REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 08, 2022


354. Q&AF： Responding To Customers' Difficult Questions, Being Too Aggressive Towards Your Goals & Leading People Older Than You

Topics
long division imposter syndrome being aggressive with goals friend group self-worth skills development
Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
Andy Priscilla Aaron Wagner Meek Rams Vince Lombardi Mountain Dew Ed Milet Leadership Leonidas Headshot Steve Chris Jason Kyle Tony Mary
353. Q&AF： Learning To Love Hard Things, Becoming An Approachable Leader & Brainstorming Sessions 355. Q&AF： Good Times In Business, Applying Consumed Information & Most Important Thing When Setting A New Goal

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25 minutes

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205.22

Word count

5,333

Sentence count

532

Harmful content

Misogyny

5

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Toxicity

143

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Hate speech

23

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Summary

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In this episode of Q and AF, the guys talk about their favorite energy drinks and the things they like to drink. Also, we talk about how much we love Mountain Dew and how much they suck and how they are the best energy drinks ever.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye 0.99
00:00:20.860 to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking 0.99
00:00:25.440 reality guys. Today, we have Q and AF, that is where you submit the Qs and I bring the AFs. 0.96
00:00:32.740 Sometimes when you tune in, there will be different kinds of shows. Today happens to be Q and AF as I
00:00:37.420 just stated. Sometimes it's going to be CTI, that means cruise the internet. That's where we put up
00:00:43.620 the topics of the day and we talk about them and then we make fun of them and then we talk about
00:00:48.620 whether or not they're true at all and how true are they if they are true at all and that's what
00:00:55.140 we talk about. Q and AF is about personal development. What are you laughing at?
00:01:03.280 What? Is this not what we're supposed to do here? You're spot on. Would you like to step in?
00:01:08.740 No, no, no, no, no. You're spot on. No, please step in. Go ahead and explain the shows, DJ.
00:01:16.940 I don't know what you're laughing at. You're spot on, bro. Okay, so Q and AF and CTI are sort of like
00:01:24.780 the peanut butter and jelly, right? We solve the problem. We talk about the problem. Then we talk
00:01:28.460 about how to solve the problem. Then we have real talk. Real talk is where I get on for five to 20
00:01:33.820 minutes and talk a whole bunch of shit. Usually it helps people. Sometimes it doesn't. Then we have 1.00
00:01:40.120 full length. What? I'm just keeping it real, bro. The name of the show is real fucking AF.
00:01:46.820 I don't understand what's so funny about that. Then sometimes we got full length episodes. 0.96
00:01:54.000 Fuck them full length episodes. Today is Q and AF, bro. 1.00
00:02:01.720 Maybe we should just make it a CTI.
00:02:05.760 All right. Anyhow, what do you got? Oh, man. Oh, shit.
00:02:11.680 What? What? Yeah, no. Yeah, it was fucking dynamite. My best intro ever did. Clearly. 1.00
00:02:19.740 Normally I'd recut it, but today I fuck it, man. Just let it rock. I love it. I am drinking one of 1.00
00:02:24.180 these. Normally I don't run ads on the show, but I'm going to fucking run one right now. I'm drinking 0.98
00:02:28.480 one of these amazing best fucking energy drink in the history of earth from first form. I'm drinking 0.98
00:02:36.820 the citrus blast flavor and this fucking thing, man. It tastes so much like Mountain Dew. I want 1.00
00:02:42.840 to change my name to fucking Kyle. Yeah. Like this shit right here. This makes me want to punch a 0.99
00:02:51.940 hole right through the fucking wall. Yeah. Yeah. With my head. This is really good shit with the, 1.00
00:03:01.060 it really does taste like mountain, like diet mountain, which is my favorite diet. The flavors are 0.99
00:03:05.980 spot on. Yeah. The flavors are spot on. Listen, I'm not an energy drink person, so I don't have
