Pearl - Modern Women Are Living In Their Car

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00:01:21.120 we don't party like we used to take me back to 1992 everybody's acting brand new

00:01:38.500 we're not looking across the room everybody is looking down on their phones no one's around

00:01:49.600 Yeah, we used to tear up the town

00:01:53.340 Now I don't hear a sound

00:01:57.260 People don't dance cause somebody's watching

00:02:02.640 Drink too much, everybody's talking

00:02:06.240 We used to rage like there was no stopping

00:02:09.960 So put your hands up, everybody's walking

00:02:13.660 Put your phone down and get on the dance floor

00:02:17.700 Shake that booty like you never did before

00:02:21.200 Look real steely, yeah, raise your hands

00:02:24.560 Let's get together, baby, just dance

00:02:29.320 We used to snap a Polaroid

00:02:44.980 now the whole night's on record i used to know who my neighbor was now we really don't do that

00:02:55.520 stuff we used to go out and ding dong ditch now that ring cam is the biggest snitch

00:03:04.000 now all these young kids do a stream on twitch 2020s are the biggest glitch

00:03:11.000 People don't dance

00:03:14.660 Cause somebody's watching

00:03:16.560 Drink too much

00:03:18.380 Everybody's talking

00:03:20.240 We used to rage like there was no stopping

00:03:23.820 So put your hands up

00:03:25.760 Everybody's walking

00:03:27.560 Put your phone down

00:03:29.400 And get on the dance floor

00:03:31.460 Shake that booty like you never did before

00:03:35.040 Look real silly

00:03:36.720 Yeah, raise your hands

00:03:38.500 Let's get together

00:03:40.520 Baby, just dance

00:03:43.180 Take a shot, baby

00:03:48.260 Get your move on

00:03:50.180 Relax, Stella, and get your move on

00:03:54.700 Take a shot, baby

00:03:59.320 Get your move on

00:04:01.180 Relax, Stella, and get your move on

00:04:05.020 There ain't nothing you can do wrong

00:04:08.760 I'm making you guys listen to the rest of this.

00:04:10.780 We don't party like we used to.

00:04:14.400 Take me back to 1992.

00:04:18.860 Everybody's acting brand new.

00:04:21.800 We're not looking across the room.

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00:04:28.220 Hello, everybody.

00:04:29.140 Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily.

00:04:31.380 I am your host, Pearl.

00:04:33.180 And I have come to these conclusions that I talk about on my show

00:04:36.540 through a variety of events in my life.

00:04:38.260 And one of those events was interviewing 1,000 women in London.

00:04:42.360 I know what you're thinking.

00:04:43.260 You're like, Pearl, that's an over-exaggeration.

00:04:46.100 You've not interviewed that many people.

00:04:47.920 Yes, I have.

00:04:49.320 Yes, I have.

00:04:51.640 And I hope you never have to.

00:04:54.740 So when I was 24 or 23, I think I quit my sales job.

00:04:59.500 So I was working selling copiers, and I was selling copiers door to door.

00:05:03.500 And I decided I wanted to be a YouTuber.

00:05:05.480 and I wasn't really sure what I wanted to do in the YouTuber space, but I've always known that I

00:05:10.840 love media and I've always been a curious person. So when I found the red pill, you know, it just

00:05:17.280 kind of made a lot of things in my life make sense. Maybe one day I'll tell you, I'll be more

00:05:23.540 open and tell certain stories, but I'll just say that to say the least. Now, what is the red pill?

00:05:28.520 The red pill is men sharing their experiences about women over the years in the forum. So

00:05:34.540 essentially all these guys were in forums back in the day and they would ask each other questions

00:05:39.460 like, how do I get my ex back? Why won't my wife sleep with me? You know, and it wasn't really

00:05:44.980 about morality. It wasn't really about, um, all it was, was about men being able to solve their

00:05:53.280 own problems. So one guy would say, try this and he would try it. And they basically came up with

00:05:58.260 these patterns of behavior. It turns out us women are just not that special. You know,

00:06:04.080 it turns out we kind of all respond to pretty much the same stuff. Um, you know, so, you know,

00:06:09.940 long story short, I ended up going to a PUA bootcamp and this PUA bootcamp, um, is essentially

00:06:16.160 where men pay to like figure out how to get laid. There's coaches there and they teach them

00:06:21.440 and instruct them how to like talk to women, just basic social skills. You know, Gen Z were really

00:06:26.440 behind. I'm not a Gen Z, but I'm two months away from it. If I was born two months later, I would

00:06:31.840 be gen z um and so there was a period um okay so i quit let me let me backtrack i quit my job at 24

00:06:43.220 25 ish um and i was gonna go play volleyball in england but in the meantime um my volleyball

00:06:49.580 season was um it was delayed by a year because of covid so during this time my dad said f it you

00:06:58.320 know um because it kept getting delayed by like three months and then six months so it just kept

00:07:03.240 getting like micro delayed and so it kept not making sense for me to go get a full-time job

00:07:08.620 again do you know what i mean like i'm like do i apply no i leave in like a month let me just spend

00:07:14.560 some time with the family before i go to england and then they would say no you come in three months

00:07:18.520 and i'm like well and so in the meantime my dad really encouraged me he said why don't you start

00:07:22.960 a tick tock account um why don't you go for it like you you love media i want to go for it

00:07:29.360 and i just could not get my eyes off of this red pill stuff um you know one video that really made

00:07:35.840 sense to me was rollo tomasi's alpha widow he never meet your heroes he was one of my favorite

00:07:42.400 youtubers back in the day but you know it is what it is but um he one of them and he explained how

00:07:52.960 women essentially get out widowed by the ghosts of their past.

00:08:00.400 So when there is a guy that she believes is the best she can do,

00:08:04.100 it doesn't matter the men that are in the future.

00:08:07.740 It doesn't matter the men that she meets going forward.

00:08:11.940 She will always compare the men of the present to that guy.

00:08:15.200 And if they're not as good, you know, you're shit out of luck.

00:08:18.740 And that's why these women will have these great guys but not appreciate them

00:08:23.180 because, you know, they're banging the chads, whatever.

00:08:25.540 But I noticed this phenomenon on my volleyball team.

00:08:27.980 I kept thinking, you know, women always have an ex that they just, like, can't get over, you know.

00:08:34.760 And I remember thinking this when I was on, like, the team

00:08:37.780 because I would see women that they would be dating a new guy,

00:08:42.240 but I just knew if this old guy came back into her life, she would be gone.

00:08:46.180 Nayski, not up, bounced.

00:08:47.540 now anyways um i know i know i might get another four hour stream because i mentioned his name

00:08:54.980 anyway so this translated i did this for about a year then i went to england and then

00:08:59.600 i had one of the biggest youtube shows in the country um i had a billion views on my

00:09:05.160 youtube channel before um it got demonetized and um long story short you know um

00:09:15.000 there was stuff in the red pill that I didn't think was correct like I didn't think women

00:09:23.020 liked I you know I thought they would say women like the bad boys and I would say no that's not

00:09:28.480 true not all women are like that and they were totally right um when I interviewed a thousand

00:09:32.480 women but not only interviewed them I knew these women in real life so I would see who they actually

00:09:37.160 picked. And, um, it basically proved everything that Myron Gaines said, everything that pretty

00:09:45.540 much Rolo Tomasi said, correct. And the older I get, the more I'm like, holy crap, these guys

00:09:50.980 were right. Anyways, long story short, um, we had the biggest podcast in England. Yeah, we did. No

00:09:58.020 one ever, no one ever took my place. And long story short, you know, where was I in my story?

00:10:13.220 I'm so sorry, guys. I get spacey. I'll see like a chat and I'll think of something.

00:10:18.400 But anyways, long story short. So I'm going, I'm one of the biggest YouTubers in the space.

00:10:24.280 I'm bringing on women. I'm debating every night. And then I made a grave. I don't want to say

00:10:30.500 mistake in my career because I really do think he's a good person. But I had on this YouTuber

00:10:36.340 and I'm not even going to say his name, but this YouTuber did get me into some hot water.

00:10:43.800 He, I really, he's a good person, but my gosh, he's very controversial. And I really learned

00:10:50.180 um anyways so I had him on and I had all the on all these controversial people right

00:10:55.360 and I ended up getting demonetized and I had to go back home I had to let go of pretty much all

00:11:02.680 my staff except for a couple um I and I had to move because I couldn't afford London anymore

00:11:08.540 and then it's great because now I get to rebuild and I get to rebuild a community that is YouTube

00:11:14.380 free. And you know, that's why I started the audacity network because I never want to be in

00:11:21.360 a position where I am relying on YouTube again. I don't want to rely on rumble. I want to rely on

00:11:25.800 my own app. And that's why I started the audacity network.com. And that is the second link. And

00:11:30.800 it's in the app store. It's 80 bucks a year. It is a, um, or sorry, it's a hundred a year

00:11:35.560 and it's um 10 bucks a month and it's essentially my goal my dream my dreams with it

00:11:43.600 i want to tell you guys the future that i see with this app so eventually i'd like to bring

00:11:49.260 on other youtubers but i have to really vet them and make sure they're not crazy i had

00:11:53.660 you know i'd brought in other people onto my platform before that have called me a colonizer

00:11:58.780 and i will just never recover from that i will never forget it that man traumatized me and one

00:12:06.060 day i might react to the video because it's so funny um yeah i know one day i might do it but

00:12:12.580 i have to get enough signups guys you have to remember every person on the network costs me

00:12:17.240 money because i have to put together a team to do their channel and i only have so much time

00:12:21.740 So if I had to guess, other YouTubers are probably a year to a year and a half away.

00:12:28.220 I don't foresee that being immediate, okay?

00:12:31.360 And maybe once a month we'll do panels.

00:12:33.780 So, however, for the time being, what I'm doing is I've built up this crazy network over the last, you know, interviewing a thousand people.

00:12:41.300 I have an insane network.

00:12:43.140 Like I've met billionaires.

00:12:44.860 And even just where I grew up, I know a lot of smart, intelligent, successful men that are not famous.

00:12:50.400 and men that are not famous have no incentive to lie to you because they don't want fame

00:12:56.300 and that's what I want to give you on the network is once a week starting in April I'm going to

00:13:04.100 bring on smart intelligent non-famous men to teach you about how they were successful in their

00:13:11.200 industry we're going to start internal because I want to make sure that we've ironed out the

00:13:16.720 details in April. So the first people that are going to do it is my moderator, Doug MPA. He has

00:13:23.440 a very well paid job. I can't say what industry, but it's very well paid. I'll just say that it's

00:13:31.120 very, he does very well. And so he's going to give a presentation for the young guys that want to do

00:13:36.120 that. He also can talk about, he works for the channel. So he also can talk about some of the

00:13:43.400 stuff he does for me. I'm going to also have my best graphic designer and editor for people that

00:13:49.940 want to get into that. He's probably I think the presentation he's going to give is on how to be an

00:13:56.500 editor and how to be a graphic designer if that's what you want to go into. Third, I'll have an SEO

00:14:02.760 guy that's going to come on. I might do how to network how to get in touch with people. I feel

00:14:08.720 a little bad because I'm a woman and it's so much easier for me, but I can tell you the strategies

00:14:13.360 I've used. And who else? What is it going to bring on? Oh, my producer will probably do one too.

