Pearl - The DANGERS of Introducing RANDOM MEN to YOUR KIDS After DIVORCE ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily and welcome to the Audacity Network. If you guys

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00:00:13.940 So the first story today that I saw, I was scrolling through my TikTok and I came across

00:00:20.760 this video. I came across this video of an influencer named Kat Stickler. So Kat Stickler

00:00:26.840 originally had a YouTube or a Twitter, sorry, not Twitter, a TikTok account with her husband at the

00:00:35.480 time. Now, as you guys know, public relationships have a tendency to go down in flames. So the

00:00:41.420 couple quickly divorced. And after the divorce, she made it her own account. Anyways, the woman, 1.00

00:00:47.480 she starts dating this new guy and she's in a relationship with him for a year or two.

00:00:52.900 And when they broke up, it was actually amazing to me.

00:00:57.180 I saw this TikTok, her talking about basically rationalizing why it's okay to have random

00:01:03.940 men go in and out of her daughter's lives. 0.85

00:01:06.560 So a lot of times you guys don't believe me or people think I'm over-exaggerating when

00:01:11.640 I say there's many mothers that do not care about their children. 0.97

00:01:15.240 They are too selfish to have children.

00:01:16.960 and this right here is certainly one of them because i cannot believe she uploaded this on

00:01:22.800 the internet i literally am baffled let's have a chat about it because i think it's important i

00:01:27.840 think it needs to be discussed did my former boyfriend spend time with my daughter yes has

00:01:32.180 my daughter met my male friends yes has my daughter met the husbands of my girlfriends also

00:01:36.600 yes three things she's always with me when these males are introduced in her life and they are

00:01:41.520 always introduced as mommy's friends she doesn't call anyone dad she has a dad that is never a

00:01:47.240 point of confusion for her and i promise you guys she is okay and also let's be real internet dating

00:01:51.880 timeline is very different from real life dating timeline i was in a relationship where we were

00:01:55.560 heading down a serious route until we weren't and that's okay i just hope that mk knows i am looking

00:01:59.780 to find the right partner for the both of us because we are a package deal and i know i don't

00:02:03.780 always make the right decisions but i learn from my mistakes and every decision that i do make

00:02:07.940 it's because it's what i think is best for my daughter and i also i'm 29 years old i know

00:02:12.580 first thing you guys are gonna say cat how in the heck are you 29 you youthful angel that's

00:02:18.180 not what this is about also no one's ever said that but i know some people think that a big part

00:02:22.900 for someone who dates me is that they have to come into my world and i know that's not easy

00:02:26.180 and i can't leave florida i can't if someone comes to visit me i can't just shove mk in the cupboard

00:02:30.820 doesn't matter what you guys say it's just not right imagine if we all okay so she's saying well

00:02:37.460 I can't date. I don't get to, how else, what will I do with my daughter? I mean, if someone comes

00:02:45.700 to visit me, I mean, I can't get rid of her. Never did it cross her mind that it's maybe more

00:02:50.560 important to raise her daughter than to date. If you want to be a single mom, fine. Life is 0.85

00:02:55.540 about choices and trade-offs. But, you know, this is how a lot of children end up getting

00:03:02.840 abused or put in situations because the mother has these random men going in and out of her

00:03:09.800 daughter's life. On top of that, she's saying, well, I have male friends that come in and out

00:03:15.040 of her life too. Well, is that wise? Is that a smart thing to do? It just takes one weirdo,

00:03:24.540 one wrong person to bring around your kid to be in a situation that we don't like, right?

00:03:30.800 listened to the judgments that other people had about our lives and based our life decisions on

00:03:35.900 those judgments i never see now she's saying well i can't make a decision off of the judgments you

00:03:41.580 people have about my life ma'am what about the daughter the kid the child i don't know is it

00:03:51.780 maybe more important to make decisions for her instead of you no tick tock okay have fun

00:03:59.100 I want to live in fear of not doing what's right for me because of what other people are going to

00:04:03.660 think. And I do want. No, no, no, no, no, not, not what other people are going to think. Let's try

00:04:08.140 this again. The daughter, the safety of the daughter. Yes. The majority of you guys are

00:04:16.100 looking out for us. And I love that. Just be patient with me because this is a lot. I know

00:04:20.340 my child. I know that every single decision I make is with her best interests at the forefront

00:04:24.760 of my mind and i can live with that so okay so let me get this straight she ends the video by

00:04:31.480 saying she starts the video by saying well i never introduced these random men that come in and out

00:04:37.800 of her life as boyfriends i just say they're friends and then she ends the video by saying

00:04:42.840 but every decision i make i think of my daughter does your daughter think hmm i really am hoping

00:04:49.800 to just have all these random guys, male friends, stepdaddies, in and out of my mom's life in the

00:05:00.100 place that I call home. That's all. So if you look at the comments on this, it's got 161,000 views,

00:05:07.360 right? And most of the comments on TikTok, because that's more of a female app, were supportive.

