REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 19, 2020


48. The Universal Law That Leads To Success

Topics
depression struggles fighting negative thoughts intent
Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
Andy Ed Milet Mike
47. Rules Young Entrepreneurs MUST Follow 49. The Complacency Trap

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12 minutes

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178.39

Word count

2,281

Sentence count

191

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In this episode, I talk about my struggles with anxiety and depression, and why you should be working on yourself to get better at managing your mental health. I also talk about how you can improve your productivity and productivity by focusing on the things you can control.

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00:00:00.000 Yo guys, it's Andy and this is the show for the realistic about it, the lies, the fakeness 0.99
00:00:18.200 and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality. 0.78
00:00:22.640 Hey guys, you might be wondering after the last short podcast, what do we call that one? 0.94
00:00:32.240 What do we call that one, Madat?
00:00:34.160 Refresh my memory.
00:00:35.740 It was number 47 and we called it Rules Young Entrepreneurs Must Follow, okay?
00:00:46.100 And it got me thinking, this is such a good topic for you guys, but I purposefully left
00:00:52.280 Oh, I forgot all the housekeeping stuff.
00:00:53.900 Eh, forget it. 0.97
00:00:54.440 You guys fucking know what to do if you like the show. 0.97
00:00:56.940 Hey, I left off a point on that on purpose and the reason I did was because this point 0.97
00:01:02.500 that I'm about to cover with you is more important than all the other points, all right?
00:01:07.360 And it deserves its own attention.
00:01:09.500 Now, as I mentioned in episode number 47, a lot of people are reaching out to me and they're 0.64
00:01:15.400 saying, Andy, dude, I'm fucking down, bro.
00:01:17.920 Like, what is going on? 0.96
00:01:19.480 I'm, I'm, I feel like I'm depressed.
00:01:21.720 I'm in the field of anxiety.
00:01:23.000 I don't know what to do.
00:01:24.300 And I offered some solutions to that.
00:01:26.980 Um, in the beginning of that podcast where we talked about getting focused on yourself.
00:01:30.940 I let you guys know a little bit about what I'm doing with 75 hard and how that's affecting,
00:01:35.600 you know, my mental health.
00:01:37.320 And if you're just listening, you know, I'm very open with my mental health.
00:01:41.380 Uh, I've struggled with depression for 20 plus years.
00:01:44.260 Uh, I've been on and off different medications.
00:01:47.760 Um, it's something I'm not ashamed of.
00:01:50.460 And I don't think anybody should be ashamed of at all.
00:01:52.420 Uh, there's this fake shame around, you know, battling things mentally that people have when
00:01:58.060 in reality, there's so many more people that have these struggles and, and I can see it
00:02:02.000 in my DMS, right?
00:02:02.920 So I just want to offer what I think is the biggest piece of advice I can offer you guys
00:02:09.840 in addition to focusing on what you can control.
00:02:14.460 Okay.
00:02:14.860 So, you know, this is more towards the intro.
00:02:17.860 I think I talked about on the beginning of 47.
00:02:20.080 Is that right?
00:02:20.740 Where I talked about 75 hard?
00:02:22.700 Yeah.
00:02:23.120 The beginning.
00:02:23.800 So I'm talking to a couple of dudes off, off Mike here.
00:02:26.500 Um, but I went through and, you know, I, I, I've been dealing with these things.
00:02:32.960 And this whole time the world's been like in chaos, I've literally been feeling better
00:02:39.000 and better and better.
00:02:40.020 It almost makes me feel bad for how good I feel.
00:02:42.500 But the truth is I've been doing the work on me.
00:02:45.180 I've been controlling what I can control.
00:02:47.100 I've been controlling what I put in my mouth.
00:02:49.440 I've been controlling what I put in my head.
00:02:51.340 I've been controlling how I work out.
00:02:54.080 I've been controlling all of the things that I can actually control.
00:02:57.080 Am I making my phone calls?
00:02:58.340 Am I sending my emails?
00:02:59.400 Am I doing my work?
00:03:00.400 And that's how I'm getting through this time mentally, guys.
00:03:03.500 This is a challenging time for anybody, but I want to address something.
00:03:09.020 In addition to all of those things that we've always talked about, you know, controlling
00:03:12.960 what you could control.
00:03:13.900 I want to give you guys something that I think is really important.
00:03:17.800 Not only to just your, your personal happiness, but also your success.
00:03:22.420 All right.
00:03:23.120 And that's intent.
00:03:24.560 Now, a lot of people right now, you know, they say things like you guys have followed
00:03:30.040 me on Instagram.
00:03:31.000 You know, I make a post considerably often that says, Hey, I want you to win.
00:03:36.520 Even if you don't want me to win, I want you to win.
00:03:39.900 Okay.
00:03:40.260 And a lot of people are saying that's kind of stuff, right?
00:03:42.720 They're putting out positive things.
00:03:44.620 They're saying the, they're saying the right things.
00:03:47.560 They're, they're doing the right things.
