REAL AF with Andy Frisella - April 23, 2020


25. Mental Toughness Is Not Optional


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In this episode of The Realists, I discuss the coronavirus pandemic and how people are reacting to it. I also talk about the self-development crisis in America and how it s affecting our mental toughness.

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00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00
00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mold changed to 50 got mold cost than did it i only weigh 180 but my
00:00:11.520 watch cost 250 what's up guys this is andy frisella and this is the show for the realists
00:00:17.500 say goodbye to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and right now there's a ton of
00:00:23.080 and welcome to motherfucking reality guys i have a whole lot i want to talk about today it's going 0.66
00:00:30.400 to be a very uh important show before i get to the important part of the show i'm going to get to the
00:00:36.280 most important part of the show which is the housekeeping section the housekeeping section
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00:02:04.720 one time ever that's dude we pour a lot into this man these guys they have full-time jobs just to
00:02:10.120 produce this show and uh you know we want to get the message out there so you guys are been amazing
00:02:15.820 about this and so i'm not like trying to say you aren't doing a good job i'm just asking let's step
00:02:20.560 it up a little bit you know right now we're in a time of uncertainty where people need some leadership
00:02:25.640 and they also need some laughs and they need some things to think about other than this fucking 0.97
00:02:29.680 coronavirus let's be honest so uh do us a solid share the show anyway that was housekeeping now
00:02:38.280 for the main event guys the truth is uh you know i haven't said much on social media recently
00:02:47.680 because i'm pouring more into the podcast i've realized um that i enjoy doing this i enjoy doing
00:02:54.660 the podcast because uh it allows me to say what i want to say in just a more transparent unfiltered
00:03:02.720 manner and with more context and so i've been very quiet on social media other than me pointing out
00:03:09.620 exactly what was happening on literally the very first day this was happening uh and and i was right
00:03:15.820 what i said what happened has happened and i'm going to remind everybody of that until the day i die
00:03:21.180 because i got blasted pretty hard for it but that's neither here nor there what i'm getting at
00:03:28.960 is that you know i've been thinking for the last 10 or 12 years we've had a pretty stable situation
00:03:41.020 in america for sure and sometimes the world and if you're old enough and not all of you are
00:03:49.260 you can remember other things that have happened before and the 2008 economic crash
00:03:55.380 um you know if you're a little older than 1980s inflation if you're a little older than that
00:04:01.060 uh like vaughn you probably remember the 1970s energy crisis right we've been through a lot as
00:04:07.700 as a country okay but not recently they're not the last 10 or 12 years we've had it pretty good
00:04:13.800 and that's showing and how people are reacting to this whole scenario of this virus and this pandemic
00:04:21.660 and to be honest it's pretty disappointing from my point of view and so i want to get into that
00:04:27.300 and talk about something that's related to that topic you know the self-development narrative
00:04:32.780 for the last decade or so which you hear me sarcastically criticize a lot
00:04:38.580 has said the same things over and over again i feel like it's like
00:04:43.240 the people who don't have shit to say are just saying the same shit that other people are saying 0.68
00:04:48.660 they're telling you to meditate they're saying be kind they're giving you these positive sayings that
00:04:54.860 you know if you really break them down they're meaningless okay and there's nothing wrong with that
00:05:00.180 i don't think being positive is wrong if it's what you enjoy and the content you like to consume
00:05:07.240 perfect but getting through hard times like this takes more than that a lot more
00:05:15.800 it requires mental toughness which isn't popular to talk about because some people think that if you
00:05:24.540 are to have mental toughness it means that you're cold it means that you're calloused it means that
00:05:31.080 you know you're not a nice person it doesn't come across as something that people aspire to be
00:05:37.160 because they feel like they have to trade their goodness to become tough and you don't okay
00:05:44.380 mother teresa was one of the toughest people on the planet jesus is one of the toughest people that
00:05:51.480 ever lived all right and you have to start thinking about mental toughness like that it doesn't mean
00:05:58.140 you're sacrificing your goodness to become some hardened cynical or uncaring human it means you keep it
00:06:06.020 real and you do the right thing no matter what it is that you said you're going to do and on top of
00:06:12.800 doing the right thing it means that you follow through on what you say you're going to do
00:06:19.540 regardless of what the circumstances are right now we have this virus and we have all these reasons to
00:06:28.400 not do anything we're being told to stay home we're being told by the media as i addressed in a
00:06:35.260 previous episode to recover and heal and don't get too ambitious during this time because that could
