Pearl - This Is How Men Are SHAMED for Having Standards While Women Are REWARDED

00:00:00.000 the way some of these girls be doing their baby dads that are like decent guys i feel like i'm

00:00:03.880 cool like i'm the one you want to have on your side i don't want either of my baby dads i can

00:00:07.560 tell you that right now oh she's got multiple i also got my baby dad that's in jail texting me

00:00:11.820 oh my gosh what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we're talking about in the current

00:00:20.040 dating market modern women are allowed to have standards and men really are not a woman can say

00:00:25.480 that she wants a man that's six figures six feet tall and with a six pack and nobody says anything

00:00:31.080 negative in fact they say she has a right to want that but the minute a man has standards it's a

00:00:36.740 problem if a man says he doesn't want to date a woman who's obese a woman who has too much debt or

00:00:41.280 a woman that has too many tattoos he is demonized it's a double standard that is sickening maybe the

00:00:47.200 worst double standard has to do with men not wanting to date a woman with kids if a man says he won't

00:00:53.620 date a single mother he faces all sorts of backlash if a woman says that she does not want

00:00:59.320 to date a man with kids it is celebrated let's look at some of the women that don't date men with

00:01:04.920 kids and their reasoning why foremost i would never date a man that talks in circles and then also i don't

00:01:13.100 see myself dating a single dad in my 20s when i was talking about that story i was 20 years old

00:01:18.960 i why would i want to do that and i don't and i don't want to date at that time i didn't want to

00:01:24.600 date people to just date them and after i was with after like that date like two or three weeks later i

00:01:34.240 met a man that i dated for almost three years so i was trying to date for keeps so why would i lead

00:01:40.320 that man on when i know that i don't want a child right now mine or anyone else's i don't want a kid

00:01:47.340 until i'm like 35 so i can't attach myself to someone else's child when i know that i'm not

00:01:53.360 ready for that i don't understand all the comments they're like oh so you won't date a single dad oh

00:01:59.400 so so so you'd rather him be a dead be dead i'd rather him not be a dad at all

00:02:03.520 like it's just not my journey and look i don't think there's anything wrong with that i think people

00:02:10.480 have a right to not want to date people with children problem is women are okay with having

00:02:15.820 standards and men can't have them so if a woman is 20 and she says i don't want to date a guy with

00:02:20.880 kids she's demonized or sorry she's celebrated and the men that say the same thing maybe they're a

00:02:27.300 little older but they're demonized right and i and if i had a child i wouldn't expect someone that

00:02:32.020 doesn't want a child to date me because if i had a child if you're dating me you're going to date the

00:02:37.400 child not date the child that's crazy oh my gosh i'm so tired if you're dating me you have to be in

00:02:44.120 the child's life as well so i know that i can't provide that so i'm not gonna date a single dad

00:02:51.060 but that's not the only reason like that whole tiktok i was talking about how like rude he was being

00:02:58.560 and that this is the comment these are the comments the comments like oh you don't want to

00:03:03.180 date a single dad you don't want to know what is wrong with that what is wrong with stating your

00:03:06.540 preference a lot of people don't want to date a single mom either everyone is different and when

00:03:12.800 we stop pretending everything's okay and like and like pretending we'll stop hurting people because

00:03:20.440 i know a bunch of people that have been in relationships with others that don't like kids

00:03:24.540 but they're in a relationship with someone with a kid that's foul that's dirty work that's not okay and

00:03:30.320 i don't want to be that person okay okay so again let's look at the comments and it says men and

00:03:38.960 women that don't have kids should avoid dating people with kids let them date each other no single

00:03:43.040 mothers and single fathers easy i assumed it was because he was referring to him having a kid as the

00:03:48.340 dna showing up who the f says that girl the way they talk mad disrespectful about single black mothers

00:03:54.860 and now we're going to be mad because we don't want to date a baby daddy yeah i mean i think that's

00:03:59.740 fine people have a right to not want to date certain people so i i like what you're gonna put a gun to

00:04:05.380 someone's head and make them date someone they don't want to date and the thing is the men don't

00:04:09.200 get mad single dads women love single dads so let's not let's not pretend that's a like deterrent for

00:04:17.060 a lot there's enough women that don't care that it's really like if anything the men you know they

00:04:21.840 bring the stroller to the park and the women come up to them it's like the most attention they've

