00:02:36.020So myself and many of my friends quote tweeted this video and all of our reaction was that
00:03:03.960is adorable that is so cute it's so nice and heartwarming but what was surprising to me
00:03:09.560was that my male friends had a very different reaction one of my male friends said that she
00:03:17.180doesn't mean it and another male friend said that it was performative I thought to myself why this
00:03:24.360is such an adorable cute clip what could you possibly say that's wrong and what it actually
00:03:32.300shows is how women we value words of affirmation right that is when we are doing something right
00:03:39.280we like it when people tell us that doesn't really matter to men our actions matter much
00:03:45.880more than that and one of my male friends first comments was if she really meant that she would
00:03:52.520lose the weight now the reason I'm bringing this up isn't because I'm trying to be a Debbie Downer
00:03:59.820because I really think it's a cute clip, but to show what men value. Words of affirmation are nice,
00:04:09.840but they care much more about putting your money where your mouth is. The second observation
00:04:16.100that my male friend had was that the entire house was a mess, that there was stuff everywhere.
00:04:26.100And his observation was, again, if she really meant it, she would put her money where her mouth is and show him.
00:04:34.820And I think so many times these clips go viral.
00:04:39.740And it's interesting because women, we view these cute clips or we'll see couples content and we'll think it's adorable where many men see it as performative.
00:04:50.900And the reason they see it as performative is because many men feel like an accessory in their women's social media.
00:04:59.920And oftentimes when this stuff is posted the way, and it's interesting because I never, I didn't initially see it like this,
00:05:06.920but when getting a couple men's perspectives, the way they see it is that women post things in order to make themselves look good.
00:05:19.460so oftentimes the message of a post is using the family for clout now i'm not saying that's
00:05:27.780what's happening here i still thought it was a cute clip but what was interesting to me was
00:05:32.500just the difference between the men's perspective on it and the women's perspective on it um
00:05:40.660okay so that was my first story today um now i would guys i was gonna cover yay i i put this
00:05:48.580on twitter that i was going to cover yay getting divorced but i think i guess he's still staying
00:05:53.860with his wife so i guess not particularly today yeah look at this is what the men say are saying
00:06:01.780in the in the this is what the men are saying in the chat because i think a lot of times women we
00:06:10.580do what we would want so maybe women would prefer to be posted on their guys social media
00:06:15.700right that's a common complaint but men don't really care about that stuff um in the chat
00:06:23.780they're saying that's so fake that's so cringy and i'm not saying it was but what i am saying
00:06:29.540is that's how a lot of men are going to see it is this is just words this is just a performance
00:06:36.500it's not actions um also guys if you want your chat to be read on the audacity network go to
00:06:43.540the live chat Snyder says Pearl I saw that reality today fantastic I said on Facebook
00:06:51.060thank you for tuning in Snyder it's good to see you as always all right so the next story I'm
00:06:58.300going to cover today is I saw the most interesting account on Twitter so I was scrolling through
00:07:05.760Twitter and I saw this man who was a private investigator so his profile it's called private
00:07:13.420I Russ and he's a licensed PI a bail bondsman and an executive protection specialist and
00:07:23.920his Twitter has the most interesting account or the most interesting stories that I have
00:07:29.320seen basically where he is hired by men and women to at times investigate their significant
00:07:39.500others and it was just the most interesting account so i had to have him on welcome to the show russ
00:07:46.460how are you today i can't hear him oh it's okay sometimes okay go ahead is it on our end or theirs
00:08:01.340okay it's our end just hold hang tight one second
00:08:09.500okay guys let me read the chat while we're waiting
00:08:14.960yeah this is the whole chat is saying it was fake it's so funny because as a woman i thought it was
00:08:22.660the cutest thing ever but all of the guys said this is nonsense i was like what hi welcome to
00:08:29.800the show russ i think we can hear you now all right how how are you pearl i'm good how are you
00:08:35.700thank you for having me i'm fantastic thank you yeah i love your twitter i i'm so happy it's
00:08:43.600getting traction now because i just thought it was so um the stories were so unique and you're
00:08:49.900a very good writer so i feel like i know all the characters when you're writing well you know what
00:08:55.580i i have to pause for a moment and give you a um a shout out and a thanks because you're the one
00:09:00.860who inspired me to actually start posting yeah yeah well so that was that was you
00:09:05.380um thank you yeah of course well i know um i know unique perspectives on social media when i see it
00:09:14.100so um one of the interesting posts that you've had recently was your experience um with sex workers
00:09:23.720and that okay so could you give them an overview of maybe your ideal client first or like who
00:09:30.920tends to come to you to look into people you know it's it's kind of all over the board i um
00:09:37.180i classify what i do as problem solving and so you know people come to me when they have issues
00:09:42.860obviously these are issues that the police can't take care of for them they want some of these
00:09:46.920problem solved discreetly and so um the average client has changed a lot has morphed but when
00:09:55.960we're talking about investigative work a lot of families and even corporations have been engaging
00:10:01.320my services to check out potential spouses um you know that that happens a lot that's happening a
00:10:08.440lot more it used to be that only old money uh vetted a potential mate that thoroughly but new
00:10:15.480money um and and you know there's there's a there's a sliding scale of how far you go and
00:10:19.960how much it costs you know so everybody can afford to do a certain amount of investigation
00:10:24.360but when you go really really deep uh then we're talking about people who have a lot of money but
00:10:29.480not just a lot of money to spend they have a lot of money to lose and so what they'd rather do is
00:10:35.080make that investment in the front end to make sure they're not their their loved one or their
00:10:39.400business partner which has happened or their son is not marrying or their daughter is not marrying
00:10:44.440someone who has a hidden past um and a lot of times what i find is wealthy people want to know
00:10:50.600they want bad news right away you know they'd rather know the bad news on the front end versus
00:10:56.520be surprised on the back end when when it's much harder much more difficult to get themselves out
00:11:01.240of it so wealthy people and as well people who don't have have as much money are engaging my
00:11:07.720services more and more so what do you get more men that come to you or women
00:11:15.480i both it's about 50 50 the difference is that men are incredibly easy to catch um men are not
