REAL AF with Andy Frisella - July 16, 2021


119. Slay The Monsters

Topics
slaying the monster slaying monsters
Hosted by
Andy Frisella
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Andy Frisilla Sherry
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Length

11 minutes

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170.24

Word count

2,008

Sentence count

170

Harmful content

Toxicity

16

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about the fear of being exposed as a fraud and how to deal with it. We also talk about how to slay the monster, whether it's working on your diet, working out, or whatever it may be, whether you re on a diet or not.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Fursella and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye 0.99
00:00:21.560 to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking 0.99
00:00:26.600 reality. Guys and today I'm going to give you some real, real, real reality and have short 0.98
00:00:32.500 real talk. Now if this is your first time listening to the show, welcome. Like I said, here's
00:00:38.020 the thing. We have two different kinds of shows, soon to be three actually. One is a full
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00:01:06.220 is. We tell the truth here. It's called real as fuck, not fake as fuck. So that's the full
00:01:11.760 length format. And then we have what I'm going to give you today. Today is where we give you
00:01:16.020 the real talk. These are going to be short. Sometimes they're going to be 10 minutes.
00:01:20.120 Sometimes they're going to be 20 minutes, but they're going to be bite-sized pieces of
00:01:25.160 information that will help you move forward towards your goals, whether that be in fitness
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00:02:16.920 do good, don't help me. Isn't that the way the world should work? I'm cool with it. So before I
00:02:22.860 get into the episode, this is an extremely important episode. Okay. You guys have to understand
00:02:30.840 what's causing you the anxiety, the stress, the fear that you're going to be exposed as a fraud,
00:02:39.980 all of these things that make us frustrated and angry and make us feel like we're running through
00:02:46.640 life in quicksand. All right. We're going to talk about how to overcome those things. But before I
00:02:53.460 get into what this episode is really about, I want to remind you that the program 75 Hard will
00:02:59.900 tremendously help you with what we're about to talk about. Okay. So as you listen to this and you
00:03:05.880 think about, you know, well, yeah, what, how do I develop this discipline? Look, that's what that
00:03:11.400 program's for. It's about developing discipline. It's about developing grit. It's about developing
00:03:16.880 fortitude. It's about building real self-confidence, not that fake affirmation bullshit where you look in 0.96
00:03:22.880 the mirror and say, oh, I really like me. I'm so good when you're not. Okay. I'm talking about 0.73
00:03:27.920 building it from the core, from the inside out. Okay. We do that and I give it to you for free.
00:03:34.620 If you want, you go to 75hard.com, read all about it. You can go to my website,
00:03:39.620 andyfrusella.com. You can order the book if you want. You don't have to have the book.
00:03:43.160 The book just explains it in more detail. We've got some free podcasts. If you're not totally
00:03:48.880 unfamiliar with 75 Hard, the first one you're going to want to listen to is episode 14 on the
00:03:53.020 Real AF feed. And then also after you listen to that, I think you listen to episode 80 and it's
00:03:58.080 going to educate you on every single thing that you need to know about this program. All right.
00:04:03.320 So what are we going to talk about today? Today we have a real talk. And what I wanted to talk about
00:04:11.740 with you guys today was I wanted to talk to you about slaying the monster. And a lot of you guys
00:04:18.240 don't know what slaying the monster is. So I'm going to explain it to you. Okay. We all have that
00:04:24.340 monster, that monster that lives in our head. And that monster is the thing, whatever the thing may
00:04:31.720 be, whether it's working out or whether it's following a diet or whether it's calling on that
00:04:37.420 account that you're nervous to call on because you're scared of them a little bit, or whether it's
00:04:41.640 asking that person out, whatever it is, we all have a monster. Okay. Sometimes it's the insecurity
00:04:48.540 we feel about our bodies. Sometimes it's the inadequacies that we feel, uh, just because of
00:04:54.240 the pressures of the society we live in. Sometimes, uh, we're just pissed off and we don't know why.
00:05:01.040 And whatever that why is, is the monster. Okay. These are the things that keep us up at night.
00:05:07.700 These are the things that discourage us and cause us anxiety and cause us fear. You ever been walking
00:05:15.380 around and you know, you really don't know why you feel off, but then all of a sudden, you know,
00:05:20.900 you do that thing that you've been kind of putting off and then you feel better. Okay. That's what slaying
00:05:27.800 the monster is about. And the reason that we call it slaying the monster is because if you don't slay
00:05:35.580 the monster, the monster will eat you the fuck a lot. Okay. You will live a life of anxiety, of fear, 1.00
00:05:43.440 of confusion, of frustration. If you don't make a habit of slaying the monster. All right. So
00:05:51.400 you have to understand this is normal for people to do. We all have days where we don't feel like
00:06:00.380 doing what we need to do. We all have days. We struggle. We all have days that we dread getting
