Pearl - Is Teen Pregnancy Actually Better Than Waiting Until 40？

00:00:00.000 teen pregnancy. Is it the worst thing in the world? So crazy. Women talk about how horrible 1.00

00:00:07.400 it was getting pregnant when she was older. Hi, mommies. Good morning. It's time to slather on

00:00:14.000 the makeup. So this is actually, it's like a French cream. It's more of, um,

00:00:21.220 it's not some. OMG. She proved pearl corrupt. I know. I know. I hate talking about makeup. It's

00:00:27.520 not, it's not so much a concealer as it is a fucking sunblock. Okay. To answer this person's 0.99

00:00:31.660 question. Yeah, dude. I'm old as shit. Um, I had my first kid when I was 38, my second kid of 42.

00:00:40.320 Horrible to do physically. Um, if I had, if I had a parallel pearl, I had, it was a grandfather at 50

00:00:47.960 and had a lot of energy to spend at some very good times and grow road trips with my oldest

00:00:52.060 grandchild. Think about grandparents when, think about the grandparents when you wait until a

00:00:57.280 40 to have kids. Parallel universe where I had like a really cool supportive family and a mom.

00:01:06.360 Dude, I would have had babies at like 18, 18 because physically your body is meant to do that at 18

00:01:15.500 years old. Like you just, when I was 18, I could like drink a pack of Zima and eat fucking cheeseburgers 0.99

00:01:23.280 and go to bed and not gain a pound. And your body is just tight. Like you're going to snap back. 1.00

00:01:27.980 Now I'm not advocating teen pregnant. I was actually thinking about this the other day, teen pregnancy.

00:01:38.600 Is it the worst thing in the world? Cause you know, you can be done with the whole kids part of

00:01:43.140 your life by the time you're 40. I know a couple of people that did that. Right. And they're,

00:01:48.620 they're like a, they're 40, right? They had their first kid. It was like 15 or 16. I mean, you're like

00:01:54.960 done, you know, Nancy, right? Am I, but if you have a cool mom that can raise the kid for you when 1.00

00:02:02.200 you're, you know, 18, like why not? And then you get your life back at 36 when that kid is themselves

00:02:09.580 18. See that math. Now that being said, having kids older is kind of the jam. If you want to have a

00:02:17.020 career, if you want to do stuff before you have children, I highly recommend that. Cause then you

00:02:23.860 have the resources, um, to afford help, which I need, cause I don't have relatives. Um, and yeah,

00:02:32.340 and you're also more emotionally stable. And if you have the energy and the health,

00:02:37.900 have babies later, it's all good. And I, this person asking, don't, don't worry. 38 is very young.

00:02:44.220 Yeah. That's a lie. So it's not looking too good. You, you could, it could work out for you,

00:02:51.020 but there's going to be a lot of people it doesn't work out for.

00:02:57.660 Yeah. Do you remember old maid used to be like 25? They used to think you were done. 0.98

00:03:02.840 Neskinata. Um, it's like I said, if you've got the energy and the health,

00:03:06.140 fucking go for it. But when I got married, I was 32 years old and Tom and I were poor, 0.96

00:03:11.780 poor, poor, poor, poor, poor. So I didn't want to bring children into the world until we could,

00:03:17.940 you know, afford it. 38 is not that old. 38 is only old in like the Midwest, but on the coasts,

00:03:24.200 that's when bitches start having babies. So pump that kid out, bro. Do what you got. 1.00

00:03:28.920 That's true. It is a later timeframe when you're in like New York and those places.

00:03:33.400 I was actually. Here's another cope. 45. When my daughter was born, I'm not 40. I want to address

00:03:43.040 some of the common criticisms that older moms sometimes get. First of all, women having 1.00

00:03:47.760 babies in their forties, isn't a new thing. Childbearing years span decades. So why this

00:03:52.240 is shocking to. Okay. It's not a new thing, but like my grandma, I think she started at 16

00:03:57.620 and stopped at like 43. It's not a new thing, but, but they start earlier, right? They,

00:04:06.280 they pop, they pop the first one out young. To some people is beyond me. I know so many older

00:04:11.760 moms, both now. And also when I was, I know it, this is the future, right? They're not completely

00:04:16.060 wrong. Women are going to keep pushing that shit off. They're going to keep trying to use their youth 1.00

00:04:21.660 and beauty on themselves and spend as little as possible on their husband and their families.

