Pearl - October 25, 2024


The DANGERS of Introducing RANDOM MEN to YOUR KIDS After DIVORCE ｜ Pearl Daily


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

182.23976

Word Count

1,847

Sentence Count

91

Misogynist Sentences

12

Hate Speech Sentences

4


Summary

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Kat Stickler explains why it's okay to have random men go in and out of her daughter's life. She also explains why she doesn't want her daughter to grow up in a world where she's constantly introduced to new men.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily and welcome to the Audacity Network. If you guys
00:00:06.580 want to go support my work, please go to theaudacitynetwork.com. That's theaudacitynetwork.com.
00:00:13.940 So the first story today that I saw, I was scrolling through my TikTok and I came across
00:00:20.760 this video. I came across this video of an influencer named Kat Stickler. So Kat Stickler
00:00:26.840 originally had a YouTube or a Twitter, sorry, not Twitter, a TikTok account with her husband at the
00:00:35.480 time. Now, as you guys know, public relationships have a tendency to go down in flames. So the
00:00:41.420 couple quickly divorced. And after the divorce, she made it her own account. Anyways, the woman,
00:00:47.480 she starts dating this new guy and she's in a relationship with him for a year or two.
00:00:52.900 And when they broke up, it was actually amazing to me.
00:00:57.180 I saw this TikTok, her talking about basically rationalizing why it's okay to have random
00:01:03.940 men go in and out of her daughter's lives.
00:01:06.560 So a lot of times you guys don't believe me or people think I'm over-exaggerating when
00:01:11.640 I say there's many mothers that do not care about their children.
00:01:15.240 They are too selfish to have children.
00:01:16.960 and this right here is certainly one of them because i cannot believe she uploaded this on
00:01:22.800 the internet i literally am baffled let's have a chat about it because i think it's important i
00:01:27.840 think it needs to be discussed did my former boyfriend spend time with my daughter yes has
00:01:32.180 my daughter met my male friends yes has my daughter met the husbands of my girlfriends also
00:01:36.600 yes three things she's always with me when these males are introduced in her life and they are
00:01:41.520 always introduced as mommy's friends she doesn't call anyone dad she has a dad that is never a
00:01:47.240 point of confusion for her and i promise you guys she is okay and also let's be real internet dating
00:01:51.880 timeline is very different from real life dating timeline i was in a relationship where we were
00:01:55.560 heading down a serious route until we weren't and that's okay i just hope that mk knows i am looking
00:01:59.780 to find the right partner for the both of us because we are a package deal and i know i don't
00:02:03.780 always make the right decisions but i learn from my mistakes and every decision that i do make
00:02:07.940 it's because it's what i think is best for my daughter and i also i'm 29 years old i know
00:02:12.580 first thing you guys are gonna say cat how in the heck are you 29 you youthful angel that's
00:02:18.180 not what this is about also no one's ever said that but i know some people think that a big part
00:02:22.900 for someone who dates me is that they have to come into my world and i know that's not easy
00:02:26.180 and i can't leave florida i can't if someone comes to visit me i can't just shove mk in the cupboard
00:02:30.820 doesn't matter what you guys say it's just not right imagine if we all okay so she's saying well
00:02:37.460 I can't date. I don't get to, how else, what will I do with my daughter? I mean, if someone comes
00:02:45.700 to visit me, I mean, I can't get rid of her. Never did it cross her mind that it's maybe more
00:02:50.560 important to raise her daughter than to date. If you want to be a single mom, fine. Life is
00:02:55.540 about choices and trade-offs. But, you know, this is how a lot of children end up getting
00:03:02.840 abused or put in situations because the mother has these random men going in and out of her
00:03:09.800 daughter's life. On top of that, she's saying, well, I have male friends that come in and out
00:03:15.040 of her life too. Well, is that wise? Is that a smart thing to do? It just takes one weirdo,
00:03:24.540 one wrong person to bring around your kid to be in a situation that we don't like, right?
00:03:30.800 listened to the judgments that other people had about our lives and based our life decisions on
00:03:35.900 those judgments i never see now she's saying well i can't make a decision off of the judgments you
00:03:41.580 people have about my life ma'am what about the daughter the kid the child i don't know is it
00:03:51.780 maybe more important to make decisions for her instead of you no tick tock okay have fun
00:03:59.100 I want to live in fear of not doing what's right for me because of what other people are going to
00:04:03.660 think. And I do want. No, no, no, no, no, not, not what other people are going to think. Let's try
00:04:08.140 this again. The daughter, the safety of the daughter. Yes. The majority of you guys are
00:04:16.100 looking out for us. And I love that. Just be patient with me because this is a lot. I know
00:04:20.340 my child. I know that every single decision I make is with her best interests at the forefront
00:04:24.760 of my mind and i can live with that so okay so let me get this straight she ends the video by
00:04:31.480 saying she starts the video by saying well i never introduced these random men that come in and out
