REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 460. Q&AF： Repurposing Negative Energy Into Action, Supplying Your Products To Customers & First Impression To Your Idols

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists take a bite of the lies

00:00:20.940 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today

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00:01:51.800 uh now for those of you that don't know i'm a fairly successful entrepreneur i've done pretty

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00:02:43.660 don't fucking share it i think that's a fair deal i'm cool with that but it's always good so

00:02:48.700 hello you got some oh i got some good ones oh do you oh bro okay i keep that shit on deck

00:02:55.860 all right you know i'm saying yeah what's going on nothing much dude i was asking them before

00:03:00.520 we started rolling but you know that like you know the voice of conscience that we all have

00:03:05.900 uh-huh right like if you could pay to have that voice be anybody else's voice in the world

00:03:11.780 who would yours be man i got a good one who's it's me it's you that's true like like motherfuckers

00:03:21.400 be paying me they ask me to fucking make these little text alerts and say dude send me some

00:03:25.660 motivational shit every in fact write that shit down bro we're gonna do that shit trademark right

00:03:29.960 there yeah you guys subscribe to my text i'll send you a little voice note every morning yeah

00:03:34.040 i mean i got a good one i would pay for you to be my alarm clock i'm just that's no that's what i'm

00:03:38.060 talking about alarm text i think people would dig that shit yeah that's real right like i wake up

00:03:42.800 they they get a little text in the morning it's just me like a 30 second like hey quit fucking around

00:03:47.240 motherfucker you know what i'm saying uh i got a good one bro like my voice and my voice is like

00:03:53.280 pretty mean to me let's be honest uh i think if you have high standards your voice is pretty aggressive

00:03:59.540 um but if it wasn't me you know you know i heard i'm not gonna my dot said this earlier before we

00:04:07.280 started the show he said morgan freeman i agree with that yeah that's a good morgan freeman be a

00:04:10.600 good one yeah um now dj i don't think we should eat that candy yeah that wasn't a good that didn't

00:04:15.960 do it justice but you know this is the point that he do that he fucked up you know right like he's such

00:04:22.560 he's got such a good iconic voice um it's timeless man yeah bro and he's so good like he's so fucking good

00:04:29.540 i guess that's a good thing about ai now now they can just replicate his voice because he's getting

00:04:33.480 pretty old right um that's scary as fuck by the way well dude he's been owed his whole life no i'm

00:04:39.620 saying that they can do that oh yeah yeah that they can do that uh dude i think goggins has a great

00:04:45.700 delivery see i wouldn't want i wouldn't want goggins i'll be honest with you well that's fine yeah but

00:04:49.920 i'm just saying like i'm talking about i'm just talking about iconic like there's a there's a there's like a

00:04:59.540 i don't know what it is a certain tonality or a certain thing that resonates with me when i hear

00:05:03.800 people speak goggins has that whatever that is i feel like i have that for myself yeah um not to

00:05:10.720 toot my own horn but to to you know what i'm saying it is what the fuck it is uh you know i think

00:05:16.260 jacko's got a great delivery i think i think ed's got a great delivery um you know i said umf yeah yeah

00:05:25.540 uh james earl jones has a fucking great delivery yeah you know i'm saying there's a there's a couple

00:05:31.280 other guys out there samuel jackson i like that like i would love to have him i'm gonna have you

00:05:36.900 fucking funny as fuck i'd always be laughing my ass off and he was so funny i don't know just talking

00:05:42.800 for one more second i fucking dare you

00:05:47.760 i think it'd be pretty fucking dope yeah that'd be dope yeah i'm sure i'm sure elon's working on

00:05:54.720 something like that yeah i mean dude you know that's that those are the guys i like who you

00:05:59.780 like yeah i know samuel jackson 100 oh samuel jackson now that i think about you said morgan

00:06:05.220 freeman yeah that's what i'm saying now you're stealing about the first you stole my dot's ideas

00:06:08.980 now you're stealing my shit hey man well uh we are almost at uh black history month so i think it's

00:06:15.300 okay it is mlk day that's what i'm saying all right pass yeah well i just i'll actually take this one

00:06:20.480 while we're at it okay i'm sorry all right um yeah man that was a little racist yeah well i mean

00:06:29.340 if any day you get a pass i think it's today just saying oh fuck dude yeah man everything else good

00:06:35.840 with you yeah man had a good weekend fucking dude my train's going so good i uh i got that infection

00:06:43.120 out of my body bro and like i could just tell my body's changing fast it's got me really excited

00:06:48.560 like i'm really like bro i almost you know this i almost fucking quit and started over yeah i'm like

00:06:53.780 bro i got because those four or five days in a row like they were just so shit like i i was limping

00:06:59.680 dude i think i said this on the show but it took me like two hours to do a 45 minute walk because like

00:07:05.640 normally we do like a walk run interval okay or i put a weighted vest on or a ruck which i haven't

00:07:11.900 done in a long time i'll start doing that again um but like bro i i i could fucking limp like and it

00:07:19.560 was slow and so you know those four or five days like they just felt like a fucking waste to me like