00:06:05.940 out of bed. We all have these days, guys, every single one of us. But the reason that we have
00:06:14.300 these days usually comes down to, we are not doing something that needs to be done. All right.
00:06:22.220 That's the monster. So think about what that is in your life right now. Think about what it is
00:06:27.560 that you're not doing that you could do right now that will actually relieve the stress,
00:06:34.460 the frustration, the anxiety that you're walking around with. Maybe it's having a conversation that
00:06:39.500 needs to be had. Maybe it's talking to your coworkers. Maybe it's talking to your boss. Maybe
00:06:45.000 it's talking to your significant other. Who knows? But something is causing you to feel this way.
00:06:51.080 And unless you understand that you have to slay that, meaning take care of it, get done with it,
00:06:57.560 you are going to continue to live in anxiety, frustration, fear, and, you know, the way you
00:07:05.600 feel right now. And you don't want to feel that way. Okay. So a lot of us go our whole lives not
00:07:12.740 understanding why we're walking around with extra stress and extra frustration and extra anxiety.
00:07:19.140 And when you feel yourself feeling this way, I want you to think about what the monster is.
00:07:24.420 What's the monster? Okay. Because here's the thing. And we are all guilty of this. Me included.
00:07:31.660 Okay. We, the longer we allow that monster to live in our brains, in our minds, the bigger and
00:07:38.440 stronger it gets, the scarier it gets, the more powerful it's perceived to be. And what ends up
00:07:45.520 happening is we build this thing up to be so much stronger and so much bigger and so much scarier
00:07:51.940 than it actually is, that it causes us a disproportionate amount of anxiety, fear, and
00:07:57.780 frustration in our day-to-day lives. All right. Nothing's that hard. Nothing's that bad. And if you
00:08:05.520 would just learn to take care of these things as they come to you, you would learn that there's a lot 0.93
00:08:11.600 of freedom in understanding how to kill this monster in your brain when it's a little bitty
00:08:17.200 monster, not a big, bad, scary monster. And the reason I was inspired to talk to you about this 0.79
00:08:22.780 today, guys, is because I had a project that I've been putting off and I've been putting it off and
00:08:27.440 putting it off and putting it off, literally putting off the project for like a year because
00:08:32.120 I was so frustrated with how the project was going. And what happened in that time was the project
00:08:39.920 got scarier. It got more difficult. It got, and I'm laughing because literally I sat down yesterday
00:08:47.360 and knocked it out in an hour. And I spent a whole entire year having anxiety and stress and frustration
00:08:54.700 about not having it done. And the minute that I had it done, I felt great. Okay. So it's necessary
00:09:03.460 for us to understand a couple of things. One, we have to identify what that monster is. It's causing
00:09:10.520 us all this negativity and all this anxiety and all this energy that's bad. And two, we've got to go
00:09:17.080 slay the motherfucker. All right. That's what has to happen. And the reason it has to happen is because 1.00
00:09:23.800 unless we take care of these issues, we end up making them into something that sucks all of our
00:09:30.200 positive energy, all of our momentum, all of our positive brain projection and activity and creativity
00:09:37.960 that we would have because we're worried about something that isn't even that bad. Okay. Once you
00:09:44.860 get done with this, you're going to be reminded how great it feels to overcome these situation guys.
00:09:51.160 And isn't that when we feel the most alive? Isn't that when we have the best feelings about
00:09:56.920 ourselves right after we do something that we've been dreading to do? It is. And you know, it is
00:10:03.160 because every single one of you, no matter how frustrated or how much you may be struggling right
00:10:08.980 now, you all have experienced what I'm talking about. You've all slayed a monster in the past,
00:10:15.580 which means you could slay plenty of these motherfuckers in the future. Okay. So if 1.00
00:10:21.020 you're feeling stressed and you're feeling anxious and you're feeling fearful and you're feeling
00:10:26.060 frustrated, identify what needs to be done. What is the thing? What is the monster that needs to be
00:10:33.140 slayed? Okay. And then go slay it. And your life's going to be a hell of a lot better. And not only is it 0.98
00:10:39.920 going to be better, it's going to be lighter. You're going to be able to move faster. You're
00:10:45.080 going to get excited about accomplishing things. You're going to get a momentum that you didn't
00:10:50.100 have before in a positive way. All right. This is something that all ultra successful people do.
00:10:57.380 They take the biggest motherfucking thing they have in their face and they smash it. And then they turn 0.99
00:11:03.200 their attention to the next thing. And this is why a lot of the people that you see in the world
00:11:07.800 who have the most responsibility are actually the most relaxed. You ever notice that these big time
00:11:14.920 CEOs, you don't see them running around like crazy. And it's not because they don't have a bunch of
00:11:20.620 fires going on either. These guys have tons and tons and tons of monsters on a daily basis. And the
00:11:29.660 reason they're able to live without feeling anxious and crazy and destructive and all of these things 0.99
00:11:36.940 that you feel like is because they've made a habit of slaying their monsters every motherfucking 0.99
00:11:44.000 day. And guess what? You should do. 0.99