Pearl - April 27, 2025


Modern Single Moms Went Full DELUSIONAL Thinking Men Still Want Them


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Length

14 minutes

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184.80695

Word Count

2,642

Sentence Count

224

Misogynist Sentences

48

Hate Speech Sentences

31


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00:00:00.000 You mean how I am supporting two kids, a dog, and myself on one income in this economy?
00:00:06.480 You mean how I still look like this after having two children?
00:00:09.460 I work a full-time job. I have two side businesses.
00:00:12.520 If you were really doing that much, we would all know you were doing that much.
00:00:16.160 Like Instagram shop and their TikTok account. Those are their businesses.
00:00:20.360 What up guys? Welcome to my reaction series.
00:00:22.800 Today we're talking about single mothers are still delusional and think that men want them.
00:00:27.380 So since 2020 and the introduction of YouTube personalities like the late, great Kevin Samuels and the Fresh and Fit podcast,
00:00:34.260 the truth is out on men dating single mothers.
00:00:37.120 Stepdaddy season is officially over as more and more men avoid women with children.
00:00:41.700 There is no benefit to raise another man's child. None.
00:00:45.820 Some single mothers have gotten the hint, but many have not.
00:00:49.040 The delusion runs deep with these baby mamas.
00:00:51.340 Let's look at single mothers coping because no men will date them.
00:00:55.040 I guess I shouldn't say no men. I should say there's always someone, but no men that they want.
00:01:01.920 Let's talk dating as a single mom because this is a question that I get asked very, very frequently.
00:01:09.140 Carla, how do you date as a single mom?
00:01:11.280 Carla, are you dating right now?
00:01:13.120 As much tea as I'd like to give you guys, I'm currently not dating, but I don't know.
00:01:17.700 My mindset with dating is like very, very relaxed.
00:01:21.200 I kind of flip-flop back and forth between wanting something serious and then wanting something fun.
00:01:26.120 I don't know. It seems like a really weird topic to talk about because I'm super private when it comes to all of that.
00:01:32.660 I know exactly what I want and I know that I don't want to...
00:01:35.600 She just contradicted herself.
00:01:37.140 She said, I flip between wanting something serious and something fun.
00:01:41.600 And then she said, I know what I want.
00:01:45.140 Women, we just say things, man.
00:01:47.060 Settle for anything because the way that I look at it is if I didn't settle for my kid's dad,
00:01:51.120 why would I settle for another man that isn't their dad?
00:01:53.460 I feel like now that me and the other parent are, you know, co-parenting here and there,
00:01:58.260 that I will have more time.
00:01:59.820 But I will say that even if I start dating, I would keep it super private just because that's just the way that I am.
00:02:05.240 One thing that I do know for certain, 100%, is that I will never bring a man around my kids.
00:02:09.940 I'm just really protective of my kids and I never want to bring anyone around them that isn't going to be in their life.
00:02:15.660 So yeah, that's the tea on my dating life.
00:02:17.980 I get this question a lot, so I figured that I would make like a quick little video just kind of going over my mindset on things.
00:02:24.480 If you're a single mom and you're currently in the dating field, let me know what you guys think.
00:02:28.420 How do you do it?
00:02:29.160 What do you do?
00:02:29.840 What are some boundaries or what are some...
00:02:31.980 Yeah, I mean, she'll be fine.
00:02:34.200 She's hot enough.
00:02:35.080 I'm not one of those doomers.
00:02:36.600 I mean, I am a doomer, but I'm like blackpilled to the point where I'm like, if a porn star can find love,
00:02:42.340 Riley Reid can get married.
00:02:43.700 Any of these hoes can do it.
00:02:45.040 All right.
00:02:46.040 Unfortunately, she'll be okay also.
00:02:48.900 I mean, obviously, like they're going to have to go down a level of caliber of men.
00:02:52.240 Like, let's not pretend that the men with all the options.
00:02:55.720 But here's a problem.
00:02:56.600 Women are getting fatter.
00:02:58.220 We're getting...
00:02:58.940 There's less Gen Z women being born, right?
00:03:02.120 So there's less young women that are even turning 18 every year.
00:03:05.620 And also, women are only going for a smaller and smaller percentage of guys.
