Pearl - The Insanity of Gen Z Dating on Instagram

00:00:00.000 also chivalry is dead like even when i try and go on dates with guys that are older

00:00:07.160 seem respectful seem like green flags they immediately expect to get laid for doing

00:00:15.400 not even close to the bare minimum yeah because the jig's up yeah they know that you've given it

00:00:21.920 to free to for free to somebody and so they're gonna try and or figure out that the answer is

00:00:27.380 know what's up guys welcome to my reaction series today we're reacting to instagram is not a real

00:00:32.140 place where i react to the instagram reels that doug mpa and i um send each other so if you want

00:00:38.280 to be a part of that join the discord doug does pull them out of the discord at times links in

00:00:42.420 the description also there's a google form if you want doug mpa to give you a call um to call you

00:00:47.820 about potential events in your city so we can vet you guys we're going to do private dinners so no

00:00:52.660 more than like 10 20 people um and if you apply and you can afford the ticket then you can come

00:00:58.240 so fill out the google form in the description all right let's go name marks exactly four years

00:01:02.800 since i was shot four times on a popular bar street in gold coast chicago just to answer a

00:01:07.340 couple of the comments and gold coast is actually a pretty nice area so that is kind of surprising

00:01:14.060 questions i get one what was i doing gone out that night i was out pretty late i ubered to a

00:01:18.660 bar on division street, super popular bar area. So women, especially in Chicago, they vote for 1.00

00:01:24.000 democratic policies. And this is the result getting shot at four in the morning. There's 1.00

00:01:28.640 another girl also was shot in Chicago in 2012, twice right through calf and left ankle seems to

00:01:34.820 be more and more common these days. Hence why I moved to Greece. Yeah. It was raining. I wasn't

00:01:40.340 allowed in. I crossed the street and I was calling an Uber, just waiting for my Uber when the fight

00:01:44.960 broke out next to me that resulted in me getting shot four times i still have no idea who did it

00:01:49.120 somebody was arrested on the scene but then they pulled camera footage from the bars turns out that

00:01:53.160 wasn't the person who actually did it my sister was also shot i do still have a in my ankle which

00:01:59.360 is crazy to think about do i think chicago is inherently dangerous and sketchy no do i think

00:02:03.900 you need to be extra cautious and observe the comments section are fire on this like i like

00:02:08.840 how she got shot and you see the delusion of us do i still think it's sketchy no even though i got

00:02:14.240 shot four times 95 of all shootings are a combination of familiarity victim and assailant

00:02:20.580 and or occurring between 10 p.m and 4 a.m further compounding factors are in and around humble part

00:02:27.500 or in and around the austin area or in and around the inglewood area with that said local politics

00:02:32.640 have encouraged and allowed assaults and better in general and theft and armed carjacking stuff

00:02:39.000 to skyrocket over the past six years and it's significantly more random now it's happening

00:02:43.820 everywhere my advice to law-abiding citizens move to the suburbs or a different state that still

00:02:48.940 believes in protecting their citizens everyone deserves to feel safe and protected by police

00:02:54.100 presence or they deserve to carry um to allow you to conceal and carry with extended castle domain

00:03:01.180 laws in place to protect yourself one way or another there must be a different a deterrent

00:03:05.640 to this kind of action and shooting and especially late at night absolutely today marks exactly four

00:03:11.180 years since i was shot four times on a popular bar street in gold coast chicago okay all right

00:03:16.220 well and i couldn't look more different on the outside even if we tried but on the inside we

00:03:23.820 my husband is not my type here's why i married him anyway this is rationalization um you know

00:03:31.980 so she's trying to convince all the other women that he's alpha even though he's the exact same

00:03:37.980 person and this is exactly where i see women go wrong when it comes to dating let me explain what

00:03:44.940 i mean somewhere along the way we get sold on a type and we literally hold on to it like it's 0.89

00:03:52.700 a requirement a lot of women have a very detailed picture of what their ideal man looks like from

00:04:00.540 the height to the style to the swag everything on paper and of course attraction is very important

00:04:09.240 when it comes to this yeah so basically she couldn't get what she wanted now she's rationalizing

00:04:14.640 it but you find yourself dating your type and you dated multiple men who were your type and

00:04:21.380 nothing came of those relationships then it may be time to focus on something different what

00:04:28.560 actually sustains a relationship is alignment, not aesthetic. A man that actually looks like your

00:04:34.840 type could be completely wrong for you. Wrong vision, wrong character, wrong values. And those 1.00

00:04:41.780 things are incredibly hard to change in a person. This is the part that nobody tells you. When you

00:04:48.100 can connect with a man on a soul level and his character and his values blow you away, he becomes

00:04:56.040 way more attractive and that is what you should be focused on which of course is easier said than

