Pearl - October 03, 2026


Women Want Traditional Marriage Until They Have to Depend on a Man

Mentioned
D. Lou Tanya
“She Flew Across the Country Just to Get IGNORED by Him” @JustPearlyThings “Man Sees His Hinge Date and IMMEDIATELY Wants to Leave” @JustPearlyThings

Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

194.68

Word count

1,687

Sentence count

44

Harmful content

Misogyny

26

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Toxicity

10

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Hate speech

21

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00:00:00.000 All right, so today we're reacting to an article. A woman reveals that the most heart-wrenching
00:00:04.320 regret she ever has is becoming a stay-at-home mom. She wishes she never lost her independence.
00:00:09.880 It's certainly not easy to stay home and take care of your children and your household full-time, 1.00
00:00:15.180 but many women make the choice because that's what's best for their families. 1.00
00:00:18.820 Making that decision doesn't come without risk. However, sure, you're investing in your kids, 0.99
00:00:25.220 but you're also putting all your trust in a partner to support you fairly. 1.00
00:00:29.820 So again, this is assuming a woman knows what is fair 0.99
00:00:33.500 because women always say men aren't doing enough emotional labor 0.98
00:00:36.680 and maybe they're not in the household, 0.96
00:00:38.140 but women, we're not doing enough financial labor. 1.00
00:00:40.520 One woman knows how scary giving someone that much control over your entire life can be. 1.00
00:00:45.540 She made the decision to become a stay-at-home mom after living independently
00:00:48.600 prior to having kids and now she regrets it.
00:00:52.200 She shared the reason why her reality has become so heartbreaking in a TikTok video.
00:00:57.980 A woman said her most heart-wrenching regret about being a stay-at-home mom has to do with finances.
00:01:02.940 A TikTok creator named Tanya revealed her thoughts about her choice to be a stay-at-home mother
00:01:07.220 now that she's getting a divorce and admitting she has one huge regret.
00:01:10.920 I have so many regrets about being a stay-at-home mom,
00:01:13.800 especially now that I'm going through a divorce from my husband, she shared.
00:01:17.240 But one of the most heart-wrenching regrets about me being a stay-at-home mom
00:01:20.260 and turning over the responsibility for my basic needs, you know, housing, clothing, food, 0.87
00:01:24.980 the one thing that women need to survive, turning that over to another adult and trusting that 0.98
00:01:29.660 person to take care of me in that way. Let's see what she says. I have so many regrets about being 0.88
00:01:35.460 a stay-at-home mom, especially now that I'm going through this divorce from my husband. But one of
00:01:41.740 the most heart-wrenching regrets about it is how me being a stay-at-home mom and turning over the
00:01:50.140 responsibility for my basic needs you know housing clothing food the things that a human being needs
00:01:56.260 to survive turn that over to another adult and trust that person to basically take care of me
00:02:04.620 in this way like what a gesture of trust that was on my part as a very into you see what a gesture
00:02:13.580 of care on my part that was. Bitch, what? Dependent woman prior to marriage. I got my first 1.00
00:02:19.720 job when I was 14 years old, when I was in my first foster home. And it was a summer job at
00:02:25.560 the Braille Institute. And it was the first opportunity I had to make money for myself.
00:02:31.420 And I needed to do it because I didn't get a lot being in a foster home. And I used that money to
00:02:36.960 buy like deodorant and clothes and shampoo like basic things that I needed to live. It drilled
00:02:43.920 into my head to be like independent, hyper independent. I couldn't depend on anybody
00:02:48.740 and obviously not my parents and so I had to take care of myself. Even when I was in high school I
00:02:55.840 was working until like one o'clock in the morning at rallies fast food. Translation I would rather
00:03:01.840 do anything else. I'd rather work fast food than watch my kids. I hate my kids. Inglewood California
00:03:06.640 like taking the bus like an hour to get home and then going to school the next morning been so
00:03:12.720 hyper independent and not trusting of people because of those experiences and so even into
00:03:19.300 my adult life I didn't really depend on people especially financially and never a man there was
00:03:26.300 never a man that paid my bills paid my rent paid for any of my basic needs it never happened I
00:03:32.040 always worked so when i had my first child two years into our marriage i worked those total two
00:03:37.240 years when i had my first child and decided to stay home and talk to my husband about it
00:03:43.000 it was such a a gesture and and feeling of trust i had to have for him i had to trust him that he
00:03:51.240 was never going to use it against me that he wasn't going to use the fact that he paid for
00:03:55.480 things for me to control me or punish me or throw it in my face now that he's using it as a weapon
00:04:03.380 against me in this divorce to try to punish me because I don't want to be married to him anymore
00:04:08.440 it's just the initial yeah so what'll happen is um if a woman's losing in divorce court I doubt 1.00