00:03:12.260 So if 80% of men aren't really getting laid like that, somebody's going to do it, right?
00:03:16.940 I mean, they're going to have to go down a step.
00:03:18.840 But hey, it depends how low their baby daddy was, right?
00:03:22.540 Like, if their baby daddy was here, maybe they can go...
00:03:25.800 Anyways, we'll look.
00:03:27.460 Lately, that broke men are trying to convince single mothers that rich men don't want them.
00:03:33.280 And the funniest thing about that to me is the reasons are usually like,
00:03:40.020 oh, it's so much harder.
00:03:41.520 It's going to be more expensive.
00:03:43.280 They're looking at the children as obstacles.
00:03:45.380 They're looking at these women as used goods.
00:03:48.000 And here's the thing.
00:03:50.460 Successful men don't base what they want off of how easy it is to get it.
00:03:55.720 In fact, in my experience, when there's a bit of a challenge, it's more exciting for them.
00:04:03.080 So she's dating.
00:04:04.000 Like, the men that like a challenge are simps, right?
00:04:06.880 I mean, look, players do want...
00:04:09.860 Like, they do...
00:04:10.900 Or the guys with more options, I'll say.
00:04:13.140 Like, they might want a challenge like a flirt, right?
00:04:16.900 But they're not going to wait three months for a single mother like they did back in the day.
00:04:22.400 It's crazy.
00:04:23.460 It's crazy.
00:04:24.280 Women really got away with murder back in the day.
00:04:27.600 I can't believe there was a book written by a man advising women to wait three months for sex.
00:04:34.460 And some of you bought it.
00:04:36.120 That is hilarious.
00:04:37.920 Oh, that's so funny.
00:04:39.580 Women aren't different.
00:04:40.560 Like, women aren't different today.
00:04:42.140 We've always been like this.
00:04:43.140 It's just now we're caught.
00:04:44.660 Yep.
00:04:45.180 Because we can't...
00:04:46.660 We just keep telling the internet, right?
00:04:50.140 They're not going to go with the easiest lay, right?
00:04:53.180 They're going to go with someone that's interesting to them.
00:04:55.940 And the qualities that make someone a good mother really makes them an interesting person
00:05:01.520 and a really good partner, too.
00:05:04.980 So, food for thought.
00:05:07.180 I've met a lot of terrible mothers, so I'm not really...
00:05:10.780 Women think, like, because they had a child, they're, like, automatically a better person.
00:05:16.420 That's their thought process.
00:05:17.620 I had a kid, therefore, I'm a better person.
00:05:19.900 They don't want to do the hard thing of, like, being interested in other people, being nice to other people,
00:05:24.620 being kind, considerate, compassionate.
00:05:26.860 That's hard, right?
00:05:30.580 Having a kid isn't really hard, you know?
00:05:32.880 These broke guys, dusty guys, really shitty guys are going to try to convince you that you're not worth as much
00:05:39.100 because they're trying to get a baddie for a discount.
00:05:43.060 So, I've noticed...
00:05:43.900 Yeah, that's cope.
00:05:44.920 That's, I don't want to go on sale.
00:05:47.060 That's, I'm a single mom now.
00:05:48.480 Guys, I mean, single mothers, they definitely...
00:05:51.200 Like, let's not pretend they can't get married.
00:05:52.960 They can't find quality boyfriends.
00:05:54.540 But, like, a guy will go to the ends of the earth to please a 21-year-old woman.
00:06:01.560 Like, he's gonna...
00:06:02.600 You know, it's like the drive test.
00:06:04.760 Like, how far will a guy drive for sex?
00:06:07.140 Like, he's gonna drive three hours to meet you if you're 21.
00:06:10.140 With a kid at 31, you better be down the street, bitch.
00:06:14.600 Like, you better be right there and willing to always meet him on his time whenever he wants.
00:06:23.840 And then some women, that's how they pull it off, right?
00:06:26.640 They just make it so easy, so convenient, and are so pleasant.
00:06:30.400 And they also have to not get jealous of all the extra work that he's putting in for these young broads, right?
00:06:35.420 He's putting in all this work for the young broads and not putting the work into getting you.
00:06:40.040 And you have to not be bitter about it and still be there, and that's how they win.
00:06:44.060 But it's not often.
00:06:45.240 Or they're really, really hot, and the kids maybe...
00:06:48.060 Like, if she had that kid at 15, I mean, do you really care if it's, like, 16?
00:06:52.880 He drives himself.
