REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 81. Manifesting Dreams Into Reality Ft. David Meltzer & Carlos Reyes

00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living

00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mo changed to 50 got mo cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch

00:00:11.720 cost 250 what's up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realist say goodbye to

00:00:17.120 the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality

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00:01:37.600 the show for us uh now we got a partial crew here uh today i got uh mr sal sal's here what's going on

00:01:46.680 guys and then um i've got a couple friends that that happened to swing through first form hq today

00:01:52.940 and i'm looking forward to having them on the show i've got uh my good friend david melter

00:01:57.840 and then uh my new friend carlos reyes what's up brother how's it going brother good good and uh

00:02:04.660 how was the trip in man you know it's easy now i like flying better this is my first trip i was so

00:02:11.400 excited to come here in person i'm so tired of zoom yeah yeah and the airports are quiet the planes are

00:02:16.580 you know separated it's really nice i fly 200 days a year normally this is great yeah 200 days a year

00:02:23.260 yeah son of a bitch makes me feel like a rook man that's what keeps me married i got four kids remember

00:02:28.720 fuck yeah so for my people that don't know who you guys are uh i'll start with you david just give

00:02:35.560 them you know a little 30 second rundown of what you do and and what you're all about sure my journey

00:02:40.300 is a little eclectic graduated law school got into the internet despite my mom told me it was going

00:02:44.380 to be a fad became a millionaire to nine months out of law school went up to the silicon valley

00:02:49.220 raised hundreds of millions of dollars became ceo of the world's first smartphone with samsung so i

00:02:53.900 ran their phone division met lee steinberg uh most people know the movie jerry mcguire so i ran

00:02:59.740 that sports agency uh with lee steinberg and warren moon was my business partner there the hall of

00:03:04.320 fame quarterback 11 years ago we spun off the marketing and media company for sports around the

00:03:09.440 biggest events in sports and charities and the last three years i built my own brand speaking books

00:03:15.860 podcasts i love the message new tv show yeah my mission in life is to empower over a billion people

00:03:21.420 to be happy yeah so i know you and i share that mission to empower others to empower others and

00:03:25.740 seeing this facility it's quite obvious you're putting the reality to your dream we're trying we're

00:03:31.140 getting started you know we talk about day one here did you catch that he's also the model in

00:03:35.780 dosecki's beer campaign this is the most interesting man in the world i was thinking like

00:03:40.580 i sold copiers i just fucking met you know this guy's like yeah and then i i split the atom i actually

00:03:46.860 invented flying and uh you might know it as the electric car hey we bring in a high quality gas

00:03:54.540 i mean we don't fuck around over here my pal sal yeah hey i'm a hype man what's up carlos

00:04:00.400 sir uh my you know my story is actually not that sophisticated um you know i was uh brought here

00:04:06.980 twice illegally single mom she never made more than 825 an hour um it took me a very long time it was

00:04:13.960 a very expensive and extensive process to become a citizen of the greatest fucking country on earth

00:04:18.680 right yeah and uh i made all my money from real estate flipping houses i started with bandit signs

00:04:23.880 and you know out and you know out in the on the street that's i earned it the hard way um

00:04:28.080 and god willing we get into that how you know a lot of folks nowadays they forgot what hard work

00:04:33.100 is right oh yeah so that's that's where i come from i was born into extreme dirt poverty you know

00:04:38.380 dirt roads and dirt floors you know where i come from well you know taking showers out of a bucket

00:04:43.440 and taking a crap in the back uh in the in a back house that my grandfather built you know hanging

00:04:48.440 having a washing board and hanging our clothes on wires you know that's that's where i come from and

00:04:53.100 so when i got to america i was blown away i'm not this was like the the land of milk and honey for

00:04:58.980 me so um here we are you know i appreciate you thank you for having me yeah i'm excited to uh i'm

00:05:04.520 excited to talk a little bit more about that work ethic thing yeah and i don't know anything about

00:05:07.760 you but i would imagine your grandpa's proud i mean you got to think god bless him you got to think

00:05:11.500 in that in that sense right where he's coming from and where you're sitting i know nothing about you

00:05:15.380 don't take that as an offense i think it's an honor you have us in our little room here and

00:05:18.960 it's like that's badass dude dude uh did i heard something i did you guys come did your mom come to

00:05:28.100 the u.s through a drain pipe yeah so from where uh through san ysidro uh next to tijuana yeah uh from

00:05:35.860 sonora we're from sonora i was born in hermosillo sonora i was raised in guayma sonora which is about

00:05:40.260 an hour and a half south next to a resort area called san carlos bay right so uh my grandmother i mean

00:05:46.700 sorry my my my mother she left me and my brother with our grandma and my grandpa for about a year

00:05:52.680 and a half two years while you know she made her way to to california first escondido san diego county

00:05:57.840 and uh she worked the fields got amnesty then uh she tried to bring uh me and my brother through a

00:06:03.320 drain system the first time we got caught kicked out we waited two days and the second time we were

00:06:08.120 successful made it to california and then uh we only lasted about a year and a half there because it was

00:06:13.720 way too expensive for a single mom you know what i mean so yeah uh we were crushed defeated um went

00:06:19.380 back down to to mexico and at this point you know i'm about nine ten years old and i start um i was

00:06:25.380 already working as a five-year-old in mexico but now when we got sent back my mom and i had a plan and

00:06:29.980 the plan was to get her over to the states again yeah so she started working in the resort areas

00:06:34.160 cleaning the rooms there you know and i started bagging groceries you know i uh at a retail store

00:06:39.180 called laleh i had my little you know my little cap and my you know my little my little gown and

00:06:44.080 i'll bag groceries take them out to the cars and then ask for a tip so at nine ten years old we saved

00:06:49.680 money for about two years and then uh we sent her back on the bus greyhound to phoenix arizona and

00:06:54.800 that's where we are now that's awesome dude yes sir that is awesome the the the land of oppression

00:07:01.260 and the land of uh of all bad shit the land of oppression yeah i'm just saying that's what we see

00:07:08.100 right like we hear this in the media everywhere we go and here we got a real life story of someone

00:07:12.640 who's come to this country and taken advantage of the opportunities that we

00:07:18.160 who are born here seem to forget about that we have i'm living the american dream yeah bro i love it

00:07:25.380 it's fucking awesome perspective is a motherfucker yeah it is thank you yeah i was being highly sarcastic

00:07:30.060 about the land of oppression you'll learn you'll learn around us you gotta like really consider

00:07:34.160 okay i got you being honest i'm just so fucking tired of hearing it man like you know it's just

00:07:40.840 it's it's the entitlement of this of the country and the social the social entitlement entitlement of

00:07:51.400 this country you know you we used to talk about it like people just wanted to win or they wanted the

00:07:57.040 life for free with no work right we wanted to they wanted to take some of so-and-so success and get

00:08:03.300 some free shit but now we've got the entitlement gone to a whole new level the entitlements now

00:08:08.760 if i'm afraid of a virus then all of you need to shut down your life because i'm fucking terrified of

00:08:16.520 it you know what i'm saying like it's gone to new levels and it's infected our society to a place where

00:08:22.080 what the fuck is going on you know what's so interesting is that there used to be a definite

00:08:27.880 optimism so when i say that you could be living in jim crow south yeah right or you could be living

00:08:33.780 in compton during the race wars and yet everybody with no money i grew up with no money single mom

00:08:39.920 six kids she packed my dinner in a paper bag we had food stamps but there was a definite optimism

00:08:44.460 that if you worked hard enough right and you didn't whine you lived in a try me world not a why me world

00:08:50.280 and that's what you're talking about everybody's like why me that's like it's so frustrating that now