00:03:10.700 any, I can't sit here and say, oh, it's fucking better than this or that. I don't even give a 0.93
00:03:14.160 fuck. Here's what I do give a fuck about though. Good. I feel good when I drink it. Yeah. There's 0.99
00:03:19.080 no like jitters or anything. No, it's not like a, the only other energy drink I've ever had
00:03:23.440 in my life. Uh, it's like a Red Bull and usually add vodka in it. Uh, well, every time I have
00:03:28.900 vodka in it, but, uh, this tastes better than that. And I feel better probably because there's
00:03:35.480 no vodka. No, I, I would feel better if it probably even better if it had some vodka
00:03:39.540 in it. I just don't really drink anymore because I get fucking crazy. So, uh, but this is a 0.99
00:03:44.520 good one. So now I've had the orange, I've had the blue and I've had the green. Yeah.
00:03:48.500 And I think the green might be my favorite so far. Hey, you try that, uh, cherry lime,
00:03:52.080 you become thing. Those bro, bro. Got all the real shit, bro. That's tomorrow. That's tomorrow.
00:03:56.840 Watch out. Anyway, that'd actually be a pretty good fucking video too. Like content wise, 0.99
00:04:02.400 fucking they know some energy drinks. Yeah. Tape all the fucking cans. Give away our 1.00
00:04:06.220 secrets, man. All right. Joe cut that shit. Andy, I got some good ones for you though,
00:04:12.080 bro. Okay, cool. So for real talk, um, for those of you that are brand new, we're not
00:04:17.040 always idiots. Just most of the time. Um, today we're trying to be serious because we 0.96
00:04:22.380 got Q and AF and that's where you submit cues. You can submit them and they can be
00:04:26.400 about anything that has to do with how to fucking win better. Could be your business, 0.94
00:04:30.360 could be your life, could be, uh, your fitness, could be anything, could be 75 hard,
00:04:34.340 could be live hard. Uh, our goal here is to make you better for real. And, um, we take
00:04:40.320 questions, submissions at, uh, email those into ask Andy at Andy for seller.com. Yeah.
00:04:46.460 And so email them in and we answer them. We're going to do three today. Uh, and I think
00:04:51.080 you're going to get some value. I don't know what the questions are, but I know that when
00:04:54.060 I answer shit, it's good. So I know even if the questions, that's right. I'll make it 0.98
00:04:58.520 good. Real. All right. So let's get into these man. Andy, question number one, uh, Andy, I
00:05:04.000 recently started a business and I've quickly found out that I don't always have the knowledge
00:05:09.620 to, uh, to answer a customer's question. What's the best way to approach a question that you
00:05:16.360 don't specifically know the answer to my business is young and I can't afford to lose any customers 0.99
00:05:20.860 at the moment, but I don't want people thinking that I'm a complete dumb ass. 1.00
00:05:24.040 Well, first of all, everybody's a dumb ass. That's the thing. So the, the, the not wanting 1.00
00:05:30.960 people to think you're a dumb ass is actually what makes you a dumb ass. Uh, it's the same 1.00
00:05:35.220 reason why most people won't start off in business because they're afraid to look stupid 0.99
00:05:39.220 in front of Steve and Tony and Mary from the old neighborhood. And they're afraid that, you 0.99
00:05:44.460 know, when they go to their little drinking hole that they're going to be sitting at for 1.00
00:05:47.120 the next 50 fucking years, that they're going to talk some sort of shit about you. Fuck 1.00
00:05:51.480 those people. Okay. Everybody's a dumb ass. You're a dumb ass. I'm a dumb ass too. There's 1.00
00:05:56.740 a whole bunch of shit. I want to know that. I don't know. The difference is I'm willing 1.00
00:06:00.580 to ask. I'm willing to go to people who know there's people I go to consistently that know
00:06:06.280 more shit than me. Okay. And I've been doing this for a long time. So there should be no 1.00
00:06:10.800 shame in your game when it comes to asking, uh, someone that's ahead of you for help. That's
00:06:16.720 a normal thing. And smart people do that. Intelligent people do that. Successful people do
00:06:20.280 that. So rid your, rid your mind of this, you know, idea that you're going to look stupid 1.00
