Pearl - May 15, 2026


When Old Hags Find Love


Episode Stats


Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

202.87485

Word count

2,150

Sentence count

2

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

sentences flagged

Toxicity

6

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Hate speech

10

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Summary

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In this episode, we are reacting to people talking about how dating in your 30s sucks. We talk about what it s like to date someone in their 30s and how it s better than dating in their 20s.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Toxicity classifications generated with s-nlp/roberta_toxicity_classifier .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 why do you do this like if you're gonna get fat just take the compliments or the lack of
00:00:04.640 compliments that come with it what's going on guys welcome to my reaction series today we are 0.98
00:00:09.540 reacting to people talking about how dating in your 30s sucks so look um love is really reserved
00:00:15.860 for your 20s um then it becomes more of arrangements i would i would say maybe maybe early 30s if you
00:00:22.760 to push it like that um so dating in your 30s just you know it becomes very transactional for what 1.00
00:00:30.920 i from what i understand and now women are going to do what we do best which is complain 0.99
00:00:36.600 so let's see what the ladies have to say i'm my husband in my 20s and be married by 30 and
00:00:41.400 having kids and all that and i'm 32 and i'm just not but i also have viewed being in my 30s and
00:00:47.480 having dated such an empowering position to be in because you are so much more established you're so
00:00:52.520 much more clear on what it is you want and there's so much less room for the
00:00:55.960 bullshit feeling like someone is vetting you like no it's actually the other way around
00:01:00.200 for so much of my life i would find myself in these relationships and it was almost like i 0.99
00:01:05.320 didn't have a choice to your point being in my 30s being established having this life experience
00:01:10.920 also having like a lot of sobriety under my belt and a lot of self-awareness around like who i am
00:01:15.560 and why i am what are these women doing to their skin do you guys think that looks good when it's
00:01:19.800 like shiny the way that i am and all of that i'm like armed with this information it's no longer 0.86
00:01:25.880 about like am i good enough for this person it's like is this what i want how do you know they're
00:01:31.560 in who am i going to reproduce with mode okay let's see hi wow you have the exact amount of
00:01:36.280 hair that you have in your profile photo you have no idea how refreshing that is i'm sorry yeah
00:01:40.520 before we order drinks can i just lay a few things out at the table so we're both not wasting our
00:01:43.880 precious times when we could be answering unread emails so um i'm looking for a husband and someone
00:01:48.680 gonna have kids with oh yikes i know um i'm not saying right now you don't have to impregnate me
00:01:53.420 on top of these menus that's just what i'm looking for right now so if commitment is like the
00:01:57.540 boogeyman to you i totally get it but you know boo also i have never come to completion solely
00:02:03.920 by having an eggplant inside of my flower garden it's important that you know that in my multiple
00:02:08.280 years of being sexually active it's never happened not once i appreciate you not making your entire
00:02:11.520 personality about being the person who changes that it's gonna affect your manhood i'm probably
00:02:15.400 is not the girl for you and I'm definitely not gonna spend the next 10 years pretending like I
00:02:18.800 am if you know what I mean um I'm a feminist shocker and I'm not necessarily saying you have
00:02:23.300 to be labels can be weird I just would prefer you not think that any man who willingly went to go
00:02:27.740 see Barbie was gay by default also that being said my best friend's on standby and she will
00:02:31.840 come save me immediately should you say anything even remotely resembling an Andrew Tate quote
00:02:35.220 that one's just for my safety now last but not least I'm looking for someone who wants me as a
00:02:39.760 partner not a cheerleader the blonde hair can sometimes send people off so if you want a little
00:02:43.880 more rah rah says boom bah chris i love that for you you're a very attractive man that's why you're
00:02:48.080 here i'm sure you can find a variety of options available to you at the local mall and that being
00:02:52.580 said chris do you feel like we're on the same page can we order a drink yeah do you know how
00:02:56.320 women we're so um people that state their intentions up front just aren't that intelligent
00:03:03.160 because it allows other people to just be whatever you say so women that are older they just get
00:03:09.260 trust me i know so i know a lot of puas being in my business and these guys are like fine i'll just
00:03:15.760 say that i'm looking for the same thing and get laid go out for drinks and this man in his 50s
00:03:20.540 is hitting on me and i'm obviously like not interested i'm 32 years old but good conversation
00:03:24.740 and a glass of wine like i could yap you know what i mean so he proceeds to tell me that i have such
00:03:29.260 a beautiful face if you're a fat girl you know that's like our favorite comment because god
00:03:33.580 forbid you just say i'm just beautiful it's just you have a beautiful face so whatever i take the
00:03:38.080 comment i'm like thank you so much okay but what's you know he can't say your body like why
00:03:43.660 why do you do this like if you're gonna get fat just take the compliments or the lack of
00:03:48.880 compliments that come with it don't complain about your lot in life when you are the one
00:03:52.740 that's eating every day like is there anything you're working on like on yourself in order to
00:03:57.220 find a husband obviously the order of the questions is triggering because i'm like well i know you're
00:04:02.260 talking about my body so like i could indulge you or i could really remove myself from this
00:04:05.880 conversation no just say no just say no I mean why do you like why do you got to get defensive
00:04:11.280 just say no I'm not I'm not working on anything I was feeling like fun and fresh so I decided to
