REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 19, 2020


48. The Universal Law That Leads To Success


Episode Stats

Length

12 minutes

Words per Minute

178.3936

Word Count

2,281

Sentence Count

149


Summary

In this episode, I talk about my struggles with anxiety and depression, and why you should be working on yourself to get better at managing your mental health. I also talk about how you can improve your productivity and productivity by focusing on the things you can control.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Yo guys, it's Andy and this is the show for the realistic about it, the lies, the fakeness
00:00:18.200 and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
00:00:22.640 Hey guys, you might be wondering after the last short podcast, what do we call that one?
00:00:32.240 What do we call that one, Madat?
00:00:34.160 Refresh my memory.
00:00:35.740 It was number 47 and we called it Rules Young Entrepreneurs Must Follow, okay?
00:00:46.100 And it got me thinking, this is such a good topic for you guys, but I purposefully left
00:00:52.280 Oh, I forgot all the housekeeping stuff.
00:00:53.900 Eh, forget it.
00:00:54.440 You guys fucking know what to do if you like the show.
00:00:56.940 Hey, I left off a point on that on purpose and the reason I did was because this point
00:01:02.500 that I'm about to cover with you is more important than all the other points, all right?
00:01:07.360 And it deserves its own attention.
00:01:09.500 Now, as I mentioned in episode number 47, a lot of people are reaching out to me and they're
00:01:15.400 saying, Andy, dude, I'm fucking down, bro.
00:01:17.920 Like, what is going on?
00:01:19.480 I'm, I'm, I feel like I'm depressed.
00:01:21.720 I'm in the field of anxiety.
00:01:23.000 I don't know what to do.
00:01:24.300 And I offered some solutions to that.
00:01:26.980 Um, in the beginning of that podcast where we talked about getting focused on yourself.
00:01:30.940 I let you guys know a little bit about what I'm doing with 75 hard and how that's affecting,
00:01:35.600 you know, my mental health.
00:01:37.320 And if you're just listening, you know, I'm very open with my mental health.
00:01:41.380 Uh, I've struggled with depression for 20 plus years.
00:01:44.260 Uh, I've been on and off different medications.
00:01:47.760 Um, it's something I'm not ashamed of.
00:01:50.460 And I don't think anybody should be ashamed of at all.
00:01:52.420 Uh, there's this fake shame around, you know, battling things mentally that people have when
00:01:58.060 in reality, there's so many more people that have these struggles and, and I can see it
00:02:02.000 in my DMS, right?
00:02:02.920 So I just want to offer what I think is the biggest piece of advice I can offer you guys
00:02:09.840 in addition to focusing on what you can control.
00:02:14.460 Okay.
00:02:14.860 So, you know, this is more towards the intro.
00:02:17.860 I think I talked about on the beginning of 47.
00:02:20.080 Is that right?
00:02:20.740 Where I talked about 75 hard?
00:02:22.700 Yeah.
00:02:23.120 The beginning.
00:02:23.800 So I'm talking to a couple of dudes off, off Mike here.
00:02:26.500 Um, but I went through and, you know, I, I, I've been dealing with these things.
00:02:32.960 And this whole time the world's been like in chaos, I've literally been feeling better
00:02:39.000 and better and better.
00:02:40.020 It almost makes me feel bad for how good I feel.
00:02:42.500 But the truth is I've been doing the work on me.
00:02:45.180 I've been controlling what I can control.
00:02:47.100 I've been controlling what I put in my mouth.
00:02:49.440 I've been controlling what I put in my head.
00:02:51.340 I've been controlling how I work out.
00:02:54.080 I've been controlling all of the things that I can actually control.
00:02:57.080 Am I making my phone calls?
00:02:58.340 Am I sending my emails?
00:02:59.400 Am I doing my work?
00:03:00.400 And that's how I'm getting through this time mentally, guys.
00:03:03.500 This is a challenging time for anybody, but I want to address something.
00:03:09.020 In addition to all of those things that we've always talked about, you know, controlling
00:03:12.960 what you could control.
00:03:13.900 I want to give you guys something that I think is really important.
00:03:17.800 Not only to just your, your personal happiness, but also your success.
00:03:22.420 All right.
00:03:23.120 And that's intent.
00:03:24.560 Now, a lot of people right now, you know, they say things like you guys have followed
00:03:30.040 me on Instagram.
00:03:31.000 You know, I make a post considerably often that says, Hey, I want you to win.
00:03:36.520 Even if you don't want me to win, I want you to win.
00:03:39.900 Okay.
00:03:40.260 And a lot of people are saying that's kind of stuff, right?
00:03:42.720 They're putting out positive things.
00:03:44.620 They're saying the, they're saying the right things.
00:03:47.560 They're, they're doing the right things.
00:03:49.600 They're smiling.
00:03:50.400 They're being happy.
00:03:51.120 They're being positive, but they can't figure out why it's not materializing for them.
00:03:56.160 And I'm going to tell you why.