00:06:26.580 in front of your people or in front of your employees or in front of your boss or in front 1.00
00:06:29.900 of fucking anything, because the only way to know shit that you don't know is to ask. 1.00
00:06:34.840 Right. Otherwise you have to go your whole life. Like, bro, look real talk. I don't know 1.00
00:06:40.200 how to do long division. Like, like, I don't know how to like, they teach you that in second
00:06:44.820 grade. Okay. So all through school, like I faked it. Like I would, I would pretend to
00:06:52.120 like do the division problems because I was afraid to ask how to do it because I like fucked 0.99
00:06:56.600 up. And here I am, I'm 40 fucking three years old. I don't know how to fucking do something 0.99
00:07:00.940 that second graders know how to do because I was afraid to ask. Okay. And while that might 0.99
00:07:07.340 seem stupid to you, I'm just saying like, look at all the shit that I've been able to do 0.99
00:07:10.700 in my life and accomplish, I still don't know that. And there's people out there that 1.00
00:07:14.760 don't know how to read because they're afraid to fucking admit they don't know how to read. 0.96
00:07:18.380 You know, there's people out there that don't know how to do basic things. I'm one of them. 0.99
00:07:21.680 Like, I really don't know how to do that. Like if you gave me a fucking whiteboard and you 0.99
00:07:26.080 said, Hey, do a division problem. You know, if it was four, I know that you divide it in 0.99
00:07:31.080 two. It's half. Like I know basic math, but like I couldn't do a division problem and
00:07:36.660 you all would fucking laugh at me. You see what I'm saying? 0.99
00:07:39.160 Yeah. Yeah.
00:07:40.700 So what's it worth to you? Is it worth you feeling stupid? Like I should have stopped 0.99
00:07:44.840 it when I was in second grade and said, Hey, uh, my teacher's name was Ms. Meek.
00:07:49.040 So, Hey, Ms. Meek, uh, I'm lost, man. I need some help. And you know what? I should
00:07:54.620 have stopped my teacher in fourth grade and say, Hey, you know what? I never learned
00:07:57.880 this. Should have stopped my teacher in fucking in ninth grade and said, Hey, you know 0.99
00:08:01.740 what? I never learned this, but I didn't cause I was a fucking pussy. And now I don't know 1.00
00:08:06.640 something that is very basic to most people. Yeah. For me, it's like, I hear it.
00:08:10.680 And I'm like, you know, like, like, do you have to be an expert in your fucking arena 0.99
00:08:16.820 starting out? Or like, I mean, you know what I'm saying? Like, like, like, bro, the first 0.98
00:08:21.520 person that came into my supplement store when I was 19 years old, um, they came in and they
00:08:28.400 asked for cell tech, which was a product made by a company called muscle tech. The guy walks
00:08:34.260 over, he looks at the cell tech. He said, what's this? I picked the shit up. I had no fucking idea.
00:08:39.900 I started reading the label to him like, like verbatim. Like, like, yeah. Cause that's all I 0.99
00:08:44.860 could do. Cause I didn't know. Yeah. You know? So like, bro, like I do, you, I don't know. Here
00:08:51.080 I am doing pretty good. Right. I learned everything I needed to know along the way. And I'm pretty
00:08:55.720 fucking knowledgeable about all of that shit at this point in my life. Yeah. Do you think that's a common 0.99
00:09:00.120 fear of people? Like they feel like they have to become experts. Yeah. I feel like most, listen,
00:09:04.060 bro, that's imposter syndrome. You're never going to feel qualified. Like, bro, when I go out and
00:09:07.840 speak in front of fucking 10,000 motherfucking people, like I'm a secretly in my heart, I'm like, 1.00
00:09:12.480 why the fuck they want to hear from me? You see what I'm saying? Like you guys have to understand 1.00
00:09:18.180 that everybody feels that way. Every fucking person you look at every leader, you look at every fucking 1.00
00:09:22.760 great person you think that doesn't, they all feel that way. The great, the greatest men out there, 0.99
00:09:28.920 the greatest women out there that you look at have moments of imposter syndrome where they're like, 1.00
00:09:34.180 I don't know why, why I should even be here. Why I'm qualified to talk about this. Or am I qualified
