REAL AF with Andy Frisella - September 23, 2020


71. Stop The Slide

Topics
stop the slide
Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
Andy Priscilla
70. God Bless This Average Home 72. The Power Of Indifference

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Length

17 minutes

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3,349

Sentence count

145

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2

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Toxicity

60

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17

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In this episode, I talk about how I ve been dealing with the stress of being on a "condoned lockdown" for the past 7 days. I also talk about the struggles I ve had to deal with while being on this lockdown and how I dealt with it.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00
00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mold changed to 50 got mold cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch 0.99
00:00:11.720 cost 250 what's up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realist say goodbye to 0.98
00:00:17.060 the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality 0.74
00:00:22.760 guys today a little short real talk for you um not sure how long it's gonna take uh but 0.91
00:00:29.980 i want to let you know where this episode came from um this morning now during this covid lockdown
00:00:37.200 i just want to let you know uh there's been very few places that i've gone all right uh you know
00:00:43.700 the places i go to eat i haven't gone to um the social gatherings that have been going on i really
00:00:50.140 haven't gone to and the reason for that has been because i am not going to go along with all the
00:00:58.080 things that people want you to go along with so i've chosen to kind of remove myself from normal
00:01:03.520 activity uh until recently recently i started to um have like almost like a little bit of i don't know
00:01:13.160 if it's like depression or anxiety or what it is but something like this weird uneasiness from not
00:01:20.020 seeing people uh in real life and i don't think i'm alone with that i i've talked to a lot of people
00:01:26.640 who have kind of shared that sentiment you know where they're they're it's not like depression 0.97
00:01:32.720 they're not mad it's just a weird this weird feeling like what the fuck and you know today i woke up 0.89
00:01:39.880 and i decided that instead of training at uh our headquarters facility here which i've been training 0.96
00:01:46.820 at and been fortunate enough to have during this time um i was going to go to my my regular gym and so
00:01:54.160 i went to my regular gym and i saw a lot of my old friends a lot of my friends who have been friends
00:01:58.780 for for 10 years 15 years man people i've seen day in and day out for for a decade and i was talking
00:02:07.400 and it was interesting because um you know a lot of the people had used this time to get better and
00:02:16.700 uh a lot of the people had it and you know they were frustrated and they felt you know like it was
00:02:23.940 something where they were starting and going and um things just didn't seem to get in a rhythm for them
00:02:29.800 and you know uh a lot of people were struggling and and so i had some interesting conversations
00:02:35.760 on both on both sides of the spectrum and as you guys know if you follow me i committed you know on
00:02:43.200 march 9th to doing 75 hard uh and then basically i've just kind of been doing it the entire time
00:02:50.220 um i said publicly that i was going to use this time for the best of my ability to improve the best
00:02:56.980 that i can and i've been doing my best to uphold that you know i've taken a few days off i think
00:03:02.140 i've been off three days total this this entire time uh and i'm in what i think is the best shape
00:03:07.400 of my life um i still got a lot of work to do i've still not you know excited uh about where i'm at
00:03:14.240 but i'm excited that i didn't go backwards during this time and i i wanted to basically share with you
00:03:22.040 guys a couple things first off you have to understand this is this has been hard on all of us
00:03:27.600 okay um everybody here you know even though it may seem like i have my shit together right i'm still 0.68
00:03:36.460 struggling like this has not been easy for me it's been the hardest i've had to dig deep uh to stay
00:03:43.720 onto a program ever in my life and i mean there has been a number of times where i wanted to quit
00:03:49.060 a number of times where i'm like fuck it a number of times where i was so angry with what's going on 0.88
00:03:54.660 that like it all it it almost kept me from doing what i needed to do and i want you to know you know 0.91
00:04:00.820 and i want you to hear from me directly that this thing what's going on is not normal this is not how
