Pearl - My Dad Taught Me That It’s Better to Do Things Yourself

00:00:00.240 All right, what's up guys? I just got out of the gym, so I look a little homeless, forgive me.

00:00:05.680 I wanted to talk about a few life lessons I'm kind of learning,

00:00:09.200 and maybe where I made mistakes in the past and where

00:00:12.300 I guess I'm learning from them in the future. So when I went to England in 2020,

00:00:22.220 okay, I'm going to give you guys my backstory. So in 2020, I was working a sales job

00:00:26.920 to sell copiers. I can't remember when but I quit my job selling copiers because I wanted to go to

00:00:33.860 England to play volleyball and pursue a professional volleyball career. This was around 2020 and

00:00:39.260 whenever COVID hit I'd already quit my job and my plan was I was gonna stay home for like a few

00:00:47.280 months with my family and then move to England. During this few months I tried a few things like

00:00:52.660 I tried van life and I learned that van life is the stupidest idea but again my father he would

00:00:59.880 always encourage me to try things and he's very like he would never tell me what to do like he

00:01:06.460 would I mean I don't want to say never but I know that deep down my dad knew that I was not the type

00:01:13.180 of woman that could live in a van right but you know I saw some Instagram reels and I'm like I

00:01:17.720 should live in a van. He's like, try it. And I tried it. It was terrible. It was hell.

00:01:23.340 Cause my dad, I grew up with a 16 passenger van. So we just took out the back seats through a

00:01:28.300 mattress and he's like, go have fun. Anyway. So my season ended up getting canceled. Um,

00:01:36.360 and I had to stay home for like a year and a half. And that was where my dad encouraged me.

00:01:41.600 I told him I wanted to do media and my dad has no social media experience, but he said, try it,

00:01:46.820 go for it you're home and my dad always knew like he would always tell me growing up that I was a

00:01:52.280 hard worker and that in the long run that's what you need in life and that's that's always what he

00:01:57.860 would push in my head like one of my favorite memories with my dad is I I can't remember what

00:02:05.900 it was but it was like math because I'm sure you guys hear me on here dude I some school stuff just

00:02:13.160 did not compute. My multiplication tables, I never got them. Certain reading, like Phoenix stuff,

00:02:19.420 I just never computed. Like there's just certain things I just didn't get. My guitar teacher said

00:02:24.020 I'm dyslexic. Based on the way I learned, he's like, yeah, the way you learn it wouldn't shock

00:02:30.100 me. I don't know. Maybe I am. Maybe I'm not. Who cares, right? Anyways, so long story short,

00:02:39.880 I said dad I said dad you don't understand you're so smart like you don't understand how hard school

00:02:47.420 is for me because you're smart and I'm not smart and you're just you don't get it and he looks to

00:02:53.160 me and he says you know that you're only saying that because you're young and when you're young

00:02:59.780 it feels like that but if I had two employees and I had one that worked hard and one that was

00:03:05.620 talented. I would pick the hard worker every time. And over time, you're going to see that that's

00:03:10.500 going to be what's rewarded. Now we're in a feminist society. My dad probably didn't know 1.00

00:03:15.400 that white men are held back, but I'm a woman. So for me, this really rang true in my life. I 0.64

00:03:20.640 went on, um, the things that were important to me, I always succeeded at. Like I went on to play

00:03:27.160 volleyball and I was on the worst team at my club. So I was on a club team that was, it was called

00:03:35.080 15 white and I didn't even, it goes black, red, white for the order. And I didn't even get playing

00:03:42.680 time. Like I would split as the second middle, if anyone knows volleyball. So anyways, I, over the

00:03:48.620 years, I actually, every year I would move up a team. So the next year I was a starter. I went

00:03:54.400 from fifth or 14, oh no, 14 white. Then I made it to 15 white and I was a starter. Then I made it to

00:03:59.520 16 red two years in a row. And then I made it to 18 black by the time I was a senior. And I was like

00:04:04.980 the only girl that worked her way up most of the girls like went down or stayed the same

00:04:09.580 so my dad's advice largely in my life worked out um now he told me in so in 2023 I skyrocketed to

00:04:18.400 fame really fast I sort of had a background I had a million TikTok followers but I just hadn't

00:04:23.060 figured out media monetization I don't know it happened really fast so I went from making like

00:04:31.860 no money. Like my career has been like no money, tons of money, no money, tons of money because

00:04:38.840 and I just wasn't really intelligent with it because I had too high of like overhead.