00:04:26.540 gotten in their life when they have a little baby but men wouldn't really like um they're not going

00:04:31.820 to hold that against you but women will get mad yeah so this is why i won't date a man who has kids

00:04:36.740 as a single mom or date a man that has children period especially a man that has children

00:04:42.480 under the age of like 10 god hasn't been broken up with his baby mom for more than

00:04:48.640 10 years you know what i'm sticking to i've just never dated a man with children

00:04:53.200 it's amazing how these mothers will talk about how they're great moms and their kids will be crying

00:04:59.440 in the background it's like amazing all right this whole pickup line there's nothing i can do you can

00:05:08.360 keep scrolling or you can choose to ignore it i say that i would never date a man with children

00:05:12.700 as a single mother to two children so i got two baby dads i'm a credible source when i tell you

00:05:18.960 like a baby mom especially that first baby mom is always going to hold a very special place

00:05:26.020 in that man's heart again credible source you can choose to listen to me or you can choose to not

00:05:34.540 listen to me that's totally up to you and there's ever a sliver of doubt in your mind go with your gut

00:05:39.640 go with your gut because i'm telling you even if that baby mom is not interested

00:05:43.960 chances are that the baby dad is still you know thinking about her i feel like women

00:05:50.320 it's like a form of projection because in all honesty when men get divorced from what i've seen well

00:05:59.740 there's two types of men that get divorced that i've seen type one is the one that's like devastated

00:06:04.760 clearly still in love with the ex-wife right and i have seen that you know and they there's super simps

00:06:10.600 let's say but once a guy's super simp self has died there's no reviving it and once he hates the ex-wife

00:06:18.800 once he can't stand her i mean they might want to smash again like they might miss the glut glut but

00:06:24.340 get back together once he's seen like the hell that you've made his life that's what i see i could be

00:06:30.940 wrong i'm not but i don't really see this plethora of single dads like once they've gone through the

00:06:37.780 hell like many avoid the divorce and stay longer because they don't want to they don't want to go

00:06:42.320 through hell basically but once they've already gone through it they're not they're not doing this

00:06:47.060 again or wanting to be with her unless they're a super simp would be with her in a second if she said

00:06:51.920 come on let's go yeah nine out of ten times it's not the baby mom that's the problem i'm gonna tell you

00:06:56.920 that right now i'm cool as a fan i'm i'm cool as a cucumber i feel like i'm she is not cool as a

00:07:01.360 cucumber i would bet money really cool baby mom to have play some of these girls be doing their baby

00:07:06.800 dads that are like decent guys i feel like i'm cool like i'm the one you want to have on your side

00:07:10.660 i don't want either of my baby dads i can tell you that right now but oh she's got multiple i also

00:07:15.580 got my baby dad that's in jail texting me oh my gosh what is it do you know what guys i understand

00:07:25.740 that there's like a visceral attraction right like we can't really help the effed up things that

00:07:31.740 we're attracted to okay like the same way men can't really help that they're nicer to women with big

00:07:37.020 but big boobs big butt like they're just going to be nicer they're going to kind of like

00:07:41.580 they can't really help that we can't help that we're attracted to criminals right we can't but

00:07:47.060 could we not get pregnant by them anymore like okay if you want to have your fun

00:07:52.220 whatever i you know please don't clip that and make it seem like i'm encouraging this but

00:07:57.920 you're not going to keep women away from the ted bundy's of the world like they're going to want

00:08:01.320 to bang them but like could you not have a kid do you know and now she's saying i'm the type okay now

00:08:09.320 she she's had a kid with a criminal and thinks she's above single fathers and that she is not the

00:08:15.380 problem all right let me just i'll keep listening good night i love you

00:08:21.540 no sir

00:08:24.160 anyways you got information with a grain of salt

00:08:29.740 i will i most definitely will all right who's who's next my last client just sealed the fact for

00:08:39.280 me that i will never date a man with children and at my age most people got like grandchildren and so

00:08:45.140 i mean you think that at this day and age that these dudes would not be like still pursuing the

00:08:50.760 child's mother but they are this woman is 59 years old and she is just about to be in a new

00:08:57.680 relationship with this guy she met this dude he's super cool super sweet super like this guy loves her

00:09:02.060 right her oldest daughter happens to go to lunch with the father and the father's like you know how you

00:09:07.980 doing whatever catching up or whatever and he's like so how's your mother doing she's like oh good