00:07:27.220 i just fucked them off but the truth is now like i'm on the other side of it and i'm like fuck dude

00:07:31.680 i'm really glad i fucking stuck it out yeah bro fucking up that momentum is a big deal right it's

00:07:37.360 like if you can push through it crawling if you have to i mean it's far better than not doing you

00:07:42.360 know i you know there's definitely on day 51 right now 50 today yeah but like but like bro it's there's

00:07:49.060 limits to it right like i was on that limit like if i were like if someone else were asking me like

00:07:55.080 should they do it i would have told them no they should stop but because it was me and i'm just you

00:08:00.580 know i'm probably a little stupid in that way um but now i'm like i'm just glad i pushed through dude

00:08:07.200 because you know that was a fucking that was probably the hardest four day or five day test

00:08:14.200 i've had in any of the phases since i started doing the program uh you know four years ago yeah so

00:08:20.240 it was uh i'm very proud of it well didn't you say to yourself too like that was kind of the point

00:08:26.420 of this round like you wanted to get my mental yeah that's it bro like like dude my my mental was so

00:08:33.920 fucked up because i had went for so long without being able to really train and like training such

00:08:41.800 a big part of my whole my whole power structure like dude because it's something that i i it's like

00:08:48.140 my thing you know what i'm saying and i went over a year with not being able to train properly and

00:08:53.300 really like it fucked me up dude and then during that time i got off my antidepressants which i've

00:09:01.360 been on for a long time and i just figured like fuck it if it's already fucking storming what's

00:09:06.340 what's a few more fucking raindrops you know what i'm saying right and i'm like fuck i'm just rip the

00:09:10.220 all this shit off of me and i fucking went through it and now that i'm like on the other side of all

00:09:14.760 that and i've pushed through that fucking shit i'm super fucking appreciative and like excited about

00:09:20.020 it and like i feel it's the best i felt mentally since i was injured in september of 2021 um

00:09:27.340 so i mean it was good i you know the weekend was good i didn't do shit other than train and eat and

00:09:32.720 fucking read yeah um i've been reading a lot more lately uh i've been reading you know not just my 10

00:09:39.520 pages 10 pages is the minimum for me yeah so like like that's something that i do regardless but

00:09:46.420 i've been reading up to 50 60 70 pages a day um pretty consistently for the last couple weeks

00:09:53.780 and it like bro i just feel much better like the the reading part is so underrated bro like it's so

00:10:02.180 underrated in terms of what it does for your brain and how it uh it's your first fucking time

00:10:08.140 yeah things fucking off first fucking podcast bro uh i think the reading thing is so underrated

00:10:15.640 because you know it gives at least for me man like it makes my brain operate in a completely

00:10:22.080 different way it makes my brain operate in a much more productive way uh i have much more creativity

00:10:28.660 i have much less anxiety it makes me feel like i'm moving forward instead of like even though i'm just

00:10:35.340 reading no i'm coming up with ideas and like new things and thoughts and bro it just makes me feel

00:10:41.400 fucking that much better yeah we were talking about the other day like i've even tried didn't we talk

00:10:45.080 about this on the show the other day no i think we were just walking i think we talked about it too

00:10:48.760 on the show yeah the other day we were talking i'm hot on it right now yeah even when i find myself

00:10:54.180 like bored i find myself like instead of getting back on my phone or something like that just picking

00:10:58.100 my book up dude i really think there's a lot to that man you know i i fucking am as guilty as

00:11:03.460 anybody about scrolling right like i want to see what's going on and especially with us doing the

00:11:08.520 cti and the current event stuff you know i'm always trying to dig out what what the fuck is going on

00:11:13.940 and uh bro since i've really kicked my reading up it's just brought my level of anxiety way the

00:11:20.680 fuck down and it's been uh it's been nice man yeah for sure makes me remember like that i actually

00:11:26.500 have a brain and that it works okay yeah i asked myself like why did that fuck like bro because in

00:11:30.640 school i hated reading yeah i'm trying to like figure out like why i hated reading i don't know

00:11:34.800 if it was because of like how structured it was probably the same reason you hated working out

00:11:38.280 and running because you were made to do it yeah i must say because of how structured it was yeah

00:11:42.020 yeah you know i don't like running bro because like people always tease me and they're like well

00:11:47.320 you should start running it's so fucking amazing yeah but like bro you gotta understand y'all listen

00:11:52.340 to me because i talk a lot of shit right now imagine me in high school talking shit okay like i i i was

00:12:00.100 always running like it was always like frisella fucking take a lap bro it's a punishment yes and

00:12:05.940 like so dude it's just so ingrained in me i know that's not an excuse but the truth is i don't fucking

00:12:10.620 like it it's not conducive to the body type i want it's not something that i really want to conquer at

00:12:16.600 this point in my life and i have no desire to do it so i don't do it uh the most running i do is when

00:12:22.400 we do our little our little intervals and that's enough for me man you know um well i'm about to shit my

00:12:28.280 pants i'll start running that's true remember that time remember that one time we had to call