00:09:40.060 to do these business deals? But at the end of the day, you know, like I look around and I'm like,
00:09:44.700 well, if I'm not, who the fuck is, you know? And, and I, I talked myself out of it logically. 0.98
00:09:49.800 And eventually you'll get to that point too. But my point is, is that if you never keep going in the
00:09:55.380 beginning, because of those feelings, you'll never get to the point where, where you can,
00:09:58.920 actually talk yourself out of the idea, right? Yeah. So everybody's a dumb ass in the beginning.
00:10:04.260 It's okay. Be a dumb ass, ask questions, learn, educate yourself, uh, and keep going. 1.00
00:10:09.340 That's, that's real, man. Uh, Andy, question number two, uh, Andy, I know you've talked about 1.00
00:10:15.380 staying aggressive with pursuing your goals. I found that people look and treat me differently when I'm
00:10:22.400 more aggressive with my actions. Is there, is there a such thing as being too aggressive or is this
00:10:27.180 something that they just don't understand because they don't have the same goals as I do?
00:10:31.440 Well, I mean, it depends on how aggressive you are. If you're running through the office,
00:10:34.640 punching people in the fucking face, you know, that's going to be a problem. 1.00
00:10:37.560 Goals ain't got shit to do with that. That's a little too aggressive. Right. You know what I'm 1.00
00:10:41.040 saying? Uh, but if we're talking about just like, you know, skipping the, the normal route,
00:10:46.400 what most people talk about when they're talking about this is they're talking about skipping the
00:10:50.180 normal routine that all their old friends follow. You know, for me, that routine was like,
00:10:54.460 you go out Thursday night, you go out Friday night, you go out Saturday, you go out Saturday
00:10:59.060 night, you drink all day Sunday. And then the rest of the week, you try to fucking be normal. 0.99
00:11:03.740 That's what we, a lot of people in St. Louis do that. We drink a lot here. Um, for me, 0.98
00:11:10.740 you know what he's describing or she's describing looked like not doing those things and people
00:11:17.480 saying, well, man, what do you think you're too good for us? Like, why don't you come do these
00:11:21.600 things like, Oh, blah, blah, blah. And you know, it's kind of like what I talked about, uh, uh,
00:11:26.520 before on the podcast is, you know, it's just, I'm on a different path, you know, that's okay.
00:11:31.120 Yeah. Um, so what I try to remember and think about is that, you know, they're on their path,
00:11:37.780 I'm on my path and there's no problem with that. And like, when you're thinking about, um,
00:11:41.940 what it is you're trying to do and be aggressive, you know, just taking your, yourself out of these,
00:11:48.200 these situations that subtract from your life, uh, such as like, you know, excessive alcohol
00:11:53.420 consumption, partying, et cetera, et cetera. People are going to take that as you're getting
00:11:57.680 too serious. Well, let me tell you something, bro, that too serious that they think is too
00:12:02.200 serious is the minimum required effort it takes to build something. So like, you're not too
00:12:07.180 aggressive, bro. I can promise you that I can promise you that you cannot be too aggressive
00:12:11.700 about your fucking goals. It re people are going to say, Oh, you need balance. Look at their 0.99
00:12:15.980 lives. Look at their bank account. It's probably fucking shitty. All right. Now it depends on
00:12:21.780 what you want. If you want to balance life, you want to wake up in the morning, you want
00:12:25.180 to relax, you want to balance, you know, and blah, blah, blah. And then you want to worry
00:12:29.240 about fucking money and worry about all these things. That's, that's what you get. If you 0.99
00:12:34.680 want to live an aggressive life, quote unquote, uh, a life that's, you know, obsessive, uh, you're
00:12:40.600 going to have other problems and your problems are going to be, maybe your day-to-day life
00:12:44.060 will lack a little bit of balance, but you won't have the problems that other people
00:12:47.080 have. Right. You'll have other problems. Right. And I can tell you this, the problems
