REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 120. You Already Have It

00:00:00.000 what's up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the realistic about the lies the 0.97

00:00:21.620 fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today

00:00:27.400 i have a short episode for you all right it's not going to take too much of your time but i do

00:00:32.800 believe that this story about something that i learned is going to greatly benefit you especially

00:00:38.660 you guys who are not where you want to be yet and are maybe just getting started on where you want

00:00:43.860 to go maybe you're just waking up and you're saying hey you know what this is my only life and i'm

00:00:48.440 going to fucking live it okay i have a story that i think will make a big difference for you that i'm 0.95

00:00:53.260 going to tell you in just a second before i tell you that story i'd like to remind you guys um you 0.98

00:00:58.520 know we don't run ads on the show uh i can make seven figures at least maybe eight figures running

00:01:03.880 ads uh i don't do it it's not something i want to do i want to provide value i want to feel like

00:01:09.460 we're providing value and the way i know we're providing value is if you guys share the show

00:01:13.360 so if you could give us a share you know i'm not asking for a free share if it sucks don't share it

00:01:18.860 all right i'm asking if it taught you something if it made you think if it brought some value if

00:01:23.160 it made you laugh uh you know give us a little share all right we love you guys we appreciate

00:01:28.700 you guys we've stayed at the top of the list for years and years and years and years all based on

00:01:33.760 word of mouth and honestly dude that makes me feel amazing it makes me feel like we're part of a really 0.86

00:01:38.720 awesome thing here um which is the way the world should be right like you do good good shit happens 0.97

00:01:44.760 so if i do good share me if i don't do good fuck me right all right i'm cool with that so what i 0.96

00:01:50.800 wanted to talk to you guys today was about a story i did on my instagram uh yesterday okay i got on there 0.91

00:01:58.380 i started talking about where i used to be and what my biggest failure was and then talking about you

00:02:04.480 know how we have to grind through day by day by day by day to catch the momentum to carry us to where

00:02:10.880 we need to be and so i want to tell the story a little bit of of how i discovered what i'm about

00:02:19.680 to tell you and what i'm about to tell you is this you right now in your supposed weak state all right

00:02:30.100 you're not finished state whether you are um 500 pounds or whether you're a hundred thousand in debt 0.96

00:02:39.940 or wherever the fuck you are okay i want you to understand something you are mentally capable and 0.95

00:02:47.500 strong enough to make that change now and to prove this and explain to you what i'm talking about i'm 0.99

00:02:54.880 gonna tell you a story back in 2016 a lot of you guys might remember but some of you don't all right

00:03:02.100 some of you guys don't follow me from what i do for uh an actual living which is run companies you

00:03:07.940 follow me for the podcast so a lot of you guys don't know that i used to be really fat all right

00:03:14.960 i was 350 pounds in 2015 uh and going into 2016 at the beginning of the year i had been working and

00:03:24.880 i dropped 20 pounds and i was right around 330 pounds and on january 4th 2016 i posted a video

00:03:32.320 on my facebook and through our company that showed me uh with my shirt off getting out of bed going down

00:03:40.460 into my basement and doing some work and i wanted to show people that you know where i really was

00:03:49.300 because at that time i had already built some companies um i was financially successful but i was 0.90

00:03:56.140 trash okay and and i was a shit show in my fitness life and honestly uh some other areas too i was 0.80

00:04:04.520 drinking a lot uh not that i don't still have a drink from time to time but you know it was a big 0.92

00:04:10.140 part of my life way bigger than it should have been and it was really hard for me to put that story out

00:04:17.740 uh because i was afraid you know i felt like a fraud right like i own these companies i'm talking 0.92

00:04:25.540 about how to win and how to build shit and i can't even control what goes into my mouth and that felt 0.63

00:04:31.780 pretty shitty so i decided i was going to be completely transparent and show people hey dude 0.96

00:04:37.620 this is where i'm at and i'm committed to fixing it and ever since then uh i've been committed to fixing

00:04:44.520 it okay so that was january 2016 now i want to zoom in on the first couple weeks of that journey

00:04:52.500 all right now the first day you know i did that video i saw the footage i was super embarrassed and

00:05:00.800 super frustrated and i went down i started doing my workout um you know i got done with the workout i

00:05:09.540 look in the mirror i didn't look any different well no shit right but i just got done working 0.79

00:05:15.440 really fucking hard i mean i was breathing heavy i was sweating i was you know i felt good and you 0.99

00:05:21.640 guys all know what i'm talking about and then i look in the mirror and i'm like fuck man like what 0.99

00:05:26.420 the fuck and i would get down on myself and i think that's a natural reaction right uh to tell 0.99

00:05:32.580 ourselves right we all want the instant gratification and as silly as it sounds we expect to see some 1.00

00:05:37.900 differences literally immediately it's just not the way it works and i had to force myself past that