00:14:23.280 I haven't asked him yet. He's on vacation. Thank you, God. Friday is my last day self-producing.

00:14:28.960 Thank you, God. But I'll tell you what, I'm only doing the price it's at now. This is going to be

00:14:36.380 an exclusive membership meaning i don't want a ton of people on it because i don't want you to

00:14:41.500 guys to bombard these guys these are going to be very smart intelligent men and i i need men that

00:14:47.340 are serious about this stuff so this week i'm going to leave it until sunday if you sign up

00:14:52.860 10 bucks a month um 100 a year i'm going to keep you guys as a thank you for signing up early

00:15:00.040 and being you know my first month in um because i will keep you guys as my og members like you

00:15:08.780 guys will have a lifetime membership into this program but that is just this week and then it's

00:15:16.200 actually going to be expensive i i don't know the price point yet but i promise to god the people

00:15:21.380 i'm going to get for you you will not be disappointed you'll just have to trust me

00:15:24.960 you'll have to trust me so you know and if you guys you know i am one of the most resourceful

00:15:31.420 people i know if there's someone you guys want on the channel i'll go get them i promise to god

00:15:37.140 well i'm not a miracle worker but if i can't get them i'll get someone very close okay

00:15:44.460 i don't want to i don't want to make i'm not a fake promiser so also on the app i'd like to

00:15:50.800 bring back. And I was just talking to some film producers. So my first step is my documentary.

00:15:56.200 I know you've been hearing about it forever, but when you get demonetized, you have to move

00:16:00.340 countries. Um, and you get, I mean, it's just been a hell hole the last year when you get your,

00:16:07.960 you gotta, you get very swarmed. Um, I had to let go of a ton. It just became a mess,

00:16:13.500 but we're back on our feet now. It's going really well. So, um, I do see movies being in the future.

00:16:19.840 hopefully we can bring back nine non-gynocentric movies and I want step-by-step action plans

00:16:26.120 assuming the law has never changed for anything I want to give you guys the tools to navigate

00:16:31.940 the current society so I want to work with men that have created really good tools for 2025

00:16:38.460 and have some sort of group access I don't know how I'm going to do it yet but

00:16:43.380 that's that's my plan with the app that's my um that's my what i want to do in the future so

00:16:50.140 the link is in the description it is the um i believe it's the audacity it's the audacity

00:16:55.580 network.com and you can get it on both app stores if you just type in the audacity network

00:17:00.260 so i need to switch one setting really quick so before i do that i'm gonna play this song

00:17:09.180 and then we will get into today's topic but yeah you're gonna have to listen to my mixtape one more

00:17:17.120 time while I switch this and oh I do see music in the future I do want to create I want to rewrite

00:17:24.800 non-simp song so I want to do instead of I should have bought you flowers and held your hand I want

00:17:33.340 to be i want it to be i don't need no flowers don't need to hold your hand i don't need you

00:17:42.620 i don't need all your hours because you're a hard-working man i don't need to party i don't

00:17:50.060 need to dance i'll do all the things i should have did when i was your woman you see it's like it's

00:17:57.100 re it's re they said no not again i love music okay music is coming into this show whether you

00:18:04.380 like it or not i don't care i don't you say pearl i don't want to hear your mixtape you're hearing

00:18:10.980 my mixtape you're hearing it the mixtape is coming and i think this is such a well-written

00:18:20.960 song i don't care yeah we don't party like we used to take me back to 1992 everybody's acting

00:18:33.140 brand new we're not looking across the room everybody is looking down on their phones no

00:18:44.200 one's around yeah we used to tear up the town now i don't hear a sound

00:18:55.240 people don't dance because somebody's watching

00:18:58.920 drape too much everybody's talking we used to rage like there was no stopping so put your hands up

00:19:07.800 Everybody's walking

00:19:09.580 Put your phone down and get on the dance floor

00:19:13.480 Shake that booty like you never did before

00:19:17.080 Look real steely, yeah, raise your hands

00:19:20.500 Let's get together and baby just dance

00:19:37.800 We used to snap a Polaroid. Now the whole night's on record. I used to know who my neighbor was. Now we really don't do that stuff. We used to go out and ding dong ditch. Now that ring cam is the biggest snitch.

00:19:59.940 Now all these young kids do is stream on Twitch

00:20:03.160 2020s are the biggest glitch

00:20:06.880 People don't dance cause somebody's watching

00:20:12.400 Drink too much, everybody's talking

00:20:15.960 We used to rage like there was no stopping

00:20:19.640 So put your hands up, everybody's walking

00:20:23.400 Put your phone down and get on the dance floor

00:20:27.320 Shake that booty like you never did before

00:20:30.920 Look real steely, yeah, raise your hands

00:20:34.360 Let's get together and baby just dance

00:20:39.000 Take a shot, baby, get your move on

00:20:45.920 Relax, get your groove on

00:20:50.880 Take a shot, baby, get your move on

00:20:57.020 Okay, I also want to say thank you to the people that signed up.

00:21:25.340 So before I get into the topic, which I will get into, I want to say thank you.

00:21:30.580 I will announce you if you signed up.

00:21:32.380 So I got a seven.

00:21:35.100 Thank you for signing up.

00:21:36.680 I got a Christos.

00:21:38.680 Thank you so much for signing up.

00:21:42.860 Okay, that wasn't a sign.

00:21:45.400 Who else do we got?

00:21:46.300 We got Dean.

00:21:47.060 We got a yearly membership.

00:21:49.500 Yay!

00:21:51.360 Thank you guys so much.

00:21:53.100 um patrick thank you so much um big s thank you so much stuller thank you so much jason i appreciate

00:22:05.940 you um let me see what else we got

00:22:12.120 okay wait wait wait it's it gives me um a notification when people give me their

00:22:23.860 email too so i'm trying to just read the oh we got a ben we got a yearly membership

00:22:29.300 okay that was all from last show thank you guys so much i appreciate you um okay let me

00:22:38.080 okay let me pull up this up real quick also guys hit the like hit the like button if you can't hit

00:22:51.080 the if you can't join the website let's let's hit the like button okay i also want to check

00:22:58.160 if my ipad is working today sometimes some days this thing works i think today it's too bad today

00:23:05.820 is one of the days that it's not okay so modern women fought for the right to live life on their

00:23:14.900 own terms you know most modern women make it a mission to prove they don't need a man they want

00:23:20.400 to do everything alone they go to some expensive school to get a degree that no one cares about

00:23:26.240 and get a job that's not going to make them a lot of money the stats show that women still make less

00:23:31.800 than men across the board that doesn't stop them from buying cars they can't afford, living in

00:23:36.140 apartments they can't afford, and defaulting on their student loan debt. So what happens when all

00:23:41.580 of these bills come due and they can't afford it? They end up homeless. Some women can live in

00:23:47.340 shelters, but there's only limited space. More and more homeless women have found themselves

00:23:51.620 having to live in a car. There's over 100,000 people in the United States living in their cars

00:23:57.540 in LA alone. There's over 60,000 homeless people. 16,000 of those homeless people live in their

00:24:04.940 cars and 46% of those people are women. The number rises every single year as housing becomes more

00:24:11.820 and more expensive. That is what we're going to talk about on today's show. Modern women living

00:24:18.080 in their cars. Poverty is the number one reason why so many women live in their cars. Not having

00:24:23.880 enough money to pay for the expenses of life has become the norm for too many Americans,

00:24:29.280 especially women. Living in a car is considered the best worst option for many women. Many homeless

00:24:37.060 shelters are dirty, loud, and lack resources. There has been a rise in women's living in a car

00:24:43.020 lifestyle, and these women actually choose to stay homeless, often documenting their journey

00:24:48.480 on social media hashtags like car life and van life have grown in popularity since the pandemic

00:24:55.200 so i'm going to first read an article about why so many americans are living in their cars

00:25:04.000 i do have a personal story about when i lived in my car i think i'm going to go through all these

00:25:09.760 women's stories and do mine you know sometimes guys i go through the modern woman life cycles

00:25:14.960 right and i think oh i did that you know i'm not they'll always say you know you're modern

00:25:21.440 i'm like well i live in 2025 i don't know what of course i'm modern do you know what i mean

00:25:28.240 it's like i i'm i'm you know i'm it's 2025 baby so you know this thing is making me sign up i

00:25:39.600 can't put a card on live oh i hate it when they make me pay freaking okay i guess i can't read

00:25:45.840 this article well i guess we'll skip it okay so we're gonna watch a video first

00:25:53.920 oh wait hold on okay so we have a woman talking about how to live in your car and why you should

00:25:59.680 want to now ladies i have actually not for a long period but i have lived in my car and i will show

00:26:06.640 you video evidence it's not they're lying to you okay they're a lot this is not what it's cracked

00:26:14.480 up to be okay so this is the eighth month i've been living out of my car and what a crazy

00:26:19.440 experience it's been i'm currently considering getting an apartment because my car is nearing

00:26:23.920 the end of its life and i don't want to buy another before i do that though i thought i

00:26:28.240 would share the pearls of wisdom i've acquired during my months in my home on wheels if you're

00:26:34.160 you're thinking about living in a car by choice, then read on. This is all of the wisdom I've

00:26:38.440 gained from my time living in my car. Why live in a car by choice? This is a valid question and

00:26:46.600 everyone will likely have a different set of reasons. I'll share my personal rationale with

00:26:52.120 the hopes that you can discover your own. The number one reason for me is money. I really don't

00:26:57.480 make that much of it. And I have other financial priorities in life beyond just paying the landlord

00:27:03.160 an electric company. When I've previously rented apartments, most of my paycheck would go to bills

00:27:09.120 and there would hardly be any leftover for the things I actually cared about.

00:27:14.020 I'm trying to get my student loans paid off and travel the world.

