Pearl - September 26, 2026


“Women Become MORE DEMANDING in Their 30s” @JustPearlyThings

Topics
dating lessons in 30s
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Length

2 minutes

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Word count

511

Sentence count

16

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2

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00:00:00 Wow. So one thing me and my friends, obviously, as girls always talk about is dating. And honestly,
00:00:08 dating in my 30s has taught me some very valuable lessons that I wish I knew.
00:00:12 Let's see if they're good lessons.
00:00:13 In my 20s. You shouldn't have to constantly question whether someone likes you.
00:00:17 Okay, that's true. I do. I think by the time in your 30s, yeah, that's true.
00:00:21 I don't necessarily mean if they wanted to, they would in every scenario. If you're constantly
00:00:27 analyzing text questioning whether they actually like you or just trying to figure out where you
00:00:32 stand with them that's information in itself to caveat with that you should not be needing to send
00:00:37 the group chat every single screenshot of the messages you're having or chat gpt for that matter
00:00:43 do not mistake anxiety for butterflies i wish i'd known this one years ago that feeling when you're
00:00:50 waiting for them to text whether they've changed their mind and they eventually text you get that
00:00:54 massive eye sometimes that's not actually butterflies that's just making you feel anxious
00:00:59 no i mean we're just we're hornballs so when we get those feelings it just means we're horny af 0.99
00:01:04 and we're we're just big fat slut whores it's just kind of how we are all right oh all right 1.00
00:01:08 ladies what did you do gluck gluck or fuck fuck you know what i mean one huge one that i learned 1.00
00:01:14 yeah she says your physical type isn't your right type i disagree with that you got to be sexually 1.00
00:01:19 attracted otherwise you're going to torture him later but someone that's your physical type means
00:01:23 very little if you have zero compatibility hotness is not everything obviously attraction
00:01:30 matters like you want to fancy the person you're dating but someone can be your exact physical
00:01:35 type and still be they ask me get to know me do our values align do our lifestyles work together
00:01:42 do we actually want the same things in line because unfortunately being hot can we get you
00:01:47 so far. Consistency is so much more attractive than intensity. I don't need someone to tell me
00:01:54 how amazing I am 100 times a day, come in a million miles an hour and act completely obsessed with me
00:02:00 after like one day. I'd much rather someone that consistently communicates, consistently shows up,
00:02:05 makes plans, follows through in their actions and actually shows me they're interested. Me steady
00:02:10 over confusing any day. Another huge huge one I wish I knew in my 20s, stop focusing on how
00:02:17 much they might like you and start focusing on how much you like them instead of constantly
00:02:22 thinking are they attracted to me do they like me do they want to see me again see that's what i
00:02:28 mean in your 30s women we tend to focus less on men and more on ourselves which makes us more
00:02:33 insufferable ask yourself i actually like that do i want to see them again do i feel comfortable
00:02:38 All right, man.