00:04:46.520 So what happened was in 2023, I got famous really fast and I hired a bunch of people to solve my

00:04:53.820 problems. Right. I hired a producer. I hired like I think I had 20 employees. And my thought was,

00:05:00.520 oh, if I hire people, it'll be fine. Like they'll do the work. And what I realized is that managing

00:05:06.840 people and part of it's like my fault. I'm not a very good manager. I'm actually awful, like

00:05:11.060 terrible, the worst. Um, that's like a skill in itself. And so some people have that talent.

00:05:19.940 Some don't. My father, my little brother, they just have that talent. They're very organized.

00:05:24.260 eyes. They're very, I'm a little bit, no. But so what happened was in 2023, I became one of the

00:05:31.100 biggest YouTubers in the United States just to have a woman complain and take away everything. 1.00

00:05:35.760 I understand you fellas. I understand you fellas. So this woman basically called me a fricking 1.00

00:05:43.460 pedophile because I interviewed this girl, this woman, this young woman comes up to me on the 0.93

00:05:49.000 street right and we do this street interview and um later she says I'm like interviewing

00:05:56.000 minors about sexual activity because it's an abortion debate but I'm like you came up to me

00:06:01.120 I don't know it was it was so crazy and in that moment again I I related to a lot of guys because

00:06:08.040 I'm like how did you extrapolate that from that that makes no sense but her complaint worked

00:06:13.780 right? We're in a crazy society where we just reward bad behavior all the time, all the time.

00:06:21.900 Other mistakes I made. So there's that, right? And you know, the woman was like,

00:06:28.440 like the woman's sister or something was like, I'm underage. She's underage. And I said, okay,

00:06:32.720 show me her ID. I'll take the video down. She wouldn't, she wouldn't show me the ID. And I'm

00:06:36.500 like, bitch, bitch. I didn't believe her. And then, then they started this campaign against me 1.00

00:06:43.380 and it was crazy and it totally worked I was demonetized that week um I didn't because of

00:06:49.540 the high overhead that I had not intelligent um I ended up losing a ton because the way the

00:06:56.340 YouTube monetization program works it's very difficult to plan for so every two to three

00:07:00.960 months you reapply and they're supposed to get back to you within 30 days and one time I reapplied

00:07:06.960 and it was like six months later so you're thinking okay I don't need to fire people I'm

00:07:11.480 to get an answer next week, then I can make a choice. Well, if that goes on for like three

00:07:16.620 months, you know, you're kind of cooked. And I was cooked. So I had to get rid of everything.

00:07:20.580 I had to go back to the United States and I was just cooked. But I learned a lesson in

00:07:25.620 this that my father allowed me to learn because my father, again, this is what I love about

00:07:30.400 dads. He totally could have came over and solved all my problems because he's so smart.

00:07:36.700 same with my brother but my dad always likes to like let us fail so and every time we fail

00:07:43.660 he says it's okay like you learned a lesson didn't you and I'm like yeah and here's the lesson I

00:07:50.160 learned low overhead or die low overhead or die I will never do that again ever I learned my lowest

00:07:57.740 hell on earth because you get the stress of managing employees and I there's some people

00:08:02.160 that are built for that i'm built to talk on camera for hours like right now um i'm kind of

00:08:08.760 partnering with sean kelly because i used to do that panel show if you guys remember um it was

00:08:13.660 called the pregame it was one of the biggest youtube shows in the united states at the time

00:08:17.300 it was in england but my channel was registered in the u.s so whatever but um it was one of the

00:08:23.400 biggest youtube shows in america and i i stopped it and i said you know what i can't deal with 1.00

00:08:29.560 these bitches in and out of my house like I had stuff stolen because of this you deal with false 1.00

00:08:34.840 accusations I had a woman show up at my house in the middle of the night like I had all this stuff 1.00

00:08:39.700 I had a fight almost break out then you have the overhead expenses of security and I'm like no do

00:08:45.920 you know what I am gonna partner with somebody that wants to do that right now it's Sean Kelly

00:08:50.700 uh that's why I've been working with him and I tell him I'm like dude I'll I'll come I have the

00:08:58.420 ability to stream for 10 hours straight. I can just go, go, go. I don't get tired. I don't.