00:12:33.660 it back up bro one time me and dj both had to shit our pants so bad we were fucking on cardio we had

00:12:39.580 to call chris to come get us and then we had to redo cardio we had to call chris to come fuck we

00:12:44.000 were over at green park bro we were coming up that long ass hill and bro we were like duck walking up

00:12:48.840 the hill bro like holding our ass together both of us we probably chris saved us that day bro

00:12:53.860 yeah a hundred percent chance i would have shit my pants mvp goes a hundred percent like what this

00:13:00.480 this was like the fucking storm of the century bro was right there just brewing oh yeah like it was

00:13:07.020 coming dude there was nothing i could do we had to call we had to call 9-1-1 we need emergency

00:13:13.340 extraction bro it had never been that bad no but that was the day that i started carrying an extra

00:13:21.320 pack of underwear in my fucking gym bag yeah that's real that's real with wet we needed it

00:13:25.800 oh man there's so many so many bad times from them anyway yeah yeah i got some good ones i know you do

00:13:33.880 let's knock these out man uh any question number one i'm glad we didn't shit ourselves i'm glad that

00:13:40.160 we got more than one fucking bathroom here oh my god that was that was the worst part is getting

00:13:46.340 there and then you can't go no bro bro we used to have a fuck the dumpsters up bro no dude we used

00:13:51.560 to have a one minute rule like a one minute you could only use the bathroom for one minute at maximum

00:13:55.760 like you you had to go in if you were in there for more than one minute bro i whoever was in they

00:14:00.540 were beating on the door like one minute you had a one minute take a shit oh man i wouldn't have

00:14:05.540 fired oh you yeah because you know i'm bad yeah i know i know i don't know what you're doing in

00:14:09.980 there but it fucking takes a long time all right man fucking magnesium to your diet bro it's fiber

00:14:17.680 yeah my fiber is getting up there now yeah it still takes a minute though that's my peace time man

00:14:24.000 that's like yeah i gather myself you know i'm saying there must be a lot to gather yeah i mean

00:14:29.700 you're in there for a long fucking time man listen you gotta set you gotta set the set the space

00:14:34.480 you gotta like light candles in there and shit all right man i read dj's bathroom at home has

00:14:42.500 like fucking candles in it and shit it does oh i fuck no i mean like romance candles bro like he

00:14:49.340 turns the lights off lights the candles i gotta lock the door at my house you know he does some weird

00:14:53.860 ass shit too bro you know he's in there listening to some classical shit some kini g oh yeah i guarantee

00:14:58.660 it guarantee it dj's his own man hey man that's one of the things i love about you bro

00:15:04.100 gotta get it done yeah gotta get it done all right any question number one people are tired

00:15:09.400 of us talking shit let's do the fucking show about shit yeah any question number one i'm currently at

00:15:16.340 my lowest point that i've ever been i'm 27 i found out my wife is cheating on me my mom got cancer last

00:15:22.280 month and i've been hustling a nine to five barely able to pay bills i'm managing a startup business

00:15:27.720 with little cash flow a lot going on there yeah live hard taught me better than to play the victim

00:15:33.760 um but i'm currently experiencing a lot of anger and i don't know how to use that to my advantage

00:15:38.640 besides in my workouts how can i repurpose my negative energy into action to become unstoppable

00:15:43.820 man you know i think the answer to this question is is universal okay um every single person has gone

00:15:55.860 through these situations maybe not the exact same situation but we've all been betrayed we've all had

00:16:02.180 situations where things weren't going our way um we've all been disappointed we've all struggled

00:16:08.240 and a lot of people you know are wired many different ways okay and and some people you know

00:16:17.120 they let these things like hammer them down um to a low point and they stay there and they never

00:16:24.200 recover bro and this becomes the story of their life you know oh this happened this happened and this

00:16:30.240 happened and then like for 70 years they fucking tell that story and they don't do anything

00:16:35.820 and um the way i've always dealt with it dude like always always always and like you know

00:16:42.820 there's pluses and minuses to this but the way i've always dealt it is fuck you and i've always put

00:16:50.440 i've always taken like people that don't believe in me people that fuck me over people that fuck with

00:16:55.120 me you know people who have done bad shit to me i mean bro i could list i could list a list a mile

00:17:03.320 long of the fucked up shit that happened to me especially the first 12 years of business where

00:17:08.200 it looked like i was a complete fucking failure like i'm talking about how i was treated by women

00:17:12.920 um how i was treated by friends how i was treated by family i could go on and on and on and and i don't

00:17:21.660 like digging up dirt but the way that i always dealt with that was like fuck you bro i'm gonna

00:17:26.000 fucking show you okay and real talk and you know this is what it is but i was scrolling instagram the

00:17:34.420 other day and i saw one of my exes that was one of the ones that did some fucked up shit to me

00:17:39.280 and she's in a picture with a dude it's like 70 years old right it made me fucking smile i'm like

00:17:45.520 fuck you okay so it is what the fuck it is and i took the fuck you and i went out and i fucking did

