REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 17, 2020


78. The Equation Of Happiness


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In this episode of The Realest Say Goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome motherfucking REALITY! Today I have a real talk about happiness and how to actually create happiness all the time.

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00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00
00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mo changed to 50 got mo cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch
00:00:11.720 cost 250 what's up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to
00:00:17.740 the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome motherfucking reality guys
00:00:23.940 today i have a real talk for you it's very very important before i get into that i want to remind
00:00:30.400 you guys that uh we don't run ads on this show do this show for free i depend on you guys to grow the
00:00:37.960 show uh so i ask that you pay the fee and the fee is very simple if you got value out of the show if
00:00:45.440 it made you laugh if it made you think if you learn something if it made you uh have a new perspective
00:00:51.620 on some things which this one definitely will i ask that you share it um whether that be on social
00:00:57.800 media or with your friends or in person um that's all we ask okay so the fee is not money uh it's just
00:01:03.940 you know some word of mouth doing us a little solid for putting out some good content and you know what
00:01:08.860 if the content sucks don't tell anybody i'm cool with that too all right uh so whatever you think
00:01:15.160 you know give us back in in goodwill that's how it works over here so guys today i've got something
00:01:21.560 that's really important that i want to talk to you about you know uh there's all kinds of things
00:01:27.340 going on in the world right now you know all kinds of disruptions all kinds of uh negative things
00:01:32.160 all kinds of frustrations and uh division and you know it's really hard to see past the negative that's
00:01:42.940 going on right now and and and regardless of where you stand where you come from uh what race you are
00:01:52.080 what political belief you are what nationality you are uh we all have this one thing in common
00:02:00.340 we want to be happy and the problem is is that the vast majority of people believe two things
00:02:07.680 about happiness which both happen to be false okay first off they believe that happiness is
00:02:14.320 something that just happens to you okay you either experience happiness or you don't and it comes and
00:02:20.920 goes at will okay it's not something that you can create uh by your own actions that's the first thing
00:02:27.380 that's not true at all the second thing that they also believe about happiness that isn't true is that
00:02:33.320 there's some sort of secret to happiness they think you know oh i've got to be one of the chosen
00:02:39.340 few to know the secret and you know they think oh it's probably a super complicated algorithm
00:02:45.160 that's you know a mystical revelation that's been passed down from person to person to person to person
00:02:51.060 but guess what i can buy it from some bozo on the internet for 37 hundred dollars and you know 0.78
00:02:58.700 become a certified happiness fucking guru right that's the two beliefs about happiness that just 0.55
00:03:03.960 aren't true all right first of all it doesn't just happen to you and second of all you can't fucking 0.97
00:03:10.620 buy it you got to make it all right so let's forget everything that we know about happiness or that we
00:03:18.660 think we know about happiness and let's get in to how to actually create happiness all the time
00:03:26.440 now listen guys i've been saying this for years that success is an equation it's an equation of math
00:03:35.520 all right at my company we have a saying talk equals regrets action equals results period do the work
00:03:44.200 get the results if you're around me for any period of time if you've been following me on social media
00:03:51.820 for any period of time you know that i talk about these things consistently there is an equation
00:03:57.520 and it's very simple my life is proof that there's an equation for success and as i tell people all the
00:04:05.060 time i'm not the most talented or gifted guy on the planet i don't have access to you know special
00:04:13.080 knowledge or resources that no one else has you know a lot of guys like to pretend they do well i'm telling you
00:04:19.020 i don't okay here's my secret every day i identify what needs to be done and guess what i fucking do it 0.95
00:04:26.380 okay i do the work i do the work relentlessly and that's what's gotten me to this point in life i just
00:04:33.520 executed on the simple equation all right and the same thing is true for happiness happiness isn't the
00:04:41.680 natural result of experience you know the quote unquote perfect conditions a lot of people think that
00:04:47.620 right they think like oh it's the cards they were dealt they got the perfect family the perfect job
00:04:52.560 the perfect income the perfect relationship oh they got the perfect place to live oh and they're in
00:04:57.980 perfect health oh and there's no physical or mental emotional challenges that go with that at all
00:05:03.680 they're perfect that's bullshit and we all know it okay you can have all of those things literally have
00:05:12.720 all of those things and still be miserable because there's an equation for happiness that needs to be