00:04:06.800 we're supposed to live it's not how society's supposed to be we need human connection we need
00:04:13.340 opportunities to uh you know interact and all these things and even though i'm a i would say a pretty
00:04:20.480 extreme introvert um we all still require that you know so if you're feeling like that uh understand
00:04:27.960 that this has been hard for me too and it's been hard for everybody i've talked to everybody around
00:04:32.440 the office you know all the people that you see uh smiling and and you know do do these people you
00:04:39.020 know a lot of these people are are struggling to to show those smiles you know what i mean we're
00:04:43.420 struggling to show that we're happy and i want you to not feel alone okay and so uh but that's not
00:04:52.500 the main message that's just the the the main thing i want you to understand is that like
00:04:56.960 everybody's having a hard time right now whether you know no matter what's going on it's just a
00:05:03.060 fucking weird time for everybody um but what i really wanted to do is i wanted to take a minute 0.67
00:05:08.620 and talk to you guys especially you guys who haven't been doing what you know you should be doing 0.81
00:05:16.040 during this time now if you follow me for a while you know that i have no problem telling you the
00:05:23.820 truth okay and some people don't like that some people don't like a direct truth all right but i
00:05:30.440 want you to understand where that comes from that comes from me talking to myself that way so i talk to 0.77
00:05:36.440 myself that way and that's how i coach other people so if you come to me and you say hey i fucking want 1.00
00:05:43.320 to lose weight you know or you're fat and you ask me if you're fat i'm gonna tell you you're fucking 0.99
00:05:47.500 fat just like i tell me i'm fat just like i tell me when i'm lazy just like i look in the mirror and 1.00
00:05:52.600 say andy you fucked off today you didn't do what you were supposed to do okay and that's where we 0.99
00:05:58.160 start so if you found yourself off track the first thing you have to realize is that you got to tell 0.99
00:06:05.400 yourself the truth all right and the truth is this you didn't do what you know you should have done
00:06:10.920 you didn't do it that's why you're not where you want to be okay if you're soft if you've if you've
00:06:18.420 been soft if you've been lazy if you've been uh you know not following through on what it is that
00:06:25.020 you know you should be doing tell yourself the truth don't surround yourself with people who are
00:06:30.640 going to make you feel good for not doing what you know is good for you okay we have to learn
00:06:36.960 that we have to address the truth and the issues before they can be solved and society has created
00:06:44.740 this like soft cocoon around people where it's it's not okay to tell the truth to each other anymore
00:06:51.180 it's not okay to say hey joe uh you're a little fat bro it's time to take care of it and joe's down 0.96
00:06:58.260 40 fucking pounds okay this is the point we have to be able to tell each other the truth 0.98
00:07:05.460 truth and then be able to take the truth all right the truth is the truth now we can sit there 0.98
00:07:11.860 and pacify ourselves and say oh yeah but you know it's covid or yeah but it's this or yeah but it's
00:07:18.900 that there's always going to be something guys there's always going to be something okay so we have
00:07:25.500 to take ownership of the truth are you doing it or are you not doing it did you do it or did you not
00:07:33.140 do it and for a lot of you you didn't do it and guess what that's okay that's okay not everybody 0.92
00:07:41.140 gets a hit every time they come to the plate a lot of people fucking struggle they go up and down and 0.91
00:07:46.340 up and down and up and down and the reason i wanted to talk about this is because i talked to a couple 0.99
00:07:50.860 people that have basically told me they're like fuck dude i've let so much go by i feel like i'm 0.98
00:07:56.400 starting over i don't even want to fucking start and they're demoralized dude you guys cannot 0.99
00:08:01.600 allow that to happen all right a lot of you have worked very hard to even be where you are 0.97
00:08:08.280 and you've let it slide and you're letting it slide day by day by day by day saying oh you know
00:08:14.360 what after the election's over after this is over after that's over i'll get serious and this is no
00:08:20.080 different than what you did last year only last year you were saying after new year's okay after
00:08:25.660 halloween after thanksgiving after that wedding i have to go to after this vacation after the after
00:08:33.260 this after this after this after this guys that's why you are where you are okay and that's the truth
00:08:40.620 so you're not doing it and it doesn't really matter why you didn't do it you just did it and so bottom
00:08:47.600 line the truth with yourself okay that's the place to start and then the second step is real simple
