120. You Already Have It
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Summary
In this episode, I share a story about how I discovered that I was mentally capable and strong enough to make the change I needed to make in my life and in my business. It s a story that will greatly benefit you, especially if you re not where you want to be yet yet and are maybe just getting started on where you wanna be yet.
Transcript
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what's up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the realistic about the lies the
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fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
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i have a short episode for you all right it's not going to take too much of your time but i do
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believe that this story about something that i learned is going to greatly benefit you especially
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you guys who are not where you want to be yet and are maybe just getting started on where you want
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to go maybe you're just waking up and you're saying hey you know what this is my only life and i'm
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going to fucking live it okay i have a story that i think will make a big difference for you that i'm
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going to tell you in just a second before i tell you that story i'd like to remind you guys um you
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know we don't run ads on the show uh i can make seven figures at least maybe eight figures running
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ads uh i don't do it it's not something i want to do i want to provide value i want to feel like
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we're providing value and the way i know we're providing value is if you guys share the show
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so if you could give us a share you know i'm not asking for a free share if it sucks don't share it
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all right i'm asking if it taught you something if it made you think if it brought some value if
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it made you laugh uh you know give us a little share all right we love you guys we appreciate
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you guys we've stayed at the top of the list for years and years and years and years all based on
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word of mouth and honestly dude that makes me feel amazing it makes me feel like we're part of a really
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awesome thing here um which is the way the world should be right like you do good good shit happens
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so if i do good share me if i don't do good fuck me right all right i'm cool with that so what i
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wanted to talk to you guys today was about a story i did on my instagram uh yesterday okay i got on there
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i started talking about where i used to be and what my biggest failure was and then talking about you
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know how we have to grind through day by day by day by day to catch the momentum to carry us to where
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we need to be and so i want to tell the story a little bit of of how i discovered what i'm about
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to tell you and what i'm about to tell you is this you right now in your supposed weak state all right
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you're not finished state whether you are um 500 pounds or whether you're a hundred thousand in debt
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or wherever the fuck you are okay i want you to understand something you are mentally capable and
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strong enough to make that change now and to prove this and explain to you what i'm talking about i'm
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gonna tell you a story back in 2016 a lot of you guys might remember but some of you don't all right
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some of you guys don't follow me from what i do for uh an actual living which is run companies you
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follow me for the podcast so a lot of you guys don't know that i used to be really fat all right
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i was 350 pounds in 2015 uh and going into 2016 at the beginning of the year i had been working and
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i dropped 20 pounds and i was right around 330 pounds and on january 4th 2016 i posted a video
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on my facebook and through our company that showed me uh with my shirt off getting out of bed going down
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into my basement and doing some work and i wanted to show people that you know where i really was
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because at that time i had already built some companies um i was financially successful but i was
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trash okay and and i was a shit show in my fitness life and honestly uh some other areas too i was
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drinking a lot uh not that i don't still have a drink from time to time but you know it was a big
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part of my life way bigger than it should have been and it was really hard for me to put that story out
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uh because i was afraid you know i felt like a fraud right like i own these companies i'm talking
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about how to win and how to build shit and i can't even control what goes into my mouth and that felt
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pretty shitty so i decided i was going to be completely transparent and show people hey dude
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this is where i'm at and i'm committed to fixing it and ever since then uh i've been committed to fixing
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it okay so that was january 2016 now i want to zoom in on the first couple weeks of that journey
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all right now the first day you know i did that video i saw the footage i was super embarrassed and
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super frustrated and i went down i started doing my workout um you know i got done with the workout i
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look in the mirror i didn't look any different well no shit right but i just got done working
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really fucking hard i mean i was breathing heavy i was sweating i was you know i felt good and you
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guys all know what i'm talking about and then i look in the mirror and i'm like fuck man like what
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the fuck and i would get down on myself and i think that's a natural reaction right uh to tell
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ourselves right we all want the instant gratification and as silly as it sounds we expect to see some
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differences literally immediately it's just not the way it works and i had to force myself past that
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feeling all right past that feeling of thinking i can never do this um this is going to be really hard
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how long is it going to take when am i going to be done and you know those questions were coming from
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a place of ignorance because i assumed that when i got to a certain place i could go back to what i was
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doing which you can't do and i know we all want to hear that and you're you're hearing that right now
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and you're cringing and you're saying well fuck i like my life i have fun i enjoy it and just trust
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me on this you don't know what you're talking about all right you haven't lived the other side of this
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you haven't lived the side where you look in the mirror yet and you say holy fuck i'm so proud of
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that person you haven't lived it yet so you really can't speak on it okay you have to listen to people
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who have gone through that journey and they will tell you how much better their lives are in literally
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every way all right and there's not a way my life isn't better not a way there's not a single way okay
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and tremendously by the way i would go back and do all of those things over again
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a million times over if it meant i would be where i'm at today and know how capable i am of becoming
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what i need to become at this point in my life all right i have total confidence i truly believe
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i know i'm going to have losses i know people i'm going to get punched in the fucking face
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i'm going to look stupid a hundred times over again still but i know that i can push through that
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shit and that was earned through this process this is also why i started 75 hard to basically
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streamline the mental process of you grasping it quickly which then gives you the power to adhere
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to the program which will then change your life okay i'll talk about that later if you want to hear
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about that it's episode 14 on this feed all right but that's not what this show is about what i want
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you to understand is that right after you take that picture dude and you're looking at yourself
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and you're like fuck that is the hardest it's going to be that is the hardest it's going to be and if you
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can make it through that and still tell yourself the truth and still be willing to get up the next
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motherfucking day and do it again you are starting to understand what this is about okay you are going