00:17:53.460 everything that i could to make myself be a person that they look back at in their life at some point

00:18:00.660 in time and say man i wish i wouldn't have fucked with that dude i wish i hadn't a fucking not

00:18:04.780 believe in that dude i wish i hadn't hurt that dude i wish i hadn't treat him so poorly i wish i

00:18:09.280 hadn't fucked him over and that's that's what i've done i just took all the fucking negative

00:18:14.000 and i use it and pivoted into productive action i worked that much harder i worked that much longer

00:18:19.140 i put a massive chip on my shoulder that's still there now you may not hear it as much like you did

00:18:24.940 back in the old mf ceo days but it's still fucking there bro like when people fuck with me or say

00:18:30.280 shit about like i see the people i see shit that people say about me and i see the fuck like bro i

00:18:35.380 just take all that shit i gather it the fuck up i put it right up here on my shoulder and and dude i

00:18:40.880 just say fuck you we'll fucking see yeah and and dude that's never led me wrong now now people will

00:18:47.520 argue and they will say well that creates a situation where you're always angry and that is true

00:18:53.120 you fucking are angry a lot of the time but at the end of the day bro i get where i wanted to go

00:18:59.140 i did what i need to do i'm doing what i need to do and my life is so much better off because of

00:19:03.980 it and so what you have to learn as you mature is to separate the feet it's almost like you're

00:19:10.160 pretending to be angry like like when i was younger and this shit happened i was fucking angry like i

00:19:16.060 was like fuck you but now i'm to a point now where it's like everything kind of speaks for itself

00:19:20.320 right so like i i i still feel that way and i still act that way but emotionally it doesn't

00:19:28.460 disturb me as bad because i already know i'm gonna win and so my advice to this person who's

00:19:33.860 going through this hard time bro is just to realize like hey man you need to take this energy for what

00:19:38.720 the fuck it is and let it drive you forward and you're gonna have people that tell you you need

00:19:44.060 to go to therapy maybe you do i don't fucking know there's value in it for sure but not at the

00:19:51.520 mass scale that's like today you know everybody's a victim everybody has everything wrong with

00:19:56.620 everybody needs fucking lifetime therapy with no like that's not what i'm saying you it might be

00:20:02.420 so rough that you need to talk to some people totally get it but after that make it your mission

00:20:08.220 in life to shove it down these motherfuckers throats so fucking hard that they fucking choke

00:20:13.100 make it so that when they fucking look at you and they see you five years from now down the road

00:20:18.220 and you walk into a fucking restaurant they won't even look at you they'll look the other way or

00:20:22.460 they'll look at the ground because they are so fucking embarrassed of what they did or how

00:20:26.100 they treated you or what the fuck they said to you or how they tried to fuck with you that they

00:20:30.700 are embarrassed about what they did and where you went with it so we're gonna have these hard

00:20:37.020 things happen we're gonna have negative things happen we're gonna have things that are frustrating

00:20:40.920 happen nobody is immune to that how we respond to that ultimately dictates our entire lives and how

00:20:48.880 i respond to this and other people may disagree but this is just how the fuck i'm wired

00:20:53.180 is i take that shit and i say fuck you motherfucker i will fucking show you and i do and i show them

00:20:59.980 every fucking day and that's i make it my mission in life well that's not a very good i don't know

00:21:04.220 man a lot of people get fucking their lives improved quite a bit from this mentality from

00:21:08.520 you know 75 hard millions of fucking people done 75 hard how many people have we transformed through

00:21:15.100 our companies millions of fucking people bro you know what i'm saying like so stemming from proving

00:21:20.560 yes yes and so you have these people out there that are do-gooders and they fucking want to feel

00:21:25.680 good about everything some things you just can't feel good about some things you just can't feel

00:21:30.140 good about bro some things you just have to show motherfuckers and remind them who the fuck you are

00:21:34.700 and i'm not saying go in their face or beat their ass or fucking fuck i'm saying become so fucking great

00:21:40.800 and so undeniably fucking great at what it is that you do that they end up regretting every single

00:21:47.900 fucking thing that they did and they will they will do that they will do that so that's how i

00:21:54.220 would deal with it man i would say hey life gave me a spoonful of shit i'm gonna fucking eat it but

00:21:59.640 i guarantee you dude i'm gonna let that fuel me into the fucking next level of whatever it is i'm

00:22:03.400 gonna be i would concentrate on your fucking business bro i would i would understand something

00:22:08.100 very real and here it is it's just you it's just you all these people in your life your friends your

00:22:17.840 fucking family your fucking significant other you're this or that you're this those people are

00:22:22.180 all going to disappoint you at some point in your life so you might as well pour into something that

00:22:26.760 will secure your future and secure who the fuck you're going to be and take care of you so that

00:22:32.000 you're not fucking wrecked when these people fuck with you because bro i'm gonna be real with you

00:22:36.920 this ain't the last time that's going to happen it's going to happen again and it's going to

00:22:41.420 happen again after that and it's going to happen again after that bro i've been fucked over so many

