? Too much alpha lands men in prison. So

00:01:37.920 for example, a guy that's in prison for murder or drugs, whatever, you could say definitely lived

00:01:44.100 life on his own terms. He didn't go to society for the way that he should live life. He lived

00:01:49.440 life the way that he wanted to. And for some men that ends them up in jail. It's not always a good

00:01:54.640 thing, but it's a guy that does what he wants because he wants to. That's one. He's the leader

00:02:01.460 of a group too. And in a relationship dynamic, the woman has to fear him in some way. So how can I

00:02:09.020 tell a girl is with a beta, right? Because she does whatever the hell she wants. She has her butt and 1.00

00:02:16.280 her ass out on Instagram. She is completely disrespectful to him in public. And you can tell 1.00

00:02:24.640 she has no fear in that relationship because she doesn't think that he'll leave. She doesn't think

00:02:29.440 he has it in him. Okay. So you can tell the guy she's dating, and I'm not saying it's good or bad,

00:02:36.820 but he's about to stand her up. Meaning that woman cannot guilt him into doing anything.

00:02:41.620 If he doesn't want to come, he's not coming.

00:02:44.300 Okay.

00:03:11.620 my board okay you guys you know i think we've seen enough let's turn no no no okay fine well

00:03:19.140 i'm not gonna watch all right come on kid let's go hi how are you and so let's show him uh just a

00:03:27.540 sec dad should be cool just be cool okay dad rachel ready or not here comes your knight in shining

00:03:34.740 okay so now she's going with her what her first choice so this is her first choice

00:03:43.800 and i don't understand it i've seen so many guys settle for being women's second choice

00:03:49.600 i i don't get it at all but you know the male sex drive is strong

00:03:54.240 jack how do i turn this off okay so the you know they re she rejects him there right and then 1.00

00:04:02.740 throughout their early 20s they they try to date and it doesn't really work out so they're all

00:04:08.980 friends like this is a clip of them she's gonna really be needing these to keep an eye on that

00:04:13.380 boyfriend who from what i hear needs to keep his stapler in his so they're all friends she kind of

00:04:19.780 friend zones him early 20s i think they dated casually for a little bit didn't work out desk

00:04:24.860 drawer if you know what i'm talking about maybe your resolution should be to um gossip less

00:04:29.300 well i don't gossip maybe sometimes i find out things or i hear something and i pass that

00:04:35.960 information on you know kind of like a public service rachel friend zones him and then rachel

00:04:41.780 dates around all of her early 20s okay so this is a list of all of rachel's boyfriends right

00:04:50.120 oh my god look there's roy googling you know roy saw star wars 317 times his name was in the paper

00:04:57.680 where's chip why isn't he here yet he'll be here okay take a chill pill i'm sorry honey but we're

00:05:03.540 gonna take you shopping it's gonna be fine yeah totally you are in such good hands and i'm so

00:05:06.880 good with meeting parents with the father you know you want to flirt a little bit but not in a gross

00:05:10.260 way just kind of like oh mr pincer i can see where wallace gets his good looks you went out

00:05:14.660 with wallace pincer oh he took the acets for me there's something that i've been meaning to tell 0.99

00:05:18.940 you excuse me for a second freshman year billy dressman and i had sex on your bed so remember 0.97

00:05:23.180 she said no to ross and then she's saying yes to all of these guys you know it was uh it's actually 0.85

00:05:30.060 really great took me to lunch at the russian tea room and i had that chicken you know where you

00:05:33.500 poke it and all the butter squirts out not a good day for birds and then we took a walk down to

00:05:38.060 bendel's and i told him not to but he got me a little bottle of chanel that's nice was that

00:05:44.220 before or after you told him to stop calling stop sending you flowers and to generally leave you

00:05:47.740 you alone right well we never actually got oh it was just so nice to see him again you know it was

00:05:53.880 it was comfortable and it was familiar it's just nice that's that's nice twice rachel what's going

00:06:00.860 on i mean isn't this the same barry who you left at the altar duh where have you been yeah but it

00:06:04.940 was different with him today i mean and he wasn't like orthodontist guy you know i mean we had fun

00:06:10.080 is there anything wrong with that yes why i have my reasons okay how about the fact that he's

00:06:16.240 engaged to another woman who just happens to be your ex best friend. All right, all right, all right, all right, I know it's stupid. 1.00

00:06:21.640 I'll go see him this afternoon and I will just put an end to it. Wow. Yeah. 0.99

00:06:26.980 Everybody, this is Talo. Talo, I want you to meet my friends. This is Monica. Hi. And Joey. Hi. And Ross. Hi.

00:06:37.880 Ragazzi, sono appena arrivato, vivo al piano di sotto, quindi ci vedremo molto spesso.