00:05:46.480 feeling all right past that feeling of thinking i can never do this um this is going to be really hard

00:05:53.340 how long is it going to take when am i going to be done and you know those questions were coming from

00:05:59.160 a place of ignorance because i assumed that when i got to a certain place i could go back to what i was

00:06:05.400 doing which you can't do and i know we all want to hear that and you're you're hearing that right now 0.98

00:06:10.560 and you're cringing and you're saying well fuck i like my life i have fun i enjoy it and just trust 0.99

00:06:18.380 me on this you don't know what you're talking about all right you haven't lived the other side of this 1.00

00:06:23.540 you haven't lived the side where you look in the mirror yet and you say holy fuck i'm so proud of 0.97

00:06:29.080 that person you haven't lived it yet so you really can't speak on it okay you have to listen to people 0.95

00:06:35.120 who have gone through that journey and they will tell you how much better their lives are in literally

00:06:41.120 every way all right and there's not a way my life isn't better not a way there's not a single way okay

00:06:47.900 and tremendously by the way i would go back and do all of those things over again

00:06:53.680 a million times over if it meant i would be where i'm at today and know how capable i am of becoming

00:07:03.580 what i need to become at this point in my life all right i have total confidence i truly believe 0.99

00:07:10.360 i know i'm going to have losses i know people i'm going to get punched in the fucking face 0.99

00:07:14.600 i'm going to look stupid a hundred times over again still but i know that i can push through that 0.99

00:07:21.020 shit and that was earned through this process this is also why i started 75 hard to basically 0.99

00:07:28.260 streamline the mental process of you grasping it quickly which then gives you the power to adhere 0.98

00:07:35.100 to the program which will then change your life okay i'll talk about that later if you want to hear

00:07:40.720 about that it's episode 14 on this feed all right but that's not what this show is about what i want

00:07:46.760 you to understand is that right after you take that picture dude and you're looking at yourself 0.74

00:07:52.320 and you're like fuck that is the hardest it's going to be that is the hardest it's going to be and if you 0.97

00:08:00.020 can make it through that and still tell yourself the truth and still be willing to get up the next 0.99

00:08:05.340 motherfucking day and do it again you are starting to understand what this is about okay you are going 0.92

00:08:12.520 to have to force your way through any change and this is not just about losing weight it can be about 0.99

00:08:17.460 gaining weight it can be about building a company it can be about building a family it can be about

00:08:23.340 building an organization it's literally applicable to really any situation in life the very beginning 0.86

00:08:30.100 is hard as fuck this is the same situation that i had in business it's very parallel okay hard you have 0.82

00:08:39.260 no momentum you have to force every single action every single day every single workout every single 0.99

00:08:46.100 meal has to be forced at first but then you make it three or four days and you're looking and you're

00:08:52.620 like fuck okay that's good and our natural reaction is say all right let's celebrate no dude that's the 0.95

00:08:58.840 problem we're celebrating too soon you've heard me talk about this before all right you have to keep 1.00

00:09:04.160 going and once you go two weeks three weeks of winning you start to understand this is not rocket science

00:09:12.760 this is building habitual actions and catching momentum and riding the momentum to where you need to be

00:09:20.080 all right but here's the thing and this is the point that i want to make to you that first year i lost

00:09:28.080 110 pounds i got all the way from 350 down to uh 100 and or i'm sorry not 100 uh i've been 100 pounds

00:09:36.000 and 100 since uh i was like in second grade but i went down from 350 uh to 240 okay and and i was proud of

00:09:44.780 myself and so the the video team and i at the time we went out and i said i want to wear an 80 pound vest

00:09:54.140 to simulate close to where i was in weight and i want to do the workout that i was doing

00:09:59.280 and if you guys remember i used to walk this hill uh that i called death mountain now death mountain

00:10:07.320 was a long hill it's like half a mile long it's a probably a 45 degree straight up angle and it's

00:10:14.700 that sounds easy dude but it isn't especially when you're overweight especially when it's hot when we get

00:10:20.120 real hot here in the summertime in st louis missouri right so i put this weight vest on

00:10:25.460 and i started walking up the hill and dude i am fucking dying because at that time i had lost so 0.91

00:10:34.740 much weight that the hill that i was working on you know it felt a lot easier but i put that weight on 0.73

00:10:39.760 dude and i thought about how i lived and how hard it was for me to move and what i ended up coming to 0.81

00:10:48.580 the conclusion after the workout and by the way i was so fucking spent i nearly threw up 0.98

00:10:54.440 and passed out from the fucking heat on that day it was one of the worst that i've ever felt after 0.97

00:11:01.580 a workout or putting that weight on and doing the same workout i had done every day for a year before 0.97

00:11:07.460 that all right and what it did was it reminded me of something very important i remember i told the 0.98