00:11:25.000very inventive they're usually very easy to catch uh women some of the women have been incredibly
00:11:30.680difficult um to to to uncover you know what they do and a lot of times uh the the big issue is that
00:11:37.880women will actually help each other cheat whereas guys usually go solo and so if you've got a whole
00:11:43.880crew helping you create a narrative like you know including social media posts and pictures
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00:11:48.920to show that you're a certain time and place while they're off doing whatever else they're doing
00:11:53.320uh men just don't have the same know-how uh like men are far behind women are way way more
00:11:59.720sophisticated but it's about 50 50. but the interesting stories are usually usually involve
00:12:05.480the women cheating just because they they're so good at it is that the number one thing that
00:12:12.680people come to you for to catch their potential wife or potential husband cheating well what i'm
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00:12:20.840getting more of is people investigating a potential now on the front end when it comes to a potential
00:12:26.920spouse it's typically the men their families or even their their business partners that want to
00:12:32.440find out about the woman that the that's going to be marrying into the family or the business
00:12:37.080and so um give you an example um a very wealthy gentleman he's worked all his life his father
00:12:45.560handed down money he's handing he's going to eventually hand over the reins of the company
00:12:49.240and their fortune to the to his son he had me look into his fiance um they were both in college
00:12:56.200they were getting very very serious and so he had me look into i don't know if you want to tell me
00:13:00.760want me to tell you exactly what what occurred but um it would be irresponsible for a man to allow
00:13:09.800someone to marry into his family that could potentially cause disaster and and kind of
00:13:15.480mess up that train they have with all the money they've acquired and the wealth they've required
00:13:19.320over the years so the the dad this is without the mom's knowledge the the the mother of the um of
00:13:26.760the son didn't know about this he wanted to keep her out of it because she was very emotionally
00:13:30.840attached to the young lady and so he said look i want you to look into her he said there's something
00:13:35.480just just not right so dad had some pretty good instincts which which we found out later everything
00:13:40.920we looked into in her background everything turned out looked really really good uh when we wound up
00:13:46.200going you know and this is the difference between the prices when you do a really deep dive there's
00:13:50.360a lot of uh surveillance involved and so you know surveillance is where it gets more expensive
00:13:55.720and so he said look i don't care what it costs i want you to look into her and um we want to you
00:14:01.320know i want to make sure she doesn't have any hidden skeletons in the closet and so as as we've
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00:14:06.120we've got her under surveillance um she um she got picked up by an uber for a place of residence and
00:14:12.280dropped off to a uh a gentleman's home and so uh what we found was the uh the gentleman was a
00:14:19.880married guy with a family but his family was on vacation she was and we wound up talking to him
00:14:25.240secretly um on the side you know i'm pretty convincing at getting people to talk to me
00:14:31.000so i have a pretty good gift to get and she was a sugar baby and uh she but with her sugar baby
00:14:37.240account didn't have pictures of her that's why we couldn't detect that initially we didn't see her
00:14:41.800face in the pictures so he's had you know obscure body pictures and um so when i when i brought
00:14:48.440these founding findings to the um to the dad you know he brought in the son his son didn't know
00:14:53.160about it he brought in the son and had me deliver the bad news to the son and um he wound up getting
00:14:59.480himself out of that situation by you know he the way they did it was they kind of did it easy he
00:15:05.000broke up with her didn't tell her that he knew about her hidden past uh which is which is probably
00:15:10.120the best way to do it uh and you know that way there's there are no there's no drama there's no
00:15:15.640histrionics and uh so that's one example but it's about a man protecting his legacy
00:15:21.320what protecting us what alerted the dad uh he he just thought that her you know the way the way he
00:15:32.660expressed it to me he said look and this is going to sound this is going to sound really bad he said
00:15:37.480i know a floozy when i see one and i think she's a floozy and and so and so how how she knew that
00:15:45.320i don't know um but you know as a guy who's you know i've i've i've had a lot of experience with
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00:15:50.520women um you can tell uh you know i've had a lot of experience dealing with women work and and
00:15:56.280personal wise anyway you can tell when a woman has a past where she's been with a lot of men
00:16:01.240And, you know, the interesting part about this particular story was that she came from a relatively well-to-do family.
00:16:11.160I wouldn't say they were wealthy, but I would say they were upper middle class.
00:16:14.220She was going to one of the most expensive colleges in the country.
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00:16:18.740And, you know, so in my opinion, she wasn't doing it for the money.
00:16:23.380And that's been a theme for quite a few of these.
00:16:26.620She wasn't actually doing it because she needed the money.
00:16:28.540I think she was just doing it because it was fun.
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00:16:31.240That was the most surprising thing to me when I started meeting more sex workers was how many
00:16:38.940came from good two-parent backgrounds and how many did not necessarily need money. Because when you
00:16:46.640see it portrayed on TV, it's always an innocent victim who just did it because she had to.
00:16:53.560and when I was interviewing women I was perplexed by how many had just really I was the same
00:17:01.220observation they did it because for me it was more only fans women but they tended to do it
00:17:06.780because they liked being on camera and doing that sort of thing yeah it's it's um look even me look
00:17:13.820I'm probably one of the most cynical and jaded people you will ever meet in your entire life
00:17:18.020just because of the nature of what I do and I I get to see so many dark sides of human nature
00:17:23.440But I was actually surprised by that because, you know, you think that somebody's just doing it because they're supporting a drug habit or they need the money or they were forced into it.
00:17:33.120But I've met a lot of women, a lot of young women who did it just because, you know, they, you know, yeah, they'll take the money, but they don't need it.
00:25:13.040If I'm with a woman, right, that woman has now become my brand ambassador, not the other way around.
00:25:21.100And so if she's going to be my brand ambassador, do I want a brand ambassador that has been, you know, in situations that, you know, could potentially hurt my brand and cheapen my brand?
