Pearl - White Men are too Trusting and Pay the Price

00:00:00.160 What up guys? Welcome to my Coffee Talks. My name is Pearl Davis and for those of you that don't

00:00:04.920 know, I grew up in a predominantly middle to upper class white area. A lot of people came

00:00:09.980 back at me after the last video and they said your house was upper class and that is true 1.00

00:00:14.540 but I would say most of the people I grew up around, the neighborhoods I was in, it was middle

00:00:19.960 upper class. I then ended up moving to London and I was in the east side of London because I was

00:00:25.840 playing volleyball and I pretty much was surrounded by people that were not white. This was Muslim

00:00:30.400 communities, black communities, African culture. So I have a lot of observations. They always say

00:00:37.400 white people don't have culture but I've noticed different observations on the different groups of

00:00:44.620 people and I think the more intimately you know you interact with different groups you see there

00:00:49.720 is a big difference. And one of the things I talked about is that white people are overly polite and

00:00:55.680 we're trained to give people the benefit of the doubt. And I think that's actually what gets white 0.85

00:01:01.260 men in dating. White men, they just have a tendency to not, or to be very trusting, and they really 0.98

00:01:09.100 trust their wives. They're not really going to monitor her behavior. And I think that's why white 1.00

00:01:14.740 men really get bamboozled in divorce court. Or you see those white men that just shoot up their 0.98

00:01:22.220 family like they kill their kids and i think it's because we're just we grow up in a very trusting 0.99

00:01:27.160 culture now the issue is women just are not trustworthy at all doesn't matter the race um 1.00

00:01:33.780 you know people say i'm a little bit racist maybe i am but when it comes to women um any race 1.00

00:01:40.660 really women just destroy the men in different ways like black women are much more violent up 1.00

00:01:49.020 front they're much more willing to fight your ass white women they're not really going to do that 1.00

00:01:54.340 but black women at least they bring their aggression up front right at least you know 1.00

00:01:59.740 up front they're trying to kill your ass you know white women um they have um a very long 1.00

00:02:06.540 thought out plan of how to destroy your life that's what i've noticed latinas um i have less 1.00

00:02:13.080 experience with latina women but i'll say they also throw their aggression up front there's a 1.00

00:02:19.360 reason you know we always hear about the crazy jealous latina uh it's because she might key your 1.00

00:02:25.300 car right and you'll at least see it coming asian women again i probably spent the least amount of 1.00

00:02:31.680 time with asian people but i lived next to this asian like couple once and i could hear them

00:02:38.540 fighting all the time and it was incredible because this girl was just like meek as a mouse 1.00

00:02:44.080 outside of the house but I would hear her like screaming like I would hear him like

00:02:49.540 kick her out of the apartment her banging on the and I'm like this is a you wouldn't really see it

00:02:54.780 coming you know but all right I want to talk about what I've noticed the differences in dating when

00:03:01.800 it comes to white men black men Latino men again Asian people I would say I've spent the least 1.00

00:03:07.540 amount of time around in general um i did go to japan when i was like 12 but just in general that's

00:03:13.380 i probably know the least about that culture um okay so white men they tend to work more hours 0.97

00:03:21.500 this is reflective in the data and just my anecdotal experience um and it doesn't it's not

00:03:27.480 necessarily just um because they like work a lot of hours at work um i can think of white men that

00:03:35.360 maybe are low like status in society like they have blue collar jobs they're tradesmen but in

00:03:40.920 white culture it's very looked down upon to like outsource things um so white men kind of view other

00:03:48.040 white men that can't do things themselves as lesser men um you know like even if a white guy

00:03:55.320 doesn't make that much money he usually can do his own plumbing and they usually have a bunch of

00:03:59.780 side projects whether it's like fixing a four-wheeler um fixing their car like they just

00:04:07.640 i don't know what it is about them but they just are very productive meaning that they really just

00:04:13.240 i would say spend less time learning female nature they're too busy um being the movers 1.00

00:04:20.480 and shakers in society fixing their house and i i you know white men just don't care or are not

00:04:26.660 interested enough in women to just spend a lot of time learning about them. So in my life I've also

00:04:33.460 spent a lot of time around PUAs, pickup artists, like men that have spent a ton of time and effort

00:04:39.080 learning and understanding female nature. Like to the point it's like autistic. It's very helpful 0.96

00:04:45.780 if you read the writings but it's very autistic. Like if she does this do that. If she says this 0.80

00:04:52.120 she means that it's it's autistic right and i would say just in my anecdotal experience

00:04:58.600 it's more likely um that black men a lot of times they grew up especially in america they grew up

00:05:05.720 without a father so they're more accustomed to female nature because they a lot of times 1.00

00:05:13.800 grew up with these like crazy mothers absolutely insane and a lot of times the mothers were really 0.97

00:05:20.760 promiscuous. So they don't really trust a bitch. And they actually be white men as stupid for being 1.00

00:05:27.440 so trusting in their women. Because let's be honest, a lot of the side dudes, you know, it's 1.00

00:05:34.800 like the personal trainer, the pool boy. Sometimes those are white guys, but a lot of times they're 0.51

00:05:40.140 not. And it's because the black and Latino guys, they just have more free time. 0.88

00:05:50.760 However, I would say the black and Latino guys, they look at white guys as stupid because they say, well, it doesn't matter how productive you are and how much money you make. If your wife steals half your stuff, you're an idiot and you're an idiot for being this trusting. 1.00

00:06:05.800 Like I know a Latino guy that is a side dude, um, to a guy who's a venture capitalist in 1.00

00:06:13.880 like San Francisco.