00:06:44.100 really fuck you up right that's the world that we live in but guys i would like you to consider 0.91
00:06:52.160 something i would like you to consider this being mentally tough becoming mentally tough is not optional
00:07:03.500 to you having a successful a happy and a fulfilling life there are constantly going to be things that
00:07:13.900 come across your presence and your perspective that are going to literally fuck up your entire world and 0.76
00:07:22.340 if you can't handle those things you are going to live a life of ups and downs and chaos and feel
00:07:28.660 completely out of control all the time mental toughness is not optional and this crisis has
00:07:37.340 brought this to the forefront we can show you right now why mentally tough people are excelling and why
00:07:46.500 not only are they excelling but why it's the right thing to do all right people around you they
00:07:53.140 desperately need you to step up and be a leader your family your co-workers your bosses even the people
00:08:00.420 above and below you are hungry for leadership okay right now we live in a world where everybody plays
00:08:09.500 business that means they go out they get a business card they get a title they want to be a ceo and
00:08:16.380 you know when things are good that's fine you can play business but the truth is is that in a crisis
00:08:23.460 in times of uncertainty in times of pain in times of frustration in times of anger are the times that
00:08:31.820 you literally prove whether you're an actual ceo or whether you're a fucking clown that's the truth 0.54
00:08:40.200 if you only lead during good times you're essentially a worthless leader leadership is much more
00:08:48.840 important in times like this than it is when times are good all right and this positivity that the people
00:08:56.820 need right now is not the sweet syrupy fluffy care bear positivity it's the strong positivity it's the
00:09:06.980 tough positivity okay one of the things about this crisis that's so great is that it's waking people
00:09:14.620 up that life is not a playground it is not this idealistic playhouse that we all live in it's a
00:09:23.320 fucking battleground and if you don't have a mentally tough perspective about going to battle every single 0.91
00:09:31.660 day and winning these little wars that are your days you are going to have trouble dealing with
00:09:38.960 crisis situations all right leadership has to be strong leadership is the right thing leadership is
00:09:49.420 what we need and leadership is not you are enough that's not what it is okay you're not going to inspire
00:09:57.060 anybody with self-care bath bombs and fucking positive affirmations in the morning positivity is a great 0.75
00:10:04.700 thing but right now in times of frustration in times of stress you have to show people through your
00:10:13.140 actions what it looks like to be gritty and self-reliant and someone who takes care of business no matter
00:10:21.220 what the fuck is going on okay you've got to show some confidence you've got to show some swag you've
00:10:28.180 got to show that you are a fucking badass who's not going to let situations crumble you and by doing so 0.61
00:10:35.200 you now have a scenario where other people are looking to you and they're feeling hopeful all right
00:10:41.940 people right now i've heard it they're talking about trump and they're saying oh well you know he hasn't
00:10:47.040 been empathetic enough is that really what the fuck you want like are we being real do you really want 0.76
00:10:52.840 someone up there who's crying and saying oh i'm i'm so upset about this whole scenario this is fucking 0.98
00:10:58.880 terrible or do you want someone that says hey you know what this fucking sucks but you know we got this 0.93
00:11:05.020 we have a plan we're going to execute the plan we're americans fuck the virus and fuck anybody else who 0.89
00:11:11.800 stands in the way of us getting better we're going to do our business and we're going to what do you want
00:11:16.280 okay what do you want because i'm going to tell you all day i want the fucking second guy i want the 0.99
00:11:23.380 guy who's going to stand up and say hey motherfuckers we're going to fucking push through this that's what 0.98
00:11:28.360 you want too you may not like trump you may not like whatever's going on but you will like good
00:11:35.360 leadership and being a good leader is reinforcing things in times of crisis and saying hey motherfuckers
00:11:41.280 we're going to push through and we're not going to push through with feel-good bullshit we're going to push
00:11:45.420 through with our elbow grease our grit our determination our toughness and we're going to
00:11:50.300 make this shit happen that's the kind of leadership that's needed in crisis not this coddling fucking
00:11:57.540 poor me shit that we're seeing everywhere okay mental toughness is needed to impose a sense of order
00:12:05.060 and certainty that the society needs and not just society as in everybody your fucking society your 0.94
00:12:14.360 community this crisis has no doubt created a lot of chaos for a lot of people and when chaos hits
00:12:21.820 average people panic average people want a greater sense of order and certainty they want a greater sense
00:12:30.160 of security that's why people right now are susceptible to governments becoming tyrannical and we hear this
00:12:38.020 all on the news right now people are talking about how the government's overstepping their bounds
00:12:42.440 how people shouldn't be forced to do x y and z and you know what the constitution of america backs those
00:12:49.140 complaints it just does but the reason this is happening is because people want certainty and
