26. Real Talk： How Big Are Your Dreams？
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In this episode of The Realists, Andy Frisella talks about how he built a business from the ground up and how he was able to become one of the few real dudes in the entrepreneurial space who has built something from literal nothing.
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living
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spoke it till existence mold changed to 50 got mold cost than did it i only weigh 180 but my
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watch cost 250 what's up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the realists say goodbye
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to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality
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guys today i have real talk for you uh and we're gonna get into some really important stuff
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tell us about it um now with that being said guys we have a lot of new listeners who haven't been
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with us since you know 2015 and i have a lot of new followers on instagram uh that haven't been around
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since i've been on instagram since 2000 i don't know 13 or so and a lot of people don't really understand
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uh that you know what you see on my instagram you know the businesses the the the success the house
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the cars the flying on private jets the lifestyle that i'm so fortunate to lead a lot of people don't
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realize that that was built from the ground up um every time i post something about my life which i
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don't do a lot because i like to stay somewhat private you know people are like damn dude you
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know where'd you how did you make it how did you do that guys the reason i've been able to become
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uh a voice for the entrepreneurial space is because dude i'm one of the few real dudes who has built
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something from literal nothing you know in 1999 when we started our business we were just 19 year old
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kids we didn't have any money we didn't have any supporters we had 12 000 that we earned from
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painting the stripes on parking lots and from that point forward you know we opened our first retail
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supplement superstore um and the first day in business we sold seven bucks the second day in
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business i think we sold zero the third day was 23 bucks you know like this this came from very humble
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beginnings and that's why the information that we've been giving is so valuable uh because the
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reality is guys there's not a lot of people out there who have actually built what you see as their
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life um that's just the truth and the more i've and the more i've become a voice in this entrepreneur
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space most of the people who are big voices in the space they made their money by selling how to do
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shit courses and things like that back before people ever questioned whether or not they were
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qualified to do so that's just the truth so you know when i talk to you about building a business when
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i talk to you about building success when i show you my companies or i show you my life or i show you my
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my uh home or you see these things i hope you realize and i hope you stop and and understand
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i've paid every motherfucking price there is to be fucking paid okay i have worked and worked and
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worked and worked and i understand what it's like for you guys who are out there at the ground level
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let's say the starting line what it's really like for you guys i'm under no uh illusion of what it's
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like to try and build a business it's like you're battling the whole motherfucking world including your
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family your friends the people that you thought were your friends and all of society and it's a
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very hard thing to do you know and what i want to talk about today and and the reason i wanted to give
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you that little preface uh and you can read more about that on my website under the about me if you
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really want to know where i come from and how how we got here um you go to the website and read it but
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the point is that i want you guys to understand is like i know what it's like legitimately to be
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criticized for having huge goals and huge dreams i know what it's like to get laughed at i know what
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it's like to get told to get a real fucking job i know what it's like to have your own family tell you
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that you're unrealistic or you're materialistic or you're money driven and they say all these things
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in negative ways i know what all this is like and i know what the pressure is like i know how
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frustrating it is to want to build something and then you go on social media and post about it
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and you get two fucking likes and you know it's your aunt mary and you know your uncle steve like
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dude i get that that's where i was like i when i started in the entrepreneur space and the motivation
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space you guys don't realize this but i started on facebook back fucking 2008 or 9 maybe even 7
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writing motivational stayings and you know trying to put out content i got laughed at i got made fun
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of you know my family who you got who you think you're trying to be tony robbins well you're fucking
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right i'm trying to be tony robbins motherfuckers crush shit okay so i know what it's like i know what
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it's like to be the only person in your circle to not be okay with just the way things are and i know
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how lonely that is and that's what i want to talk to you about today you know which are really the
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topics of this being criticized for dreaming about things that you know you want and about a better
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life and about basically dreaming for a bigger existence and then you know how to also know that
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you're on the right track and how you're you know tracking your progress building those dreams
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i know those things don't sound related on the surface but i want you to hear me out on this
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so let's start with dreaming big okay this is a problem for most people the first thing i want you
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guys to realize is that if you're already dreaming big you're way ahead of the game because most people
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don't have the balls to wake up every day with a grandiose idea or plans or even you know consider
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that they want anything bigger and better than what they have right now we live in a society
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where it's popular to downplay everybody and to tell everybody well you don't need that and you know
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uh having less is actually having more and all this shit we hear all this shit everywhere guys it's all
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fucking bullshit okay i'm gonna tell you that right now so i know how you're feeling you're you're you're
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trying to do better you're trying to become more you're constantly getting criticized for being
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indifferent for not finding an easy safe way in life for not reading into the bullshit society serves