00:08:56.260 we don't even have the definite optimism and people are sitting there blame shame and justification

00:09:00.280 and allowing everyone to control their own opt it's becoming a it's become a in my from what i see

00:09:08.000 you know and i was thinking about this today as i was doing cardio i was thinking about how

00:09:14.360 you know when i i'm you know when i got started in business it's been 22 years now

00:09:20.940 it was you wanted to win and then you celebrated the wins and it seems to me that that has gone

00:09:29.640 almost completely away which is something i'm never going to give up on because i like my life

00:09:35.960 but and it's been replaced with this attitude of whoever the biggest victim is gets celebrated the

00:09:43.860 most and so we have people could come you know competing over and we look at this let's look at

00:09:49.980 instagram or let's look at twitter let's look at people's content like so much of it and they've

00:09:55.940 taken this idea of being vulnerable and telling the truth and they realize that like whenever i told the

00:10:03.420 sadder the story i tell the more attention i get right and so now we have you know it's just like the

00:10:09.700 girls who only show their ass ever you know now we have people who all they do every message is

00:10:17.820 fucking complain about how shitty things are and you know what if you're going to complain every

00:10:23.020 single day about how shitty things are guess what things will be pretty shitty absolutely you know

00:10:28.020 i'm saying you know andy i i always because i i try to not stick my head on facebook yeah i've been

00:10:34.640 off facebook since 2017 it's the greatest thing i ever did the bs you you see on there and you see

00:10:40.740 all these people complaining i i grew up with a lot of those people you know what i mean i grew up with

00:10:45.520 a lot of those people i got here in the eighth grade and uh you know i got to have some friendships

00:10:48.960 from you know from the hood and all that stuff and they victimized a lot of them victimized

00:10:53.080 themselves unfortunately and you know i just don't understand if they were to ever ask an immigrant

00:10:59.500 right hey man do we really have it this bad here in this country that immigrant would actually look

00:11:05.220 at that person and be like what the what the what the fuck are you talking about like what are you

00:11:10.320 talking about you have it this bad you know you know where i come from like you know bread like

00:11:15.720 food isn't even guaranteed that same day right my grandmother i mean forget that my mom at that

00:11:22.820 resort used to work for about 31 a week you know what i mean like 31 a week there's nobody in this

00:11:28.500 country that's making 31 a day yeah right so and a lot of those folks that complain about this country

00:11:34.360 you know you just tend to wonder you know i fought really hard to get here the second time i came

00:11:38.720 through nogales i came through a fence i was 10 years old right my mother literally just say hey

00:11:43.600 listen to this guy he's going to take you to the mcdonald's on the other side i didn't even know

00:11:47.320 this guy when he told me to jump i jumped when he told me to duck i duck when he told me to run i ran

00:11:51.360 right and then he got me through a hole in the fence my mom contrabanded me up to phoenix right

00:11:56.500 and i don't understand like it took me like so much hard work to get here me and my mother to get

00:12:02.700 here to get me here and then my brother i don't understand what these folks are complaining about

00:12:06.880 if they don't like this country bro why are they still the problem is they don't understand what

00:12:11.680 they're complaining about either i don't get that's the point nobody gets it it doesn't make

00:12:15.820 fucking sense the best saying online right now is make it make sense because none of the shit that

00:12:20.540 these motherfuckers are doing or saying makes any sense dude that man right there he's from bosnia

00:12:25.760 he's sitting right next to you you talk to him ask him about if it's the land i already know

00:12:30.880 yeah right i already know what goes on we've got so we've got a huge bosnian workforce here in st

00:12:35.920 louis they're amazing people hard workers yes and don't complain ask any of them about what's going

00:12:42.380 on here and they tell you the same shit they're like bro i'm not this is crazy like people are so

00:12:47.360 spoiled man we have plumbing we have plumbing here yes you know i didn't have plumbing for almost my

00:12:53.020 entire childhood yeah we have plumbing here you know when i first came to this country i saw green

00:12:58.040 grass and i started rolling around in it because we have dirt over there yeah you know what i mean

00:13:02.540 like i don't understand why people feel oppressed you know it just doesn't make sense it's an

00:13:07.640 embarrassment of riches is what it is we've got so much good shit here that people instead of

00:13:12.460 appreciating what good we have they want to find the shit that that they think is messed up and the

00:13:17.160 problem is there's not really that much shit that's messed up so we make shit messed up well i mean i think

00:13:21.840 there's a lot of it in a social society right we live in an internet world now where everything's on

00:13:25.600 in social media and what we love or what we learned is misery loves company oh yeah and in in that in

00:13:31.320 that victim mentality what this is this is social media one-on-one like hey what gets the likes well

00:13:36.180 i'm in a swimsuit right in 2016 17 you're in a swimsuit then 2017 18 you got to get in a smaller

00:13:40.900 swimsuit then you got to get a g-string then you got to take your top off then you got you know then

00:13:44.120 you got only fans that's right then you got only fans it's this progressiveness of understanding

00:13:47.660 like how do i get likes and i think when you look at misery loves company and we see this a lot in

00:13:51.800 social media because they they congregate together and you get a ton of it like that victim mentality

00:13:57.280 they all swarm to to one another and it's the battle of victims yeah mine's worse than yours

00:14:02.220 mine's worse than yours and then they create this environment you're like and you look into it you're

00:14:05.660 like holy fuck like is the world really like that i'd like to think that maybe it's not you know

00:14:09.540 because i every time you meet new people like fuck these guys are like us you know but andy too

00:14:13.600 you know the idea of where we manifest things so take for example we were talking about here's the

00:14:18.840 biggest problem this place here which is my first time visiting and it's an extraordinary facility

00:14:24.020 which you envisioned 12 years ago from nothing when you came out here the first time it's because

00:14:28.920 you paid attention to what you want and put your intention into it right you work you thought you

00:14:33.380 said you believed you struggled you sweat you didn't complain you made it happen and that's the

00:14:38.060 mathematical equation of luck you know people say yeah oh andy for sale he's so lucky really because he

00:14:44.080 manifested that through attention and intention what's happening is people aren't paying attention to the

00:14:47.960 wrong things they're voting for the they're voting for what other people want for you what you don't

00:14:51.520 need to impress people you don't like they're voting for what they don't want like you just said

00:14:55.600 and guess what they're manifesting what other people want for you the g strings and the top list or what

00:15:01.200 you don't want and they're so surprised when they get it or if they came out here and saw look if you put

00:15:06.020 your nose to the grindstone pay attention focus in on what you want and put the effort in

00:15:09.720 you got 185 000 square feet of facility giving jobs to people yeah everybody's healthy and happy

00:15:15.800 right this is what america's about we're paying attention and giving intention to the wrong

00:15:19.640 things yeah you want to it's 188 you want to hear something funny oh sorry i shorted you three

00:15:25.940 you want to hear the funniest shit ever right so uh my family in mexico they thought i was dealing drugs

00:15:36.820 bro my neighbors think i deal drugs so mine did too so my mom i still do my my mom had to

00:15:45.220 when they when they came uh to phoenix this was like a few years ago yeah when they came to phoenix

00:15:50.280 my mom i don't know what the hell they were doing there right my mom took them to my office we bought

00:15:55.700 a 10 000 square foot office in like downtown phoenix took them to our office just so they can show them

00:16:02.000 my operations my brick and mortar business right because they were going around telling the entire

00:16:06.840 family the entire family in mexico and la in chicago how like i became some kind of drug lord bro i get

00:16:13.960 the cartel you know so my mom had to physically i get it show them that i wasn't doing that wasn't

