REAL AF with Andy Frisella - March 12, 2020


13. Real Talk： Don't Accept Yourself, It's A Trap

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Andy Frisella
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Andy Frisilla
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In this episode, Andy Frisella talks about the dangers of false victimhood and how it prevents us from finding the path to being a better version of ourselves. He also explains why it s important to stop buying into the false victimization mentality and the false ideas that keep us stuck in the old ways of thinking.

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00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00
00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mold changed to 50 got mold cost than did it i only weigh 180 but my 0.99
00:00:11.520 watch cost 250 what's up guys andy frisella here and this is the show for the realists say goodbye 0.98
00:00:17.020 to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys 0.71
00:00:22.980 look we're gonna have a short real talk today but it's important okay because this episode 0.90
00:00:29.680 could save your entire life a lot of people who don't understand the concept of what i'm going to
00:00:35.940 talk about right now they are going to ruin their entire lives so pay attention and think about what
00:00:41.960 i'm talking about the purpose of this episode man it really comes to me from my heart this is
00:00:47.140 something i believe in it's something i'm passionate about it's something i talk about often and it's
00:00:52.640 something that's important for you guys to understand when we look around at every single
00:00:58.360 person just about every single one that we see online every single post notice how much false
00:01:05.100 victimhood is going on false ideas going on like people are some sort of victims of society of 0.97
00:01:11.480 oppression of biases and the truth is the only thing these people are victims of is their own weak-ass
00:01:18.440 thoughts and unwillingness to do the work that's the truth but why isn't it being told everywhere we
00:01:25.740 look right now we see everybody talking about kindness the problem is most of these people
00:01:31.340 don't even understand what true kindness is they think kindness equals being nice and not challenging
00:01:38.080 people and being polite and fluffy and dude there's a time to be nice and there's a time to be fluffy
00:01:44.120 and there's a time to be courteous but when you're talking about helping people and you're talking about
00:01:49.740 improving and you're talking about having a better life that is not kindness okay all successful people
00:01:57.400 in the history of the fucking earth know that that is not the definition of kindness kindness is telling 0.94
00:02:05.540 people the truth when people are told the truth they have the ability to change their actions when you 0.92
00:02:12.540 get to change your actions you have the ability to produce a different and better result instead of that
00:02:19.480 kind of kindness we have so many people out there in society talking about how bad they have it and
00:02:26.100 all these so-called spiritual gurus are just reinforcing this notion of victimhood you look around dude look at 0.96
00:02:33.260 what they say the gurus are all saying the same shit however you act whatever you do no matter what's 0.99
00:02:39.320 screwed up about you no matter what's going on in your life and no matter how much money you make 0.98
00:02:43.820 you should feel amazing about yourself you should be happy with who you are is that really kindness 0.66
00:02:52.280 really i don't think so it's not telling people the truth it's telling people to embrace mediocrity
00:03:01.080 and that isn't kind no matter how much fluff you want to put around it the moment it feels good for you to
00:03:08.400 accept mediocrity is the moment you have zero chance of improving as a person if you decide
00:03:15.980 that mediocrity is how you're going to accept yourself i can promise you most of your life
00:03:22.880 is going to always look half-ass okay if you accept mediocrity you are never going to challenge yourself
00:03:30.700 to try anything outside of your comfort zone that means you actually will never grow as well
00:03:37.860 accomplishing hard things is how we feel great about ourselves so if you tell people things that
00:03:45.200 keep them from discovering the path to being better guess what that's not kindness successful people
00:03:52.840 guys understand this as truth they live by this law they understand it's not kind to unconditionally
00:04:02.160 accept our own mediocrity they also understand how dangerous it is the reason it's dangerous is this
00:04:09.440 if you buy into this mentality of false victimhood and you start to think you can solve your problems
00:04:15.380 with affirmations and quote-unquote acceptance and all these other things that we see everywhere we look
