Pearl - The Days of Living a DOUBLE LIFE Are Over! Women CAUGHT CHEATING! ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 good afternoon good evening ladies and gentlemen welcome to another episode of pearl daily and

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00:00:31.340 documentaries that we are working on. Okay so today's show we have a couple of topics that

00:00:39.200 I'm going to get to. Now the first topic I was scrolling on Twitter and I saw a clip that was

00:00:47.860 going viral and it was labeled that's exactly what a hard-working family man would love to hear

00:00:55.720 what an amazing wife this is beautiful now let me show you as you know in the media a lot of times

00:01:02.880 we cover some pretty difficult clips to consume so for me I thought this was such a nice change

00:01:10.820 of pace where we have a woman that is grateful for her husband let me play it

00:01:15.300 we're thriving because of you like i mean let me start it

00:01:23.020 we're thriving because of you like i'm able to get a new phone because of you i'm able to go get

00:01:35.920 my eyes tested and get new glasses from because of you i'm able to have somebody come in here and

00:01:41.400 clean because of you i'm able to make a meal for not just our family but crystal breath because of

00:01:47.480 you like you're not just keeping this afloat you're thriving us and i appreciate you so much

00:01:53.820 like you the way you lavish your love on us is insane like you take such good care of us you

00:02:00.900 are such an incredible provider and i don't just mean financially like you're an incredible

00:02:06.020 provider for our family like i had expectations of what you were going to be like and you have

00:02:11.780 far surpassed like i am overwhelmed with what a great provider you are for our family

00:02:18.820 i am so blessed and i'm so grateful that you're my husband

00:02:24.500 i just want you to know that okay

00:02:36.020 So myself and many of my friends quote tweeted this video and all of our reaction was that

00:03:03.960 is adorable that is so cute it's so nice and heartwarming but what was surprising to me

00:03:09.560 was that my male friends had a very different reaction one of my male friends said that she

00:03:17.180 doesn't mean it and another male friend said that it was performative I thought to myself why this

00:03:24.360 is such an adorable cute clip what could you possibly say that's wrong and what it actually

00:03:32.300 shows is how women we value words of affirmation right that is when we are doing something right

00:03:39.280 we like it when people tell us that doesn't really matter to men our actions matter much

00:03:45.880 more than that and one of my male friends first comments was if she really meant that she would

00:03:52.520 lose the weight now the reason I'm bringing this up isn't because I'm trying to be a Debbie Downer

00:03:59.820 because I really think it's a cute clip, but to show what men value. Words of affirmation are nice,

00:04:09.840 but they care much more about putting your money where your mouth is. The second observation

00:04:16.100 that my male friend had was that the entire house was a mess, that there was stuff everywhere.

00:04:26.100 And his observation was, again, if she really meant it, she would put her money where her mouth is and show him.

00:04:34.820 And I think so many times these clips go viral.

00:04:39.740 And it's interesting because women, we view these cute clips or we'll see couples content and we'll think it's adorable where many men see it as performative.

00:04:50.900 And the reason they see it as performative is because many men feel like an accessory in their women's social media.

00:04:59.920 And oftentimes when this stuff is posted the way, and it's interesting because I never, I didn't initially see it like this,

00:05:06.920 but when getting a couple men's perspectives, the way they see it is that women post things in order to make themselves look good.

00:05:19.460 so oftentimes the message of a post is using the family for clout now i'm not saying that's

00:05:27.780 what's happening here i still thought it was a cute clip but what was interesting to me was

00:05:32.500 just the difference between the men's perspective on it and the women's perspective on it um

00:05:40.660 okay so that was my first story today um now i would guys i was gonna cover yay i i put this

00:05:48.580 on twitter that i was going to cover yay getting divorced but i think i guess he's still staying

00:05:53.860 with his wife so i guess not particularly today yeah look at this is what the men say are saying

00:06:01.780 in the in the this is what the men are saying in the chat because i think a lot of times women we

00:06:10.580 do what we would want so maybe women would prefer to be posted on their guys social media

00:06:15.700 right that's a common complaint but men don't really care about that stuff um in the chat

00:06:23.780 they're saying that's so fake that's so cringy and i'm not saying it was but what i am saying

00:06:29.540 is that's how a lot of men are going to see it is this is just words this is just a performance

00:06:36.500 it's not actions um also guys if you want your chat to be read on the audacity network go to

00:06:43.540 the live chat Snyder says Pearl I saw that reality today fantastic I said on Facebook

00:06:51.060 thank you for tuning in Snyder it's good to see you as always all right so the next story I'm

00:06:58.300 going to cover today is I saw the most interesting account on Twitter so I was scrolling through

00:07:05.760 Twitter and I saw this man who was a private investigator so his profile it's called private

00:07:13.420 I Russ and he's a licensed PI a bail bondsman and an executive protection specialist and

00:07:23.920 his Twitter has the most interesting account or the most interesting stories that I have

00:07:29.320 seen basically where he is hired by men and women to at times investigate their significant

00:07:39.500 others and it was just the most interesting account so i had to have him on welcome to the show russ

00:07:46.460 how are you today i can't hear him oh it's okay sometimes okay go ahead is it on our end or theirs

00:08:01.340 okay it's our end just hold hang tight one second

00:08:09.500 okay guys let me read the chat while we're waiting

00:08:14.960 yeah this is the whole chat is saying it was fake it's so funny because as a woman i thought it was

00:08:22.660 the cutest thing ever but all of the guys said this is nonsense i was like what hi welcome to

00:08:29.800 the show russ i think we can hear you now all right how how are you pearl i'm good how are you

00:08:35.700 thank you for having me i'm fantastic thank you yeah i love your twitter i i'm so happy it's

00:08:43.600 getting traction now because i just thought it was so um the stories were so unique and you're

00:08:49.900 a very good writer so i feel like i know all the characters when you're writing well you know what

00:08:55.580 i i have to pause for a moment and give you a um a shout out and a thanks because you're the one

00:09:00.860 who inspired me to actually start posting yeah yeah well so that was that was you

00:09:05.380 um thank you yeah of course well i know um i know unique perspectives on social media when i see it

00:09:14.100 so um one of the interesting posts that you've had recently was your experience um with sex workers

00:09:23.720 and that okay so could you give them an overview of maybe your ideal client first or like who

00:09:30.920 tends to come to you to look into people you know it's it's kind of all over the board i um

00:09:37.180 i classify what i do as problem solving and so you know people come to me when they have issues

00:09:42.860 obviously these are issues that the police can't take care of for them they want some of these

00:09:46.920 problem solved discreetly and so um the average client has changed a lot has morphed but when

00:09:55.960 we're talking about investigative work a lot of families and even corporations have been engaging

00:10:01.320 my services to check out potential spouses um you know that that happens a lot that's happening a

00:10:08.440 lot more it used to be that only old money uh vetted a potential mate that thoroughly but new

00:10:15.480 money um and and you know there's there's a there's a sliding scale of how far you go and

00:10:19.960 how much it costs you know so everybody can afford to do a certain amount of investigation

00:10:24.360 but when you go really really deep uh then we're talking about people who have a lot of money but

00:10:29.480 not just a lot of money to spend they have a lot of money to lose and so what they'd rather do is

00:10:35.080 make that investment in the front end to make sure they're not their their loved one or their

00:10:39.400 business partner which has happened or their son is not marrying or their daughter is not marrying

00:10:44.440 someone who has a hidden past um and a lot of times what i find is wealthy people want to know

00:10:50.600 they want bad news right away you know they'd rather know the bad news on the front end versus

00:10:56.520 be surprised on the back end when when it's much harder much more difficult to get themselves out

00:11:01.240 of it so wealthy people and as well people who don't have have as much money are engaging my

00:11:07.720 services more and more so what do you get more men that come to you or women

00:11:15.480 i both it's about 50 50 the difference is that men are incredibly easy to catch um men are not

00:11:25.000 very inventive they're usually very easy to catch uh women some of the women have been incredibly

00:11:30.680 difficult um to to to uncover you know what they do and a lot of times uh the the big issue is that

00:11:37.880 women will actually help each other cheat whereas guys usually go solo and so if you've got a whole

00:11:43.880 crew helping you create a narrative like you know including social media posts and pictures 0.93

00:11:48.920 to show that you're a certain time and place while they're off doing whatever else they're doing

00:11:53.320 uh men just don't have the same know-how uh like men are far behind women are way way more

00:11:59.720 sophisticated but it's about 50 50. but the interesting stories are usually usually involve

00:12:05.480 the women cheating just because they they're so good at it is that the number one thing that

00:12:12.680 people come to you for to catch their potential wife or potential husband cheating well what i'm 0.89

00:12:20.840 getting more of is people investigating a potential now on the front end when it comes to a potential

00:12:26.920 spouse it's typically the men their families or even their their business partners that want to

00:12:32.440 find out about the woman that the that's going to be marrying into the family or the business

00:12:37.080 and so um give you an example um a very wealthy gentleman he's worked all his life his father

00:12:45.560 handed down money he's handing he's going to eventually hand over the reins of the company

00:12:49.240 and their fortune to the to his son he had me look into his fiance um they were both in college

00:12:56.200 they were getting very very serious and so he had me look into i don't know if you want to tell me

00:13:00.760 want me to tell you exactly what what occurred but um it would be irresponsible for a man to allow

00:13:09.800 someone to marry into his family that could potentially cause disaster and and kind of

00:13:15.480 mess up that train they have with all the money they've acquired and the wealth they've required

00:13:19.320 over the years so the the dad this is without the mom's knowledge the the the mother of the um of

00:13:26.760 the son didn't know about this he wanted to keep her out of it because she was very emotionally

00:13:30.840 attached to the young lady and so he said look i want you to look into her he said there's something

00:13:35.480 just just not right so dad had some pretty good instincts which which we found out later everything

00:13:40.920 we looked into in her background everything turned out looked really really good uh when we wound up

00:13:46.200 going you know and this is the difference between the prices when you do a really deep dive there's

00:13:50.360 a lot of uh surveillance involved and so you know surveillance is where it gets more expensive

00:13:55.720 and so he said look i don't care what it costs i want you to look into her and um we want to you

00:14:01.320 know i want to make sure she doesn't have any hidden skeletons in the closet and so as as we've 0.77

00:14:06.120 we've got her under surveillance um she um she got picked up by an uber for a place of residence and

00:14:12.280 dropped off to a uh a gentleman's home and so uh what we found was the uh the gentleman was a

00:14:19.880 married guy with a family but his family was on vacation she was and we wound up talking to him

00:14:25.240 secretly um on the side you know i'm pretty convincing at getting people to talk to me

00:14:31.000 so i have a pretty good gift to get and she was a sugar baby and uh she but with her sugar baby

00:14:37.240 account didn't have pictures of her that's why we couldn't detect that initially we didn't see her

00:14:41.800 face in the pictures so he's had you know obscure body pictures and um so when i when i brought

00:14:48.440 these founding findings to the um to the dad you know he brought in the son his son didn't know

00:14:53.160 about it he brought in the son and had me deliver the bad news to the son and um he wound up getting

00:14:59.480 himself out of that situation by you know he the way they did it was they kind of did it easy he

00:15:05.000 broke up with her didn't tell her that he knew about her hidden past uh which is which is probably

00:15:10.120 the best way to do it uh and you know that way there's there are no there's no drama there's no

00:15:15.640 histrionics and uh so that's one example but it's about a man protecting his legacy

00:15:21.320 what protecting us what alerted the dad uh he he just thought that her you know the way the way he

00:15:32.660 expressed it to me he said look and this is going to sound this is going to sound really bad he said

00:15:37.480 i know a floozy when i see one and i think she's a floozy and and so and so how how she knew that

00:15:45.320 i don't know um but you know as a guy who's you know i've i've i've had a lot of experience with 1.00

00:15:50.520 women um you can tell uh you know i've had a lot of experience dealing with women work and and

00:15:56.280 personal wise anyway you can tell when a woman has a past where she's been with a lot of men

00:16:01.240 And, you know, the interesting part about this particular story was that she came from a relatively well-to-do family.

00:16:11.160 I wouldn't say they were wealthy, but I would say they were upper middle class.

00:16:14.220 She was going to one of the most expensive colleges in the country. 0.87

00:16:18.740 And, you know, so in my opinion, she wasn't doing it for the money.

00:16:23.380 And that's been a theme for quite a few of these.

00:16:26.620 She wasn't actually doing it because she needed the money.

00:16:28.540 I think she was just doing it because it was fun. 0.71

00:16:31.240 That was the most surprising thing to me when I started meeting more sex workers was how many

00:16:38.940 came from good two-parent backgrounds and how many did not necessarily need money. Because when you

00:16:46.640 see it portrayed on TV, it's always an innocent victim who just did it because she had to.

00:16:53.560 and when I was interviewing women I was perplexed by how many had just really I was the same

00:17:01.220 observation they did it because for me it was more only fans women but they tended to do it

00:17:06.780 because they liked being on camera and doing that sort of thing yeah it's it's um look even me look

00:17:13.820 I'm probably one of the most cynical and jaded people you will ever meet in your entire life

00:17:18.020 just because of the nature of what I do and I I get to see so many dark sides of human nature

00:17:23.440 But I was actually surprised by that because, you know, you think that somebody's just doing it because they're supporting a drug habit or they need the money or they were forced into it.

00:17:33.120 But I've met a lot of women, a lot of young women who did it just because, you know, they, you know, yeah, they'll take the money, but they don't need it.

00:17:43.520 They did it because it was exciting.

00:17:45.020 And some of them, I think there are a lot more women who are sex addicted than we actually really will ever know.

00:17:52.780 And it's unfortunate, but, well, not really unfortunate.

00:17:56.240 It's a choice they made.

00:17:57.700 So, you know, but, you know, at the end of the day, people want to make an informed decision.

00:18:01.460 That's why they come to me, you know, to find these things out.

00:18:04.480 That way they can say yay or nay based on the truth versus a story they're being told.

00:18:09.980 Do you think had she stopped, you would have found it out because her pictures were not online?

00:18:16.740 um you know here's you know he the son was head over heels in love and he genuinely loved her

00:18:26.740 and um you know whether it was reciprocated i have my doubts my theory is that she was there 0.99

00:18:33.140 for the money for the wealth um you know um but women are very good at covering their tracks 0.91

00:18:40.900 uh they're they're extremely good especially with men that don't question what they're doing 0.99

00:18:46.740 and so um one trend i see with guys that get treated get they get cheated on women probably

00:18:53.700 say that they're controlling or they're insecure why because you know they're you know a woman

00:18:58.740 might come to themselves going to girls night out and most guys if they're honest don't want their

00:19:04.420 wives going to girls night out i'm a i'm a single guy i've been the recipient of women going on

00:19:09.620 girls night out and so i know exactly what happens on girls night out and so does everyone else but

00:19:14.500 guys have been shamed and gaslighted into silence and um you know just told that they that you know

00:19:20.420 if you have any sort of objection to where she's going or have any inclination to keep her

00:19:25.780 accountable um you know about who she's hanging out and where she's going then somehow you're

00:19:31.140 you know you're unenlightened to the counseling or whatever it might be

00:19:35.540 what are the most common places that men and women cheat what do you mean like physically

00:19:41.620 where they meet or where they actually go to do the deed oh actually both

00:19:47.300 well um believe it or not even though it's cliche work work is one of the most common places um if 0.95

00:19:54.980 like i've i've dealt with cases of so many people messing with their bosses women messing with their 0.99

00:20:02.020 bosses miss it women messing with their peers at work uh actually on work property in parking lots 0.85

00:20:09.700 um you know just i mean like like the most unlikely of places you know and cars are are very common

00:20:20.100 uh place cars parked anywhere in a parking garage or even in the street um there was one case where

00:20:25.860 a woman was would meet her boyfriend they'd park their cars one right behind the other put in put

00:20:30.660 money in the meter she joined him into the suv they do their do their thing and she'd get back 1.00

00:20:35.540 in her car and then go back to work um not so much at people's homes because uh cheaters tend

00:20:42.020 to mess with other usually not always but mess with other married people so a lot of hotels

00:20:47.860 motels as well too well if you think about it this way it's like we used to call back in the um

00:20:54.420 cold war days mutually assured destruction and so if if i'm married and i'm cheating with someone

00:21:02.180 else who's married as well too then you know we both have a vested interest in keeping things

00:21:06.500 private because neither one of us because most of these cheaters don't want to leave their wives

00:21:11.300 or their husbands they just want something on the side and then go back to their wife or their husband

00:21:18.820 what do you find that men and women will accept and what is a deal breaker like i'm assuming when

00:21:27.300 you look into a woman i'm assuming more for women but men too a woman or a man's past

00:21:33.700 um there's times where the clients walk away and then there's times where they say okay that's bad

00:21:38.820 but i'm still going to do it um what do you find men and women will accept and what will they not

00:21:45.300 accept well you know there's i mean there's a there's a huge um you know like it's spread out

00:21:54.180 over across a wide spectrum. So I know of one case, it's actually a friend of mine,

00:22:02.020 very, very wealthy guy, very successful guy. He'd been married a few times before,

00:22:07.060 lost a ton of money in divorces. His most recent wife allows him to go to one of the ranches in

00:22:17.140 Nevada once a month if he meets certain financial goals. Now, the guy makes a ton of money,

00:22:22.900 and so she she lets him go do his thing once a month because his his he works in the entertainment 1.00

00:22:30.100 industry i'll just say that much and so he has access to some of the most beautiful women

00:22:34.660 um on earth and he's a powerful guy and so that that changes the dynamic significantly

00:22:40.580 and so her her her reckoning is well look he's he's going to get what he wants to get

00:22:47.140 But if I can control it and harness it and use that energy towards enriching us, then that's her thing.