00:11:13.160 guys this on that day i said hey man you know that fat motherfucker that started that dude was tough 0.99

00:11:19.400 as fuck because that was hard that was so much harder than it is now and the point that i realized 0.98

00:11:25.820 is this i was actually as tough as i needed to be then i just didn't realize it and so what you have 0.99

00:11:34.100 to realize guys is where you're at in life and where you're wanting to go what you're going to do

00:11:41.300 right now is going to be the hardest that it's going to be it's going to take the most focus that

00:11:46.780 you're going to have to put in it's going to take the most amount of effort and it's going to be really

00:11:51.760 fucking hard okay but what's going to happen is you're going to catch the momentum you're going to 0.77

00:11:56.600 keep moving forward you're going to to get lighter you're going to get stronger and if in business 0.98

00:12:01.460 this happens too it happens in other ways okay you're going to make relationships you're going

00:12:06.060 to get some cash flow coming in things start to materialize that actually make you better it makes

00:12:11.700 it easier to move okay so when this starts to happen in fitness right you start feeling stronger 0.94

00:12:18.740 you start feeling lighter you start moving you start getting proud all that shit and we forget 0.82

00:12:23.420 about what i'm talking about about about how thankful we should be to that person and for me 0.77

00:12:31.300 that person in 2016 that was willing to own what i really was and was willing to do something about 0.99

00:12:39.080 it and was willing to do something about it no matter what the fuck it took okay that motherfucker 0.99

00:12:45.400 was tough we want to talk about what's tough that's tough all right tough isn't running an ultra marathon 1.00

00:12:52.460 tough isn't uh you know doing all these things okay those are tough things but what's fucking tough 0.66

00:12:59.580 is admitting what you really are dedicating yourself to the process of improving it whether it be your

00:13:07.840 business or any other area your fitness doesn't matter commit to the process of improving it and

00:13:14.780 then move forward day in and day out you have it in you right now a lot of you guys are looking in 0.94

00:13:22.660 the mirror and you're looking at your dream and you're saying i don't fucking have it and you do 0.95

00:13:27.720 you just haven't gained the perspective to realize that you were actually strong enough now you were 0.64

00:13:34.120 actually tough enough now and you were actually in a position now to move towards that goal and we 0.96

00:13:40.880 psych ourselves out we tell ourselves fuck dude that guy has something that i don't david goggins has 0.99

00:13:47.660 something i don't okay for sell has got something i don't uh you know fucking iron cowboys got 1.00

00:13:54.060 something i don't know they just started and they dedicated themselves to whatever the fuck they needed 0.86

00:14:01.800 to do day in and day out and their lives got better and their lives changed and i am extremely extremely 1.00

00:14:09.660 thankful for that fat ass in 2016 that got sick and tired of living like shit because that's the truth 1.00

00:14:19.980 i was a fucking fraud i was weak i was insecure and i'm a million trillion percent better now and i am so 1.00

00:14:29.740 thankful for that guy and you should be too because that guy is in you you just have to let it go you have 0.99

00:14:38.580 to discover it and you have to go out and you have to do the things day by day by day to pull back the 0.94

00:14:44.960 cover on who the fuck you really are because i promise you guys there is nothing different between 0.99

00:14:51.840 anyone else that's doing what you want to do and you other than they realize that they had it in them 0.99

00:14:59.040 today and they started to fucking go after what they wanted today this is the biggest thing that i see 0.96

00:15:06.460 young people struggling with when i say young i don't mean young in age you could be 55 years old 0.98

00:15:12.160 listening to me right now and thinking you know what i didn't live my whole life i didn't i didn't do

00:15:17.780 the things i could have done i never believed in myself because i didn't think i had the strength i

00:15:21.660 didn't think i had the power i didn't think i had the ability to do that and you can look at that person

00:15:26.940 that is you in the mirror right now and realize that you can do it now okay you are capable right 0.99

00:15:35.120 now of making that fucking change and i don't give a fuck where you come from i don't care what your 0.99

00:15:40.440 hardships are i don't care what your story is we all have it in us all of us so think about that 0.99

00:15:47.840 every single great story that you observe every single person that you look up to every single 0.99

00:15:54.060 person that you want to be more like and you want to emulate start it exactly where the fuck you are 0.98

00:16:00.980 right now so what are you going to do are you going to keep telling yourself over and over again that 0.99

00:16:07.800 you're not capable that's something different about you that's this isn't for people like you

00:16:13.320 are you going to make excuses as to why you can't get it done are you going to hear what i'm saying 0.99

00:16:19.700 and remember that you have everything in you that you fucking need right now you just gotta go 1.00

00:16:27.660 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl fuck a stove counted millions in the 1.00

00:16:34.040 cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close 1.00

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - July 20, 2021

120. You Already Have It

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