00:06:14.920 So this guy makes a ton of money.

00:06:17.460 He's a venture capitalist.

00:06:19.220 He's, but like, how much time is this guy going to have to pay attention to catch his

00:06:24.680 wife in a lie if he's working 80 hours a week? 0.61

00:06:27.640 And you know, it's almost like a form of the Latino and the black guys feel they're more 1.00

00:06:35.160 competent than the white guys because they could still steal their bitch right and the white guys 1.00

00:06:40.140 feel they're more competent than the black and latino guys because they're like well and by the 1.00

00:06:45.920 way this isn't just um this isn't just race like there's black men um that are in the category of

00:06:53.520 working a lot and being a mover and shaker in society latino met like um but there's a certain

00:06:59.080 amount of work like hours like let's say 80 hours a week 70 hours a week that when men get to that

00:07:06.680 point um they feel as though they're more competent than other men and they usually are right um but

00:07:13.080 the men that work less they tend to feel like they're more competent because regardless I could 0.69

00:07:21.260 steal the competent guy's bitch you know what I mean um and the Asian men I mean they just kind 1.00

00:07:28.340 to take L's across the board, especially if you're from India. So, um, yeah, I mean, they get their 1.00

00:07:37.600 girls stolen. Although, do you know what? I've seen an increase in Indian guys being white women. 0.99

00:07:42.140 I have seen that increase. Um, but anyways, I don't know. These are just my observations. Like

00:07:51.040 again, a Latino guy, um, and a black guy, they might know how to dance and that might be a way

00:07:57.960 they get women like the you know the salsa instructor instructor the rapper like the white 1.00

00:08:04.160 guys like why would i waste my time learning that stuff that stuff is like useless to me it doesn't 1.00

00:08:10.220 make me any money right where the black or latino guys say well yeah but i can steal your bitch 1.00

00:08:15.560 right it may not make me money but it gets me poonanny um and women are just whores so they're 1.00

00:08:23.840 banging everybody um women right place right time will just bang anybody like it's just incredible 0.99

00:08:32.340 they say women of high standards but that's just not really what I see maybe they do for husbands 0.96

00:08:37.660 right but who wants to be a woman's husband like who wants to like do you really want to be a 0.87

00:08:44.360 woman's husband like now you get the most bill and you get the most disrespect but when it comes 1.00

00:08:50.820 to banging I mean women popular tropes that women bang personal trainers club promoters DJ 1.00

00:08:57.300 I mean can we be honest that a lot of club promoters are losers but they don't care they're 0.86

00:09:02.700 like yeah I'm kind of I don't make a lot of money I live in a apartment but I can I can steal your 0.99

00:09:09.180 bitch right or there's men that are complete losers that are cool in college right and they 0.99

00:09:15.740 go nowhere in life but they've mastered the art of spitting game you know so um yeah because you 0.99

00:09:26.580 know learning to spit game or whatever it seems to be all the guys I know that are good at it um

00:09:31.440 there's some naturals but a lot of them put in a lot of hours to get there and I mean a lot of it

00:09:36.340 like part-time job maybe they'd be a millionaire had they not put in those hours but at the same

00:09:42.880 time you know the men put in all the hours to become really competent and a bajillionaire

00:09:48.060 and then you know like jeff bezos his wife took half you know what i mean it's like

00:09:52.680 who's really winning in this society

00:09:54.840 i don't yeah that's for you guys to decide

00:10:00.460 that's for you guys to decide um i would say a lot of guys

00:10:10.280 another observation i've had is men are overly confident that they're the only guy

00:10:19.160 i've seen this across the board men get genuine desire from a woman and they just assume they're

00:10:26.040 the only guy like there was a um there's this girl that killed her boyfriend because he cheated 0.99

00:10:33.080 right and you have to think how into the guy does she have to be i can't remember the name of it but 0.94

00:10:39.160 coach Greg Adams covered it on one of his shows and she was so into the guy that she killed him

00:10:46.260 right and the girl or maybe she killed the girl I don't remember but you have to think that's a

00:10:49.920 whole level of really into the guy at the same time she was banging another dude and I've actually

00:10:55.800 found it's incredible like how men will be banging a chick and just be so caught it like builds their

00:11:04.000 ego thinking they're the only guy that could have hit and as a woman you're just looking at them

00:11:09.540 like there's like how confident like every guy that I speak to is so confident his wife has no

00:11:18.000 dirt on her and every time I dig into it I'm like well where did you meet how did you know her

00:11:24.200 they never know her from childhood there's always an opportunity for infidelity and um they always

00:11:31.520 look at me as the bad guy for questioning it and I would say over 50% of the time she just happened

00:11:36.680 to move from a different city you know I'm like how convenient how convenient anyways guys this

00:11:43.220 is kind of just a random rant about observations I've had if you have different observations about

00:11:47.760 different groups or different people and dating let me know in the comments I don't think I have

00:11:52.420 the end-all be-all this is just what I've observed and let me know um I have officially gotten my

00:11:59.340 coffees to under 50 calories. Black coffee with half and half. Sometimes I add sugar-free syrup,

00:12:04.820 sometimes I don't. Let me know your coffee order in the comments. Like the video and I'll see you

00:12:09.000 next time.

Pearl - March 03, 2026

White Men are too Trusting and Pay the Price

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