REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 4. Real Talk： Why Idealistic Thinking Guarantees Losing

00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00

00:00:04.700 spoke it till existence mold changed to 50 got mold cost than did it i only weigh 180 but my

00:00:11.520 watch cost 250 what's up guys this is andy priscilla and this is the show for the realist

00:00:17.100 say goodbye to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking

00:00:22.820 reality guys today we have one of my real talk episodes these are shorter they have one main

00:00:28.740 point the longer episodes are like a buckshot these are like single bullets coming at you i'm

00:00:33.920 trying to get you to think i'm trying to get you to question the lies society tells us and even the

00:00:39.480 lies you tell to yourself i want you to walk away from this with some extra gas in your tank and light

00:00:44.920 a fire under you so that you can be more successful and happier why do i want that even though some days

00:00:52.280 it's true i want to punch everybody in the fucking face the reality is my life is pretty awesome i 0.97

00:00:58.700 wake up most mornings i look in the mirror and i say hey motherfucker i love this life i feel good 0.69

00:01:04.200 about it and i'm glad to be alive and i realize that not everybody feels this way about themselves

00:01:09.900 or their lives all right a lot of you guys know that i'm in the midst of going through phase three

00:01:15.740 of 75 hard 75 hard is the program i developed that creates mental toughness it creates the mindset

00:01:22.960 that drives things that everybody wants in their life discipline confidence fortitude grit perseverance

00:01:30.520 you name it this program helps you get it my point isn't to plug the program here it's free

00:01:36.780 okay you go to 75hard.com i guess i am plugging it a little bit but the point here is to give you a

00:01:42.920 little background one of the requirements of 75 hard is to do two workouts a day and one of them

00:01:48.900 absolutely has to be outdoors now an outdoor workout isn't a big deal if you live in california

00:01:55.140 or vancouver where the weather most of the year is pretty stable and mild and tolerable and i know

00:02:01.400 you're thinking vancouver's in canada it's cold as shit yeah but they got some good weather up there

00:02:06.000 in vancouver but here's the thing when you live here in the midwest like i do when you live in st louis

00:02:11.200 missouri like i do outdoor workouts in february can be brutal because the truth is on a warm day

00:02:17.800 it's 23 degrees on a good day it's cold but clear and yesterday wasn't a warm day it wasn't a perfect

00:02:26.100 day it was nine degrees it wasn't a clear day it was windy it was raining it was icing being outside

00:02:34.340 in the sleet in st louis if you've never experienced it is a lot like being showered by sheets of icy

00:02:40.280 little needles okay and i had to walk and run in this for 45 minutes guys i'm not gonna lie it sucks

00:02:47.340 i started thinking man this sure would be a lot easier if it was summertime and then i caught

00:02:52.600 myself no if it was summertime it'd be hot as hell if it was springtime it'd be raining and it'd be

00:02:58.800 humid or there might be tornadoes if it was fall yeah that might be the only time when the weather

00:03:04.660 here in the midwest would be tolerable but since it's the midwest you never know what you're gonna

00:03:08.940 get in the fall it could be freezing it could be stormy it could be anything but the one thing that

00:03:15.180 it will never be no matter what the weather is like is ideal guys let me tell you conditions

00:03:23.100 will never be perfect they will never be ideal there's always going to be a reason for not

00:03:31.340 getting things done there's always going to be a reason that you don't do the things that you need

00:03:37.260 to do to improve yourself there's always going to be a reason for not doing the things that will make

00:03:43.540 you happy and successful if the weather is good your schedule is going to be crazy if your schedule

00:03:49.100 is good your energy level is going to be off if your energy level is good there's going to be some

00:03:54.860 disconnect with some part of your life that is going to make things not ideal there's going to be some

00:04:01.120 hiccup at work some fire you need to put out some drama you need to deal with it never stops

00:04:07.700 conditions will never be ideal for you to be productive they'll never be ideal for you to make

00:04:15.080 progress and they will certainly never be ideal for you to be happy and successful this is a myth