00:16:19.740 dealing drugs because they're like how the hell because we were the poorest yeah the poorest kids

00:16:23.980 in our family right like how the hell over there uh dif diff is considered welfare right they're like

00:16:29.600 how the hell did that diff kid get all this right so they just were just saying that i was dealing

00:16:35.480 drugs oh yeah dude dude that's what the that's what everybody thought on the old street i lived on

00:16:41.520 everybody and then i think the people at the new street sort of think i do but they're not sure

00:16:47.780 because they see this building like in the same neighborhood it's in the same so they have figured

00:16:52.620 out like maybe i think maybe they think it's like half and half you know i don't know i mean you got

00:16:57.760 to give the people at the other place credit i mean when you did have 90s hip-hop blaring out the

00:17:01.940 back door on tuesday afternoon they probably picked up to it the new pick in the new neighborhood that you

00:17:06.660 don't have neighbors yeah they don't really hear it so they can't one-on-one you know yeah dude i had one of

00:17:10.860 one of my old neighbors who you know and i'm not going to say his name i told dj this story on the

00:17:15.700 way on the on the way to uh we were doing cardio today and uh dude comes out to one of the most

00:17:23.280 obnoxious people you fucking know you know exactly who the fuck i'm talking about yeah so this dude

00:17:28.060 this dude so i see this dude at the restaurant and i've only went to the same you know what restaurant

00:17:33.000 i see this person at the same restaurant okay comes up if he's listening by the way i mean he knows

00:17:38.880 who the fuck he is like good point girl like it's too i don't really care because you're gonna

00:17:44.600 fucking find out why he's telling his life that's me so so i'm there bro it's my it's emily and i's

00:17:52.680 anniversary the other day so we don't you know we don't celebrate shit we don't really like we're

00:17:56.420 not like a touchy-feely public couple thing but you know we went to dinner had a nice dinner so

00:18:02.460 we're having we're getting ready to sit down for anniversary dinner this dude comes over and he's

00:18:07.140 like hey oh you know and i'm like hey what's up you know and he's like i listened to your thing

00:18:13.280 and i said my thing he's like that thing you do that that thing i listened to it and i said i don't

00:18:21.240 know what thing you're talking about he's like i was gonna make him fucking say it right of course

00:18:25.600 yeah right because he's trying to big league me like of course so this dude's like a little older

00:18:31.360 and he he's still thinking he's the big dog but he ain't realized that he has old he has old money

00:18:35.980 to fucking eat his fucking whole lunch in one fucking minute okay and so this dude comes in and

00:18:41.400 he's like your thing you know your podcast oh my podcast you mean the podcast that was number one

00:18:47.700 in the world for two fucking years that the whole entire world listens to good you should listen to it

00:18:52.460 everybody else does too and he went set the fuck back down like dude when you said that to him oh

00:18:57.720 fucking right to his face holy shit yeah like dude if you come at me and try to disrespect me i'm gonna

00:19:02.620 disrespect you right back try to belittle you yeah dude and like it's funny because the the drug dealer

00:19:08.560 comment is what got me thinking about that you know people have this way of discounting other

00:19:12.860 people's hard work ethic and shaming their success now yeah which goes hand in hand with what we've

00:19:17.740 been talking about with that mentality right nobody's competing anymore about how to be the

00:19:23.360 winner like they're competing about who's the biggest fucking loser like like it's crazy to me

00:19:30.940 bro and like you know david like you said that mentality it begets more of that and and until

00:19:39.060 you snap out of that you know you're gonna have limits yeah you know what's killing me right now too

00:19:44.400 is like these whiners saying we're in great times of uncertainty and i was like and you have more

00:19:49.640 listeners than anyone so listen to me right now if anyone knows what the fuck is going to happen

00:19:53.380 tomorrow for sure call me because i guarantee i can make all of us billions of dollars i went to a lot

00:19:58.400 of school yeah to figure out if something's certain tomorrow how to make money i should have called you

00:20:02.440 the beginning of this year when i said all this shit sun's coming up tomorrow but literally there's

00:20:06.600 just change man that's a whole episode and i'm you're gonna you're gonna put together a whole

00:20:11.520 episode madat and joe of just my little two minutes of the shit that was going to happen this

00:20:17.860 year with like a little time stamp that says on december 17th at 2 53 a.m and he said this and i'm

00:20:25.300 gonna we're gonna go through the whole fucking year gotta do that and i'm gonna make every one of

00:20:28.720 you listen and then you guys can all send me gifts apologizing you're gonna sound like nostradamus

00:20:34.040 that's it dude i've been calling this shit from day one dj and i've been on it

00:20:37.720 i think that dave's point though i mean you know if you focus if you focus on the negative you're

00:20:42.780 gonna get negative yeah and we we learned this as a young age my dad he always told us you got to

00:20:46.800 focus on the positive you got to focus on the positive what can you learn what can you learn

00:20:49.960 from the negative that's right exactly yeah and and those are you know i'm reading uh augie

00:20:54.140 grito is one of the winningest coaches of all time and he's a huge burrito and and the hook

00:20:59.200 them horns yep that's right i did i did not say burrito i said grito but dude you know what

00:21:04.640 that motherfucker can rip some ass oh yeah but you know but he right in his book i'm a day

00:21:10.440 day i'm not trying to interrupt you let me finish i am a fan of people who could chew ass properly

00:21:15.860 like and that dude we got to post the link somewhere in this close to this i it was in

00:21:21.840 my meeting on monday did you pay video yeah fuck yeah no because i told him you know we we do this

00:21:26.620 challenge here we make an office challenge we obviously we're in a fitness space and so once a

00:21:30.500 year twice a year we make everybody join the the eight-week challenge and we compete as a team

00:21:34.640 and last year we did this in our company our company was not in a bad spot by any means but

00:21:39.260 we were not growing at the rate we should have we were a flat spot we were at a flat spot and i had

00:21:43.680 you know we asked the teammates the team to do five things every day we execute five things if

00:21:48.780 we're a fitness company hey we got to work out you know what we got to track our macros if we're

00:21:52.280 going to lose or gain weight we must read 10 pages a day you know we believe in sharpening the

00:21:56.500 brain as a unit and then we have an offensive strategy with social media where we contact our

00:22:00.240 customers and then we interact with them and so i we got about 85 guys at the time you know and

00:22:05.720 the um i went in and i asked everybody now mind you in our brains we're losing we're not really losing

00:22:12.180 but we were losing because we're used to fucking dominating and that's winner's mindset 100 growth

00:22:16.880 is a standard here yeah and it's like hey fuck it if we're not no for real if you're not growing

00:22:21.000 you're dying 100 growth 100 growth every year we people are getting fucking fired here

00:22:26.180 and and this is this probably the slowest part in our company's history in regards to growth factor

00:22:31.280 that we've had and we asked the team to do these five things okay well we have 80 people or whatever

00:22:35.700 we walk into the office and i ask hey how many people executed for the first week how many how

00:22:40.200 many 100 killed all five things seven guys or 11 eight guys raised oh you're talking about this

00:22:45.460 mean last year yeah oh yeah and i went i mean i kicked them all out in the warehouse and made them all

00:22:49.800 go stand there where we have our all company meeting and i sat there and i might and mind you we

00:22:54.800 were building this building our sales were you know not what they should have been you know i

00:22:58.580 have three little fucking kids i probably haven't been laid in fucking god knows how long and i'm

00:23:02.500 sitting there and i'm fucking steaming and i can feel it my neck my heart starts pumping my blood

00:23:06.100 starts flowing and i was like fuck that i'm gonna get that ass and it just so happened i had just

00:23:09.860 watched augie grito's video oh man because i knew like i might have to go get the ass the inspiration

