REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 77. Changing The Mindset That Keeps Us Average

00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00

00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mo changed to 50 got mo cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch 0.99

00:00:11.720 cost 250 what's up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the realist sake 0.98

00:00:17.180 about the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking

00:00:22.600 reality guys today i've got a short real talk for you um before i get into it 0.71

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00:01:49.700 we're going to talk about personal development yes we're going to talk about fucking winning 0.93

00:01:53.600 all right that's what we're going to do we're going to talk about getting better but we're also going 0.79

00:01:59.180 to include some of my opinions and some of my viewpoints and perspective on the world back when

00:02:05.700 i was running the mfceo project which you can find in this feed if you scroll back you will find 300

00:02:11.880 plus episodes that are me talking exclusively life lessons and how to win and make money and kick ass and 0.72

00:02:19.680 all this shit that is very important um that's more of like a lecture more of a you know i'm teaching 0.76

00:02:26.900 you a skill uh this new format the real af is more so you know like me it's uh what i think what i feel 0.96

00:02:36.660 what i'm what i'm you know into what i'm feeling what i'm not feeling and you know it's not for everybody

00:02:42.580 and i'm not for everybody it's like you're not for everybody so uh let's just come to an agreement

00:02:47.260 right now that you're going to learn a lot of shit and you also might hear some things that you know 0.63

00:02:53.520 you may agree with wholeheartedly you also may not agree with it that's your right to your opinion 0.96

00:02:57.560 i respect that so respect mine back um with that being said let's get right into this okay i saw a

00:03:05.140 meme this morning that actually inspired this show and i'm going to pull it up on my phone right here

00:03:10.160 so i can uh relate it to you accurately uh at the top of the meme it says fuck average which you know

00:03:18.680 hey i agree with that uh i think we all agree with that i don't think that you'd be listening to the 0.94

00:03:23.520 show if you didn't think hey fuck average i don't want to be that so i agree so far right it's a good 0.88

00:03:27.640 meme uh day and it's it's it's formatted so the top half of the meme it says day in the life of the 0.97

00:03:34.920 average person the bottom half of the meme it says day in the life of the inspired person so let's

00:03:40.220 just go through the day in the life of the average person day in the life of the average person that

00:03:43.700 shows this dude getting out of bed at 7 30 in the morning and by nine o'clock he's hunched over

00:03:49.840 it looks like kind of looks like he's taking a dump uh he but he looks miserable all right so it must not be

00:03:55.440 a good dump um by 1700 which is 5 p.m uh he's watching netflix and then by 2300

00:04:04.060 uh he's asleep on the couch all right so that's the day in the life of the average person wake up

00:04:09.840 at 7 30 take a miserable poop at nine watch netflix and sleep on the couch and then it says day in the 0.98

00:04:19.060 life of the inspired person wake up at five o'clock in the morning this dude looks happy as fuck to 0.97

00:04:25.100 wake up at five and man you're over there laughing ain't nobody happy at waking up at five o'clock in 0.98

00:04:30.100 morning is joe no fuck no there's not then 7 a.m it shows this this dude like running a meeting 0.99

00:04:38.080 and it shows some people like a tent like so happy to pay attention at 7 a.m i wonder where the fuck 0.98

00:04:43.100 he's finding these people at and then at 2100 it shows nothing like there i don't know he must be 0.93

00:04:48.540 invisible by then because he's got so many super fucking powers because of course the inspired

00:04:53.100 successful person has super powers and then by 2200 uh he's in bed all right so he's in bed uh an hour 0.99

00:05:01.020 earlier than the guy who is average and he's up two hours earlier you know happy as fuck i guess he 0.98

00:05:09.620 had a you know he must be happy because he took a nice poop you know but i don't know man anyway 0.98

00:05:15.380 this meme got me thinking this meme looks like some dude who was fucking 13 years old made it 0.97

00:05:23.220 all right and i want to bring this to your attention because this is so fucking false 0.96

00:05:29.640 you guys consume this success content from all these success pages and all these people who are online 0.93

00:05:38.020 and you have no fucking idea if they actually know what they're talking about or not you have no idea 0.84

00:05:43.340 you have none but you take it and you look at it and you think oh this must be the way it is 0.98

00:05:47.860 let me tell you something man i've never got up at 5 a.m one fucking day in my life other than to 0.96

00:05:54.880 maybe go to the airport okay a couple times i had to go to the airport i got to get up real early 0.93

00:05:59.180 right you guys all know what that's about but i never woke up at 5 a.m and i don't plan on waking up 0.95

00:06:07.040 at 5 a.m and to me that sounds fucking terrible now i know you're gonna go to every other fucking 0.99

00:06:13.220 guru out there and they're gonna say some bullshit about their morning routine and you know they get 0.99

00:06:19.160 they get out their fucking bamboo meditation mat and they do some chants and they rub some fucking 0.99

00:06:25.140 beads together and they say and you know they have a peaceful day and like everybody's got this this 1.00

00:06:31.820 this little recipe for success and what i want to tell you is uh stop buying their bullshit okay we live in 0.96