00:22:55.240 And so that's on one, that's on the far end of the one spectrum.

00:22:59.220 On the other side, when a man finds out that a woman has a very promiscuous past, it's situational.

00:23:06.860 If she's been with a lot of guys, he might accept that.

00:23:10.720 But most guys will not accept the woman who has actually done, you know, pay for play. 0.86

00:23:15.860 You know what I mean?

00:23:17.140 and so you know which you know i i don't know uh philosophically if there's really that much of a

00:23:23.620 difference but that's just that's just how it is women on the other hand will accept guys that have

00:23:28.820 a very large body count uh they seem to they seem to prefer them um and so and i have i have theories 1.00

00:23:36.260 behind that uh but you know they're probably not very popular theories um but women don't have to 1.00

00:23:44.500 be good at sex they don't i know there are a lot of women that think they are there are very few

00:23:49.300 that are actually good at sex men have to be good at sex to be called good at sex we have to actually

00:23:54.180 be able to put in work and have to have practiced and learned how to get things done and so when a

00:23:59.300 woman meets a guy who has a large or a high body count um for them that i you know and i've talked

00:24:07.620 to people i've actually talked to friends of mine uh lady friends of mine and and you know she's you

00:24:11.540 you know, they've told me, look, you have a better chance of enjoying yourself more than a guy who

00:24:17.480 has not had much experience. And on the flip side, men don't want women who've been with a bunch of

00:24:23.400 guys. You know, the women who are sex workers, most of them, if they're honest, and I've talked

00:24:31.420 to several, a lot of them are shut-ins. A lot of them don't go out very often. And I've talked to 0.99

00:24:37.340 women that have done have been in an adult adult entertainers um entertainment industry the film 1.00

00:24:43.260 industry as well as being escorts and because so many guys have seen them on film you know imagine 1.00

00:24:50.380 if you're a guy and every every person you walk by has seen your your wife getting or your

00:24:58.400 significant other getting whatever um smacked by you know who knows how many people on film

00:25:04.860 So, and, you know, there's a lot of women that don't understand why that's not a good thing for a man.

00:25:10.820 But the way I look at it is this.

00:25:13.040 If I'm with a woman, right, that woman has now become my brand ambassador, not the other way around.

00:25:21.100 And so if she's going to be my brand ambassador, do I want a brand ambassador that has been, you know, in situations that, you know, could potentially hurt my brand and cheapen my brand? 0.74

00:25:34.860 as it were and and again i understand women don't don't understand it because they're not looking at 0.88

00:25:38.540 things from a male perspective you know but when you look at the way high net worth individuals

00:25:43.900 were ultra high net with individuals worked so we're talking about people with a net worth of

00:25:48.620 20 million dollars or more um they're no longer working for themselves you know a lot of these

00:25:55.260 guys are captains of uh of an industry um they've got you know dozens or hundreds or thousands of

00:26:01.580 people that count on them you know plus the the you know beside you know to stay productive but

00:26:07.180 also to to to put forth a good positive image for the corporation that's worth gold especially

00:26:12.940 nowadays with social media years ago you could you could get away with certain things but now

00:26:19.020 with internet sleuths being the way they are there are people who are so good at digging up things

00:26:23.980 um i've actually learned some things about digging up you know hidden secrets from from some of the

00:26:30.140 internet sleuth now some of these guys get paid to do this but you know you can't really hide

00:26:35.180 things anymore like you used to you know years ago if one wanted to hide things she could move to a

00:26:39.340 new town you know she had a what they call the checkered past you know not that i'm being

00:26:43.900 judgmental i'm just you know stating things as they are but now um because the world is so much

00:26:48.620 smaller because of the internet because of all the traces you leave electronically uh nothing

00:26:53.260 really goes away from the internet you know so all these videos pictures everything they're hidden

00:26:58.700 out there somewhere and uh more high net with individuals so if you look at it this way if i'm

00:27:04.540 worth 50 million dollars and i've i've had a case recently where we're an attorney twice divorced

00:27:12.460 uh both of his wives have really uh one of his ex-wives is driving ferraris and bentley's and so

00:27:18.940 so this guy is like super wealthy guy like very very successful guy like he's a wizard at making

00:27:23.980 money and he was dating another woman she was a single mom and she had a couple of children

00:27:31.340 and she moved from one state to the other he met her at church and um you know she she was born

00:27:37.740 again and all the rest of this single mom made it that far sorry i'm shocked okay keep going sorry

00:27:45.660 well well the caveat is this and and part of the reason she made it that far guys will overlook a 1.00

00:27:50.700 lot if a woman is really hot yeah and and and this woman i you know conservatively she was a nine 0.98

00:27:57.020 nine and a half like she was smoking like no exaggeration but um you know he you know he 0.73

00:28:05.180 started asking me you know he started talking to me about it he's a friend of mine and so it wasn't

00:28:09.420 even from the client perspective he did pay me for it but and i said dude that doesn't sound right

00:28:13.900 she's got two kids but she's making you wait and so he would go date night with her a couple of 0.99

00:28:18.220 times a week and i was like that doesn't sound right dude i said look she's got two kids and

00:28:21.500 i'm looking at her and i'm like there's no way nobody's smashing that i was like somebody's

00:28:26.380 hitting that and so he and so we made a bet and i was like look if we find out if i put her under

00:28:31.180 surveillance and we find out that she's that she's got somebody else you pay if not and i'm wrong

00:28:37.660 you get it for free and it didn't take it the first date night they went on um went out to an

00:28:43.740 expensive dinner again as a wealthy guy so for him you know spending you know five six hundred

00:28:48.220 dollars eight hundred dollars on a night out just for dinner and drinks that's that's a drop in the 0.70

00:28:53.420 bucket for him he drops her off shortly after that a a lone male approaches her place and spends the

00:29:02.860 night and so we look him up and we started looking up more and more information i hadn't done any

00:29:08.540 background on it but once we saw this we looked him up he's we saw that he'd been arrested for

00:29:12.620 possession um production of meth and a few other things and uh so i said okay let's start looking

00:29:19.740 into her background more she'd been arrested several times for prostitution and and possession 0.90

00:29:25.740 and so you know i've done this long enough to where i can look and reverse engineer what people's

00:29:30.460 backgrounds are without even talking to them and so she was actually a meth whore and the guy that 0.87

00:29:35.980 was the the backdoor man you know no pun intended um was her baby daddy that she hadn't seen for 0.55

00:29:44.140 years but supposedly and so if if he hadn't had a a nosy cynical friend like me who told him to

00:29:54.140 to look into this more he would have gotten married to this woman um who was certainly not being

00:29:59.820 honest with him was you know certainly probably would not have well she wasn't loyal to begin with

00:30:04.300 and so you know now you're looking at putting your wealth in your empire your your reputation

00:30:11.260 your peace of mind in danger and so you know i think people don't take that into account

00:30:16.140 you know you marry the wrong person this goes for men and women you know what what type of toll does

00:30:20.860 it take if you're married to the wrong person they make your life a living hell you know not to

00:30:24.700 mention the money he'd already been beaten up in divorce court twice and uh you know he wasn't

00:30:29.820 really looking forward to it again but he still he was still almost willing to accept her believe

00:30:36.140 it or not again uh you know it's it's the pretty privilege and so even with all this information

00:30:41.420 like me me and his business partner was like you got to be kidding

00:30:47.340 and and he was like he was like well you know she's she said she's changed and this was okay

00:30:52.380 i said here's what you do and uh me and his part his business business partner is an attorney he

00:30:57.660 He said, all right, get her to sign a prenuptial agreement and see what she says. 0.98

00:31:02.840 If she's not there for the money, she'll sign a prenuptial agreement. 1.00

00:31:06.440 And of course, she wouldn't sign it.

00:31:07.880 And so he wound up breaking it off with her eventually.

00:31:09.900 But he still almost went for it, even with that knowledge.

00:31:13.280 And so you'll find that women will, if they find out their guys are cheating, some of them will accept it if the guy is making a ton of money.

00:31:25.100 you know but you know men typically won't accept it if they find out their wives are cheating

00:31:30.040 um not really you know it depends on the guy but most guys want to walk away from it just because

00:31:35.380 it's it's um you know it obviously it's a blow to the ego and and you know there's this

00:31:42.140 misconception out there that all you have to do is be six one and jacked and make a bunch of money

00:31:46.440 and you'll never have a problem with women you've heard that right yeah okay that's that's not true

00:31:51.540 um i've seen i've seen guys that like literally there's there's a guy i work for he's a professional

00:31:57.400 athlete and so uh very tall obviously on the upper end of the spectrum as far as physical

00:32:04.400 capabilities right and so um i i call people like this nephilim nephilim are where the um it's a

00:32:10.880 biblical term but they were the offspring of angels that came down to earth and got married

00:32:16.180 to human females they were bigger stronger and smarter than normal humans and so guy was an

00:32:22.100 attorney um yeah well he he had a he had a law degree but he wasn't working as an attorney he

00:32:27.700 was an ex-athlete a former athlete and the guy stayed in the gym like the guy was built like a

00:32:32.340 superhero his wife was cheating on him with a guy that was short shorter than shorter than husband

00:32:38.180 and just roly-poly dad bod dude and and so you know you know and the guy was wealthy and i'm

00:32:44.180 And I'm sitting there like, nah, you know what?

00:32:45.680 There's more to it than that. 0.96

00:32:47.000 I think it has a lot to do with if a woman,

00:32:50.500 and this is just from my observation,

00:32:53.940 I'm not a psychiatrist or a psychologist,

00:32:56.300 but if women have had a lot of guys, 0.51

00:33:00.540 they tend to not be satisfied. 0.92

00:33:03.340 And I found some of that out

00:33:05.280 talking to some of the sex workers I interviewed.

00:33:08.120 I don't know if you want me to talk about that, but-

00:33:09.900 Yeah, no, go ahead.

00:33:10.640 Okay, well, one of the one, some of the cases I work on, I've actually worked on a ton of for attorneys attorney ton of homicide cases from the civil side of things. And so when I say a lot, I've worked over 100 homicides over the past 17 years in Florida. So one of these apartment complexes, I met a witness, and a nice young lady. And we started talking more and more. And I found out that she had been an adult film.

00:33:40.640 actress and that she was currently working as a as an escort escort and so i started talking to her

00:33:47.120 and you know because i'm you know i'm an investigator i'm curious and and i always like to

00:33:51.520 know how things work and how things happen and you know how how it started and that sort of thing

00:33:56.400 that's just one of my one of my is a curse of mine but the more i talked to her the more you know she

00:34:03.040 she revealed different things to me and and we had some graphic conversations and one of the

00:34:07.120 conversations we had was about sex. And I was like, so what are your criteria for sex? Does a

00:34:14.820 guy have to be like huge? You know what I mean? She said, no, has nothing to do with that. She

00:34:19.920 said, I need variety. She said, I have to have different guys to be, you know, she had a

00:34:25.820 boyfriend who knew about her work. And then, you know, she would work. She would see three to five 0.98

00:34:31.340 guys a day, five days a week. And then she would still go to sex clubs on the weekends.

00:34:37.120 and so she just enjoyed you know for her it was about variety and i wound up walking to she

00:34:43.040 actually introduced me to several of her friends some of who were also adult film actresses and

00:34:48.320 they all worked as as um as escorts as well too and i took them all out to to a really nice dinner

00:34:54.400 and just had just just let them talk and um you know so there's this there's this this

00:35:02.160 there's been a lot of data put out there saying that having a high body count or what I call

00:35:08.220 a lot of mileage has nothing to do, it does not affect a woman's later relationships. And they 0.70

00:35:17.740 do, they have a profound effect from the ones I've talked to. And again, now these are on the extreme

00:35:22.720 end of the spectrum as far as how many numbers, so please take that caveat. But a lot of them,

00:35:28.740 well they all said they they enjoyed the variety you know there were a few guys they actually liked 0.98

00:35:34.140 seeing but a lot of them they didn't but they loved the variety they loved having sex with a

00:35:39.240 lot of guys and again you know you go back to the sex work thing it's it's really really surprising 0.91

00:35:45.000 just because um some of these young women some of these young ladies came from backgrounds that

00:35:50.600 were actually you know well to do and families that that had great money and so you know they

00:35:56.760 they got into it and stayed into it because they wanted to some women get into it because they're 0.99

00:36:01.240 supporting a sort of um you know some sort of habit a drug habit typically but a lot of them

00:36:07.400 especially more and more just they're there because they like it again when and that was

00:36:12.760 an eye-opener for me so i was somewhat naive when it came to that and a lot of these things have been

00:36:17.640 an eye-opener um you know there's a lot more hidden sex work that goes on that than people

00:36:23.960 realize so one funny one i think you'll like um is a buddy of mine good good good pal of mine

00:36:33.080 known the guy for years he broke his phone we were supposed to to link up because you know we

00:36:40.120 we both do martial arts at the same place and um he texted me from his girlfriend's phone number

00:36:48.520 and was like you're going to catch a beat down later and and so and so i'm looking at i'm like

00:36:53.560 what the hell is this you know i didn't know it was him i was like who the hell is this okay so 0.55

00:36:59.080 i get a threatening text i'm a pi and so i'm gonna look up the number and so and so i start running 0.70

00:37:04.040 the number and if you run somebody's phone number and they have an escort ad the escort ad will pop

00:37:13.640 up so i'm looking at this and and i see the ad and i was like wait a second

00:37:20.680 so i read it again and i was like this can't be right man and so i had another pi friend of mine

00:37:28.280 look i said dude look this up what do you come up with and he was like and he actually sent me a

00:37:32.840 screenshot of the escort ad and i was like he was like uh is that what's his name's girlfriend i was

00:37:39.080 like i believe so he's like does he know i don't think so i don't think so and um he um you know

00:37:49.160 so we we called him up and i was like look dude you got a problem and we need to sit down and talk

00:37:53.720 and so i called him on her phone and say we need to have a talk and so he's like okay so i met him

00:37:57.640 at martial arts she you know he um you know he still had her phone but she wasn't with him he

00:38:02.360 was waiting for a new phone and i was like look dude this is what i saw when i ran your girl's

00:38:06.520 phone and he was like what he was and and you know so and this wasn't even a client thing this was

00:38:14.280 is just surely just me being again being a nosy you know what um but that's that's part of my

00:38:20.040 that's part of my nature that's part of what i do and um you know he you know his his whole thing

00:38:25.320 was as he's looking at the because a lot of them will list what they'll do you know and he was like

00:38:32.360 it's like she wouldn't do all that stuff for me when i asked her to do it was it a current ad or

00:38:37.400 was it a previous ad not there were several ads wow and and and they were current and so the like

00:38:46.280 the ads went back a couple of years over several you know uh different there's there's a ton of

00:38:52.360 places where where escorts post ads and um you know i um i know a bunch of them just because

00:38:59.720 i used to do searches for missing and exploited kids i used to volunteer my time as a pi to do

00:39:04.680 that and so we have to dig dig deep and a lot of times what people will do is they'll put these

00:39:09.640 underage underage girls mostly on these ads make them look older but there's certain keywords you 1.00

00:39:15.080 can look for and they've changed their appearance but you know we've been able to find some using

00:39:19.560 those and and other methods and so when i looked at it i was like man i was like this what are you

00:39:24.520 gonna do and and that's part of from from an ethical investigator standpoint you can't just

00:39:30.840 give people information without understanding without knowing what they're going to do with

00:39:34.360 with that information and their state of mind.