00:09:11.580 she's you know on vacation here and he's like oh he's like oh that's nice he's like she haven't

00:09:15.820 found with her girlfriends and she's like oh no well she's with her man and she's with her new

00:09:19.520 boyfriend or whatever and the dad's like what you mean new boyfriend now meanwhile the father has

00:09:25.100 a whole wife and he says to the daughter how come she not home with with the girl you know with

00:09:30.200 with you guys it's like that sometimes i mean we're kind of like men's when men have a kid with us

00:09:35.300 we're like their favorite toy right and even if they don't really think they don't want to keep

00:09:40.780 the toy they still want to play with it whenever they want like they might they might only want to

00:09:47.540 rent from time to time but they're like that's my rental i have a right to this rental

00:09:53.880 and they do a lot of the time women cheat with the ex the ex-husband the baby daddy i mean let's just

00:10:02.900 call it what it is women will hate the father of their children and still sleep with them

00:10:07.440 and you guys are wifing up single mothers best best of luck somebody's doing it i know somebody

00:10:14.500 in this chat's done it guys how come she out doing her doing her things and she's not home with y'all

00:10:19.440 so then my client was telling me that this dude started acting funky with his daughter like trying

00:10:23.960 to get more information out of their daughters like daddy you good oh he ain't good they never get

00:10:30.220 over the baby mama that's why i tried to tell y'all i tried to warn y'all they do sometimes i mean

00:10:38.420 i i know i know the dynamic like

00:10:41.040 a woman that gives a man his first child is always gonna have some piece of his heart

00:10:48.160 unless she is a total raging bitch cunt and destroys his just you know destroys his self-worth

00:10:55.760 robs him ruins his reputation and then then he's like you know what you do have a piece of my heart

00:11:02.960 but i hate you you know once a man hates a woman once he gets to that point men put up with a lot

00:11:08.380 um yeah they're they're cooked this is not every situation but it's a lot it's enough for me to make

00:11:14.840 videos it's enough for people on the internets to make videos about it okay let me know in the

00:11:20.700 comments if you guys what do you guys think about that um for those of you that are divorced or had

00:11:25.760 a kid with someone put in the comments do you still love her on some level because she gave you

00:11:30.360 your first child or is she dead to you because she was a raging bitch if you're here i can't imagine

00:11:34.700 that you guys are still on good terms but hey that was perfect in every other way except for the

00:11:38.700 fact that he had kids i'm actually kind of sad about this one the crazy part is we went on a date

00:11:43.100 with each other probably like three years ago and at that time he did not have any i don't even

00:11:47.080 remember why it didn't work out necessarily and i was just kind of like hanging out with him again

00:11:50.800 just to kind of see where it went we went on a couple dates but i started to feel myself really

00:11:54.580 like him and i was like i know this isn't gonna work so i like didn't want to waste his time or my

00:11:59.700 time because it's like i simply cannot get over certain things that come with dating people with

00:12:04.840 kids i don't have any kids i could go and move anywhere at any time i can be spontaneous and take a

00:12:10.880 trip i can be spontaneous with my money and not have to worry as much because i'm not a parent

00:12:15.140 being serious with somebody or committing to somebody with children you take on certain

00:12:19.620 sacrifices that they take on and i'm just not prepared to do that at all i don't want to be

00:12:24.600 reminded of somebody's ex all the time because they're always going to be in the picture i don't

00:12:28.440 want to be with somebody that already shared certain experiences with somebody else that i wanted to

00:12:32.440 experience for the first time with them that's just how i feel i could have it's so crazy because

00:12:37.100 those are all valid like reasons valid like i personally i don't have any problem with women not

00:12:42.660 wanting to date guy with guys with kids that's a big responsibility and if you don't want to do

00:12:46.620 that like fine but men will give these same reasons like they don't want to deal with a woman

00:12:52.120 with kids because they want to experience things with her for the first time they don't want to be

00:12:56.260 reminded of the ex and it's world war three reasons why i refuse to date a baby daddy or i guess

00:13:02.480 i should say i prefer not before you say anything hear me out okay like i am a baby mother i am a

00:13:08.880 single mother of three so if a guy oh my gosh single mom of three do you know the childless women

00:13:15.920 it makes sense like you might just want to start fresh totally fine it's enough guys with no kids

00:13:21.060 that you could do that but why are single moms okay i'm gonna listen people are entitled to not