00:06:39.580 this culture right now and this is what i really want to talk to you guys about where people 0.99

00:06:44.260 consistently brag about how busy they are think about this hey joe how's it going today oh man 0.96

00:06:52.620 so fucking busy so busy oh you are yeah so busy how many times do you fucking hear that how many times 0.97

00:07:01.040 do we hear that when we say hey how's it going today and people respond back like that like we're like 0.99

00:07:05.860 i'm gonna pin some kind of fucking metal on their shirt for being busy let me get this crystal clear 0.95

00:07:11.200 for you guys being busy is not a symbol of success it's a sign of being unorganized it's a sign of 0.98

00:07:19.400 being ineffective and it's a sign of being mentally weak that's the truth okay so realize that when you 1.00

00:07:26.280 answer someone's question oh man i'm so busy you sound like a fucking idiot all right so stop doing it 1.00

00:07:33.780 that's the first thing i want i want you to understand now if you can't do that and you 0.99

00:07:40.380 have a problem doing that realize that when you actually go talk to a successful person

00:07:44.700 and you say and they say hey steve how's it going and you respond like that they're gonna think you're 0.84

00:07:49.720 a fucking mess all right so i'm telling you this and i know it sounds harsh because i know every single 0.98

00:07:55.520 one of you does this you say this shit constantly it's a habit it's like when people say hey how you 1.00

00:08:01.720 doing you're like oh living the dream all right get the fuck out of here with that if you want 1.00

00:08:07.640 people that are successful to respect you come up with a different answer then oh i'm you know i'm so 0.55

00:08:14.560 busy it's so overwhelming you think that makes me want to hire you think that makes me want to work 0.99

00:08:19.020 with you you think i want to work with somebody who's gonna complain about how much shit they got to 0.98

00:08:22.120 do no i don't it's not a badge honor it's not something that you should be celebrating 1.00

00:08:27.500 and quite frankly it's weak as fuck what you need to do is you need to learn how to shift your focus 0.98

00:08:34.400 from being busy to actually producing results and being productive our society has become programmed 0.98

00:08:42.240 into thinking that working 40 hours a week equals productivity it doesn't and nobody who's actually

00:08:48.700 doing it in real life the people you actually want to connect with the people you actually look up to

00:08:54.840 the people who have actually built real things gives a fuck about how hard you work they care 0.97

00:09:02.140 about how effective you are i don't give a fuck how many calls you make i don't care how many appointments 0.98

00:09:08.980 you have i don't care how many this or that or this you do what i care about is the result and that 0.98

00:09:15.580 sounds harsh but it should be relieving to you because what it means is you don't have to pretend to be so

00:09:21.660 fucking busy anymore you don't have to tell those lies about how busy you are not only to me but also 0.93

00:09:27.360 yourself okay the goal here is not to be overly busy the goal here is to produce a result all right 0.99

00:09:34.360 so how do we do this how can we switch our perspective from being quote-unquote busy to celebrating being

00:09:42.200 productive and actually be productive okay the first thing is obvious this is point number one if you're

00:09:48.240 taking notes take inventory of how you spend your time how are you spending your time because the 0.92

00:09:54.900 truth is most of you have a number of hours a day where you're actually fucking off you're sucked into 0.92

00:10:02.600 instagram you're sucked into youtube you're sucked into netflix and because you aren't aware of how much 0.90

00:10:09.580 time you're spending doing these things you think you have no time and you perceive it as being super

00:10:14.840 busy but you're not you're actually just very bad at managing your time all right so that's the first

00:10:21.180 thing become aware of how you're spending your time the second thing is very simple okay make a list of

00:10:28.360 your critical tasks the things you have to get done i'm not talking about a goal list i'm not saying you

00:10:34.220 write down your affirmations like a lot of a lot of guys are telling you now write down your affirmations

00:10:39.920 okay and you know i'm with that right you want to write down some affirmations today i am beautiful i 0.99

00:10:44.840 am sexy i am the fucking shit to make yourself believe it that's cool if that's what you got to 0.98

00:10:49.360 do i'm not trashing that but what i am telling you is that's not the list i'm talking about i'm talking 0.99

00:10:54.060 about a list of the critical tasks that are outside of your normal everyday habits okay if you work out

00:11:01.520 every day working out it's not a critical task for you because it's already a habit all right what is it

00:11:06.800 that's going to move you forward what are these things that are going to move you forward what are

00:11:10.560 the things that are going to take you from where you are to where you want to be and how do you break

00:11:14.540 that down so you find out what those actions are that you can do today all right now this is a huge

00:11:22.000 deal that most people never do they never learn how to make these lists of critical tasks and what they

00:11:27.580 definitely don't do which is the third point here is they don't execute they don't focus on the

00:11:33.040 outcomes all right i talk about this uh a lot in a lot of different podcasts but the reason i talk

00:11:39.380 about it so much is because it's really everything when it comes to producing the result that you want

00:11:44.320 if you don't know what you have to do you certainly can't execute on those things and i talk about that

