Pearl - This Is How 'COUGARS' COPE With Men Their Age Not Wanting Them

00:00:00.000 but a lot of men my age are steeped in a toxic masculinity translation the men my age do not

00:00:06.500 want me and hey look i have no problem with this relationship most relationships are short-term

00:00:13.840 the young men need practice the old ladies need to get dig down right i mean i'm just being honest 1.00

00:00:18.420 here they need to f somebody the young men need practice for their um when their girlfriend's

00:00:23.840 finally born what up guys welcome to my reaction series apparently the cougars are going for younger

00:00:33.380 men so as you guys know many women have to cope when the men their age don't want them anymore so

00:00:40.020 what do they do the 20 something year old men you guys are up next make sure if you guys have a story

00:00:46.940 with a cougar put it in the comments but today we're talking about tracy ellis ross she appeared 1.00

00:00:53.100 on michelle obama's podcast to talk about her dating life look she's 52 years old never married

00:00:58.320 no kids and that is not going to change anytime soon she said that she dates younger men because

00:01:03.860 they are more fluid when it comes to their relationship dynamics and expectations she

00:01:09.040 stated that older men are full of toxic masculinity because they believe in gender roles and traditional

00:01:15.100 marriage values have you guys seen the articles lately saying that like gen z women are going for 0.56

00:01:20.540 older men because they're more feminist and i'm like no guys you know men do have beliefs you know

00:01:28.840 women do not have beliefs and that's like the biggest you know difference between the genders not 1.00

00:01:34.280 all not all not all but when it comes to men when they're trying to get laid i mean there's no point in

00:01:40.120 even asking them any questions as a woman like what are you looking for he's gonna answer whatever he 0.84

00:01:45.300 thinks you're looking for what are your political beliefs he's gonna like i don't know how much

00:01:51.380 money do you make as much money as you need me to make for me to get laid today like like i don't

00:01:59.240 even know the point of asking questions on a date because men are just gonna say what they're gonna 1.00

00:02:03.900 say in order to get the poonanny right and women lie to like everyone's just you know kind of lying to 1.00

00:02:09.500 each other and so i'm just realistic you might as well just not talk on the date and just figure out

00:02:14.260 if you find each other hot they might as well be i'm just kidding they they haven't been asked to

00:02:18.600 because i think it's it's not always a context that if it's a which one of you is doing it who's doing

00:02:25.720 it who is it i know some of you in the chat are not above it okay let's we're not going to pretend here

00:02:32.660 that you're this isn't the lying channel okay this is the be honest channel um how far would you drive

00:02:41.080 that's the real question would you do it if it'd been long enough i know all of you would

00:02:46.360 and how far would you drive 10 minutes be honest put in the chat an area that you don't have to

00:02:53.120 think into right but i think there is uh it is a genuine regular thought process for me it's one of

00:03:00.040 the reasons i mean we've talked about this that often i date younger men as most of you know i have

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00:04:45.640 folks oh my god all right so this is men have to develop like a poker face in life in order to get

00:04:53.400 anywhere in life they really just have to pretend that the things that we say matter and are okay

00:04:58.220 so you know it's kind of like women in a relationship will say something really messed up to the guy

00:05:05.060 and the guy has two choices he can get upset right and if he gets upset then boom big fight or he can

00:05:12.800 just develop a poker face and we're going to do a show on this and right here is this guy's poker face

00:05:19.400 coming through you see in the middle he's like oh god she is this is a married woman clapping for this

00:05:27.980 cougar bussing down 20 something year old men and basically being a side chick in use now you may 0.53

00:05:35.700 think this is a loss for women right that means like that's an L it's it's it depends how you think

00:05:41.900 about it if women like being side chicks I mean they're just it's kind of gives women what they want 1.00

00:05:46.880 now yeah she's gonna go 20 years younger and then when he's 35 he's gonna dump and find a real woman 1.00

00:05:55.400 to start a family with unless he's a simp occasionally what a cougar will pull this off and do you know

00:06:01.860 what's gonna happen I'm gonna let her go in a second but what's gonna happen is the same way we're gonna