00:27:17.620 I have to get creative to make that happen because getting a $1 an hour raise once a year isn't

00:27:23.920 helping. Being able to travel and hike is my main priority in life. You know how they say like

00:27:31.060 women rank men seventh in their priorities and you're like what could they put above men

00:27:35.460 hiking yep since moving into my car in january i've gotten to explore about 10 different states

00:27:42.080 and make two international trips it would have been financially difficult to make all of these

00:27:47.240 trips happen if i had to pay rent and utilities this is a big way to readjust my present priorities

00:27:54.220 in order to achieve my long-term goals i feel more motivated to get things done in the morning and i

00:27:59.820 wake up and make some coffee on the hood of my car. I feel ready to start my day and get out

00:28:04.820 into the world. When I used to have an apartment, it would often take me hours to feel motivated to

00:28:10.240 leave and seize the day. It's much easier to make things happen when I'm already sitting in the

00:28:15.120 driver's seat, literally and metaphorically. Now that we've established the why of living in my

00:28:20.260 car by choice, let's move on to the how. Oh God. Guys, I promise you ladies, this is not

00:28:27.660 all it's cracked up to be okay but we'll we'll we'll follow this train of thought

00:28:33.660 all right use what you have and get it organized get a setup that you like one of the main purposes

00:28:43.580 of living in your car is to save money so don't go buy a new sprinter van find a way to make it

00:28:49.220 work with what you've got so you have a small car can you take out the back seats or open up the

00:28:54.500 trunk into the front. Problem solved. If you have a truck, then get a camper cover so you can live

00:28:59.180 out of the back. If you have an SUV like me, just fold the back seats forward. Consider building a

00:29:06.440 platform in your car. You can sleep on top of it and have extra storage space below. I never built

00:29:13.060 one because I don't have the tools for it or the know-how. Also, I like being able to sit all the

00:29:17.740 way up when I'm hanging out in my car. Platforms usually stop you from being able to do that.

00:29:22.260 sleeping arrangements get yourself something to sleep on i just use the same inflatable

00:29:27.800 sleeping bed that i use for backpacking and camping another good option is to buy a memory

00:29:33.700 foam pad don't forget your pillow you'll probably want some aspect of privacy while sleeping in your

00:29:39.380 car and hanging out in the car one suggestion is to sew your own curtains i bought fabric

00:29:44.520 and velcro at joanne fabrics and used my mom's sewing machine the whole project took an hour or

00:29:50.620 So these are the far, these are by far the best and most useful, most personal touch

00:29:57.140 I've ever made to my car.

00:29:58.560 Make it feel like home.

00:30:01.320 What else can you add to make your car feel like home?

00:30:04.180 While you probably don't want to keep every piece of memorabilia in your car with you,

00:30:09.760 one or two things won't hurt.

00:30:11.460 I have a t-shirt quilt that I made myself in my childhood teddy bear that I keep by

00:30:16.120 my sleeping spot.

00:30:17.500 I have a dashboard collection of all the cards, notes, and photos people have given me.

00:30:22.700 Just a few personal touches will really help it feel like your own space.

00:30:26.800 One of my favorite small things I have is a solar lantern.

00:30:30.100 My car battery gets drained quickly, so I don't like using the overhead lights.

00:30:34.380 My lantern is just a small, inexpensive touch that makes me happy.

00:30:38.480 I have a backpacking camp stove that I use for coffee, hot water, and simple meals.

00:30:43.680 I'm honestly not too creative about cooking for myself while I live in my car.

00:30:47.500 I usually just go to the grocery store and buy salads and sandwiches.

00:30:51.080 I also stock up on snacks so that I don't need to cook such as bagels, fruits, and bars.

00:31:00.540 However, I have car dweller friends who love to cook, so they don't let living in a vehicle hold them back.

00:31:09.360 I've seen cooking setups that are complete with two burner Coleman stoves, cast iron pans, and Yeti coolers.

00:31:15.540 they're hanging out at a camp spot frying up the breakfast burritos in the morning if you want to

00:31:21.020 cook for yourself you can definitely make it happen said why didn't mom let me stay well the

00:31:26.560 story i'll tell you guys the story about how i i ended up in this car and i'll tell you it's not

00:31:33.920 that i'm going to tell you this at the end it's not that simple it's pretty funny so i'll get to

00:31:39.640 it i would never live in a car well i thought i thought it was a good idea at the time marcus

00:31:44.400 Okay. I'm okay. Showering and hygiene. I live in my car in one place, so I have a gym membership.

00:31:50.180 My membership is $35 a month, and I also work out while I'm there. But that would be a lot if I was

00:31:56.160 only going to shower. If you have no interest in working out, try a $10 a month place like Planet

00:32:01.700 Fitness. I have a friend who lives out of her car in Durango, Colorado, and she keeps a punch pass

00:32:06.920 for the ymca it's four dollars a punch which is an entrance fee to use essentially anything

00:32:14.120 it's a lot for just a shower but she tries to pair it with a yoga class when she goes

00:32:20.040 then it's worth the four dollars if you're on the road a lot you won't have the luxury of a gym

00:32:25.980 membership many truck stops state parks and local centers will have a coin operated showers keep

00:32:33.640 change in your car and find a shower a few times a week or a few times a week or less if that's your

00:32:39.680 style um okay where to go to the bathroom i like to camp on public land so i can pretty much pee

00:32:50.360 wherever i keep baby wipes and a trash bag in hand for this purpose as far as you as far as when you

00:32:57.520 got to do more than just pee get used to living in public restrooms for this purpose get used to

00:33:03.220 using public restrooms for this purpose. You can even plan your campsites around where there will

00:33:08.580 be restrooms. Lots of trailheads and parks have them available. Laundry. This is an easy one. Go

00:33:13.900 to a laundromat. I don't have a ton of clothes and I'll wear the same outfit a few times before

00:33:18.560 washing it. So I usually only have to do laundry every other week. Keep a dirty laundry bag in

00:33:24.680 your car so your clothes are organized. Also, I like Tide Pods for detergent. They're more

00:33:30.220 expensive but it's worth but it's so worth it because they don't take up much space and i

00:33:35.520 wouldn't want detergent to spill in my car for wi-fi i like to utilize the public library everyone

00:33:42.720 always seems to forget that those exist but i go there all the time once you've worn out your

00:33:47.100 welcome at the coffee shops try out a mcdonald's they generally have really fast wi-fi and the

00:33:51.540 employees don't seem to care in the least but if you order one coffee and stay there for five hours

00:33:57.200 if you order one coffee and stay there for five hours i've used i've used that before

00:34:02.420 if you need to use a lot of internet for work or school you can oh wait you can get an unlimited

00:34:12.680 data plan and just hot spot with your phone i like verizon because they have lots of plans

00:34:18.660 to choose from and i can do prepaid and not sign a contract sometimes i like to download a tv show

00:34:24.580 during the day charge my laptop up and watch it at night on my campsite i have some van dweller

00:34:30.780 friends who used to park beside the grocery store stream shows with the grocery store wi-fi at night

00:34:36.320 and then drive somewhere when they were ready to sleep they also did all of their shopping at the

00:34:41.600 grocery store so it's morally balanced out finding places to sleep while road tripping perhaps the

00:34:49.540 biggest concern while living in your car is where to sleep one of my favorite resources is free camp

00:34:54.580 sites.net you type in your current location and they find free camping close by usually on the

00:35:00.880 forest service or blm land and give you a detailed directions to get there sometimes it's hit or miss

00:35:07.300 but i found a lot of really great campsites via that website most walmarts will let weary travelers

00:35:16.000 sleep in their parking lots for a night you can also look for residential neighborhoods that

00:35:20.680 aren't too fancy. You don't want the police knocking on your window. I try to avoid sleeping

00:35:25.680 at rest stops when I'm alone, which is most of the time, since they are typically right off of

00:35:30.640 the interstate and countless cars come and go at night. Living in your car in one place. Find a few

00:35:37.120 reliable spots. What about when you want to live in your car in one specific area? This is interesting

00:35:42.460 and challenging because you can establish more creature comforts, but you also have to stay on

00:35:48.420 your toes. As far as sleeping goes, put effort into finding a few spots where you can sleep

00:35:53.040 overnight legally. National Forest or BLM land is ideal. Bonus point if any of the locations have

00:35:59.340 bathrooms. Get a storage unit and a PO box. Since southern Utah is my actual home, I have more

00:36:05.560 belongings than I would if I was just road tripping for a couple of months. I have an outdoor gear for

00:36:10.980 both summer and winter conditions, regular clothes for summer and winter, and all of my backpacking

00:36:16.140 gear. This is too much stuff to comfortably keep in my car. And so I also have a storage unit for

00:36:24.060 $30 a month. Sometimes I need to order stuff online or my family wants to mail me things for

00:36:31.880 these occasions. I have a P.O. box which costs $30 for six months. Not a bad deal. Stay on top of the

00:36:38.820 boring stuff. Make sure your car insurance is up to date and you have all the important documents

00:36:43.220 on hand i mostly camp in the middle of nowhere utah so i've never had a problem with the police

00:36:48.260 i am a conventional looking white girl of course i did it too so there's probably some privilege

00:36:55.940 involved there additionally keep your card looking tidy throw any empty containers

00:37:01.300 immediately don't keep illegal drugs in your car it's easy to get lax once you've lived in your

00:37:05.380 car for a while but remember it's not as private as you might think it is making money even though

00:37:10.900 this is cheaper than a normal lifestyle it's still not free you will need some money to put gas in

00:37:15.460 the tank and pay for essentials if you're keeping your car parked in one town you can maintain a

00:37:21.140 local job if you do want to travel around i would recommend seasonal work work i wrote an entire

00:37:27.060 guide to seasonal jobs that you can read it's good it's a good jumping off point to learn how

00:37:32.260 to work and travel don't think it's just for 20 year olds either i've met people of all ages

00:37:36.980 in all walks of life while working seasonal jobs i would recommend watching the movie nomadland i

00:37:44.420 found it to be a very realistic portrayal of what living and in a car and working seasonally is

00:37:49.540 actually like the films show the film shows both the struggles and the fun times most of the

00:37:54.980 characters are 50 plus years old which i find to be refreshing the lifestyle isn't just for bright

00:38:00.180 eyed young folks living an instagram worthy life i know a lot of people live in their cars and do

00:38:05.940 remote jobs as well i don't have a lot of experience with this and can't really give

00:38:10.340 advice on the topic but i do know that's an option out there here are some of the things

00:38:14.980 i like to keep on hand while living in my car you might find them useful as well or you may

00:38:20.340 not be into any of them don't feel you need to spend a lot of money but also keep yourself

00:38:24.900 comfortable so she listed like wet wipes um what is it called when you can like your car battery

00:38:32.260 dies the cords for it a yeti a big water bottle um the cooking instruments okay it says be kind

00:38:43.920 to yourself it's easy to get burnt out of this lifestyle it's not all instagram photos and

00:38:48.920 freedom especially if you're doing this because of money struggles i felt the most down on myself

00:38:53.180 when my car was having problems and i had to take it to the shop i ended up on my friend's couch for

00:38:59.260 three days while i waited for it to be fixed stressed the entire time my car was literally

00:39:04.060 my home so i had to pay to fix it but i didn't know if it would be too expensive to do so

00:39:09.100 sometimes living in your car is so much fun i'll go on road trips with absolutely no notice

00:39:14.540 i'm stoked that i actually get to keep most of my paychecks for things that are important to

00:39:19.500 me like my travel fund then on the other other times i feel like a broke bum it's a roller coaster

00:39:26.140 for sure. My best advice is to take care of yourself physically and mentally. It's the only

00:39:30.700 way you can actually sustain your car long-term. Would you live out of your car or have you? I