00:22:45.820 fucking times in business i do i i am the fucking nicest most generous fucking human being biggest

00:22:52.480 heart yeah and dude people take advantage of it i i really empathize for that person because bro i've

00:22:58.920 had those situations man you know i had a girl fucking leave me after fucking five years to be with a

00:23:04.680 dude it was fucking at the time he was 45 we were like 20 fucking four okay so like and it's and i

00:23:15.300 was told right to my face that you know i didn't i didn't wasn't taking my life serious i wasn't

00:23:19.940 fucking good enough you know things weren't going the way that i was that you know i was fucking just

00:23:25.100 starting dude right right you know i'm saying and it was embarrassing as fucking embarrassed me my

00:23:30.380 everybody fucking saw it everybody knew like and here i am okay and you guys think oh well it sounds

00:23:38.180 like you're still bitter about it you're fucking right i am i remember it every fucking day every

00:23:42.280 fucking time i don't want to do shit i think about all those people i think about a long line of

00:23:46.720 motherfuckers to fuck with me and i fucking do everything i can to prove them the fuck wrong for

00:23:51.420 people that like think oh fuck i need motivation i mean like bro that's an infinite amount of

00:23:55.100 motivation there that's what i'm saying yeah like you guys searching for all these fucking feel good

00:23:59.180 tricks you got them already you got a whole pile of shit in your life that you could be motivated

00:24:03.520 about right now you're just not using it properly you know negative energy and positive energy are

00:24:09.440 energy it just depends on how you use it i personally think that negative energy is far more powerful than

00:24:14.740 positive energy i think you get far for far you get much further down the road

00:24:21.560 with fuck you than you do with feel good shit i i've everybody i know that's successful is like

00:24:28.460 that i mean it hasn't listen bro otherwise either listen listen you guys all know who i'm friends

00:24:34.660 with take the guys that put out the only positive shit you want to talk about motherfuckers that got

00:24:41.780 fucking dark sides that say fuck you behind closed doors they all got it all of them every single one

00:24:49.940 of them all the dudes i talk about all the dudes you see me roll with all my friends all my peers

00:24:55.560 some of them might present themselves very positively some of them might present themselves a little bit

00:25:01.160 more like i do uh but i'm telling you you get them behind closed doors bro they got a long list of

00:25:07.300 motherfuckers to shove shit down their fucking throats we're trying to fuck them over and see what

00:25:10.980 happens every single fucking one of them every single fucking one of them it's a common it's a

00:25:16.300 commonality and high achieving individuals so bro you just got a gift this you got a gift you got a

00:25:22.380 gift of the next 20 years of fucking energy to fucking bust ass i'd use it andy question number two

00:25:29.640 uh andy i run a service business providing lawn care cutting trimming etc and we're doing really well

00:25:36.380 most of my online content is helping people with their lawn problems and recommending what products

00:25:41.500 they can use on their yard to help them solve their problems but when people ask me where to

00:25:47.720 buy products from i always refer them to other businesses am i missing an opportunity to be

00:25:53.060 supplying these products myself or am i better to just focus on what i do and refer them to a trusted

00:25:59.000 vendor both the answer is both right now it's probably best that you concentrate on what it is that you do

00:26:07.160 and then what you should how you should think about this is i'm going to be of service to this customer

00:26:13.600 no matter what okay that means you're going to recommend what you believe to be the best possible

00:26:19.140 product you're not going to oversell you're not going to say hey you need this and this and this and

00:26:24.100 this and this if you see a ball patch in your yard you're going to say hey mr homeowner come out

00:26:29.360 here see this patch here here's what i can do to fix this this is what it would take and and actually

00:26:34.640 educate them show them because when you start to educate people and teach them things that they

00:26:38.860 don't know and then they validate that through real world experience right like your your homeowner

00:26:44.220 sees that this is i don't know and he goes back inside he gets on the google and he fucking starts

00:26:49.420 looking the shit up and he's like oh that's true now all of a sudden dude that guy's starting to trust

00:26:54.420 you okay it's very important not to oversell in these scenarios so if you only recommend when they need it

00:27:01.460 and you only work to serve their best interests and you do not oversell what will happen here and

00:27:08.440 you look to solve their problems what will happen over time is you will get a tremendous amount of

00:27:12.320 word of mouth when you start to get this tremendous amount of word of mouth it would be a good idea for

00:27:17.340 you to think about expanding your lawn care business from something that you are trading labor for money

00:27:25.820 and start to trade product for money okay that means you could create a vertical inside this lawn care

00:27:31.440 business where you're creating your own fertilizer your own seed your own chemicals your own everything

00:27:37.320 whatever you need to do this okay but the principles need to remain the same when you start to do that

00:27:43.180 meaning when you offer these things okay you should go offer them only when they're needed

00:27:50.200 you should not oversell them you shouldn't be because this is where people fuck up their businesses

00:27:54.660 they start to get a little bit of money they start to get a little bit of traction and then they start

00:27:59.300 seeing their customers as like uh you know a money tree that they're going to fucking pull money out