00:23:14.060 and i went out there and i went completely black zone i don't know what the fuck i said bro i don't know

00:23:18.180 who i said it to that video is one of the greatest ass chewings of all time yeah augie grito is my

00:23:22.700 inspiration for ass chewing and just leaving it all out there but um you know to the point where

00:23:27.720 augie grito talks about channeling your fear and understanding like how your mindset is what

00:23:31.380 controls the success on and off the field no matter what you do and you know his whole thing is is

00:23:36.720 eliminating fear towards success like you belong here this is leveraging the fear of course and

00:23:41.200 understanding like you cannot control you can only you're only being controlled by the things that

00:23:44.460 you let control your brain and those thoughts that happen in your head become reality back to your

00:23:48.180 point and you manifest them based on whatever you tell yourself is true you know and if you are that

00:23:54.060 person if you're scared shitless you're gonna play scared shitless and you know he has a lot of cool

00:23:58.480 little mechanisms on eliminating the fear you know they give him guys little uh toilets on their keychain

00:24:04.040 to flush it you know just stupid shit that mentally checks you in to constantly eliminate the fear

00:24:07.920 that's a different perspective than i have and i like dude i'm not no disrespect to him he's fucking

00:24:13.220 legend look i'm believing there's many ways to leverage what we get in life to our advantage

00:24:19.500 see my perspective on fear is not to try to eliminate it at all i actually try to leverage it

00:24:25.900 into action so like i don't like i think most people and the more i've gotten into arte and actually

00:24:34.940 coaching other entrepreneurs the last three years the more i've seen this as really true everybody's

00:24:42.220 fucking fearful everybody's afraid everybody's scared that you know today's the day the shit's

00:24:49.060 gonna come crumbling down like dude i still feel that way almost every day and it's not even it could

00:24:54.840 it's not even a logical fucking thought like it can't it could not even really happen okay not in a day

00:25:01.940 right yeah but like i pretend that way and then what that does is it leverages me to be urgent

00:25:07.360 you're out that day and because i'm urgent throughout that day shit gets done which keeps

00:25:12.160 everything growing and so i don't know like where do you guys stand on that i think it's i think

00:25:17.000 everybody's a little different i don't ever get to a place of like super calm yeah i know for me it's

00:25:22.480 a matter of being a ferocious buddha so fear yeah itself is pain right and here's what most people

00:25:28.280 pain stop sign i see pain as a turn signal it's an indicator right going to a better direction a

00:25:33.860 different direction so fear is a motivator that's what you use it for but it won't inspire you if

00:25:39.000 you stay in fear you're going to suck all the soul out of you all the energy out of you so you can use

00:25:43.900 it to get up get back up get started get started get back started but what i utilize is just identify

00:25:49.420 what i'm afraid of because if we're learning from it so i get this ferocious buddha because after you

00:25:55.660 identify primary fears 40 and fear all the basic four but then there's secondary fears listen i guarantee

00:26:01.840 all of us do it every day need to be right need to be offended need to be separate inferior superior

00:26:05.980 guilty anxious frustrated resentful angry those are just a waste of fucking energy so if you can

00:26:11.560 identify when you're in fear like you did with the agi arita thing but then here's the most ferocious

00:26:16.320 thing you can do in life is fucking stop when you're in fear instead of accelerating in the wrong

00:26:20.960 direction so to stop breathe get to center and then use that fear as a motivation to get to those five

00:26:27.660 things that you have on your list done that dude that's all i do yeah that's what you got to do

00:26:32.140 like i've gotten to the point where i'm it's automatic for me i don't even like go through

00:26:36.380 the evaluation process of why do i feel this way i'm just like fuck it here's the list of shit i got

00:26:42.820 to do so i'm doing it and that's what i do center yeah yeah and i i tell myself i'm like if you don't

00:26:48.560 do that list you're gonna be that shit you're scared of that's gonna fucking happen so i move you

00:26:52.580 know what about you i can tell you this um i believe that a lot of folks in this you know in

00:26:59.040 today's society fear is what's obviously holding them back yeah you know nine out of ten people

00:27:04.820 aren't successful and they're not living their ideal lives because they allow they cave in yeah they

00:27:10.240 cave in some of us have made fear our friend yeah you know i mean we all feel the same emotions

00:27:14.920 we're all fearful you know at some point i mean shit i i believe that at 10 11 years old when i was

00:27:20.220 hopping through that fence for the second time coming into this country i'm sure i was pretty

00:27:24.140 scared out of my fucking mind yeah but you know i i it needed to be done right right so that's that's

00:27:29.960 how we that's how you you just push through those that actually push through that fear they come out

00:27:34.340 on the other side unlike anybody else in in society i think a lot of people also kind of um put fear

00:27:41.500 and uncomfortableness in a linear relationship when they're really not like uncomfortableness is usually

00:27:47.440 the things that make you grow like but you're afraid to get uncomfortable it's like cold fucking

00:27:50.540 water you know i mean like nobody likes getting cold fucking water they'll tell you i love cold

00:27:53.980 water no you don't you get used to it i do no you get you get used to doing i actually like a shower

00:27:59.000 i do like showers it's what helps me sleep yeah but you didn't always like it no it's like being

00:28:05.900 uncomfortable yeah and then so i realized okay to separate the differences in the two is like all

00:28:10.220 right what what scares me and not to get it confused with what i'm uncomfortable doing because

00:28:14.500 through that uncomfortable pathway is where i've had most of my personal success relationship

00:28:18.680 success personal success development it's like okay if we know that fear crushes all these dreams okay

00:28:23.960 we have to separate with fear and uncomfortableness like and have the awkward conversation because

00:28:27.760 usually in those conversations you get the most growth you know what i totally agree and i agree with

00:28:34.080 how all of you guys said it you know and that's uh i appreciate that there's different perspectives on it

00:28:39.740 but at the end of the day you know i think people get lost in the idea of

00:28:44.680 even addressing their fear like they're they're they're afraid to like even look at it like so they

00:28:52.240 stick their head in the sand and then what happens is you know more things get surrounded and then they

00:28:57.820 become overwhelmed because they haven't addressed any of it and you know i think that's a big i i know

00:29:04.100 that's a big separator between people who i've met who are some of the highest achievers in the world

00:29:09.360 and i've had you know uh very been a very fortunate to interview and and talk to and be friends with

00:29:15.460 people like that uh really my whole circle's like that and every single one of them dude if you get

00:29:20.760 them alone like they might be online being like yeah motherfuckers i'm the hardest motherfucker there

00:29:25.880 is uh like we all know you know i'm one of those guys sometimes all right but you get those

00:29:31.780 motherfuckers alone and they'll tell you dude i'm running scared i'm fucking running scared and so for

00:29:37.040 you out there who are listening right now and you're just getting started at whatever it is

00:29:40.940 that you're doing i hope you understand that the people who say oh i don't have any fear i'm listen

00:29:47.940 they're fucking lying to you for brand equity in themselves it's a selfish thing okay every dude

00:29:54.620 i've gotten to interview fucking peyton manning i've gotten to interview some of the steve wasiak okay

00:30:00.900 some of the greatest most successful humans on this planet and what they've done and i could that

00:30:07.040 list could be fucking 100 people long every single one of them tells me the same thing in one form or

00:30:13.000 another which is they figured out how to leverage the fear and they go right at it every single time

00:30:18.460 it creeps in so you guys out there who are listening and you're just getting started on maybe

00:30:22.880 it's your fitness journey maybe it's uh maybe it's sobriety maybe it's a business whatever it is

00:30:28.420 you're trying to get become successful at and you're scared understand that that's just something