00:13:29.000 to date whatever they want to date and they wind them up alone but i don't want to be with someone

00:13:33.860 that doesn't want to be with me and i think a lot of you guys feel the same right who wants to be

00:13:39.540 with somebody that doesn't want to be with them right let them go i hears that or sees that and

00:13:46.360 they don't want anything to do with me that's a-okay pookie you know you can have your preference you

00:13:50.220 don't want to date a single mother that is a-okay like trust me i'm not taking that shit personal

00:13:55.680 so let's get into the reasons okay so first of all it's not just my own baby daddies yeah baby daddies

00:14:01.780 that are the reason why i don't want to date a baby daddy okay it's not just them they are part

00:14:08.600 of the reason but not entirely so speaking from personal experience from personal experience every

00:14:15.660 single time that i spoke to or talked to or dated a single dad or a baby daddy

00:14:21.480 every single time they ended up going back to their baby mother and the way it would play out

00:14:32.160 like women do the same look if people have multi-year relationships it's not really uncommon for people

00:14:39.920 to go back to where it's comfortable you want a woman with a low body count fellas guess who she goes

00:14:47.300 back to in between relationship and guess where she's going back to the second yours ends i hate

00:14:55.520 to break it to you depends on the age you matter right i'm there's some discrepancy here but

00:15:01.200 i mean there was a guy that called in to the it wasn't my show it was a different show and he met his

00:15:08.400 wife straight who was it oh it was gabby petito that's how she died gabby but that was what happened

00:15:16.620 gabby petito died um because her her new boyfriend was doing all this stuff for her and she was texting

00:15:23.900 her high school ex some dudes just get a hold on a girl she's theirs forever the second he wants to smash

00:15:32.140 now women it is it is a little bit similar like men will smash their ex-wife or whatever but like

00:15:43.560 they're not trying to wife her they're like i can i can do younger hotter better now but we don't we

00:15:48.580 usually don't get better options as we age i would be like i will talk this is when i was like single so

00:15:53.380 in between my baby daddies um every time i would talk to them you know we would date or whatever right

00:16:00.280 they would ghost me and i would be like that's kind of weird like we were texting all day every

00:16:04.340 day so i would go on social media you know figure out what's going on and make sure they're okay right

00:16:09.380 making sure they're alive and come she was not trying to make sure they're okay she was trying

00:16:14.080 to catch him doing something like that's always what we do we always do it under like concern where

00:16:18.580 we're like i just want to make sure you were okay she was snooping she was like what the f is this

00:16:24.060 man doing she looks latina i hear they get very angry to find out they're back with their baby

00:16:31.600 mother they'll be posting pictures of them and their kids or like them doing something um and i'm just

00:16:37.460 like dang he didn't even he didn't even tell her he didn't even dump her for dump her and not give

00:16:43.940 her a reason gosh god damn i thought you said you were single i i thought you and her weren't

00:16:50.060 but you and i were you and i what like the ick i got oh my god it was horrible i vividly remember

00:17:02.160 being so tempted to message them but then i was like you know what i'm not gonna be a homewrecker

00:17:06.440 this is already messy i'm gonna just step out right so i want to talk to them whatever and then

00:17:11.080 they would come back weeks or months or years later sliding into my dms and i would be like

00:17:16.340 um i would be straightforward to be like listen do not message me again she smashed him yeah

00:17:22.480 smashed yeah a guy that breaks her ego like that yeah she she'll do it um whatever we had it's

00:17:31.540 completely done go back to your family and if you said that after after they smashed she left that

00:17:37.560 part out me again i'm going to let your wife or girlfriend know whatever and then they would

00:17:43.860 either block me or just not um reply at all which is what i wanted and i wanted you to block me as you

00:17:51.260 fucking should as you should um but i don't know man it just it hit me the wrong way and again this

00:17:59.040 was in between my two baby daddies okay and so i just

00:18:02.200 got the utter old ache and i still do and i know you're gonna say it's not all men that like not

00:18:10.480 it's not all baby daddies i'm sure it's not i'm sure some baby daddies are truly fully broken up with

00:18:16.700 their exes and are just strictly co-parenting i'm sure they're out there but me every single time i

00:18:22.960 spoke to dated messed around with a baby daddy they always went back to their family every single

00:18:30.120 time and it's funny because my friends are always like oh like you know given your age um and because

00:18:36.940 you have so many kids you're probably gonna end up you know having like a stepchild or being with