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00:25:34.860as it were and and again i understand women don't don't understand it because they're not looking at
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00:25:38.540things from a male perspective you know but when you look at the way high net worth individuals
00:25:43.900were ultra high net with individuals worked so we're talking about people with a net worth of
00:25:48.62020 million dollars or more um they're no longer working for themselves you know a lot of these
00:25:55.260guys are captains of uh of an industry um they've got you know dozens or hundreds or thousands of
00:26:01.580people that count on them you know plus the the you know beside you know to stay productive but
00:26:07.180also to to to put forth a good positive image for the corporation that's worth gold especially
00:26:12.940nowadays with social media years ago you could you could get away with certain things but now
00:26:19.020with internet sleuths being the way they are there are people who are so good at digging up things
00:26:23.980um i've actually learned some things about digging up you know hidden secrets from from some of the
00:26:30.140internet sleuth now some of these guys get paid to do this but you know you can't really hide
00:26:35.180things anymore like you used to you know years ago if one wanted to hide things she could move to a
00:26:39.340new town you know she had a what they call the checkered past you know not that i'm being
00:26:43.900judgmental i'm just you know stating things as they are but now um because the world is so much
00:26:48.620smaller because of the internet because of all the traces you leave electronically uh nothing
00:26:53.260really goes away from the internet you know so all these videos pictures everything they're hidden
00:26:58.700out there somewhere and uh more high net with individuals so if you look at it this way if i'm
00:27:04.540worth 50 million dollars and i've i've had a case recently where we're an attorney twice divorced
00:27:12.460uh both of his wives have really uh one of his ex-wives is driving ferraris and bentley's and so
00:27:18.940so this guy is like super wealthy guy like very very successful guy like he's a wizard at making
00:27:23.980money and he was dating another woman she was a single mom and she had a couple of children
00:27:31.340and she moved from one state to the other he met her at church and um you know she she was born
00:27:37.740again and all the rest of this single mom made it that far sorry i'm shocked okay keep going sorry
00:27:45.660well well the caveat is this and and part of the reason she made it that far guys will overlook a
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00:27:50.700lot if a woman is really hot yeah and and and this woman i you know conservatively she was a nine
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00:27:57.020nine and a half like she was smoking like no exaggeration but um you know he you know he
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00:28:05.180started asking me you know he started talking to me about it he's a friend of mine and so it wasn't
00:28:09.420even from the client perspective he did pay me for it but and i said dude that doesn't sound right
00:28:13.900she's got two kids but she's making you wait and so he would go date night with her a couple of
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00:28:18.220times a week and i was like that doesn't sound right dude i said look she's got two kids and
00:28:21.500i'm looking at her and i'm like there's no way nobody's smashing that i was like somebody's
00:28:26.380hitting that and so he and so we made a bet and i was like look if we find out if i put her under
00:28:31.180surveillance and we find out that she's that she's got somebody else you pay if not and i'm wrong
00:28:37.660you get it for free and it didn't take it the first date night they went on um went out to an
00:28:43.740expensive dinner again as a wealthy guy so for him you know spending you know five six hundred
00:28:48.220dollars eight hundred dollars on a night out just for dinner and drinks that's that's a drop in the
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00:28:53.420bucket for him he drops her off shortly after that a a lone male approaches her place and spends the
00:29:02.860night and so we look him up and we started looking up more and more information i hadn't done any
00:29:08.540background on it but once we saw this we looked him up he's we saw that he'd been arrested for
00:29:12.620possession um production of meth and a few other things and uh so i said okay let's start looking
00:29:19.740into her background more she'd been arrested several times for prostitution and and possession
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00:29:25.740and so you know i've done this long enough to where i can look and reverse engineer what people's
00:29:30.460backgrounds are without even talking to them and so she was actually a meth whore and the guy that
00:29:35.980was the the backdoor man you know no pun intended um was her baby daddy that she hadn't seen for
00:29:44.140years but supposedly and so if if he hadn't had a a nosy cynical friend like me who told him to
00:29:54.140to look into this more he would have gotten married to this woman um who was certainly not being
00:29:59.820honest with him was you know certainly probably would not have well she wasn't loyal to begin with
00:30:04.300and so you know now you're looking at putting your wealth in your empire your your reputation
00:30:11.260your peace of mind in danger and so you know i think people don't take that into account
00:30:16.140you know you marry the wrong person this goes for men and women you know what what type of toll does
00:30:20.860it take if you're married to the wrong person they make your life a living hell you know not to
00:30:24.700mention the money he'd already been beaten up in divorce court twice and uh you know he wasn't
00:30:29.820really looking forward to it again but he still he was still almost willing to accept her believe
00:30:36.140it or not again uh you know it's it's the pretty privilege and so even with all this information
00:30:41.420like me me and his business partner was like you got to be kidding
00:30:47.340and and he was like he was like well you know she's she said she's changed and this was okay
00:30:52.380i said here's what you do and uh me and his part his business business partner is an attorney he
00:30:57.660He said, all right, get her to sign a prenuptial agreement and see what she says.
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00:31:02.840If she's not there for the money, she'll sign a prenuptial agreement.
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00:31:07.880And so he wound up breaking it off with her eventually.
00:31:09.900But he still almost went for it, even with that knowledge.
00:31:13.280And so you'll find that women will, if they find out their guys are cheating, some of them will accept it if the guy is making a ton of money.
00:31:25.100you know but you know men typically won't accept it if they find out their wives are cheating
00:31:30.040um not really you know it depends on the guy but most guys want to walk away from it just because
00:31:35.380it's it's um you know it obviously it's a blow to the ego and and you know there's this
00:31:42.140misconception out there that all you have to do is be six one and jacked and make a bunch of money
00:31:46.440and you'll never have a problem with women you've heard that right yeah okay that's that's not true
00:31:51.540um i've seen i've seen guys that like literally there's there's a guy i work for he's a professional
00:31:57.400athlete and so uh very tall obviously on the upper end of the spectrum as far as physical
00:32:04.400capabilities right and so um i i call people like this nephilim nephilim are where the um it's a
00:32:10.880biblical term but they were the offspring of angels that came down to earth and got married
00:32:16.180to human females they were bigger stronger and smarter than normal humans and so guy was an
00:32:22.100attorney um yeah well he he had a he had a law degree but he wasn't working as an attorney he
00:32:27.700was an ex-athlete a former athlete and the guy stayed in the gym like the guy was built like a
00:32:32.340superhero his wife was cheating on him with a guy that was short shorter than shorter than husband
00:32:38.180and just roly-poly dad bod dude and and so you know you know and the guy was wealthy and i'm
00:32:44.180And I'm sitting there like, nah, you know what?
00:33:10.640Okay, well, one of the one, some of the cases I work on, I've actually worked on a ton of for attorneys attorney ton of homicide cases from the civil side of things. And so when I say a lot, I've worked over 100 homicides over the past 17 years in Florida. So one of these apartment complexes, I met a witness, and a nice young lady. And we started talking more and more. And I found out that she had been an adult film.
00:33:40.640actress and that she was currently working as a as an escort escort and so i started talking to her
00:33:47.120and you know because i'm you know i'm an investigator i'm curious and and i always like to
00:33:51.520know how things work and how things happen and you know how how it started and that sort of thing
00:33:56.400that's just one of my one of my is a curse of mine but the more i talked to her the more you know she
00:34:03.040she revealed different things to me and and we had some graphic conversations and one of the
00:34:07.120conversations we had was about sex. And I was like, so what are your criteria for sex? Does a
00:34:14.820guy have to be like huge? You know what I mean? She said, no, has nothing to do with that. She
00:34:19.920said, I need variety. She said, I have to have different guys to be, you know, she had a
00:34:25.820boyfriend who knew about her work. And then, you know, she would work. She would see three to five
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00:34:31.340guys a day, five days a week. And then she would still go to sex clubs on the weekends.