00:04:26.720 They're going to keep pushing it off. Okay. So she's not wrong per se. Okay. But

00:04:33.900 it's, it's probably not a great thing, but you know, it is what it is.

00:04:39.720 Growing up. One of the most common criticisms that I see online is that it's not fair to have

00:04:43.440 children in your forties because those children won't have as much time with you as they would

00:04:47.400 if you had them when you were younger. The truth is nobody knows how much time they have,

00:04:50.720 but let's say for the sake of the argument that we all get the same number of years and we all

00:04:54.000 expire on the same exact day. Does that mean that we owe it to the next generation to give birth to 0.98

00:04:58.720 them as young as possible? Not everyone is ready or willing to have a baby in their teens or 20s.

00:05:03.260 Even if you do feel ready, sometimes finding the right partner can take some time. And some people

00:05:07.000 like to become financially stable or reach other goals.

00:05:09.760 So this is the thing when women are unsure about a decision, they rationalize it. 1.00

00:05:14.980 They have to explain it. When you're sure you're making the right decision. Do you guys have to

00:05:19.920 explain it? No. First, it's also really common for people to experience infertility or in my case,

00:05:25.080 secondary infertility. I planned on having our last child in my thirties, but when I was in my thirties,

00:05:29.600 I had miscarriages. The most carefully made plans can be completely out of our control.

00:05:33.160 And that's completely in your control. Most people don't have miscarriages in their twenties.

00:05:38.660 That's like, that's like the result of your actions. And it's not saying it's wrong to make

00:05:43.480 that choice, but you got to account like that. That was your choice. It's mind boggling to me

00:05:49.620 that anyone could think a child has more or less right to exist based on the age of her mother.

00:05:54.840 Another common concern is the increased risk of chromosomal abnormalities with advancing maternal

00:05:59.440 age. The numbers vary a little bit according.

00:06:01.100 No. So the, they're going to, she's going to rationalize that like, you won't have autistic 1.00

00:06:05.820 kids, the older you wait, but they're just going to abort the autistic ones anyway. So 1.00

00:06:13.120 she's kind of right in a way because women are going to get those testing done. And if it's not 1.00

00:06:18.360 what they want, they'll just, sorry, fellas, it's not your choice. It's theirs. Women are the, 1.00

00:06:23.980 women are the ultimate eugenicists. 1.00

00:06:26.380 According to the source, but a recent one that I read said that at age 30, a pregnant woman has a

00:06:30.820 0.1% chance of a baby with down syndrome. And then by age 40, it increases to 1%. By the time I

00:06:36.360 conceived my daughter at age 44, I had about a 2.5% chance of having a baby with down syndrome.

00:06:43.380 Conversely, I had a greater than 97% chance of having a baby with typical chromosomes who was

00:06:48.520 perfectly healthy. More than half of people with down syndrome were born to young moms under 35.

00:06:52.940 Lastly, the idea that older moms have less energy. I've had babies both in my twenties and in my 0.86

00:06:57.680 forties, and this hasn't been true for me. And I really believe that while there are genetic

00:07:01.580 factors that are out of our control, our overall fitness and lifestyle choices have more to do

00:07:06.920 with our mental and physical health than our age does. Those are my thoughts, but I'm happy to

00:07:12.420 continue the conversation in the comments.

00:07:15.200 Yeah, this is her and her husband.

00:07:17.640 Okay, wait, they've been together since high school. Why did they wait so long?

00:07:23.740 She was hot, right? She was hot back in the day. She was a dime. 1.00

00:07:34.100 Yeah, okay. All right, well, that's all I got today. I guess I also pissed off a woman in the chat.

00:07:43.620 I can't say I'm shocked. It is what it is. Anyways, guys, let me know what you think in

00:07:50.140 the comments. What age did you guys have kids, and are you happy that you had them at that age?

00:07:58.920 Top comments I'm going to like, pin, and reply to, so I'll make sure to do that. Go to

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Pearl - April 11, 2025

Is Teen Pregnancy Actually Better Than Waiting Until 40？

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