00:08:53.640 the second step is after you've owned it and you've said hey you know what i didn't do what i was 0.95
00:09:01.000 supposed to do i was fucking soft i was kind of a bitch i have used this as an excuse after you've 1.00
00:09:09.740 owned that and you've taken that sting the next step is to put that first foot down okay and take that 0.98
00:09:16.340 first step the first day you're gonna have to force you're gonna have to force yourself through
00:09:24.920 that diet you're gonna have to force yourself through that workout you're gonna have to force
00:09:29.860 yourself through that first day and then probably through that second day and then probably through
00:09:35.200 that third day again and then the fourth day and the fifth day and the sixth day and the seventh day
00:09:39.260 and before you know it, it won't be force anymore. You'll just be doing it. And when you get to that
00:09:47.120 point, you've got the momentum. Okay. So we have to a tell the truth, B start moving the right
00:09:55.620 direction by force. It's not going to be easy. It's going to be really fucking hard. You're
00:10:01.400 going to be thinking about that fucking pizza and that beer and that sitting on the couch and all 1.00
00:10:07.460 these habits that you've ingrained during this time. Okay. Whatever they might be, you're going 1.00
00:10:11.860 to be thinking about that because it's not going to be feel natural to you to do new stuff,
00:10:15.560 but you know what happens once you gain this momentum, once you gain the momentum, it gets
00:10:21.180 easier. Once you gain the momentum, you start to feel good about yourself again. Once you gain the
00:10:26.320 momentum, you're not struggling through every fucking minute of the day to make sure that these 0.98
00:10:31.300 things get done. Okay. And you can substitute your fitness for anything. A lot of, a lot of you guys, 0.98
00:10:36.600 this might apply to your business or it might apply to other areas of your life. But the point
00:10:41.260 is, is that we have been conditioned to be soft with ourselves and to tell ourselves, you know,
00:10:50.000 soft lies. And where does that get us? It gets us to an unhappy place. It gets us to a place where
00:10:56.640 we're afraid to look in the mirror. I know what the fuck that's like, guys. I know what it's like 0.99
00:11:03.880 to go to a store and not have any fucking clothes that fit. I know what it's like to go to a pool 0.98
00:11:10.120 and be afraid to take off my fucking shirt. I know what it's like to be embarrassed because I got to 0.99
00:11:15.880 wear the same clothes every single day. Cause it's the only outfit that fucking fits me. 0.98
00:11:19.820 I've lived that life, bro. I fucking know what that's about. Okay. And I know how it makes you feel 0.99
00:11:25.540 and nothing bothers me more than when I see people I care about, which is you guys who are allowing you
00:11:32.120 to go back to that place. So this message is for you guys. All right. If you're one of these people
00:11:38.800 who has slid off during this pandemic, who has, you know, let's just call it what it is. You've
00:11:46.160 gotten fatter. You've gotten worse off. You've gotten lazier. You've gotten softer. All right.
00:11:52.780 That's the truth. Now, what are we going to do? We're going to force ourselves to fix it because dude,
00:11:59.840 I'm going to tell you, I've made the wrong decision here and I'm trying to save some of
00:12:04.160 you guys, man. I've been the guy who's just said, fuck it and just ripped off and let it go. And 0.99
00:12:09.460 then before I know I'm fucking 50 pounds up, 60 pounds up, a hundred pounds up. All right. Now it 0.98
00:12:16.360 may not be that like that for you, but that's how it is for me, man. I walked by a pizza. I gained
00:12:20.140 fucking 10 pounds and, and dude, the only thing that's kept me going this whole time is, is being 0.99
00:12:28.320 totally fearful of going back to where the fuck I was. And I haven't, but I've had to do it by force 0.99
00:12:35.440 literally the whole time, almost this whole year. All right. And so my, my little, this is, this is,
00:12:41.080 I don't know, like a plea almost to you guys, like guys, fuck what you've done so far this year. 1.00
00:12:48.380 I don't fucking care. And you shouldn't fucking care either. Call it what it is. Address the truth, 1.00
00:12:53.820 wake up today, tomorrow and handle fucking business. Because the last thing we want is to 1.00
00:13:00.140 be three or four more months worse off than where we are now. And then to have things kind of go back
00:13:06.040 to normal, which I think they probably will. But why do you want to have to fight off four more
00:13:11.220 months of fucking bullshit when you could just address the issue right now? All right. This is hard. 1.00
00:13:17.260 This is not easy. Stop surrounding yourself with the people who make it easy for you. Stop