00:34:37.120and so she just enjoyed you know for her it was about variety and i wound up walking to she
00:34:43.040actually introduced me to several of her friends some of who were also adult film actresses and
00:34:48.320they all worked as as um as escorts as well too and i took them all out to to a really nice dinner
00:34:54.400and just had just just let them talk and um you know so there's this there's this this
00:35:02.160there's been a lot of data put out there saying that having a high body count or what I call
00:35:08.220a lot of mileage has nothing to do, it does not affect a woman's later relationships. And they
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00:35:17.740do, they have a profound effect from the ones I've talked to. And again, now these are on the extreme
00:35:22.720end of the spectrum as far as how many numbers, so please take that caveat. But a lot of them,
00:35:28.740well they all said they they enjoyed the variety you know there were a few guys they actually liked
00:35:34.140seeing but a lot of them they didn't but they loved the variety they loved having sex with a
00:35:39.240lot of guys and again you know you go back to the sex work thing it's it's really really surprising
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00:35:45.000just because um some of these young women some of these young ladies came from backgrounds that
00:35:50.600were actually you know well to do and families that that had great money and so you know they
00:35:56.760they got into it and stayed into it because they wanted to some women get into it because they're
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00:36:01.240supporting a sort of um you know some sort of habit a drug habit typically but a lot of them
00:36:07.400especially more and more just they're there because they like it again when and that was
00:36:12.760an eye-opener for me so i was somewhat naive when it came to that and a lot of these things have been
00:36:17.640an eye-opener um you know there's a lot more hidden sex work that goes on that than people
00:36:23.960realize so one funny one i think you'll like um is a buddy of mine good good good pal of mine
00:36:33.080known the guy for years he broke his phone we were supposed to to link up because you know we
00:36:40.120we both do martial arts at the same place and um he texted me from his girlfriend's phone number
00:36:48.520and was like you're going to catch a beat down later and and so and so i'm looking at i'm like
00:36:53.560what the hell is this you know i didn't know it was him i was like who the hell is this okay so
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00:36:59.080i get a threatening text i'm a pi and so i'm gonna look up the number and so and so i start running
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00:37:04.040the number and if you run somebody's phone number and they have an escort ad the escort ad will pop
00:37:13.640up so i'm looking at this and and i see the ad and i was like wait a second
00:37:20.680so i read it again and i was like this can't be right man and so i had another pi friend of mine
00:37:28.280look i said dude look this up what do you come up with and he was like and he actually sent me a
00:37:32.840screenshot of the escort ad and i was like he was like uh is that what's his name's girlfriend i was
00:37:39.080like i believe so he's like does he know i don't think so i don't think so and um he um you know
00:37:49.160so we we called him up and i was like look dude you got a problem and we need to sit down and talk
00:37:53.720and so i called him on her phone and say we need to have a talk and so he's like okay so i met him
00:37:57.640at martial arts she you know he um you know he still had her phone but she wasn't with him he
00:38:02.360was waiting for a new phone and i was like look dude this is what i saw when i ran your girl's
00:38:06.520phone and he was like what he was and and you know so and this wasn't even a client thing this was
00:38:14.280is just surely just me being again being a nosy you know what um but that's that's part of my
00:38:20.040that's part of my nature that's part of what i do and um you know he you know his his whole thing
00:38:25.320was as he's looking at the because a lot of them will list what they'll do you know and he was like
00:38:32.360it's like she wouldn't do all that stuff for me when i asked her to do it was it a current ad or
00:38:37.400was it a previous ad not there were several ads wow and and and they were current and so the like
00:38:46.280the ads went back a couple of years over several you know uh different there's there's a ton of
00:38:52.360places where where escorts post ads and um you know i um i know a bunch of them just because
00:38:59.720i used to do searches for missing and exploited kids i used to volunteer my time as a pi to do
00:39:04.680that and so we have to dig dig deep and a lot of times what people will do is they'll put these
00:39:09.640underage underage girls mostly on these ads make them look older but there's certain keywords you
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00:39:15.080can look for and they've changed their appearance but you know we've been able to find some using
00:39:19.560those and and other methods and so when i looked at it i was like man i was like this what are you
00:39:24.520gonna do and and that's part of from from an ethical investigator standpoint you can't just
00:39:30.840give people information without understanding without knowing what they're going to do with
00:39:34.360with that information and their state of mind.
00:48:58.320And so when we talk about religion, what I found is that from a straight male's perspective, whenever I meet a woman and she leads with, I'm a Christian, I go to church, I'm very religious.
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00:49:12.180I know the clock is ticking and that if I want to, I can have sexual intimacy with this woman that day because they're using it as a shield.
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00:49:20.480and that shield is not to protect her from me that shield is to protect her from her own
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00:49:25.120lustful desires and past and so when when women have that past um and again it has never failed
00:49:32.800um when i meet women that say oh i'm this i'm that okay i i can literally you you can literally
00:49:38.000watch your watch and just start to count down uh it won't be difficult if if if i wanted
00:49:46.000sexual activity with them it would be available and so i think you know when when you have people
00:49:52.720go to go to churches and it's like that friend of mine who met that woman who was a mess addict
00:49:58.480addict um who was a born again born again christian don't just take that on face value
00:50:05.840you still have to investigate people i'm not saying that they are some people really are
00:50:10.400genuine in what they're doing but there are a lot of them that use it as a cover story
00:50:14.720and again you know like i said before i'm one of the most jaded and cynical people you'll ever meet
00:50:20.460i will never get married again um you know i've i've got relationships with women but um you know
00:50:28.440i i tell them look i'm i'm you know i'll tell them all the time like i'm i'm not getting married so
00:50:34.020if you're looking for somebody who wants to get married i'm the wrong guy and if i feel like
00:50:39.020they're trying to get too close they get cycled out and i bring another one in um just because i
00:50:44.080just i'm just i think i'm probably incapable of really trusting anyone that yeah like and again
00:50:52.560when you talk about women and the way they cheat i've worked on cases where literally
00:50:57.760girls night out women would meet at a place um they'd take some selfies they'd put these selfies
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00:51:05.440on facebook or whatever it is yeah we're out here they take a bunch of pictures with a woman
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00:51:09.760she'd get picked up 10 minutes later and then go off with you know chad or tyrone or
00:51:17.360or guillermo or or whoever and then get brought back after you know their their activity and then
00:51:24.560she'd go they'd go home to their husband who's sitting at home watching the kids
00:51:30.000um you know i had some really pretentious guys uh that were real just some of these guys that
00:51:36.400are really self-righteous oh i trust my wife you know the guys who have been talked into that whole
00:51:40.880oh you know if you if you question your wife you're insecure yeah and uh there's a group of
00:51:47.360them about five of them out of five of them four of their wives are screwing around them no