00:04:37.800 of her life as boyfriends i just say they're friends and then she ends the video by saying
00:04:42.840 but every decision i make i think of my daughter does your daughter think hmm i really am hoping
00:04:49.800 to just have all these random guys, male friends, stepdaddies, in and out of my mom's life in the
00:05:00.100 place that I call home. That's all. So if you look at the comments on this, it's got 161,000 views,
00:05:07.360 right? And most of the comments on TikTok, because that's more of a female app, were supportive.
00:05:14.740 But on YouTube, we had Private Eye Russ, who called into the show.
00:05:19.980 We had him on the show the other day that gave his experience working on a case years
00:05:24.260 ago that had to do with a mother that behaved like this.
00:05:27.480 He said, I had the misfortune of working on a case years ago at an apartment complex where
00:05:31.860 a single mom was befriended by a maintenance worker.
00:05:34.640 The maintenance worker began babysitting for the single mom and almost immediately was
00:05:38.480 assaulting her children.
00:05:39.900 This is a common tactic amongst predators.
00:05:41.980 If they can befriend the parent, they can have access to the child.
00:05:45.280 In this case, I worked on this mom let the man babysit so she could go hang out with her friends and do fun stuff.
00:05:52.940 In the meantime, her kids were being assaulted and bribed into silence with video games and toys.
00:05:57.840 Ugly situations.
00:05:59.320 When we look at this individual's previous crimes involving children, he had the same motor's operand.
00:06:08.340 he would target single mothers, offer to babysit so that the moms could go have a social life.
00:06:13.940 And I really do see this trend. This is why, you know, people were freaking out when Michaela
00:06:19.420 Peterson was posting on Instagram looking for a babysitter. And, you know, to be honest, guys,
00:06:24.880 when I babysat, when I was younger, when I was in college, it was super common for
00:06:28.700 women, for them to get young women from the college to watch their kids. And it would actually
00:06:34.460 blow my mind how these parents would just give me their children and their house unsupervised
00:06:41.840 and nothing happened, right? But it would blow my mind how they would just give their kid to
00:06:47.100 freaking anybody because you don't know what people will do. So Reclaim said they don't care
00:06:54.420 about the risk of abuse increases from 37% to 43% when a non-familial male is introduced into the
00:07:02.760 household. As long as they can get their back blown out, it will defend the right to keep
00:07:07.640 introducing random men to their children. The likelihood of abuse from a non-familial male
00:07:13.800 being introduced into a single mother household can depend on many factors, including the
00:07:18.760 individual's character, the mother's ability to vet the person, and the dynamics of the household.
00:07:23.960 While many men can form healthy supportive relationships with single mothers and their
00:07:28.340 children. Research has shown that children in homes with unrelated adults, particularly unrelated
00:07:33.800 men, may be at higher risk for abuse or neglect. So this begs the question, if this woman introduces
00:07:42.440 a man that abuses the child, is she responsible? I would say yes. I see a comment from Phoenix
00:07:49.680 Light Games on the website. Since she said that men come in and out of her life, she's indirectly
00:07:55.000 showing her daughter that men are a dime a dozen and expendable. She's not teaching her daughter
00:08:00.100 the value of having a man around. I'll parent exactly. And I would say that if something
00:08:06.060 happens to her daughter, she is responsible. And to be honest, I sometimes think they should be
00:08:12.740 pursued to the fullest extent of the law because you cannot be this reckless with a child. The
00:08:19.980 child is innocent. I can't believe she posted this on the internet. If I was the dad, I would take
00:08:25.720 this video and go straight to court. I would take this video, go to the judge and say, look at how
00:08:32.880 irresponsible the mother of my child is. And this is the thing, women have this pretty privilege.
00:08:38.700 So she's a pretty woman. She's obviously in shape. So the world treats her in a way that's
00:08:44.520 better than a man. There's no way that a man could get away with this. No way. If a man came
00:08:51.140 online and said that he is letting random women come in and out of his daughter's life,
00:08:58.360 the internet would be in an uproar. But if a pretty woman does it, it's fine.
00:09:02.920 No, I don't always make the right decisions, but I learn from my mistakes. And every decision that
00:09:07.000 I do make, it's because it's what I think is best for my daughter and I.
00:09:10.240 Okay, so this is not a get out of jail free card. It's not. I make the best decision that I can for
00:09:17.840 my daughter. Men don't get a get out of jail free card if they make a decision that negatively
00:09:24.160 impacts the child. So imagine if a man comes in and says and lets an abusive woman towards the
00:09:30.740 child. Who is responsible? Does he get a get out of jail free card because he was trying to make
00:09:37.360 the right decision? No. And this is what I say. There's so many of us that are in this perpetual
00:09:43.520 state of adolescence because she genuinely thinks this is normal. Anyways, guys, like the video on
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