00:30:34.080 that you have to learn to to address and deal with and successful people deal with it very directly

00:30:40.420 and they accept it as part of the recipe okay uh i'm going to have enthusiasm i'm going to have fear

00:30:46.700 i'm going to have uncertainty i'm going to have this i'm going to have that as just part of the

00:30:51.320 process and i think that once you can understand and the reason i want to share this with you guys is

00:30:56.780 because you know social media puts a lens on things that makes it look you know like dude when i do a

00:31:02.120 story i'm not on the story being like guys i'm so fucking scared today like that shit ain't getting

00:31:08.140 it out like like i might be thinking that shit but i'm not sure i'm certainly not saying it and uh you

00:31:14.380 know you guys who are out there understand when you look at people the highest achievers in the world

00:31:18.680 they they still feel those things that you feel and and what they've done is they've leveraged

00:31:24.200 that into productive action uh whatever they're whatever that looks like for you so it's not you

00:31:30.340 know i get so many dms i know you do as well yeah um and i know you do as well you built a great

00:31:34.720 following for yourself um and you do as well i hate to admit that but i mean yeah that's a pretty

00:31:41.540 good engagement right pretty good engagement right just rub it i mean everybody everybody here gets a

00:31:46.260 lot of everybody here gets a lot of dms from people who are they think they're like the alien for

00:31:52.120 being nervous or scared i'm so scared i don't fuck dude welcome to the fucking club bro i have a

00:31:59.680 really good i think relatable piece here can i and i can vividly remember you know i was mowing my

00:32:05.180 grass i mow my grass because it's a lot one it's my only time by myself you fucking understand this

00:32:09.100 two like i i love taking care of my grass but three it's i just enjoy the peacefulness of it

00:32:13.580 and i think a lot because i listen to podcasts or i just listen to music and then i process things

00:32:17.620 what podcast you listen to i listen to myself talk because i figured you did dude

00:32:21.420 i mean there are listen there's some good episodes i do i do listen i know you do dave

00:32:28.080 i especially like your part yeah that's right is there anybody in this room that thinks that's a

00:32:33.140 lie no including me i bet you i bet i bet joe i bet he has you edit up just his parts to listen to

00:32:40.560 that's what i think yeah can i have that edit by the way hey listen somebody's got to be the point

00:32:45.200 of this ship but hey send me that special version where everybody else was muted you mean real sal

00:32:50.340 you mean the platinum so the uh the real sal that's right that's right well you know but you

00:32:59.680 know i remember and i could tell you where i was at in the grass that's how weird my brain is and

00:33:03.580 and i remember being so scared to take my shirt off because this is before the transformation contest

00:33:07.540 and i remember asking myself when i die i'm going to ask god the question how come i got the fat gene

00:33:11.980 and i really i had this relevant or this revelation at that moment i was like dude maybe maybe i'm

00:33:16.520 channeling this thing wrong instead of being so goddamn scared of it like let's just embrace it and

00:33:20.380 run and for my personal brand for my personal awareness for my personal success i realized that

00:33:26.180 that's where i had to go i had to face that fear head on and say all right well fuck it man we're gonna

00:33:30.000 go like and i did that you know and myself and the brand and my ability to relate to people and be real

00:33:37.680 to people was just checking down that fear of me becoming uncomfortable and then being able to i

00:33:42.940 learned from that moment that's my gift is to be able to speak to people because i know what it's

00:33:47.100 like to be fat and i can speak to their soul how are you going to do your job of of training literally

00:33:52.620 hundreds of people in this building how to help other people get in shape if you don't know how to

00:33:58.360 fucking do it yeah like you were actually gifted the perfect vessel to learn that lesson but this

00:34:04.500 goes back to the mindset right like i and and i was successful up to that point you know it's not

00:34:08.900 like i was like living in a fucking hole and one day i was like right but i was so afraid of what if

00:34:13.100 on that other side and finally i was like hey man well fuck if it works you know and i embraced it and

00:34:17.160 went and man it was the best thing that's ever happened to me not only from a professional sense but

00:34:21.580 from a personal sense because now i can look at somebody and say hey man like i get it yeah and not

00:34:25.920 everybody can do that yeah 80 of the fucking fitness industry is people who are always in

00:34:30.940 great shape and they're out there telling people hey you you could do it but they don't have that

00:34:35.920 perspective that you have or that i have or some other people have where they've had to battle through

00:34:40.120 that it's so interesting because i've had the same thing on the financial side yeah right because i had

00:34:44.680 no credibility as a multi-millionaire in my 20s oh it's easy for you they just assume like i was a

00:34:49.980 right until i lost everything right i lost over 100 million you're jewish all exactly but i only

00:34:56.680 from the eyebrows up not the waist down all right anyway so i got it but seriously like until i lost

00:35:05.480 everything i had no credibility with anyone until i made it back again because that way people knew

00:35:10.860 yeah hey and people tell me all the time dave i want to learn from you because you know what it's

00:35:15.020 like to be bankrupt yeah and the irony of me being bankrupt is my greatest fear as a child was

00:35:20.380 that i was going to lose everything yeah my great and guess what i manifested that no matter how much

00:35:24.940 money every day i was motivated by fear oh my god i got a golf course a ski mountain all these homes

00:35:29.800 oh shit i'm gonna lose everything every day motivating me until i flip that transition swift and

00:35:34.660 say you know what this time around i'm gonna enjoy the consistent every day with that same fire

00:35:39.480 persistent without quit pursuit of my own potential i'm not gonna worry about it bro you said

00:35:43.980 something there that i think is super important that i think we should transition over to talking

00:35:47.840 about which you you talk about as good as anybody out there it's one of the reasons that your content

00:35:52.580 really resonates with me because dude i'm a fucking savage you know that like everybody listening knows

00:35:58.120 that like it's and it's not fucking fake for the show like it's real um and i spent so much time

00:36:04.680 of my life being that guy who was so fucking on fire i was burning myself up you know i'm saying

00:36:12.120 burning people up around me uh you know not and i'm not saying that because i'm proud of it i say it

00:36:18.080 because my really only regret in my business life my leadership life is that i let that fire actually

00:36:25.540 get to a point where it's counterproductive for for for some people who who could have really been

00:36:30.140 really good had i known what the fuck i was doing and uh one of the things that you talk about

00:36:35.260 that's really helped me i just did a podcast episode on it um uh last week i think uh where

00:36:42.420 we talked about the happiness uh formula which was you know uh discipline plus purpose plus gratitude

00:36:48.960 one of the things that i know that you really have an awesome perspective on is the gratitude aspect

00:36:55.720 well let's do that man because like dude what if you're one of my favorites when it comes to hearing

00:37:00.640 about this for me gratitude is a practice first of all and it started with my mom not let me come

00:37:05.760 downstairs unless i had a gracious attitude a positive attitude so i was taught to say thank

00:37:10.560 you when i went to bed and when i wake up and i challenge everyone out there to do it for 30 days

00:37:14.320 let that be your first habit guaranteed to change your entire life because gratitude gives you

00:37:18.660 perspective perspective allows you to do one thing to find the light the love and the lessons in

00:37:24.140 everything everything so shit goes bad your immediate reaction is fear oh shit but then i'm

00:37:30.340 immediately like you i don't have time to mess around i'm looking for okay where's the light the

00:37:35.180 love and the lessons in this what am i supposed to learn right everything's pushing me to something

00:37:38.620 better so the idea of gratitude is i'm so happy where i am right place at the perfect time but i want

00:37:44.440 more so i'm going to angle not a direct approach because i know that i'm going to fuck things up

