Pearl - April 16, 2026


The Tea App： It Would Be Based If Men Could Use It


Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

182.58789

Word count

1,603

Sentence count

16

Harmful content

Misogyny

6

sentences flagged

Hate speech

14

sentences flagged


Summary

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Transcript

Transcript generated with Whisper (turbo).
Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 How would that make you feel if you gluck glucked and now everyone gets to, you know,
00:00:03.900 now the gluck gluck is being reviewed and, you know, do we really want that?
00:00:08.300 So today we're talking about the Are We Dating The Same Guy groups. 0.59
00:00:12.980 And today I want to talk about the question, why don't women leave positive reviews for men?
00:00:18.160 So Are We Dating The Same Guy Facebook page is a global network of private Facebook pages
00:00:23.900 with over 10 million women designed to share information about men.
00:00:28.180 this was made to avoid toxic dangerous or dishonest partners members post men's photos to check for
00:00:35.060 red flags warn others and verify if men are secretly seeing multiple people simultaneously
00:00:41.300 the purpose of the group is to protect empower and support women in the modern dating landscape
00:00:46.420 often highlighting cases of cheating abuse or dishonesty how it works users post a man's name
00:00:53.620 or picture and other women who have dated or matched with him to share their experience.
00:00:59.300 Generally, these groups require members to be women, empathize not sharing content outside
00:01:04.900 the group, and restrict commenting on a man's looks without providing substantive and personal
00:01:11.640 experience. While many see these groups as a necessary tool, others argue they can lead to
00:01:17.920 harassment of the spread of unverified information now on its surface this sounds okay um you know
00:01:26.300 when these groups came out it kind of reminded me of the locker room in college like basically um
00:01:32.080 if a girl was talking to a guy in college it would just come out in the locker room
00:01:36.860 and then everybody you know then the girls look through their phones and then some of the girls
00:01:41.080 might say oh i got a message from him you know and then it's like nick right but the issue is
00:01:46.460 you're actually giving women and exes in particular um the right to anonymously trash you without
00:01:52.720 verifying their story now this does happen behind the scenes all the time but there's something
00:01:58.320 about not you know like if i hear a story um from a girl on my volleyball team i know if the bitch
00:02:05.840 is crazy i know if the bitch has got issues you know like there's some sort of um verifiable 0.97
00:02:12.380 evidence or like you can kind of trust or not trust the source. But now we can anonymously 1.00
00:02:19.040 leave stories. And we have to think about it, ladies, if this was, I mean, would you like guys
00:02:23.920 reviewing your gluck gluck? How would that make you feel? Right? How would that make you feel if
00:02:29.600 you gluck glucked and now everyone gets to, you know, now the gluck gluck is being reviewed. And
00:02:35.480 you know, do we really want that? What if you had a bad day? What if your poonanny stank one day?
00:02:41.480 what if it was just one day you know your ph balance was off you ate the wrong food some 1.00
00:02:47.340 bullshit and now you're smelling and now everybody gets to in that kind of embarrassing but women 0.59
00:02:52.020 have no um we have no qualms about embarrassing men um if anything if anything it actually leads 0.79
00:02:58.200 to mass hysteria now what i've noticed so i actually joined like five of the pages right
00:03:03.420 i'm in i'm lurking you know what i mean so i'm in like five of these pages and one of the reasons
00:03:09.460 i joined is because i have a friend who's an absolute demon now i've said this before but
00:03:14.320 there are certain men um that get posted in these groups that i don't necessarily feel that bad for
00:03:20.200 like for example if you're spreading like if you gave 10 girls gonorrhea do we feel that bad that
00:03:28.740 you get posted like if you got aids and you spread it to some women like i don't do i don't have any
00:03:35.460 i mean you did that to my yourself my guy you know what i mean it's like uh if you have three
00:03:41.200 girlfriends at the same time i don't feel that bad for you do you know what i mean is that is
00:03:46.700 that unfair is that unfair of me like if if you're an absolute demon i don't feel the absolute world
00:03:53.800 like it's kind of like what did you expect you banged her sister but the issue is when i have
00:04:00.900 a friend that's an absolute demon um I've seen him take home three girls in a day I've seen him