00:06:41.660 He doesn't speak much English. 1.00

00:06:43.300 I'm just saying, if I see one more picture of Ed Begley Jr. in that stupid electric car, I'm going to shoot myself. 1.00

00:06:49.100 Okay, Michael, let's talk about you. 1.00

00:06:51.700 All right.

00:06:51.960 Okay.

00:06:52.940 So, do you ever get a pet with a girlfriend?

00:06:55.120 I mean, it's a cat, you know? It's a cat.

00:06:57.980 Why can't they get one of those bugs, you know, one of those fruit flies, those things that live for like a day or something?

00:07:02.800 What are they called? What are they called?

00:07:03.920 Fruit flies?

00:07:04.860 Yes!

00:07:06.060 Thank you.

00:07:07.040 So, would you like any dessert?

00:07:08.180 No.

00:07:09.080 No dessert. Just, uh, check.

00:07:11.080 Please.

00:07:11.680 Here he is.

00:07:12.140 hi guys this is Russ Ross Ross Ross Ross hi hi are you a friend of Rachel's yes

00:07:20.120 yes I am are you a friend of Rachel's actually I'm a kind of a you know a date

00:07:27.140 type thing yeah I'm her date oh oh you're oh you're the day you know this is

00:07:36.360 actually good because if we ever lose Ross we have a spare you are the

00:07:40.540 uh paleontologist yes yes i am well i am going to uh get a beverage uh it was nice nice uh meeting

00:07:47.500 you ditto rachel the cute doctors are here okay coming hi hi hi hi uh here we brought one look

00:07:55.420 this is from the sellers of ernest and tova borgnine so and guys i've seen it so many times

00:08:00.300 how do you have a female friend that rejects you and then you watch her date all these guys 0.82

00:08:06.700 and then she convinces you that you're her first choice later i i don't understand it she didn't

00:08:12.220 change her mind her options just sort of dried up for whatever reason you guys i don't understand

00:08:20.140 women know so quickly if we like a guy or don't like i mean two weeks tops i mean i could see 1.00

00:08:26.220 maybe if something's a little awkward at first but come on come on guys monica has the ankle 1.00

00:08:30.700 it's up but there again there's a reason this resonated with so many people because this is a

00:08:35.740 really common relationship dynamic but before media and women really ruining our own reputation 1.00

00:08:44.060 it didn't really get out most men didn't really know they didn't know what was going on but now

00:08:49.340 dating apps media now you can see this dynamic goes on throughout their entire 20s i think early

00:08:56.540 30s in the show and so rachel's dating all these guys and ross does date a couple women throughout

00:09:02.380 this process until one time ross and rachel have a one night stand and ross actually gets rachel

00:09:09.980 pregnant and even when she is pregnant with his child she still does not believe that ross is the

00:09:17.260 best that she could do because if she believed that ross was the best that she could do she

00:09:22.380 would settle down but even pregnant with his child she still is looking for other men better excuse 1.00

00:09:30.460 for why i'm not drinking on this date tonight um i'm a recovering alcoholic i'm a mormon or i got

00:09:36.940 so hammered last night i'm still a little drunk hey so what do you want to do tonight there's a

00:09:42.380 ukrainian film at the angelica they're supposed to be very powerful and women the reason i point 1.00

00:09:47.340 this out is because this is what they're marketing to us they want to market dating all the hot

00:09:52.940 exciting guys when we're younger and putting a guy in our friend zone i'm going to show you this is

00:09:58.380 basically how how I met your mother it's the same dynamic every dynamic on TV

00:10:03.960 that's what it is now you could argue what came first the media marketing this

00:10:08.460 or women wanting to do this you guys know where I stand but I just want to

00:10:14.820 point out these are the dynamics that are going on interested no but I'm gonna

00:10:19.380 see a normal person movie with you great you want to come oh no I can't I got a

00:10:23.100 date a date yeah why is that weird for you i know it's the opposite of weird it's uh it's regular

00:10:30.300 it's it's uh it's mundane it's it's actually a little dull there's no ukrainian film

00:10:37.580 a date and we have to ask the question do we feel bad for ross when he's opting into his own

00:10:44.700 destruction if a woman chooses 20 men before you and then comes to you and says you're my best 1.00

00:10:53.820 choice you're actually the one i want wouldn't you say he's a fool because you can say things

00:10:59.900 but what do her actions show and so you guys know i have a lot of empathy but sometimes i hear these

00:11:07.020 stories and i say why do you opt into your own destruction so she's got a date with so you're

00:11:13.500 gonna give a woman let me get this straight you're gonna give a woman that picked 20 guys before you 0.90

00:11:17.820 you're gonna say you know what that's the best mother for my child that is who i should give

00:11:23.900 power in divorce court the woman that picked 20 other men before me or even one even two and you 1.00

00:11:31.660 know that's the question that i would say that men should be asking is are you her first choice or

00:11:39.100 Or are you the bailout guy?