00:09:03.880 I don't know how people get tired. I can just do this forever. Something's wrong with me. I don't

00:09:08.580 know. So this taught me a few lessons, like to figure out what I'm good at and what I'm not good

00:09:15.600 at and to find people that are good at it. And I prefer to partner with them rather than hire them

00:09:23.480 because if it's like a partnership, then if you succeed, I succeed. If I fail, you know,

00:09:30.120 if we fail, we fail together. I like that kind of thing. So what, why am I telling you guys this

00:09:37.560 to now? So the great thing about having a white guy audience is white guys are very easy to please.

00:09:43.700 You guys are just go with the flow. You're happy and you don't care about being popular.

00:09:48.680 um and recently you know I switched to low overhead and I realized that that's like the

00:09:57.240 source of every problem in society is everybody has high overhead so they're stressed out

00:10:04.860 instead of like living below their means like okay when I left for England I had I owned um

00:10:12.540 a new Honda Civic not new but it was like 2016 or 2017 and before I left for England I needed cash

00:10:18.580 and I didn't know if I was going to stay there or not. So I sold it. And my dad was like, why

00:10:22.620 would you sell that car? You owned it. And I'm like, well, I need cash, dad. I sold it to my

00:10:27.200 best friend. So, um, so I got a few grand and I went to England. I sold everything, you know?

00:10:34.240 And when I came back, my dad's like, look at now these cars, you got like three grand.

00:10:39.680 You sold the car that worked. You knew it worked. Um, and now you'd have to buy a new car. But my

00:10:45.220 dad's so nice he gave me this Honda Civic again we love Hondas in my family they ride forever

00:10:51.480 and um I recently had someone say are you going to get like a new car and I'm like

00:10:57.700 no I have no payment and because I saw the stress of like living in a really hip area like the high

00:11:06.900 overhead and I didn't even I didn't even go broke the fun way that was the worst part I wish I got

00:11:12.040 like sports cars or like a bunch of plastic surgery or something fun but I'm like no I just

00:11:17.460 hired too many people and had too high of rent but anyway anyways so this taught me

00:11:24.520 low overhead or die low overhead and less people and it just makes everything more simple

00:11:33.280 so now how did I apply this lesson to my current situation okay I'm a learner I do learn from

00:11:40.420 mistakes. So made that mistake. I was completely cooked in 2023. Came to Dallas and I picked,

00:11:46.860 I said, I want more square footage. I'm picking a city that's cheaper. I'm not doing this shit

00:11:54.020 twice. I am not living in London or New York city. I am going to get space. So I picked Dallas. 0.99

00:12:00.320 lower overhead right and I did this event and this week it's a long story I've had issues with

00:12:12.720 my domain and we had to go through this whole process my website was only half working the

00:12:17.500 week that I'm supposed to have an event and if I did an event at all these fancy places like

00:12:22.980 with where I had to have a minimum amount of people it went super extravagant I would have

00:12:27.880 been so stressed this week trying to sell enough tickets for the event but because i had low

00:12:34.720 overhead and we're going to like some tex-mex place uh i love white guy you guys are so you

00:12:41.120 don't care about popularity you care if the food is good you don't need the best place

00:12:46.100 um and i just did like super cheap stuff i'm not stressed at all i'm like all right it's a few

00:12:52.680 people. It's not a big deal. You know, whatever next week, I think next month, um, I'm going to

00:12:59.080 do a fitness event because my birthday's next month. So I'm going to make you, you ninjas, um,

00:13:04.200 come out and work out with me. Um, so anyways, I realized that's kind of the key to happiness.