00:12:50.660 that you have with more money are better and easier to solve than the problems you have
00:12:53.860 with less money. And that's coming from someone who's lived both lives. So these motherfuckers 1.00
00:12:58.660 that say, Oh, it's looking, you know, Oh, I, you know, usually when they, usually it's 1.00
00:13:02.960 people like, I don't need all that shit. Cause I'm just a humble dude, bro. You're not 0.98
00:13:06.700 humble. You just haven't succeeded anything. True humility is actually fucking succeeding
00:13:12.100 and then still fucking being humble. Yeah. There's realities of how things are and people 0.98
00:13:16.920 like to use their fucking, um, they like to use their, uh, their lack of action or lack 0.97
00:13:25.780 of progress or lack of success. Zero options. Yes. To justify, you know, some sort of noble 0.99
00:13:31.680 quality that they say they possess when they don't possess that quality. Right. So, you know,
00:13:37.700 dude, I wouldn't worry about what fucking people say, you know, you're, you're going to go through 0.97
00:13:41.780 this time when all of you who are going to go out there and try to build something successful, 0.99
00:13:46.000 you're all going to go through this time where you leave your old network behind and you haven't
00:13:56.340 found your new network yet because you haven't really accomplished anything. Okay. So you don't
00:14:01.100 have credibility with the guys up the ladder and the girls up the ladder yet. Um, and you've moved
00:14:07.920 on from the, from the old group. So you're in this middle part that I call no man's land. Okay. And
00:14:13.280 it feels lonely. And like, that's the part where most people say, Oh, it's lonely at the top. No dumb
00:14:19.360 fuck. They ain't at the top. They're in between phases. Right. And you have to fucking be successful 1.00
00:14:24.200 to understand the phases. I can tell you this, the friends I have now that are all aligned with 0.98
00:14:29.360 success and they all want to win and they all want to create change and they all want to do cool 0.99
00:14:33.080 shit, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, are a lot more fun than having friends that fucking tell you 0.98
00:14:37.500 you work too much and that you're fucking greedy and that you're not humble and that you're too good 1.00
00:14:41.900 for us. That's fucking real. You know, most people don't stick it out long enough. They get in that 1.00
00:14:48.020 no man's land and they feel like they're going to be alone their whole lives. And then they naturally
00:14:51.720 gravitate back to that old friend circle. I don't want to be alone. Yes. And it's not true. You just
00:14:57.420 haven't followed all the way through, follow all the way through, bro. You'll get to a point where
00:15:01.560 you're, you're like, fuck man, my, my circle's getting, this is awesome. Like, bro, the people, 0.99
00:15:06.160 like, if you look through the people I talked to on my phone, every fucking person, you'd recognize 0.99
00:15:10.060 their name. They're, they're recognized. These are people who have built real shit. Like when I have 0.99
00:15:15.080 problems, like I go to fucking people like Ed Milet, who's fucking worth damn near a billion fucking 0.99
00:15:19.220 dollars. You know what I'm saying? Like this dude's the best speaker on the planet right now. 0.99
00:15:23.560 And they want you to win. Yeah. Yeah. That's the thing. Like all these people,
00:15:27.140 like I spent an hour on the phone with Aaron Wagner this morning. He was one of the best
00:15:30.060 fucking young entrepreneurs in the world. Killing it. Yeah. And this motherfucker, you know, 1.00
00:15:34.380 like, dude, these, this is how you want your life to be. You want your life to be in that friend 1.00
00:15:39.340 group that supports you. That's there for you. That helps build you up, picks you up when you're
00:15:43.420 down. Cause they've been through shit too. You know, you, you don't want to spend your life 0.99
00:15:47.220 beholden to a friend group. That's like, Oh fuck bro. DJ, you know, what, what do you need to do that 1.00
00:15:52.540 for? Right, right, right. Like Aaron's not calling you crying. Why are you not at fucking Saturday? No,