00:12:56.300 security so fucking bad and they're not willing to step up with the toughness they need to provide
00:13:02.640 the sense of order and certainty that we should have in our communities and in our direct ecosystems
00:13:08.820 that's our job that's our job that's the job of the people it's the job of each and every one of us
00:13:15.140 to become mentally tough that doesn't mean you were born mentally tough that means you can become
00:13:23.080 mentally tough and it's our job to take control of our lives and show the next generation and the
00:13:32.100 people that are coming behind us what grit and confidence and perseverance looks like through
00:13:40.340 our actions not a bunch of whiny cry fear and panicking bullshit we are failing and upholding our 0.63
00:13:50.220 obligation to the people that look at us right now as a society that's a fact all right if you want to
00:13:57.260 look at every leader through the history of time every fucking leader every king every queen every 0.95
00:14:04.680 president every general every famous movement every single thing all of them all of them from trump
00:14:13.840 to jesus from fucking hitler to fucking mother teresa all of them no matter what their causes are 0.99
00:14:21.620 we can argue the causes all day no matter what their causes are they aren't passive they take control
00:14:30.540 this is how things happen and it's our job to make the right things happen you want to help stop the
00:14:38.240 spread of the panic stop quoting self-care memes and step the fuck up and do everything that you need to 0.54
00:14:44.480 do stop sitting there and waiting for someone to come fix your problem stop sitting there
00:14:50.920 complaining about shit that you can't do anything about and start working on developing and becoming 0.77
00:14:58.360 someone who can handle crisis and set an example for the people that are going to come after you
00:15:06.000 and i know this is a hard concept to understand because all of us think fuck people look at me as a
00:15:14.040 leader that's kind of weird we all feel that way but the truth is you all lead people all of you you
00:15:23.200 might lead one person or you might lead a hundred people or you might lead thousands of people but you
00:15:29.080 all have influence and by succumbing to this weak mentality of the sheep herd you are failing your
00:15:37.500 obligation to the people that look up to you ultimately guys mental toughness during this time means
00:15:45.900 winning every single day of this pandemic it means that what you do during this quarantine is exactly what
00:15:54.760 you would do any other normal day of your life while everyone else is panicking you have to stay
00:16:01.740 productive while there's chaos all around you you still have to uphold your obligation to yourself
00:16:09.180 and your family and everybody else that depends on you including the goals you set for yourself
00:16:15.420 you still have to wake up every day and think about what kind of life do you want what goals do you set
00:16:23.820 for yourself what goals do you have for your family what goals do you have for your career
00:16:29.200 lots of people have let themselves off the hook right now because they don't have to go into work
00:16:35.980 so are you like this or are you one of the people who's still taking the time to dream and think and
00:16:44.320 visualize and focus every single day it's a rhetorical question I want you to think about it
00:16:50.700 you have to still wake up every day and cultivate a sense of gratitude you think this crisis means you
00:16:57.620 don't have things to be thankful for you're stuck at home but guess what at least you have a fucking 0.97
00:17:03.780 home most of you aren't totally alone you got people in your house you have more time on your
00:17:09.960 hands that's a fucking gift you need to continue to create positive energy during this crisis through 0.85
00:17:16.600 your actions and you do that by exercising your gratitude every single day just as if it were a
00:17:23.740 normal day that's going to help build your mental toughness you still have to identify the critical
00:17:30.900 tasks that are going to move you forward on these visualizations and goals okay the key to success
00:17:37.600 doesn't change just because we're in a fucking crisis completing critical tasks leads to the happiness 0.83
00:17:43.900 the fulfillment and the success that's going to contribute to your confidence which is going to
00:17:48.820 help you become more mentally tough I've told you guys about the power list literally for years it's
00:17:55.580 episode 107 of the MFCEO project it's in this feed go back and listen to it and listen to how to use it
00:18:02.380 specifically don't become like one of these people who hears half of it and does it half-assed
00:18:09.460 and then you know wonders why it doesn't work you got to do it exactly as it says don't let your ego
00:18:16.580 take control of your fucking actions and start thinking that you're even in a place to customize 0.98
00:18:21.740 a tool like this okay do it as it says and you're going to start to see the benefits all right so why
00:18:30.700 is this so important to think about right now why is it important to cultivate mental toughness during
00:18:37.900 this pandemic it's because ultimately guys it's what's going to bring this situation to a point where it's not
00:18:45.520 only better for you but it actually has made you happier the reality is people set goals and dreams
00:18:52.280 when things are good when things are pleasant when everything's okay that's when people do all these