00:39:36.740 And so as an investigator,

00:39:38.160 I can't give someone information

00:39:39.480 if I think they're gonna go off the rails

00:39:41.600 and possibly do themselves or someone else harm.

00:39:44.740 And so, you know, you have to be really careful.

00:39:46.620 Like even when someone says,

00:39:47.520 hey, I want you to find somebody,

00:39:49.880 my first question is always, you know,

00:39:52.300 why do you need to find this individual?

00:39:54.020 And the people who don't wanna answer that question,

00:39:55.980 I'm not gonna help them.

00:39:56.820 Maybe another investigator would,

00:39:58.120 but I'm not gonna do it.

00:39:59.560 And so, you know, because there have been famous cases

00:40:02.200 where people have used, stalkers have used investigators

00:40:04.520 to find people and hurt people in the past.

00:40:08.380 So there was that one,

00:40:10.740 another one that could have turned out really bad.

00:40:14.760 You know, I don't sleep a whole bunch.

00:40:16.220 You know, I'll sleep five hours a night.

00:40:17.540 That's just, and I wake up without my alarm clock.

00:40:20.640 And so I got a text from a friend of mine,

00:40:23.760 he's a cigar buddy.

00:40:25.400 And so he sent me a screenshot,

00:40:29.320 which made me call, it was like two o'clock in the morning.

00:40:31.660 called him up, I was like, what the hell is this?

00:40:33.340 And it was a screenshot of a friend of ours daughter

00:40:37.060 on a sugar baby site.

00:40:39.460 And which, you know, there's typically nothing illegal

00:40:42.700 about that, it's just that she was 17 years old at the time.

00:40:46.860 And I was like, holy smokes.

00:40:48.580 I called him up, I was like, dude, you didn't, you didn't.

00:40:50.660 He said, no, of course not.

00:40:51.500 He said, I just saw, he was going through one of the,

00:40:54.140 one of my, cause he's, you know, another guy

00:40:56.140 who's been divorced a couple of times

00:40:57.340 and he goes on the sugar baby sites.

00:40:59.740 And he said, I came across this.

00:41:02.300 And so I texted you and I was like, what did you call him?

00:41:05.000 He's like, no.

00:41:05.840 He's like, can you call him?

00:41:06.700 I was like, do I wanna deliver this news to the guy?

00:41:10.980 And so we agreed that we're both gonna tell him.

00:41:14.040 And the dad obviously was heartbroken.

00:41:18.900 And it turned out that she had been on that app

00:41:22.840 for a while, more than a year.

00:41:25.500 And it wasn't just her, it was a bunch of her friends.

00:41:28.800 And so the danger to that, you know, number one, it's underage, underage young lady doing

00:41:35.360 things she, you know, shouldn't be doing, you know, technically, you know, the kids

00:41:40.000 start pretty early nowadays, but from the man's side, he thinks, you know, he's going

00:41:45.840 on these sites with confidence, thinking that these young women are at least 18 years old.

00:41:51.820 And so will a judge care if you say you didn't know?

00:41:57.180 well i actually knew a guy in california who met a woman at a club um it was a club in hollywood i

00:42:03.260 used to live in hollywood years ago i forgot of the military and this was a club that the

00:42:09.580 sheriffs would bring these scanning equipment so you can actually scan ids to make sure the ids

00:42:13.900 weren't fake but fake good fake ids were actually pretty easy to get back then in la i don't know 1.00

00:42:17.740 how it is now and he met this woman and yeah we all saw her she was she was a knockout um and she

00:42:24.380 did not look underage and then um we used to watch football and everything else he shows up and he's

00:42:29.820 like look i got a problem i found out she's 16. and so we were like holy smokes and so um and

00:42:36.780 because none of us could believe that she was 63 years old and so he decided um to do the right

00:42:43.180 thing and which which i understand you know he wanted to break it off with her and i told him 0.97

00:42:47.660 let her break it up with you i said stop showering stop wiping your butt do what you got to do uh 0.98

00:42:52.620 tell her you don't have any money let her break up with you i said but if you break up with her 1.00

00:42:55.980 he said she's going to get back at you and and the only way she can get back at you is through

00:43:00.860 the law and so and this is exactly what happened he broke up with her um and she she told her

00:43:07.180 parents you know daddy this older man took advantage of me and um you know he gets arrested

00:43:12.780 he got perp walked out of his place of business and um even with you know he hired he had a good

00:43:19.500 attorney they hired an investigator we had statements from her friends saying that she

00:43:24.780 used a fake id the bouncer seen her there a bunch of times uh bartenders would serve her drinks

00:43:31.340 because they the judge didn't care he got he got screwed and so yeah well you know the judge didn't

00:43:37.420 care he's like yeah okay well whatever and bam and he wound up getting a couple years in jail

00:43:42.940 and um you know so that you know that ruined his life like literally that ruined his life but

00:43:49.500 technically was it illegal yes but was he willfully doing this no he wasn't but but the

00:43:59.100 judge didn't care i would think the club would be responsible because they let her in

00:44:03.460 well uh the the the parents push this um push the punishment for him um you know apparently the dad

00:44:13.400 was outraged and the dad was a very wealthy guy. He was pretty well connected. And so this guy

00:44:20.860 didn't stand a chance. And, and so, and again, you know, there, there, there were no consequences

00:44:26.300 for the young lady that would be no consequences for the underage sugar babies that were doing,

00:44:30.920 doing what they're doing. But if the, if the guy gets caught doing that, he's, he's done.

00:44:35.340 Yeah. And, and so, you know, so when, when you, you know, when we look at, you know, different,

00:44:42.300 different things like this, it's, it's kind of scary sometimes, just because from a guy's

00:44:49.460 perspective, you know, again, you know, it's been men and women, you know, I've worked on a case

00:44:53.720 where a woman thought her husband was cheating. And he was, he was cheating, but he was cheating

00:44:58.780 with a guy. Yeah, one of his co-workers. And, and, and, you know, that was, that was actually

00:45:07.680 a shock it well it wasn't it and it wasn't really because you know look this happens you know but

00:45:14.460 it was a guy who was a married guy with a couple of kids and the wife stayed with him you know and

00:45:20.640 and you know that happens a lot more than you think as well too like we all know people who

00:45:24.900 are married and the man is clearly clearly gay you know what I mean and but they're married they

00:45:31.620 have a wife a couple of kids already I you know I've seen that happen in church where there was

00:45:36.760 music pastor a church i used to go to years ago and you know like when i first met him i was like

00:45:43.240 like literally it's like meeting a skinny liberaci like like the guy's hair was always perfect great

00:45:49.080 piano player but he just you know he just seemed like a gay man and and again there's nothing wrong 0.96

00:45:53.960 with that but it's 2024 why do you have to hide this now you know i don't think anybody should

00:45:58.040 try to hide this um if that's who you are be who you are but so you know he would open the service

00:46:05.800 with praise and worship and i don't know if you even want me to go into this do you no go ahead

00:46:10.040 i'm so entertained right now keep going okay all right all right i i don't want to i want to step

00:46:14.360 past where you want me to go to your show that's okay um and and so he would open the open the

00:46:20.520 service with praise and worship and he was tremendous musician like one of the best i've

00:46:25.800 ever seen tremendous musician and he would leave and we thought he would be in his office he'd be

00:46:29.880 in his office you know in prayerful meditation or or whatever right you know praying or whatever

00:46:35.160 preparing himself for the closing service well one particular service he didn't show up and so

00:46:39.720 the pastor's son who's also a musician had to had to you know close out with you know the praise and

00:46:45.480 worship and music they do at the end when they do the altar call and everything well we found out why

00:46:49.960 he didn't show up he didn't show up because he went to a park in that area i won't go into the

00:46:55.320 area um and he engaged and under or he tried to engage an undercover police officer posing as a 0.84

00:47:02.760 a gay male prostitute for services and and apparently that's what he would do every week 0.62

00:47:09.800 and then he'd go do what he had to do and then go back to church finish up the service 1.00

00:47:17.800 you know some of the craziest double lives i've seen her at church it kind of blackpilled me a 1.00

00:47:22.760 little bit because especially um i found the worst attitude with church women like i would find that 1.00

00:47:31.160 the only fans models were kind like more polite sometimes than like the women i would that would 0.99

00:47:38.200 come on and say they were christian or whatever and i would i would see such a double life when

00:47:44.520 i was interviewing people from some of them it was just crazy yeah i i was a head of security

00:47:51.400 for a very large church for a prominent religious leader and uh i can tell you from from experience

00:47:58.360 and anybody if they're honest especially these giant churches yeah it goes down at the altar call

00:48:08.200 and whenever there's a huge mash of people mashed in together i got groped and rubbed against more

00:48:15.320 than at a at a at a nightclub um and i got more phone numbers put in my hand and more offers of

00:48:22.200 of sex than any place I've ever worked.

00:48:26.280 And I mean, I'm not even exaggerating.

00:48:29.440 Like, you know, the whole double life thing,

00:48:31.900 you know, the whole, look, and again,

00:48:33.820 people will get angry at me for saying things,

00:48:35.960 but at the end of the day, I don't say this,

00:48:37.420 I don't say these things out of malice,

00:48:39.060 I'm not angry at anybody.

00:48:40.420 I'm just very matter of fact about things,

00:48:42.160 and I think that people have a right

00:48:45.100 to make an informed decision.

00:48:46.320 If you're being lied to about your potential mate's past

00:48:51.260 And, you know, all the rest of these things, then, you know, how can you make an informed decision?

00:48:57.800 You can't.

00:48:58.320 And so when we talk about religion, what I found is that from a straight male's perspective, whenever I meet a woman and she leads with, I'm a Christian, I go to church, I'm very religious. 0.85

00:49:12.180 I know the clock is ticking and that if I want to, I can have sexual intimacy with this woman that day because they're using it as a shield. 0.66

00:49:20.480 and that shield is not to protect her from me that shield is to protect her from her own 0.95

00:49:25.120 lustful desires and past and so when when women have that past um and again it has never failed

00:49:32.800 um when i meet women that say oh i'm this i'm that okay i i can literally you you can literally

00:49:38.000 watch your watch and just start to count down uh it won't be difficult if if if i wanted

00:49:46.000 sexual activity with them it would be available and so i think you know when when you have people 0.63

00:49:52.720 go to go to churches and it's like that friend of mine who met that woman who was a mess addict

00:49:58.480 addict um who was a born again born again christian don't just take that on face value

00:50:05.840 you still have to investigate people i'm not saying that they are some people really are

00:50:10.400 genuine in what they're doing but there are a lot of them that use it as a cover story

00:50:14.720 and again you know like i said before i'm one of the most jaded and cynical people you'll ever meet

00:50:20.460 i will never get married again um you know i've i've got relationships with women but um you know

00:50:28.440 i i tell them look i'm i'm you know i'll tell them all the time like i'm i'm not getting married so

00:50:34.020 if you're looking for somebody who wants to get married i'm the wrong guy and if i feel like

00:50:39.020 they're trying to get too close they get cycled out and i bring another one in um just because i

00:50:44.080 just i'm just i think i'm probably incapable of really trusting anyone that yeah like and again

00:50:52.560 when you talk about women and the way they cheat i've worked on cases where literally

00:50:57.760 girls night out women would meet at a place um they'd take some selfies they'd put these selfies 1.00

00:51:05.440 on facebook or whatever it is yeah we're out here they take a bunch of pictures with a woman 0.92

00:51:09.760 she'd get picked up 10 minutes later and then go off with you know chad or tyrone or

00:51:17.360 or guillermo or or whoever and then get brought back after you know their their activity and then

00:51:24.560 she'd go they'd go home to their husband who's sitting at home watching the kids

00:51:30.000 um you know i had some really pretentious guys uh that were real just some of these guys that

00:51:36.400 are really self-righteous oh i trust my wife you know the guys who have been talked into that whole

00:51:40.880 oh you know if you if you question your wife you're insecure yeah and uh there's a group of 0.95

00:51:47.360 them about five of them out of five of them four of their wives are screwing around them no

00:51:54.800 no seriously look here's the thing if you give and again it's gonna sound bad but if you give

00:52:00.080 unfettered freedom with no accountability whatsoever to anybody male or female and you

00:52:07.760 give them opportunities it doesn't matter how unattractive they might be it will find someone

00:52:12.720 who wants to get with them and with with this particular group look um these guys are you know

00:52:22.000 these guys are guys that have their heads up the behinds and so i don't have any vested interest

00:52:26.560 and helping them and so um and you know when i split with my my ex you know they were they were

00:52:32.400 just so preachy and like oh well if you gave you trusted your wife more this wouldn't have happened

00:52:37.760 if you led better yeah that's what they say it's you just you weren't godly enough so

00:52:44.000 yeah well and and i was like you know so here's my thing was this right well before i got married

00:52:48.400 i spoke with my of my ex and i said look i laid down parameters people say oh you have to well

00:52:53.680 here's the thing those parameters don't count because of a thing called woman's intuition

00:52:57.600 um you know women can just change their mind whenever they want to and so one of the things 0.99

00:53:01.360 i told her i said look i said i don't want a woman that drinks i don't want a woman that goes to 1.00

00:53:05.680 girls night out or clubs or bars or you know this sort of thing and she agreed so that that's not my 0.85

00:53:10.720 thing um four months into being married she was like oh my co-workers invited me to girls night

00:53:16.160 out and and you know so that you know what do you do at that stage well what i said was i was like

00:53:20.800 look i said you can go to girls night out do what you want i can't stop you you're a free person i

00:53:24.400 said but when you get back the locks will be changed and your stuff will be outside i said so

00:53:28.720 and and i had to draw a hard line in the sand and if you're not willing to do that you will get

00:53:33.280 walked over and i saw so many guys most of the guys i've i've done work for they've they've done

00:53:39.840 that whole thing where they just trusted and just believed um and and it's really it's really silly

00:53:46.480 because we've all seen women how they behave on girls now like every every single guy has seen it 0.98

00:53:52.400 and wanted to infiltrate that group of of the the really slutty looking women um 0.99

00:53:59.600 all together dancing with each other and you know this whole oh we dress this way for our friends 1.00

00:54:03.920 no you're not no you're not just like women at the church who have all the boobs and everything

00:54:08.160 else hanging out the way like okay sister you're not dressing that way for jesus i'm sorry um and

00:54:13.360 and you know and again anybody who's honest if people are honest they'll tell you that it goes

00:54:17.680 down at church man yeah like like the hookup culture at church is real and and i don't say

00:54:23.760 that from a standpoint of gloating because i grew up in church and so i i'm a christian i tell people

00:54:29.440 i'm not a very good one um but i'm a christian my grandmother was a preacher she preached for 62

00:54:34.320 years until she couldn't stand in the pulpit anymore but unlike a lot of modern churches

00:54:38.800 she never took a paycheck she was a registered nurse uh she never took a paycheck from church

00:54:43.680 uh while i was the the grandson i actually got into uh i got into a fight at church twice

00:54:50.240 and in the middle of the church service i was that i was that troublemaking grandson

00:54:55.760 um and um you know but today the church is it's it's not what it used to be man it's not what it

00:55:01.680 used to be the older ladies used to keep the young ladies in check the older men used to keep the

00:55:06.720 young men in check um now it's a free for all and uh guys are being pressured into marrying women

00:55:13.360 that you know if they knew their pasts well if they understood that um their past weren't washed

00:55:20.400 away because they answered the altar call you know and it doesn't mean that necessarily going forward

00:55:25.760 that they've actually changed the ways so you mentioned that it's going to be more difficult

00:55:33.360 for people to live a double life what are ways that you are able to detect high body count in

00:55:41.200 women because i've heard men say there's no point in worrying about it because you'll never know

00:55:48.000 um so what are i i know there's like things you know single mother obviously attached like there's

00:55:54.640 generalities that people make but how would someone specifically know

00:55:58.800 well there's a couple of ways i i can tell just because i've been with a lot of women if you've

00:56:05.600 been with a lot of women you can tell when a woman has had a lot of men you just can't you can see it

00:56:10.400 on their face and their demeanor um you can but from a more practical uh standpoint um women who

00:56:18.800 have a high body count tend to congregate together okay so if you have a woman and if you know a 0.95

00:56:27.360 woman and she hangs out with a couple of women that are really slutty she's not the the one 0.90

00:56:32.080 that's trying to lead them down the path of righteousness you know uh that she isn't she 1.00

00:56:36.560 isn't and and so you know just like um you know this whole thing with um you know she's got a 1.00

00:56:42.880 drug a heavy drug past every drinker uh women that go to bars a lot um nobody does these things

00:56:49.360 because they're not trying to hook up with somebody else these are places where people hook up and 0.99

00:56:54.000 And you look at other things like women that travel a lot, 0.99

00:56:58.760 women that travel for work. 0.95

00:57:00.540 I had a case not too long ago where, you know, 0.99

00:57:04.180 a guy thought his wife might've been messing around on her.