00:39:38.860 would love to hear your story in the comments, guys. Like the video because I might have to get

00:39:43.880 up to do a switch in a second. Oh no, I have one more article and then the videos. Okay,

00:39:50.600 so this is an article from business insider move over van life tiktok influencers who live in their

00:39:58.660 cars say they can cook shower and do it all while traveling now if you saw my screen this is like a

00:40:05.660 very happy looking woman and i'd like to say i promise you they're not that happy i i just

00:40:13.600 I lived it for a very short period. Okay, I'm going to get into it. And I had a better car

00:40:23.520 than most, I'll say. Okay, while van life has been a hot pandemic trend, a car living often

00:40:31.520 bears the stigma of homelessness. While over a million followers between them, these TikTok

00:40:36.560 influencers hope to change that perception. They say they love the freedom, flexibility,

00:40:41.520 and proximity to nature that car life brings from viral social media outlets to oscar-winning film

00:40:48.880 nomadland the van life phenomenon has earned a lot of attention in recent years

00:40:54.360 in 2019 the census bureau estimated that there was over 140 000 americans living in vans

00:41:02.060 recreational vehicles or boats up from 102 000 in 2016 and the remote work boom sparked by the

00:41:09.480 pandemic has likely pushed that number even higher the hashtag van life started in 2011

00:41:15.400 by author and filmmaker foster huntington now has 12 million posts on instagram but amid the

00:41:22.500 photos of road warriors spending thousands to trick out old volkswagen campers and dangling

00:41:27.620 the keys to shiny new rvs you'll find a smaller community of nomads who are choosing to live life

00:41:33.420 out of their sedans or SUVs with only minor adaptations. Largely composed of women and

00:41:39.840 non-binary travelers, this group roams the country alone with none of the creature comforts of

00:41:47.200 larger vehicles using TikTok to document their day-to-day on the road. While car living often

00:41:53.380 comes with the stigma of homelessness, they hope to turn the narrative on its head by proudly

00:41:58.020 opting into car life. There's a lot of misinformation around why people are actually

00:42:04.440 homeless and why people are choosing an alternative lifestyle, even if they have an income and

00:42:09.240 if they do money, says Brooke, who lives in an SUV with their dog, Pippa, on her TikTok

00:42:14.100 account, which has over 72,000 followers. They answer questions about where they go

00:42:19.820 to the bathroom, how they prepare meals, and why they made the choice to live in their

00:42:23.900 car. It's a conscious choice. Hit that like button, guys. That's a conscious choice. Okay.

00:42:31.060 For most of these now nomads, their decision to hit the road was a pipe dream made possibility

00:42:35.920 because of the pandemic. When the world seemed to shut down in March of 2020, it gave them the

00:42:40.720 push they needed to start their adventures. Brooke owned a small hair salon that had to close its

00:42:46.920 doors when the pandemic first hit, which they took as a sign to hit the road. Grace of no perfect

00:42:53.680 plan who has been living in her toyota forerunner since may 2021 said that having a remote corporate

00:42:59.680 job allowed her to easily transition into the nomadic lifestyle some of the travelers said that

00:43:04.960 they faced pushback from their friends and family who questioned their decision to move into their

00:43:09.600 cars sarah who chronicles her car living journey for 1.4 million followers on tick tocks that her

00:43:15.360 parents didn't take the news very well where i came from that's not a thing that people do or

00:43:20.960 that people know of other people doing, Sarah told Insider. It took weeks to years for my family to

00:43:27.900 finally get to the point where they trust me to watch out for my own safety now that I've handled

00:43:31.960 everything. While you're in your car, you're literally forced to be outdoors. Like most people

00:43:36.880 looking to travel the country, the influencers interviewed by Insider initially considered living

00:43:42.120 in an RV or camper van. All three declined to share their last name, setting concerns about

00:43:49.240 online harassment and potentially being followed while traveling brooke and pippa initially moved

00:43:54.920 into an rv in august of 2020 but after pippa had a medical issue that necessitated pricey care

00:44:01.960 brooke sold the rv to switch wait brooke sold the rv and switched to sheila a 2004 honda crv in may

00:44:10.760 of 2021 while this wasn't brooke's original plan it ended up working better than they imagined and

00:44:16.440 and they found they didn't miss all the headaches the RV's amenities caused.

00:44:22.260 I didn't have to deal with the plumbing, propane, solar, and all the crazy things you have in an RV, they said.

00:44:27.480 I can just pop it all in the car and park wherever I need to go.

00:44:31.800 Sarah, too, had originally planned to travel in the van,

00:44:35.020 but after a long period of saving money from seasonal jobs to buy one,

00:44:38.820 she opted she decided to opt for a 2006 ford escape outfitting it with a cube shelf for

00:44:46.700 storing her belongings in an old mattress actually i'm going to show you guys the

00:44:51.460 pictures this will take a second i gotta switch it

00:45:08.820 yeah so we got you know it's kind of a white woman thing and i think it's because us white

00:45:17.640 women a lot of us grew up going to national parks you know um i certainly did um white guys are just

00:45:27.900 very outdoorsy they like to adventure they like to hike and so that's what i would put it where

00:45:36.000 we get these crazy ideas we're like we can't afford to do what we did growing up you know

00:45:41.580 live in the car okay one day i pulled out of my apartment and left sarah said it was the biggest

00:45:47.940 road trip i ever did and i was terrified to do things by myself but it ended up being one of

00:45:52.900 the most liberating things ever since then i wonder if there'll be a serial killer someday

00:45:58.560 that realizes the opportunity of all these homeless women in their car i don't know if anyone

00:46:03.500 i just thought of ted bundy that's what i thought of it okay since then i've driven across the

00:46:10.240 country four more times okay all three travelers interviewed by tiktok um are inner oh my gosh

00:46:17.940 all three travelers interviewed by insider have grown substantial followings on tiktok by

00:46:23.540 showcasing their destinations and how they equip their cars they constantly field questions about

00:46:29.920 how they sleep mattress embedded in their cars cook handle held stoves and go to the bathroom

00:46:35.280 outside or in public restrooms and shower memberships to planet fitness or other gym

00:46:40.320 chains tick tock is a good way to show the everyday grind of road life grace said on tick

00:46:46.800 tock live videos i'll go just i'll just go about my everyday tasks like meal prepping my food

00:46:52.560 people are genuinely so curious that i don't even have to say a word so yeah she's in a van

00:46:58.560 well how many men have lived in a van and no one cares it's like white women do it and

00:47:04.100 business insiders like we must document we must document this while tiktok itself doesn't provide

00:47:12.620 much profit for their car lifers it has helped direct followers of their youtube pages where

00:47:18.720 they post more in-depth content that they can monetize social media has been so profitable for

00:47:24.340 me and most of my income comes from there. Brooke said, I wouldn't have monetized my YouTube channel

00:47:29.780 if I didn't have people ask to support it. TikTok and YouTube have also helped car lifers form a

00:47:36.480 community. Some of my best friends I met on the internet, says Sarah, who's met up with fellow

00:47:41.080 car lifers to catch a sunrise or sunset when they cross paths. Harassment is a risk. It's like,

00:47:48.820 this is what women do okay they go on the internet right and they document and i accept i accept this

00:47:56.660 as a risk and we buy guns okay f around and find out do you know what i mean um

00:48:03.280 and um then they're like ah harassment i'm like what you're on the internet anyways although

00:48:17.360 TikTok has allowed car lifers to normalize their choices, they have encountered their fair share

00:48:22.340 of hate online. Women and online hate, it's like men get hate their whole life and they don't

00:48:30.100 complain. Women go on the internet, which is a public forum, and then they get mad that they get

00:48:36.760 complaints. Old men and women have come into my chat saying, why are you homeless? Are you

00:48:43.260 homeless, Brooke said. They don't listen to what I'm saying. I mean, you are homeless. It's kind

00:48:48.080 of like what it, okay. Despite her being fully self-supported, Sarah says her trolls have accused

00:48:54.940 her of using daddy's money. I mean, you're a white woman. Come on, can we just, okay. She's also

00:49:03.840 endured sexist comments. People will say, what's wrong with this girl? You're crazy if you think

00:49:08.200 you can do this all by yourself. Why don't you travel with a man with you?

00:49:18.180 She looks exactly how I thought she would look. Like she looks like all the women in Colorado.

00:49:24.740 The digital harassment has made TikTokers wary when it comes to their physical safety.

00:49:30.120 Many post content only after. I should do a life cycle by race.

00:49:34.580 this might get me in trouble but like because i do think white women black women hispanics and

00:49:40.520 asians take different life cycles you know what i mean um anyways uh many post content only after

00:49:47.680 they've already left a destination they carry weapons for self-defense and satellite phones

00:49:52.140 in case they have an emergency in a location without a cell phone signal

00:49:56.080 sarah put an nra sticker on her ford so no one would suspect she was a woman traveling alone

00:50:04.680 Brooke, who's non-binary, said that they try to avoid looking feminine presenter,

00:50:09.720 oh, of course, by wearing baggier clothes, sometimes avoiding towns they think would

00:50:14.860 not be friendly to LGBTQ plus people.

00:50:18.180 Some of the car lifers acknowledge that white privilege helps make their safety on the road

00:50:22.180 possible.

00:50:23.320 If anything, I would think you would be less safe.

00:50:25.940 Like if I was a robber, I would definitely go for the woman that looks like this.

00:50:30.840 Like that would be my target.

00:50:32.340 or me, you know, when I was van life. Okay. And they also might not have the same ease if they

00:50:40.420 were not white. Ultimately, I feel that being a white traveler does come with an extreme amount

00:50:46.880 of privilege, Brooke said. I can guarantee I've had less conflicts with locals or even police

00:50:52.240 as the result of existing as a white person. Well, I could say I was thinking of it from a safety.