00:05:01.520 done which is why i'm going to be running a summer challenge called the aligned woman and okay now 1.00

00:05:08.160 she's going to sell me something yeah i don't know why women they always embarrass their husbands to

00:05:12.120 build their brand like there's honestly something in the water like sure the men of my dad's

00:05:17.920 generation were misogynistic there's plenty of misogynistic men in my family but i feel like

00:05:23.180 they saw the value in a woman and what a woman can bring to the table they had a provider mindset

00:05:29.160 they had a family mindset yeah these young dudes are different i agree gen z a lot of the women

00:05:35.700 have bullied them from a young age um or just caused them so many problems they are not in

00:05:41.160 provider mode these gen z men want us to want to be trad wives do 50 50 do the housework do all of

00:05:50.160 that okay but remember they you know why they want you to do it all because a lot of them have maybe

00:05:56.080 not gen z but men have started to do the things that women said were so hard and realize they're 0.99

00:06:01.000 actually not that hard i think our biggest problem is women is lack of routine and disorganization 0.99

00:06:06.320 so we just find inefficient ways to do things raise a family without commitment like 1.00

00:06:11.940 also chivalry is dead like even when i try and go on dates with guys that are older

00:06:20.800 seem respectful seem like green flags they immediately expect to get laid for doing

00:06:29.020 not even close to the bare minimum yeah because the jig's up yeah they know that you've given it

00:06:35.540 to free to for free to somebody and so they're gonna try and or figure out that the answer is

00:06:41.000 out i went out with this older guy the other day that i thought was respectful he literally bought

00:06:45.940 me a beer a a beer which i don't even like beer and expected to get laid and he also like

00:06:52.720 nagged me in subtle ways the entire time and made me feel uncomfortable anyways men be expecting

00:07:03.160 the cookie for literally nothing and i blame dating apps and you know what for them expecting

00:07:12.260 that if you won't another girl will so but it literally feels like there's zero respect for

00:07:18.700 women anymore all right let's see a situationship is just someone you hook up with that hasn't 1.00

00:07:23.600 ghosted you um okay another one the hypocrisy is honestly astounding from so many women nowadays

00:07:30.860 first you say the men of my dad's generation saw the value in women and what she could bring to 0.94

00:07:35.820 the table had a provider mindset and were family oriented as if those were good things then you go

00:07:41.100 and describe how you aren't going to do any of those things that women brought to the table for 0.90

00:07:45.100 those men and to see and aren't going to be traditional ladies please get out of the mindset

00:07:50.780 that men have to be traditional for you while you don't have to be traditional in return it makes no

00:07:55.340 sense and also like there's this rage towards us for having equality and making good money

00:08:02.600 and it just feels impossible to date it just feels impossible because these men don't want 0.96

00:08:08.820 to do cute shit a lot of these men it's like pulling teeth to get them to plan a cute date 0.95

00:08:15.140 and let's say you do find a guy that you find cute you have chemistry with you go on a couple 0.99

00:08:20.120 dates with the instant that it gets to the point of maybe let's commit ghost mode ghost mode

00:08:29.920 genuinely the crazier thing is when you have a roster everyone takes you seriously like if you

00:08:37.680 have a roster and you're not taking any of these men seriously they take you seriously everything

00:08:43.620 thing women do that's dating advice for women is projection because it's what we like in men. 0.91

00:08:50.560 I can't even meet enough men that I would want to have on my roster. So I don't know what to do. 0.76

00:08:58.360 Okay. All right. Well, good luck with that lady. Let's see. Men's bathrooms are cleaner than women's

00:09:03.500 bathrooms. I agree. People say that it's 100% true is that the men's bathroom is always a lot 1.00

00:09:08.960 cleaner than a woman's bathroom. I worked at a movie theater as a teenager and the women's bathroom 1.00

00:09:13.200 was disgusting they had water poop sprayed on the walls or seat or floor this happens monthly 1.00

00:09:19.220 and I'm thinking these chicks are on dates and just blew up in the bathroom like this you 1.00

00:09:23.300 take it from somebody you know it probably is it's that women's diets are terrible 1.00

00:09:27.000 so clean one thing that people say that is 100 true is that the men's bathroom is always a lot 0.98

00:09:33.500 cleaner than a woman's bathroom take it from somebody who clean commercial restrooms the

00:09:39.420 The men's bathrooms will always, 99.9% of the time, be cleaner than the women's restrooms. 0.98

00:09:47.980 Just a food for thought, because I'm out training tonight. 1.00

00:09:52.300 And one of my employees was like, why is the women's bathroom always a lot dirtier than the men's bathroom?

00:09:59.640 I said, I don't know.