00:06:54.400 The kid's about to...
00:06:55.240 I mean, meh.
00:06:56.260 Then it's not really a...
00:06:57.600 When the males use single mom as an insult, because what do you mean?
00:07:02.940 You mean how I am supporting two kids, a dog, and myself on one income in this economy?
00:07:10.280 You mean how I still look like this after having two children?
00:07:14.160 You mean how I stay on top...
00:07:16.000 Mid.
00:07:17.040 Yep, mid.
00:07:18.120 Mm-hmm.
00:07:18.380 You still look mid.
00:07:20.280 Congratulations.
00:07:21.280 Some women do get, like, below mid after the kids, so I'm happy for you.
00:07:25.460 But, like, let's be honest.
00:07:27.340 Mid.
00:07:27.920 Mid.
00:07:28.320 With everything, I work a full-time job.
00:07:30.360 I have two side businesses.
00:07:31.980 I maintain a home.
00:07:33.020 I cook...
00:07:33.320 Okay, women sell a couple things on Instagram and then say they have a side business.
00:07:38.360 Do you know what I mean?
00:07:38.900 Like, if you were really doing that much, we would all know you were doing that much.
00:07:44.160 Women start a TikTok account, and that's, like, Instagram shop and their TikTok account.
00:07:49.520 Those are their businesses.
00:07:50.880 Most of our meals, our fridge is always stocked.
00:07:52.600 Our bills are always paid.
00:07:53.780 I always get the girls to their activities.
00:07:55.600 I'm very involved with their school.
00:07:57.520 I maintain my fitness and health.
00:07:59.220 I get enough sleep.
00:08:00.240 I have time for my friends.
00:08:01.380 I have time to travel with my kids, and I have time to read.
00:08:05.300 You mean to tell me that I'm doing all of that while you're leaving hate comments on the
00:08:09.980 internet and it's an insult?
00:08:12.240 Really?
00:08:12.920 She's offended.
00:08:14.060 Yep, she's offended because it's true.
00:08:15.840 She wouldn't...
00:08:16.260 That long rationalization.
00:08:18.640 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:19.320 Like, if someone comes up to me, I don't know, and says something that I know is just
00:08:24.200 not true.
00:08:26.960 Like, you guys, sometimes in the comments, you're like, oh, I don't like this or I don't
00:08:31.060 like that.
00:08:31.560 Then you go build a channel with 2 million subscribers.
00:08:34.300 Oh, you can't?
00:08:35.080 Yeah, okay.
00:08:35.820 So, you know, like, then I don't care because it's not true.
00:08:40.760 You know, or like, if someone says, Pearl, you're obese.
00:08:44.100 I know I'm not obese.
00:08:45.560 And you guys have pulled that one.
00:08:47.000 I know I'm not.
00:08:47.900 So you can...
00:08:50.200 Right?
00:08:50.580 And that's the point.
00:08:51.880 But she's giving this long rationalization.
00:08:56.220 Cooked.
00:08:56.820 Cooked.
00:08:58.000 Because I don't know about you, but I am the hottest, healthiest, and wealthiest I've
00:09:03.620 ever been without a man.
00:09:05.020 So really, that's an insult to you, isn't it?
00:09:08.940 So that's the female jealousy of men.
00:09:11.300 Because if she were a man, she'd be drowning and put...
00:09:14.020 You know?
00:09:15.760 But women, we hate it.
00:09:17.320 We hate that every breakup, we have to lower our price and you get to raise yours.
00:09:23.780 It's not fair.
00:09:24.760 Life isn't fair.
00:09:26.860 You're not on my level.
00:09:28.640 You could not do half of what I do every single day, even once.
00:09:32.920 There's no way.
00:09:34.400 There's...
00:09:34.720 Sell shit on TikTok?
00:09:36.300 Like, yeah.
00:09:37.320 Come on, lady.
00:09:38.880 Oh my gosh.
00:09:39.980 These women...
00:09:40.420 So delusional.
00:09:41.880 No way.
00:09:42.520 So the next time you want to use single mom, single mother as an insult, please remember
00:09:50.580 what single mothers are actually doing and see if you measure up.
00:09:55.540 Because I would be willing...
00:09:56.800 Oh my gosh.
00:09:57.560 What does she do for a living?
00:10:04.920 Her business is a certified trauma-informed coach.
00:10:11.440 Holy, holy hell.
00:10:13.920 Women, man.
00:10:15.660 This is insane.
00:10:16.380 I always get a kick when the males...
00:10:18.660 I just want one woman to surprise me and have a real business.
00:10:22.760 Why do men hate single mothers and why do single mothers threaten this purple hair structure
00:10:29.380 that holds capitalism together?
00:10:31.820 So obviously there are surface reasons that men have given as to why they don't like single
00:10:36.280 mothers.