00:50:58.080 Yeah, I would say if you're black, that's probably going to be more of an issue with

00:51:01.860 police i will acknowledge i will acknowledge that you know some white people will pretend there's no

00:51:07.460 discrepancies ah there probably is you know but i i do think the white people are more likely to get

00:51:15.780 robbed because i would if i saw a white blonde girl and i was yeah safer from police harassment

00:51:22.100 yeah i mean but but again if i was a i mean i think if like you're gonna get who is most likely

00:51:28.820 to be harassed by police or like profiled obviously black guys are going to be at the top um

00:51:37.780 i do think white men are going to be harassed more i think black women and white women like

00:51:42.820 white women will be at the bottom black like i i don't know i i do think that they're going to go

00:51:47.380 for the men first um i i do anyways i can guarantee i've had less conflicts with locals or even police

00:51:57.780 as the result of existing as a white person i know that with all my safety measures i have to

00:52:02.740 consider my skin color ultimately draws less attention despite the potential for harassment

00:52:08.660 car lifers say this experience has made them stronger and more assertive and more likely to

00:52:13.060 trust their gut the ability to simply drive away from bad situations helps too you need to be able

00:52:18.740 to set boundaries with strangers and it's going to be uncomfortable sarah said as a woman we're

00:52:23.780 taught you need to people please and be so kind and so gentle. But when you're out there traveling

00:52:30.500 in an unknown city, an unknown place by yourself with nothing but a centimeter of glass and metal

00:52:36.860 as your protection, you have to be assertive and set boundaries. Their time on the road has been

00:52:42.620 life-changing. For car lifers, one of the biggest benefits of the lifestyle is the ability to be

00:52:47.580 close to nature. For someone with depression and ADHD, throwing yourself into nature and forcing

00:52:52.960 yourself to get out of bed in the morning because the sun is up is the perfect combination for me

00:52:58.220 brooke says all three travelers said they recognize their lifestyle isn't for everybody

00:53:03.140 they encourage people to try to live to try to try car living out fully before committing to it and

00:53:10.880 stressed the fact that it comes with sacrifices but if you're willing to give up creature comforts

00:53:16.940 traveling the country doesn't require a fancy van or a tiktok account it's easy to craft your own

00:53:22.580 journey women love journeys and you don't have to share that on social media grace said if people

00:53:27.860 want to live their life and save money it's totally doable okay um now we're gonna watch

00:53:38.100 this video hi yeah this is gonna be white women we're i mean look at so i gotta be honest black

00:53:47.000 women and white women, we have different flaws. You know, I see a lot of, I know Doug, Doug will

00:53:54.620 say that like, and I am not saying this, but I don't even want to repeat it because I don't want

00:54:00.640 to get clipped, but he'll, he'll have some choice words, Doug MPA, um, you know, about, about the

00:54:10.160 black women, but white women and black women just have different tactics. Okay. And different dumb

00:54:15.680 things that we do, you know, different. So I'll give you an example. Okay. So white women,

00:54:24.680 we're really the ones, like if you go into a gender transition clinic, that's white women.

00:54:31.800 White women are the ones transitioning these children. I mean, I don't really see black

00:54:36.220 women messing with that. The white women are really, like black women, they really put their

00:54:42.980 aggression up front. So up front, they'll say, you know, they're going to be more like have a

00:54:49.880 slicker tongue than a white woman. Let's say like that, you know, they might cuss you out or

00:54:54.420 something, but they're showing you that aggression up front. The white women show you that aggression

00:54:58.760 in divorce court. Yeah. See, Doug MPA is saying American black women are the worst women on the

00:55:06.780 planet not all but maybe 80 percent doug mpa i don't know

00:55:10.380 white women you know it's just we're a little thinner and we have that like white woman innocence

00:55:18.480 but there we do just do different dumb shit okay we do different dumb shit

00:55:25.420 um now one of the dumb shit is van living now i've done that dumb shit and i will tell you

00:55:34.240 this story but i'm gonna we're gonna get through these and i will and i will tell you guys the

00:55:38.760 van life story i'm christine and this is my old and blind best friend chase the dog we traveled

00:55:43.880 white women love dogs i i haven't found i do see black women with the pit bulls i do see that more

00:55:52.760 but like i i think white women are the ones getting eaten out by dogs

00:55:58.460 there was a woman i lived in this apartment complex in milwaukee

00:56:03.340 and this woman i guess would put peanut butter down there this was a white woman

00:56:08.320 i mean i don't i don't need to explain it um

00:56:14.280 do you think that women are worse people in general i can't say that on youtube baba

00:56:20.180 i can't sorry i've been ignoring the live chat on the website make sure you guys put pearl reed on

00:56:25.900 the website i don't see any right now um where's your piano i have to get that piano in the back

00:56:35.380 fixed i do have one but i bought it on facebook marketplace and i got ripped off i have to get

00:56:40.700 scanned um yeah anna says i almost ended up living in my car at one point because i couldn't find a

00:56:50.700 place that allows me to bring in my 80 pound Husky and golden retriever. I found a place at

00:56:56.140 the buzzer, a golden retriever. You're a white woman. That's my guess. Maybe she's not, I don't

00:57:05.300 know. Um, but yeah, I mean, we just do different dumb shit. It's like kind of different bait,

00:57:13.040 like, you know, the, and they're all women will adopt each other's dumb shit, like different

00:57:20.020 racist like you see the the black girl that like adopts white women's dumb and you see the the

00:57:26.340 white woman who adopts black women's dumb i mean we all got dumb like dumb that we did

00:57:31.380 does that make sense you know like the kardashians i mean they kind of adopted

00:57:39.540 the like the fashion of black women you you got you guys know what i mean um

00:57:50.020 so but white women like black women will live in their car because they're actually homeless

00:57:57.020 white women will live in their car for fun for fun um

00:58:03.980 people definitely spend beyond their elite means but it's getting incredibly high

00:58:11.420 the makeup of a basic household has gotten more expensive 30 years ago we didn't have to have an

00:58:17.760 internet bill or a cell phone or have multiple TVs um are you and Donovan going to try to retry

00:58:23.840 your stream when your producer returns Ben yes Donovan's coming back on but I didn't want to do

00:58:29.700 that again and I I was a little embarrassed about struggle stream um I deleted it for a reason

00:58:36.080 because I got really pissed and I found that and I really didn't want to do that again um so I was

00:58:42.100 like, I'm just going to wait. My guy's almost back. Um, I would argue that nobody needs that

00:58:52.340 now. I'm more of a minimalist. You sound like a white woman. I'm going to, I'm going to guess

00:58:56.600 white. Um, that's because of the social stigma, the subject. She said, F and right. I'm a white

00:59:03.400 woman. I knew it. I know my ladies, you know, reminds, um, this subject reminds me of my four

00:59:10.420 trips to burning man i think unlimited sex lots of bitches and non-stop party and drugs all night

00:59:16.440 long their pussies stank and nearly impossible to find a shower in the desert guys i've never

00:59:21.900 been a festival woman um that's never been my thing i can't i'm trying to think what races i

00:59:27.480 haven't seen that seems to be like any woman that can afford it will go to the that's that's what

00:59:34.600 i've seen west living out of my suv searching for adventure food and fun if you'd like to be

00:59:39.320 our travel buddy then like see like that's like the first woman from the article but just in 10

00:59:43.740 years comment subscribe my wife considers our german shepherd one of her children to me it's

00:59:50.840 just a dog turn on notifications join our patreon or youtube membership community for exclusive

00:59:56.200 perks and content hi guys i think it's time i share with you a little bit more about myself

01:00:01.040 i'm usually a pretty private person so i've been hesitant to give away personal details to the

01:00:05.480 entire internet. However, I am trying to build a like-minded community on this channel and I feel

01:00:09.580 like in order to do that, I need to give you guys my history and why I do what I do. So here goes.

01:00:14.360 Even as a child, I was really independent and liked being in control of my own world.

01:00:18.840 I would pitch a tent in the front yard and live out of it so I could be on my own. I've always

01:00:22.880 been motivated to learn and grow. I've consistently set goals for myself since I was a little kid.

01:00:27.560 Thankfully, I had a great childhood with wonderful parents that gave me a good foundation for life.

01:00:33.100 I started out adulthood, very career focused.

01:00:36.280 I tried college, but it didn't.

01:00:37.620 Yeah.

01:00:38.620 So the thing about white women, and I'll tell you why white women lose to Latina women.

01:00:43.540 And they don't lose often because the Latina, if you look at the obesity rate, you guys

01:00:47.460 got to hit the treadmill.

01:00:48.720 Not that, I mean, white women, we do too.

01:00:50.240 We all do, but I'm just, by race, it's like, you guys are second to last.

01:00:55.420 But when they do, I have seen Latinas beat out the white women.

01:00:58.580 when I see it, it's generally because white women, we're kind of like, we're kind of raised like

01:01:04.960 boys, you know, sports are really important to white women, um, job, like making a lot of money,

01:01:12.520 you know, that's kind of like in white communities, what is valued, right. Um, where Latino women,

01:01:19.160 like white people don't really have, like, we don't cook like other races. It's not really part

01:01:26.880 of I mean American white people don't really have like cultural food you know it's just feel right

01:01:34.560 so that lasted less than two semesters I was drawn to sales because it seemed exciting and

01:01:38.880 had yeah white women go into sales and I was I was one of them high income potential I started

01:01:43.440 selling security systems and I moved my way up in that industry for over a decade I really enjoyed

01:01:48.300 my work but I also struggled with the constant rejection and pressure to me also thank you Alex

01:01:53.400 for signing up. A yearly membership. Bye. Afro. Thank you so much also. Quotas that

01:02:05.000 comes with sales. Also sitting at a desk in an office for most of the week didn't feel

01:02:09.240 right either. Hey, coworker, if you could get that urgent thing to that important guy

01:02:16.100 by the expedited deadline, that would be great. Thanks. Despite the stress, I performed well

01:02:22.820 and on the outside i was succeeding i was blessed to be part of an amazing family i started dating

01:02:27.940 a really nice guy when i was 20 and we stayed together for 16 years he has a daughter and a son

01:02:33.060 who i had the pleasure of seeing holy crap 16 years grow up into wonderful young adults i claim them

01:02:38.820 as my own and i refer to them as my kids together we had a four-bedroom house on four acres and a

01:02:44.660 rental property i had two cars one of which was a sporty red convertible oh my gosh is she gonna put

01:02:51.220 oh no did she leave the relationship what happened to buy most of the things that i wanted i had a

01:02:58.260 high income but i also had high expenses my finances were paycheck to paycheck which goes

01:03:03.300 against my nature because i really like to save and plan for the future it was only 16 how is it

01:03:10.180 against your nature having all of the things that i thought would make me happy that i realized

01:03:14.260 that's not where my happiness lay i know it sounds cliche we are happy through chaos but i have to

01:03:19.540 really experience something myself to fully understand it i had felt the pull towards

01:03:23.380 minimalism since watching the movie into the wild and oh no see this is what happens we watch a

01:03:28.340 documentary 2009 but i suppressed it to pursue material success because i thought that was the

01:03:33.860 only way to be secure and happy something started to shift when i turned 30 though i strongly desired

01:03:39.620 to create a life that had peace and felt right to me i was being drawn towards downsizing and

01:03:45.060 shedding the things that didn't feel like me anymore i sold my convertible and i started

01:03:49.060 making plans to spend less and travel more i quit my sales job to become self-employed in 2016.

01:03:55.060 since then i've had a few businesses the largest of which was a corner store that i owned with my

01:03:59.380 partner during my time as a business owner i've experienced great success and okay tell me that

01:04:05.060 she's still with him but she just does this for fun massive failure please god i've learned a

01:04:10.820 lot about myself through those experiences i know now that i don't like having employees overhead

01:04:15.780 or the stress of a brick and mortar business.

01:04:18.240 I've found that I do best on my own with a small operation.

01:04:21.460 After my partner and I amicably split ways in 2021,

01:04:24.900 I moved into my van in my parents' backyard.