00:28:04.860 of when in reality if you would just continue the same mentality of solving the customer's problems

00:28:10.020 the best that you know how they will buy from you because you are that person all right so your

00:28:15.620 reputation and your word of mouth is the most important here the quality of your work

00:28:19.100 and then what i would do is expand out into these verticals as you go it's a tremendous way for you

00:28:24.580 to potentially become the biggest lawn care company that in the world you know what i'm saying like

00:28:30.720 this is very similar to how we did what we do yeah okay we started with retail stores um then when we got

00:28:38.460 to a point 10 years in we were able to start you know we learned about things we learned about what the

00:28:43.860 market needed we started our own company then when people would come in we didn't necessarily just

00:28:48.900 push them onto our own shit we gave them options so like whenever you um go to these people's with

00:28:55.600 your own product you could be like yeah man this could be uh you know you could use scott's you could

00:29:00.500 use this you could use that whatever the brands are we also have our own brand right here it's really

00:29:05.920 good and show the comparison and then still offer the other products but all for yours as well and

00:29:11.780 that way it's not like just just thing where you're trying to push you see what i'm saying

00:29:15.720 and because you already have an insight on the yeah you know what the other products are good

00:29:19.460 or bad right what they're missing yeah yeah so this is a great way to build a tremendously large

00:29:24.240 business um from just doing the right thing and i think that you know people really fuck this up man

00:29:30.980 because they get a little bit of traction and they all of a sudden they start trying to oversell

00:29:34.860 they start trying to over offer they start trying to solve problems that don't really exist right

00:29:39.780 this would be the equivalent of someone going into valvoline and getting a 700 oil change

00:29:45.400 like like there's memes about it right right like you have to go into valvoline and you have to say

00:29:51.160 no like in a rude way to get them to stop is valvoline really bad is it that bad bro all those oil

00:29:59.160 change places for the most part like and maybe maybe not valvoline maybe i'm picking on them

00:30:04.460 but every oil change place that i've been to yeah has been that way right it's been pressure

00:30:10.840 pressure pressure pressure pressure about a bunch of shit that i don't really know that much about

00:30:15.200 knowing i know a lot about how to drive cars i don't know a whole lot of shit about actually

00:30:19.660 building cars or the things that go on like i'm ignorant of some of those things and so when you

00:30:25.300 go in there and and by the way this is a great exercise for you if you're in business go in somewhere

00:30:31.020 that you don't know anything about and watch how they treat you okay because you'll learn a lot

00:30:36.140 about your own business because what happens like if you go to like one of these oil change places

00:30:40.680 right and they're saying oh you need this you need this you need this you need this and you have no

00:30:44.860 fucking idea now you start feeling like you're getting sold and the last thing you ever want to

00:30:50.040 do is go back to that oil change place right this is how people will feel about your grass business

00:30:55.100 too if you don't handle it properly so it's very very important that you do the right thing

00:31:00.780 you offer the proper solutions you offer options with those solutions you educate and educate means

00:31:07.820 tell the truth teach them something they didn't know which they will go validate and start to trust and

00:31:13.900 so you could build this whole machine based on these concepts so i think that for this guy or girl whoever

00:31:20.500 asked this question i think that you you you're going to get where you want to go you're already

00:31:26.520 thinking about it dude or you wouldn't ask yeah so do i think you're missing opportunity by not having

00:31:31.560 your own maybe not yet i think you should grow into having your own by offering the best product for

00:31:38.140 everybody else and then when you have an opportunity to make a product of your own you make the best one

00:31:43.520 you make it better than the other guys okay so now it's actually the right solution

00:31:47.760 so it's not rocket science dude it's just called doing the right thing it's ethical business practices

00:31:53.900 and most people just don't do it that's why it stands out so much

00:31:57.780 well guys andy our third and final question question number three i like this one here

00:32:06.080 andy i'm 20 years old and i want to ask you what's the best way to make the best mind-blowing

00:32:14.620 first impression or introduction when meeting someone way above you on that success ladder

00:32:18.980 well look man i don't think it's i don't think it's about that i don't think it's about a one-time

00:32:29.460 introduction i think if you're trying to network with someone who's far above you it's important

00:32:34.480 for you first of all don't be a fucking like don't don't be a fan boy okay like a psycho like

00:32:43.700 you're gonna wear my fucking skin okay but also don't be someone who tries to present themselves

00:32:49.420 as someone who's not that way so like if you're a fan okay yeah there's like a fine middle that you

00:32:54.480 want to ride yeah if you're a fan acknowledge that you're a fan and then be a normal dude

00:32:58.720 it'd be cool like here's the thing all these people that you look up to bro they're all

00:33:02.500 fucking normal motherfuckers like they're all looking around being like fuck dude why do all

00:33:06.940 these people have such an interest in what i have to say or do like this is pretty cool but like

00:33:11.100 it's kind of weird too so you got to understand like it just like it would be weird for you if

00:33:15.460 everybody you know that you fucking knew came up to you and was like holy fuck bro it's you