00:51:54.800no seriously look here's the thing if you give and again it's gonna sound bad but if you give
00:52:00.080unfettered freedom with no accountability whatsoever to anybody male or female and you
00:52:07.760give them opportunities it doesn't matter how unattractive they might be it will find someone
00:52:12.720who wants to get with them and with with this particular group look um these guys are you know
00:52:22.000these guys are guys that have their heads up the behinds and so i don't have any vested interest
00:52:26.560and helping them and so um and you know when i split with my my ex you know they were they were
00:52:32.400just so preachy and like oh well if you gave you trusted your wife more this wouldn't have happened
00:52:37.760if you led better yeah that's what they say it's you just you weren't godly enough so
00:52:44.000yeah well and and i was like you know so here's my thing was this right well before i got married
00:52:48.400i spoke with my of my ex and i said look i laid down parameters people say oh you have to well
00:52:53.680here's the thing those parameters don't count because of a thing called woman's intuition
00:52:57.600um you know women can just change their mind whenever they want to and so one of the things
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00:53:01.360i told her i said look i said i don't want a woman that drinks i don't want a woman that goes to
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00:53:05.680girls night out or clubs or bars or you know this sort of thing and she agreed so that that's not my
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00:53:10.720thing um four months into being married she was like oh my co-workers invited me to girls night
00:53:16.160out and and you know so that you know what do you do at that stage well what i said was i was like
00:53:20.800look i said you can go to girls night out do what you want i can't stop you you're a free person i
00:53:24.400said but when you get back the locks will be changed and your stuff will be outside i said so
00:53:28.720and and i had to draw a hard line in the sand and if you're not willing to do that you will get
00:53:33.280walked over and i saw so many guys most of the guys i've i've done work for they've they've done
00:53:39.840that whole thing where they just trusted and just believed um and and it's really it's really silly
00:53:46.480because we've all seen women how they behave on girls now like every every single guy has seen it
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00:53:52.400and wanted to infiltrate that group of of the the really slutty looking women um
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00:53:59.600all together dancing with each other and you know this whole oh we dress this way for our friends
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00:54:03.920no you're not no you're not just like women at the church who have all the boobs and everything
00:54:08.160else hanging out the way like okay sister you're not dressing that way for jesus i'm sorry um and
00:54:13.360and you know and again anybody who's honest if people are honest they'll tell you that it goes
00:54:17.680down at church man yeah like like the hookup culture at church is real and and i don't say
00:54:23.760that from a standpoint of gloating because i grew up in church and so i i'm a christian i tell people
00:54:29.440i'm not a very good one um but i'm a christian my grandmother was a preacher she preached for 62
00:54:34.320years until she couldn't stand in the pulpit anymore but unlike a lot of modern churches
00:54:38.800she never took a paycheck she was a registered nurse uh she never took a paycheck from church
00:54:43.680uh while i was the the grandson i actually got into uh i got into a fight at church twice
00:54:50.240and in the middle of the church service i was that i was that troublemaking grandson
00:54:55.760um and um you know but today the church is it's it's not what it used to be man it's not what it
00:55:01.680used to be the older ladies used to keep the young ladies in check the older men used to keep the
00:55:06.720young men in check um now it's a free for all and uh guys are being pressured into marrying women
00:55:13.360that you know if they knew their pasts well if they understood that um their past weren't washed
00:55:20.400away because they answered the altar call you know and it doesn't mean that necessarily going forward
00:55:25.760that they've actually changed the ways so you mentioned that it's going to be more difficult
00:55:33.360for people to live a double life what are ways that you are able to detect high body count in
00:55:41.200women because i've heard men say there's no point in worrying about it because you'll never know
00:55:48.000um so what are i i know there's like things you know single mother obviously attached like there's
00:55:54.640generalities that people make but how would someone specifically know
00:55:58.800well there's a couple of ways i i can tell just because i've been with a lot of women if you've
00:56:05.600been with a lot of women you can tell when a woman has had a lot of men you just can't you can see it
00:56:10.400on their face and their demeanor um you can but from a more practical uh standpoint um women who
00:56:18.800have a high body count tend to congregate together okay so if you have a woman and if you know a
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00:56:27.360woman and she hangs out with a couple of women that are really slutty she's not the the one
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00:56:32.080that's trying to lead them down the path of righteousness you know uh that she isn't she
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00:56:36.560isn't and and so you know just like um you know this whole thing with um you know she's got a
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00:56:42.880drug a heavy drug past every drinker uh women that go to bars a lot um nobody does these things
00:56:49.360because they're not trying to hook up with somebody else these are places where people hook up and
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00:56:54.000And you look at other things like women that travel a lot,
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01:19:45.100And if they can't do that, then they get, you know, they, they can keep moving.
01:19:50.820And if more guys held onto that now, I get it.
01:19:53.760If a guy has a hard time meeting women, he may not be, you know, as, um, you know, as dismissive.
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01:20:01.600You know, I'm, I'm, I'm very dismissive unless I get to know somebody and, um, you know, I'll walk away from a woman immediately.
01:20:10.040Uh, but guys that aren't getting, you know, aren't meeting women, you know, they, they may accept behaviors like that.
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01:20:16.840And what I would say to those guys is you need to discipline yourself and you need to hold the line and not put up with, with, with, without.
01:20:23.760outrageous things like that i've had women that i've met i've never taken them anywhere i've never
01:20:28.680bought them anything and they've given themselves to me 100 if a woman really wants you you don't
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01:20:35.060have to jump through any hoops you will not have to jump through a single hoop if they want you
01:20:40.400they'll give it to you right away uh and so yes work on yourself but i would also say that the
01:20:48.700big difference between men and women is men understand when a woman is out of their price
01:20:52.780range. And so what I mean price range is sexual market value. And so if I'm a three, but I want
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01:21:02.380to get with this chick and she's a 10, even if I'm rich, I know she'll get with me, but it's
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01:21:07.840going to be just for the money. It's not going to be because she actually wants to get together
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01:21:11.060with me. And so I'm going to have to jump through all types of hoops. And if you got to jump through
01:21:14.360hoops to get a woman to go out with you, don't go out with that woman. Go out with the woman that
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01:21:17.820wants to go out with you. Go out with the woman that wants to make your life better
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01:39:20.740and how to balance your checkbook and how to invest,
01:39:23.220but one of the most important investments
01:39:25.180and decisions in your life is who you're gonna marry.