00:37:48.460 i'm going to angle to what i want but i have faith and gratitude is ingrained in my faith that i'm

00:37:54.300 going to end up somewhere better and when i walked into this facility knowing you because i'm also

00:37:58.820 someone who follows you and inspired you we have this relatively different way of explaining things

00:38:04.080 at a different frequency but i walked in here and just said of course and justin said what do you

00:38:08.260 mean and he thought maybe i was going to take a dig at you like of course i was like of course he

00:38:12.280 manifested something like this the first time i went to the playboy mansion the old school playboy

00:38:16.340 mansion i looked over at warren moon we went in there for an event i'm like man it's amazing what

00:38:21.220 you can manifest that's exactly what went through my mind that's how i see everything all through

00:38:25.680 gratitude you can't see it and here's the irony i'm gonna let carlos touch on this because i know

00:38:29.780 gratitude is big for you as much as i teach it here's the irony tonight half the people that are

00:38:35.820 listening to me i've made hundreds of millions of dollars like you they won't say thank you by

00:38:40.480 tomorrow morning another half of the people won't say within three days nobody listening of your

00:38:45.180 millions of people out there even though i've studied physics quantum physics metaphysics i've

00:38:49.740 been around i'm on the transformational leadership council with jack canfield bob like the world

00:38:54.660 thought leaders all of us agree the simplest way to change your life is gratitude but we're so

00:38:59.240 effing in our own way we won't say thank you i've given you the easiest recipe to success

00:39:04.180 simple gratitude and even me took me nine months to do it for 30 days i'm just being honest i tried

00:39:09.860 i forgot in the morning i had to start over nine months someone who teaches and preaches and lives

00:39:14.860 by gratitude for me not to get my own freaking way to get what i want in life and gratitude is that

00:39:20.260 literally path to everything you want i can tell you this andy uh you may be like this too right you

00:39:26.460 said you're an animal you're a beast and when you see competition you see competition right other

00:39:31.480 maybe other supplement companies out there you're like i want to do whatever they're doing i want to do it

00:39:36.300 better right so but that also brings an emotion of like you know just like i don't know it's not envy

00:39:43.540 it's not an envy it's like a unhealthy competitiveness right and for me i had to really you know most of

00:39:50.100 my life i was like in survival mode right survival mode survival mode and i had to really switch that

00:39:55.540 around to you know what i had to put like this recently happened literally like two years ago i had to

00:40:01.960 take all that the warrior suit off you know because for me it was always war right and i had to take

00:40:07.160 that warrior suit off and say all right you know what i i have to start being grateful you know i'm

00:40:12.080 no longer in i'm no longer in a war i'm not i'm no longer in battle i have to start being grateful

00:40:16.100 and i have to be you know if i come home you know i got to put my husband hat on right my husband hat on

00:40:21.580 my daddy hat on right or else because if i'm in that if i'm in that uh trance the whole day

00:40:26.900 i'm i'm i mean shit if my wife's coming up to me i'm like hold on i'm taking you know right you

00:40:31.960 know how it is right you know it changes so i when i started being grateful i'm like i just started

00:40:38.280 really different things started to come to my mind like you know what i'm not even supposed to

00:40:42.500 fucking be here yeah right i'm not even i'm not even supposed to be i'm not even supposed to have

00:40:46.920 everything that i have and even like shit i'm not even supposed to be in this country right i was

00:40:51.320 illegal for the longest time you know i mean imagine like throughout your life you're like shit i hope

00:40:55.680 that don't catch us because we're going back right yeah so i mean for me i just had to make that

00:41:00.320 switch like all right i'm no longer in a war zone now i just want to i got to be grateful and then

00:41:05.060 once you start living in gratitude and appreciation life just becomes so much better man it becomes it

00:41:10.920 becomes even more effective you're even more effective than you were when you thought you were

00:41:16.700 being the most effective and guess what you get to have fun instead of being pissed off all the time

00:41:22.820 do you understand do you understand that that warrior armor like having to take that shit off

00:41:27.900 every now and then i don't know sal what you tell him bro i got that feeling i got that feeling from

00:41:34.780 him too you play basketball yeah i do it's a you know i'm not i'm not nice on the court and i'm sure

00:41:41.860 you're not yeah i i purposely do not compete um with anybody here in the building in any events

00:41:48.460 uh and people think like oh dude they must you know you must just not really be into that no it's

00:41:55.360 not that it's that if we get on that field i'm gonna kill you and the problem is is you're i'm

00:42:01.580 gonna be the guy that you're like damn bro it's just fucking softball and like i'm gonna be embarrassed

00:42:07.920 because i'm gonna be after the whatever happens i'm gonna be like fuck it is just softball you know

00:42:13.280 like i don't have the self-control like dude one time i was bowling with this girl i was dating

00:42:18.960 and she beat me and she talked shit and i dumped her like literally the next fucking day boom yeah and

00:42:24.940 like that's i'm just a terrible loser and so she was super hot yeah and it's not something i really

00:42:30.320 want to like i need to work on it but i don't want to anybody to see me work on it because like it's

00:42:35.200 what's that old saying uh i hate losing more than i like winning yeah right yeah that old saying and

00:42:40.700 that's true you know i ask people that but it's unhealthy yes right i i ask that's another question

00:42:45.960 i ask like literally every high achiever that i that i talk to and every fucking one of them you get

00:42:52.980 them alone dude like they'll tell you they'll tell you oh i really love to win i really it's all

00:42:58.500 about the win i love to win but man when you get them like you get a couple shots it you know you

00:43:04.140 you get them uh away from everybody the 3 a.m version fucking right the jaeger truth the truth

00:43:09.320 is i hate to fucking lose i don't know see like i'm the camp of wins still like in my brain we don't

00:43:15.140 know for real like in my like i always think in my head people haven't won enough like that's how

00:43:19.380 i think and that's i mean dude when i play i can't and trust me it's fuck it's if it's camp win

00:43:24.780 it's 50.013 you know it's not there's an equal balance there of hatred to love but that taste of

00:43:31.200 winning is fucking good man see i'm just now starting to enjoy any of that oh that any of

00:43:36.380 that and it comes from the gratitude that we've talked about my my you know a lot of guys around

00:43:42.860 here hq are like damn dude you seem like 75 hards really changed you and it's like well yeah it has

00:43:48.340 like i'm not concerned or insecure in any way at all like i know what i'm gonna do i'm gonna make

00:43:55.240 decisions i need to make and that's that and it is what it is which makes me nicer because i'm not

00:44:00.500 carrying around extra anxiety of that i put on myself right can you actually do what you need

00:44:07.220 to do are you capable of executing in this arena i don't have those thoughts anymore i know i am

00:44:14.380 i know i belong here and you're 70 just i gotta interrupt because the 75 hard to me and you know

00:44:19.820 took me 15 years i played college football out of all heart and no talent yeah you know i am an

00:44:25.060 average division three football player yeah rudy but shitty and but but i literally you know

00:44:31.340 work by heart i could not lose anything yeah and 15 years later my biggest thing is to stay as driven

00:44:38.480 and focused without wanting to win which is a really big nuance but i was going to say on the 75 hard

00:44:44.540 what makes it so important for everyone to understand is what you've learned is in what the program will

00:44:49.980 teach you you cannot find outside of you what you can't find inside and so when i looked at your

00:44:55.040 program i look what you do you're teaching people to look inside of themselves to find what's outside

00:45:00.200 of them that's why now you look at everything outside of you differently because you see it because

00:45:05.020 i have complete control exactly and and and when when you don't it creates all kinds of unnecessary

00:45:11.100 worry and anxiety especially when you have uh the lifestyle like you know a high achiever lifestyle