00:15:56.920 fucking pregame, bro. In fact, we have this fucking saying, and, and all, this is a whole 1.00
00:16:01.460 nother thing. Everybody in my friend group has this saying. They all live busy people 0.99
00:16:07.180 understand busy people. We don't take it personal when someone fucking misses a text 0.99
00:16:12.460 and then get back to them in 30 fucking days, right? That's peasant fucking shit. Okay. 1.00
00:16:17.340 Peasants do that. People who are broke as fuck do that. They argue over trivial shit. They 1.00
00:16:23.040 get upset over trivial shit. They let trivial shit ruin their fucking emotional state. The reality 1.00
00:16:29.040 is, is if I don't text you back and it's been 30 days, that means nothing. It could be a year. I
00:16:35.420 still love you. You know what I'm saying, bro? I'm just doing my shit. Right. And like people have a
00:16:41.200 heart. And that's another reason why it's hard to be friends with those fucking people that don't 0.99
00:16:44.700 understand your life now because they all judge you for it. It's listen, but it's worth it. 0.99
00:16:50.400 It's just worth it. That's real. That's real. Let me ask you this, Andy.
00:16:55.880 From where you were, you know, 20 years, 24 years ago to where you are now, what would
00:17:01.940 you say the difference is? Like, where did you get the validation that you were on the
00:17:05.800 right, like you were doing the right shit? Where did the validation come from then versus 0.99
00:17:09.480 now? Or who did they come from? Well, you know, dude, I think validation is a, is a
00:17:16.100 introspective thing. Like, I don't care what, I don't, I don't really care if people approve
00:17:22.620 me. Like, I care about like, you know, what the people like in my inner, inner circle, my family,
00:17:28.500 you know, my brother, my business partner, Chris, Jason, who's here, like you, Emily,
00:17:35.280 the people close to me, you know what I'm saying? I care what the fuck they think. But outside of 0.99
00:17:41.060 that, man, you know, like outside of the people I talk to on a regular basis, like in a, in a, 0.98
00:17:45.920 in a friend level, I don't fucking care. You know what I'm saying? I'm not here to please people. 0.98
00:17:51.040 I'm here to fucking accomplish shit and do things. And those things do benefit people tremendously. 0.99
00:17:57.860 So I'm focused on that. And if people don't understand it, I don't care. My, my validation
00:18:03.760 comes from, am I okay with me? You know, that's part of the live hard program. Like, dude,
00:18:08.420 you guys look for these fucking approvals from all these other motherfuckers who, who are basically 1.00
00:18:13.260 the truth of it is they're low operating humans. You know, when you, when you start operating on a 1.00
00:18:19.880 higher level, you stop looking for approval from everybody else. Like why the fuck would I fucking 0.99
00:18:24.460 want approval from someone who doesn't take care of their fucking mind, who doesn't take care of 1.00
00:18:28.960 their body, who doesn't fucking isn't successful in anything, who fucking their life is a fucking 1.00
00:18:34.060 dumpster fire. Like, I don't give a fuck what you think, because that would not even make sense. 1.00
00:18:40.440 You know what I'm saying? That's like asking a lost person for, for directions, like they're lost 0.99
00:18:45.740 way more than me. You know what I'm saying? So what I try to do is I try to audit myself.
00:18:50.840 Am I operating with integrity? Am I operating, doing the right thing? Am I, you know, like I don't
00:18:56.240 explain myself. Like I try to make things right. If things, if, if that's impossible, it is what it is.
00:19:00.660 I do what the fuck I can do the best I can. I keep it moving. You know what I'm saying? But like, 0.87
00:19:05.460 dude, too many of you draw your worth from other people's opinions. When in reality, the only time
00:19:11.560 you're ever going to have real worth is if you build it. That's why live hard exists. That's
00:19:15.660 why 75 hard exists. That's what the fuck it's for. It's not a diet. It's not about getting in shape. 0.99
00:19:20.500 It's about getting yourself to have confidence in yourself because you, you do the things you 0.87
00:19:24.400 promise yourself you're going to fucking do at a level that other people just can't do them. 0.88