00:06:06.280 see record high mothers in their 40s that's gonna completely be a thing the technology is gonna evolve 1.00

00:06:12.820 and it's gonna be more common now for every one winner of women that's able to do it there's gonna 1.00

00:06:18.200 be like 10 losers right but let's say 10% of women in their 50s pull a guy in their 20s and 30s and 1.00

00:06:25.600 actually manage to keep him for like a lot a significantly long period of time well guess what 0.90

00:06:31.280 guys what are they gonna do to women sell hope that you're gonna be hot forever because hot men in

00:06:35.660 their 20s will bust this down and we covered um a female who became a prostitute who was a grandma 0.97

00:06:40.940 and she was getting busted down by like 20 something year old soccer players so please

00:06:45.240 stop telling me you're above it some of you are gonna do it I don't know who but I know at least

00:06:48.880 one of you is watching this and would do it I I know it you know I've seen too much we had a great

00:06:54.180 dinner by the way we're across the table your husband goes but why and I said well maybe because

00:06:59.600 I can yes this is why I'm saying tales from Tracy's it's fun it's really fun yeah do you see wait hold

00:07:10.040 on right there can I go back well he has like that look of disgust like he there the men are deep down

00:07:16.280 like disgusted but again he he's putting that smile on he's got to put the poker face it's like

00:07:22.100 gosh I gotta put this back up crazy tale but but one of the reasons though that because I had to ask

00:07:29.420 myself that question I was like what is this about yeah um because I want a partner and so often and

00:07:34.500 it's not just that I'm older I'm also very embodied I am a full very whole person who knows myself

00:07:42.200 who is in charge of my life and who lives a very full um just robust life so it's not just age it's

00:07:50.600 like life experience and sort of a difference but I had to ask myself the question why why does

00:07:54.680 this keep sort of coming up other than they're hot and gorgeous um there's that there's that but a lot

00:08:00.000 of men my age are steeped in a toxic masculinity translation the men my age do not want me and hey

00:08:08.040 look I actually I'm gonna be honest I have no problem with this relationship most relationships are

00:08:15.940 short-term the young men need practice the old ladies need to get dig down right I mean I'm 1.00

00:08:20.540 just being honest here they need to f somebody the young men need practice for their um when

00:08:26.060 their girlfriend's finally born when their girlfriend is born when they're like 25 and

00:08:32.440 then at 55 they can meet her so they can bust down these ladies till they meet them um and yeah so I 1.00

00:08:38.900 don't I don't know I don't have a problem with these type of relationships I actually think it's a

00:08:43.480 perfect like market meeting if that makes sense and have been raised in a culture where there is

00:08:50.740 a particular way that a relationship looks um and anything that starts to smell of that for me

00:08:57.260 I am I did enough of it where I was controlled and felt like I was a possession or I whatever those

00:09:04.580 things were okay so when she says I felt like I was controlled or a possession so women we say alpha

00:09:11.080 and beta right but it's basically guys with standards and guys with no standards so guys that 0.94

00:09:15.720 let the woman and and it's a scale right there's some guys that let no shit go there's some guys that 0.70

00:09:21.400 let some shit you know it's like a you know it's not but let's just for this explanation just split 0.98

00:09:29.720 the guys in the two the guys that can say no and the guys that can't and so basically what she's saying 0.98

00:09:35.800 is I dated a guy in alpha I hate that term but like or a guy that had boundaries and knew how to

00:09:42.980 say no and that's pretty much that's like women we have an internal battle where we're fighting for 1.00

00:09:48.780 either we want freedom and to be who we are but the problem is who we are is terrible people so that

00:09:54.440 that's like the internal battle I want freedom and to be who I am but I don't um but the men that I'm

00:10:00.120 attracted to don't like who I am as a person and so I gotta I gotta change who I am as a person 0.75

00:10:06.340 to get into a relationship now men know this they know they ain't shit right from a young age the 0.94

00:10:10.980 world tells them and they do have to change who they are as a person to get into a relationship men 0.93

00:10:16.240 know and accept that but women that's why that's why women love Kim Kardashian so much is because she 1.00