00:05:18.860 executed against that's reliable and consistent and guess why it's reliable and consistent because
00:05:25.220 it's a fucking equation guys it's one plus one equals two 21 divided by seven is going to be three 0.99
00:05:31.060 e equals mc squared energy equals mass times the speed of light squared always that's the way it's going
00:05:37.580 to be it's fucking science that's how this works and that's what i'm going to talk to you guys about 0.82
00:05:42.760 today all right the result for the equation of happiness will always be the same if you execute
00:05:49.620 the equation you will get the result so what's the equation why do all these people spend all this money
00:05:57.340 and all this time looking all over the world for the answer to this well here it is guys
00:06:04.100 discipline plus purpose plus gratitude equals happiness that's the equation discipline plus
00:06:14.560 purpose plus gratitude equals happiness okay so let's start with discipline if you looked up
00:06:22.280 discipline in the dictionary it says and i'm quoting to train yourself to do something in a controlled
00:06:29.740 and habitual way but i have a definition that's a lot more simple for us you know not brainiacs out
00:06:37.020 there that and it's more meaningful too let's be real discipline is the ability to keep the promises
00:06:41.740 you make to yourself when you say hey i'm gonna lose 100 pounds you keep that promise to yourself
00:06:47.520 when you say hey i'm gonna scale my business to nine figures you keep that promise to yourself when you say
00:06:53.980 hey i'm gonna write a best-selling book you keep that promise to yourself the way you keep that
00:07:00.200 promise to yourself is to consistently say no to your bitch voice when it tries to get you to make 1.00
00:07:08.220 excuses consistently say no to your bitch voice when it tries to get you to give up all right consistently 1.00
00:07:16.520 take action consistently execute you do the work whether you feel like it or not you do the work whether
00:07:23.160 their conditions are good or whether they're the worst they could possibly be you execute day after day
00:07:29.160 after motherfucking day without compromise without deviation you push yourself beyond your comfort zone
00:07:37.320 and you do this for a long fucking time long after you have technically nothing left in the tank 0.95
00:07:45.820 okay that's what discipline is it's doing whatever it takes to keep the promises you make to yourself
00:07:52.700 when you become the kind of person who knows you are going to keep the promises you make to yourself
00:07:59.400 do you understand how confident and self-assured you're going to become there's a piece that comes
00:08:07.140 with this guys you're going to experience because you're not worried about what the other factors are
00:08:12.900 beyond your control you come to understand that you are the biggest factor in your happiness
00:08:18.480 and if you could control you if you could keep the promises you make to you you will be able to all
00:08:25.580 but guarantee that you will succeed in achieving your goals no matter what they may be that's why
00:08:31.760 discipline is the first factor in this equation of happiness but the reality is guys you're not going
00:08:38.620 to be able to do what you need to do to keep promises to yourself if you don't know why you want to do it
00:08:46.280 and that's where the second part of this equation comes in the second part is purpose nobody's going to
00:08:52.380 put in the hard work just for the sake of doing the hard work nobody's going to put themselves through
00:08:57.340 hell just say hey look at me guys i was disciplined enough to put myself through hell
00:09:01.280 now at some point i can imagine you know i've got a bunch of endurance athletes who are listening
00:09:07.260 to me right now probably rolling their eyes and whether you are one or not i'm going to go ahead and use
00:09:11.280 this as an example a lot of endurance guys and i have a lot of them and i love you guys okay you
00:09:15.880 guys do some incredible things but a lot of you guys like to say shit like you know well actually
00:09:21.240 andy i do do these tough things just to prove to myself that i'm tough bullshit okay that's not the 0.62
00:09:27.080 payoff that's not why you're doing it you're doing it because you're able to get together with all your
00:09:32.100 other endurance buddies at parties and puff your chest up and say hey man i did 57 fucking iron mans 0.94
00:09:37.700 you know we did that there's camaraderie there's there's community there's all kinds of great
00:09:43.620 things that come with that that are just you know not mentioned all the time okay it's the image you're
00:09:49.760 seeing that you have in your head when you get to enjoy the glory of you know it is a massive achievement
00:09:55.260 that motivates you right like that's the truth okay that's why you guys get the iron man tattoos
00:10:02.080 that's why you know you have the picture of you crossing the finish line in your office
00:10:05.820 and you should just like there's not a person on this planet who wants to be disciplined just
00:10:12.020 for the sake of being disciplined that's like saying i want to be an nfl athlete just to play
00:10:17.780 in the game and i don't really care about winning or i want to be a soldier but i don't care about
00:10:22.000 winning the war right okay so let's be real discipline is not an end it's a means to an end when i do