00:57:07.680 And so he wanted her, you know, he wanted to just check. 1.00

00:57:11.560 And she was a traveling salesman

00:57:14.840 and she'd be gone three, four,

00:57:16.620 sometimes five days out of the week.

00:57:18.820 And she would travel with a bunch of other men.

00:57:22.000 Yeah, she was messing around with her boss. 1.00

00:57:25.080 If a woman works at a place with a lot of salesmen, 1.00

00:57:27.580 forget it, it's a wrap. 1.00

00:57:29.180 Salesmen are particularly adept at talking.

00:57:33.460 You know, they got game for a reason, the salesmen.

00:57:36.160 And so certain professions,

00:57:40.700 nurses tend to be tremendous. 1.00

00:57:43.140 Oh yeah.

00:57:44.020 Now they'll have a guy that they'll set up 1.00

00:57:47.640 in the boyfriend or husband or future long-term mate zone.

00:57:50.700 and it's and it's funny because you know women will put guys in different categories and no guy

00:57:55.500 wants to be in the category where you're not getting it now everybody wants to be in the

00:57:58.940 category when you're you know where you're the guy who's getting everything from from a woman but

00:58:03.500 you know they'll they'll decide okay i want this guy to be my boyfriend so he gets nothing this 0.98

00:58:08.300 dude i met uh the scumbag in the bar that's the guy who's going to get everything and unrestrained

00:58:14.700 unrestrained text and so you look at different tendencies look at um you know there's a lot to 1.00

00:58:21.500 do with social media um a lot of women have more than one social media account you might see one 0.61

00:58:28.940 where they friend you but they'll have others and women will use different social media accounts 1.00

00:58:33.980 for a couple of different a couple of different reasons they'll use a social media account to 1.00

00:58:38.460 gather intelligence on you like i said i i call it the estrogen network the estrogen network is women 1.00

00:58:44.940 and they're the way they they understand how to gather intelligence and information better than 0.99

00:58:52.460 men do and so they'll and i've had women do this with me they'll send me a friend request

00:58:58.620 on say facebook or or instagram or wherever it is and i'll look at it and i know i have a very

00:59:04.300 practice i'm like this is not their real account and so i'll do some more digging and find their 1.00

00:59:08.060 actual account which will be on a different email or whatever it might be but women will have

00:59:12.780 different email addresses that you don't know about they'll have women are using burner phones 0.99

00:59:18.700 um like we've we've had cases where women actually had separate phones so things won't show up on on 1.00

00:59:23.740 the phone network women have used uh what what's called the digital dead drop to communicate with 0.99

00:59:29.500 the guy they're messing with a digital what oh sorry god digital digital dead drop so dead drop

00:59:35.100 is excuse my terminology i was i was trained years ago by an old cold warrior and so um

00:59:42.540 some of the terminology is is is kind of the old intel stuff so dead drop is a place where

00:59:49.740 an operative would place information like years ago as a microfilm or

00:59:54.380 whatever a secret note with a formula who knows what right and they would hide it somewhere and

00:59:59.020 they would be marked so that the person that was following up and needed that information they

01:00:03.340 wanted to give it to would be able to pick it up surreptitiously without being detected so

01:00:08.940 these days with electronics the the main way people get caught typically is is with these

01:00:14.540 right your cell phone your cell phone tells on you it tells everything on you it's always

01:00:18.220 listening it's always watching nobody leaves their cell phone behind to get around that what this

01:00:23.580 woman was doing and this was in a um actually in a famous case with i think it was general

01:00:29.020 portray us when he got caught because he was having an affair and um so if if if you have the

01:00:36.460 if you have access to the email address and i have access to the same email address i'll place

01:00:41.900 in the drafts a message i want you to see and all you and never get sent you know i mean and so all

01:00:48.300 you have to do is log on look in the drafts the most recent one that's the message meet me at the

01:00:52.860 no pill motel and and that's how they were that's how they were communicating they weren't using the

01:00:58.140 phone uh and the only reason we found that was because we we wound up getting access to um the

01:01:03.420 computers and everything else and so you know because of the spouse and um you know because

01:01:08.460 people want to know why people want to know how and so you know we've gotten really good at reverse 1.00

01:01:12.780 engineering uh understanding how people communicate but women with women with high body counts

01:01:19.740 tend to um be the ones that cheat the most unfortunately uh the the problem with that 0.77

01:01:26.780 is this i actually know a young woman now 20 years old she's got a triple digit body count at 20. 0.76

01:01:34.540 um and she started sexual activity when she was 12 years old and and so and that that happens a 0.95

01:01:40.380 lot more often than you think um one of my neighbors uh knocked on my door one night um 0.98

01:01:46.060 apparently their daughter snuck out of the house and went to a party and came back her

01:01:52.380 you know underwear was missing and that sort of thing i was like you need to go get a rape tip

01:01:56.300 right away you know um and so you know that that happens a lot more often than people think 1.00

01:02:03.100 um just people just aren't really monitoring what their kids do very often and so you have women

01:02:10.060 with you know young women this young woman was not a sex worker she just had a lot of sexual

01:02:14.940 partners uh at 20 years old and so you know if if you don't have a lot of experience with women

01:02:22.940 um you're not going to do very well with this with this young woman uh just because she's so

01:02:32.460 advanced sexually that you know most men you know there's a lot of guys that you know they go into

01:02:37.340 their 20s never had sex before uh which you know i it you know it happens to the guys but um if

01:02:45.180 you're in that situation look i feel bad for those guys you know because they're they're put down a

01:02:49.980 lot they're they're um they're vilified they're teased a bunch they clowned a whole bunch but

01:02:55.660 you know if they could change that they would you know i'm sure they don't want to be in that 1.00

01:02:59.500 situation but this is this is the world we live in and so women will will marry for money they

01:03:06.060 won't really marry a guy that they're really attracted to i found that a bunch as well too

01:03:10.540 most of the women i've talked to they got married maybe divorced later on they said look i i didn't

01:03:14.780 even love my husband when i married like you'd be surprised i mean women say i i didn't even love

01:03:18.540 my husband but i married him anyway uh because he'd be a good provider or a good father or

01:03:24.220 whatever it might be and so you know and so we talk about deception you have guys that are

01:03:30.540 getting married that have the belief that their wife loves them and and so this is why you get

01:03:36.140 so many sexless marriages or sex with so much so many conditions applied to sex okay well if you

01:03:43.100 want sex you've got to do this this this this and this and maybe i'll throw you something you know

01:03:48.300 what i mean maybe um and and so you know when you know and so when you know people have this 0.99

01:03:54.060 ridiculous notion that if you're if you take care of this and you maintain you hold masculine frame

01:03:59.660 it's a bunch of nonsense but like i said i've i've seen guys that were literally studs literally 0.92

01:04:06.060 studs like giants like the six seven six eight jack stay in the gym and rich and these guys got

01:04:12.300 cheated on yeah you know what i mean and so and so so at the end of the day it's not about it's

01:04:17.340 not about that it's about accountability it's about understanding human nature um if you understand

01:04:24.140 women uh you understand that a woman who who has a lot of bodies to her name and again it's not to

01:04:31.580 put them down or to shame them this is you know i'm just speaking fact uh she's she's gonna have 0.99

01:04:36.860 less it's going to be less likely to be satisfied with one mate and so one guy's typically not going

01:04:43.420 to do it for um and again you know i had some eye-opening conversations with with some of the

01:04:49.420 sex workers i talked with um you know there are you know people say there's no physical

01:04:55.660 um that there are no physical consequences and uh some of them you know i've actually brought

01:05:00.540 that up to some of them some of them just said look you know they don't really have a whole

01:05:05.580 bunch of feelings some of them you know inside you know because they've had so many guys in there

01:05:11.580 and and i do think you know at some point we we think of um you know like a man men don't have

01:05:17.580 that problem you know we don't really lose sensitivity unless you're just doing just some

01:05:21.660 weirdo stuff or whatever um but you don't and so you know when when you talk to women when you hear 0.98

01:05:29.020 women encouraging other women to just go and mess around and just have sex with as many guys as you 0.88

01:05:36.140 want and all the rest of this stuff is like look there's there are consequences to it uh so good

01:05:41.340 and i'd imagine they they'd had to have caught a bunch of stuff sleeping with that many guys

01:05:46.140 like i wonder what percent have something incurable um you know i actually had a case where and and

01:05:53.980 again you know with with these stories just so you know just put a caveat out there i do change these

01:05:58.460 stories up something just because i need to protect people in their identity you know what

01:06:01.980 i mean and obviously i'm never going to put anybody's name out that sort of thing but there

01:06:05.420 was a guy um there was a woman who gave her husband an std she got the std from her pastor

01:06:15.500 who got it from another woman in the church um and you know and so stds occur quite a bit um you know

01:06:24.860 know there was one woman that that told her her husband that oh well you know you know in certain

01:06:30.460 cases this uh you know the std can lie dormant in a woman's body it can it can't incubate for a

01:06:37.580 while but you know she was saying it was years before and it's just laying in wait like a trap

01:06:42.140 door spider until that one day to reach out and grab him and it's like ah sorry you know so she

01:06:50.860 said she had a std that was dormant for years yeah yeah they were and they were and they were

01:06:56.940 married what was it um i i don't it wasn't hpv although that's you know that's a very dangerous

01:07:04.860 one um i think she was saying it was gonorrhea or might have been chlamydia and that lies dormant

01:07:13.180 for you okay come on and you know like yeah exactly and and you know when when he told me

01:07:20.060 that i just looked at him like really really man i said you don't really believe it he's like he's

01:07:25.100 like what but you and so you know people have this thing where they want to believe the lie

01:07:30.300 and so um and and again i one of the things i ask people is look do you really want to know this

01:07:36.860 you know is this something you really want to know would you would you want to keep going forward

01:07:40.700 in ignorance and some people don't want to know and um you know so you know again human nature

01:07:47.580 being what it is um i understand that most people most people can only be trusted conditionally

01:07:56.300 you know like like there's only two people on this earth that i trust completely one of them

01:08:00.940 recently passed away of my father the other one is my son uh outside of that i'm not a trusting

01:08:05.660 person just and again i'm very jaded because of the work i've done um you know but i've i've seen

01:08:11.820 too much of female nature not just from the investigative side but i've also done a lot of

01:08:16.620 executive protection work for very wealthy powerful guys from politicians remember i'll tell 0.80

01:08:22.860 the story one day about about um how i wound up in a um in a political um a political campaign ad

01:08:31.500 um and i've worked for for people that that ran studios on the west coast and the lengths that

01:08:37.900 that women will go to to link up with powerful guys is is incredible like um one of the guys

01:08:47.260 that he was um he was dating one of my neighbors he was one of jerry buss

01:08:53.980 kids and so you know he would he would tell us stories about how you know they would have to hire

01:09:01.260 investigators to protect players because women would do things like they would bribe concierges 1.00

01:09:07.500 um they would get jobs for companies that that service different areas or made services just so 1.00

01:09:13.580 they can get with these guys they would sabotage condoms um like like you know the whole spurglery

01:09:19.260 thing that's a whole other thing that wealthy guys have to worry about so people look at wealthy

01:09:24.380 guys and they think they got it easy uh their problems are different they don't really have it

01:09:28.780 easy though uh they're under constant assault like constant and it was never ending and and we would

01:09:36.060 we would be right there front and center to see everything go down and um you know these would be

01:09:41.020 married married women um and you know i think you know to a certain degree some people men

01:09:48.220 and women have kind of malleable morals when it comes to certain things and so i'll give you an

01:09:55.340 example i i was on a um i organized the uh uh protection detail a bunch of guys in suits armed

01:10:05.180 to the teeth for a um an opening of a certain organization i can't go into the name of it

01:10:11.100 obviously and so i had about nine ten guys there in suits and so i would go from inside to outside 1.00

01:10:17.260 and just to get into this party um this really pretty trophy wife offered to service me 1.00

01:10:26.380 in my car to let her in and you know you can see the giant rock on her finger she just wanted to 0.52

01:10:32.140 be in that party and i'm sitting there like i'm sitting looking at it at first i was like no no i

01:10:37.340 can't do this but but but you know there's things like that and and if you you know you know from

01:10:45.180 from my my perspective my standpoint is this um i have a code um there's there's some things i just

01:10:51.260 won't do and one thing i'm never going to do is i never harm clients and and i don't put clients in

01:10:56.620 in bad situations and so you know a um you know obviously i turned that down but you know if

01:11:03.020 you're the if you're the bodyguard you see everything that happens you see everything

01:11:08.380 that goes down uh why because because you're there for everything and so women and and i say this i

01:11:15.980 say women not to target women people say oh you hate women i don't hate women you know i've

01:11:20.540 actually done a lot to try to help help and protect women over the years and volunteered to do it um

01:11:26.060 and but most of the wealthy people i've worked for were men i've only worked for one

01:11:31.020 wealthy woman and she was really really rich um but these guys are under attack literally like

01:11:39.100 like they're it's almost like they're they've gotten their their their tactics from an

01:11:43.820 intelligence organization trying to infiltrate a network they're that slick and that polished and

01:11:49.660 and that determined and they just don't stop and so whenever i hear about wealthy powerful guys

01:11:55.180 getting caught cheating um you know i i have a little bit more understanding because i know

01:12:01.420 what these guys are up against i had a roommate that was an actor he was a soap opera guy

01:12:05.900 uh that's where i lived in los angeles and like we'd go to these groupie bars and and these women

01:12:12.220 would just literally they would just follow you into the bathroom and offer themselves to you 1.00

01:12:16.460 like it was literally that much and and actually had to stop being his roommate because he'd go to 0.98

01:12:21.500 parties and bring three or four girls home and women would just crawl into bed with me and okay

01:12:27.980 i mean that was that was cool for a while but i was working yeah i can't work with you i mean i 1.00

01:12:33.420 would i would turn the lights and check and make sure he didn't try to slip an unattractive woman

01:12:38.700 you know but but it but it it's it's that much is available um to guys that are famous the guys that

01:12:45.420 are that are that are wealthy uh to athletes they're under constant assault and so i have

01:12:51.580 a little bit more understanding from from what they you know what they what they go through but

01:12:56.140 the double life thing it's harder and harder to hide uh because guys like me are becoming more

01:13:02.780 and more adept at at reverse engineering and you know people can cover their tracks to a certain

01:13:07.100 extent but there's there's only so much they can cover and so we've developed some pretty good

01:13:13.020 systems um and and sops standard operating procedures to be able to unravel even once

01:13:20.220 people are trying to hide things uh we're we're really good at finding things most people have

01:13:24.460 something to hide it doesn't necessarily mean that it's bad you know it's like i was talking to a um

01:13:29.100 um a buddy of mine he's well i don't have anything to hide it's okay let me look at your let me look

01:13:33.980 at your browser history silence yeah of course everybody has something to hide it doesn't mean

01:13:38.060 that you're you're breaking the law you know what i mean um but when it comes to understanding who

01:13:44.540 your spouse is you know the the best indicator we have for somebody's future is their past

01:13:51.660 and and that that is held true that's why people have resumes and bios and things of that nature

01:13:55.980 people want to see where you've been and what you've done and what your tendencies are this

01:13:59.740 way credit card companies look at your past so what would you say are green flags 1.00

01:14:08.060 for women. So if you were advising a client, like what types of women maybe passed your tests or 1.00

01:14:16.960 like didn't fall? Did you see any patterns? Yes. And so

01:14:22.980 the way the women behave towards them, and I'll use a friend of mine, a lady friend of mine as 1.00

01:14:32.240 as an example um and you know any any woman i go out with i'm gonna vet them and they know that 0.95