00:03:57.780 And I'm also going to go into depth why this is so beneficial to you.
00:04:01.620 The reason is the reason things aren't coming together for you is because the universe,
00:04:06.600 and this is obviously my opinion.
00:04:08.700 All right.
00:04:09.640 But, and from what I've gathered in my life experience and the books I've read and what
00:04:15.220 I've learned and how I see it working, which is really the basis of this whole show.
00:04:21.100 What I've learned is that the universe doesn't care what you say.
00:04:27.120 It cares about what your intent is.
00:04:30.840 So if you're going around and you're feeling anxious and you're feeling frustrated and you're
00:04:36.300 feeling angry and things aren't materializing for you, I want to give you a hack that is
00:04:42.320 going to help speed that up.
00:04:46.200 Focus on what you actually feel in your heart.
00:04:49.420 And I know that sounds super cheesy.
00:04:51.440 And I know that doesn't sound like something I would normally say, but the truth is if you
00:04:57.100 truly have good intentions for anybody, whether it be your family or whether it be someone
00:05:04.080 who, you know, most people will consider your enemy.
00:05:07.200 If you truly wish the best for people, your conscious will be clean.
00:05:12.960 You will feel lighter.
00:05:14.720 You will be happier.
00:05:15.900 You will be more successful because what you're telling the universe is, Hey, I love winning.
00:05:24.880 I love seeing people win.
00:05:27.620 I love success.
00:05:29.900 I am happy for success.
00:05:31.880 And in turn, what happens, the universe starts to deliver these things for you.
00:05:37.260 When you hate on someone in your heart, even if it's not verbally or in writing, you're
00:05:45.820 creating a scenario where you're telling the universe, Hey, if you're saying, Hey, there's
00:05:52.020 Joe, I don't like Joe, fuck Joe, but you're not saying it out loud and you're still feeling
00:05:57.060 it in your heart and you're still thinking it.
00:05:58.720 Guess what?
00:05:59.280 You're going to get back from the universe.
00:06:01.020 You're going to get back struggle.
00:06:02.980 You're going to get back what you wished on that person.
00:06:05.220 You're going to get back the hardships that you wish on that person.
00:06:08.760 I'm a firm believer in this.
00:06:10.120 A lot of you guys might be shaking your head and say, that's bullshit.
00:06:12.940 I tried that.
00:06:13.800 It didn't fucking work.
00:06:14.960 Did you really try it though?
00:06:16.960 Did you really try it?
00:06:18.400 Or did you just do it one time and say it didn't work?
00:06:21.160 Did you really try living this way?
00:06:22.880 Did you really try to consciously eliminate negative thoughts and feelings from your heart
00:06:29.360 and soul and mind that you have for the people who would normally be your biggest
00:06:35.000 enemy?
00:06:36.020 A lot of you guys know I got stabbed.
00:06:38.000 A lot of you guys ask me, how do you feel about that?
00:06:41.060 Don't you want to hurt that person?
00:06:43.520 And they're always surprised.
00:06:44.960 No, I don't.
00:06:46.040 I actually wish the best for him.
00:06:47.580 I hope he learned his lesson and I hope he's living a great life right now.
00:06:50.640 I hope he's successful.
00:06:52.380 I hope he's doing great things in his community.
00:06:56.080 This is a man who almost killed me.
00:06:58.500 Okay?
00:07:00.300 This is why good things happen to me because I have been able to figure out how to have
00:07:06.600 the right intent towards other people.
00:07:09.300 I've been able to correct my thoughts and my actions and my heart when I feel it straying.
00:07:14.940 And the truth is, the only person I ever have truly negative thoughts about is myself.
00:07:24.060 And what I do there is I try to correct those two.
00:07:27.060 I try to treat myself as if I was someone else.
00:07:30.440 Okay?
00:07:30.660 I'm hard on myself.
00:07:31.600 But I also try to give myself a little pat on the ass and say, hey, you know what?
00:07:37.300 Yes, you need to fix this and this and this.
00:07:39.580 But you can and you are, so you're good.
00:07:42.820 And so, guys, when you get yourself in this mental place where you're constantly fighting
00:07:48.840 every single person in your brain and you're wishing negativity, it should come as no surprise
00:07:54.140 as to why you feel frustrated, why you feel anxiety, why you feel pain, why you feel depression.
00:08:01.200 All of those things should make sense to you if that's what you're wishing out in the world.
00:08:07.520 And right now is the most important time to recognize this.
00:08:10.980 We have more division and more hate than I have ever seen ever in my life going on right now.
00:08:16.920 And this is not just between races.
00:08:19.260 This is between socioeconomic classes.
00:08:21.800 This is between cultural positions, you know, the police.
00:08:26.400 This is between politicians and people.
00:08:31.080 Listen, man, the only way you're going to be able to get through this crazy shit without losing your fucking mind