00:18:58.140 things we're talking about but when things get hard and scary they fucking throw that shit out the window 0.95
00:19:03.260 and start thinking about what's on Fox News or CNN and when they do this they realize they were actually
00:19:10.840 lying to themselves in the first place because their actions are not backing up the promises they
00:19:15.780 made to themselves so then they lose self-respect they lose self-esteem they lose momentum they lose
00:19:22.120 confidence they lose belief in themselves and you can't be happy when you don't believe in yourself
00:19:28.280 when you don't respect yourself this pandemic is the perfect time to prove when you make promises to
00:19:35.560 yourself you keep them no matter what it's the perfect time to say I'm not going to let any of this
00:19:44.000 unforeseen bullshit factors derail my goals and dreams I'm going to continue to work and I'm going to follow
00:19:50.620 through on what I want and when you do that you begin to create the framework of mental toughness you
00:19:57.680 create grit you create fortitude you create determination you create self-belief you create
00:20:05.220 confidence and what that ultimately does guys is it makes you feel like a fucking badass and guess 0.81
00:20:11.800 what happens you earn happiness you earn fulfillment as a result of keeping the promises you make to
00:20:23.180 yourself if you can learn this and you can be happy during this coronavirus pandemic you can find happiness
00:20:31.520 at any time in your life and that's something I think that you guys should all stop and really think
00:20:38.120 about how much of your life how much of your happiness how much of your fulfillment is dictated
00:20:45.800 by circumstantial situations that you have zero control over listen I know that most of us weren't ready
00:20:55.420 for a crisis like this but the truth is nobody could have expected it and anybody who says
00:21:01.340 they expected they're probably in on selling the motherfucking vaccine okay let's be real but when
00:21:07.520 you actively cultivate mental toughness in life it prepares you for these ups and downs the good times
00:21:14.640 and the bad okay you need to use this time to go hard after mental toughness if you do that on some
00:21:22.240 level you'll be ready for anything the rest of your life you guys should be looking at this just like
00:21:27.980 you would look at your career just like you would look at your spirituality just like you would look
00:21:33.240 at your fitness you should look at your mental toughness the same and dedicate time every day
00:21:38.860 to build this quality that is going to fulfill you and create situations for you to actually be happy
00:21:47.260 whether life is clear and fucking blue skies and clear sailing or there's a fucking hurricane going on 0.96
00:21:55.120 in society everywhere you look it shouldn't matter your happiness your discipline your mental toughness
00:22:03.540 is dependent on you and what you do and how you keep your word to yourself practice that on a daily
00:22:12.140 basis and you're going to see your life improve in many many different ways all right this crisis guys
00:22:20.040 it's a fucking test man it is a huge test there is a bunch of people out there right now that are 0.97
00:22:27.240 going to look back at this crisis and say fuck you know what my life was going great i had everything 0.71
00:22:34.160 going and then the coronavirus came along and it just ruined my life okay that's going to be a lot of
00:22:42.040 people okay so you're going to be one of those people you're going to be one of those people who's
00:22:45.540 passive one of those people who gives into the circumstantial forces around you and just molds
00:22:50.620 and bends their life to fit that circumstance or are you going to be one of the people who is active
00:22:58.220 who's aggressive who takes control who does what they can do and what they have to do to set a great
00:23:05.780 example not just for themselves but for their families their friends their communities their employees
00:23:13.000 their bosses and literally everybody that has a 360 connection to you okay those are your choices
00:23:20.100 and i'm going to tell you right now if you're the kind of person who can stop right now and say fuck 0.98
00:23:28.240 my life is a shit show but what i'm going to do is i'm going to control the things i can control i'm 0.79
00:23:36.160 going to control my diet i'm going to control what i can drink i'm going to control my workouts i'm going to
00:23:41.480 control what i do on a daily basis and what i read what i put in my brain and you start developing
00:23:49.020 these these mentalities about how to function properly in a progressive way while the rest of
00:23:56.300 the world is in chaos let me tell you something you're going to become the most bulletproof
00:24:00.820 motherfucker on the face of the fucking planet because no one will ever be able to fuck with you 1.00
00:24:05.700 again because it doesn't matter what's going on outside of your brain outside of your body you're
00:24:12.520 in control and that guys is peace of mind that is where happiness comes from that is where fulfillment
00:24:21.340 comes from that is where infectious confidence comes from those are things you want those are things
00:24:30.340 that will exponentially benefit your life so if you're not working on them right now start
00:24:36.940 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm going to get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till 1.00
00:24:42.860 existed while i i'm from where you can't trust so welcome