78. The Equation Of Happiness
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In this episode of The Realest Say Goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome motherfucking REALITY! Today I have a real talk about happiness and how to actually create happiness all the time.
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living
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spoke it till existence mo changed to 50 got mo cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch
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cost 250 what's up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to
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the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome motherfucking reality guys
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today i have a real talk for you it's very very important before i get into that i want to remind
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you know give us back in in goodwill that's how it works over here so guys today i've got something
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that's really important that i want to talk to you about you know uh there's all kinds of things
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going on in the world right now you know all kinds of disruptions all kinds of uh negative things
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all kinds of frustrations and uh division and you know it's really hard to see past the negative that's
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going on right now and and and regardless of where you stand where you come from uh what race you are
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what political belief you are what nationality you are uh we all have this one thing in common
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we want to be happy and the problem is is that the vast majority of people believe two things
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about happiness which both happen to be false okay first off they believe that happiness is
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something that just happens to you okay you either experience happiness or you don't and it comes and
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goes at will okay it's not something that you can create uh by your own actions that's the first thing
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that's not true at all the second thing that they also believe about happiness that isn't true is that
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there's some sort of secret to happiness they think you know oh i've got to be one of the chosen
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few to know the secret and you know they think oh it's probably a super complicated algorithm
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that's you know a mystical revelation that's been passed down from person to person to person to person
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but guess what i can buy it from some bozo on the internet for 37 hundred dollars and you know
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become a certified happiness fucking guru right that's the two beliefs about happiness that just
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aren't true all right first of all it doesn't just happen to you and second of all you can't fucking
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buy it you got to make it all right so let's forget everything that we know about happiness or that we
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think we know about happiness and let's get in to how to actually create happiness all the time
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now listen guys i've been saying this for years that success is an equation it's an equation of math
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all right at my company we have a saying talk equals regrets action equals results period do the work
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get the results if you're around me for any period of time if you've been following me on social media
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for any period of time you know that i talk about these things consistently there is an equation
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and it's very simple my life is proof that there's an equation for success and as i tell people all the
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time i'm not the most talented or gifted guy on the planet i don't have access to you know special
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knowledge or resources that no one else has you know a lot of guys like to pretend they do well i'm telling you
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i don't okay here's my secret every day i identify what needs to be done and guess what i fucking do it
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okay i do the work i do the work relentlessly and that's what's gotten me to this point in life i just
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executed on the simple equation all right and the same thing is true for happiness happiness isn't the
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natural result of experience you know the quote unquote perfect conditions a lot of people think that
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right they think like oh it's the cards they were dealt they got the perfect family the perfect job
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the perfect income the perfect relationship oh they got the perfect place to live oh and they're in
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perfect health oh and there's no physical or mental emotional challenges that go with that at all
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they're perfect that's bullshit and we all know it okay you can have all of those things literally have
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all of those things and still be miserable because there's an equation for happiness that needs to be
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executed against that's reliable and consistent and guess why it's reliable and consistent because
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it's a fucking equation guys it's one plus one equals two 21 divided by seven is going to be three
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e equals mc squared energy equals mass times the speed of light squared always that's the way it's going
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to be it's fucking science that's how this works and that's what i'm going to talk to you guys about
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today all right the result for the equation of happiness will always be the same if you execute
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the equation you will get the result so what's the equation why do all these people spend all this money
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and all this time looking all over the world for the answer to this well here it is guys
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discipline plus purpose plus gratitude equals happiness that's the equation discipline plus
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purpose plus gratitude equals happiness okay so let's start with discipline if you looked up
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discipline in the dictionary it says and i'm quoting to train yourself to do something in a controlled
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and habitual way but i have a definition that's a lot more simple for us you know not brainiacs out
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there that and it's more meaningful too let's be real discipline is the ability to keep the promises
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you make to yourself when you say hey i'm gonna lose 100 pounds you keep that promise to yourself
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when you say hey i'm gonna scale my business to nine figures you keep that promise to yourself when you say
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hey i'm gonna write a best-selling book you keep that promise to yourself the way you keep that
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promise to yourself is to consistently say no to your bitch voice when it tries to get you to make
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excuses consistently say no to your bitch voice when it tries to get you to give up all right consistently
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take action consistently execute you do the work whether you feel like it or not you do the work whether
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their conditions are good or whether they're the worst they could possibly be you execute day after day
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after motherfucking day without compromise without deviation you push yourself beyond your comfort zone
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and you do this for a long fucking time long after you have technically nothing left in the tank
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okay that's what discipline is it's doing whatever it takes to keep the promises you make to yourself
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when you become the kind of person who knows you are going to keep the promises you make to yourself
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do you understand how confident and self-assured you're going to become there's a piece that comes
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with this guys you're going to experience because you're not worried about what the other factors are
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beyond your control you come to understand that you are the biggest factor in your happiness
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and if you could control you if you could keep the promises you make to you you will be able to all
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but guarantee that you will succeed in achieving your goals no matter what they may be that's why
