77. Changing The Mindset That Keeps Us Average
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In this episode of The Realist for Realist, Andi Frisella talks about a meme that he saw this morning that inspired him to create the show and why he doesn t want to be an average person.
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living
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spoke it till existence mo changed to 50 got mo cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch
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cost 250 what's up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the realist sake
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about the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
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reality guys today i've got a short real talk for you um before i get into it
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i want to hit you up with the fee if you uh listen to the show you know what the fee is
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the fee is uh if you like the show if you got value if it made you laugh it made you think
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it made you change perspective please share what you learned with other people all right
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ads on this show right now and i could have been doing that for a long time i don't do
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that because it's annoying as fuck all right let's just all agree on that we fucking hate
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that so i don't do it and what i ask in return is that when the conversation comes up about
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what you've been listening to and what you've been hearing and what you've been learning uh
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that you you know give us a little give us a little props to your friends and your community
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there we really appreciate that you guys do a great job of that and i want to say thank
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you for that because uh um we've never run outside ads for the show we do this growth
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consistently and organically by delivering good content and that's how i feel the world should be
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so i'm really comfortable doing that and i think it's badass that you guys vibe with that that whole
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thing and uh we really appreciate it here um with that being said you know if this is your first time
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listening this is not your normal business podcast all right yes we're going to talk about business yes
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we're going to talk about personal development yes we're going to talk about fucking winning
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all right that's what we're going to do we're going to talk about getting better but we're also going
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to include some of my opinions and some of my viewpoints and perspective on the world back when
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i was running the mfceo project which you can find in this feed if you scroll back you will find 300
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plus episodes that are me talking exclusively life lessons and how to win and make money and kick ass and
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all this shit that is very important um that's more of like a lecture more of a you know i'm teaching
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you a skill uh this new format the real af is more so you know like me it's uh what i think what i feel
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what i'm what i'm you know into what i'm feeling what i'm not feeling and you know it's not for everybody
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and i'm not for everybody it's like you're not for everybody so uh let's just come to an agreement
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right now that you're going to learn a lot of shit and you also might hear some things that you know
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you may agree with wholeheartedly you also may not agree with it that's your right to your opinion
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i respect that so respect mine back um with that being said let's get right into this okay i saw a
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meme this morning that actually inspired this show and i'm going to pull it up on my phone right here
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so i can uh relate it to you accurately uh at the top of the meme it says fuck average which you know
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hey i agree with that uh i think we all agree with that i don't think that you'd be listening to the
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show if you didn't think hey fuck average i don't want to be that so i agree so far right it's a good
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meme uh day and it's it's it's formatted so the top half of the meme it says day in the life of the
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average person the bottom half of the meme it says day in the life of the inspired person so let's
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just go through the day in the life of the average person day in the life of the average person that
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shows this dude getting out of bed at 7 30 in the morning and by nine o'clock he's hunched over
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it looks like kind of looks like he's taking a dump uh he but he looks miserable all right so it must not be
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a good dump um by 1700 which is 5 p.m uh he's watching netflix and then by 2300
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uh he's asleep on the couch all right so that's the day in the life of the average person wake up
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at 7 30 take a miserable poop at nine watch netflix and sleep on the couch and then it says day in the
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life of the inspired person wake up at five o'clock in the morning this dude looks happy as fuck to
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wake up at five and man you're over there laughing ain't nobody happy at waking up at five o'clock in
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morning is joe no fuck no there's not then 7 a.m it shows this this dude like running a meeting
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and it shows some people like a tent like so happy to pay attention at 7 a.m i wonder where the fuck
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he's finding these people at and then at 2100 it shows nothing like there i don't know he must be
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invisible by then because he's got so many super fucking powers because of course the inspired
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successful person has super powers and then by 2200 uh he's in bed all right so he's in bed uh an hour
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earlier than the guy who is average and he's up two hours earlier you know happy as fuck i guess he
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had a you know he must be happy because he took a nice poop you know but i don't know man anyway
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this meme got me thinking this meme looks like some dude who was fucking 13 years old made it
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all right and i want to bring this to your attention because this is so fucking false
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you guys consume this success content from all these success pages and all these people who are online
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and you have no fucking idea if they actually know what they're talking about or not you have no idea