00:04:06.740 have three girlfriends at once I've seen him run absolute madness and and I said to him I'm like
00:04:12.740 you have to be in these pages I mean this guy has a cheating system a system for cheat like
00:04:19.420 he walked me through like I'm like what do you do if she says this he has every answer he has two
00:04:26.520 iCloud accounts. He's a dude that has no social media because he doesn't want his bitches to find 1.00
00:04:33.620 each other. I know. And that's what you think. You think demon time, they get what they deserve. 1.00
00:04:38.420 Like, what did you think would happen? He was nowhere in any of these groups. And I'm like,
00:04:45.440 sir, if anybody deserves to be in these groups, it's you. It's you. Like, you deserve to be in
00:04:53.380 this group's time and i would find that like my friends that um that were actually good guys kept
00:04:59.980 getting posts like i have one and to be fair i'm not that close with these guys maybe they have a
00:05:05.700 second personality but these are just people i've known over the years one person is a jet he was
00:05:11.180 like a fitness buff um very successful um guy in the finance industry and his ex-girlfriend of seven
00:05:19.500 years ago posted him did he cheat no but he was coercive and controlling according to her and i'm
00:05:25.160 like my guy you're so nice you're like a nice dude very helpful like like i understand he kind of was
00:05:32.040 he kind of is a giga chad right but there's giga chads with demon time on we gotta stop pretending
00:05:37.920 like all giga chads are built the same some giga chads really are not on demon time i'm just being
00:05:43.160 honest here this was not a demon time like he had the looks of the giga chad but like
00:05:48.680 he's just not a demon time type of guy and i'm like why is the yet like why is the demon time
00:05:58.360 guy not in the groups and the not demon time guy gets like it it wasn't like he cheated like this
00:06:04.980 girl cheated on him anyways another guy that got put in these groups um i know that his thing is
00:06:11.580 he likes to take women on karaoke dates and apparently he ghosted a girl and she didn't 0.56
00:06:17.860 she didn't take that too well but his second date for women is karaoke and this bitch put that she 0.98
00:06:23.080 ghosted him or he ghosted her and I'm like bitch if you're gonna if you're gonna include the ghosting 0.99
00:06:30.000 why don't you also include the karaoke I begged my ex for years to take me to karaoke years 0.97
00:06:37.500 never took me to karaoke and you got it on the second date ungrateful ungrateful so my question
00:06:44.620 ladies it's like if we're gonna put in the negatives about men right he ghosted i mean
00:06:57.400 he could have sent you a text he could have said he's not interested i mean that's that's fair
00:07:01.900 that's fair enough he could have right women do it to men all the time but if we're gonna be talk
00:07:06.080 about being respectful sure you could argue that but it's like if you're gonna include the ghosting
00:07:12.040 you better you better you sure as hell better include the karaoke and this isn't just um about
00:07:18.720 the date like you could put that he paid for the women don't care about money so i don't really
00:07:22.380 think women care if you pay i'm gonna be honest um i do go alone but sometimes you just want to
00:07:28.720 jam out you want to like rap you want to do a rap battle with your man you know but men men um
00:07:35.300 they're not really most men aren't into karaoke you could put that he has a clean house
00:07:39.440 not all men have that right you could put um there's so many positives if a guy's good and
00:07:45.760 but like i was going through these pages and i'm like one why is there no positive reviews 0.88
00:07:51.520 what like you could put the spot he likes to take his bitches to you could put the um you could put 0.62
00:07:59.380 his routine you know so you can get an idea of what you're signing up for but all of this stuff 0.96
00:08:04.340 it's like abusive coercive controlling i'm like ladies this is terrible just because these are
00:08:11.900 not accurate like we need to have more accuracy involved yeah see the guys and i'll take you to
00:08:18.220 karaoke but i'm not singing well then what why go do you know i mean i mean the whole point of
00:08:23.360 karaoke is so we can do like a back and forth we could do it's like um high school musical i'm just
00:08:29.260 saying yeah dancing right a lot of guys they're not into dancing and if the guy take you know
00:08:36.980 it's like we should have a pros and a con like if we're gonna women are gonna complain no matter
00:08:41.100 what but it's like ladies where are the pros nothing was good about this guy nothing