00:13:11.760 And that's why some rich people are so miserable because they have this high overhead and it's

00:13:16.680 such a stress on your life but like unless you're built for that my father he had a big company I

00:13:24.000 still don't think he had high overhead but like he was built to manage people I'm not man I'm not

00:13:30.060 and people don't want me to manage them either it's like mutual but

00:13:33.660 low overhead or die that's what that that was my lesson because now this week I'm not stressed at

00:13:41.280 I'm like, well, our website's half up, half down. The CRM isn't really going to work for a few

00:13:48.740 weeks. So I guess, I guess it is what it is. No stress, no desperation, just, oh, well,

00:13:59.840 we'll try again next month. So anyways, yeah, I think this is a lesson because I did grow up

00:14:09.780 kind of privileged I didn't learn I think a lot of people learn this lesson like in their early

00:14:14.100 20s and I'm maybe later because I learned it in my mid to late 20s but it's a really good lesson

00:14:20.040 to learn because the other thing too is you want to keep things as simple as possible like

00:14:27.220 women and minorities we tend to over complicate things so you know I took a suggestion from the

00:14:35.060 last event we did I guess this is the second event but first one in Dallas because we had

00:14:38.960 some issues with the commute in between the places. And one of the guys was like, why don't

00:14:43.240 you just put everything next to each other? And I'm like, that's a great, what am I doing?

00:14:47.240 And so I'm like, let's get these cool places that have good food, not super fancy, don't need like

00:14:54.260 a certain amount of people to book a room or any of that bullshit and make it easy and simple.

00:14:59.480 And if we get enough support, then we can make it more complicated, but do that later. I don't

00:15:03.640 want to get ahead of myself and this lesson I was kind of like thinking about my journey in life

00:15:09.560 and a lot of time I've wasted trying to do more complicated things before I do the simple things

00:15:15.280 like you know what I learned the most about cooking when I just cooked the same foods every

00:15:20.120 day for like two months when I was trying all these recipes I used to like try a different

00:15:24.840 recipe every day and all this bullshit and I would waste so much time a lot of the lessons I've 0.99

00:15:29.420 noticed about women don't get it twisted i'm not immune i just notice them and i'm like how the 1.00

00:15:35.520 white guys just come up with a better way to do things it's very simple low overhead the other

00:15:41.200 thing too i learned is in a business you really have to know how to do everything yourself

00:15:49.420 otherwise you can't help the people that work for you so i don't know these are these are my lessons

00:15:56.620 um I'm sure I'll learn more I'm not saying I have all the answers but shout out to my dad you know

00:16:03.080 he he taught me and um yeah so shout out to my dad anyways guys um yeah and also I think too

00:16:12.660 when we do start fundraising for different events I it's really important to me that when we do get

00:16:18.480 more into fundraising and stuff I don't want any pressure sales I only want people to donate that

00:16:23.400 want to donate do you know what i mean i don't want to pressure anybody or anything and be greedy

00:16:27.600 and when you have low overhead it's easier to not be greedy do you know what i mean because 0.99

00:16:33.860 that's why people get into these pressure sales stuff it's because they have their wife bitching

00:16:39.760 about the they want all this fancy stuff that stresses them out the guy takes it out on you

00:16:45.180 and rips you off and that's really it's really important to me i don't want like i don't even

00:16:52.320 like relying on donors and sponsors because then I have to appeal to the sponsors and get stressed

00:16:58.460 right I'd rather just build my own thing just pearly things app right if anyone wants to donate

00:17:03.960 to fundraise to build that you know feel free to reach out but like you know I want to raise and

00:17:10.360 make money on my own because then I don't have to like I can be independent and then I don't have to

00:17:16.740 like bow to these sponsors, you know? So anyways, these are my lessons. Um, I'll tell you my

00:17:22.720 business mistakes, my YouTube mistakes, what I learned from them, but I think you got to make

00:17:28.820 mistakes in every industry and every business in order to learn. And at the time I was really

00:17:33.720 pissed. I got demonetized, but, um, I think that going forward, I can figure it out. So I'm actually

00:17:41.720 glad it happened. I'm glad I left London, uh, because sometimes you got to burn it down to

00:17:46.120 build it back up and you build it back up better. So like the video, subscribe. I'll see you next time.

Pearl - October 03, 2026

My Dad Taught Me That It’s Better to Do Things Yourself

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