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you have none but you take it and you look at it and you think oh this must be the way it is
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let me tell you something man i've never got up at 5 a.m one fucking day in my life other than to
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maybe go to the airport okay a couple times i had to go to the airport i got to get up real early
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right you guys all know what that's about but i never woke up at 5 a.m and i don't plan on waking up
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at 5 a.m and to me that sounds fucking terrible now i know you're gonna go to every other fucking
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guru out there and they're gonna say some bullshit about their morning routine and you know they get
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they get out their fucking bamboo meditation mat and they do some chants and they rub some fucking
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beads together and they say and you know they have a peaceful day and like everybody's got this this
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this little recipe for success and what i want to tell you is uh stop buying their bullshit okay we live in
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this culture right now and this is what i really want to talk to you guys about where people
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consistently brag about how busy they are think about this hey joe how's it going today oh man
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so fucking busy so busy oh you are yeah so busy how many times do you fucking hear that how many times
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do we hear that when we say hey how's it going today and people respond back like that like we're like
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i'm gonna pin some kind of fucking metal on their shirt for being busy let me get this crystal clear
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for you guys being busy is not a symbol of success it's a sign of being unorganized it's a sign of
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being ineffective and it's a sign of being mentally weak that's the truth okay so realize that when you
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answer someone's question oh man i'm so busy you sound like a fucking idiot all right so stop doing it
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that's the first thing i want i want you to understand now if you can't do that and you
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have a problem doing that realize that when you actually go talk to a successful person
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and you say and they say hey steve how's it going and you respond like that they're gonna think you're
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a fucking mess all right so i'm telling you this and i know it sounds harsh because i know every single
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one of you does this you say this shit constantly it's a habit it's like when people say hey how you
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doing you're like oh living the dream all right get the fuck out of here with that if you want
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people that are successful to respect you come up with a different answer then oh i'm you know i'm so
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busy it's so overwhelming you think that makes me want to hire you think that makes me want to work
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with you you think i want to work with somebody who's gonna complain about how much shit they got to
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do no i don't it's not a badge honor it's not something that you should be celebrating
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and quite frankly it's weak as fuck what you need to do is you need to learn how to shift your focus
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from being busy to actually producing results and being productive our society has become programmed
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into thinking that working 40 hours a week equals productivity it doesn't and nobody who's actually
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doing it in real life the people you actually want to connect with the people you actually look up to
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the people who have actually built real things gives a fuck about how hard you work they care
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about how effective you are i don't give a fuck how many calls you make i don't care how many appointments
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you have i don't care how many this or that or this you do what i care about is the result and that
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sounds harsh but it should be relieving to you because what it means is you don't have to pretend to be so
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fucking busy anymore you don't have to tell those lies about how busy you are not only to me but also
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yourself okay the goal here is not to be overly busy the goal here is to produce a result all right
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so how do we do this how can we switch our perspective from being quote-unquote busy to celebrating being
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productive and actually be productive okay the first thing is obvious this is point number one if you're
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taking notes take inventory of how you spend your time how are you spending your time because the
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truth is most of you have a number of hours a day where you're actually fucking off you're sucked into
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instagram you're sucked into youtube you're sucked into netflix and because you aren't aware of how much
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time you're spending doing these things you think you have no time and you perceive it as being super
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busy but you're not you're actually just very bad at managing your time all right so that's the first
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thing become aware of how you're spending your time the second thing is very simple okay make a list of
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your critical tasks the things you have to get done i'm not talking about a goal list i'm not saying you
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write down your affirmations like a lot of a lot of guys are telling you now write down your affirmations
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okay and you know i'm with that right you want to write down some affirmations today i am beautiful i
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am sexy i am the fucking shit to make yourself believe it that's cool if that's what you got to
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do i'm not trashing that but what i am telling you is that's not the list i'm talking about i'm talking
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about a list of the critical tasks that are outside of your normal everyday habits okay if you work out
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every day working out it's not a critical task for you because it's already a habit all right what is it
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that's going to move you forward what are these things that are going to move you forward what are
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the things that are going to take you from where you are to where you want to be and how do you break
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that down so you find out what those actions are that you can do today all right now this is a huge
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deal that most people never do they never learn how to make these lists of critical tasks and what they