00:04:21.920 right now nothing is ever going to change ever yeah man i wish it were different i really do wish it 0.79
00:04:30.900 were different i wish it were easy to change and improve but guess what it's fucking not all right 0.91
00:04:37.320 and what's scary is that too many people out there are telling you otherwise everywhere you look you have
00:04:43.520 people telling you to accept yourself and everything in your life the way it is they're saying you're worth
00:04:49.780 it and you are enough and they are basically reinforcing everybody staying exactly where they are and
00:04:56.120 these people are not doing the hard work to improve and that hard work is what leads to happiness 0.80
00:05:01.760 so like i said this is not kindness dude when i was 350 fucking pounds if i looked in the mirror and 0.93
00:05:11.280 said to myself andy you look good you should feel great about yourself that's a lie because the truth 0.93
00:05:18.900 is i ate like shit for years before that and i fell off all the good habits but if i looked at myself 0.99
00:05:26.120 what i did and i said hey bro i love you but man you look like shit and you've been off your game 0.99
00:05:32.580 and it's time to get your shit together that's telling myself the truth that's being kind to myself 0.99
00:05:39.260 that's the kind of message that is going to help me improve and change it's the kind of message that's 0.99
00:05:45.760 going to help everyone change and be happy including you but we don't have that right now anywhere that i
00:05:53.780 can see why aren't we out there encouraging people to be kind to themselves by giving themselves the
00:06:00.600 unbiased truth about the situation how hard is it to look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself 0.87
00:06:07.220 the fucking truth yeah dude sometimes it's really really hard sometimes it does make you feel really 0.98
00:06:15.520 bad but wouldn't you rather feel like shit for five minutes and then craft a plan to actually fix 0.99
00:06:21.760 the problem wouldn't that feel better than telling yourself a bunch of feel-good nonsense up front 0.99
00:06:27.300 and then still having the same problems you have right now a year from now when you look at your
00:06:33.660 body the reason you don't like your body is because you haven't earned the right to feel good about your
00:06:38.120 body when you look at your bank account and it's less than what you think it should be the reason it's
00:06:43.800 less than what you think it should be isn't because someone's screwing you it's because you haven't done 0.94
00:06:49.740 the work required to have a different fucking number there it's that simple you know that's the truth 0.97
00:06:56.800 the reason your life isn't where you want it to be mentally physically spiritually and financially is 0.89
00:07:02.460 because you're not buying into the concept of having to earn things and let me tell you something
00:07:08.620 earning happiness is a requirement as well a lot of you are probably sitting there right now and you're
00:07:14.720 rolling your eyes you're saying oh you know what i just want to be happy and you think that's enough
00:07:19.860 but the truth is guys and this is the secret happiness is earned just like earning the right
00:07:27.300 to feel good about your body just like earning everything else in your life the reason you don't
00:07:32.700 have happiness is because you haven't been disciplined in the rest of your life you haven't paid the price 0.62
00:07:38.860 to look yourself in the mirror and say hey man i'm fucking proud of you when you don't pay that price 0.58
00:07:44.880 you don't get the prize of happiness this is very simple a lot of people will say that everybody 0.99
00:07:50.660 deserves to be happy you know what i don't buy into that shit if you're sitting on the couch and you're 0.99
00:07:56.000 living a life less than what it could be you do not deserve to be happy that is not how the world works 0.99
00:08:02.360 you were put here to go on a journey and that journey is the fulfillment of your own true potential
00:08:09.000 and when you don't even attempt to fulfill that potential you're not going to be happy ever if you
00:08:16.520 are aware of the purpose of this journey if you are listening to this right now if you have any ambition
00:08:22.620 whatsoever to be better and you don't pursue that ambition you are going to be unhappy yes there's lots
00:08:31.360 of people who could be happy not pursuing that journey i mean look around dude do we know people
00:08:37.700 who are happy with much less and that we would say live a more average life so to speak yeah people
00:08:44.620 who might not be in perfect shape happy people who might not be making a ton of money happy people who
00:08:51.280 might not have the best family situation happy yes those people seem to be happy but there's more to it
00:08:58.940 that you have to understand okay understand that the reason that those people can feel that way
00:09:06.080 isn't because of the way they're living it's because they aren't aware of what their life could be