00:13:23.820 surrounding yourself with the people who tell you the things that you want to hear that make you feel
00:13:29.760 better in the moment. Stop surrounding yourself with people that make you think it's okay. Stop
00:13:34.460 surrounding yourself with people that enable you to go down these bad habits. Stop. All right. It's not
00:13:40.800 making you happy and you know, it's not making you happy. Stop sliding. You guys have unlimited
00:13:48.240 potential. Okay. And just because a bunch of fucking politicians on both sides want to fuck with the 0.68
00:13:56.140 country because of their own selfish reasons. That's my opinion, not to bring the politics into this, 1.00
00:14:00.720 but if you listen to the show, you know what the fuck I think. We can't control that. Can you control 0.99
00:14:07.540 it individually? No, I can't control it individually. We can control it together, but until everybody gets
00:14:13.380 on the same page, it doesn't matter. But I'm going to tell you what you can control. You can't control
00:14:17.620 what you put in your mouth. You can't control what you read. You can't control the work that you do.
00:14:22.080 You can't control the workouts that you do. You can't control what you drink. You can't control a whole
00:14:27.060 bunch of shit that'll make your life personally better during this time. And guess what? We've 1.00
00:14:32.480 got three and a half months to go in this fucking year. That's plenty of time to turn your life 1.00
00:14:37.580 around. So my message for you is really simple. One, tell your, tell yourself the truth. Are you doing
00:14:44.380 it? Are you not doing it? I don't care why. And you shouldn't fucking care why either. It doesn't
00:14:49.720 matter. All right. Two, what are you going to do about it? It's time to handle business.
00:14:57.060 It's time to stop sliding. It's time to stop letting the world situation affect your personal
00:15:04.980 life to the maximum degree. You should be thinking right now, I do not want to come out of this
00:15:11.280 fatter, slower, weaker, dumber in a worse place than I was when I went into it, which a lot of 0.94
00:15:17.880 people are gonna. And you might too, if you don't stop the slide. So my message for you guys 0.94
00:15:24.800 is this, man, I love you guys. I want the best for you guys. And I recognize that a lot of people
00:15:31.760 are sliding right now. And I hope that you listen to this and I hope it'll make something click with
00:15:36.280 you. And I hope it'll get you to fucking address what's going on. So that in four more months, 0.98
00:15:40.260 you're not looking back and saying, fuck, I wish I would have listened to that message then 0.99
00:15:43.900 because the time is going to go by either way. We're the time is going to pass. What you do during 0.99
00:15:50.420 the time is going to affect where you are in the future. Everybody knows that. Are you going to
00:15:56.580 continue to slide? Are you going to put your foot down and stop it right now and make sure that you're
00:16:02.700 one of the people who says, you know what? That was tough, but I made it through good and I made
00:16:08.420 progress and I improved and I didn't get worse. At the very least, you want to be able to say,
00:16:12.500 I didn't get fucking worse. All right. That's where we're at right now. Okay. 0.99
00:16:17.300 It's a choice. It may not feel like a choice. It may not seem like a choice, but you know,
00:16:24.480 deep down, it's a fucking choice. All right. I want you guys to win. I want you guys to win big. 1.00
00:16:31.100 My message might not be for everybody. My message might be too hard for people. I get it. That's
00:16:37.020 society right now. But at the end of the day, until we address the fucking truth, nothing changes 0.99
00:16:42.360 on the back end. That's what you have to remember. So learn to deal with the truth. That's why this 0.97
00:16:48.720 show is called real AF. That's why I say it's for the realists. It's not for the pretenders. It's not
00:16:54.420 for the fucking fakers. It's not for the people who lie to themselves. It's for people who can tell 1.00
00:16:59.440 themselves the truth. And once you could tell yourself the truth, no matter how hard it stings you,
00:17:06.520 you're in a better place than you were before, because now you can address it. All right. Now
00:17:11.940 you have to just make the decision. I can't do the work for you, but I can tell you this.
00:17:17.820 I will be there with you day in, day out, sweating, working, grinding, fucking putting myself through 0.99
00:17:26.520 this shit to show you guys that it can be done because it can be done and you can do it. All right. 1.00
00:17:34.960 So that's that. Now, if you like the message, if you like the show, if you got something out of it,
00:17:39.720 we appreciate the shares. We appreciate the subscriptions. And I just want you guys to know
00:17:45.320 that we appreciate you guys. We love you guys. And we want you guys to fucking win.