Pearl - Single Moms： The Bottom of the Barrel in Dating

00:00:00.000 what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we're talking about single mothers being ready to

00:00:04.820 date so i've said it before on my channel dating a single mother is an l the woman either picked

00:00:10.880 the wrong man to have a kid with or they divorced their husbands for no good reason and took the

00:00:15.820 kids away and now they're back on the dating market these are some of the most delusional

00:00:21.120 and entitled women now looking for a new man let's look at a single mother who is ready to date 1.00

00:00:28.520 as a single mom is such a vulnerable dating as a single mom is such a vulnerable topic for me

00:00:34.560 because one i think i've only dated one person since i've been single and i just did not feel

00:00:43.420 ready um but now it's been over a year now and i feel like i'm ready but there's just so many things

00:00:52.640 going on in my mind like i think about does this person get to know me first or do i tell them that

00:01:03.300 i have a kid um just like if anyone watches love island you know that like hudda hadn't

00:01:10.280 she kind of waited a while to tell jeremiah that she was a mom and i know listening to one of her

00:01:19.340 interviews on a podcast you know she felt like it changed things and that's fine if someone doesn't

00:01:28.600 want their partner or their new interests to help be a mom or to be a dad and all right here's here's

00:01:36.160 my opinion if it's not a serious thing you're just smashing who cares but how long did she wait i gotta

00:01:47.160 be honest this happened to me once when i was single i went on a date with a guy and he didn't

00:01:52.940 tell me till like a month in that he had like four kids i was like what the hell i was like 0.55

00:02:01.660 but anyways i was like why would you why wouldn't you tell me that

00:02:06.100 long story short i feel like that's a first maybe second date conversation

00:02:14.160 that's my opinion both ways like that's an important piece of information okay that's how

00:02:21.960 i was and there's nothing wrong with that um i see it both ways because i didn't think i was gonna

00:02:26.880 have kids and i always thought it was like not like technically a red flag but like that wasn't my

00:02:37.240 preference i didn't want a guy to have a kid um just because i wasn't there for anything and my

00:02:44.400 preference now not that anything's wrong with it my mom was a single mom um and she dated and stuff but

00:02:49.920 even now like my preference isn't to have a guy who has kids that's my own yeah and i actually do

00:02:57.620 think that you're allowed to want what you want so if you want that i would tell her to go for a young 1.00

00:03:02.800 guy who doesn't know any better yeah that would be my suggestion you definitely got to go for a 22

00:03:09.760 year old guy who doesn't know how much of an l this is that you're like one and a half points higher

00:03:16.300 than in looks that's my that's my suggestion friends um nothing wrong with that now i've dated guys with

00:03:24.680 kids and um that's just not what i want i mean i would never be selfish or take away from that child

00:03:33.220 because i would never want that you know with my mom but that's a preference for some people and some

00:03:38.020 people they don't care you got a kid cool that's fine um men are so adaptive men really do adapt to

00:03:44.880 the dating market but i never wanted it and even though i am a single mother to one kid um my preference

00:03:52.300 isn't to have a guy with kids and that's only my reasoning behind that is just like not necessarily

00:03:59.920 the kid it's all the stuff behind it now you're dealing with the child's mother or father you're

00:04:08.800 dealing with a whole nother family like that's a big responsibility you know and some people want 0.98

00:04:13.500 a clean slate i never once thought that i was going to date while being a single like being a

00:04:23.780 mom um i thought i was going to be with my partner i thought we're going to get married and all that

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00:05:01.480 that's always how we feel remember whenever we feel anything that's why you gotta you gotta add in

00:05:08.780 right now and here's the thing 0.94

00:05:10.760 that's why i wonder why men are kind of dumb enough no offense guys i know a lot of you're divorced but 0.98

00:05:18.620 what why on earth would you trust a woman to say she's not gonna leave because she said she wasn't gonna 1.00

00:05:25.420 leave she's not a man we don't care about our word we do not care we don't we're women and we just have 0.99

00:05:33.640 a tendency to you know bounce that's our thing so it's almost more um unintelligent on you guys's end

00:05:42.280 to believe anything we say i know it's a little hypocritical in my position obviously i'm a podcaster

00:05:47.860 but i'm just being honest here about you know the chessboard right now i just wouldn't believe it

00:05:53.180 so it's like i don't know how a guy could get married and like she gives her vows but what does

00:05:59.900 that even mean you know you'll stay probably so it's not even really a marriage anymore you know

00:06:07.480 what i mean guys but things change and life happens but it is very scary to even put myself

00:06:17.680 out there like i'm not an insecure person like i'm not um shy i have no problem going up to a guy

00:06:24.640 and talking to him but now it's like i carry a little bit more baggage so it's scary for me you

00:06:32.420 know because i'm like well what if they don't like me because i have a kid like i have a great

00:06:36.700 personality you know but i also have to understand like that's just yeah i mean look at we all got

00:06:41.720 baggage in a way my baggage is um this youtube channel if i'm being honest

00:06:47.940 that you know what i mean the people they've gone after everyone close to me on the internet

00:06:54.600 and um it's not really a fun thing at times so i've had to chill out the last like two years

00:07:04.120 i've had to you know kind of be a little calmer debate less and it's just because they harass

00:07:14.360 everyone close to me and it gets tiring exhausting i see how you guys feel about dating someone's

00:07:22.180 preference just like it's mine so that's my thing it's like do i let someone get to know me first

00:07:28.880 and then tell them do i tell them right off the bat i'm a person that i would tell her this is what

00:07:34.080 i would tell her as a strategy point of view that i would think would be the most effective now i'm