01:14:41.520 look you know what yeah i'm gonna look into your background doesn't mean that i'm gonna

01:14:44.960 disqualify you but i want to know you know i'd rather know than not know um but i've got i've

01:14:52.720 got a couple of female friends i got a few female friends but but in particular one in particular 0.67

01:14:57.600 has distinguished herself from the others because um whenever whenever i have any sort of issue she

01:15:05.680 makes herself available you know whereas like my ex she almost seemed to take the light and

01:15:12.400 and uh in challenges i had to go through it's almost like she was she was rooting for my

01:15:17.520 opposition um next is what is her relationship with her family does she have a close relationship

01:15:25.440 with her family not just you know her brothers and sisters but her mom and her especially her dad

01:15:32.320 um and what type of dad is he you know and so if you look at if you understand or meet a woman's

01:15:38.720 father and he's what we would what i would consider an upstanding upright righteous dude

01:15:46.960 uh meaning a guy that's not a not a drunkard a guy that has good self-control a guy that

01:15:51.600 takes care of and looks after his his offspring that's a good sign you know i mean so if if a

01:15:58.880 woman can date a guy and get him and get engaged to a guy like i've seen this where a woman can 1.00

01:16:03.680 do all these things with a guy and live with a guy and the guy never met her father um that for 0.82

01:16:08.880 me is a big red flag just because having a dad this goes from for men and women having a dad

01:16:16.880 guiding you and so this is not to discount mothers or or their their the part they play

01:16:23.200 that's also a very important part but it's a different role i know people think women can

01:16:27.040 fill the same role as men they cannot just like i can't be a mother a mother can't be a father

01:16:32.480 um and you know i'll sure i'll catch heat for that but whatever and so the the father's role

01:16:38.800 is to guide and and teach like my son is 18 years old whenever he has an important decision to make

01:16:44.400 he'll come to me why because he knows i i will always have his his best interest at heart why

01:16:51.040 whatever i have he's going to inherit going forward into the future and hopefully he can

01:16:54.400 carry my dna into the future but the same thing with your daughter and so if you have a daughter

01:16:59.600 uh and you want the best of her and you've raised her um to to to not just understand who you are

01:17:07.280 but value your your input that's a really good indicator and so like this this woman um

01:17:15.120 you know people will call her a pick me and and and you know and again i made a post i was like

01:17:20.160 you know isn't it it's not a coincidence that women you call pick me's are constantly being picked

01:17:26.000 and so you know when i when i when i started going out with her i met her i met her sister

01:17:31.680 and her brother-in-law within about a month and then i met her dad like a couple of weeks after

01:17:38.080 that and her mom a couple weeks after that nice people great people if i ever need anything like

01:17:43.520 if she's coming over my house oh can i pick anything up you know um and and you know 0.84

01:17:49.840 she's she puts herself in position to where she doesn't interfere with my business but she's

01:17:55.280 always there to help me if i need it same thing i see with some of these other guys look well how 1.00

01:18:00.640 does she treat you what does she do you know but you know the women that just want you to do for 1.00

01:18:05.600 them uh if if you're a guy and you go with a woman that's just like gimme gimme gimme gimme 1.00

01:18:10.640 gimme do this for me do that for me um you know that that's a woman you should stay away from

01:18:15.600 because she's clearly just there for the money but if you're okay with that that's fine you know 0.92

01:18:20.240 but what i've told guys to do is and you know i had a maybe i'll make a post about this one day but

01:18:25.760 but a guy who was wealthy and he met a young woman

01:18:29.720 on a dating app, which those things are useless,

01:18:35.300 but he's got a unique perspective on things.

01:18:40.000 He's a wealthy guy.

01:18:41.200 He's got a ton of property,

01:18:42.460 but he lives in a one-bedroom apartment.

01:18:45.380 He lives in a one-bedroom condo apartment.

01:18:48.540 He met her, brings her over there,

01:18:49.800 and I said, look, dude, don't show her.

01:18:52.680 Don't let her see how much money you have.

01:18:54.100 He drives a car that's paid off.

01:18:55.960 He doesn't have, he's not a flashy guy at all.

01:18:58.920 And his father told him to be that way.

01:19:01.020 You know, don't let anybody see how much money you have.

01:19:03.520 And he dated this woman for a while.

01:19:06.580 She never tried to put any conditions on him for what she wanted and how she wanted to be treated.

01:19:12.940 Like you hear these stories about women talking about, you know, I have pre and post date expenses and all the rest of the stuff. 0.98

01:19:19.240 If you're a dude and you pay that stuff, you're a chump and I don't feel sorry for you. 0.92

01:19:24.100 If a woman comes at you like that, like, look, I, I typically don't take anybody anywhere. 0.99

01:19:31.540 I'm not buying anyone, anything. 0.99

01:19:34.040 I'm just not doing it now with, with this one, with the ones that distinguish themselves,

01:19:38.720 different story.

01:19:39.640 You know what I mean?

01:19:40.520 The ones that have distinguished themselves, different story, but they got to prove themselves

01:19:43.940 to me first.

01:19:45.100 And if they can't do that, then they get, you know, they, they can keep moving.

01:19:50.820 And if more guys held onto that now, I get it.

01:19:53.760 If a guy has a hard time meeting women, he may not be, you know, as, um, you know, as dismissive. 0.78

01:20:01.600 You know, I'm, I'm, I'm very dismissive unless I get to know somebody and, um, you know, I'll walk away from a woman immediately.

01:20:10.040 Uh, but guys that aren't getting, you know, aren't meeting women, you know, they, they may accept behaviors like that. 0.97

01:20:16.840 And what I would say to those guys is you need to discipline yourself and you need to hold the line and not put up with, with, with, without.

01:20:23.760 outrageous things like that i've had women that i've met i've never taken them anywhere i've never

01:20:28.680 bought them anything and they've given themselves to me 100 if a woman really wants you you don't 0.99

01:20:35.060 have to jump through any hoops you will not have to jump through a single hoop if they want you

01:20:40.400 they'll give it to you right away uh and so yes work on yourself but i would also say that the

01:20:48.700 big difference between men and women is men understand when a woman is out of their price

01:20:52.780 range. And so what I mean price range is sexual market value. And so if I'm a three, but I want 0.98

01:21:02.380 to get with this chick and she's a 10, even if I'm rich, I know she'll get with me, but it's 1.00

01:21:07.840 going to be just for the money. It's not going to be because she actually wants to get together 1.00

01:21:11.060 with me. And so I'm going to have to jump through all types of hoops. And if you got to jump through

01:21:14.360 hoops to get a woman to go out with you, don't go out with that woman. Go out with the woman that 1.00

01:21:17.820 wants to go out with you. Go out with the woman that wants to make your life better 0.98

01:21:22.180 and be a partner with you. 1.00

01:21:23.980 Don't go out with a woman that is one of these divas 1.00

01:21:27.140 that just thinks that somehow because they have a vagina, 1.00

01:21:30.180 they just deserve whatever they ask for. 1.00

01:21:32.400 There's a lot of vaginas everywhere. 1.00

01:21:34.140 Vagina is not a scarce commodity. 1.00

01:21:37.120 It's very, very common. 1.00

01:21:38.700 And more of it is available today

01:21:40.460 than has ever been in the history of mankind. 1.00

01:21:43.660 Why are you guys jumping through hoops for vagina? 1.00

01:21:47.000 They should be jumping through hoops for you. 1.00

01:21:49.800 That's how it should be.

01:21:51.100 um but you know too many guys will fall into this trap where they will they'll let themselves

01:21:56.340 be drawn into this okay if i do this one more thing for her then maybe here's the thing guys

01:22:01.280 women like that will never show gratitude and and i think that that's one of the mistakes a lot of

01:22:06.000 guys make they're expecting gratitude some women will show gratitude not these these won't show

01:22:11.540 gratitude um they'll just expect you to give them things for no reason they don't really want you 1.00

01:22:16.960 They just want the things you can supply to them.

01:22:20.080 Now, here's what I will say. 1.00

01:22:21.480 Once women show that they are willing to be on your team, 1.00

01:22:25.600 like the pick me I mentioned earlier, 1.00

01:22:31.560 do I take her at the dinner?

01:22:32.600 Yes.

01:22:34.160 Yes, she's proven herself.

01:22:36.160 She's, matter of fact, she's coming over tonight.

01:22:38.240 She lives in, obviously she doesn't live too far away,

01:22:40.960 but she's also entitled to my protection,

01:22:43.720 which is significant.

01:22:45.080 You know what I mean?

01:22:45.840 knows she'll be safe here that's also what she's entitled to she's entitled to you know when i go

01:22:50.720 out somewhere if i have a black tie event or something like that where i need to wear a tuxedo

01:22:54.640 or something like that guess what guess who's getting the call the number one on my list i got 1.00

01:22:58.800 a list of girls but she's number one so guess what she's the one who gets the call and so that's what 1.00

01:23:04.400 pick me's are entitled to but pick me's are just women that understand that you know everybody's 1.00

01:23:10.480 a pick me to a certain extent you're in a business you're a pick me you want people to pick your

01:23:13.920 business you know i mean so i don't understand why this is such a such a matter of pride for some 1.00

01:23:19.520 women to be contentious and mean and and and call other women pick me's because they go through and 1.00

01:23:27.280 and make the efforts to take care of themselves like like this this you know the the women i go 1.00

01:23:33.120 out with they take care of their hair their nails but not just that they stay in the gym you know 0.58

01:23:38.400 know what i mean um they they they keep their weight to a certain certain level and um you know

01:23:45.760 they understand that it's a buyer's market you know you know people people flip the script uh

01:23:52.000 it's not a seller's market anymore maybe years ago it might have been a seller's market it's

01:23:55.760 a buyer's market and there's more on the there's more in the market available than ever there has

01:24:01.200 ever been and so we're talking about a commodity if there is a an overabundance of eggs well guess

01:24:08.160 what price of eggs is going to go down you know um if if there are fewer eggs the price of eggs 1.00

01:24:13.600 is going to go up it's the same thing women are not a scarce resource stop treating them that way 0.96

01:24:20.240 guys and and i think women should stop acting like they're a scarce resource like they've cornered 0.98

01:24:25.440 the market on um you know like my my ex tried this with me i went from getting laid all the time

01:24:34.880 to getting married and getting rationed and i had a problem with that and that's ultimately part of

01:24:42.400 the reason our marriage fell apart because initially you will you will do whatever you

01:24:48.320 can and jump through all the hoops because it's the right thing to do right and so eventually 1.00

01:24:54.800 here's what happens resentment will set in this is for all the women that that use sex this way 0.99

01:25:00.000 and withhold sex to get what they want i call it weaponized vagina all right so what's gonna i know 1.00

01:25:06.480 i have a lot of bunch of different sayings but the weaponized vagina is well do this for me or 0.99

01:25:10.720 you're not going to get it do that or you're not going to get it or if you're if you say something 1.00

01:25:14.480 i don't like you're not going to get it and so it's always held over your head like this sort

01:25:17.680 of damocles here's what happens eventually um your your man is going outside and he's going outside 0.99

01:25:25.920 with an erection and every set of pouty breasts and perfectly shaped legs and buttocks and feet 0.99

01:25:34.400 and potty lips and all the women that are flirting with your husband when they are um he's going to 0.99

01:25:40.720 start noticing them more and more and more and he's going to have resentment it's like wait a

01:25:46.560 second man i got married and and again i made a post about this and people just got angry and so

01:25:52.400 sad about what i said but at the end of the day most men get married uh because one of the reasons

01:25:58.640 is continuous access to sex and and that's not me being mean or saying that women are or or

01:26:05.280 whores or anything like that that's an that's an honest statement you know guys are honest they'll

01:26:10.000 they'll say that but women women got angry and say oh you just categorize women it's like no that's

01:26:14.320 not that's not what i'm doing but at the end of the day that's the truth and so if you're withholding

01:26:19.200 that that that one thing that they really really want well guess what you know uh at some point

01:26:25.440 they're going to be like wait a second man why am i going through all this stuff for this one 0.76

01:26:30.720 piece of a jj well it's everything what guy would get married if he knew sex wasn't on the table

01:26:35.920 no man well nobody knows that though yeah i mean okay and again i made this post and again people 0.98

01:26:44.480 got so mad about this man yeah and so i said i drew a comparison i said okay sex somebody asked

01:26:50.400 me if sex with marriage what the comparison was and i actually had a guy ask me i said okay 0.74

01:26:56.720 before sex um even engagement it's like walmart it's open 24 hours you can get pretty much

01:27:04.000 whatever you want after marriage turns into the publics you can't get as much and the hours have

01:27:11.440 been restricted somewhat but still manageable right after childbirth it turns into an appointment

01:27:17.280 only boutique uh that only sells one or two items and if you miss your window of opportunity you've 1.00

01:27:22.560 got to wait until the store decides to open again that's sex with marriage in most cases and women 0.96

01:27:28.320 got so angry like they got really angry well women you know and some of them were almost actually 0.99

01:27:34.640 saying that men shouldn't expect sex when they get married then why the hell why get married 0.53

01:27:40.000 and so my my wife my ex knew that i like i wasn't i'm not a scrub i got i got women whenever i wanted 0.60

01:27:47.600 and she knew that beforehand you know what i mean and then i got throttled back 1.00

01:27:53.440 and after a while i was like yeah you know what you can keep your vagina i don't need it 0.99

01:28:01.120 how do men distinguish a woman making him wait for sex because she's um like prudish 0.99

01:28:08.800 or inexperienced and um a woman that's doing it to control him um here's what i would say

01:28:21.200 they're giving it to somebody women like sex just as much as men do they'll hold it back from you

01:28:27.680 while giving it to someone else somebody else is getting it if you're not getting so there are no 0.99

01:28:33.440 more they're they're the the amount of women that are being prudish nowadays like that that number 1.00

01:28:38.800 is so small as to statistically it's zero uh they all have somebody somewhere and and what they'll 1.00

01:28:47.120 do is they'll hold hold it back and so it's used as a tool so they hold back to create a um a false

01:28:55.440 sense of market inflation i guess you could call it right so if i haven't had me for a while there's

01:29:01.440 this woman i'm hanging out with and i just really want some and just my level of desire for this 1.00

01:29:07.200 lady is way up to here well that gives her an advantage gives her a psychological advantage 1.00

01:29:13.040 because i'm not thinking clearly because i'm you know because the the lower head is is taking over 1.00

01:29:18.480 more and more and more as this desire increases hers is not increasing because she's getting 0.99

01:29:24.320 to exercise those demons on the side with whoever the dude is yeah you know i mean and and so

01:29:31.440 um it it does happen it doesn't happen very often though you know like i said i've worked on cases

01:29:37.840 where women were holding it back from men and they had somebody else on the side there's always

01:29:44.000 somebody else always men don't always have that they'll have a woman that they're pursuing and

01:29:50.240 you know depending on the guy's level of um you know proficiency with women uh he may not have

01:29:55.680 another woman on the side he's putting in all of his hopes in this one women never put their hopes 0.99

01:29:59.760 of one basket they always have several several baskets that they're juggling at the same time 1.00

01:30:05.120 and keeping in uh in reserve i guess you could call it um and so you know when when when women 1.00

01:30:12.640 are withholding um it is a method of exerting control and so if if your if your trigger is 1.00

01:30:23.520 you know if they create that trigger where you're constantly chasing physical intimacy with this 0.66

01:30:28.480 woman even after marriage um that's constantly going to be the methodology she's going to use

01:30:34.560 to control you now men can counteract that by saying okay if you want to withhold then maybe 1.00

01:30:41.280 we shouldn't date anymore let's see other people and just do that and walk away and and if she if

01:30:48.080 she says walk away okay fine okay then then you dodge the bullet you know but but too many guys

01:30:53.280 are afraid of calling women on the carpet and saying look this is you know like this is how

01:30:58.480 things are like i've i've met women and said look man if um yeah i've talked to women and said you

01:31:04.320 know they've said um you know you know i don't have sex on the first date or i want to wait or

01:31:09.120 it's going to take this many dates all right well good good to meet you bye and and i've gotten them

01:31:14.480 to u-turn i'm like look man i don't i don't need you you know um i i can replace you and so um

01:31:23.280 Um, you know, I had one, you know, sometimes I can be kind of a prick.