00:11:42.020 With who?

00:11:43.060 I set her up with this actor on my show.

00:11:44.960 You set her up? 0.78

00:11:46.060 No.

00:11:46.680 Joey, what were you thinking?

00:11:48.140 I was thinking that it'd probably be okay

00:11:49.700 because Ross hasn't gone out with Rachel in five years.

00:11:52.900 I'm not worried about her.

00:11:54.560 I'm worried about my baby.

00:11:56.160 Whoever she dates, my baby dates.

00:11:58.900 No, no, where is this actor taking them?

00:12:01.240 Hey, I'm an actor too.

00:12:03.360 I'm not sure.

00:12:04.040 I think they're taking the ferry out

00:12:05.420 to some Italian place on Staten Island.

00:12:07.060 A ferry?

00:12:08.280 My baby's going on a ferry.

00:12:10.240 Do you have any idea how dangerous those are?

00:12:12.540 Aren't we talking about those big boats that carry cars?

00:12:15.060 They go like five miles an hour.

00:12:16.080 Why don't they just jump out of an airplane, huh?

00:12:17.780 That's a fun date.

00:12:18.800 Or burn each other with matches.

00:12:20.140 That's fun, too.

00:12:20.840 Whee! 1.00

00:12:21.400 Hey, Joey.

00:12:22.240 Hey, Cash.

00:12:23.020 Hey, this is Ross.

00:12:24.060 Ross, this is Cash.

00:12:24.780 Hey.

00:12:25.100 Hey, I hear you're going on a ferry tonight.

00:12:27.520 Yeah.

00:12:28.000 Yeah.

00:12:28.760 Bit of a daredevil, are we? 0.99

00:12:30.500 Hey, you guys, you think this is too slutty. 0.94

00:12:32.480 Hi, Cash. 0.97

00:12:33.440 Hey, Rachel.

00:12:34.360 Huh?

00:12:34.540 You ready to go?

00:12:35.180 Yeah.

00:12:35.480 okay so now she's going on dates while pregnant the audacity and remember women love rachel 1.00

00:12:43.540 that tends to be women's favorite character now at the end there's this whole dramatic scene for 0.98

00:12:51.320 ross to finally after a decade or sorry after at the end there's this dramatic scene for rachel

00:12:59.760 after a decade to finally pick Ross. So not only did she pick 20 men before him, she got a

00:13:07.620 opportunity in France, I think it was. And she said, I'm going to take this fashion opportunity

00:13:15.380 over being with you. And the last minute she said, nah, you know what? Fine. Well, we can get

00:13:21.680 married ross hi it's me i just got back on the plane and i just feel awful that is so not how

00:13:30.720 i wanted things to end with us just that i wasn't expecting to see you and then all of a sudden

00:13:35.980 you're there and saying these things and now i'm just sitting here and thinking of all the stuff

00:13:42.820 i should have said and i didn't i mean i didn't even get to tell you that i love you too because

00:13:47.720 of course i do i love you i love you and you guys fall for it every single time every time

00:13:55.240 yep forest gump same ending same ending i love you what am i doing i love you and the thing is

00:14:03.160 a lot of times when women say this they mean it or we think we mean it but again there's a

00:14:10.680 difference between saying that when you have a choice and when you're a single mother with his

00:14:16.920 a kid, right? You know, there's a bit of a difference than saying that when you have a

00:14:22.140 lot of choice or when you, it didn't work out with 20 other men. I gotta see you. I've got to

00:14:28.340 get off this plane. Oh my God. Excuse me. Please sit down. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, but I need to get

00:14:35.520 off the plane. Okay. I need to just tell someone that I love them. Miss, I can't let you off the

00:14:39.260 plane. Let her off the plane. I am afraid you are going to have to take a seat. Oh, please. And it's 0.75

00:14:43.960 so interesting because men are so logical in every other area of their life but with women 0.98

00:14:49.160 we just have a way of talking men around everything i mean the plausible deniability

00:14:55.520 is through the roof that men fall for i mean they have you convinced that we take birth control for

00:15:01.380 acne really come on like let's miss you don't understand try to understand oh come on miss

00:15:08.960 Isn't there any way that you can just let me off?

00:15:11.980 No, no.

00:15:13.140 Oh my God.

00:15:14.140 Did she get off the plane?

00:15:15.320 Did she get off the plane?

00:15:16.600 I got off the plane.

00:15:18.000 And there it is.

00:15:18.860 This is every sitcom.

00:15:21.480 Every female sitcom is this. 1.00

00:15:24.140 It's the same story.

Pearl - October 08, 2024

Is MODERN LOVE Built on SECOND CHOICES？ The Truth Behind MEDIA & RELATIONSHIPS ｜ Pearl Daily

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