00:07:38.000 not saying this is moral it's actually quite immoral i would say lie yep lie off the bat

00:07:42.940 gluck gluck really well and then see if he sticks around three months three to six months later ask for

00:07:50.800 a relationship um hopefully he's attached by then and then go for it now obviously that's immoral but

00:08:00.320 that's how i've seen single mothers win you know what i mean it's not you know it's not by making 0.52

00:08:06.860 the worst of the biggest l's i see women take is single mothers that hold out you're a single mom 1.00

00:08:12.840 it might work on a 22 year old guy but after like 24 25 once he actually gets laid then you know then

00:08:21.140 they start having like standards preferences etc like i'll tell you right off the bat um because i just

00:08:28.800 like things put at the table like i would like you to tell me you know if you had a kid but i am

00:08:37.280 scared i'm scared to do it because it's just i'm bringing someone else with me now it's not just me

00:08:47.120 on my own you know now i have my baby boy and he's in the picture and you know my number one rule to

00:08:54.360 myself was i'll never let anyone meet my son until it's absolutely serious until you're gonna be my

00:08:59.400 husband um because that's what i actually agree with that um because all these a lot i doubt she'll

00:09:06.220 stick to it right she's just saying that but a lot of women have rotating men in and out of their 1.00

00:09:12.000 kids lives and that's just not the most healthy unfortunately i plan to do when i meet my partner

00:09:17.840 i plan to marry i don't plan to just date around i'm 32 years old right now and can you imagine a 0.99

00:09:24.740 single mother i'm not here to have fun the jesus cross on you're like what bitch 1.00

00:09:29.520 you know it is what it is i don't think most single month mothers not all this is like i said this is 0.99

00:09:39.960 just my situation we never thought that we were going to be dating again you know i thought i was going

00:09:46.140 to be getting married to my son's father and having more kids and unfortunately like life didn't go

00:09:52.680 that way so now i am going to be going out to the dating world i'm healing i'm loving myself again

00:10:00.120 healing phase yeah that means ho phase that means it's you know women there's a spiritual healing that 0.99

00:10:08.500 women get by getting dicked down by alphas i hate to say it

00:10:11.820 but you'll that's what women mean when they they say healing they're saying i hated being with my 0.89

00:10:19.240 beta boyfriend and it's very tough because even the alpha women work to make you a beta 1.00

00:10:24.360 unfortunately right it's like we put our whole night into just demasculating you and as soon as 0.85

00:10:30.200 you're demasculated we're miserable or we miss the alpha fucks right so then we're like i need to go 0.91

00:10:37.260 back into the street and then it's like a healing for us women we're crazy sorry guys um you know i 0.98

00:10:45.560 was going to therapy and i still i'm just to maintain um but it's hard there was something i saw on tiktok

00:10:53.860 that this girl said the other day and it just like resonated so much because that's exactly how i feel

00:10:58.140 is i'm not scared to be single i'm fine with being single like i ain't got no one to worry about

00:11:05.040 except for my son and myself um i ain't got to worry about if anyone's cheating on me or doing

00:11:09.780 any of that crap um i'm not scared to be single i'm not scared to be alone i'm very clearly not 0.60

00:11:15.780 that's why you left the father of your kids and that's the thing we have to understand that women 1.00

00:11:19.620 just don't like men that much a lot of times we have this revenge fantasy like women are just going 1.00

00:11:24.460 to be super unhappy bitter when they get older but women we don't know it but we don't really want 1.00

00:11:30.280 to be in relationships we think we do but it's kind of like the person that wants to lose weight or

00:11:35.500 refuses to diet exercise or eat less the joy of um being fat you know and eating too much

00:11:42.920 outweighs the reward of not being fat you see what i mean so it's the same thing with women the joy of

00:11:51.100 like a family is being outweighed by the difficulty of having to get along with another human being

00:11:57.420 so what was being alone my thing is i'm scared of wasting my time with someone else who's just

00:12:04.400 gonna hurt me again or that's another thing we're afraid of wasting our time time's gonna go by anyway

00:12:09.220 do you know what i mean like is it wasted like if we spend it alone is it wasted

00:12:15.200 i mean time goes by it's gonna play games so that's why it's like i'm gonna be very very picky

00:12:22.660 this time not because it's for love that's why it's easier to get um for men to bang younger women 1.00

00:12:28.000 is because when women get older you know we start to learn the tricks we're not as easily impressed 1.00

00:12:34.080 you got to do more and the men that are smart they're like why would i do all that when i could

00:12:38.500 just bang an 18 year old they're ready to go anyways sir for any of that it's just how are you

00:12:45.960 going to fit into my life in the right way are we going to align together and have the same beliefs

00:12:51.940 are we going to pray together you know are we going to work hard together are you going to treat

00:12:58.940 me with respect you know are you going to treat my son with respect there's all the things all those

00:13:03.620 things to keep in account all right so there's one all right single mother on the dating market 1.00

00:13:09.840 you know it's it's interesting um so you're going to get all these women saying they're going to raise 1.00

00:13:19.580 their standards after the kid i just think it's a bad strategy you're on sale it's clearance rack 50

00:13:25.400 off you could still get a decent buyer but you know men don't want to pay more than what we are worth

00:13:31.780 so let me know what you think in the comments have you dated a single mother and what was that

00:13:35.540 experience like have any of you had a positive experience dating a single mother let me know

00:13:39.800 in the comments and we will pin the best one i'll see you next time

Pearl - July 26, 2025

Single Moms： The Bottom of the Barrel in Dating

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