00:45:19.180 where everything's coming at you all the time you know one thing i think is important to

00:45:25.920 to to hit on because like i think you know i'm trying to think of it from a listener's perspective

00:45:30.420 you know there's a lot of people that are literally in day one right like they're listening and they're

00:45:34.480 like fuck dude yeah it's easy to say you're grateful when you're rich as fuck well no shit it's a lot easier

00:45:39.840 in theory but really it's not it's it's really not and you know i think a lot of people

00:45:46.040 they because i think there's a lot there's a diminishing returns on success right like people

00:45:54.560 think like oh the more money you have the happier you'll be that's not actually true misconception

00:46:01.100 for sure yeah misconception now there is a limit of happiness that will come with being financially

00:46:07.940 secure i get everybody has it and it's different for everybody i could tell you exactly what my limit was

00:46:15.000 my limit to where the happiness above and it's not what people think people think like oh dude when

00:46:22.320 i get that fucking lambo or i get this fucking you know this or i get a jet or i get this motherfucker

00:46:27.400 i'm telling you from someone who's done all that shit that that ain't what it is what it is is

00:46:33.020 there's a place of your discomfort that you're going to overcome and for me it was

00:46:39.420 being able to go to a restaurant with my friends and not have to fucking stress over the bill at all

00:46:46.720 boom nice okay so everything above that like when i got to that point where like chris and i could go

00:46:53.460 to dinner and we weren't like fuck man that dinner's you know going to be three hundred dollars how are we

00:46:58.820 going to pay for it out of you know out of the company because that's literally how much money that

00:47:02.680 we had we didn't have fucking anything when we got to a point where i could take you know everybody in

00:47:08.780 this room let's say our whole team 12 people or whatever to dinner and then like know that i could

00:47:13.740 pay for it after that the happiness amount that i gained was was far less um in relation to the you

00:47:22.220 know what i'm saying to the money boom right yeah so so you what you guys have to realize is like once

00:47:28.360 you get to a point of financial freedom or success and you're a lot closer to that point than you think

00:47:36.800 you are because what you think it is is like oh the big house and the cars and this and that that's not

00:47:43.000 what it is it's it's having enough cash flow to cover what's drowning you right now and still feel

00:47:50.600 good about it and once you get above that is diminishing returns and a lot of people will spend

00:47:55.400 their whole life chasing that carrot you know more more more more more hoping that it's going to

00:48:01.780 produce that same like endorphin that same and that same hit of happiness more happiness right when it

00:48:08.460 doesn't and so that's when you have to start working on yourself you have to start realizing that dude

00:48:14.280 happiness really is an internal equation that you need to solve and nothing that you do no relationship

00:48:22.320 no job no career nothing external affects it the way that it did when you got to that point of like

00:48:31.580 okay now i can at least breathe a little bit yeah and you do i think it's important because i executive

00:48:36.380 coach a lot of people on the money side of things and i'm a spiritual person but i'm a money person i make

00:48:41.480 a lot of money to help a lot of people i receive so i can give but you reach that point for me it's what's

00:48:46.760 called when i was in law school i got locked out and i couldn't afford the locksmith and i cried

00:48:52.020 because i was embarrassed to ask my girlfriend for money a year later i'm a millionaire and i locked

00:48:57.300 myself out it was nothing on me and that was when i realized shit after that point when you get that

00:49:02.800 money that you can shop for what you want right now you work on yourself yeah but you got to get to

00:49:06.940 the point yes where you can shop or else when you lock yourself out it creates a whole shit show

00:49:11.720 of ego-based fears and it just snowballs in the wrong direction so i have people focus in on what

00:49:17.180 what is that point and the way that we do is detach your emotions from the outcome the biggest mistake

00:49:21.420 i made when i was young is i'll be happy when i get my private jet and i got it wasn't happy why

00:49:27.320 because i was buying shit i didn't need to impress people i didn't like that's right and we all felt

00:49:31.120 that way yeah it's cool yeah but there's certain things i'm like you start to figure out you're like

00:49:35.620 fuck dude uh you know like for me everybody knows i'm a huge car collector yeah so like i've got it

00:49:41.480 i've got a world-class car collection that's just the truth um but i i have a passion for that right

00:49:50.740 like i'm not trying to accumulate more shit but i see a lot of people doing that where they're just

00:49:55.480 like you know it's it's it's the watch it's the this it's the that it's the house when you get to

00:50:01.540 a certain level you know i know you know you can only live in one motherfucking house bro like that's

00:50:07.360 the truth that's what i'm saying rent the rest of them yeah yeah i probably should

00:50:11.180 my beach house is available san diego give me a call yeah listen i'm going was that an invite

00:50:17.460 there yes he's on tap i think for me back to the but but but wait hold on like i want to get i want

00:50:24.580 to get these guys opinions on this because where i was going with this was was this for for someone

00:50:30.260 out there who is is uh you know at the beginning right and like dude they can't really pay their

00:50:36.660 bills they're embarrassed about their lifestyle you know they they're driving a car that they

00:50:42.000 they don't want anybody to see them driving you know like all the the problems that you know it's

00:50:47.440 been a while since i've had right yeah um what what are some things that you like to talk to people

00:50:55.480 about in that regard about because like dude i'm a big believer and i know you are too and we haven't

00:51:00.240 even ever talked about this i don't think but you have to get yourself in the mindset of abundance

00:51:04.560 before you have it and that's the thing no doubt and along with the mindset you have to be in the

00:51:09.700 heart set and know that you're in control of both and then two the only way to it and we started this

00:51:15.880 whole thing in this respect is you got to develop the skills which takes hard work right so capabilities

00:51:21.220 are skills find out what the fuck you want to learn to do to knowledge you guys have books here you

00:51:27.240 make everybody read i love that because knowledge is what and who so ask people for help find the people

00:51:33.140 in the situation you want to be in that's part of manifestation and dreaming and the easiest way

00:51:37.960 to get to where you want to go is ask for someone that's there to give you directions on how to get

00:51:42.120 there nobody asked that's my biggest failure my whole life still i put radical humility on my

00:51:46.700 nightstand to remind myself to say hey andy do you know someone that can help me i'm looking for blank

00:51:51.660 right and we have to do that and then finally maintain that desire however you can because the common

00:51:57.640 denominator for me and you and i have shared experiences of the greatest athletes celebrities

00:52:01.560 entertainers billionaires and millionaires have been on our show common denominator by far so you'll

00:52:06.900 agree they must be what they can be that's it yeah all those people they just have something inside

00:52:12.920 of them like you guys all all you guys in here must be what you can be and you'll do whatever the

00:52:17.060 hell it takes to do it i just make sure that people have more efficient mindset and heart set to

00:52:21.480 get there dude i think i think uh the there's something real important that you said there about

00:52:26.840 um you know asking right like it's funny because i never ask any of my network for fucking anything

00:52:35.540 and it's it's what and i don't know why you know i know i know what it is it's ego yeah it's me

00:52:41.780 wanting to think like oh i'm i don't fucking need some shit from any of these motherfuckers or i don't

00:52:45.800 want them to think that but it's funny because the minute i really do need something like if i let's

00:52:50.980 say like hey i need to know this like hey do you have an intro to this guy or that dude i fucking

00:52:55.780 solve the problem in three seconds but just because i'm too fucking prideful to ask it's

00:53:00.180 because the way we grow up yeah it's the programming dude me and sal are like that dude we don't like

00:53:04.780 like handouts like favors change that this is our thing we don't need you fuck y'all fuck off you

00:53:11.560 know and well experience is the best educator right and that's i mean but that's not i'm not bragging