00:10:37.140 But I think at the root of all these criticisms is the idea that a woman should need a man.
00:10:42.000 And if she doesn't, then she is a threat to the nuclear family structure.
00:10:45.360 And therefore, she's a threat to capitalism as a whole.
00:10:49.320 And the men who need their dishes washed, clothes cleaned, food cooked, and asses wiped
00:10:54.340 do not want that shit being perpetuated.
00:10:57.300 So they shame single mothers instead of praising them for being the parent who stayed.
00:11:01.840 But how do single mothers threaten capitalism?
00:11:04.220 Well, just like women are afraid of men, men are afraid of men as well.
00:11:09.020 And if rich men are going to ensure that poor men, aka the overwhelming majority of men,
00:11:14.460 aren't going to them, then they need to pacify poor men in order to make them feel just as
00:11:21.100 privileged as they actually are.
00:11:23.340 Black people, both in the past and today, have taken the main brunt of placating poor white
00:11:28.540 men's need for superiority.
00:11:29.840 And now that everyone's fallen on some pretty rough times financially,
00:11:34.720 the rich, I mean, the U.S. government is going to go to even more extreme methods in order to
00:11:39.640 soothe these men and keep them complacent so that they don't strike.
00:11:43.520 Single mothers, especially the ones that have formed community with each other,
00:11:47.280 are proof that society does not have to be ran the way rich,
00:11:50.940 cishet white men want it run.
00:11:52.800 I can just tell she would be cooked even if she didn't have a kid.
00:11:55.960 Purple hair, man.
00:11:57.140 Okay, well, who's next?
00:11:58.760 Now, again, I will never say that none of these women will, they're all going to die alone,
00:12:03.420 da-da-da-da-da-da-da.
00:12:08.740 Even grandmas can download Tinder and get a decent amount of female attention.
00:12:13.240 We're cooked, guys, cooked.
00:12:14.600 Or, sorry, male attention.
00:12:16.000 And you might think, well, none of them, I mean, we've talked about this.
00:12:19.560 You might think nobody will do it, no self-respecting male.
00:12:24.460 What was your girlfriend doing before she met you?
00:12:26.720 Oh, I, I, this is how the men, they're like, I know, I know mine wasn't.
00:12:31.000 Really?
00:12:32.600 You, you can prove that.
00:12:37.520 You can prove, if I had a dollar, if I had a dollar.
00:12:41.560 Anyways, I'll continue.
00:12:43.000 I get it.
00:12:43.560 There's men that prefer not to be with women with kids.
00:12:46.680 Like, we get it, we hear you guys, we hear you loud and clear, okay?
00:12:51.000 Nah, man don't want any women with kids, you know?
00:12:53.900 Don't want no women with kids, you know?
00:12:55.860 Like, any man that is so vocal about, I don't want a woman with kids.
00:13:00.120 How on earth would anyone want to be with someone like that?
00:13:03.500 Why?
00:13:04.800 Because it's just a horrible trait to have.
00:13:07.720 Like, yes, have your preferences, but don't go and shout down a whole group of people in society
00:13:13.380 and make them feel worthless about themselves.
00:13:16.400 Just because you don't want to date one, make it make sense.
00:13:20.980 And I get it, there's men that prefer not to be with women with kids.
00:13:24.960 Like, we get it, we hear you guys, we hear you loud and clear, okay?
00:13:29.140 Nah, man don't want any women with kids, you know?
00:13:32.060 Don't want no women with kids, you know?
00:13:33.840 Like, any man that is so vocal about, I don't want a woman with kids.
00:13:38.380 How on earth would anyone want to be with someone like that?
00:13:41.580 Why?
00:13:42.960 Because it's just a horrible trait to have.
00:13:45.840 Like, yes, have your preferences, but don't go and shout down a whole group of people in society
00:13:51.540 and make them feel worthless about themselves.
00:13:54.540 You can't make anybody feel anything.
00:13:57.500 That's a choice.
00:13:58.640 You.
00:13:59.160 All right, I mean, I have people say all kinds of things to me.
00:14:02.580 It just is what it is.
00:14:03.560 You got to eat it.
00:14:04.440 If you want to be on the internet, that's a trait you got to have.
00:14:06.900 The trait to just eat it.
00:14:08.320 Anyways, guys, let me know what you guys think in the comments.
00:14:10.700 Please like the video on your way out and let me know,
00:14:12.440 have you dated a single mother before and how did that turn out?
00:14:15.840 Like the video, I'll see you guys next time.