00:04:22.060 that's a false narrative that too many people tell themselves to justify their inaction to justify

00:04:28.420 their procrastination and to justify their failure so if that's the line you're feeding yourself if you're

00:04:34.880 saying to yourself right now well the circumstances just aren't conducive to me exercising today the

00:04:41.180 conditions aren't ideal for me in my life it's just not the right time to finally make that big move

00:04:47.620 that i've been waiting to make or to take that risk that i know i need to take if that's what you're

00:04:52.580 saying to yourself guys i'm going to tell you right now you're telling yourself a fairy tale you're believing

00:04:58.840 the myth of average you're lying to yourself there's no other way to say it this is why you feel average

00:05:06.100 this is why you don't feel good about yourself and this is why when you look at your life it looks like

00:05:11.680 every single person that you knows life and this is why it's hard for you to get up in the morning

00:05:18.560 and look in the mirror and say man i love my life i'm happy i'm here i'm proud of what i've done

00:05:25.720 if that's the life you really want i'm going to tell you right now you have to stop waiting for

00:05:30.800 things to become ideal you have to stop waiting for conditions to be perfect you need to stop

00:05:37.240 thinking that one of these days circumstances will be conducive or favorable to your success and

00:05:44.400 happiness because i promise you they won't and they never will be so stop expecting the ideal

00:05:51.780 and start dealing with the real the real is messy the real is chaos the real doesn't always make a lot

00:06:00.060 of sense it's not always fair good things happen to terrible people and terrible things happen to good

00:06:06.820 people every single day that's just the way it is in the world we live in you can't grow a garden

00:06:14.260 that doesn't have weeds or a zoo that isn't full of animal shit we live in a universe where things get old

00:06:20.900 and die nothing is exempt from getting busted or broken it's very very rare for your day to go

00:06:30.040 exactly as planned or for everything to fall in place perfectly deals fall through friends get mad at

00:06:36.920 you your car's gonna break down your kid's gonna get the flu you name it it's gonna happen life on

00:06:43.580 planet earth is not utopia and it never has been and guess what it's never gonna be either so if you

00:06:49.980 have it in your head that all the forces in the universe are going to magically come together

00:06:54.840 so you can finally do what you want to do so you can finally become who you want to become and you

00:07:01.380 can finally live the life that you want to live i'm going to tell you right now you are absolutely

00:07:07.000 going to live in a constant state of disappointment you're going to waste your life and when you die

00:07:12.460 you're going to die with a lot of regret guys listen to me your commitment to the ideal is destroying

00:07:19.660 any chance you have at real success and real happiness that goes with it the most successful

00:07:26.640 people the happiest people they know conditions are never perfect they don't deal in what they wish

00:07:33.140 things were like they deal in what is they get up and go running even when it's 90 degrees outside and

00:07:39.920 they cut a negative family member out of their life even though they know it's going to piss off

00:07:45.060 the rest of the family they drive five hours to another city to deal with a disgruntled customer

00:07:49.980 even though they've already put in a 12-hour workday they take the leap of faith and leave the job they

00:07:56.860 hate even though they know they have to sacrifice their nice home to build the dreams that they have on

00:08:02.340 the inside these people don't wait for their schedule to clear they don't wait for the weather to get

00:08:07.240 nice they don't wait until they have a thousand percent financial security to start living they

00:08:12.840 don't wait until they are more confident and sure in themselves they don't wait until they have the

00:08:17.760 energy or the motivation or anything else they scorn the idea of the ideal and they fucking despise it 0.68

00:08:23.700 they accept the real world as the shit show that it actually is and they don't wait for conditions to

00:08:28.940 be perfect they just act and that's how little by little day by day step after intentional

00:08:36.720 step exceptional people move closer to becoming their ideal self they move closer to experiencing

00:08:44.660 their ideal life this is why they are truly successful and this is why they are truly happy

00:08:52.560 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till existence 1.00

00:08:58.540 while i i'm from where you can't trust

00:09:00.300 so welcome

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - February 24, 2020

4. Real Talk： Why Idealistic Thinking Guarantees Losing

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