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discipline is the first factor in this equation of happiness but the reality is guys you're not going
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to be able to do what you need to do to keep promises to yourself if you don't know why you want to do it
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and that's where the second part of this equation comes in the second part is purpose nobody's going to
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put in the hard work just for the sake of doing the hard work nobody's going to put themselves through
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hell just say hey look at me guys i was disciplined enough to put myself through hell
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now at some point i can imagine you know i've got a bunch of endurance athletes who are listening
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to me right now probably rolling their eyes and whether you are one or not i'm going to go ahead and use
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this as an example a lot of endurance guys and i have a lot of them and i love you guys okay you
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guys do some incredible things but a lot of you guys like to say shit like you know well actually
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andy i do do these tough things just to prove to myself that i'm tough bullshit okay that's not the
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payoff that's not why you're doing it you're doing it because you're able to get together with all your
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other endurance buddies at parties and puff your chest up and say hey man i did 57 fucking iron mans
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you know we did that there's camaraderie there's there's community there's all kinds of great
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things that come with that that are just you know not mentioned all the time okay it's the image you're
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seeing that you have in your head when you get to enjoy the glory of you know it is a massive achievement
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that motivates you right like that's the truth okay that's why you guys get the iron man tattoos
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that's why you know you have the picture of you crossing the finish line in your office
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and you should just like there's not a person on this planet who wants to be disciplined just
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for the sake of being disciplined that's like saying i want to be an nfl athlete just to play
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in the game and i don't really care about winning or i want to be a soldier but i don't care about
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winning the war right okay so let's be real discipline is not an end it's a means to an end when i do
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everything i can to resist eating the fucking peanut butter in the middle of the night in my kitchen
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it's not just to say yay for me i defeated the peanut butter right that's not what i'm trying
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to do guys it's that i know that i have to cultivate the discipline to resist the peanut
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butter so that i can achieve my ultimate goal which is to crush all my fucking goals and win big
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at everything i do okay it's a means to an end and if you don't know why you want or need to do the
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hard things guess what you're probably not going to do them that's why it's critical for your
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happiness to understand what your ultimate purpose is it's critical that you have a clear picture in
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your mind of exactly what it is you want in life right to be happy you have to be disciplined to be
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disciplined you have to be purposeful and you have to know why you're executing you have to visualize
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your purpose and see it clearly in your mind's eye because that's what creates the motivation and
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drives your discipline to execute if you want to be obsessed with doing the hard work it takes to
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keep promises to yourself you have to be disciplined and you need to be possessed by your sense of purpose
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it's as simple as that all right so the equation of happiness so far guys is is discipline plus purpose
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all right but there's one more part and that part is gratitude discipline plus purpose plus gratitude
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equals happiness all right i want you to think of it like this if happiness was a coin on one side
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it would be the ability to get what you want and on the other side it would be the appreciation
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for what you already have that's the side of happiness that people like you and me really need to make
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sure we don't neglect i'm talking about driven ambitious hungry people high achievers people who want
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to crush massive goals on a daily basis it's good to want that it's good to have dreams and goals
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it's good to want to pursue your own true full potential if you remember the axe analogy that i use often
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i always talk about you got to keep the axe sharp you got to keep hitting it in the right spot consistently
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you got to keep swinging long after you get tired and sore and blisters on your hand
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it's so important to keep pushing forward on our goals but the reality is if you're always looking to
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the future if you're always working towards something you never take the time to appreciate what you have
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and enjoy what you have right now guess what you're going to go fucking insane guys you're going to be
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miserable that's why you have to create a ritual in your life for expressing gratitude consistently
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you've got to form a daily habit of giving thanks for me if you follow me you know that i do this when
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i brush my teeth okay whenever i brush my teeth i take the time to identify the things i'm thankful for
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my dogs my friends my family my health my companies the cool people at my companies that have become an
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amazing part of my life the cool shit i've been able to experience like driving a race car or
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speaking in front of huge crowds not everybody gets to do this kind of life man and i'm incredibly
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thankful for it and i never go even an hour without being thankful for it that's the truth
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okay and here's the kicker even if a lot of these good things in your life are the result of your hard
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work you still need to consider them gifts okay you can't take them for granted you have to value
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them purposefully and you have to be super grateful for them because if you don't literally take the time
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every day to identify the great things in your life and say thank you you know what happens you know
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what the opposite of gratitude is it's entitlement the opposite of giving thanks is complaining if you're
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not a thankful overachiever you're going to become a complaining little fucking bitch with a victim
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mentality that's the truth okay we see it everywhere right now if you're not cultivating good habits
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you're going to slide into bad ones have you ever met a person who was ungrateful but also extremely
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happy no you haven't because it doesn't exist but gratitude and happiness go hand in hand and that's the
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final part of this equation that you've been searching your whole life for discipline plus
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purpose plus gratitude equals happiness the ability to get what you want and the appreciation to love
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what you have it all adds up and the equation is foolproof plug in the parts execute the equation
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and you'll get the results and this isn't a one time for all time thing either can't just do this
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one day and expect to have happiness this is like a shower you got to take it every day right
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it's an equation for every day of your life if you do it every single day every day can be a great day
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not a pleasant day not a perfect day not a pain-free day but still a great day a day that in spite of
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whatever might have went wrong you were still happy to be alive
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till