00:10:00.980 I know it's an old myth. 1.00

00:10:02.000 People always say it, but it proves over and over again to be true.

00:10:06.620 And other cleaning business owners can tell.

00:10:08.080 we care about others women only care about themselves and it is because they know that 1.00

00:10:12.500 it's true too i clean five million and two times trillion bathrooms women and men bathrooms 1.00

00:10:17.280 and the female bathrooms will always and forever be a lot more dirtier than the men's bathroom so

00:10:24.340 it's also the period stuff gets messy if y'all was wondering if it's true or people just saying

00:10:29.380 people are not just saying it that is something that is 110 true all right bye all right let's

00:10:37.120 see what's next stop telling your homegirls any man would be lucky to have you because you don't 1.00

00:10:43.980 know that you have no clue how they're showing up on dates you know brunch her you know girl strip 0.99

00:10:48.780 her you know happy hour her you don't know date her and those might not be the same person you're 0.98

00:10:53.940 up here assuming that she's showing up as her wonderful self while she might be the cuntiest 0.99

00:10:58.560 of cunts to have ever cunted like i know date me is not friend me the version of ayana that shows 0.97

00:11:03.880 up on a date is dependent upon situation circumstance and that's so true because 0.95

00:11:09.480 plus people are awkward and nervous and you know things just happen on dates that can be taken the

00:11:16.760 wrong way so symmetry of the man's face that's sitting across from me everybody ain't getting

00:11:21.300 the same ayana a strong jawline and wallet might get you preferential treatment membership has its

00:11:26.100 privileges and that is how all of us are one of my homegirls sent me a screenshot of an exchange

00:11:30.880 she was having with a guy and i couldn't believe what i was reading i wanted to text him run brother

00:11:36.540 run save yourself like girl this is how you acted this is how you on dates because if any one of my

00:11:43.660 homeboys had sent me that screenshot and said this is a woman that i'm talking to i would have said 0.59

00:11:48.120 absolutely not absolutely not let that go block so before you start telling your home girls oh girl

00:11:55.720 any man would be lucky to have you just remember you might be getting dr checkle

00:12:00.820 while everybody else is getting mr hot stop telling your homegirls any man would be lucky 1.00

00:12:07.380 to have you all right so let's see this lady i don't know why i'm 38 pregnant but that last 1.00

00:12:16.700 lady cooked actually i'm gonna i'm gonna take a second yeah because women can be really nice 1.00

00:12:21.940 in day to day and then a bitch on a date or rude or just completely out of three-year-olds baby 1.00

00:12:26.940 because you can't teach an old dog new tricks but them puppies them puppies yeah a lot of 1.00

00:12:33.180 controlling women um that lost in the game of love in their 20s are gonna go for younger men in their

00:12:38.720 30s because they can't compete for the older guys you can because tell me this man used to think

00:12:44.660 that watching tv was spending time with me this man all on his own without even being asked

00:12:51.720 planned a whole date yesterday took me to the car show museum his mom's probably warning him to run

00:12:58.900 oh no a yoga girl and dinner he didn't even complain when we had to sit down every 20 feet

00:13:04.780 at the museum because of my Braxton Hicks and then proceeded to run me a bubble bath and we got back

00:13:10.880 so puppy training is going well and I highly suggest you get yourself a trainable one 1.00

00:13:20.660 yeah women just love embarrassing their men online love it all right let's see like 500 1.00

00:13:29.060 and something man that i've slept with and he genuinely doesn't care which honestly says 0.62

00:13:32.620 everything he knows i was a pro ho and then i ended up becoming a millionaire because of it

00:13:36.100 i am not riddled with diseases i'm not mentally ill nor am i undesirable to every single man

00:13:40.680 do you see how cope this is um men are always gonna feel the way they feel about it uh but

00:13:47.400 there are men that get over it because they want the poonanis in the world there are plenty of men

00:13:51.340 who are comfortable in their masculinity and don't judge a woman for being more seasoned it's just

00:13:55.820 his turn he's just your boyfriend so can get he's there for the money and ex experience please um

00:14:03.160 tell this if he becomes your husband well women don't want to be married we're just in a subscription 0.99

00:14:08.320 model economy where everyone's subscribing even marriage is how many years so so to the women in

00:14:15.060 my world who are genuinely convinced that they will never find love just look at me i'm sitting

00:14:18.880 here with a man whose number who knows what who brings me flowers and kisses my forehead ladies

00:14:23.520 there is a massive difference between a man who tolerates your past and a man who genuinely is

00:14:27.920 comfortable with it one is a guy who always have an underlying problem the other is a loving

00:14:32.740 gentleman who only cares about who you are no matter your past every man i dated while i was

00:14:37.060 working knew exactly what i did i was never ashamed about it or apologized for it because