00:05:14.740 But on YouTube, we had Private Eye Russ, who called into the show.

00:05:19.980 We had him on the show the other day that gave his experience working on a case years

00:05:24.260 ago that had to do with a mother that behaved like this. 1.00

00:05:27.480 He said, I had the misfortune of working on a case years ago at an apartment complex where

00:05:31.860 a single mom was befriended by a maintenance worker.

00:05:34.640 The maintenance worker began babysitting for the single mom and almost immediately was 1.00

00:05:38.480 assaulting her children.

00:05:39.900 This is a common tactic amongst predators.

00:05:41.980 If they can befriend the parent, they can have access to the child.

00:05:45.280 In this case, I worked on this mom let the man babysit so she could go hang out with her friends and do fun stuff.

00:05:52.940 In the meantime, her kids were being assaulted and bribed into silence with video games and toys.

00:05:57.840 Ugly situations.

00:05:59.320 When we look at this individual's previous crimes involving children, he had the same motor's operand.

00:06:08.340 he would target single mothers, offer to babysit so that the moms could go have a social life.

00:06:13.940 And I really do see this trend. This is why, you know, people were freaking out when Michaela

00:06:19.420 Peterson was posting on Instagram looking for a babysitter. And, you know, to be honest, guys,

00:06:24.880 when I babysat, when I was younger, when I was in college, it was super common for

00:06:28.700 women, for them to get young women from the college to watch their kids. And it would actually 1.00

00:06:34.460 blow my mind how these parents would just give me their children and their house unsupervised 1.00

00:06:41.840 and nothing happened, right? But it would blow my mind how they would just give their kid to

00:06:47.100 freaking anybody because you don't know what people will do. So Reclaim said they don't care

00:06:54.420 about the risk of abuse increases from 37% to 43% when a non-familial male is introduced into the

00:07:02.760 household. As long as they can get their back blown out, it will defend the right to keep

00:07:07.640 introducing random men to their children. The likelihood of abuse from a non-familial male

00:07:13.800 being introduced into a single mother household can depend on many factors, including the

00:07:18.760 individual's character, the mother's ability to vet the person, and the dynamics of the household.

00:07:23.960 While many men can form healthy supportive relationships with single mothers and their

00:07:28.340 children. Research has shown that children in homes with unrelated adults, particularly unrelated

00:07:33.800 men, may be at higher risk for abuse or neglect. So this begs the question, if this woman introduces 0.99

00:07:42.440 a man that abuses the child, is she responsible? I would say yes. I see a comment from Phoenix

00:07:49.680 Light Games on the website. Since she said that men come in and out of her life, she's indirectly

00:07:55.000 showing her daughter that men are a dime a dozen and expendable. She's not teaching her daughter 0.98

00:08:00.100 the value of having a man around. I'll parent exactly. And I would say that if something

00:08:06.060 happens to her daughter, she is responsible. And to be honest, I sometimes think they should be

00:08:12.740 pursued to the fullest extent of the law because you cannot be this reckless with a child. The

00:08:19.980 child is innocent. I can't believe she posted this on the internet. If I was the dad, I would take

00:08:25.720 this video and go straight to court. I would take this video, go to the judge and say, look at how

00:08:32.880 irresponsible the mother of my child is. And this is the thing, women have this pretty privilege. 1.00

00:08:38.700 So she's a pretty woman. She's obviously in shape. So the world treats her in a way that's

00:08:44.520 better than a man. There's no way that a man could get away with this. No way. If a man came

00:08:51.140 online and said that he is letting random women come in and out of his daughter's life,

00:08:58.360 the internet would be in an uproar. But if a pretty woman does it, it's fine. 1.00

00:09:02.920 No, I don't always make the right decisions, but I learn from my mistakes. And every decision that

00:09:07.000 I do make, it's because it's what I think is best for my daughter and I.

00:09:10.240 Okay, so this is not a get out of jail free card. It's not. I make the best decision that I can for

00:09:17.840 my daughter. Men don't get a get out of jail free card if they make a decision that negatively

00:09:24.160 impacts the child. So imagine if a man comes in and says and lets an abusive woman towards the 1.00

00:09:30.740 child. Who is responsible? Does he get a get out of jail free card because he was trying to make

00:09:37.360 the right decision? No. And this is what I say. There's so many of us that are in this perpetual

00:09:43.520 state of adolescence because she genuinely thinks this is normal. Anyways, guys, like the video on

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Pearl - October 25, 2024

The DANGERS of Introducing RANDOM MEN to YOUR KIDS After DIVORCE ｜ Pearl Daily

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