Pearl - February 07, 2025


Mother in Laws Ruin Their Daughters Marriage


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14 minutes

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2,259

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176

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47

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16

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In this episode, I talk about how a mother manipulates her family to get exactly what she wants. I also talk about the ways a mother overreacts and overreacted in order to get her way.

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00:00:00.500 So today I want to talk about how mothers manipulate families. 0.96
00:00:06.360 Now before I get started, guys, if you want to support me, go to theaudacitynetwork.com.
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00:00:31.040 Okay.
00:00:32.560 So the thing we have to understand about society is most families have domineering mothers. 0.94
00:00:39.500 And women cannot, women don't have physical dominance to exert over people. 1.00
00:00:49.600 So they have a couple tools of manipulation to get what they want.
00:00:53.740 So number one is, is over-exaggerating things or over-reacting.
00:01:00.940 So that's what you get.
00:01:02.360 You get a mother that if the house has one thing wrong, she'll freak out and it's World War 0.95
00:01:08.920 Three and everyone has to go on eggshells. 0.93
00:01:11.780 Two is she manipulates another man into getting her way that oftentimes is backed up by the 1.00
00:01:16.720 state.
00:01:17.140 And three is manipulating groups against each other.
00:01:21.300 And we're going to get into all of these.
00:01:22.800 So there's a reason we have a phrase like happy wife, happy life.
00:01:28.760 And this is essentially when the mother is pissed off, everything is frozen in the house.
00:01:34.500 The mother controls the progression of a household based on her emotions.
00:01:39.180 Now there's a couple ways that she manipulates people. 1.00
00:01:42.300 Now, as you guys know, men make more money than women.
00:01:45.480 Women have a tendency to marry men that make more money. 1.00
00:01:49.180 So she will monopolize time and resources in the household. 1.00
00:01:53.900 They'll go on vacations.
00:01:55.300 They don't need vacations are for mothers, not fathers.
00:01:58.400 If a family travels a lot, it's not usually because the father wants to.
00:02:03.060 It's usually because the mother wants to. 0.97
00:02:05.140 They live in a house bigger than the father wants.
00:02:08.280 They have the latest trends and fashion that the mother wants, not the father wants. 0.93
00:02:13.360 And again, the dad is a workhorse.
00:02:17.020 He's not legally able to take away her credit card.
00:02:21.020 And so he's forced to pay for her Amazon boxes, dinners going out that they don't need.
00:02:27.180 I'm even hearing about stay at home moms paying for daycare. 0.97
00:02:30.460 You have one job.
00:02:36.620 Okay, so I want to talk about the common phrases that mothers use to manipulate their kids. 0.97
00:02:43.320 So number one is I am going to die one day.
00:02:46.760 So if you do anything they don't want, they will remind you I am going to die. 0.96
00:02:52.580 Everybody is going to die.
00:02:54.540 I think mothers get off. 1.00
00:02:57.920 I really do.
00:02:59.320 I think they get off on like thinking about people at their funeral and the attention being on them.
00:03:06.500 And everybody just looking back and saying how amazing she was and regretting any art.
00:03:14.980 Like in their head, if she dies one day, they'll regret.
00:03:18.840 They'll look back at every argument and just take her side. 0.99
00:03:22.480 Not when you're crazy.
00:03:23.660 I carried you for nine months is another one they'll give.
00:03:29.860 So again, this is when they think that they've done God's gift to the earth by giving birth to you.
00:03:37.120 Dogs give birth.
00:03:40.260 Chickens lay eggs.
00:03:43.660 Cats give birth.
00:03:45.220 But for some reason, even though animals literally do this, mothers, they use this as a tool to get what they want.
00:03:55.760 So kid doesn't do exactly what the mother wants.
00:04:00.900 Mother will use this to guilt them into getting what they want. 1.00
00:04:04.120 I hope that one day you become a mother and your child does the same thing.
00:04:10.780 So in their head, if you disagree with them or ever stand your ground.
00:04:20.840 In their head, you need your kid to treat them the same way because, again, they're like perpetual victims.
00:04:28.740 You will never know how much I sacrificed for you.
00:04:31.440 You know, dads look at it as a privilege to sacrifice for their kids.
00:04:36.480 Where mothers resent the children for it. 0.98
00:04:39.760 You get this a lot with kids that marry or mothers that married young.