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definitely don't do which is the third point here is they don't execute they don't focus on the
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outcomes all right i talk about this uh a lot in a lot of different podcasts but the reason i talk
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about it so much is because it's really everything when it comes to producing the result that you want
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if you don't know what you have to do you certainly can't execute on those things and i talk about that
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a lot in the win the day podcast which is episode 107 of the mfceo project or episode 16 of real af
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again go listen to episode 107 of the mfceo project or episode 16 of the real af and listen
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and it gives you the recipe of how to not only identify your critical tasks but how to execute
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them in a way called the power list which is a method that i developed that pushes you forward into a
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momentum that basically creates winning as a habit for you all right what if winning was actually
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the only thing you could do what if winning was not such a struggle but something that you just
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did because you were automatically in tune with a certain tool that's what this tool does for you
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this tool will create a situation where you are winning your day and because you're winning your day
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you're winning your weeks because you're winning your weeks you're creating a habit of winning a
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habit of productivity and then it becomes who the fuck you are this is the magic that you are looking
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for that you are currently missing period all right so go listen to that episode i know we have a lot
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of new listeners and i know that's an episode that most people still have not gone through and listened
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to all right so go listen to that now this is exactly how i do it guys i'm not talking to you
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in theory this is what i do day to day and i want you to understand that okay i have a power list
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every single day the power list method like i said go listen to the podcast will teach you how to create
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this momentum so that you no longer have to struggle to win we're talking about taking all the shitty
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habits that you've developed for your whole life smashing them in the fucking mouth and creating new
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habits that serve you properly all right that's what we have to do because as you know we only have
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so much energy and time and most people spend all of their energy and time pretending to be busy
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because they think if they're busy they'll be rewarded the world doesn't reward busy the world
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rewards effective all right and i don't know about you guys but let's be real i'm not one of these guys
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that wants to fucking grind my face off 24 7 right like every other guru says every other guru's like
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oh you gotta grind grind grind 27 hours out of 24 every day or otherwise you ain't got it
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and what's that do it makes you feel like you don't have what it takes and i'm telling you and
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i'm the only motherfucker telling you that you don't have to grind 24 7 365 to get where you want
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to be if you can learn how to be effective if i get my power list done by 11 a.m guess what i got the
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rest of the day do whatever the fuck i want and that's how we want to live we want to have life we want
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to have balance we want to have something besides just banging our head on the wall for a career
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this is how you do it guys all right a lot of guys like to boost their own egos you know they try to
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talk about how hard they work and how much work they do and this and that no i don't give a fuck
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dude you're you're you're demoralizing people by telling them that they have to do all this shit that
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they don't have to do how does that make you feel when you see people who are telling you oh i work
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i work i work 365 days a year 24 hours a day i only sleep one hour a night what's that does that make
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you think the success is obtainable for you no it doesn't it makes you feel like you don't have what
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it takes okay so take it from me this is not a situation where you have to run around and be busy
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all the time this is what average people do average people pretend to be busy effective people don't
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give a fuck about busy they give a fuck about the results they produce all right by you learning
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the skill of winning every day okay you're creating a compound effect which gives you an edge over your
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competition over the course of time time is going to pass regardless okay why would you not do the
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things that are going to get you further in life every single day knowing that time's happening
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all right you can go back and listen to my thousand days podcast talk about this concept in depth
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the point here is this all right busy is for weak people busy is the shit that people say when
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they're not actually effective effective people don't say shit effective people do what they do
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and they let the results do the talking so quit listening to all these guys who pump this information
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into your brain about how much they work so that they can feel superior to you and start listening to
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people that are actually trying to help i'm trying to help you guys okay i don't want ads on this show
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don't ask you for money all i ask is this take the tools i give and go out and fucking win with
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them all right and then the other thing i ask is to pay the fee the fee is this if you like the show
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if you enjoyed the show if you learned something that made you laugh if it made you think if it
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changed your perspective if it's something that you think somebody else will benefit from please
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point them in this direction that's the fee and that's also the show
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till
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existed while i i'm from where you can't trust so welcome