01:31:27.180 Um, you know, anybody who works for me can tell you I'm a horrible person to work for 0.71

01:31:30.480 because I, I place a lot of demands on people, but I picked a woman up and, um, she looked

01:31:36.200 fantastic. 1.00

01:31:36.900 We were going to go to an event and she was so rude and so just almost dismissive. 0.98

01:31:45.520 I literally turned around in the car and while she was in the car, I called her replacement.

01:31:50.020 And I was like, hey, how soon can you be ready to go out to dinner?

01:31:53.960 Oh, I can be ready shortly.

01:31:55.020 Okay. 0.99

01:31:55.940 And dropped her off and just pushed her to the side.

01:32:01.180 And if guys are more willing to walk away from women, even the hot ones, especially

01:32:06.680 the hot ones, the hot ones especially will give you more respect because they're used 1.00

01:32:10.740 to everyone kissing their asses. 1.00

01:32:12.800 If you're a dude who's willing to kiss a woman's behind because she's very pretty or super 1.00

01:32:18.100 hot, and there are some women that are super hot. 0.87

01:32:20.020 everybody's got their own criteria um i've got a very strict set of criteria um but you know it

01:32:27.140 it's when they understand that you know like someone will tell you some guys aren't going to

01:32:32.260 wait you don't make some guys wait uh and and if you're a guy who is willing to wait and is willing

01:32:38.340 to do all these things you're going to be you're going to be trying to ice skate uphill you know

01:32:43.380 um and and your life is going to be a lot more difficult walk away from it and walk away from it

01:32:48.900 if you're a guy who's who's um you know just focus and doing his thing um you'll you'll meet

01:32:56.080 the woman who's going to be what you need her to be and and um you know there are too many guys

01:33:03.640 that are trying to fit into a woman's life i'm not trying to fit in anybody's life um yeah my

01:33:08.000 life is my life my life is pretty well established if you want to be part of it you gotta you gotta

01:33:12.720 audition you want to be part of the team you can be part of the team but you've got to be a team

01:33:16.740 player and you have to understand that i'm the captain of the team and um and guess what there

01:33:22.260 are rewards for that and so when when you know i tell guys when if a woman's willing to do that 0.61

01:33:27.460 then yeah you need to do something for them as well too go out to dinner you know when like i 0.69

01:33:32.820 said black tie events i have um i've got a client that's got the um the special exclusive tickets

01:33:38.660 to the kia center where the magic plant all the rest of that stuff sometimes he'll let me use this

01:33:42.420 luxury box and guess what you know if i if i have the luxury box guess what she'll get the call

01:33:49.540 she'll get the call why because that's that's what i'm willing to do for her for everything

01:33:53.540 she's willing to do for me and so there's it's not just a take take take for my part there's a

01:33:58.340 give and take but but let them prove themselves first but uh too many guys have been programmed

01:34:04.180 into thinking that they need to jump through hoops um and and treat women you know uh some of them

01:34:11.220 they're probably treating some of these some women better than they they really should right from the

01:34:16.100 very beginning without any sort of uh give and take and if you're just willing to give give give

01:34:21.780 why should why should they give you anything back you know if you if you're willing to let them

01:34:26.660 dictate the terms stop letting people dictate the terms to you a guy should not be letting

01:34:30.900 women dictate terms you dictate the terms um the guys in the chat they want to know how much your

01:34:37.540 services cost well look just just look me up um uh can i say some of my contacts yeah go ahead god

01:34:49.700 okay um anderson security consulting at gmail gmail.com but also russell anderson security

01:34:57.140 consulting dot com look me up on um on x at um look up private eye private investigator russ

01:35:05.460 um also got an instant instagram private eye private investigator russ on on facebook

01:35:13.860 it's anderson security consulting at gmail.com so the name of my company is anderson security

01:35:18.260 consulting the website is being updated the guy who does my my web um you know does all

01:35:24.180 my web stuff he's he's going through an illness right now so he's a little bit slow um and so

01:35:30.340 you know so so keep him in your prayers his name is ricardo he's facing um terminal brain cancer

01:35:36.420 and so just pray for him uh good good guy uh but that's what he's facing you know um

01:35:41.860 and he won't mind me asking for prayers for him you know but but yeah so yeah reach out to me

01:35:47.620 uh again you know everybody's not going to be able to afford the really really deep deep deep

01:35:52.740 background but if you're going to get married and you're a man you know people have this thing where

01:35:59.220 you know a lot of guys don't do research at all women will research a man

01:36:03.300 like they'll go really really deep and research men they'll utilize the aforementioned uh estrogen 0.99

01:36:09.460 network uh and and they'll put their heads together they'll have a council and an advisory

01:36:14.900 group like like they're really sophisticated men just be like all right let me just yolo

01:36:18.660 you know what i mean and and it's it's really the wrong thing to do and it's not just for

01:36:24.740 old money super wealthy you know i mean one percenters yes those guys do more and more

01:36:30.980 they're doing it you know the smart ones are but guys who are who don't have that you know you

01:36:36.180 don't know where you're going to be 10 years from now you're right now you might be making 60 grand

01:36:40.820 a year 10 years from now you might be making five million dollars a year or more who knows you know

01:36:47.060 so if you you make a small investment in the very beginning uh and again that's not a guarantee for

01:36:54.180 anything but it gives you a very good a very good impression of what you can look forward to in the

01:36:59.060 future all right so um and again i know a lot of wealthy guys uh most of them knew these women for

01:37:06.500 years before they got married like years and years and years the average wait time for marriage is

01:37:11.380 not that long it's less than a year for a lot of people and so people are meeting meeting women and

01:37:16.820 And women are very, very good at hiding what they are 0.94

01:37:21.120 if they really want you. 1.00

01:37:22.080 They'll put up the act for a good while,

01:37:25.380 but they can't keep it up forever.

01:37:26.600 But, you know, an ounce of prevention instead of a pound,

01:37:31.820 you know, instead of a pound of cure later,

01:37:37.280 bite the bullet, do what you need to do, 0.97

01:37:40.240 vet the women that are gonna be in your lives.

01:37:42.580 um and then maybe you you if you do make a decision to go forward at least you have the

01:37:48.920 ability to make an informed decision based on factual information versus just okay let me just

01:37:54.840 do it because most guys are pressured into marriage most guys aren't choosing to propose

01:37:59.160 some are but most of the time guys are browbeaten or pressured well you know if you don't put a ring

01:38:04.080 on my finger that type of thing and so they're okay well yeah let me just go ahead and propose

01:38:08.420 and, you know, the bended knee and all the rest of that stuff.

01:38:11.360 I didn't do the bended knee thing, bro.

01:38:14.240 I just thought that was, I didn't do it.

01:38:16.680 She even complained about it.

01:38:17.740 And I was like, look, I'm not getting my knees for anybody.

01:38:21.760 I'm just not doing it.

01:38:23.960 And, you know, so it was, you know, and again,

01:38:27.280 I'm not immune to making mistakes.

01:38:30.060 It wasn't a mistake to get married

01:38:31.580 because my son came out of it.

01:38:33.200 And in my opinion, he's the best human being

01:38:35.680 on the face of the earth

01:38:36.540 that's ever walked the face of the earth.

01:38:38.420 and that's just me i'm biased because he's my son uh and i raised him and he's gotten a steady diet

01:38:43.780 of all the things i've i've helped clients with over the years and he is so he is so sharp

01:38:51.940 like he um he was telling me about a young lady he was he was talking to i said what happened to

01:38:55.940 that one girl you went out with he said no he said and this one he was like 16 years old i said what

01:39:00.180 What happened to her?

01:39:01.020 That too many red flags.

01:39:02.380 But 16, he's 18 now, but he's really, really,

01:39:07.680 you know, he's gotten a steady education

01:39:13.080 that a lot of guys don't give their sons nowadays.

01:39:16.740 Men need to be teaching their sons how to deal, 0.99

01:39:19.580 not just how to make money 0.99

01:39:20.740 and how to balance your checkbook and how to invest,

01:39:23.220 but one of the most important investments

01:39:25.180 and decisions in your life is who you're gonna marry.

01:39:27.700 So you need to understand their background,

01:39:30.180 you need to understand what type of human being you're actually dealing with not just the you

01:39:35.940 know oh she's good she's cool with me you know i i know a guy who married a woman just because 1.00

01:39:40.900 she had large boobs like that that was it and i was like and she was she was an exotic dancer 1.00

01:39:48.500 and he was shocked when he found out that she was having sex with everybody but him 1.00

01:39:52.580 you know i was like like like dude everybody of course she was cheating on you um and and you know

01:39:59.120 i i i can when i'm talking to guys i can tell and there are guys i've even told you don't need an

01:40:06.100 investigator like you already know everything you need to know and and you know i've told you look

01:40:10.460 you don't need to hire me um you know you know everything you know need to know already to make

01:40:15.420 a decision and sometimes people just want want confirmation but typically when people come to me

01:40:21.160 whether it's male or female um have have they been wrong yes there have been instances when

01:40:27.800 they've been wrong uh so you know it's not an exact science but you know i don't i don't think

01:40:35.480 um enough men look into the backgrounds of the women they're with and if they did

01:40:42.360 um they would probably run from run for the hills and again i will catch hell from women for this

01:40:48.280 uh because you know they they seem to be ones who are women and guys who are just you know the male 1.00

01:40:53.160 feminists which i have a theory about male feminists uh they're the creepiest most the

01:40:57.880 weirdest guys on on the face of the earth that women should actually probably avoid uh but 0.91

01:41:03.000 because i i can't be a feminist how can i be a feminist i'm not a woman how can i actually 0.59

01:41:07.240 understand women's issues i'm not a woman just like you can't you know women most women can't

01:41:13.160 you have a pretty good understanding pearl uh but your your perspective is different

01:41:18.040 i think a lot of it has to do with that you've you've done a lot of research and a ton of work

01:41:22.840 and i think you've you've interviewed what hundreds of thousands of people over the years

01:41:27.400 thousands of women black held me yeah i'm as cynical as you to be honest yeah it's it's you

01:41:36.920 know look like i said i i trust only to a certain extent just because i've just seen so many things

01:41:41.640 but because of your background and because of your interviews you have you have an understanding

01:41:46.200 most women get their information about men from other women who give them the most backwards and

01:41:51.960 self-destructive advice i've ever heard yeah like i've heard women like i've heard women tell other

01:41:58.920 women oh your 20s are to have fun hook up with and link up with as many guys as you want and then

01:42:05.080 you know when when you turn 30 you get serious uh well you know i i you know from a from a

01:42:11.480 practical standpoint look women enjoy sex as much as men do and so i get it you know i mean i get

01:42:18.280 wanting to have a lot of whatever right but from from a woman's perspective if you look at

01:42:25.560 what men want from women i've heard you say this before and you've caught a bunch of heat for it

01:42:30.120 um women have a very small window of opportunity to maximize their gains they have a very very 0.95

01:42:37.000 small window of opportunity now during that small window of opportunity they can run the table and 1.00

01:42:42.280 run and rule the world you know based on you know a bunch of different factors but if a woman is a 1.00

01:42:47.640 nine or ten she can call her shot she can literally call her shot but if she's a nine or ten and then 0.58

01:42:55.320 she hits 35 she's no longer going to be looked at the same way and there's nothing sadder than 0.73

01:43:00.680 seeing women that used to be really hot still thinking they're really hot oh it's so oh it's

01:43:07.400 difficult to look at it's difficult to look at man and and again this is not from any i'm not

01:43:11.640 being mean you know but but like i saw a woman today um and i won't say where exactly because

01:43:20.040 this is my neighborhood yeah but she she's a woman but i knew her 15 years ago 15 years ago 1.00

01:43:29.160 she was an absolute smoke show like literally but she did the you know just date this guy that guy 1.00

01:43:36.600 and she dated a lot of wealthy um um actors and athletes and that sort of thing and now she's

01:43:45.080 is 15 years older and she's she's not getting anywhere near this the the same attention she

01:43:51.920 got she got before and she's got a couple of children as well too do you see men vetting

01:43:56.900 for genetic fraud like plastic surgery do you see them looking for that oh no no they don't

01:44:02.920 no guys guys and again i'm glad you brought up the genetics i was talking to i've actually

01:44:07.120 advised a couple of women about how to meet and land and and treat wealthy guys i've actually had

01:44:16.160 a couple women i know actually come to me and ask me for for for advice i've worked for worked for a

01:44:21.920 few billionaires a lot of millionaires and um and you know they have certain things in common that 0.63

01:44:26.640 that they're looking for in women and so when i was talking to one one young lady in particular

01:44:34.240 and and i said i said i said do you know why you're you're pretty a lot of a lot of people

01:44:40.400 don't understand what actual beauty is beauty is not your hair your nails this ridiculous contouring

01:44:47.680 makeup you know you know all made to mask and hide genetic deficiencies which that's what they

01:44:53.440 do right uh the cosmetic surgeries the lips the nose the hips the all the stuff people get the

01:44:59.680 liposuctions the fake this and fake that i said what makes you pretty is your bone structure

01:45:05.120 you cannot fake bone structure not real bone structure you can do some masking to it but a

01:45:11.600 lot of guys do not and so if you look at some women who've had a lot of surgery like look at

01:45:16.880 you're not gonna call her out look at tommy laran before and after she had she had a lot 0.99

01:45:20.720 of plastic surgery she looks like completely different person like it looks like a completely

01:45:25.280 different human being um you know having lived in hollywood i had roommates that would get 0.99

01:45:31.920 nose nose jobs that was a big thing in la boob jobs that was another big thing in la um you know

01:45:38.960 i i know a girl i knew a girl years ago who was trying to be an expert on baywatch i won't say 0.98

01:45:44.720 her name uh actually actually i actually had a crush on her and beautiful young lady but

01:45:50.560 if she was very small up here well guess what she got some work done she immediately got on a bay 1.00

01:45:54.800 wash and she had her face done and a bunch of and but then she got into this this downhill spiral

01:46:02.240 where she kept getting surgery done and she went from being actually really really pretty 0.99

01:46:07.040 to looking like just the most plastic woman you've ever seen in your entire life 0.71

01:46:11.360 and so um for me um plastic surgery unless they're in a certain profession that's a huge 0.72

01:46:19.120 uh red flag because the plastic surgery is not so they feel better about themselves

01:46:24.000 women don't dress better for themselves they don't dress up for other women as they say they do that's 0.97

01:46:29.040 that's that's that's a crock of doo-doo um they're dressing that way for male attention 1.00

01:46:34.240 that is the currency for women plastic surgery boob jobs excuse me boob lifts 0.95

01:46:40.240 that's that's all for men you know now i've heard women say oh we do that for i do that i dress that 0.99

01:46:45.520 way for other women no you don't right no you don't and so guys don't uh but women will judge

01:46:53.360 a man based on his genetic markers you know how many women want a guy who's six foot or taller 0.79

01:46:58.800 yeah you know that's that's the new almost trope nowadays because what women will say

01:47:04.560 is that high level men date women with a lot of surgery but they don't they can't tell

01:47:10.880 because it's getting so undetectable now um yeah that's why i was wondering like um i've 0.99

01:47:17.840 saw a tick tock the other day where this woman got a nose she had a huge nose and it completely 1.00

01:47:22.720 changed her face like she went from like a a five probably to an eight just because she 1.00

01:47:28.960 i mean she had a really it was bad it was yeah so but so a guy dates her she does that at 18

01:47:35.120 a guy dates her at 28 and his kids come out with these big honkers yeah it's you know it's here's

01:47:41.200 the thing the the the best um the best thing to do is examine um their mother oh yeah okay

01:47:49.200 examine that not just their mother look at pictures of their moms when they're younger

01:47:53.520 and look look at pictures of these these women when they're younger if they have social media

01:47:58.240 and their pictures only start five years ago um they're they're hiding something they've lost a 0.66

01:48:03.680 ton of weight um and they're hiding that which you know some people do some people don't but

01:48:08.800 you know they're also hiding you know they're cutting out the pictures before they get the

01:48:12.320 surgery done and so uh if guys are smart they'll do that that's actually a really easy thing to

01:48:18.000 investigate you don't have to use dna to to to look into that you can actually just use photographs

01:48:23.680 and analyze pictures um most women especially older women keep pictures when they're younger 0.97

01:48:29.440 you know i've got a neighbor who used to be a model when she was younger she'll the first thing 1.00

01:48:33.600 she'll show people is a picture of when she was a model you know she was actually really really hot 1.00

01:48:37.920 you know 60 years ago you know what i mean um you know but that that's that's what women will lean 0.99