00:04:16.640 indulge him and I'm like yeah you know like I'm trying to work on like losing some weight and
00:04:20.680 before I could even continue because girl you know there's things I'm working on
00:04:24.100 this man goes that's exactly what I was gonna say oh perfect thanks for the feedback he's like you
00:04:30.600 know guys they don't like oh i actually was flabbergasted i was like this he started he 0.50
00:04:37.060 started word vomiting this is this is kind of a socially autistic guy too because that's just not
00:04:42.560 something you say on a first date but it's kind of funny all of his thoughts about
00:04:46.080 about the potential i have as a beautiful woman with a great personality who just needs to like
00:04:52.820 get her body right like get on the munjaro get on the ozempic or by the way he asked me that
00:04:58.860 question earlier in the conversation like are you on any medications and I was like that's such a
00:05:03.020 weird question to ask somebody like why would he ask that I didn't put the pieces together until
00:05:06.600 right this freaking second it's just crazy to me that you can be so like I don't know what the word
00:05:15.740 is like we say in French like you have like the audacity that's the word the audacity to say
00:05:21.740 something like that to somebody that you just met and also like the crazy part is I know it came
00:05:27.820 from a good place like i didn't even i wasn't even insulted it's more just like this is like
00:05:32.420 the rhetoric this is what this is what people are thinking as i'm walking around i go outside it's
00:05:36.460 like wow you're pretty and you have a great personality yeah you don't even have to call
00:05:39.580 fat women fat because life will will tell them in itself let's see how this woman's dating
00:05:43.640 i went on a date with was this really handsome smart successful guy and why would he be on a 0.98
00:05:51.780 date with you mid i was so excited about this date yeah he wasn't i was like really looking
00:05:57.580 forward to it finally felt like i was gonna date somebody that really had it together
00:06:03.500 go on this date this man talked about his ex-wife and his ex-girlfriend uh from a month ago so much
00:06:12.940 past the date i asked him how he felt about the breakup with the girlfriend and he said sad i
00:06:22.140 don't know this just doesn't feel like something you should say on a first date with somebody else
00:06:26.380 I thought we were done talking about it later on and then it all started again and he started
00:06:32.780 telling me all about his ex-wife's fertility issues and how he got a vasectomy after she left him
00:06:39.460 and then this last girl he dated, dated him for four months, they had this wholesome wonderful
00:06:45.660 relationship which showed her that she wanted to be with somebody she could have a family with
00:06:49.580 and he seriously considered reversing this vasectomy. Why do I know all of this information?
00:06:54.200 is this normal conversation for a first date this doesn't feel right i don't know
00:06:59.840 i don't really know how to date but this just does not feel right to me anyway the moral of
00:07:04.720 the story and what's your uh what percent of dates do people talk about their exes i think
00:07:09.380 people do all the time college when all you had to do was get blackout drunk on any given night
00:07:14.140 the night of your choosing in order to find like a hot jacked guy now when i see a guy who's jacked
00:07:20.220 i'm like that's so nostalgic i used to have my absolute pick at the litter with you and now at 0.99
00:07:24.400 33 years old i'm traipsing around the city in high heels trying to find a fucking bar that will let 0.97
00:07:28.900 me in and then also trying to find a guy who's like hot and jacked and like i have to care about 0.98
00:07:33.780 like personality and your job now like are you ambitious because like i have to actually yeah 1.00
00:07:38.380 that's how women's priorities change when they're young it's just are you hot when they're old it's 1.00
00:07:42.940 are you hot and rich i spend time with you whereas in college like all you had to care about was are 1.00
00:07:48.000 you hot like i miss those yeah all right let's see this woman and single here's why okay she's 1.00
00:07:57.440 good looking enough so it's got to be the personality a lot of guys that do it so let's see 1.00
00:08:02.720 um it's the casual culture okay so that's translation i slept around a lot it's ghosting
00:08:08.240 as an adult translation i ghosted men and now they're doing it to me and i don't like it it's
00:08:13.520 the when are you coming over instead of when can we go out um that is uh you know men aren't willing
00:08:20.160 to do as much for me now because i'm old it's the love bombing it's the i fall for it every time
00:08:25.280 it's the speaking to multiple people at once so she does it but she doesn't like when they do it
00:08:29.600 to her in my opinion you are too disposable on a dating app people are constantly swiping for
00:08:33.920 something better um that's projection she does exactly that so here you go um another one fifth
00:08:42.080 date debrief oh this girl actually got married um it was kind of fun to watch but yeah
00:08:53.440 yeah i think she married this guy i've seen this girl in my timeline
00:08:59.600 this is my husband
00:09:04.800 it's so good it's so good i just really like him like
00:09:12.080 oh he was a short Chad but he's Chad character his kindness how gentle he is he's just this
00:09:24.260 girl's crazy she's gonna eat him alive but he seemed nice I've seen the guy she's talking
00:09:28.160 about they're married now how he sees people how he sees me I just like being with him
00:09:35.600 he's so good i can't i can't put it into words how good he is i can't express it
00:09:46.120 yeah he's also everything women do is performative so we don't really know how she feels
00:09:51.720 just so openly communicative in general but like about how he feels about me too
00:10:00.760 and i've i've never had something like this but this deep that's built on
00:10:09.060 the love of god and how we see the world and 0.95
00:10:13.560 yeah this is gonna um give hope to all the old hoes out there she did find love so so can you 0.99
00:10:24.660 anyways um because they did get married so anyways um guys thank you so much for liking 0.99
00:10:29.780 the video and watching i really appreciate you guys um and let me know what you think in the
00:10:33.940 comments like the video and i'll see you next time