00:04:44.400 You are behaving like a child is what they'll say, even though they're behaving like a child.
00:04:50.600 The child wants a solution.
00:04:52.780 The mother wants to vent. 1.00
00:04:54.040 This is particularly normal in mother-son relationships.
00:05:01.780 They tell you you're not self-aware when usually the mother is the least self-aware person ever.
00:05:08.660 So you'll say, mom, I'm not doing exactly what you want me to do in the way you want me to do it.
00:05:14.940 And she'll say, you're just not self-aware.
00:05:19.060 When it's generally the mother that's not self-aware.
00:05:21.700 And by the way, a lot of times I get these off of Twitter or I'll call a couple friends to make a list.
00:05:30.660 So you guys are welcome to put the ways that your mother manipulated you in the comments.
00:05:36.580 Mothers nag about the smallest thing and overreact. 1.00
00:05:39.480 When you hear women talk about all the chore labor, it's not usually because they're that clean. 1.00
00:05:45.760 If they're that clean, it's usually because they have time to be that clean.
00:05:50.160 Like, do you think Elon Musk is really worried about how clean his counters are?
00:05:55.240 Do you think he really cares?
00:05:56.260 No, he's busy.
00:05:58.740 So, you know, if they're very neat, it's usually because they get an ego boost off of telling everyone how messy they are.
00:06:06.800 And it's usually not that bad.
00:06:08.520 Usually, right?
00:06:09.560 I'm not, you know.
00:06:11.460 Why can't you be like, insert sibling's name?
00:06:14.120 This is usually either a sister or a sibling that is easier and manipulated by the mother.
00:06:20.940 And, you know, the mothers have a tendency to placate the siblings against each other and only reward the one that does whatever she wants, even if what she wants is completely unreasonable. 0.99
00:06:33.520 All I did was ask you to do something is something they commonly say, even though usually if the kids react, it's because the mother's being a complete bitch. 1.00
00:06:46.580 And, you know, it's usually not because they just asked you to do something. 0.96
00:06:52.040 It's because the mother listed every single thing that she doesn't like about the kid and then puts it under the guise of, I just asked you to do something.
00:07:03.060 They'll say family is everything, even though family is the most likely one to kill you.
00:07:08.160 There's common phrases that sisters use to manipulate parents. 1.00
00:07:17.000 They cross emotional boundaries and expect the brothers to not go there.
00:07:22.140 Whenever the brother retaliates, they cry to the parents and only tell the parents about the part they did.
00:07:28.980 Most men grew up in family dynamics where their sister's word was taken as gospel.
00:07:35.600 You know, because kids treat each other the same.
00:07:38.160 From a young age.
00:07:39.540 And there's somewhere along the line where the brother realizes the sister has more power.
00:07:45.120 Like the brother hits the sister back and then the brother's told to never hit a woman, even if the sister hit first.
00:07:51.220 You know, she steals the brother's stuff and they say, let her have it. 1.00
00:07:58.560 And the thing is, the bigger the group, the more manipulative, generally the woman. 0.99
00:08:03.380 That's why I like women from small town tend to have a better reputation. 1.00
00:08:06.900 Not always though, but because women don't know or are too lazy to process their emotions without telling everybody. 1.00
00:08:17.760 So we have this thing where we got to vent.
00:08:19.160 And instead of either learning the tool to just like let things go and shut up, women go around from person to person to person to tell a completely biased one side of the story. 1.00
00:08:32.500 And, you know, if it's a small town, usually at some point she gets called out on it.
00:08:38.120 The mother, the sister, you know, someone says something to the guy she's trying to manipulate.
00:08:43.020 And then the guy is like, no, that's not how it happened.
00:08:47.440 That's not what really happened.
00:08:48.700 But the bigger the pool of people, the more able she is to manipulate. 1.00
00:08:55.840 You know, that's why usually like we have the term city girl because it's easier for them to manipulate. 1.00
00:09:02.080 You know, they can run from their reputation more.
00:09:04.900 Now, I want to talk about how family dynamics translates to women ruining their relationships and their future. 1.00
00:09:12.460 So women have a tendency to alienate the dad from their side of the family and drag the dad to all these events that he does not care about and is forced to. 1.00
00:09:23.080 You know, I saw a video of Dolly Parton talking about how her husband didn't even know she was famous and her husband's happy for her.
00:09:31.640 He knows she loves to perform.
00:09:33.580 But he said, I am not going to any of these awards ceremony.
00:09:37.200 He went to one and he hated it.