00:03:49.600 They're smiling.
00:03:50.400 They're being happy.
00:03:51.120 They're being positive, but they can't figure out why it's not materializing for them.
00:03:56.160 And I'm going to tell you why.
00:03:57.780 And I'm also going to go into depth why this is so beneficial to you.
00:04:01.620 The reason is the reason things aren't coming together for you is because the universe,
00:04:06.600 and this is obviously my opinion.
00:04:08.700 All right.
00:04:09.640 But, and from what I've gathered in my life experience and the books I've read and what
00:04:15.220 I've learned and how I see it working, which is really the basis of this whole show.
00:04:21.100 What I've learned is that the universe doesn't care what you say.
00:04:27.120 It cares about what your intent is.
00:04:30.840 So if you're going around and you're feeling anxious and you're feeling frustrated and you're
00:04:36.300 feeling angry and things aren't materializing for you, I want to give you a hack that is
00:04:42.320 going to help speed that up.
00:04:46.200 Focus on what you actually feel in your heart.
00:04:49.420 And I know that sounds super cheesy.
00:04:51.440 And I know that doesn't sound like something I would normally say, but the truth is if you
00:04:57.100 truly have good intentions for anybody, whether it be your family or whether it be someone
00:05:04.080 who, you know, most people will consider your enemy.
00:05:07.200 If you truly wish the best for people, your conscious will be clean.
00:05:12.960 You will feel lighter.
00:05:14.720 You will be happier.
00:05:15.900 You will be more successful because what you're telling the universe is, Hey, I love winning.
00:05:24.880 I love seeing people win.
00:05:27.620 I love success.
00:05:29.900 I am happy for success.
00:05:31.880 And in turn, what happens, the universe starts to deliver these things for you.
00:05:37.260 When you hate on someone in your heart, even if it's not verbally or in writing, you're
00:05:45.820 creating a scenario where you're telling the universe, Hey, if you're saying, Hey, there's 0.99
00:05:52.020 Joe, I don't like Joe, fuck Joe, but you're not saying it out loud and you're still feeling 1.00
00:05:57.060 it in your heart and you're still thinking it. 1.00
00:05:58.720 Guess what?
00:05:59.280 You're going to get back from the universe.
00:06:01.020 You're going to get back struggle.
00:06:02.980 You're going to get back what you wished on that person.
00:06:05.220 You're going to get back the hardships that you wish on that person.
00:06:08.760 I'm a firm believer in this. 1.00
00:06:10.120 A lot of you guys might be shaking your head and say, that's bullshit. 1.00
00:06:12.940 I tried that. 1.00
00:06:13.800 It didn't fucking work. 0.90
00:06:14.960 Did you really try it though? 0.96
00:06:16.960 Did you really try it?
00:06:18.400 Or did you just do it one time and say it didn't work?
00:06:21.160 Did you really try living this way?
00:06:22.880 Did you really try to consciously eliminate negative thoughts and feelings from your heart
00:06:29.360 and soul and mind that you have for the people who would normally be your biggest
00:06:35.000 enemy?
00:06:36.020 A lot of you guys know I got stabbed.
00:06:38.000 A lot of you guys ask me, how do you feel about that?
00:06:41.060 Don't you want to hurt that person?
00:06:43.520 And they're always surprised.
00:06:44.960 No, I don't.
00:06:46.040 I actually wish the best for him.
00:06:47.580 I hope he learned his lesson and I hope he's living a great life right now.
00:06:50.640 I hope he's successful.
00:06:52.380 I hope he's doing great things in his community.
00:06:56.080 This is a man who almost killed me.
00:06:58.500 Okay?
00:07:00.300 This is why good things happen to me because I have been able to figure out how to have
00:07:06.600 the right intent towards other people.
00:07:09.300 I've been able to correct my thoughts and my actions and my heart when I feel it straying.
00:07:14.940 And the truth is, the only person I ever have truly negative thoughts about is myself.
00:07:24.060 And what I do there is I try to correct those two.
00:07:27.060 I try to treat myself as if I was someone else.
00:07:30.440 Okay?
00:07:30.660 I'm hard on myself. 0.99
00:07:31.600 But I also try to give myself a little pat on the ass and say, hey, you know what? 0.99
00:07:37.300 Yes, you need to fix this and this and this. 0.99
00:07:39.580 But you can and you are, so you're good.
00:07:42.820 And so, guys, when you get yourself in this mental place where you're constantly fighting
00:07:48.840 every single person in your brain and you're wishing negativity, it should come as no surprise
00:07:54.140 as to why you feel frustrated, why you feel anxiety, why you feel pain, why you feel depression.
00:08:01.200 All of those things should make sense to you if that's what you're wishing out in the world.
00:08:07.520 And right now is the most important time to recognize this.
00:08:10.980 We have more division and more hate than I have ever seen ever in my life going on right now.
00:08:16.920 And this is not just between races.
00:08:19.260 This is between socioeconomic classes.
00:08:21.800 This is between cultural positions, you know, the police.
00:08:26.400 This is between politicians and people. 1.00