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you uh constantly and everywhere that you look you know and guys if you really want to be honest you
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want to know why they're criticizing you it's because you're making them uncomfortable you're making them
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realize they don't have the same ambitions or the same goals or even the same wherewithal to accomplish
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those goals okay there's a few things that are different uh that you have to understand that are
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potentially happening here one of them is that they could be coming from a jealous mindset right
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they see you with the dreams that they could never see themselves having they see you with potential they
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can't find within themselves and when you start to dream and when you start to expand your potential
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even more and when you start to move forward it makes them realize they aren't moving at all
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and that feels uncomfortable it feels bad and they're building a complex of insecurity about
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themselves and they're projecting that onto you and they do this because they see it as a threat
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to their environment society as a whole gets real fucking nervous guys when they see someone going after
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big dreams and they want to see you calm down and go right back into that little tiny box that they all
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live in and guys i see this every day man i get dms i get emails i get you guys reaching out dude and it
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just really really upsets me because you think that it's just you it's just you it's not just you
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everybody who goes through pursuing something that is bigger something that's better something that is
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beyond the scope of imagination of everybody that they're around goes through this guys we all go
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through it like i said remember i got laughed at too i still get fucking laughed at i still get laughed
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at to this day and i'm running fucking companies that do hundreds of millions of dollars i want you
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to think about that we're not doing a million dollars we're not doing 10 million dollars we're doing
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hundreds of millions of dollars and i'm still getting laughed at what does that say about fucking
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people and what does that say about people and their ability to believe in you when you haven't
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actually done anything okay i know that these people should believe in you and i know that these
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people should encourage you and i know that your peers and your co-workers and your friends and your
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family and all these groups that put you down they shouldn't do that and it's awful and i'm not going to
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defend them but i want you to understand that this is just part of the deal okay a lot of these people
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are jealous a lot of these people are insecure they don't have their own house in order and they don't
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want to see someone else achieve what they can't do themselves okay that's a huge issue and i know we've
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heard this a million times guys but i want you to stop this time and i want you to really think
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what it is that creates this difficult obstruction to your mental your mental being and success
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it's their fear they're afraid okay it's like they feel like they're losing a grip on you they feel
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like they're losing a friend they're maybe going to lose a family member you may not know this but the
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chances are if you're the type of go-getter and big dreamer that i'm talking about these people
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probably recognize that and they've been looking up to you already they already see the power in you
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that you have even if you don't see it and they don't want to lose that one person in their life
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that's going to make a difference and they think that once you've reached those goals they're going
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to be cut out and they're going to be expendable and that scares them and guys even though that's
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almost never the case there are times where that's appropriate some of you have friends and
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you know exactly who they are that aren't really backing you up okay and i'm sure you're going to
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defend them but if you really think about it for a few minutes guys you know i'm right the friends
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that have to you know have everything you have when you get a new car they got to get a new car
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when you tell a story they got a better story when you get a new phone they get a fucking new phone
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you know these quote-unquote friends dude they're just trying to keep up man you've all heard that
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saying keep up with the joneses if they're jealous about you for your material progress you could bet
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your ass they have the same feelings towards the other aspects of your life and unfortunately this
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can also be your family and that sucks you know don't get me wrong dude if you're 17 years old and
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you're living with your parents and you have no means of your own you're gonna have to play by their
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rules and guess what that's the right thing to do and you should do that i'm not saying that but
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there's absolutely nothing that should be stopping you from creating the life that you want to create
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at least at that point in your mind and making a plan to execute on that find ways to prepare for
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your future and when your time comes you'll already be that far ahead of everybody else trying to get to
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the same spot okay now if you're in your late 20s your early 30s i don't have an excuse for you
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and you don't have one for yourself either i get it man times are hard and sometimes they're really hard
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but if you're going to dream big and create an amazing life and you want to have an actual realistic
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chance of getting there you have to start learning how to do things on your own and i know what the fuck
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i'm talking about guys because i've done this i've done it i started with literally nothing okay i
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spent a summer doing hard-ass work uh you know painting the stripes on a parking lot that doesn't
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sound hard but i'm going to promise you right now if you've ever pushed a 400 pound fucking parking
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lot striper across a parking lot when it's 100 motherfucking degrees outside for 15 fucking hours
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it's pretty hard i earned everything that i have and i earned where we are and this has not been
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easy for us everything that we've had to do has been the hard way i slept in the first store on a
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piss stain mattress with my business partner guess what that ain't our cup of tea motherfuckers
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all right i waited years before i saw any semblance of success my first 10 years in business man i made 58