00:18:40.800 another um like another parent like a dad and i'm just like um yeah i know and if they have a kid

00:18:48.640 most likely i'm not even gonna entertain the idea and it's not me being a dick it's just me having a

00:18:52.660 preference and just like i said they can have their she is allowed to have a preference i mean men don't

00:18:59.080 really want to be single fathers of three but hey i wish you luck out there there's always a guy that'll

00:19:04.080 do it um i would go for the 24 year old men that are very very desperate and don't know how good

00:19:10.300 looking they're going to be in 10 years that's what i would do now i'm not saying she should do that

00:19:15.300 but um or maybe maybe some super simp i you can go find go find one baby mamas are great at finding

00:19:23.440 super simps so i'm sure i actually don't think she'll have a problem i know you guys are like

00:19:27.660 she'll have no options you'd be surprised

00:19:31.100 yeah she'll get smashed and passed yeah she will but somebody will stay

00:19:37.100 she will get smashed and passed until somebody's like okay good enough

00:19:44.240 if they know that i'm a mother they don't want to date me because of that that's fine

00:19:48.440 my sister i was talking to my sister about this because she was also saying that i'll probably

00:19:52.700 like end up with a guy who has kids or whatever and i'm like no and she told me that her friend

00:19:58.380 said this to her i will not date a baby father or a baby daddy unless the baby mama is dead

00:20:05.640 and i was like they're so capping just you know when women say these things they don't mean it

00:20:12.200 because she's dated baby daddies in the past right so if they meant it like it wouldn't have happened

00:20:17.440 before like when you guys say i don't like fat chicks you kind of mean it although i'm kind of

00:20:23.860 amazed at what you guys do like it does amaze me what men will deem as not fat and i think it's like

00:20:30.980 an ego thing right like do you know what like i'll i'll see i'll show a guy a girl and i'm like

00:20:38.560 she's fat and they're like no no i mean she's a little chubby and i'm like are you kidding like

00:20:44.020 that girl is 50 pounds overweight she's 50 pounds overweight that's fat like i know we're in an obese

00:20:50.280 society but i'm just being honest here like that's fat um and i you know i've been fat right

00:20:55.880 you know i'm not even but even like and i know it because i'll show people an old picture of me and

00:21:03.500 they're like oh you weren't fat you were chubby no this is how you guys let us live in delusion no i

00:21:07.880 was fat like and i'm like i know because i saw my bmi and it was overweight that's fat like

00:21:14.800 anyways i get a little frustrated with this topic i'll keep going

00:21:21.320 i feel her i freaking feel her maybe i'll date a single dad who is a widow and this is nothing

00:21:28.860 see like this is just her rationalizing that she's mad because she's going to keep going back right so

00:21:34.380 it's kind of like when women are like i hate dating narcissistic men and i'm never going to date a

00:21:39.940 narcissistic who's her next boyfriend like what she's saying that she doesn't date like it doesn't

00:21:46.560 even matter so you guys can just kind of disregard like you really shouldn't when women say they only

00:21:51.860 date this this this and this i mean just disregard i mean they we don't mean any of it against the

00:21:57.380 girlies because i believe a girl before a man i'm just saying but um that's that's not smart i know

00:22:03.600 firsthand how baby daddies are again i have two i have two baby daddies um and they're exes for a

00:22:09.260 reason right also if you know me like in real life um and you talk to whatever uh with one of my

00:22:16.280 baby daddies i promise you me and him are done done done done so you ain't gotta worry about me

00:22:23.220 if you want to date him go ahead i can't speak on behalf of all the women but like i just want to

00:22:30.360 make that abundantly clear me my baby daddies no absolutely not that that's done she'll smash from

00:22:36.240 time to time but again given like personal experience with other people's baby daddies

00:22:43.760 it's gonna be a no for me dog i just yeah she'll be back um her next man oh it doesn't really matter

00:22:50.160 what they say anyways guys let me know what you guys think in the comments okay and let me know

00:22:53.900 what your experience is with the mother of your kids do you guys go back and smash from time to

00:22:58.560 time are you done zo cook do you hate her like was the divorce so bad that you won't touch her with

00:23:03.540 a 10 foot pole let me know like the video on your way out please subscribe to the channel ring that

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Pearl - April 26, 2025

This Is How Men Are SHAMED for Having Standards While Women Are REWARDED

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