Pearl - Steve Harvey's SIMP Advice

00:00:00.000 i really think women are the really sexual one what's up guys welcome to my reaction series

00:00:05.440 steve harvey in the early 2000s had a three month rule for women the idea was that if you

00:00:11.920 make a man wait three months then he's probably seriously interested here's the problem with that

00:00:17.280 men bond um through sex so by making a man wait a lot of times what happens in the modern culture

00:00:24.080 is they know you're not that innocent and um they'll just pump and dump you more when they 0.92

00:00:28.960 finally do get to hit so it just prolongs um women's burden of performance because women's

00:00:34.160 burden of performance is making him want to stay afterwards so anyways so steve harvey um i think

00:00:40.640 you know made a generation of women they just she gave them terrible advice because it's one thing 1.00

00:00:45.280 to make a man wait if you're a virgin but i mean you gluck gluck fuck fuck sucks it's like what 1.00

00:00:50.160 you're gonna make him wait uh it's that's just disrespectful so anyways now we have this woman 1.00

00:00:54.880 saying to make him wait three months that man wait three months make him wait three months i don't

00:00:59.360 care i feel like you know when you get grown you might crack the first night you know what i'm

00:01:02.960 saying and the one you crack the first night gonna stay around for that's why but when you want

00:01:07.840 someone to take you so serious oh so serious make them wait three months and if they cannot stay

00:01:12.480 within that three-month frame they just want to show coochie they just want to show cool y'all 0.99

00:01:17.120 fucking with a nigga he was talking about he love me all type of buy me get take me out to the eat 0.99

00:01:21.440 baby all that i told him if you want this because you gotta be my uh nick i ended up breaking up 1.00

00:01:26.400 because i was not a priority and baby he wasn't making me one and he ended up ghosting me after

00:01:31.840 i broke up with him you want to know why you want that coochie because it's a coincidence

00:01:35.280 you asked me to be your girlfriend yes men want the coochie yes of course they do so

00:01:41.680 and after i said you got to be my man if you want some coochie and i told him three months 1.00

00:01:45.440 see these niggas can't wait three months they're dope fiending i mean dope fiending like it's 1.00

00:01:49.680 trying to take power it's power hungry she wants the power so she wants to take the power away from 1.00

00:01:54.640 the guy because um one of men's only power in society is when to make a girl his girlfriend 1.00

00:02:01.760 right so crackhead for some cushy if he can't wait three months bye bye three months not even a lot

00:02:09.040 bye you know sometimes i'll be thinking about it there's a lot i mean like again what is he

00:02:14.160 getting in return because men do you know what i'll tell you guys something i went out and i

00:02:19.120 learned to cook and clean i really did um because i especially cooking i became a pretty pretty i'm

00:02:25.760 a pretty good cook to be honest now and um you know i came to find out most men don't even need

00:02:32.480 that like the cooking and the cleaning most guys are neater than women because they do less stuff 0.83

00:02:38.720 and on top of that most men um they have if they're over a certain age they either like eating 0.81

00:02:44.080 out or like the food that they already eat you know so i don't even want to wait that damn long 0.91

00:02:50.000 i'm ready to open my legs you ready to not and but no if you want if you really want somebody

00:02:55.280 with you for real and you really want to see somebody's true intentions you got to make them

00:02:58.240 wait three months yeah because okay so alpha is a mindset it's it's not necessarily that's

00:03:03.120 why the six feet six figures like the high value man didn't really work because um a high i would

00:03:09.440 say status man like a man that behaves like a king he's not going to accept a woman making him wait

00:03:16.400 like would a king wait three months for anything other than maybe like a virgin no so i i mean by

00:03:24.560 and large that behavior is low status i mean is it true that if you make a guy wait for physical

00:03:29.520 intimacy you're going to see his true intentions whether he perceives you as short-term fun or a

00:03:36.720 long-term girlfriend again a lot of men that are beta they tend to say what works on them like 0.60

00:03:43.400 because they're betas and they're kind of dumb so they don't there's like a female iq and there's a

00:03:47.880 lot of men with low female iq and um so they believe like a woman's more pure or special if 0.98

00:03:55.340 she makes them wait and that's just kind of unintelligent the truth is yeah it definitely

00:04:02.000 does help i'm not going to sit here and act like it doesn't for example if you experienced guys

00:04:07.680 the guy wait three dates four dates five dates you really get to see if he's really going to put

00:04:14.180 in the effort and stay around because i would argue three dates is fine but anything more than

00:04:18.500 that is just absurd most guys if they were just there for the short-term fun in the first place

00:04:23.940 if he had to go on a third or fourth date with you he would not go on that date because he didn't see

00:04:29.980 it as worth it. He just wanted the short-term fun. So yeah, it kind of is a good test to determine

00:04:36.960 whether a guy is taking you seriously or he just wants the quick dopamine hit, the quick short-term

00:04:42.920 fun. Most guys won't go out on that many dates if they just want short-term fun around three days.