00:33:20.180 like it's weird right like even if you're used to it like this is why you see celebrities go into

00:33:25.360 hiding and shit i couldn't imagine being someone like the fucking rock right who everybody on the

00:33:30.880 planet fucking understands and knows and likes you know for the most part so like like you got to

00:33:37.420 understand like dude the fame thing and the recognition thing is really weird for people

00:33:42.120 even if you're used to it it's fucking weird so don't make it weirder you know what i'm saying

00:33:46.500 like just realize that these are normal people just like you that have done some things that you just

00:33:53.060 haven't done yet that's elevate and then you know and then another thing is is like so that's the first

00:33:58.140 thing don't make it fucking weird all right second thing don't don't uh do the thing like where it's

00:34:04.260 like oh i'm not trying to kiss your ass i'm not trying to suck your dick like bro that's an

00:34:08.940 automatic like i will never talk to you yeah for the reasons that we said in the other show i don't

00:34:14.740 remember what show that was uh but maybe you could plug it in here and say you know what episode that

00:34:19.200 was but the but the point is don't do that shit either so you want to ride the middle just be a

00:34:24.000 normal fucking human be respectful say thank you for what you do i really appreciate it help me this

00:34:28.320 way you know and then if you want to build a relationship with that person um you know figure

00:34:35.400 out a way that you can provide value figure out a way that you can start to uh contribute to what

00:34:40.300 it is they're working on for example i have this guy uh who found me on instagram i don't fucking know

00:34:45.620 him from anybody and he started taking my podcast on his own without me fucking saying shit and not

00:34:52.740 asking for anything he started taking my podcasts and cutting them into reels okay sending me the link

00:34:59.980 every single day for free broke down the whole show into reels okay just to show that he could do it

00:35:08.280 right and now we we've had a couple calls with him i think we're going to do some stuff with him but

00:35:13.060 the point is this dude made an opportunity for himself because he took initiative to actually help

00:35:17.240 us do some things and while we haven't used any of his reels we have used the format of his reels

00:35:22.600 and other content that helped gave us a guy because he's actually pretty fucking good at it

00:35:26.320 so provide value what are you good at what can you do how can you help you know what i'm saying

00:35:32.440 those things go a long way um and then you know spread the good word you know when when when you see

00:35:39.340 a conversation happening about these people because let me tell you something dude just because people

00:35:44.020 don't comment or like on instagram doesn't mean they're not reading shit okay so like you know if

00:35:50.380 you're like if you see someone dogging out your fucking homie that you fucking look up to get in

00:35:55.200 there and fucking stand up for him get in there and fucking help him out or if you see someone uh who

00:36:00.180 did really good with something like dude support that person like those things matter because they're

00:36:04.800 seen like i promise you bro gary v reads all the shit that's out there i read all the shit that's out

00:36:10.700 there ed reads all the shit that's out there in fact i know we do because we all talk about it behind

00:36:14.900 closed doors and we have laughs about it but the point is you also recognize those people who jump

00:36:19.940 in those conversations and have your fucking back and support you when you're not when they don't

00:36:24.360 even think you're looking bro that's a great way to get recognized yeah there's all kinds of ways bro

00:36:28.540 you just got to be creative and you got to understand like there's so many people that come to people who

00:36:33.740 are uh let's just say a few notches more up the ladder than you are offering all these solutions that it

00:36:39.160 doesn't it becomes a it becomes like i like what people say to me i do not value like at all like

00:36:45.720 like like like if this same guy when i'm talking about the reels right now if he would have came to

00:36:49.840 me and said hey andy i could do all this shit and it's this much a month i would have been like cool

00:36:53.820 bro and i would have fucking moved the fuck on but because he displayed it because he showed it to

00:36:59.440 me action yeah and he was willing to do so for 30 days before even having a conversation like bro he

00:37:04.760 didn't even want to have a conversation about it he's like i'm doing this for 30 days

00:37:08.040 and i'm like nah bro you know he did it for like two weeks and we started having a conversation

00:37:12.540 but like the point is is that's how you get opportunity that's how you create opportunity

00:37:17.460 for yourself now i'm not saying we're gonna do a whole bunch of shit with this i don't know what

00:37:21.200 we're gonna do but the point is it got him an interview it got him a conversation it got him

00:37:26.700 some good dialogue i know this dude's cool as fuck now i trust him i think he's cool got him way more

00:37:31.320 than just talking with that's it yeah that's it that's real and so like dude you have to look for

00:37:35.760 opportunities and if you don't have a skill set to display value think about how you could start

00:37:41.480 creating that for someone what can you do to help someone with what they're doing what can you do

00:37:47.080 like for example like i like the people who share my shit religiously i fucking know who they are

00:37:53.860 oh yeah i know who we talk about oh yeah i know who the fuck they are you know i'm saying like

00:37:58.440 motherfuckers pay the fee every single fucking day bro i know who the fuck they are not all of them

00:38:02.460 but a lot of them you know you have to start looking for ways to differentiate and and stand

00:38:07.700 out that aren't just um you know you know i'm steve i fucking love what you do i'd love to work with