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fucking grand total total 58 000 for 10 years of motherfucking work okay i didn't count on anybody
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else to get me here we grinded and grinded and grinded and this is why i'm so fucking cynical about
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all these other motherfuckers out there on the internet they're telling you to work hard because
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they don't know a fucking thing about it this is what it takes that's just what it takes guys
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it is that fucking hard maybe it won't take you as long okay maybe you're much smarter than me you
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guys have a lot more technology available to you so it shouldn't take you as long as it took me but
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i'm going to tell you right now every motherfucking thing that could have happened that was hard
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happens and it's going to happen to you too and you have to be able to understand it's not just you
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the reason people fall off track is because they think it's just them they think they're the only ones
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that deal with these things their family's the only one that laughs their friends are the only
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ones that laugh their fucking people they know are the only ones that tell them they can't that's not
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true that's everybody drive up and down your motherfucking street wherever it is you live and
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look at all the businesses open every motherfucker that owns those businesses has gone through what it
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is you're talking about all of them and they go through it every single day okay so get your mind
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right so you understand that's just a part of the deal if you're going to have big dreams you're
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going to have big criticisms too if you're going to have big dreams you're going to have big fucking
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haters if you're going to have big dreams you're going to have big stress if you're going to have big
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dreams you're going to feel lonely those are just things that fucking come with the territory and if you
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can't deal with those things then guess what you shouldn't even go out and try to fucking do it
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because it's going to be something that you totally hate that drives you insane okay so let
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me switch up the gears here all right how do we know when we're on our way to achieving the goals
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like how does this fit with everything that we've discussed today when you hear criticisms like
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why do you want to do that you work too hard you work too much you're taking this shit way
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too seriously dude all of those are indicators guys that you're on the right track you should
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be working hard you should be working a lot you should be taking this fucking serious there's no
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reason to ask those questions and that's why they're great indicators that you're on to something
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real okay remember this guys and remember forever nobody criticizes losers the reason nobody
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criticizes losers because they're fucking irrelevant okay so if you're getting criticism
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this should be an indication that you are moving the right direction okay all of these criticisms
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and all of these questions you're going to hear from your friends and the family and there's a
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reason for this guys you're making progress you might not be able to see it but those closest to
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you are seeing it when your co-workers are out there saying man dude why are you working so hard
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it's because they aren't they're seeing your forward progress and realizing it's pointing
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out their lack of work ethic they realize that the pressure is either going to come down on them
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or you're going to leave them in the dust and move on to bigger and better things when your family says
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you work too much it's because they know that you're destined for something greater and there's a chance
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they'll be stuck in the same place they've always been you don't need anybody's fucking permission
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to do this that is the biggest misunderstanding and misconception in this entire equation of
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success nobody out there is going to believe in you until after you did it all right no bank is going
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to want to lend you money until you don't need it all right no customers are going to want to beg to be
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your customers until you're already kicking ass the period from day one till the period of what you think
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success is is probably 10 to 15 years that's reality can you make a great income in the first
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couple years yeah you can like i said technology has changed all right we're able to move at an
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accelerated pace now but guys i'm telling you right now if you have a situation right now and you're
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thinking there's no way it's this hard for everybody else there's no way it was this hard for andy
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there's no way there's no way it was this hard for so and so you're wrong anybody out there that
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you admire that you look at their life and you say god i wish i had that life they've they're dealing
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with shit that you're dealing with they've overcome the shit that you're dealing with this is part of
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the process it's part of the recipe it's part of what it is you're trying to become and as you push
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and as you become better and better and better what you do and as it becomes crystal clear that
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you are going to become who it is you say you are going to become all these people who said all this
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shit are going to change their tune and let me tell you what they're going to say and it feels real
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good too andy i always believed in you i'm so proud of you dude you're kicking ass sarah i'm so proud
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of you i always believed in you from the beginning steve you're the man i always knew you were going to
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make it that's what it's going to become and i'm going to tell you right now when all the people who
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said all the shit to you that they're saying now start saying how proud they are of you
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it ain't going to matter to you you're going to smile and you're going to keep on moving because
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you know now you're free and you're free of the idea that other people control your path you're free
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of the other of the idea that people can control your mentality you're free of the idea that people
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can control your success and when you get to that point now you're in a good place now you understand
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what this is about now you're in a place of influence and guess what now you have the
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opportunity to improve all of those people who criticized you you can improve their lives too
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and i think that's a hell of a way to go and i think it's something you should think about
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hey told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living