00:04:49.940 They probably won't get that far, right? Versus if a guy goes out on six, seven, eight dates with

00:04:58.360 you odds are he wants you as a long-term girlfriend now that's not end-all be-all this role is an end

00:05:04.140 all be-all but it's got a high probability rate all women need to yeah again um men that don't

00:05:10.780 understand women are willing to wait guys respect women who make you hear his voice because again

00:05:16.000 a lot of times just by their behaviors like they have a higher voice uh they can't maintain eye

00:05:21.060 contact not judging right i'm kind of a loser i can't maintain eye contact but it's you know it

00:05:25.800 takes a loser to know a loser so this is a guy he's conventionally attractive and that's what's

00:05:31.040 confusing to women they'll be conventionally attractive guys but they have low status behavior 1.00

00:05:34.940 that's how ugly men take your bitch like have you ever seen a guy that took your bitch and 1.00

00:05:38.780 you're like what the him we talk a lot on this show about sexual market value you guys know the 1.00

00:05:44.240 deal for men your value is supposed to go up as you get older you build wealth you gain status

00:05:48.980 and you get your life together but let's be real for a second if your testosterone is tanking and

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00:06:42.340 Wait, they just want to know that they have a chance that they're moving forward, that you find

00:06:46.320 them attractive, that you're not a prude, that he's not barking up the wrong tree, that you don't have

00:06:50.020 any major issues around sex so the more you could allow him to go around the bases at your pace

00:06:54.800 the more likely you're going to find guys who want to stick around because they're having fun

00:06:58.900 making progress and they're getting to know you in life tonically in addition to just trying to

00:07:03.980 get laid you're the ceo he's the eager i'd like to say i think men are much more interested in

00:07:10.400 getting to know you than getting and and women are much more interested in getting laid i look

00:07:15.860 I just I think I think I think kind of weirdly about this stuff but I look at it I'm like men 0.51

00:07:21.260 ask you questions about yourself women we never ask men questions till I get to know them

00:07:26.540 it's just more to extract information um but men really do try to get to know you on dates even if

00:07:34.280 they're looking like more cat like actually especially if they're more casual because

00:07:38.780 you know they've seen all different types of women like if they run you know run through a lot of 1.00

00:07:43.140 hoes um women i think are more interested in do i want to sleep with it like it's just so funny 0.99

00:07:48.480 because i really think women are the really sexual one i don't really think it's men in turn you see 0.96

00:07:54.560 the dynamic here it's a completely different dynamic than i'll let him sleep with me and then

00:07:58.460 i'll keep my fingers crossed that he likes me how powerless is that well it's okay it's not i'll

00:08:03.480 keep my fingers crossed it's what can i do what can i do to get into his routine men like routine 0.54

00:08:08.760 you know stance and yet it's the most common stance that women use they think sex gives them 0.99

00:08:13.400 power no controlling it gives you power giving it to any guy that's the that's the dumbest statement 1.00

00:08:18.920 i've ever heard sex gives women a ton of power there are so many women in society that have 1.00

00:08:24.120 slept their way up to the top like i just like to be accurate even if it's uncomfortable how many 1.00

00:08:30.680 women in hollywood got their roles because they slept with weinstein right how many women um and

00:08:36.760 fortune 500 companies got their roles because they slept with the boss it's actually one of 1.00

00:08:41.960 the easiest ways to get power in society is having sex i am then keeping your fingers crossed that

00:08:47.720 he's a nice commitment oriented guy it's not a strategy yeah okay let's do the next one make him 1.00

00:08:53.320 wait that men do not want you to know ladies don't have sex so early all right delay it because how

00:08:59.640 men see sex and how women see sex are very different and i'm about to explain it to you i

00:09:03.240 I disagree. Like, yeah, I mean, just, I don't know, men bond through sex, just my experience.

00:09:10.720 As a psychiatrist, but also as a man. So if you make a man wait, number one, they're going to be

00:09:16.780 more present. They're going to be more available. And if they F off and not message you and not

00:09:22.920 contact you, you just saved yourself a whole lot of trouble. If a man's condition, whether or not

00:09:28.620 to see you depends on whether or not you get physical within a set timeframe, isn't that worth

00:09:32.940 it i don't i really i really don't think so i really don't think so because when men get physical

00:09:40.220 and have sex that's when emotionally we can kind of tell like okay here's how i feel about this

00:09:44.620 person if they're in it yeah and you have post not clarity but you get an answer faster like it's

00:09:51.820 just if he doesn't like you it doesn't matter when you sleep with him like he's gonna figure out that

00:09:56.620 you ain't on the first date the third date whatever it is like if he's planning to pump and dump

00:10:01.820 i mean maybe like you can avoid some guys that just pump and dump after the first date

00:10:07.180 fine but like just in general that's for sex and they give up before you even get there 0.82

00:10:14.060 imagine what's going to happen after you have sex they're going to they're going to know

00:10:17.420 immediately that they have no emotional connection and they're going to be like oh well i'm gone

00:10:20.440 and it's just fear-based okay because a lot of that it's a lot of neuroticism what could go wrong

00:10:25.840 what could go right you know for the video saying why you should make a man wait before sleeping

00:10:30.720 with him because the universe will just like in sync i listened to a podcast today this is the

00:10:37.980 only reason scientific reason i shall add you will ever need to stop sleeping with him too soon not

00:10:44.920 on the first date not on the second date not on the third date i could just keep on going the longer

00:10:49.960 he waits the better for you also he will wait trust me you don't scare yourself into thinking

00:10:57.500 like oh it's been three dates he's paid for every single date like now i have like no let him keep

00:11:02.140 spending let him keep putting in his time some men you know if you if he waits a few months and 0.89

00:11:07.160 your gluck gluck isn't on point i mean he might kill you after he might literally kill you you

00:11:13.360 know believe me it's in your interest it's not in your interest to skip those parts like why would 0.98

00:11:20.280 you skip just listen if you have sex on the first date the guy's vasopressor levels will plummet

00:11:27.480 straight away and all he would be interested in is testosterone if you make him wait his vasopressin

00:11:33.640 and oxytocin levels yeah that's how you get a simp anyways guys um let me know what you think

00:11:37.640 in the comments i love you thank you so much for watching i really appreciate it

00:11:41.960 um and i will see you next time bye

Pearl - May 15, 2026

Steve Harvey's SIMP Advice

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