00:14:41.020 this is my life and my career you're either in or you're out and of course i lost partners too but

00:14:45.260 who cares they just were not my soul mate anyway society will spend a lot of time convincing you 0.99

00:14:49.580 that you're too much to be loved and the only correct response when women say they're too much 0.99

00:14:53.820 it's always our insufferable personality is to hold your standard anyway and wait for the man 0.99

00:14:57.900 who doesn't ever need convincing that is why my boyfriend is the like yeah okay let's see another 1.00

00:15:04.620 other girl coping okay we've got tits out plastic surgery and a sleeve so let's see what this woman 0.75

00:15:13.340 has to say okay man I'm 32 kind of hot and I'm still single like what am I doing wrong I have 0.50

00:15:18.500 a six-figure career okay man I'm 32 kind of hot and I'm still single like what am I doing wrong

00:15:23.480 I have a six-figure career I've dated guys who I'll earn everybody in the room I'm at every

00:15:27.680 networking event you can name I've optimized my entire life to be around high value men

00:15:32.040 and for some reason none of them want to lock me down they take me out one time and disappear i'm

00:15:38.500 not that crazy so no seriously tell me what i'm doing wrong because from where i'm sitting i did

00:15:43.360 everything right well you got a sleeve like what am i doing wrong who knows so you are going for

00:15:50.400 guys that are high income i never once heard in your description you were going for guys that

00:15:53.900 were loving creative intelligent or talented maybe you need to start with that no man cares

00:15:58.780 about your career are you soft are you quiet that's what gets me i talk too much i'll say

00:16:04.500 something are you submissive are you combative yeah you see here we go 30s we are in the okay

00:16:12.600 so this is a dentist that i follow and she's recently moving into a house with her sisters

00:16:21.580 um and she's in her 30s right so a lot of women if we fail in our relationships i mean this is a 1.00

00:16:26.140 decent option roommates um but it's gonna this is why i say polygamy kind of makes sense because 0.91

00:16:31.900 women don't really like being around men that much so we're seeing women moving in together 0.90

00:16:36.500 um and sharing men off the dating apps so renovation process kelsey

00:16:41.460 it's like 900 degrees out we potted all of our record trees i'll show you

00:16:48.540 we're gonna host dinner parties pool parties let me show you how far we've come with the garden

00:16:54.800 done one side and now we've got to do the other section 10 pirates champion here's the front porch

00:17:03.020 yeah and then the dad and the brothers became become the husbands for them absolutely good

00:17:07.960 so there's been a bunch of updates we added a bunch of recessed lights here

00:17:14.860 we're building out the island you can see the floors are done which are so beautiful

00:17:19.180 we changed this light all the walls are painted this is the light we're choosing for our library

00:17:24.360 it looks so much brighter with the lights i'd love to see what it's like living with my sisters

00:17:29.000 in the villa in my 30s i'm sydney okay yeah well my wife wants me to finish a project but also

00:17:37.840 wants me to spend all day with her what are you doing out here i want to hang out finishing the

00:17:46.080 deck you asked me to finish you just told me you wanted to sit out here tonight so i gotta finish

00:17:50.380 it up okay but I want you to spend time with me though like I can't what are you doing out here

00:18:03.180 I want to hang out finishing the deck you asked me to finish you just told me you wanted to sit

00:18:07.940 out here tonight so I got to finish it up okay but I want you to spend time with me though like

00:18:13.200 I can't spend time with you if you're just sitting out here working on the deck all day

00:18:17.960 I got to finish this, babe.

00:18:19.480 You're welcome to join me on the deck while I'm finishing.

00:18:23.040 Why would I sit out here?

00:18:23.920 It's too hot.

00:18:25.500 I'm burning in the sun right now.

00:18:27.920 I want to hang out with my husband, and I'm burning in the sun.

00:18:30.860 Babe, do you want this deck done or no?

00:18:33.660 Of course I want this deck done.

00:18:36.240 But I also want you to spend time with me.

00:18:39.320 I don't know why this is like a complicated thing.

00:18:42.440 I want you to spend time with me.

00:18:44.620 That's the thing.

00:18:44.940 We want it all without the cost.

00:18:46.480 like not just be in the same place i want you to spend time with me you've been out here for at

00:18:51.900 least 15 minutes and i've been sitting in here the whole time by myself so finish up come inside

00:19:00.700 let's hang out because it's too hot to be on the deck anyway all right guys um let me know what you

00:19:08.680 think in the comments or if there's any reels that we should react to put it in the comments

00:19:13.360 join the discord like the video subscribe to the channel and i'll see you next time

Pearl - July 31, 2026

The Insanity of Gen Z Dating on Instagram

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