00:38:15.120 you steve what do you do man i don't know i'll do anything like that's not that's that's not gonna

00:38:20.940 bro i appreciate that i appreciate that but that's not truly going to get you the opportunities you're

00:38:27.020 looking for okay and then also another thing is too dude and this is something that young people

00:38:32.280 have a really hard time with you have to be willing to do shit for free sometimes sometimes for a long

00:38:37.700 time before you get recognized uh by the way you're sitting next to one of them who figured that the

00:38:42.220 fuck out that dude right there okay fucking z sean was fucking doing he runs the priscilla fans page

00:38:50.040 that ain't my page that's fucking his page and he had that page before he fucking came here to work

00:38:54.560 for me all right and he'd make up he'd do the same thing this other guy did he'd make up content he'd

00:39:00.860 do shit and eventually like after a long time i he kept doing it i'm like hey bro would you like to

00:39:06.780 like do some stuff with us you know like it only makes sense if you enjoy it that much and you're that

00:39:12.300 good at it you should come here be on the team and here he is sitting right next to you he's been on

00:39:15.700 the podcast did you ever think you were going to be on the podcast ever never yeah and that happened

00:39:21.580 just because he was willing to do shit for free and pay the dues yeah and honestly bro like i don't

00:39:27.400 even know like dude you could speak the truth here because i don't even know if you were like

00:39:31.240 yes that's something i always bring up whenever uh the story comes up that i was hired and he didn't

00:39:37.280 know anything about me at all like did you have a plan that this is how you're going to get in with

00:39:40.760 me like did you play me bro all right time to go let's go yeah yeah so when i actually when i

00:39:48.420 started posting i had no idea about how the job was and how things worked here so i legit did not

00:39:54.480 think i was able enough to do the job at all so now you figured out we're just a bunch of idiots

00:39:59.480 yeah so when i started i started completely out of interest there was no idea behind getting a job

00:40:06.400 or anything like that i did out of interest and i still do it i still run that page yeah yes i clearly

00:40:12.080 remember i i clearly remember when you asked me to come work for you that time you didn't know

00:40:17.420 anything about me so you asked my name my age my gender where i lived what did i do for a living

00:40:23.680 and everything about me and that's how the process started so how do you feel about me hiring you only

00:40:30.080 because you're in yeah pretty racist but good yeah i ain't complaining bro real real talk dude i felt

00:40:40.460 obligated to offer you the opportunity after all that time like i felt like okay well here's this young

00:40:45.500 dude who's putting in all this time he's doing it for free you know i i have a need i'm gonna i'm

00:40:53.380 gonna offer him the opportunity and that's the shit that's that's how you get it man like i didn't even

00:40:58.480 i never even met this dude like he's just some dude on the end i don't even know what the fuck you

00:41:02.060 look like or what he i didn't know shit about him i'm just like here's this person making content

00:41:07.340 i'm dm'ing him i didn't know i didn't even know your name bro you know i'm saying so it's about

00:41:12.840 what you do not what you say that's yeah and bro if you don't have anything to offer you should start

00:41:16.620 learning about things that you could offer like do you see a week like i had a guy recently

00:41:20.460 recognize that i don't do twitter okay so he fucking sent me a uh a bunch of shit like now this is sample

00:41:29.740 tweets okay but these are sample tweets that he took out of transcribing my show to show that he

00:41:36.300 could do the tweets straight off my contents my content he would just post it that's another guy

00:41:41.720 like i'll probably end up working with this dude because guess what i don't have the bandwidth to

00:41:45.560 operate twitter right i barely got the bandwidth to fucking think right you know what i'm saying so

00:41:50.740 uh if you get creative dude you could get close to almost anybody like that's the thing it's like

00:41:57.220 the person that you look up to or the people that you look up to they're the the boundary of

00:42:02.100 you actually working with that person is much lower than what you realize like because everybody

00:42:08.260 else is just going to talk about it bro yes and not only that there's very few people willing to

00:42:12.220 take initiative there's very few people willing to fucking show that they are willing to work

00:42:16.380 for free to to like display what they can do and those things are valued by people if they're not

00:42:22.620 a piece of shit now i'm sure there's some people out there that will take advantage of that forever

00:42:27.180 and they will be happy that to not pay you or offer you something but i'm i think that's the minority

00:42:33.220 of people yeah that's you know a lot of people won't take the action because they feel like

00:42:37.440 everybody's like that but i really truly believe that like there's such a scarcity of help that

00:42:44.420 truly cares about what it is people are trying to do that when you could display some true interest

00:42:49.380 and display some true ability uh or just even some critical thinking identifying how to get better

00:42:54.800 and these things those things can pay off in massive amounts guys andy that was three yeah

00:43:00.540 don't pay the fee yeah don't be a hoe share the show

00:43:03.300 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in

00:43:10.280 the code bad bitch booted slow got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - January 18, 2023

460. Q&AF： Repurposing Negative Energy Into Action, Supplying Your Products To Customers & First Impression To Your Idols

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