01:39:27.700So you need to understand their background,
01:39:30.180you need to understand what type of human being you're actually dealing with not just the you
01:39:35.940know oh she's good she's cool with me you know i i know a guy who married a woman just because
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01:39:40.900she had large boobs like that that was it and i was like and she was she was an exotic dancer
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01:39:48.500and he was shocked when he found out that she was having sex with everybody but him
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01:39:52.580you know i was like like like dude everybody of course she was cheating on you um and and you know
01:39:59.120i i i can when i'm talking to guys i can tell and there are guys i've even told you don't need an
01:40:06.100investigator like you already know everything you need to know and and you know i've told you look
01:40:10.460you don't need to hire me um you know you know everything you know need to know already to make
01:40:15.420a decision and sometimes people just want want confirmation but typically when people come to me
01:40:21.160whether it's male or female um have have they been wrong yes there have been instances when
01:40:27.800they've been wrong uh so you know it's not an exact science but you know i don't i don't think
01:40:35.480um enough men look into the backgrounds of the women they're with and if they did
01:40:42.360um they would probably run from run for the hills and again i will catch hell from women for this
01:40:48.280uh because you know they they seem to be ones who are women and guys who are just you know the male
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01:40:53.160feminists which i have a theory about male feminists uh they're the creepiest most the
01:40:57.880weirdest guys on on the face of the earth that women should actually probably avoid uh but
01:41:03.000because i i can't be a feminist how can i be a feminist i'm not a woman how can i actually
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01:41:07.240understand women's issues i'm not a woman just like you can't you know women most women can't
01:41:13.160you have a pretty good understanding pearl uh but your your perspective is different
01:41:18.040i think a lot of it has to do with that you've you've done a lot of research and a ton of work
01:41:22.840and i think you've you've interviewed what hundreds of thousands of people over the years
01:41:27.400thousands of women black held me yeah i'm as cynical as you to be honest yeah it's it's you
01:41:36.920know look like i said i i trust only to a certain extent just because i've just seen so many things
01:41:41.640but because of your background and because of your interviews you have you have an understanding
01:41:46.200most women get their information about men from other women who give them the most backwards and
01:41:51.960self-destructive advice i've ever heard yeah like i've heard women like i've heard women tell other
01:41:58.920women oh your 20s are to have fun hook up with and link up with as many guys as you want and then
01:42:05.080you know when when you turn 30 you get serious uh well you know i i you know from a from a
01:42:11.480practical standpoint look women enjoy sex as much as men do and so i get it you know i mean i get
01:42:18.280wanting to have a lot of whatever right but from from a woman's perspective if you look at
01:42:25.560what men want from women i've heard you say this before and you've caught a bunch of heat for it
01:42:30.120um women have a very small window of opportunity to maximize their gains they have a very very
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01:42:37.000small window of opportunity now during that small window of opportunity they can run the table and
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01:42:42.280run and rule the world you know based on you know a bunch of different factors but if a woman is a
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01:42:47.640nine or ten she can call her shot she can literally call her shot but if she's a nine or ten and then
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01:42:55.320she hits 35 she's no longer going to be looked at the same way and there's nothing sadder than
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01:43:00.680seeing women that used to be really hot still thinking they're really hot oh it's so oh it's
01:43:07.400difficult to look at it's difficult to look at man and and again this is not from any i'm not
01:43:11.640being mean you know but but like i saw a woman today um and i won't say where exactly because
01:43:20.040this is my neighborhood yeah but she she's a woman but i knew her 15 years ago 15 years ago
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01:43:29.160she was an absolute smoke show like literally but she did the you know just date this guy that guy
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01:43:36.600and she dated a lot of wealthy um um actors and athletes and that sort of thing and now she's
01:43:45.080is 15 years older and she's she's not getting anywhere near this the the same attention she
01:43:51.920got she got before and she's got a couple of children as well too do you see men vetting
01:43:56.900for genetic fraud like plastic surgery do you see them looking for that oh no no they don't
01:44:02.920no guys guys and again i'm glad you brought up the genetics i was talking to i've actually
01:44:07.120advised a couple of women about how to meet and land and and treat wealthy guys i've actually had
01:44:16.160a couple women i know actually come to me and ask me for for for advice i've worked for worked for a
01:44:21.920few billionaires a lot of millionaires and um and you know they have certain things in common that
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01:44:26.640that they're looking for in women and so when i was talking to one one young lady in particular
01:44:34.240and and i said i said i said do you know why you're you're pretty a lot of a lot of people
01:44:40.400don't understand what actual beauty is beauty is not your hair your nails this ridiculous contouring
01:44:47.680makeup you know you know all made to mask and hide genetic deficiencies which that's what they
01:44:53.440do right uh the cosmetic surgeries the lips the nose the hips the all the stuff people get the
01:44:59.680liposuctions the fake this and fake that i said what makes you pretty is your bone structure
01:45:05.120you cannot fake bone structure not real bone structure you can do some masking to it but a
01:45:11.600lot of guys do not and so if you look at some women who've had a lot of surgery like look at
01:45:16.880you're not gonna call her out look at tommy laran before and after she had she had a lot
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01:45:20.720of plastic surgery she looks like completely different person like it looks like a completely
01:45:25.280different human being um you know having lived in hollywood i had roommates that would get
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01:45:31.920nose nose jobs that was a big thing in la boob jobs that was another big thing in la um you know
01:45:38.960i i know a girl i knew a girl years ago who was trying to be an expert on baywatch i won't say
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01:45:44.720her name uh actually actually i actually had a crush on her and beautiful young lady but
01:45:50.560if she was very small up here well guess what she got some work done she immediately got on a bay
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01:45:54.800wash and she had her face done and a bunch of and but then she got into this this downhill spiral
01:46:02.240where she kept getting surgery done and she went from being actually really really pretty
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01:46:07.040to looking like just the most plastic woman you've ever seen in your entire life
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01:46:11.360and so um for me um plastic surgery unless they're in a certain profession that's a huge
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01:46:19.120uh red flag because the plastic surgery is not so they feel better about themselves
01:46:24.000women don't dress better for themselves they don't dress up for other women as they say they do that's
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01:46:29.040that's that's that's a crock of doo-doo um they're dressing that way for male attention
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01:46:34.240that is the currency for women plastic surgery boob jobs excuse me boob lifts
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01:46:40.240that's that's all for men you know now i've heard women say oh we do that for i do that i dress that
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01:46:45.520way for other women no you don't right no you don't and so guys don't uh but women will judge
01:46:53.360a man based on his genetic markers you know how many women want a guy who's six foot or taller
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01:46:58.800yeah you know that's that's the new almost trope nowadays because what women will say
01:47:04.560is that high level men date women with a lot of surgery but they don't they can't tell
01:47:10.880because it's getting so undetectable now um yeah that's why i was wondering like um i've
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01:47:17.840saw a tick tock the other day where this woman got a nose she had a huge nose and it completely
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01:47:22.720changed her face like she went from like a a five probably to an eight just because she
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01:47:28.960i mean she had a really it was bad it was yeah so but so a guy dates her she does that at 18
01:47:35.120a guy dates her at 28 and his kids come out with these big honkers yeah it's you know it's here's
01:47:41.200the thing the the the best um the best thing to do is examine um their mother oh yeah okay
01:47:49.200examine that not just their mother look at pictures of their moms when they're younger
01:47:53.520and look look at pictures of these these women when they're younger if they have social media
01:47:58.240and their pictures only start five years ago um they're they're hiding something they've lost a
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01:48:03.680ton of weight um and they're hiding that which you know some people do some people don't but
01:48:08.800you know they're also hiding you know they're cutting out the pictures before they get the
01:48:12.320surgery done and so uh if guys are smart they'll do that that's actually a really easy thing to
01:48:18.000investigate you don't have to use dna to to to look into that you can actually just use photographs
01:48:23.680and analyze pictures um most women especially older women keep pictures when they're younger
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01:48:29.440you know i've got a neighbor who used to be a model when she was younger she'll the first thing
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01:48:33.600she'll show people is a picture of when she was a model you know she was actually really really hot
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01:48:37.920you know 60 years ago you know what i mean um you know but that that's that's what women will lean