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to have to force your way through any change and this is not just about losing weight it can be about
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gaining weight it can be about building a company it can be about building a family it can be about
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building an organization it's literally applicable to really any situation in life the very beginning
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is hard as fuck this is the same situation that i had in business it's very parallel okay hard you have
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no momentum you have to force every single action every single day every single workout every single
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meal has to be forced at first but then you make it three or four days and you're looking and you're
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like fuck okay that's good and our natural reaction is say all right let's celebrate no dude that's the
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problem we're celebrating too soon you've heard me talk about this before all right you have to keep
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going and once you go two weeks three weeks of winning you start to understand this is not rocket science
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this is building habitual actions and catching momentum and riding the momentum to where you need to be
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all right but here's the thing and this is the point that i want to make to you that first year i lost
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110 pounds i got all the way from 350 down to uh 100 and or i'm sorry not 100 uh i've been 100 pounds
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and 100 since uh i was like in second grade but i went down from 350 uh to 240 okay and and i was proud of
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myself and so the the video team and i at the time we went out and i said i want to wear an 80 pound vest
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to simulate close to where i was in weight and i want to do the workout that i was doing
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and if you guys remember i used to walk this hill uh that i called death mountain now death mountain
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was a long hill it's like half a mile long it's a probably a 45 degree straight up angle and it's
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that sounds easy dude but it isn't especially when you're overweight especially when it's hot when we get
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real hot here in the summertime in st louis missouri right so i put this weight vest on
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and i started walking up the hill and dude i am fucking dying because at that time i had lost so
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much weight that the hill that i was working on you know it felt a lot easier but i put that weight on
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dude and i thought about how i lived and how hard it was for me to move and what i ended up coming to
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the conclusion after the workout and by the way i was so fucking spent i nearly threw up
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and passed out from the fucking heat on that day it was one of the worst that i've ever felt after
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a workout or putting that weight on and doing the same workout i had done every day for a year before
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that all right and what it did was it reminded me of something very important i remember i told the
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guys this on that day i said hey man you know that fat motherfucker that started that dude was tough
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as fuck because that was hard that was so much harder than it is now and the point that i realized
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is this i was actually as tough as i needed to be then i just didn't realize it and so what you have
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to realize guys is where you're at in life and where you're wanting to go what you're going to do
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right now is going to be the hardest that it's going to be it's going to take the most focus that
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you're going to have to put in it's going to take the most amount of effort and it's going to be really
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fucking hard okay but what's going to happen is you're going to catch the momentum you're going to
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keep moving forward you're going to to get lighter you're going to get stronger and if in business
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this happens too it happens in other ways okay you're going to make relationships you're going
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to get some cash flow coming in things start to materialize that actually make you better it makes
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it easier to move okay so when this starts to happen in fitness right you start feeling stronger
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you start feeling lighter you start moving you start getting proud all that shit and we forget
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about what i'm talking about about about how thankful we should be to that person and for me
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that person in 2016 that was willing to own what i really was and was willing to do something about
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it and was willing to do something about it no matter what the fuck it took okay that motherfucker
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was tough we want to talk about what's tough that's tough all right tough isn't running an ultra marathon
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tough isn't uh you know doing all these things okay those are tough things but what's fucking tough
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is admitting what you really are dedicating yourself to the process of improving it whether it be your
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business or any other area your fitness doesn't matter commit to the process of improving it and
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then move forward day in and day out you have it in you right now a lot of you guys are looking in
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the mirror and you're looking at your dream and you're saying i don't fucking have it and you do
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you just haven't gained the perspective to realize that you were actually strong enough now you were
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actually tough enough now and you were actually in a position now to move towards that goal and we
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psych ourselves out we tell ourselves fuck dude that guy has something that i don't david goggins has
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something i don't okay for sell has got something i don't uh you know fucking iron cowboys got
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something i don't know they just started and they dedicated themselves to whatever the fuck they needed
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to do day in and day out and their lives got better and their lives changed and i am extremely extremely
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thankful for that fat ass in 2016 that got sick and tired of living like shit because that's the truth
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i was a fucking fraud i was weak i was insecure and i'm a million trillion percent better now and i am so
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thankful for that guy and you should be too because that guy is in you you just have to let it go you have
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to discover it and you have to go out and you have to do the things day by day by day to pull back the
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cover on who the fuck you really are because i promise you guys there is nothing different between
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anyone else that's doing what you want to do and you other than they realize that they had it in them
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today and they started to fucking go after what they wanted today this is the biggest thing that i see
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young people struggling with when i say young i don't mean young in age you could be 55 years old
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listening to me right now and thinking you know what i didn't live my whole life i didn't i didn't do
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the things i could have done i never believed in myself because i didn't think i had the strength i
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didn't think i had the power i didn't think i had the ability to do that and you can look at that person
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that is you in the mirror right now and realize that you can do it now okay you are capable right
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now of making that fucking change and i don't give a fuck where you come from i don't care what your
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hardships are i don't care what your story is we all have it in us all of us so think about that
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every single great story that you observe every single person that you look up to every single
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person that you want to be more like and you want to emulate start it exactly where the fuck you are
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right now so what are you going to do are you going to keep telling yourself over and over again that
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you're not capable that's something different about you that's this isn't for people like you
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are you going to make excuses as to why you can't get it done are you going to hear what i'm saying
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and remember that you have everything in you that you fucking need right now you just gotta go
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went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl fuck a stove counted millions in the
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cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close