01:04:27.380 That way I could get used to living in a vehicle

01:04:29.100 while still in a safe environment.

01:04:30.800 The fall of 2021 is when I started traveling in my van

01:04:33.880 and started my YouTube channel.

01:04:35.480 My intention was to travel full-time,

01:04:37.380 but after a few months, I really missed my family,

01:04:39.460 so I came home for a while.

01:04:40.720 I'm still working towards what balance of family time

01:04:43.140 and travel feels right.

01:04:44.280 I stay with my family in Michigan often to spend time with them and get a break from the road.

01:04:48.600 The older I get, the more I fully understand that it's the people you love in your life that make

01:04:52.480 it worth living. Everything else is secondary. It took a year and a half to do, but I've finally

01:04:56.860 sold my houses, my extra cars, and all of my unnecessary possessions. I could afford to live

01:05:02.040 in a house, but I choose to live in my car because being free of all those material things has allowed

01:05:06.500 me to live a life of freedom and joy. I have very minimal bills. Ladies, don't. I'm telling you,

01:05:12.200 don't listen. I promise to God, don't listen. Go where I want, when I want. I have the freedom

01:05:16.980 to work on what inspires me at a pace that feels right to me. I've been working most of my life

01:05:22.080 and haven't traveled that much and I want to see more of the world. Okay, that is the one good part

01:05:27.240 and I will put this in. Traveling in a car is the easiest and cheapest way to do that. So much of

01:05:32.340 the first two decades of my adult life has been figuring out what doesn't work, but I feel like

01:05:36.940 I've gained a ton of wisdom from the many mistakes I've made over the years. Because of that process,

01:05:41.560 I've learned who I really am and how to create a life that feels right to me.

01:05:45.680 If the hard times were necessary to get here, then I wouldn't trade them.

01:05:49.120 I've learned that if something consistently doesn't feel right for a long time

01:05:52.440 and you've done your best to make it feel better with no luck,

01:05:55.380 then it's probably time to change your situation,

01:05:57.420 even if that means going against the norm of what most people do.

01:06:00.500 I'm not knocking the traditional path.

01:06:02.660 A normal nine-to-five and white picket fence is the right path for a lot of people,

01:06:06.560 and it was for me in the past. It's just not anymore.

01:06:08.840 it took many years of trial and error but i never gave up on creating a life that felt right to me

01:06:13.700 i still have a lot of hard times but i mostly live from a place of peace and that feels really nice

01:06:18.580 so my hope in sharing my stories on youtube yeah she's lying please to the women all right i'm

01:06:26.160 gonna i'm gonna talk about all right now we have a woman living in her 2006 honda accord

01:06:32.000 fitness parking lot i start by getting dressed and then the longest part of my morning routine

01:06:40.200 is always taking down all of my window cover my 2006 honda accord and this is what it's like to

01:06:45.380 wake up in a 24-hour planet fitness parking lot i start by getting dressed and then the longest

01:06:50.360 part of my morning routine is always taking down all of my window coverings but they are essential

01:06:55.580 for sleeping in my car so i do it anyways then i climb over into the driver's seat and take down

01:07:00.400 window coverings there i actually already went into this planet fitness last night to take a

01:07:04.640 shower for all of you who say that i don't shower so this morning i can go ahead and leave straight

01:07:11.200 away and drive to panera bread but first the bathroom obviously um i used the restroom and

01:07:18.480 washed like your life is sitting in public coffee shop hands i brush my teeth in my car i don't know

01:07:24.400 like that's weird to show on camera i don't know why y'all are asking to see that

01:07:28.240 anyways now it's time to drink my hot bean juice to wake up and get some

01:07:34.840 computer work done so I use this as an opportunity to charge some of my

01:07:38.560 electronics and here I'm actually editing a YouTube video so if you haven't

01:07:41.920 already be sure to go subscribe over there yeah okay a woman who lives in a

01:07:51.000 oh wait I read that one already

01:07:52.360 then we got

01:07:55.100 cops are called on a woman who lives

01:07:57.060 in their car

01:07:57.740 oh shit no

01:08:02.800 what did I do

01:08:03.420 okay here we go

01:08:05.880 well it took a little over

01:08:08.860 a year

01:08:09.700 but I was finally

01:08:12.460 flagged at

01:08:14.380 one of the

01:08:16.840 places I

01:08:18.660 park at to sleep

01:08:20.900 at it's actually a place i park at probably the least but i just had a bunch of police officers

01:08:30.740 come and shine their lights and basically very nicely um asked me if i was living in my car

01:08:41.620 and basically very politely asked me to leave nonetheless I had to relocate so

01:08:52.120 I took a moment to kind of process that and

01:09:00.460 and this is more honest and i'm gonna i've lived this okay i've lived this

01:09:25.820 they could all get a husband they could all get on tinder

01:09:30.460 and start fucking until one guy likes him enough to keep him around i mean i mean let's just be

01:09:34.960 that's 2025 this is the truth you want them to go on traditional dates when they're living in

01:09:40.900 their car no it's time to fuck tries to it's time to throw that shit back

01:09:50.040 to the point i'm just really tired

01:09:55.940 also guys please go to the audacity network.com we just got another sign up what and someone

01:10:06.220 canceled their membership okay well you can't win them all okay thank you john for the sign up

01:10:12.840 but please please go to the audacity network.com and get a yearly membership we're really close

01:10:18.000 to be covering to covering our expenses here. And once I have enough for everybody, then we can be

01:10:23.360 in business forever. Then you guys are stuck with me for life, for life. And it's a cool app. It's,

01:10:31.660 it's very, it's, you know, the trailer for the documentary is going to come out soon.

01:10:37.280 I know I've, I know I've gaslit you guys a little bit on this. I had to switch teams. I don't want

01:10:42.300 to talk about it. The link to that is also in the description. If you want to donate,

01:10:45.860 um i'm just being i i um the next payment is another 10k and i think i'm at 12. so you know

01:10:58.660 i'm so tired

01:11:08.580 even more frustrating knowing like

01:11:10.660 Like, I actually have opportunities and offers out there to relocate and basically start

01:11:21.520 fresh somewhere else.

01:11:33.600 Maybe I should just go.

01:11:37.080 Maybe I should just pack up and leave.

01:11:40.660 you just hope i make it there somehow

01:11:47.020 don't feel bad at all i don't feel bad in the slightest

01:11:57.720 who feels bad one in the chat if you feel bad two in the chat if you do not care

01:12:07.020 i probably won't ever post this she did post it

01:12:11.020 um have a good night guys i'm going to log out this reminds me of my homelessness talk to you

01:12:18.140 later guys um sorry sorry fazelle i probably won't ever post this

01:12:25.580 but moments like this that make you

01:12:37.020 The moments that seem like they're breaking you, they're just making you to where you're

01:12:49.380 supposed to be.

01:12:58.060 I just want to sleep.

01:13:01.100 I'm going to lay down in a bed and sleep.

01:13:06.840 Oh, I look disgusting.

01:13:08.380 I have my pimple patch on.

01:13:10.980 You do look disgusting, but your tits are out.

01:13:13.520 You know what you're doing, bitch.

01:13:15.360 She's like, please, I'm for sale.

01:13:17.380 I have my pimple patch on.

01:13:19.220 Sorry, I got to stop swearing.

01:13:20.720 Oh, my gosh.

01:13:21.740 Oh, my gosh.

01:13:25.420 Oh, my gosh.

01:13:27.320 Why can't I be classier?

01:13:31.000 Oh, you got to stop.

01:13:33.640 I see what you're doing, lady.

01:13:37.900 I see what you're doing, chick.

01:13:42.460 I'm going to get better.

01:13:43.540 I'm going to get better.

01:13:43.980 I have my pimple patch on.

01:13:47.380 No one likes it when women swear.

01:13:49.400 Do you know what I mean?

01:13:50.640 It's all right.

01:13:51.680 Disgusting.

01:13:52.240 I have my pimple patch on.

01:13:55.240 Pimple patch.

01:13:56.020 How many divorced men are out there sleeping in their cars

01:13:58.620 that would care about these crocodile tears?

01:14:00.660 Thank you, Joel.

01:14:01.920 Thank God for this filter doing something.

01:14:04.400 Shit.

01:14:05.960 Anyways, I just wanted to document this

01:14:08.560 because maybe one day I'll be able to look back on this

01:14:13.400 and hopefully you see how far I've come.

01:14:26.020 Hopefully I will have healed from all of this.

01:14:32.700 Because I know I'm going to have fucking CPTSD trauma from this on top of everything else.

01:14:41.200 I love watching women cry.

01:14:43.000 I think it's so funny.

01:14:44.600 On top of everything else.

01:14:47.960 Just sprinkle a little extra trauma on top.

01:14:52.520 Yeah, I'm going to go on that note.

01:14:54.740 Oh, fuck.

01:14:56.020 God, please.

01:15:00.620 Please, please, please, please, please, please, God.

01:15:08.780 Damn.

01:15:11.440 I should do a show called...

01:15:13.000 Doug, put this in our arsenal.

01:15:15.440 I want to do a show called Women Crying on Camera.

01:15:21.400 Okay.

01:15:21.880 now i'm gonna tell you guys my car story so let me let me get this video yeah okay so this can

01:15:33.820 make this full screen okay this was me when i my first had a tiktok account they did delete this

01:15:41.720 tiktok okay actually let me let me tell the story from the beginning so okay this was in the time

01:15:49.280 um after I quit my job so I was working a sales job and I quit to play volleyball overseas

01:15:54.960 my goal in YouTube was never to have this big media conglomerate I just wanted you know it to

01:16:02.360 be like a it was like a hobby that took off it was fun I liked it um obviously I'm a woman I mean

01:16:08.000 so I was I did do the modern woman life cycle of you know has a good job and quits it I quit it for

01:16:15.540 a volleyball career, but it ended up turning into social media. You know, sometimes guys,

01:16:20.680 I do things that modern women do and it just works out for me. I don't know what to tell you.