01:48:42.800 on to they'll always lean on to their their peak beauty and save them but but guys guys don't vet 0.97

01:48:50.000 women for that sort of thing women will look at you they'll check out your weight they'll check 0.98

01:48:54.320 out your height um you know all these different things they will bet for that but most guys again

01:49:00.400 they'll just yolo and and don't really look into it the way they should and and that's because guys

01:49:06.480 don't look at it from like my my ex um was well is ukrainian german irish and so she's literally

01:49:19.760 whiter than you carol like like pale skin gray eyes uh and you know my background is you know

01:49:27.840 my family's jamaican but my great grandmother was taino south american indian my great great great

01:49:34.000 great great grandfather was a red-headed scotsman from kintyre scotland you know and so you know my

01:49:40.080 my dna is all over the place but i can guarantee she's five four if if i had been five five or five

01:49:47.600 six she wouldn't have she wouldn't have married me right um and and you know so you know our son is

01:49:53.200 i'm six one and my son is six foot tall yeah i'm i'm six foot so that's i'm not like yeah you're

01:50:00.480 you're you're you're unusually tall for them and i don't mean that in a bad way but but you're an

01:50:05.280 athlete yeah you know um you know and so you know like i actually met a woman uh that actually lied

01:50:11.600 about her height on a dating app really um she was six foot tall in flats oh that's i'm the same

01:50:21.120 and and and she put her height as five eight and when i met her i'm looking at the eye to eye and

01:50:28.560 i'm like you're not 580. i've never found that men i mean i there's a girl on my team who was six

01:50:36.080 five men shorter than her tried to hit on her all the time it wasn't really well that's that's the

01:50:42.880 short man complex you know but but a lot of guys don't you know from according to her a lot of guys

01:50:47.840 didn't like uh tall women i was like well i don't have a problem with height you know i mean that's

01:50:52.480 not my you know i don't i don't have a hang up about that yeah my big thing is weight and women 0.97

01:50:57.920 would use routinely use fake pictures on dating apps that's why i say dating apps are garbage

01:51:04.400 and shapewear too that's what yeah i've heard from guys that like like i've heard guys say 0.56

01:51:11.600 they've taken a woman home and then she took off the shapewear and they did he didn't even

01:51:15.360 want to do it like oh yeah that's look look if a guy aborts the mission from that stage it's

01:51:24.160 really got to be bad because i you know like guys can go in the gutter sometimes sometimes but

01:51:30.720 like i've i've met women you know it's probably happened six or seven times where they were 0.99

01:51:35.600 heavier there was one the most worst one she was at least 100 pounds heavier than her pictures 1.00

01:51:41.200 and so i get there we're meeting yeah she was huge but her pictures were from from years ago 0.98

01:51:47.840 and the pictures from years ago she looked she looked good but you know when when she pulled up 0.81

01:51:52.720 she was texting me oh i'm pulling up now i see a car pull up and then i see her get out and start

01:51:57.440 lumbering over because she wasn't really walking somebody somebody that big is lumbering and i was 0.88

01:52:02.160 like and she was late on top of that you know which is a big for me that's a big no-no but uh

01:52:08.480 and um she goes well did you bring you get my coffee for me i said no i said coffee is for

01:52:13.920 people who show up on time i said you don't look like your pictures and she was and she actually

01:52:18.480 got angry and cursed at me and she's a she's a well when i get coffee you want me to join you

01:52:23.280 said no you can sit someplace else you can go someplace else and and a guy who was i guess he

01:52:30.720 because we're sitting outside i was sitting outside a guy who was sitting behind me walked

01:52:34.400 up the same thing happened to me bro it's jacked up and and you know i i try to be nice about

01:52:42.240 filters have gone too far yeah you know and so look pictures i put up it's me they're pictures

01:52:50.720 of me you know i'll put pictures when i'm like you know swinging kettlebells or working out or

01:52:55.280 just regular pictures of me wearing a suit or whatever or a t-shirt and um i don't try to hide

01:53:00.160 who i am why because when i show up but this is what you're gonna see you know and so there's a

01:53:06.880 lot of deception and again you know from women in particular and i don't say that to be mean

01:53:14.080 or or to disparage women i honestly think it's an adaptive um a tendency a survival tendency

01:53:23.680 uh to to maximize what they can do as far as mating strategies go yeah and so you know um for

01:53:30.640 for men here's what i would say to guys don't get angry don't be angry don't don't get angry

01:53:35.600 they'll get mad even if you find out somebody's you know stepping out on you or whatever they'll

01:53:39.600 be angry uh look at it as a business decision look at it as um you know expect a certain amount

01:53:45.840 of deception and just decide what parameter or you know what parameter of deception you're

01:53:51.680 willing to accept and and what's unacceptable to you outside those parameters uh because you're

01:53:57.600 going to get some deception you're going to get some some lies um and that's just how it is guys

01:54:02.480 lies lie as well too i just excuse me guys lie as well too but you know again the the lies that men

01:54:09.120 tell are incredibly easy to unravel you know it's like men cheating it's almost always somebody at

01:54:14.800 work almost always somebody at work or somebody who knew from before women will you know they're

01:54:21.440 so good at hiding it man um that you know if we weren't good at what we do we wouldn't have been

01:54:28.800 able to find out what they were doing um most private investigators just do surveillance we

01:54:34.240 do surveillance but we also you know we're really good at problem solving and we're really good at

01:54:38.880 reverse engineering things and uncovering um people's secrets you know i i um and again it's

01:54:45.760 kind of a curse you know when i when i meet people if i'm around somebody long enough i

01:54:49.680 i can kind of start understanding uh some of the things they might have buried in their past again

01:54:55.440 it's kind of a curse um you know just because i i don't want to know everything um you know all the

01:55:01.280 bad stuff about people but i i don't i don't judge people based on it you know if you've got a high

01:55:06.080 body count you can still be a decent person do i want to marry you maybe not you know maybe not 0.99

01:55:12.240 um because with that high body count there is a greater um tendency towards having stds women

01:55:21.200 years ago um used to always make you wear condoms they always demanded now i've i've met women they

01:55:30.160 said oh you know what you can spray it wherever you want to i i wear them just because i don't

01:55:35.600 want to i don't want to wind up sick you know what i mean but women don't make men wear condoms like

01:55:40.800 that anymore not not like they used to because the technology to fix certain things or mask certain 0.98

01:55:47.120 uh stds is just so much better you can have aids now and live a decently long i was like they cure

01:55:53.860 everything yeah yeah it's like men figure out a way how to cure everything i was like i was like

01:56:01.360 there's a woman on tiktok bragging that she had aids and that she doesn't wear protection like i

01:56:08.460 swear she's on tiktok i don't know if it's true because sometimes women just say things for

01:56:12.960 attention online but i was thinking i'm like they've gotten technology to the point that it's 1.00

01:56:18.640 so good that oh no i think it was herpes but it was whatever it was the girl had some std that

01:56:25.700 was incurable and she didn't wear protection because medicine made it so it's it doesn't

01:56:31.640 spread as much if she takes something or i don't know what it was but i was thinking i'm like wow

01:56:36.960 they just men are fixing everything they gave us an extra decade of with ivf i'm like they just

01:56:43.920 they come up yeah but in the future just so you know i'll be i'll be making posts about

01:56:50.880 some of the hollywood parties i went to when i lived in hollywood

01:56:54.800 i was actually working for for people to escort them to a party um and nothing like dd parties

01:57:01.440 nothing nothing like that um but you know look man the the deception and and the way people can

01:57:09.160 can hide things women are so good at hiding things man um and and you know this is something 0.98

01:57:15.920 i learned years ago women make the best spies they make the best spies they make the best assassins 1.00

01:57:21.540 uh why because it's easier for women to gain people's trust like i've got women that that 1.00

01:57:28.220 work for me. I'm a pretty good talker. And so when I need to talk to people, I'm actually really, 0.91

01:57:32.820 really good at getting people to talk to me and giving me information when I'm interviewing people

01:57:37.320 as potential witnesses. A woman without training can gain a man's or woman's trust much, much 1.00

01:57:45.560 quicker than an average guy can, just because people are more trusting of women. And so 0.58

01:57:52.600 with that with that ability to blend in and that chameleon ability to mask their intentions uh

01:58:01.900 mask their their their past all these different things guys are woefully underprepared like guys

01:58:09.900 are so far behind it's it's uh and that's why that's why i started posting some of it you know

01:58:14.540 at your prompting but also too guys are way behind man and um you know whenever i post some of these

01:58:20.120 things you know you can always tell like i get attacked mostly by women you know like almost

01:58:25.960 like hey you're you're you're giving up the game well you know the the the game is up uh more and

01:58:31.800 more uh more and more people are looking into the background of women before they get married

01:58:36.520 um if they're smart they do unless it's a person you grew up with and you've known for a very long

01:58:41.640 time you need to vet her she's vetting you um if if like my ex comes from a wealthy family

01:58:50.120 And I know for a fact, her family did a lot of background on me, you know, and you know, why? Because I was a potential risk. I grew up in the South Bronx, you know, an ex-military, ex-cop, ex-civilian military contractor, relatively violent professions.

01:59:09.880 um and so they wanted to make sure their daughter was going to be okay and i get it and and i

01:59:15.240 understand it um now when when i was when now did i vet my ex no i did not and so i learned a lot of

01:59:23.320 these you know from a lot of these lessons i learned from myself not that she was a bad person 0.97

01:59:27.400 we just we just didn't get along because of her whole withholding vagina thing uh look you know 1.00

01:59:35.240 what look man if you if you're a guy who gets it regularly even frequently and all of a sudden 0.98

01:59:40.120 you're getting none um i'm sorry that's that's just unacceptable and and so so here's here's

01:59:47.400 something i would say that i would ask you pearl if if you could find this out from women or see

01:59:54.360 if this works for women uh because i've told a couple of women that i know to use this strategy 0.98

01:59:59.320 they were doing the whole withholding thing well if he doesn't do this then he doesn't get anything

02:00:03.240 he doesn't do that he doesn't do anything and what i told a couple of them was this i said look

02:00:08.040 you need to change your strategy that strategy is a losing and self-destructive strategy instead of 0.63

02:00:13.640 doing that pay it forward as if your husband wants a naked lap dance give him a naked lap dance if he

02:00:20.360 wants this give it to him if he wants that give it to him if he's a good guy and you married well 0.93

02:00:26.760 he's going to be he's going to volunteer to do all those things for you

02:00:31.720 he will volunteer and but but instead they do the opposite so from your studies with all your

02:00:38.440 your wisdom you know i mean and knowledge why why why don't why do they do the the most

02:00:44.760 self-destructive because there i always say there's three players in the marketplace and and men know

02:00:50.440 this it's the simps the pimps and the sexless and men rotate through these throughout life so a lot

02:00:55.800 lot of times they start as sexless then the only way they get sex is through relationships or 0.58

02:01:00.940 simping right and a lot of female dating strategies do work but they work on simps 1.00

02:01:06.900 so that's from my perspective that's why they do it is because a guy that's a simp if his wife 0.96

02:01:16.780 withholds sex and you've met him like wimpy guys I mean they'll say baby what do I have to do and

02:01:22.880 they'll do it and then the cycle continues women tell other women i mean let's be honest most women 0.98

02:01:29.460 marry simps like most men that get married um unfortunately like usually they have more value

02:01:37.960 than they know like they have no idea how much sexual access they would have but a lot married

02:01:43.100 young so they don't really know yeah it's it you know the the women i've told that strategy to that

02:01:51.960 actually used it have actually reported that things are different yeah things are different 1.00

02:01:56.680 like like you know and and so women don't seem to understand how powerful it is to maintain

02:02:03.720 a healthy sexual relationship with their husbands it's it's incredibly powerful and so um i remember

02:02:12.040 why i split with my ex uh she actually tried to get back together with me and i was like absolutely

02:02:17.720 not look I said I went from getting it whenever I wanted to be able to call my shot to toward

02:02:25.400 the end two or three times a year pearl and and then when I got when we split

02:02:47.720 And one of these days, I'll tell the story about, well, I'll save that for another time.

02:03:16.900 maybe if we talk again but but it's an epic tale that's an epic tale of um good um you should you

02:03:24.240 should definitely start like a channel i think it would do really well um like even just talking to

02:03:29.600 you now i want to hear what you think about like diddy and all this like i think you could do well

02:03:34.380 on youtube you know diddy here's the thing um i'm i've got a good pal um who i grew up with in the

02:03:42.100 Bronx. And he wanted an adult. And you sign up for that, that's one thing. But people were being

02:03:47.920 drugged. And so have I seen things like that? Yes, out in Hollywood. Not to that extent.

02:03:57.460 You know, I've had, you know, doing executive protection work, you know, again, I've probably 1.00

02:04:03.720 learned more about female nature doing executive protection work than even the private investigation 1.00

02:04:09.040 stuff um but you know people have to be careful it's not just like it's not just women that have 1.00

02:04:15.440 to be careful from from people trying to do things to them if people knew how many men were actually

02:04:21.920 violated physically you'd be you'd be stunned but most guys won't report things like that

02:04:27.760 you know how many guys want to say yeah this happened to them not very many you know and so

02:04:32.960 yeah the ditty thing is um it's it's barely scratched the surface there's gonna be a lot

02:04:38.560 more that comes out and um people um you know look i'm not a perfect person and if someone looks into 0.99

02:04:46.240 my background here's what they'll find uh yeah sometimes he's a jerk sometimes he's an a-hole 0.85

02:04:51.120 i don't like him or this or that here's what they'll never say they never say i'm dishonest 0.98

02:04:54.400 they'll never say i ever took advantage of anybody i never cheated anybody uh if anything i'm too

02:04:59.360 honest and um you know people sometimes people don't like that but there are guys out there there 1.00

02:05:04.560 there are, and women, unfortunately, there are evil women.

02:05:07.320 And so when you talk about Hollywood, 1.00

02:05:10.200 and it goes along with the Diddy thing.

02:05:12.800 When I lived in, I lived in Marina Del Rey,

02:05:15.060 I lived in Culver City, I bought a sailboat,

02:05:17.060 lived on a sailboat at Marina Del Rey,

02:05:18.520 and also lived in Hollywood,

02:05:20.480 like right near the American Film Institute.

02:05:22.880 I had a roommate that was a soap opera.

02:05:26.760 We had a soap actor,

02:05:28.080 we had another buddy that was a soap actor,

02:05:29.880 and we knew a bunch of B-list actors.