00:19:28.360 That's what builds that belief. That's what builds the confidence. That's what builds the 0.99
00:19:33.480 trust and the validation that you give yourself. It's really simple, bro. If you fucking think
00:19:39.240 about it, but the reason that most people can't validate themselves is because they don't even 1.00
00:19:43.300 trust themselves because they lie to themselves about every motherfucking thing that they do. 0.99
00:19:47.100 They tell themselves every motherfucking Monday for their whole fucking life that they're going 1.00
00:19:50.280 to fucking start a diet. They never start it. They tell themselves every fucking other day, 1.00
00:19:53.700 I'm going to get serious about business and they never do. Bro, why would you, would you believe a 0.99
00:19:58.200 friend that acted like that? Right. Would you not? Okay. Well, you're not going to believe
00:20:02.040 yourself either, which means your self-worth is going to be in the shitter. So you have to rebuild
00:20:06.340 that. And, and with that comes skills. You just, you, you learn fortitude. You learn grit. You learn
00:20:12.840 confidence. You learn how to build momentum. You learn mental toughness. These are fucking skills,
00:20:18.440 bro. These are not traits. They're only thought of as traits because they want you to think 1.00
00:20:24.580 their traits so that you never pursue exactly developing them. I just wasn't born with them.
00:20:29.640 Yes. And if you never pursue developing these critical fucking skills that you must have to 0.99
00:20:35.400 succeed, how the fuck can you be successful? And you certainly don't have to take responsibility 0.99
00:20:41.460 for it. If you were just weren't born with it. Exactly. You follow what I'm saying? It's real
00:20:46.740 convenient for these fucking people out there in society to let everybody else not know their 1.00
00:20:50.960 own true power, isn't it? Guys, our third and final question, Andy, question number three, 0.99
00:20:59.280 Andy, I'm a young business owner and I have a few people who work for me who are literally twice my
00:21:04.320 age. Sometimes it feels like they look at me like I don't know what I'm talking about. They do.
00:21:09.720 Have you ever been in this situation? How do you manage it? Yes. A hundred percent.
00:21:14.180 That's very difficult. When you're, when I was in my twenties, dude, it was really hard to get
00:21:17.880 people to listen to me. Yeah. As I got older, it naturally gets a little bit easier. But here's
00:21:24.100 where it really matters. Now, you know, these people that come in here that are 20, 20 something
00:21:31.160 years old after age the other way. Yes. And they look around at what's been built and then they
00:21:35.840 understand how the fuck it was built. I don't have to yell and scream and fucking what I just tell 0.99
00:21:40.900 them like, Hey, this is what needs to be done. Right. And they respect it. So dude, that's a natural 0.99
00:21:45.240 growing pain. The, you know, listen, bro, don't let age be a hangup. You know, the motherfuckers
00:21:50.580 that, that fought and created America from, and took it from the fucking English. These motherfuckers 1.00
00:21:55.460 like 20 years old, 21 years old. Some of the greatest men in history. Okay. Some of the greatest 1.00
00:22:00.240 people in history have, have done the best work at fucking 22. Like age is not really that 0.95
00:22:06.360 what this question just, it's a difficult situation. But what I'm saying is it's nothing that can't
00:22:11.660 be overcome and hasn't been overcome many times before. You're not the only one. And if you're
00:22:16.380 going to be successful, you're going to have to overcome this. And so how I would suggest
00:22:20.040 overcoming this is examining your true leadership skills and working on building those legitimately
00:22:24.620 study people like Jocko, study people like Vince Lombardi, read their materials and implement
00:22:30.360 their strategies. Yeah. You know, become what it is you want them to be when you become what it is
00:22:36.680 you want them to be. They, they may not become a hundred percent of that, but they might let's