00:09:39.020 He says, I'm not going.
00:09:40.700 She didn't play victim.
00:09:41.780 She didn't cry.
00:09:42.700 She just respected the decision. 1.00
00:09:44.980 How many men are forced to go to these stupid family functions with her side of the family? 1.00
00:09:49.900 He'd be fine if she wanted to go. 1.00
00:09:52.840 But she drags, she drags the family and the kids who don't even like the in-laws half the time. 1.00
00:10:01.280 Another way that women will manipulate their husbands is they get the family involved. 1.00
00:10:06.900 So if the woman doesn't get her way, she'll go to her dad. 1.00
00:10:09.280 She'll go to her brother to manipulate the boyfriend or the husband into getting her way. 1.00
00:10:15.160 Again, this is why sometimes a really involved family can be a bad thing.
00:10:19.140 It really can.
00:10:19.900 Because the woman uses the family to get her way from the husband. 1.00
00:10:25.600 She can even, at times, I've seen mothers or daughters turn the husband's sisters and mothers against him.
00:10:36.200 I've seen that in divorce court.
00:10:37.600 Mothers lay the ground for daughters to be able to isolate and manipulate their future husband and sons. 1.00
00:10:44.680 Daughters get the same amount of control in their household as they saw their mothers get. 1.00
00:10:49.520 You know, mothers will guilt the father from moving away where the daughter grew up.
00:10:53.420 So if you ever see people moving back to their hometown, it's always the mother's hometown. 0.82
00:10:57.400 It's never the father's hometown.
00:11:00.420 And usually this is because the mother has guilted the father into feeling bad that he took her away from her family.
00:11:09.280 You know, you're supposed to go start a new family.
00:11:12.420 But a lot of times daughters just can't, like, let it go. 0.98
00:11:17.420 They can't go start something new.
00:11:19.280 They have to drag. 0.99
00:11:20.760 They live in the past.
00:11:21.900 And often this is because the mother guilts the daughter. 0.99
00:11:27.760 Because the mother can't let go of her kids. 0.99
00:11:33.460 She can't let them go off and be free, right?
00:11:38.660 Mothers will turn the kids against their parents. 1.00
00:11:41.140 If there's a simp dad who does everything for the daughter, the daughter will resent the husband for not doing everything for her, too. 0.91
00:11:49.880 So you'll see this, like, in these daughters whose mother didn't have to work.
00:11:55.020 They'll resent the new husband for her having to work. 0.96
00:12:01.540 Even though, I mean, an assistant job 20 hours a week isn't really going to kill you.
00:12:07.840 It's not.
00:12:08.660 You're not paving the pavements.
00:12:11.900 You're not building buildings, going into a coal mine.
00:12:18.580 The most common employed jobs are a lot of times work from home or air-conditioned.
00:12:24.660 When the mother and father gets older, the kids are told to prioritize the mother's needs over the father's.
00:12:41.200 No one ever asks what the dad's going to do after retirement.
00:12:44.320 But the mother thinks they're entitled to their kids taking care of her when she's old. 1.00
00:12:48.500 No matter how bad and selfish and manipulative she was when the kids were young.
00:12:54.100 You know, it's different if you take care of your mother because you want to, not because you have to.
00:13:01.020 A parent's behavior towards kids when they're young should make the kids want to take care of them when they're old.
00:13:06.680 But instead, it becomes the new husband's problem. 0.99
00:13:12.320 So, like, how many times does the son-in-law force to take care of a mother that's a raging bitch? 1.00
00:13:20.180 Like, it's one thing if she's, like, a kind mother, good to be around. 1.00
00:13:23.440 But when she's a manipulative bitch, it's just annoying. 1.00
00:13:27.020 And it becomes the son's problem. 1.00
00:13:30.560 It's a status symbol for the mother-in-law to have all the kids at Thanksgiving and Christmas.
00:13:36.000 And she gets to brag to all of her friends.
00:13:38.180 I had all my kids home for Christmas.
00:13:40.320 And it's World War III if the kids don't go.
00:13:43.900 Again, meddling into you.
00:13:46.160 It doesn't allow the kids to make new relationships, right?
00:13:50.140 It doesn't allow them to grow up, leave the nest.
00:13:54.840 Mothers also plan every single detail so they can get mad if you do not follow the plan exactly. 1.00
00:14:01.520 If you break the plan, there will be dire consequences.
00:14:05.780 You know, so this is my final thought. 0.99
00:14:09.080 It's having a family that will support you no matter what is a double-edged sword because they will also support bullshit. 0.98
00:14:16.020 And the mother isolates the father from his family so she gets support and he doesn't. 0.65
00:14:24.660 And that's why having a girl that's close with her family is not always a good thing.
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