00:10:20.940 gets the ultimate she's pretty good looking for her age right she's still banging hot dudes 1.00

00:10:25.840 yeah for the time being and she gets the ultimate freedom and money even the oldest Kardashian I mean 0.96

00:10:32.800 isn't Corey Gamble I don't isn't he Corey Corey Gamble but you know I mean he's not a bad looking

00:10:38.380 guy right a talent manager okay obviously she's not gonna get the dude she used to get but you guys you

00:10:45.040 guys see what I'm saying like she gets to do whatever she wants and still date an arguably good 0.89

00:10:50.360 looking guy um that's women's dream that's really women's dream to be as bad as people as possible 1.00

00:10:57.120 and still get whatever we want in life yeah or prize or and um I just I have no interest in it and I

00:11:07.060 will not do it again I'm sorry no I was gonna say what so it's a generational thing so it didn't matter

00:11:12.980 how you met them or is it just kind of the guys you're meeting that's obviously it's a generalization

00:11:18.500 yeah but um because I I have dated men my age there is a difference there is an openness that

00:11:24.740 occurs with a younger man around whether it's gender fluidity or um not even having an issue

00:11:31.920 with homosexuality I mean something as basic as that yeah there's times where I'll be you know

00:11:36.880 sitting across the table from somebody and just like what did you just say what what century are

00:11:41.480 you like oh my god where's your horse and buggy yeah like I'm so sorry yeah and here's the thing if

00:11:46.740 she was hot this is what the men would do yeah I'm totally for gay marriage he could be the most

00:11:53.980 far-right conspiracy theorist he'll sit there and say yeah you know I think that women um they don't 1.00

00:12:00.680 get enough credit in society you know what I mean it's like and your your bedpan yeah for real

00:12:07.460 chamber pot yeah your chamber pot your chamber pot like where I'm just like yeah this is not a match

00:12:12.440 and I don't I have long been past the age where I feel like it's my job to teach somebody or grow

00:12:18.380 them up yeah that I'm not interested in so um but it's interesting I mean there's so many different

00:12:24.280 philosophies on dating um and I have come up with mine I have come up with what works for me and what

00:12:29.600 makes sense for me and what feels safe for me yep you know I mean like I'm not on dating apps I have

00:12:35.720 friends that have great success with dating apps but that's just not something I'm comfortable with

00:12:39.380 you're meeting folks in the wild then that's the only way for me or someone sets me up or I meet

00:12:44.380 them at an event I meet someone it's usually people that also have a a level of recognition that they

00:12:50.440 you know oh my god famous men are busting that down oh my god it must be bad out there boys

00:12:58.540 it must be bad have as much to lose as me to a certain extent um I don't know I mean I haven't

00:13:06.300 had great luck lately but I do have to say I'm because you're old yeah translation I got old I'm

00:13:12.680 moving up on what it is that I'm looking for as a match yeah I've had some doozies yeah it's just

00:13:19.980 I just love watching your life um because you were modeling so many things the next phase how how many

00:13:28.800 versions of ourselves we can become at all ages in life you know and how to build the life you want

00:13:35.700 yes not the life that somebody told you you were supposed to have and let me tell you I have I told

00:13:41.760 you this about the girls and Tracy just like you know she mentors the girl she's I will bet money

00:13:47.700 that their kids will be single mothers I'll bet money always there for them but trying to get 1.00

00:13:54.560 trying to make sure that I am not subconsciously sending them these messages about what their life

00:14:00.980 should look like even like when you ask are you dating anyone I mean that's something that we ask

00:14:05.580 young people in their 20s you know yeah so this is what we're getting now this is your future side

00:14:12.340 piece Othello welcome to 2025 I can't believe well-known men in their 20s and 30s wow that's insane

00:14:19.880 used to be she's turned into an auntie anyways guys let me know what you think in the comments please

00:14:26.580 like the video and if you have any experience with a cougar please put it in the comments and we'll pin

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Pearl - April 26, 2025

This Is How 'COUGARS' COPE With Men Their Age Not Wanting Them

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