01:16:26.900 I don't know what to tell you. You know what I mean? Um, so Doug says he's Doug MPA says he's

01:16:35.000 got it. Women crying on camera. So anyways, when I quit this job, um, I really liked the idea of

01:16:44.900 van life and i wanted to show you the van life i was thinking of at the time you know it's no wonder

01:16:54.180 that brian did what he did because i've lived van life and he probably went nuts but see some of

01:17:01.620 these videos i've even seen before i liked the idea i would see these women on youtube

01:17:07.220 um oh the sad truth of quitting van life okay let's let's show this girl my glove compartment

01:17:17.300 and my roller blade so i just thought this looked really cool do you see this

01:17:24.260 this was what i was thinking when i thought van life

01:17:31.840 i'm gonna like 2x this so we can kind of scroll through this

01:17:37.800 so i was like oh this cute girl

01:17:42.660 i did not like snakes

01:17:46.760 which is a 1995 gmc vendor explore limited but first and foremost i just want to say

01:17:50.660 welcome to the first freaking video and the band's blue and that's because i was too cheap

01:17:53.960 to get the door jams repainted alongside the window i have these velcro dots i used to hang

01:17:56.380 my window covers up at night this is just a piece of reflectix with some converting

01:17:58.760 now the truth is she probably had men do this for her i just can't see her

01:18:06.040 i just wanted to okay i just wanted to bask in my own hammock i also 10 out of 10 recommend getting

01:18:13.000 a hammock word right here you can see where i sprayed the great stuff backwards and into my

01:18:16.760 eyeballs on top of it to just keep them so you guys see the vision right i just thought this

01:18:21.960 looked cool and i've always liked to travel and so inside of the back door this is a testament

01:18:27.960 to how well my partitions are working to help keep the inside insulated because it's keeping the heat

01:18:31.000 in through some really remote territory it's good to finally find a fuel pump

01:18:34.360 okay see it's like the guy's doing an adventure the woman's just showing off her cute area

01:18:40.680 this is like winter van life he's drive my van driving my van into the arctic

01:18:46.440 men versus women am i right um but here i want to watch why is everyone quitting van

01:18:52.520 i have been living out of our van for two and a half years i want to i want to watch this now that

01:18:56.720 i'm i'm here and then i will tell you the story bought this thing in 2019 with the dream of

01:19:02.460 driving it down to mexico in 2020 but hindsight is 2020 and we all know how that year ended up

01:19:08.600 turning out with all the border closures and uncertainty we weren't actually able to live

01:19:12.240 out that dream until winter of this year 2022 2023 and for the first time in the past two and

01:19:18.320 a half years we really got to experience the like hashtag van life that everyone seemed to be

01:19:22.420 talking about. Now that we're back in Canada, we have been talking a lot about bringing this van

01:19:26.460 life journey to a close. And it seems like so many people in the community that we've met over the

01:19:30.180 past couple of years are selling their vans. So the question is, why is everybody quitting van

01:19:34.780 life? Well, I do have some lived experience and insight on the topic, so let's talk about it.

01:19:42.000 It is really not hard to imagine why van life has captured the hearts and imaginations of so

01:19:46.940 many people. Living in a van provides a sense of freedom and simplicity that is hard to achieve

01:19:52.360 in traditional housing welcome to the chat chris pick up and go wherever the wind takes you without

01:19:56.200 the constant constraints of a mortgage or rent payments it requires us to really think about

01:20:00.520 what we own and really only live with the essentials and many people shed their material

01:20:05.160 possessions that they realize that they don't really need anymore all of that can be really

01:20:08.280 freeing for so let's talk about stability because obviously van life lacks stability

01:20:13.640 because ideally you're constantly moving around and traveling all the time and obviously living

01:20:18.760 in a van means you don't have a fixed address where you could receive mail or host family get

01:20:23.400 togethers or hold down a permanent residence in general this obviously can be difficult to manage

01:20:29.160 relationships hold down a stable job it can be hard for people who are dating and it can just

01:20:34.280 be hard for anyone who's living in a van to establish a stable routine additionally obviously

01:20:40.200 weather conditions constant change in laws and regulations is a big one and van breakdowns can

01:20:47.080 obviously disrupt the stability of your day-to-day life so while van life offers the freedom of the

01:20:53.560 open road it also requires a level of adaptability and willingness i guess to embrace uncertainty

01:21:00.440 and i don't think it necessarily has to do with like age per se um more so where you're at or

01:21:06.840 like what stage you are in your life and i have to acknowledge with this all this instability talk

01:21:12.040 some people all of this sounds like a nightmare but for some others all of this sounds kind of

01:21:17.080 dare I say fun. And Nick and I are some of those people that kind of want constant change. But

01:21:23.240 after some time certain others want to plant roots and have more of a stable lifestyle as they move

01:21:28.360 into the next chapter of their lives. Whether that means kids, new job, a new project, or whatever

01:21:32.760 that may be. Now to be quite honest for the two of us, for Nick and I, stability isn't what we're

01:21:37.520 looking for. And the real reason that we're quitting van life is that we are actually kind

01:21:42.440 of bored. I just want to like rewind and say that we've been living in this van for two and a half

01:21:45.760 years. That is longer than I have lived in any one home in my adult life. Van life can become

01:21:51.200 kind of boring with the repetitive nature of daily routines within a small living space and chores

01:21:56.140 or van life chores, such as filling up water, doing laundry at a laundromat, finding a shower,

01:22:01.840 loading up groceries more often because your fridge is so tiny, and other things like this,

01:22:05.580 like they do take a lot of time. Limited access to amends such as showers can get tiring and the

01:22:10.180 lack of privacy and the constant need for upkeep and constant organization. I mean, it can all just

01:22:15.140 become really tedious. And don't even get me started on trips to the mechanic, okay? That's

01:22:18.940 a whole other topic. I could make a whole video just on trips to the mechanic. And what was fun

01:22:22.940 and exciting to learn for us at one point in time just simply isn't our dream anymore. And all of

01:22:28.640 that brings me to the main reason why I think that people are quitting van life. Now, before van life,

01:22:34.620 and if you were a subscriber of this channel at this time, then you are a real OG because it feels

01:22:39.020 like it was forever ago now. Nick and I were international travelers. We traveled with nothing

01:22:42.920 but backpacks. And while we did buy our van in 2019 pre-pandemic, we did build it out in 2020.

01:22:49.060 And it honestly became kind of our COVID project. We always say this van is our COVID baby. And for

01:22:54.680 the past two winters, we have been surrounded by so many other van lifers that said their timeline

01:22:58.960 was kind of the same. It's undoubtedly true that van life boomed in 2020. For one, people actually

01:23:04.520 had the time to build out a van because people were laid off from their jobs or they were working

01:23:08.340 from home for the first time ever and then people who were already nomadic like us we wanted a home

01:23:13.380 because we didn't want to be living in our friend's basement but we weren't quite ready to

01:23:17.300 get back into the rental market we didn't know okay so i was watching videos like this

01:23:23.780 not the second one i was just curious that it was on there but

01:23:27.200 you know like these just looked really cool to me right i was like wow look at these cool vans and

01:23:36.500 And so what happened was after I quit my job, so I quit my sales job and I quit to go play

01:23:43.060 volleyball overseas.

01:23:44.440 Now COVID happens and my season gets canceled.

01:23:47.580 Can you imagine?

01:23:48.240 I quit my job to go do this volleyball thing and then everything gets canceled.

01:23:53.480 I'm like, oh, what do I do?

01:23:57.100 And one of the things I told my dad, my dad, he's such a great guy.

01:24:01.960 My dad is so pragmatic and he just, he doesn't care.

01:24:05.880 My dad always told me, he said, I don't care if you want to sell toothpicks on the side

01:24:10.180 of the road.

01:24:11.920 You need to find something you love and do it.

01:24:15.560 And he just, he would just encourage me to do like anything that I loved.

01:24:20.200 Oh my gosh, it was just crazy.

01:24:23.100 Tear up thinking about it.

01:24:24.900 Not really, but, um, and so I told my dad I wanted to live in a van.

01:24:31.100 Now my dad kind of looked at me and he's like, you.

01:24:33.800 And I'm like, yeah, dad, I want to live in a...

01:24:37.360 Now, I want to talk about the kind of person I am.

01:24:44.540 So I have a lot of strengths and weaknesses as a person.

01:24:48.920 I'd say a strength of mine is I'm just not a materialistic person.

01:24:54.620 You know, my boyfriend's even told...

01:24:56.140 He's even said I'm one of the least materialistic girls he's ever dated.

01:24:59.360 even though I come from a very like well-off family right um and I grew up you know so that's

01:25:08.220 like a good thing right uh but one of the things I'm not so good at is I am just not a handy person

01:25:13.820 and there are times where I do lack common sense okay I really do and um I just I don't always pay

01:25:23.980 as close of attention if I'm not really interested in stuff so you know my dad just could not like

01:25:31.220 you know he's like you living in a van but my dad is the type my dad will encourage you to do

01:25:37.020 something and he'll let you fail like the past year when my business you know was failing and

01:25:42.100 when I got demonetized my dad could have come in and fixed everything for me but he refused he said

01:25:47.560 no I'm not doing it and he really he really did let me fail um and I did fail and I'm actually

01:25:55.480 really glad it happened because now and I've I've gotten to the point where I'm I'm so glad it

01:26:00.540 happened because the way I've built everything up I will be set for life and I'll be good um as long

01:26:06.100 as we get enough members eventually which I do think we will I'm gonna make a really good product

01:26:10.520 I know I will um but so my dad I I grew up when I was growing up my family and I we went um on

01:26:17.220 road trips every summer we would take a month off and spend it as a family and we would road trip

01:26:22.180 to different parts of the country um and um we would do that every summer and it would be really

01:26:29.700 cool like we would go white water rafting i went like rock climbing um i don't know i just went to

01:26:36.420 all these like really cool places and um i kind of forgot wow and so but what we would do is we would

01:26:46.100 drive in a 16 passenger van or in a 15 passenger van 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 2 11 12 13 14 15 passenger

01:26:54.260 van or 16 i guess pat if you count shotgun and my um we would we had when i was growing up there

01:27:02.500 was six of us and we would drive to all like all over the country and go to like national parks

01:27:08.100 it's actually you know i was such a brat when i was a kid and i would always complain before we

01:27:13.220 went but whenever we went it was actually really fun um it was so fun and um it was cool too

01:27:19.460 because my parents worked a lot so that was like one of the times where i got to spend like a lot

01:27:23.300 of time with them you know and um yeah it was just like a really good memory sorry i'm like going on

01:27:31.540 tangent uh anyway so the the the van so we have this 15 passenger van it's like an old van and

01:27:39.220 my dad said oh here you go go ahead before we he's like he's like this is what he said to me he said

01:27:44.900 before we buy you um before we buy you like we help you and assist you in building like a camper

01:27:55.780 that you can drive around why don't you try doing it in this van why don't you test it out for a

01:28:01.540 a couple of weeks yeah and i tested it out i'll tell you so this was a tick tock i made at the

01:28:12.840 time i think i was 24 25 with this van this is where i've been staying as i've road tripped

01:28:20.120 across the country by myself this is a 16 passenger van we took out the back seats and

01:28:25.560 threw a mattress back here at night i cover the windows and find somewhere to sleep overnight

01:28:30.100 yeah okay so that's that's where i lived now um i'm gonna i'm gonna put the the i'm gonna tell

01:28:39.060 you why this was not all it was cracked up to be but i need you to give me a second i gotta fix

01:28:43.380 something. Um, yeah. Um, I don't know. So now this is my, my experience. Um,

01:29:13.380 this van life I was told to say I lived in a van down by the river okay so what I did was I drove

01:29:26.380 from Chicago and by the way this do you know how long this lasted this lasted like a month if that

01:29:31.940 but this was right after I quit my job this was in like October of 2020 um so I mean I had nothing

01:29:42.000 to do I had nowhere to be you know I moved home and my plan was to like move to England and I was

01:29:49.220 like oh I could live in a van for a couple months so I take this van and I drive down south and I

01:29:56.820 had like I stayed with a couple friends for a couple days and I would just drive to a couple

01:30:02.360 national parks now one thing I didn't realize was how much time and effort my mom growing up put

01:30:07.620 into organizing these like national parks. Like my mother, she really, um, would plan out every

01:30:15.420 inch of our vacation. And I'm not the most, or you guys have seen, I wish I was, it's something

01:30:20.640 I really don't like about myself. Like I really wish I was a neat, organized planning person.