00:08:31.080 Listen, man, the only way you're going to be able to get through this crazy shit without losing your fucking mind 1.00
00:08:37.340 is going to be for you to focus on you and then be aware of your intent. 1.00
00:08:43.320 All right?
00:08:44.320 What do you wish for others?
00:08:46.480 Those people that you think you don't like, what do you really wish for them?
00:08:49.580 Do you wish them to have a hard time?
00:08:51.800 Because if you do, you need to stop wishing that and start wishing that they do well.
00:08:56.000 And what you're going to see is, first of all, you're going to feel immediately lighter.
00:09:00.200 You're going to feel immediately less filled with stress, less anxiety, less pain.
00:09:04.420 And then what's going to happen is, if you continue down that road of focusing your intent in the right place,
00:09:10.900 you're going to have less stress overall.
00:09:13.200 Your life is going to magically feel happier.
00:09:16.820 And then what's going to happen is, if you start living this in all areas of your life,
00:09:21.580 good things start to come back to you.
00:09:23.720 Okay?
00:09:23.920 Like, people reciprocate and feel intent.
00:09:26.720 They know when you really wish well for them, or if you're just smiling in their face,
00:09:32.500 but secretly not behind, you know, or behind the smile, you're hating on them.
00:09:36.480 All right?
00:09:37.280 We have a hater culture in today's society.
00:09:39.920 We really do.
00:09:40.560 And it starts with us.
00:09:42.820 It starts with our intent.
00:09:44.440 So, guys, the reason I didn't put this in the other podcast is because it's such an important point
00:09:50.520 that it deserves its own message.
00:09:52.820 Yes, control everything you can control.
00:09:56.120 Yes, eat well.
00:09:57.280 Yes, exercise.
00:09:58.540 Yes, do what you can in your work life.
00:10:01.160 Yes, focus on improving and using this time to be better.
00:10:04.160 But also be aware of your intent, because if you can get your intent to be right all the time,
00:10:11.040 you will have nothing but winning and good things that you wished on other people coming to you.
00:10:18.080 It's just the way it works.
00:10:20.140 I didn't make the rules.
00:10:22.240 Okay?
00:10:22.700 I don't even know why it works.
00:10:25.080 I don't have to know. 0.99
00:10:26.280 All I know is that it fucking works. 0.99
00:10:28.560 So, you can argue this all you want, 0.99
00:10:31.080 but you're going to have a tougher time going against this than you are going with it.
00:10:37.260 So, guys, question yourself.
00:10:40.820 Ask yourself, what do you feel in your heart?
00:10:44.460 What are you really thinking?
00:10:46.320 When you see someone who's where you want to be,
00:10:49.540 are you jealous of them?
00:10:51.580 Do you want less for them?
00:10:53.320 Or are you cheering them on because it shows you that you can also do similar things?
00:10:59.400 Are you cheering them on because you know that if you put out good to them and they win,
00:11:05.480 then you're that much more likely to win too.
00:11:08.300 A lot of people call this the scarcity mindset.
00:11:11.400 Okay? 0.99
00:11:11.840 You can call it whatever the fuck you want. 0.99
00:11:13.220 I call it your intent. 0.99
00:11:14.820 All right?
00:11:16.040 Get your intent right, and your life's going to start to come together.
00:11:19.240 And, guys, as a reminder, I said this on yesterday's show or the day before,
00:11:24.900 whatever it is, 47, the one I can't remember the name to.
00:11:29.240 Arte Syndicate applications are now open.
00:11:31.840 All right?
00:11:32.200 And they're going to be open here for, I think, the next few days.
00:11:35.820 If you're interested in Arte Syndicate,
00:11:37.840 where Ed Milet and I get in-depth on topics such as these
00:11:41.400 and practical topics of how to build a real company, okay?
00:11:45.560 Not just the surface-level content that we put through our podcast for free,
00:11:51.360 but if you're looking for more, if you're looking to learn more about that
00:11:54.800 and you're looking to connect with like-minded individuals,
00:11:57.780 Ed and I have built the most amazing entrepreneurship network on the face of the earth,
00:12:01.640 and you won't find people that are a part of it that won't say that too.
00:12:05.020 So if it's something you're interested in and you want to get more in-depth
00:12:08.140 and you want to really level up and commit yourself to excellence
00:12:10.380 and not only just commit yourself to excellence,
00:12:12.160 but be around people who are also committed to excellence,
00:12:15.560 which is extremely important, go to artesyndicate.com, check it out, apply.
00:12:20.780 Not everybody gets in, but if you get in, it will change your life.
00:12:24.240 So I just want to let you guys know because you ask me all year long
00:12:26.780 when the applications are open.
00:12:28.040 They're open right now.
00:12:29.180 Now, guys, with that being said, intent, intent, intent.
00:12:34.600 What are you thinking?
00:12:35.900 What are you feeling?
00:12:36.840 What are you not saying?
00:12:37.840 How do you feel?
00:12:39.400 Start to edit that, and you'll start to see things come back around for you.
00:12:43.100 I love you guys.
00:12:43.800 I'll talk to you soon.
00:12:45.360 Take care, and I'll see you later.