00:22:41.560 say they take fucking half of it. Yeah. They're still, you're leading. Yeah. Right. And everybody's 0.98
00:22:46.120 leading at a certain point in time, whether you understand you are or not, because no matter 0.96
00:22:50.140 if you're the lowest guy on the fucking football field or the, in the business, uh, game, there's 0.97
00:22:55.400 making the least amount of money. There's people outside. They aren't even on the field that 0.99
00:22:59.360 look at you and say, fuck dude, that guy's in the fucking game. You know what I'm saying? 1.00
00:23:02.980 And like how you behave will affect them, you know? So the fucking head coach of the Rams, 1.00
00:23:08.460 bro. Huh? The head coach of the Rams, youngest. Yeah. He's super young. Same thing. Yeah. 1.00
00:23:12.960 Would you also say maybe to like, uh, you know, trying to get those older employees, maybe more
00:23:17.640 involved in conversations to show like, maybe you've got, I don't think you should give weight
00:23:22.780 to the age thing. Yeah. Like I don't just at all. Yes. I don't think like, like, I know it's
00:23:27.380 a natural hangup for these people, but like, you know, uh, the things only are as big and scary as
00:23:35.400 the light you shine on them. You know what I'm saying? So like for me, I never like went to
00:23:40.320 someone and said, Oh, Hey, I know you're a lot older than me and think blah, blah, blah, blah,
00:23:43.420 blah. I never did that. Yeah. Like if you just like, dude, bro, he might be making a lot of it
00:23:47.920 up in his head. I'm a hundred percent sure. You know what I'm saying? Like, damn, I've been through
00:23:53.600 it. I'm a hundred percent sure that a lot of that's made up. If you go to them, they're like, 0.99
00:23:56.740 no, bro, I respect, bro. Good. Listen, listen, bro. These people want to contribute. They want
00:24:01.420 to win. They want to get paid. Um, you know, older employees that are, you know, in their fifties
00:24:07.480 are usually not as ambitious as employees that are in their fucking twenties. That's just reality. 0.98
00:24:12.260 Uh, but you know, you're also trading off. They might have amazing skill sets that a 20 year
00:24:17.920 old cannot have. So it takes a mix of these things. And quite honestly, I'm a
00:24:23.600 what could these older people teach you? What could you learn from them? You know what 1.00
00:24:28.580 I'm saying? Leadership is not about exerting, uh, authority. It's about gaining respect and
00:24:35.080 it's about showing people the way, you know, too many young leaders think leading is like,
00:24:40.120 uh, about being loud and aggressive and strong and cracking the wheel. Like they think leadership
00:24:45.940 and they think like Leonidas from 300. That's not fucking leadership, bro. It is leadership, 0.99
00:24:50.440 but that's not the only definition of leadership, right? You know, there's plenty of leaders
00:24:54.920 out there who are amazing leaders that never raised their voice. They're soft spoken people.
00:25:00.920 It's all about developing your own skillset. And I would say the reason you feel that way
00:25:04.440 is because you haven't done enough to develop that skillset. And if you pour into it and here's
00:25:09.200 the good news, the good news is you're aware of it. You're aware you're a weak leader or you
00:25:14.500 wouldn't even be asking the question. So if you're already aware that there's a problem,
00:25:17.860 that's like the biggest part of solving the problem. Because if you know, there's a fucking 0.98
00:25:22.060 problem in your game, you're going to try to fix it. Yeah. Right. So is this person. Right. So 0.99
00:25:26.640 pour into leading, take it serious, give it a couple of years. And I think you'll,
00:25:30.440 the answer will take care of itself. That was some fucking heat, man. Yeah. That was some heat, 0.99
00:25:35.380 man. I love it guys. Especially with that amazing intro. Yeah. Best I ever did. The best part of it.
00:25:40.100 Yeah. Let's be honest. Guys, Andy, that is three. That's right.
00:25:45.100 Yeah. Went from sleeping on the floor. Now my jewelry box froze. Fuck a pole. Fuck a stove. 1.00
00:25:51.020 Counted millions in the code. Bad bitch. Booty swole. Got her on bankroll. Can't fold. Doesn't know. 1.00
00:25:57.680 Headshot case closed.