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01:48:42.800on to they'll always lean on to their their peak beauty and save them but but guys guys don't vet
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01:48:50.000women for that sort of thing women will look at you they'll check out your weight they'll check
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01:48:54.320out your height um you know all these different things they will bet for that but most guys again
01:49:00.400they'll just yolo and and don't really look into it the way they should and and that's because guys
01:49:06.480don't look at it from like my my ex um was well is ukrainian german irish and so she's literally
01:49:19.760whiter than you carol like like pale skin gray eyes uh and you know my background is you know
01:49:27.840my family's jamaican but my great grandmother was taino south american indian my great great great
01:49:34.000great great grandfather was a red-headed scotsman from kintyre scotland you know and so you know my
01:49:40.080my dna is all over the place but i can guarantee she's five four if if i had been five five or five
01:49:47.600six she wouldn't have she wouldn't have married me right um and and you know so you know our son is
01:49:53.200i'm six one and my son is six foot tall yeah i'm i'm six foot so that's i'm not like yeah you're
01:50:00.480you're you're you're unusually tall for them and i don't mean that in a bad way but but you're an
01:50:05.280athlete yeah you know um you know and so you know like i actually met a woman uh that actually lied
01:50:11.600about her height on a dating app really um she was six foot tall in flats oh that's i'm the same
01:50:21.120and and and she put her height as five eight and when i met her i'm looking at the eye to eye and
01:50:28.560i'm like you're not 580. i've never found that men i mean i there's a girl on my team who was six
01:50:36.080five men shorter than her tried to hit on her all the time it wasn't really well that's that's the
01:50:42.880short man complex you know but but a lot of guys don't you know from according to her a lot of guys
01:50:47.840didn't like uh tall women i was like well i don't have a problem with height you know i mean that's
01:50:52.480not my you know i don't i don't have a hang up about that yeah my big thing is weight and women
01:50:57.920would use routinely use fake pictures on dating apps that's why i say dating apps are garbage
01:51:04.400and shapewear too that's what yeah i've heard from guys that like like i've heard guys say
01:51:11.600they've taken a woman home and then she took off the shapewear and they did he didn't even
01:51:15.360want to do it like oh yeah that's look look if a guy aborts the mission from that stage it's
01:51:24.160really got to be bad because i you know like guys can go in the gutter sometimes sometimes but
01:51:30.720like i've i've met women you know it's probably happened six or seven times where they were
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01:51:35.600heavier there was one the most worst one she was at least 100 pounds heavier than her pictures
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01:51:41.200and so i get there we're meeting yeah she was huge but her pictures were from from years ago
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01:51:47.840and the pictures from years ago she looked she looked good but you know when when she pulled up
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01:51:52.720she was texting me oh i'm pulling up now i see a car pull up and then i see her get out and start
01:51:57.440lumbering over because she wasn't really walking somebody somebody that big is lumbering and i was
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01:52:02.160like and she was late on top of that you know which is a big for me that's a big no-no but uh
01:52:08.480and um she goes well did you bring you get my coffee for me i said no i said coffee is for
01:52:13.920people who show up on time i said you don't look like your pictures and she was and she actually
01:52:18.480got angry and cursed at me and she's a she's a well when i get coffee you want me to join you
01:52:23.280said no you can sit someplace else you can go someplace else and and a guy who was i guess he
01:52:30.720because we're sitting outside i was sitting outside a guy who was sitting behind me walked
01:52:34.400up the same thing happened to me bro it's jacked up and and you know i i try to be nice about
01:52:42.240filters have gone too far yeah you know and so look pictures i put up it's me they're pictures
01:52:50.720of me you know i'll put pictures when i'm like you know swinging kettlebells or working out or
01:52:55.280just regular pictures of me wearing a suit or whatever or a t-shirt and um i don't try to hide
01:53:00.160who i am why because when i show up but this is what you're gonna see you know and so there's a
01:53:06.880lot of deception and again you know from women in particular and i don't say that to be mean
01:53:14.080or or to disparage women i honestly think it's an adaptive um a tendency a survival tendency
01:53:23.680uh to to maximize what they can do as far as mating strategies go yeah and so you know um for
01:53:30.640for men here's what i would say to guys don't get angry don't be angry don't don't get angry
01:53:35.600they'll get mad even if you find out somebody's you know stepping out on you or whatever they'll
01:53:39.600be angry uh look at it as a business decision look at it as um you know expect a certain amount
01:53:45.840of deception and just decide what parameter or you know what parameter of deception you're
01:53:51.680willing to accept and and what's unacceptable to you outside those parameters uh because you're
01:53:57.600going to get some deception you're going to get some some lies um and that's just how it is guys
01:54:02.480lies lie as well too i just excuse me guys lie as well too but you know again the the lies that men
01:54:09.120tell are incredibly easy to unravel you know it's like men cheating it's almost always somebody at
01:54:14.800work almost always somebody at work or somebody who knew from before women will you know they're
01:54:21.440so good at hiding it man um that you know if we weren't good at what we do we wouldn't have been
01:54:28.800able to find out what they were doing um most private investigators just do surveillance we
01:54:34.240do surveillance but we also you know we're really good at problem solving and we're really good at
01:54:38.880reverse engineering things and uncovering um people's secrets you know i i um and again it's
01:54:45.760kind of a curse you know when i when i meet people if i'm around somebody long enough i
01:54:49.680i can kind of start understanding uh some of the things they might have buried in their past again
01:54:55.440it's kind of a curse um you know just because i i don't want to know everything um you know all the
01:55:01.280bad stuff about people but i i don't i don't judge people based on it you know if you've got a high
01:55:06.080body count you can still be a decent person do i want to marry you maybe not you know maybe not
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01:55:12.240um because with that high body count there is a greater um tendency towards having stds women
01:55:21.200years ago um used to always make you wear condoms they always demanded now i've i've met women they
01:55:30.160said oh you know what you can spray it wherever you want to i i wear them just because i don't
01:55:35.600want to i don't want to wind up sick you know what i mean but women don't make men wear condoms like
01:55:40.800that anymore not not like they used to because the technology to fix certain things or mask certain
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01:55:47.120uh stds is just so much better you can have aids now and live a decently long i was like they cure
01:55:53.860everything yeah yeah it's like men figure out a way how to cure everything i was like i was like
01:56:01.360there's a woman on tiktok bragging that she had aids and that she doesn't wear protection like i
01:56:08.460swear she's on tiktok i don't know if it's true because sometimes women just say things for
01:56:12.960attention online but i was thinking i'm like they've gotten technology to the point that it's
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01:56:18.640so good that oh no i think it was herpes but it was whatever it was the girl had some std that
01:56:25.700was incurable and she didn't wear protection because medicine made it so it's it doesn't
01:56:31.640spread as much if she takes something or i don't know what it was but i was thinking i'm like wow
01:56:36.960they just men are fixing everything they gave us an extra decade of with ivf i'm like they just
01:56:43.920they come up yeah but in the future just so you know i'll be i'll be making posts about
01:56:50.880some of the hollywood parties i went to when i lived in hollywood
01:56:54.800i was actually working for for people to escort them to a party um and nothing like dd parties
01:57:01.440nothing nothing like that um but you know look man the the deception and and the way people can
01:57:09.160can hide things women are so good at hiding things man um and and you know this is something
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01:57:15.920i learned years ago women make the best spies they make the best spies they make the best assassins
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01:57:21.540uh why because it's easier for women to gain people's trust like i've got women that that
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01:57:28.220work for me. I'm a pretty good talker. And so when I need to talk to people, I'm actually really,
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01:57:32.820really good at getting people to talk to me and giving me information when I'm interviewing people
01:57:37.320as potential witnesses. A woman without training can gain a man's or woman's trust much, much
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01:57:45.560quicker than an average guy can, just because people are more trusting of women. And so
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01:57:52.600with that with that ability to blend in and that chameleon ability to mask their intentions uh
01:58:01.900mask their their their past all these different things guys are woefully underprepared like guys
01:58:09.900are so far behind it's it's uh and that's why that's why i started posting some of it you know
01:58:14.540at your prompting but also too guys are way behind man and um you know whenever i post some of these
01:58:20.120things you know you can always tell like i get attacked mostly by women you know like almost
01:58:25.960like hey you're you're you're giving up the game well you know the the the game is up uh more and
01:58:31.800more uh more and more people are looking into the background of women before they get married
01:58:36.520um if they're smart they do unless it's a person you grew up with and you've known for a very long
01:58:41.640time you need to vet her she's vetting you um if if like my ex comes from a wealthy family
01:58:50.120And I know for a fact, her family did a lot of background on me, you know, and you know, why? Because I was a potential risk. I grew up in the South Bronx, you know, an ex-military, ex-cop, ex-civilian military contractor, relatively violent professions.