00:11:49.900 a lot in the win the day podcast which is episode 107 of the mfceo project or episode 16 of real af

00:11:57.780 again go listen to episode 107 of the mfceo project or episode 16 of the real af and listen

00:12:05.420 and it gives you the recipe of how to not only identify your critical tasks but how to execute

00:12:12.020 them in a way called the power list which is a method that i developed that pushes you forward into a

00:12:18.900 momentum that basically creates winning as a habit for you all right what if winning was actually

00:12:27.760 the only thing you could do what if winning was not such a struggle but something that you just

00:12:33.320 did because you were automatically in tune with a certain tool that's what this tool does for you

00:12:38.480 this tool will create a situation where you are winning your day and because you're winning your day

00:12:45.120 you're winning your weeks because you're winning your weeks you're creating a habit of winning a 0.99

00:12:48.900 habit of productivity and then it becomes who the fuck you are this is the magic that you are looking 0.99

00:12:55.200 for that you are currently missing period all right so go listen to that episode i know we have a lot 0.99

00:13:01.060 of new listeners and i know that's an episode that most people still have not gone through and listened

00:13:06.480 to all right so go listen to that now this is exactly how i do it guys i'm not talking to you

00:13:13.980 in theory this is what i do day to day and i want you to understand that okay i have a power list

00:13:20.260 every single day the power list method like i said go listen to the podcast will teach you how to create

00:13:25.540 this momentum so that you no longer have to struggle to win we're talking about taking all the shitty 1.00

00:13:31.120 habits that you've developed for your whole life smashing them in the fucking mouth and creating new 0.99

00:13:36.260 habits that serve you properly all right that's what we have to do because as you know we only have 1.00

00:13:44.220 so much energy and time and most people spend all of their energy and time pretending to be busy

00:13:51.600 because they think if they're busy they'll be rewarded the world doesn't reward busy the world

00:13:56.860 rewards effective all right and i don't know about you guys but let's be real i'm not one of these guys 0.80

00:14:01.700 that wants to fucking grind my face off 24 7 right like every other guru says every other guru's like 0.96

00:14:07.260 oh you gotta grind grind grind 27 hours out of 24 every day or otherwise you ain't got it 0.99

00:14:13.180 and what's that do it makes you feel like you don't have what it takes and i'm telling you and 0.98

00:14:18.900 i'm the only motherfucker telling you that you don't have to grind 24 7 365 to get where you want 0.95

00:14:25.020 to be if you can learn how to be effective if i get my power list done by 11 a.m guess what i got the 0.99

00:14:31.920 rest of the day do whatever the fuck i want and that's how we want to live we want to have life we want 0.81

00:14:38.080 to have balance we want to have something besides just banging our head on the wall for a career 0.97

00:14:44.620 this is how you do it guys all right a lot of guys like to boost their own egos you know they try to 0.99

00:14:51.560 talk about how hard they work and how much work they do and this and that no i don't give a fuck 0.99

00:14:56.040 dude you're you're you're demoralizing people by telling them that they have to do all this shit that 0.99

00:15:02.100 they don't have to do how does that make you feel when you see people who are telling you oh i work 0.99

00:15:07.120 i work i work 365 days a year 24 hours a day i only sleep one hour a night what's that does that make

00:15:13.120 you think the success is obtainable for you no it doesn't it makes you feel like you don't have what

00:15:17.200 it takes okay so take it from me this is not a situation where you have to run around and be busy

00:15:24.280 all the time this is what average people do average people pretend to be busy effective people don't 0.91

00:15:30.580 give a fuck about busy they give a fuck about the results they produce all right by you learning 0.93

00:15:35.560 the skill of winning every day okay you're creating a compound effect which gives you an edge over your 0.99

00:15:42.060 competition over the course of time time is going to pass regardless okay why would you not do the

00:15:49.720 things that are going to get you further in life every single day knowing that time's happening

00:15:56.340 all right you can go back and listen to my thousand days podcast talk about this concept in depth 0.99

00:16:00.360 the point here is this all right busy is for weak people busy is the shit that people say when 0.99

00:16:07.720 they're not actually effective effective people don't say shit effective people do what they do 0.99

00:16:12.660 and they let the results do the talking so quit listening to all these guys who pump this information 0.95

00:16:19.580 into your brain about how much they work so that they can feel superior to you and start listening to

00:16:26.260 people that are actually trying to help i'm trying to help you guys okay i don't want ads on this show 0.99

00:16:30.360 don't ask you for money all i ask is this take the tools i give and go out and fucking win with 0.97

00:16:35.620 them all right and then the other thing i ask is to pay the fee the fee is this if you like the show

00:16:40.980 if you enjoyed the show if you learned something that made you laugh if it made you think if it

00:16:46.440 changed your perspective if it's something that you think somebody else will benefit from please

00:16:51.820 point them in this direction that's the fee and that's also the show 0.95

00:16:55.880 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till 1.00

00:17:01.820 existed while i i'm from where you can't trust so welcome 0.99

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 14, 2020

77. Changing The Mindset That Keeps Us Average

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