00:10:29.860 everything i can to resist eating the fucking peanut butter in the middle of the night in my kitchen 0.96
00:10:35.380 it's not just to say yay for me i defeated the peanut butter right that's not what i'm trying
00:10:41.640 to do guys it's that i know that i have to cultivate the discipline to resist the peanut
00:10:48.360 butter so that i can achieve my ultimate goal which is to crush all my fucking goals and win big 0.91
00:10:53.780 at everything i do okay it's a means to an end and if you don't know why you want or need to do the
00:11:00.220 hard things guess what you're probably not going to do them that's why it's critical for your
00:11:06.080 happiness to understand what your ultimate purpose is it's critical that you have a clear picture in
00:11:12.320 your mind of exactly what it is you want in life right to be happy you have to be disciplined to be
00:11:19.220 disciplined you have to be purposeful and you have to know why you're executing you have to visualize
00:11:26.200 your purpose and see it clearly in your mind's eye because that's what creates the motivation and
00:11:33.360 drives your discipline to execute if you want to be obsessed with doing the hard work it takes to
00:11:39.280 keep promises to yourself you have to be disciplined and you need to be possessed by your sense of purpose
00:11:46.340 it's as simple as that all right so the equation of happiness so far guys is is discipline plus purpose
00:11:54.100 all right but there's one more part and that part is gratitude discipline plus purpose plus gratitude
00:12:00.660 equals happiness all right i want you to think of it like this if happiness was a coin on one side
00:12:07.480 it would be the ability to get what you want and on the other side it would be the appreciation
00:12:12.580 for what you already have that's the side of happiness that people like you and me really need to make
00:12:21.780 sure we don't neglect i'm talking about driven ambitious hungry people high achievers people who want
00:12:28.280 to crush massive goals on a daily basis it's good to want that it's good to have dreams and goals
00:12:36.620 it's good to want to pursue your own true full potential if you remember the axe analogy that i use often
00:12:44.080 i always talk about you got to keep the axe sharp you got to keep hitting it in the right spot consistently
00:12:49.960 you got to keep swinging long after you get tired and sore and blisters on your hand
00:12:55.760 it's so important to keep pushing forward on our goals but the reality is if you're always looking to
00:13:03.080 the future if you're always working towards something you never take the time to appreciate what you have
00:13:08.440 and enjoy what you have right now guess what you're going to go fucking insane guys you're going to be 0.98
00:13:14.920 miserable that's why you have to create a ritual in your life for expressing gratitude consistently
00:13:21.620 you've got to form a daily habit of giving thanks for me if you follow me you know that i do this when
00:13:27.900 i brush my teeth okay whenever i brush my teeth i take the time to identify the things i'm thankful for
00:13:33.980 my dogs my friends my family my health my companies the cool people at my companies that have become an
00:13:42.160 amazing part of my life the cool shit i've been able to experience like driving a race car or
00:13:48.040 speaking in front of huge crowds not everybody gets to do this kind of life man and i'm incredibly
00:13:53.940 thankful for it and i never go even an hour without being thankful for it that's the truth
00:13:59.480 okay and here's the kicker even if a lot of these good things in your life are the result of your hard
00:14:06.740 work you still need to consider them gifts okay you can't take them for granted you have to value
00:14:14.120 them purposefully and you have to be super grateful for them because if you don't literally take the time
00:14:20.400 every day to identify the great things in your life and say thank you you know what happens you know
00:14:26.340 what the opposite of gratitude is it's entitlement the opposite of giving thanks is complaining if you're
00:14:34.420 not a thankful overachiever you're going to become a complaining little fucking bitch with a victim 1.00
00:14:39.620 mentality that's the truth okay we see it everywhere right now if you're not cultivating good habits
00:14:46.620 you're going to slide into bad ones have you ever met a person who was ungrateful but also extremely
00:14:52.720 happy no you haven't because it doesn't exist but gratitude and happiness go hand in hand and that's the
00:14:59.640 final part of this equation that you've been searching your whole life for discipline plus
00:15:04.960 purpose plus gratitude equals happiness the ability to get what you want and the appreciation to love
00:15:12.700 what you have it all adds up and the equation is foolproof plug in the parts execute the equation
00:15:20.380 and you'll get the results and this isn't a one time for all time thing either can't just do this
00:15:27.100 one day and expect to have happiness this is like a shower you got to take it every day right
00:15:32.040 it's an equation for every day of your life if you do it every single day every day can be a great day
00:15:39.980 not a pleasant day not a perfect day not a pain-free day but still a great day a day that in spite of
00:15:49.360 whatever might have went wrong you were still happy to be alive
00:15:54.840 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till 1.00
00:16:00.720 existed
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