01:59:09.880um and so they wanted to make sure their daughter was going to be okay and i get it and and i
01:59:15.240understand it um now when when i was when now did i vet my ex no i did not and so i learned a lot of
01:59:23.320these you know from a lot of these lessons i learned from myself not that she was a bad person
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01:59:27.400we just we just didn't get along because of her whole withholding vagina thing uh look you know
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01:59:35.240what look man if you if you're a guy who gets it regularly even frequently and all of a sudden
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01:59:40.120you're getting none um i'm sorry that's that's just unacceptable and and so so here's here's
01:59:47.400something i would say that i would ask you pearl if if you could find this out from women or see
01:59:54.360if this works for women uh because i've told a couple of women that i know to use this strategy
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01:59:59.320they were doing the whole withholding thing well if he doesn't do this then he doesn't get anything
02:00:03.240he doesn't do that he doesn't do anything and what i told a couple of them was this i said look
02:00:08.040you need to change your strategy that strategy is a losing and self-destructive strategy instead of
02:00:13.640doing that pay it forward as if your husband wants a naked lap dance give him a naked lap dance if he
02:00:20.360wants this give it to him if he wants that give it to him if he's a good guy and you married well
02:00:26.760he's going to be he's going to volunteer to do all those things for you
02:00:31.720he will volunteer and but but instead they do the opposite so from your studies with all your
02:00:38.440your wisdom you know i mean and knowledge why why why don't why do they do the the most
02:00:44.760self-destructive because there i always say there's three players in the marketplace and and men know
02:00:50.440this it's the simps the pimps and the sexless and men rotate through these throughout life so a lot
02:00:55.800lot of times they start as sexless then the only way they get sex is through relationships or
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02:01:00.940simping right and a lot of female dating strategies do work but they work on simps
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02:01:06.900so that's from my perspective that's why they do it is because a guy that's a simp if his wife
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02:01:16.780withholds sex and you've met him like wimpy guys I mean they'll say baby what do I have to do and
02:01:22.880they'll do it and then the cycle continues women tell other women i mean let's be honest most women
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02:01:29.460marry simps like most men that get married um unfortunately like usually they have more value
02:01:37.960than they know like they have no idea how much sexual access they would have but a lot married
02:01:43.100young so they don't really know yeah it's it you know the the women i've told that strategy to that
02:01:51.960actually used it have actually reported that things are different yeah things are different
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02:01:56.680like like you know and and so women don't seem to understand how powerful it is to maintain
02:02:03.720a healthy sexual relationship with their husbands it's it's incredibly powerful and so um i remember
02:02:12.040why i split with my ex uh she actually tried to get back together with me and i was like absolutely
02:02:17.720not look I said I went from getting it whenever I wanted to be able to call my shot to toward
02:02:25.400the end two or three times a year pearl and and then when I got when we split
02:02:47.720And one of these days, I'll tell the story about, well, I'll save that for another time.
02:03:16.900maybe if we talk again but but it's an epic tale that's an epic tale of um good um you should you
02:03:24.240should definitely start like a channel i think it would do really well um like even just talking to
02:03:29.600you now i want to hear what you think about like diddy and all this like i think you could do well
02:03:34.380on youtube you know diddy here's the thing um i'm i've got a good pal um who i grew up with in the
02:03:42.100Bronx. And he wanted an adult. And you sign up for that, that's one thing. But people were being
02:03:47.920drugged. And so have I seen things like that? Yes, out in Hollywood. Not to that extent.
02:03:57.460You know, I've had, you know, doing executive protection work, you know, again, I've probably
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02:04:03.720learned more about female nature doing executive protection work than even the private investigation
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02:04:09.040stuff um but you know people have to be careful it's not just like it's not just women that have
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02:04:15.440to be careful from from people trying to do things to them if people knew how many men were actually
02:04:21.920violated physically you'd be you'd be stunned but most guys won't report things like that
02:04:27.760you know how many guys want to say yeah this happened to them not very many you know and so
02:04:32.960yeah the ditty thing is um it's it's barely scratched the surface there's gonna be a lot
02:04:38.560more that comes out and um people um you know look i'm not a perfect person and if someone looks into
02:04:46.240my background here's what they'll find uh yeah sometimes he's a jerk sometimes he's an a-hole
02:04:51.120i don't like him or this or that here's what they'll never say they never say i'm dishonest
02:04:54.400they'll never say i ever took advantage of anybody i never cheated anybody uh if anything i'm too
02:04:59.360honest and um you know people sometimes people don't like that but there are guys out there there
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02:05:04.560there are, and women, unfortunately, there are evil women.
02:05:07.320And so when you talk about Hollywood,
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02:05:10.200and it goes along with the Diddy thing.
02:05:12.800When I lived in, I lived in Marina Del Rey,
02:05:15.060I lived in Culver City, I bought a sailboat,
02:05:17.060lived on a sailboat at Marina Del Rey,