00:04:16.320 she is but it's usually because she's being a big fat slut whore so that's probably why feeling an 1.00
00:04:21.200 idea that i had never to trust a man was right yeah okay sounds like a skill issue all right 1.00
00:04:28.560 unfortunately stay-at-home moms end up in sticky situations fairly frequently for some stay-at-home 0.58
00:04:33.520 mom not having any money they can really call their own turns into a huge issue writing for
00:04:38.960 money ning veered de lu says the average stay-at-home person loses one million over what
00:04:44.000 could have been during the course of their career so okay the women find some article online that
00:04:49.280 tells them they would have made millions of dollars and just been so successful if your 0.99
00:04:54.560 husband didn't hold you back. Yeah, it's like, yeah, you might have made more money, but how much
00:04:58.340 money would you have spent, lost, and been irresponsible and lazy with? D. Lou shared that
00:05:03.620 she chose to be a stay-at-home mom for five years. While it worked well for her, she cautioned others,
00:05:08.020 despite my successful experience dropping out of the workforce for a few years, I took a risk,
00:05:12.760 and ideally women should weigh all their options to make a decision very carefully. As for the
00:05:17.980 center for american progress when parents leave the workforce they lose much more than your their
00:05:23.140 annual salary the cost of the decision follows them for life after taking into account the
00:05:27.820 potential wage growth and lost retirement savings over time a parent who leaves the workforce loses
00:05:33.260 up to four times the annual salary per year now imagine that if your partner suddenly dies they
00:05:38.240 don't want to do it anymore you basically erased your past work history depending on how long you've 1.00
00:05:42.960 been out of the workforce women who are completely dependent on their husbands are just that 1.00
00:05:46.800 dependent they lean on them for everything this can lead to a dangerous situation for the husband
00:05:51.920 actually they say it's dangerous for the wife no you can put them on alimony and child support 0.59
00:05:56.160 it's dangerous for the husband so this doesn't mean women should stop being stay-at-home mothers
00:06:01.960 they're basically that's gaslighting they're saying hey this is why you shouldn't be a stay-at-home
00:06:05.680 mom but before taking that step think it through completely and they're saying to think about other 0.99
00:06:11.060 things but they're lying about it i fucking hate liars all right women show sad transformation 1.00
00:06:16.680 after quitting nursing jobs to get married in a village oh no oh my god you got a city girl going 0.99
00:06:23.040 to africa oh this is hilarious tiktoker amelia three looked unhappy after transitioning from
00:06:29.040 single to married life as depicted in her videos the young lady who worked as a nurse before being
00:06:34.260 married was forced to quit her career and follow her husband to the village yeah forced was there 0.99
00:06:39.060 a gun to your head bitch as she worked in her husband's farm she looked sad perhaps almost 1.00
00:06:43.600 resenting why she got married oh this is so funny yeah because she was like cute there and now she's 1.00
00:06:49.020 like not you know what i mean because again she's living life like a queen on the right in the left 1.00
00:06:55.400 she's the real world right this is unspoiled she shared glammed up photos in her scrubs before she 1.00
00:07:00.960 gave up her career after getting married she was all smiles as she posed for the lovely photo with 0.94
00:07:05.720 a stethoscope around her neck during the session. She then shared a video of her current state
00:07:10.920 after following her husband to a farm. She looked unhappy and she used her smartphone's front camera
00:07:16.100 to show the village environment. Let's see. Oh, here we go. The girl I gave him. The girl he
00:07:22.500 turned me into. Yeah, see, before didn't have to do work. Now has to do work. She shared a picture
00:07:29.920 of her holding a farm tool for digging the farm, which has become her new occupation. The lady
00:07:33.940 posed two corns in each hand in the photo while she looked away she struggled to contain her tears 0.99
00:07:38.340 in another video as she was captured helplessly sitting on the ground she used her hands to wipe
00:07:43.860 away her dear tears indicating that village life was not what she wanted yeah of course i don't
00:07:49.140 know why i don't know why she would think this was a good idea it's like when i would meet these e 0.99
00:07:53.940 girls that want to live on a farm i'm like do you really want to i don't want to live on a farm 0.58
00:07:57.220 sorry fellas i'm not i'm not your farm wife not me yeah good luck this is hilarious oh my god her
00:08:06.600 videos mixed sparked mixed reactions among social media users who flocked to the comments um and
00:08:12.660 basically they're saying you're a beautiful lady are these pranks there some people are saying that
00:08:17.900 he hates you some people are saying they're afraid to get married because of it yeah so um yeah i
00:08:25.640 wish that city girl luck you know what i mean i wish you luck out in these streets you know just
00:08:31.300 is how it is um anyways guys let me know what you think in the comments i love you thank you
00:08:36.040 so much for watching like the video and subscribe to the channel um and i'm gonna see you next time