4. Real Talkļ¼ Why Idealistic Thinking Guarantees Losing
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Summary
In this episode of The Realist, Andy Priscilla talks about why you need to question the lies society tells us and even the lies you tell to yourself to justify why you re not achieving your goals.
Transcript
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living
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spoke it till existence mold changed to 50 got mold cost than did it i only weigh 180 but my
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watch cost 250 what's up guys this is andy priscilla and this is the show for the realist
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say goodbye to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
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reality guys today we have one of my real talk episodes these are shorter they have one main
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point the longer episodes are like a buckshot these are like single bullets coming at you i'm
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trying to get you to think i'm trying to get you to question the lies society tells us and even the
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lies you tell to yourself i want you to walk away from this with some extra gas in your tank and light
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a fire under you so that you can be more successful and happier why do i want that even though some days
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it's true i want to punch everybody in the fucking face the reality is my life is pretty awesome i
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wake up most mornings i look in the mirror and i say hey motherfucker i love this life i feel good
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about it and i'm glad to be alive and i realize that not everybody feels this way about themselves
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or their lives all right a lot of you guys know that i'm in the midst of going through phase three
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of 75 hard 75 hard is the program i developed that creates mental toughness it creates the mindset
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that drives things that everybody wants in their life discipline confidence fortitude grit perseverance
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you name it this program helps you get it my point isn't to plug the program here it's free
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okay you go to 75hard.com i guess i am plugging it a little bit but the point here is to give you a
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little background one of the requirements of 75 hard is to do two workouts a day and one of them
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absolutely has to be outdoors now an outdoor workout isn't a big deal if you live in california
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or vancouver where the weather most of the year is pretty stable and mild and tolerable and i know
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you're thinking vancouver's in canada it's cold as shit yeah but they got some good weather up there
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in vancouver but here's the thing when you live here in the midwest like i do when you live in st louis
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missouri like i do outdoor workouts in february can be brutal because the truth is on a warm day
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it's 23 degrees on a good day it's cold but clear and yesterday wasn't a warm day it wasn't a perfect
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day it was nine degrees it wasn't a clear day it was windy it was raining it was icing being outside
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in the sleet in st louis if you've never experienced it is a lot like being showered by sheets of icy
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little needles okay and i had to walk and run in this for 45 minutes guys i'm not gonna lie it sucks
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i started thinking man this sure would be a lot easier if it was summertime and then i caught
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myself no if it was summertime it'd be hot as hell if it was springtime it'd be raining and it'd be
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humid or there might be tornadoes if it was fall yeah that might be the only time when the weather
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here in the midwest would be tolerable but since it's the midwest you never know what you're gonna
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get in the fall it could be freezing it could be stormy it could be anything but the one thing that
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it will never be no matter what the weather is like is ideal guys let me tell you conditions
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will never be perfect they will never be ideal there's always going to be a reason for not
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getting things done there's always going to be a reason that you don't do the things that you need
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to do to improve yourself there's always going to be a reason for not doing the things that will make
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you happy and successful if the weather is good your schedule is going to be crazy if your schedule
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is good your energy level is going to be off if your energy level is good there's going to be some
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disconnect with some part of your life that is going to make things not ideal there's going to be some
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hiccup at work some fire you need to put out some drama you need to deal with it never stops
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conditions will never be ideal for you to be productive they'll never be ideal for you to make
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progress and they will certainly never be ideal for you to be happy and successful this is a myth
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that's a false narrative that too many people tell themselves to justify their inaction to justify
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their procrastination and to justify their failure so if that's the line you're feeding yourself if you're
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saying to yourself right now well the circumstances just aren't conducive to me exercising today the
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conditions aren't ideal for me in my life it's just not the right time to finally make that big move
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that i've been waiting to make or to take that risk that i know i need to take if that's what you're
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saying to yourself guys i'm going to tell you right now you're telling yourself a fairy tale you're believing
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the myth of average you're lying to yourself there's no other way to say it this is why you feel average
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this is why you don't feel good about yourself and this is why when you look at your life it looks like
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every single person that you knows life and this is why it's hard for you to get up in the morning
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and look in the mirror and say man i love my life i'm happy i'm here i'm proud of what i've done
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if that's the life you really want i'm going to tell you right now you have to stop waiting for
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things to become ideal you have to stop waiting for conditions to be perfect you need to stop
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thinking that one of these days circumstances will be conducive or favorable to your success and
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happiness because i promise you they won't and they never will be so stop expecting the ideal
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and start dealing with the real the real is messy the real is chaos the real doesn't always make a lot
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of sense it's not always fair good things happen to terrible people and terrible things happen to good
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people every single day that's just the way it is in the world we live in you can't grow a garden
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that doesn't have weeds or a zoo that isn't full of animal shit we live in a universe where things get old
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and die nothing is exempt from getting busted or broken it's very very rare for your day to go
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exactly as planned or for everything to fall in place perfectly deals fall through friends get mad at
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you your car's gonna break down your kid's gonna get the flu you name it it's gonna happen life on
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planet earth is not utopia and it never has been and guess what it's never gonna be either so if you
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have it in your head that all the forces in the universe are going to magically come together
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so you can finally do what you want to do so you can finally become who you want to become and you
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can finally live the life that you want to live i'm going to tell you right now you are absolutely
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going to live in a constant state of disappointment you're going to waste your life and when you die
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you're going to die with a lot of regret guys listen to me your commitment to the ideal is destroying
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any chance you have at real success and real happiness that goes with it the most successful
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people the happiest people they know conditions are never perfect they don't deal in what they wish
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things were like they deal in what is they get up and go running even when it's 90 degrees outside and
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they cut a negative family member out of their life even though they know it's going to piss off
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the rest of the family they drive five hours to another city to deal with a disgruntled customer
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even though they've already put in a 12-hour workday they take the leap of faith and leave the job they
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hate even though they know they have to sacrifice their nice home to build the dreams that they have on
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the inside these people don't wait for their schedule to clear they don't wait for the weather to get
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nice they don't wait until they have a thousand percent financial security to start living they
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don't wait until they are more confident and sure in themselves they don't wait until they have the
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energy or the motivation or anything else they scorn the idea of the ideal and they fucking despise it
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they accept the real world as the shit show that it actually is and they don't wait for conditions to
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be perfect they just act and that's how little by little day by day step after intentional
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step exceptional people move closer to becoming their ideal self they move closer to experiencing
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their ideal life this is why they are truly successful and this is why they are truly happy
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till existence