01:30:28.700 Um, and while I have improved over the years, it is not really my personality. Um, I'm pretty

01:30:35.220 easy going go with the flow this can be a flaw um you know you get older you just kind of have to

01:30:42.580 accept the things you don't like about yourself my dad always told me that he said not to really

01:30:46.980 bother fixing things about yourself because they really don't change and just to do the stuff

01:30:51.620 you're good at so you know um the other thing too was um you have to remember if you if you're not

01:31:00.820 an organized person, the van gets messy very quickly. Um, and you tend to lose things like

01:31:08.520 under yourself. Like you'll be looking for something in the van. You'll be in the back

01:31:12.940 and you'll be like, where did it go? And you have to like, it like, I would rather search

01:31:18.540 all over for something than crawl through a car looking for something. Okay. They said,

01:31:28.060 Pearl can't cook well yes I can okay I'm I'm oh my I cook every day all right it's like

01:31:37.080 you guys are spurging in the chat okay so okay um you lose things okay the other challenge you have

01:31:49.360 is where to park at night now I tested a couple places to park so you can park

01:31:55.600 in national parks but for me i felt scared this scared me because if i it's tough right

01:32:04.720 because on one hand you don't want to be by people right um if you're by people

01:32:12.820 then like you're one of them's more likely to rob or attack you but being alone in the woods

01:32:19.380 i don't want to be the next person serial killed do you know what i mean i don't want to be next

01:32:25.100 not that i mean if someone's serial killing i mean this is 2020 men were a bit more helpful

01:32:30.840 back then you're like well maybe someone will step in and call the police or like save me

01:32:34.880 um but in the woods you know

01:32:39.100 so the woods scared me now i opted i did try that one night but i just got freaked out the other two

01:32:46.700 my i did a truck stop but there's some sketchy characters at truck stops

01:32:51.680 and um the one night i was at the truck stop like someone got too close to the car and i got freaked

01:32:59.780 out and it's worse because when you're in the back of the van you're like afraid to move you

01:33:05.840 don't like i don't i don't know like i don't know what's on that and then sometimes i would hear

01:33:10.700 something on the outside and it was just something random but you know it it was um i just got scared

01:33:19.300 you know and um the other my favorite the place i picked the most was walmart or target or like

01:33:27.860 big places parking malls or um like places open 24 7 parking lots but the problem is

01:33:34.980 they have trucks that come in the morning and they just beep and so they would wake me up at like 5

01:33:39.940 a.m i chose the bear from the woods look i was not getting porked by truck driver ew

01:33:49.300 um all right whatever so now a lack of yeah you can't really be a night owl which i kind of tend

01:34:03.200 to be naturally uh because you know shit will wake you up the sun and you know the there you

01:34:11.720 just hate the lack of privacy you know you have to cover the windows and I just didn't love that

01:34:19.980 I don't love covering the windows like every time you change you kind of get nervous something will

01:34:25.680 fall and then sometimes you want to change for five minutes then you have to go cover the windows

01:34:30.280 and then so I did this whole road trip right and I realized at the end of the road trip I did the

01:34:36.840 math on how many times I filled the tank and I realized that I could have just flew and rented

01:34:42.720 a car and okay the car rental would maybe be more expensive but I could have lived in a car like

01:34:49.700 stayed in I realized it wasn't that much cheaper I could have just flown and rented a car

01:34:57.060 um and also i hated parking such a big van i'm not i'm an okay driver i'm like the type of driver

01:35:09.400 i don't take a lot of risks you know i'll just i'll just do my i don't really want to

01:35:15.660 drive unsafe but i'm not that good either i'm okay i'm not bad um like i i've i haven't had

01:35:23.380 speeding ticket or an accident since i was like 16 16 for the accident 19 for the ticket so you know

01:35:32.820 um i did like that i couldn't forget anything i am pretty forgetful so the fact that i couldn't

01:35:37.700 forget anything was pretty nice um yeah doug can you tell them i can cook i made doug food when he

01:35:44.020 he was here. Doug MPA, Doug MPA. Tell them I can cook. Okay. Um, or I'm, I can hold my own. All

01:35:56.180 right. Um, you know, you can save on rent. However, you know, I would just rather stay

01:36:10.000 in one place and not live like that. That was my conclusion. Um, and have a better quality

01:36:15.780 of life. That's really, that's what I concluded. Um, but if you're going to do it the way I'd

01:36:23.660 recommend doing it is between a job. So if your lease is over and your job is over and

01:36:29.920 you want to travel for six months, um, I think that's a cool way to do it, but there has

01:36:36.860 to be an end date indefinitely hell no hell no that was my conclusion

01:36:43.280 said don't be nice doug be honest doug mpa

01:36:49.920 no i'll tell you what i couldn't cook at all like four years ago

01:36:54.880 but i'm pretty good now i'm pretty good uh let me read the the network membership signups um

01:37:03.020 Okay, wait. Oh, I want to go to the website chat. Let me go back.

01:37:14.460 Oh, Chris, thank you so much for the donation. You're awesome. Thank you.

01:37:19.040 how do you explain to your employer that you took two years off to live in a van

01:37:35.360 I mean if it was me I would just tell them I mean if they said why did you take time off I'd say

01:37:43.680 well because if I lived in a van if I did that full-time I would do it very cool I would come

01:37:50.340 back with stories that would be very I don't know if this would help an employer I'm just telling

01:37:55.500 you what I would do I would say I would put it on my resume and I would say two years off van life

01:38:00.820 and I would like I mean how badass are you gonna sound if you like I made it a halfway up um

01:38:07.180 devil's tower when I was a kid which is like a plateau in the middle of the desert

01:38:10.700 I wish I feel bad I made the whole group come down because I couldn't make it I was like 10

01:38:16.780 but if I made it to the top

01:38:19.660 I mean

01:38:23.920 that would be I mean I would look pretty bad like if you come back with some very cool stories that

01:38:32.400 aren't just the problem is people when women travel they travel so boring when I grew up

01:38:37.940 and I haven't traveled as much. The travel I've done the last decade, I will admit,

01:38:43.260 has been kind of boring, but it's only because I've been working. But if I'm going to travel

01:38:48.060 for fun, I want to hike something. I want to do something. Like, I think you would sound pretty

01:38:56.640 cool um hey dad is that billy shakespeare down by the river but you know chris farley was one of

01:39:08.640 the greatest comedians of all time and this might be one of his best skits the van by the river skit

01:39:14.320 was great should i play it should i play the ran band by the river skit i don't know you tell me

01:39:21.760 guys if you were hiring maybe my dad can answer should i call him and ask him how he would do

01:39:29.280 okay let me call him i don't know if he's asleep i hope he's not asleep i'm gonna ask

01:39:38.960 i have a quick question

01:39:42.320 if you were hiring someone and they told you they took two years off to go adventure for two years

01:39:51.040 and like lived in a van would you think it was cool to hire them or would you dock them for it

01:39:59.760 um does it matter how old they were so if they were young is it okay but if they're old then it's

01:40:08.400 not okay like 40 like he had he had like he made some money before and then he said i'm old i have

01:40:19.360 some money i want to go live in my van and like adventure for two years and now i'm back in the

01:40:23.680 workforce would you what would be a situation that you would dock them for

01:40:39.440 no not jail no like i meant like what van life situation would you

01:40:44.400 just like would you make would it make you second guess like hiring them

01:40:49.360 oh if they didn't have that so it's either they have to be like broke and like young or they have

01:41:00.160 to like have made enough money to be able to do it it can't be like irresponsible essentially

01:41:05.200 okay

01:41:14.560 okay okay

01:41:18.480 yeah i know that was a mistake but it's okay okay well i was doing i'm doing it what

01:41:30.560 i wouldn't but i'm i don't know i was wondering if you would

01:41:35.580 oh for well i know because i was a a semi-pro athlete like no i wouldn't i mean i think although

01:41:45.600 over a certain age maybe like because some of the athletes make it to like their mid 30s and 40s and

01:41:52.200 it's just they can't hang it up so at that point you have no work experience but you know if you

01:41:59.540 hang it up after okay but okay i gotta finish my show but i wanted to know okay thanks bye

01:42:05.580 okay so my dad says he wouldn't as long as it's done responsibly so you can't just be like

01:42:17.460 living in your car

01:42:20.320 he told her that her van time was a mistake no he didn't tell me it was a mistake

01:42:27.140 he just let me fail do you know what i mean i don't have the personality for it like if i was

01:42:33.040 to do it i would need a like the guy with me like i could do it with my brother my my little brother

01:42:39.900 adam i mean he he very well could live in a van but he has the skills he could fix the stuff he

01:42:45.900 could like i i don't have the skills nor do i really want to learn how to like fix stuff i'll

01:42:51.600 fly i i fly i'll fly van life just delays adulting hey guy fax my dad my dad said he'd respected and

01:43:02.900 my dad probably is cooler than any of you. Here's the clip, Pearl. Oh, you want me to watch

01:43:11.840 the van life by the river? Okay, I'll put it on. I'll go switch the van life by the river.

01:43:20.480 I'll go switch the thing over there. Hold on.

01:43:32.900 Oh, this looks cool.

01:43:53.600 Do you see like this?

01:43:54.580 I could totally see.

01:43:55.640 I've been to Alaska, too.

01:43:59.680 See how cool that looks?

01:44:01.200 see i'm wanting to do it again i'm one do you see what i mean

01:44:05.480 see women it's so funny you can literally just hook up with guys that do this and take you on

01:44:15.200 these crazy adventures oh it's hilarious i liked that one thank you guys well guys that's all i

01:44:22.800 got for you today um we're not doing a call in um but thank you guys so much for watching

01:44:30.760 um I don't know let's see I'll do a show Thursday Friday and maybe maybe Saturday Sunday we'll see

01:44:39.280 we'll see because I'm here this weekend but let me know what you guys think in the comments like

01:44:43.560 the video and I love you guys so much thanks for watching I really couldn't do what I do without

01:44:48.260 you um let me check one more time to see if we had any signups dang it that's okay well I love

01:44:56.820 guys thanks for watching and um i'm gonna end the stream so i'll see you guys tomorrow bye

01:45:26.820 Thank you.

Pearl - March 06, 2025

Modern Women Are Living In Their Car ｜ Pearl Daily

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