00:09:11.700 and guess what by default because you're listening to this show you probably are or you wouldn't be
00:09:19.320 listening you'd be out there listening to the kardashians okay so instead of whining and pouting and
00:09:26.660 crying and bitching about everything you don't like instead of complaining about how things should
00:09:32.080 be i think it would serve you guys better to actually invest in yourself to actually put in the work
00:09:40.040 to actually stop and say what is the truth about myself the truth is i haven't been doing what i need
00:09:47.960 to do the truth is i could do a better job the truth is it's not everybody else's fault when you start
00:09:56.140 to tell yourself the truth about these things you end up in a scenario where you're in control
00:10:01.220 so that feeling you know that we all have on the inside of being out of control that goes away when 0.99
00:10:08.240 you start to accept responsibility for your own actions instead of writing another fucking quote 0.96
00:10:13.240 unquote vulnerable post that's completely self-driven that is being truly kind to yourself that is when things 0.96
00:10:21.180 will begin to change and that is when you're going to start to earn the right to be happy
00:10:26.700 you want another example of mediocrity being shoved down everybody's throats look around at the political
00:10:32.260 as right now and everybody criticizing these people for being wealthy which that's fine if you don't like
00:10:37.980 the fact they're wealthy that's okay but when did becoming financially successful in life and becoming
00:10:43.720 that kind of a person a person with means become a bad thing why are we criticizing people for doing things
00:10:50.660 that we weren't willing to do and that they got paid for now i get it dude politics maybe it's a bad 0.96
00:10:57.660 example the truth is i think they're all shit bags anyway but when you vilify success don't expect the 0.96
00:11:05.040 universe to deliver it to you you're going to end up with nothing because that's not the way the universe works 0.96
00:11:10.520 so before you buy into this idea of the whole entire world and the universe needing to change 0.88
00:11:16.680 for you let me save you your entire fucking lifetime and remind you that it's not going to happen what 0.95
00:11:23.040 is going to happen is you're going to spend your entire life talking about loving yourself and being 0.99
00:11:29.020 kind and accepting yourself and none of it's going to be true then your time on earth is going to end and 0.91
00:11:35.620 you're gonna feel like shit that's something you should probably think about and honestly you should 0.94
00:11:41.220 probably be worried about while you're sitting there worrying about this a lot of us we're going 0.99
00:11:47.120 to continue to work to be better we're going to put in the work on our bodies we're going to put in
00:11:53.100 the work on our finances in our business we're going to put in the work to become better families we're
00:11:59.660 going to put in the work to understand the universe and god better we're going to put in the work to be 0.91
00:12:07.180 better fucking people and guess what's going to happen because of that all of those things this is a 0.96
00:12:14.280 universal truth of the world that has gotten lost in society when you put in the input you get the output 0.99
00:12:21.960 okay if you've been putting in the inputs and you haven't got the result yet the only things that could
00:12:28.820 be wrong is that you're putting in the wrong input or you haven't been doing it long enough that's it
00:12:36.820 so while the whole world decides to sell mediocrity and jam it down our throats I think it would be
00:12:43.380 wise for all of us to stop and say what do I really want do I want to live a life of false victimhood
00:12:51.160 complaining all the time pouting all the time whining all the time and never changing ever I don't think
00:12:58.560 anybody wants that guys listen the bottom line here is this kindness is unbiased truth get that 0.98
00:13:07.100 through your fucking heads someone who tells you the truth about a situation is a million times more 0.98
00:13:14.860 valuable than the person who pacifies your inner desires that don't jive with the reality of how life 1.00
00:13:21.640 works so you have to make a decision fake kindness lies pacifying mediocrity or real kindness truth
00:13:33.360 that eventually result in happiness when you combine them with action these are your only two options and
00:13:41.700 guys let me tell you I would choose wisely because whether you agree right now or you don't there is
00:13:47.820 going to come a time in your life when you realize that this is the truth and I hope that time comes 0.97
00:13:56.040 before it's too late told my teacher dumb bitch I'm gonna get millions watch this in the project 1.00
00:14:01.460 living down spoke it till existence while I'm from where you can't trust so welcome 0.99
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