00:08:37.340 is going to be for you to focus on you and then be aware of your intent.
00:08:43.320 All right?
00:08:44.320 What do you wish for others?
00:08:46.480 Those people that you think you don't like, what do you really wish for them?
00:08:49.580 Do you wish them to have a hard time?
00:08:51.800 Because if you do, you need to stop wishing that and start wishing that they do well.
00:08:56.000 And what you're going to see is, first of all, you're going to feel immediately lighter.
00:09:00.200 You're going to feel immediately less filled with stress, less anxiety, less pain.
00:09:04.420 And then what's going to happen is, if you continue down that road of focusing your intent in the right place,
00:09:10.900 you're going to have less stress overall.
00:09:13.200 Your life is going to magically feel happier.
00:09:16.820 And then what's going to happen is, if you start living this in all areas of your life,
00:09:21.580 good things start to come back to you.
00:09:23.720 Okay?
00:09:23.920 Like, people reciprocate and feel intent.
00:09:26.720 They know when you really wish well for them, or if you're just smiling in their face,
00:09:32.500 but secretly not behind, you know, or behind the smile, you're hating on them.
00:09:36.480 All right?
00:09:37.280 We have a hater culture in today's society.
00:09:39.920 We really do.
00:09:40.560 And it starts with us.
00:09:42.820 It starts with our intent.
00:09:44.440 So, guys, the reason I didn't put this in the other podcast is because it's such an important point
00:09:50.520 that it deserves its own message.
00:09:52.820 Yes, control everything you can control.
00:09:56.120 Yes, eat well.
00:09:57.280 Yes, exercise.
00:09:58.540 Yes, do what you can in your work life.
00:10:01.160 Yes, focus on improving and using this time to be better.
00:10:04.160 But also be aware of your intent, because if you can get your intent to be right all the time,
00:10:11.040 you will have nothing but winning and good things that you wished on other people coming to you.
00:10:18.080 It's just the way it works.
00:10:20.140 I didn't make the rules.
00:10:22.240 Okay?
00:10:22.700 I don't even know why it works.
00:10:25.080 I don't have to know.
00:10:26.280 All I know is that it fucking works.
00:10:28.560 So, you can argue this all you want,
00:10:31.080 but you're going to have a tougher time going against this than you are going with it.
00:10:37.260 So, guys, question yourself.
00:10:40.820 Ask yourself, what do you feel in your heart?
00:10:44.460 What are you really thinking?
00:10:46.320 When you see someone who's where you want to be,
00:10:49.540 are you jealous of them?
00:10:51.580 Do you want less for them?
00:10:53.320 Or are you cheering them on because it shows you that you can also do similar things?
00:10:59.400 Are you cheering them on because you know that if you put out good to them and they win,
00:11:05.480 then you're that much more likely to win too.
00:11:08.300 A lot of people call this the scarcity mindset.
00:11:11.400 Okay?
00:11:11.840 You can call it whatever the fuck you want.
00:11:13.220 I call it your intent.
00:11:14.820 All right?
00:11:16.040 Get your intent right, and your life's going to start to come together.
00:11:19.240 And, guys, as a reminder, I said this on yesterday's show or the day before,
00:11:24.900 whatever it is, 47, the one I can't remember the name to.
00:11:29.240 Arte Syndicate applications are now open.
00:11:31.840 All right?
00:11:32.200 And they're going to be open here for, I think, the next few days.
00:11:35.820 If you're interested in Arte Syndicate,
00:11:37.840 where Ed Milet and I get in-depth on topics such as these
00:11:41.400 and practical topics of how to build a real company, okay?
00:11:45.560 Not just the surface-level content that we put through our podcast for free,
00:11:51.360 but if you're looking for more, if you're looking to learn more about that
00:11:54.800 and you're looking to connect with like-minded individuals,
00:11:57.780 Ed and I have built the most amazing entrepreneurship network on the face of the earth,
00:12:01.640 and you won't find people that are a part of it that won't say that too.
00:12:05.020 So if it's something you're interested in and you want to get more in-depth
00:12:08.140 and you want to really level up and commit yourself to excellence
00:12:10.380 and not only just commit yourself to excellence,
00:12:12.160 but be around people who are also committed to excellence,
00:12:15.560 which is extremely important, go to artesyndicate.com, check it out, apply.
00:12:20.780 Not everybody gets in, but if you get in, it will change your life.
00:12:24.240 So I just want to let you guys know because you ask me all year long
00:12:26.780 when the applications are open.
00:12:28.040 They're open right now.
00:12:29.180 Now, guys, with that being said, intent, intent, intent.
00:12:34.600 What are you thinking?
00:12:35.900 What are you feeling?
00:12:36.840 What are you not saying?
00:12:37.840 How do you feel?
00:12:39.400 Start to edit that, and you'll start to see things come back around for you.
00:12:43.100 I love you guys.
00:12:43.800 I'll talk to you soon.
00:12:45.360 Take care, and I'll see you later.