02:05:31.540 One of my neighbors was a costume designer for several,

02:05:34.560 you know movies and so we got invited to parties all the time and in hollywood and in the music 0.99

02:05:40.480 industry there are just as many predatory women as there are men you know people think it's just 1.00

02:05:45.200 guys completely that's what the math i don't know what women expect when they i i had britney run 0.99

02:05:52.800 around my show and she broke up with pj washington because he was unfaithful and i told her i was

02:06:00.000 like what did you expect that's it's an athlete i mean you don't don't sign if you don't want

02:06:05.840 athlete problems there is an engineer down the street that's you know willing to be faithful to

02:06:11.760 you look i i don't care i don't care if you're a shaolin monk um i've seen guys get wave after 1.00

02:06:22.080 wave after wave of beautiful attractive women throwing them throwing themselves at them over

02:06:28.720 and over again i don't care who you are at some point you're gonna break yeah you have to no and 1.00

02:06:34.160 so good sorry no there was oh my gosh there was this one guy that would come on my show

02:06:39.920 and every time he would talk about how wrong like cheating was for men and and i found that a lot

02:06:46.400 of the guys that virtue signal like that publicly they do the same thing behind the scenes and it

02:06:53.600 black pilled me a little bit i'm like so myron was the one that was being honest and i thought 0.96

02:06:59.120 he was being an ass like because on his show he would just say high value men cheat or whatever 0.97

02:07:05.040 and then i would think but the guy's lying they get the applause because everyone says 0.99

02:07:11.200 how awesome it is you know that they think cheating's wrong well high high high net worth 1.00

02:07:17.200 individuals ultra high net worth and net worth individuals um do have like look smart women

02:07:24.800 that marry these guys and and i've i've known a bunch of these circumstances situations they know

02:07:30.880 these guys are messing around but there's an un there's an unwritten or unspoken rule yes you're

02:07:36.960 going to do what you're going to do just keep it out of the public eye and don't create any children

02:07:42.960 and and don't embarrass me and so as long as you maintain those rules those are the old school 1.00

02:07:48.960 now uh there are women who think that they're the power of their vagina is so strong that this guy 1.00

02:07:54.400 who has all the power and money on the earth is is just going to be under the sway of her 1.00

02:08:01.360 one vajayjay that he's never going to be tempted it doesn't work that way good luck i mean the only

02:08:08.560 time i see it happen is if the guy married before he figured out what he could do so like if he

02:08:14.800 married before he could become like a pimp i mean it's a placeholder term right but but if he 0.66

02:08:22.080 realizes it good luck good luck look and and again i i know i know women like i said the one who lets 1.00

02:08:32.080 her husband go to a brothel once a month um she lets him fly into a brothel once a month but he 1.00

02:08:37.600 makes an extraordinary income his other wives divorced because you know he was constantly 0.90

02:08:43.120 messing around with women all over the place um he at one point he had women kept in apartments

02:08:49.680 all around los angeles county like five or six women like like he was he was he was balling like

02:08:55.440 that he was making a ton of like the guy was liquid he was filthy rich and um you know but

02:09:01.920 he was he was making a making a scene of it and these women got embarrassed nobody wants to be

02:09:06.720 embarrassed or humiliated yeah but nobody wants it thrown in their face and so this other one was 0.97

02:09:11.360 like okay you know what um you can go to a brothel and spend it like she lets him spend a weekend

02:09:17.840 at a brothel um which is not cheap but for a guy like him it's a drop in the it's a drop in the

02:09:23.120 bucket and and she does it because hey look it's it's for the you know you know his financial

02:09:31.200 you know his his ability to produce is directly tied to how much he's um able to screw around

02:09:39.360 you know he's he's just one of these guys the guy's a genius and and a money-making machine

02:09:45.040 but he's one of these guys that has different appetites and his appetite is he likes likes

02:09:51.520 different women and this is this next one she's she has a very business-like attitude about it

02:09:57.280 most women wouldn't have that but you know the other women like okay let's look at something in

02:10:01.040 the public eye arm schwarzenegger maria schreiber okay uh everybody look arnold everybody in hollywood

02:10:09.120 arnold was a dog for a long time everybody knew that she knew that she expected it she's a kennedy

02:10:15.120 you know i know somebody out there will be like oh well he should have been yeah whatever whatever

02:10:19.120 look she's a candidate she knows what's what he only got in trouble because what he produced a

02:10:27.440 child yeah that'll do it yeah and and he he put he put a spotlight on it and so she had to walk

02:10:34.640 away from him but he was like that wasn't the first woman he messed around yeah you know like

02:10:40.160 she wasn't um and and so you know women that that want to marry guys that are these these high net

02:10:48.080 worth and ultra high net worth individuals they need to make friends with the fact that they are 0.86

02:10:53.360 not going to be the only one um you know if they can let their egos do that that's just and a lot 1.00

02:11:00.960 of women just don't have the temperament for it they're too jealous like yeah you know um i i don't 1.00

02:11:07.360 know if it's jealousy or if if it's just um you know they don't want the the ego hit that their 0.51

02:11:14.480 their magic box that they think is so special is not that special yeah you know i i i think that's

02:11:21.520 that's some of it as well too um but you know so so yeah there's a there's a whole hidden world 1.00

02:11:29.120 that goes on secret sex work is a real thing it is becoming more and more prevalent i know women

02:11:37.200 that have nine to five jobs that do sex work on the side for extra money i know women that have

02:11:45.920 plenty of money but they use sex work as a way of instead of having a boyfriend or a relationship 1.00

02:11:54.000 they use sex work when they want to get laid they put themselves up for hire or whatever and get

02:11:59.280 satisfied and then go back to business as usual and that so there's a there's a whole bunch of

02:12:04.480 stuff that goes on that people will have no idea um you know about about how how far down the 0.93

02:12:12.800 rabbit hole sort of this stuff goes and and they'd be shocked some of the women they know um i would

02:12:19.440 probably say three out of or four out of the ten women most people know are doing or have done some

02:12:25.280 kind of sex work it's it's that much and it's just growing and so you know from a guy's perspective

02:12:33.280 you better be vetting women like you better you better vet them um you better understand what

02:12:41.420 they're you know and again you know there are some guys that don't mind women that have done

02:12:45.100 sex work some guys don't mind but at least if you know you know you can make an informed decision 0.99

02:12:50.220 i i said one out of five and people said i was being dramatic or it's just the city women and

02:12:56.160 i'm like you guys okay it's higher okay and and you know people and people try to show me these

02:13:03.760 statistics and everything else and i'm like look i'm not a psychiatrist not a psychologist

02:13:08.400 um a friend of mine used to call psychiatry and psychology the science of excuses um i've i've

02:13:15.200 talked to psychiatrists you know i think they're really good at making what they say sound

02:13:22.480 intelligent and well thought out but i go by what i see and i go by the the work i've done and the

02:13:29.600 things i've witnessed and what i've witnessed is different from what what they the information

02:13:34.160 they put out there they've also said that there's no you know there's no discernible effect on a

02:13:38.480 woman's body count it has a profound effect on them both physically and emotionally like how

02:13:45.920 many women that have high body counts are alcoholics drug addicts have other mental

02:13:53.200 mental health and emotional issues a ton it has a profound effect on them um i have i have friends 1.00

02:13:59.520 like i have i have a good friend um she literally looked like an anime character she was beautiful

02:14:06.320 naturally um and you know the as time went on she started collecting tattoos and piercings yeah 0.94

02:14:14.560 all these different things man to where she she doesn't look like the same person and and now

02:14:22.080 she's on different drugs and all the rest of stuff she got prescribed and she has an extraordinary 1.00

02:14:28.520 body count um when when i say extraordinary i mean like a lot like some of these sex workers

02:14:33.780 i've talked to they've had but they got body counts in the thousands like they've been with

02:14:38.140 literally thousands upon thousands of guys.

02:14:41.160 And so if they understand anything,

02:14:45.140 they understand human nature better than most people do. 0.82

02:14:47.880 And they understand men better than a lot of women do. 0.82

02:14:51.360 Why? Because a lot of guys that go see them 0.74

02:14:53.380 are going to see them because they're missing something,

02:14:55.240 not just the sex, that's part of it.

02:14:58.120 But there's a lot more to it than that.

02:14:59.980 And yeah, they are paying for that.

02:15:01.720 They're paying for a performance.

02:15:03.440 But the fact that a married guy,

02:15:04.960 most of their clients are married, 1.00

02:15:06.080 The fact that a married guy has to pay a woman

02:15:09.100 to act like they like him is unfortunate.

02:15:12.420 You know, because they're not getting it at home.

02:15:15.940 But, you know, like these women who have 0.99

02:15:19.760 these extraordinary body counts, it takes a toll on them.

02:15:22.640 And anybody who says it doesn't is, you know, I get it.

02:15:26.540 If you're one of these women that fall in that category,

02:15:28.860 you don't want to say that you made a mistake.

02:15:32.400 And so I get it.

02:15:33.920 But what they're doing is they're painting

02:15:36.080 a picture for other women um that that's not really giving them a um an honest depiction of 0.93

02:15:43.840 what their life is really like if most of them are honest their lives are miserable

02:15:48.560 um you know like nobody no woman really wants to be alone and childless

02:15:55.120 not really not biologically um you know and so when they are when they've done all these things

02:16:01.680 you know like i had one one woman was going back and forth with me on x she was like oh i get

02:16:06.880 picked every week i said okay that explains a lot you get picked every week you're not getting picked

02:16:11.120 every week you're getting picked up every week uh and then after they pick you up they're setting

02:16:16.080 you back down again so someone else can pick you up again so you're not being picked you're not 1.00

02:16:21.040 getting chosen getting picked but you're not being chosen and and so the women that have these these 1.00

02:16:26.480 body counts at the end of the day if you're a guy who's with them you're you're not getting the best 0.79

02:16:33.760 of them yeah and and so you know i look at it like this take a bag of potato chips right open it up

02:16:41.120 and take a chip out and pass it around to 100 guys and then get it back what do you have left

02:16:45.680 over you got a wrinkled bag with a bunch of crumbs uh is that what you want for a life mate

02:16:53.760 no not really is that what you want is the mother of your children

02:16:57.600 not really um and and so you know guys need to be more discerning um they need to be a lot

02:17:05.760 more discerning than they are the main criteria can't be that she well like that one that one 0.89

02:17:11.840 guy i know she has big boobs yeah um no she had she had extraordinary boobs like they were 1.00

02:17:17.200 extraordinary um you know but but the way they were and we all saw them because we all went to 1.00

02:17:23.120 the same strip club she used to you know uh but it can't be just that she's willing to have sex 0.98

02:17:29.520 with you and guys that are at that stage where they don't they're not having sex with women 0.99

02:17:37.520 um they're very vulnerable uh to that type and it's an attack it's an attack on your

02:17:43.520 your central nervous system and everything else oh my gosh this woman gave me this

02:17:47.200 I love her. Well, you don't really love her. Um, you love the fact that she was, she was the only

02:17:51.980 woman who's willing to show you some attention and she's willing to get married to you and all

02:17:56.520 the rest of these things. And again, a lot of it is very, very deceptive. And when I, when I said

02:18:01.120 that on, um, on, on X, I was like, look, this is what most guys want. And women were like, well, 0.99

02:18:08.220 you can't, you know, why does a woman, why is a woman, why should a woman be obliged to have sex 1.00

02:18:13.940 with her husband. And I said, okay, look at it from the man's perspective. If a woman is willing 0.97

02:18:19.380 to marry you, isn't it reasonable to assume that she also wants to sleep with you? That she's not 0.85

02:18:27.120 completely disgusted by you? Yeah, you would make that assumption if you were a guy. So guys are

02:18:32.300 married women that don't really want them. And so that deception is from the very, very beginning.

02:18:39.540 and so you know when when you look at guys that are getting so like i've seen guys that were

02:18:44.500 completely wrecked um emotionally you know and so the toll you know people talk about the toll on

02:18:51.220 women the toll on men is and from my from my perspective we're talking about regular guys

02:18:57.860 i'm not talking about guys that have you know committed acts of domestic violence although

02:19:01.940 violence uh it's about 50 50 male men and men and women yeah i saw that when i was a cop uh men

02:19:08.820 initiated violence just as much as men did maybe a little bit more uh it's just that you know if a

02:19:13.700 woman hits me um what sort of effect is it going to happen you know versus me hitting a woman i've

02:19:20.180 got multiple black belts i used to box i do combatives if i hit somebody if i had a woman

02:19:24.900 she's going to be hurt she hits me not a big deal right and so and that's most men and so

02:19:32.900 when you look at the toll guys pay not just not just the financial toll it's a heavy financial

02:19:40.340 toll because the the family courts are set up to protect women they're not set up to help men at

02:19:44.580 all they're set up to turn guys into victims um the the way people part from you this happened to

02:19:53.300 me people that i thought were friends of both of ours when when i got separated a lot of these guys

02:20:00.020 that were all the couples that we knew they parted for me like the red seas did for moses

02:20:05.380 like nobody wanted anything to do with me yeah and and so that's okay your friends group is gone

02:20:10.420 and then you know i got gaslighted and called insecure and i was emotionally abusive and all

02:20:15.460 the rest of the stuff i've never laid a hand on a woman in my entire life and i would it's just

02:20:18.980 not my thing um and then there's a toll men paid with their children and nobody nobody really cares

02:20:26.420 about what guys go through i've seen it now me i got custody of my son and um i was fortunate enough

02:20:34.020 but i had to do pretty much a deal with the devil right you know like like most guys don't get their

02:20:39.300 kids i wanted to be able to raise my son and um and i i think i did an outstanding job he's an

02:20:45.380 outstanding young man but how many guys i know haven't seen their children and then fraternity

02:20:50.660 fraud i've got two two men i know um one guy was a good friend of mine he was paying child support

02:20:59.780 for three different children um after they did a this is after he all the child support payments

02:21:05.780 were all done he found out that two of those three is from the same woman two of those three

02:21:10.260 children weren't even his wow two of the three weren't his and he was paying child support for

02:21:15.540 and she knew they weren't his and is are the family courts going to refund that money he paid

02:21:20.980 for 18 plus years whatever it was no no they're not there was another guy in la i knew same thing

02:21:27.540 he um his ex-wife got she filed for divorce she got alimony and child support they had children

02:21:34.660 and so he wound up he had a limo company he wound up having sleep in one of his cars

02:21:39.940 and so you know because she was getting so much money california if you get married in california

02:21:44.740 you're you're you're just signing your own um you're signing up for your own demise and so he 1.00

02:21:51.220 he bust his tail started making more money and when she saw he was making more money she went

02:21:57.700 took him back to court for more and so then he went from having an apartment again to back to

02:22:04.260 living in his car again and so he's doing all this stuff for years then he finds out that um

02:22:10.820 um um one of those children or maybe one or two of those children weren't his

02:22:17.300 and he wound up he wound up deleting himself you know because because you know and people don't

02:22:24.500 care about the stresses men go under because his men were told to just deal with and you know i

02:22:30.500 was told i was told the same thing you know just just do what you got to do and deal with it you

02:22:34.420 know but you know my father was a little bit wider than i was and he actually tried to warn me um

02:22:40.820 He actually tried to warn me not to go down the road I went, and I didn't listen, and I paid a price for it.

02:22:50.060 And so I should have listened to my dad, God rest his soul.

02:22:53.480 But he was smarter than me, and he passed on a lot of knowledge.

02:22:57.060 Now, my son is smart.

02:22:58.640 He's smarter than I was, and so he's actually listening to his father.

02:23:01.900 But, you know, there's a lot of men that are in a lot of pain, but everything is set up towards looking after women.

02:23:10.200 nobody gives to you know what's about guys and so a lot of the stuff I work a lot of stuff I talk

02:23:14.680 about is to warn men is to give them information and usually the voice is trying to shut me down 0.99

02:23:21.760 probably the same voice is trying to shut you down um women who want to continue the facade

02:23:26.640 and um the guys who are these white knights um they just don't want they don't want to believe it

02:23:35.420 I, yeah, I think there's, there's probably an element of it to that. And again, a lot of people

02:23:42.140 would rather, you know, believe the Disney story than the ugly truth. Look, the truth can get

02:23:48.280 incredibly ugly. I deal in the truth on a regular basis. The truth is ugly. But, you know, if you

02:23:55.140 understand the truth, then guess what? You know, you can make a decision. And I think with some

02:24:01.640 these women, if they were honest about their past, some of these men might still have accepted them.

02:24:07.160 Yeah. But, but you know, the whole thing, it's, it's a big rug pull. If you think you married, 0.95

02:24:13.240 if you think you married a Mercedes Benz S-Class with a hundred miles on it, but you really got

02:24:21.000 an old 1980, 89, you go with a million miles on it with, with, with, with, with an S-Class body

02:24:30.600 kid on it um and and there's a huge difference man women that have been around too much and and i

02:24:37.080 think how much is different for every woman you know but um your chances of having a woman that's

02:24:44.920 going to be loyal and treat you the way men want to be treated uh is slamming none and slim just

02:24:53.560 left time yeah well thank you so much for coming on today well thank you for having me on i apologize

02:25:01.640 for running off at the mouth so much sometimes i get diarrhea of the mouth um but but you're

02:25:05.880 an easy person to talk to but that's why you're so good at this yeah well this is the most

02:25:10.360 entertained i've been in a while so we'll definitely have you back um do you want to tell

02:25:16.200 the people where they can find you one more time before we close out sure on um you can send me a

02:25:21.320 dm on twitter just look for private irus um anderson security consulting.com so it's russell

02:25:27.880 r-u-s-s-e-l-l at anderson security consulting.com or anderson security consulting on gmail um i

02:25:35.880 am in the works of making videos for youtube um and so i'm kind of a perfectionist and so i keep

02:25:42.920 redoing things over and over and over again uh and so so at some point i'll start putting out

02:25:48.120 videos as well too you know but again i want to thank you uh for being the inspiration for starting

02:25:53.160 to post in the first place yeah no your stories are super interesting so i started seeing them

02:25:58.680 and i was like he's gotta figure out twitter because these have to get out these are so

02:26:02.680 entertaining well thank you again and thank you for having me on bro yeah thanks for coming um

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Pearl - October 09, 2024

The Days of Living a DOUBLE LIFE Are Over! Women CAUGHT CHEATING! ｜ Pearl Daily

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