00:53:15.660 i'm saying that's a that's an area i need to get better at for sure and you did hit me with a

00:53:20.900 leading question there i saw the attorney come out you will agree yeah oh yeah i'm shaking my

00:53:24.620 recovering lawyer i i think for me and i had to take a note because you know not only is experience

00:53:30.640 the best educator but the the to the the new person success for me i think when when i started

00:53:37.400 to see my sales career take off or really when i started to see myself take off and money came with

00:53:42.880 it is when i stopped being transactional like looking at that person as a dollar sign like i have

00:53:47.360 to i have to sell i have to complete i have to transact and i started being intentional like hey man

00:53:51.820 like how are you like let me give a fuck about this person and in return guess what happens they

00:53:56.340 give a fuck about you you know what else happens with that bro is that you are in such a better

00:54:00.320 mood that's it the whole day yeah like i've been this is something i've been working on even here in

00:54:05.680 the building because i have this like dude i'm in my own mind all the time like people you know they

00:54:11.960 they probably look at me and think what the fuck is his problem but it's not that it's that i'm working

00:54:16.940 out so like anytime you fucking motherfuckers listening see me anywhere it doesn't matter if

00:54:22.560 you see me drinking a fucking beer i promise you there is something going on in my head i'm trying

00:54:27.320 to fix there i've got a problem i'm working on and so you look at me and you think oh dude he looks

00:54:32.080 pissed off no it's not that i'm just thinking and what i've started to do over the last you know this

00:54:38.580 with doing 75 hard especially with the phase three where it taught me about um i got back into the

00:54:44.580 habit of meeting people that i didn't know on purpose uh which i avoided for many years because

00:54:50.660 i'm not an extrovert what it did was it taught me how much i guess good energy that i get back

00:54:58.640 from just being interested in other people genuinely and dude the cool thing about doing that

00:55:05.140 like now i find myself walking through hq and i'll talk to like three or four people and it like

00:55:10.360 recharges my batteries dude you know like i might be tired i might be you know

00:55:14.500 we might be dealing with some some dumb ass or whatever and i walked through and i talked to

00:55:19.800 you know two or three of the people around the building and say hey what's going on oh dude i'm

00:55:23.280 doing this and this and this and it kind of like you could pick up on their energy energy is contagious

00:55:28.360 yeah bro and then all of a sudden now i'm not mad anymore it's been great i look at you know there's

00:55:35.160 when you start looking at being intentional and really having good interactions you stop taking away

00:55:41.140 the worth of somebody because of a watch or because of a car because of the thing what you

00:55:45.100 realize like as humans like we all have the same motherfucking problems we're all scared at some

00:55:49.360 level we all deal with money issues no matter how much money you have we deal with relationships

00:55:53.740 problems i mean it's part of the nature whether you have a great relationship or not like you still

00:55:57.400 have fucking issues and when you can sit down across the table from somebody and actually have

00:56:00.980 a real conversation and give a fuck about them the magnitude of them their ability to give a fuck

00:56:05.540 about you is 10x because it's so rare back to your point about gratitude it's like it's so rare for

00:56:11.700 somebody to ask hey man how's your day hey how's your relationship how are you doing how is it's so

00:56:15.860 rare and people we like to talk about ourselves you know like the real sally f right like i like to

00:56:20.800 hear myself talk but it if you look at it in a relationship standpoint like we're not often asked hey how

00:56:26.000 you doing how are you like and instead of it just being a question at the beginning of a conversation

00:56:30.200 like how the fuck are you yeah everybody's fucked up in some way oh dude i can tell you this uh what

00:56:39.180 four weeks ago i came off klonopin and paxil you know how did i get there i didn't take care of

00:56:44.720 myself i worked my fucking ass off you know eyes open eyes closed yeah so then uh you know 2017 i

00:56:50.640 came down well i thought something was wrong with me right i felt dizzy and shit and heart palpitations

00:56:55.960 all kinds of stuff and i'm working out i'm like man i don't feel good and i've always been an ox you

00:56:59.660 know i'm a i'm a mexican street dog you know like i've never been sick you know so i just i don't

00:57:05.300 know what's going on i go to the doctor and uh there i have brain mris i have blood scans i have

00:57:11.120 depression heart i yeah i have i have heart uh uh uh stress tests right they you take a pill they put

00:57:17.560 you upside down and after like months and months and months of research my uh my general doctor just

00:57:22.940 says hey hey man um you have gad what's gd general anxiety disorder i said what what is that what's

00:57:30.220 anxiety you know the way we grew up we don't right what what is anxiety right pussies exactly right

00:57:35.300 exactly what's anxiety you know anxiety like yeah man you got the you know you got the weight of the

00:57:40.160 world on your shoulders man you you got anxiety so i'm gonna you know you got to go see my friend

00:57:44.240 the psychiatrist and he's gonna put you on some pills you know and and and you know that's what i'm

00:57:49.020 saying everybody's fucked up in some way oh i i that's why i knew it was something like that because

00:57:53.840 i had the same exact fucking thing where i thought did you go i had a fucking brain tumor

00:57:57.940 oh shit it turned out i have i have what's called a pineal cyst which actually turns out to make me

00:58:03.540 like according to dr joe dispensa yeah a super manifester that's crazy so um proved it well yeah i got

00:58:13.640 the picture yeah that's why go ahead but i had to go through the same shit 188 people don't

00:58:20.320 understand that right a lot of the folks that are listening right now they think that it's all you

00:58:24.160 know nice and peachy right they think that it's nice and peachy but you know they have to understand

00:58:28.920 that you're gonna have to put put yourself through hell yeah you have to be willing to die for this

00:58:33.500 shit that's a fucking fact right when people say oh man you're fucking killing it yeah but people

00:58:38.660 don't understand that we were we killed ourselves i gotta pipe it on this one because just like i

00:58:42.720 said the common denominator of it must be what you can be the other common denominator that i've

00:58:46.720 learned kind of as a napoleon hill of podcasting is that everybody in running lee steinberg right

00:58:52.080 the greatest notable sports agent in the world we had everyone no matter who you are the same

00:58:57.620 percentage of your life my life and his life sucks and it's the people that learn how to find and deal

00:59:03.860 with the suck they're the ones that become successful but in no way even when you become

00:59:08.520 successful it's the same percentage of my life sucks is when i was five years old and my dad left

00:59:13.880 and i was broken well there's always gonna be shit to fix exactly you just gotta figure out that

00:59:18.040 percentage and that's what makes it you're gonna be what you can be you must be what you can must be

00:59:22.280 what you can be dude that in itself is something that i like do you think do you think that's

00:59:31.660 something that people i actually think that's something people can develop yeah um i see it

00:59:38.640 through 75 hard a lot you know a lot of people start and they think oh yeah i'm just gonna get

00:59:43.020 in shape or i'm gonna see what this is about all of a sudden you fast forward 75 days and they're

00:59:47.720 fucking different human and then you fast forward a year when they've gone through the whole program

00:59:51.960 and then all of a sudden you can see like holy shit this person gets it now like you're leaving so

00:59:57.800 much on the motherfucking table like and what what i get a lot of from people is like dude i had no

01:00:04.860 idea how much potential i was leaving out there and that becomes almost this weird moment where

01:00:11.120 you're sort of happy because you're like hey i'm on the right path but you're also sort of pissed

01:00:15.740 because you're like fuck i'm 40 years old i just figured it the fuck out you know and uh i've seen

01:00:20.640 that awakening happen you know thousands of times in the last couple years we've been running with that

01:00:24.540 program but uh you definitely you yeah people are born at different degrees yeah but there's an

01:00:30.280 epigenetic layer of your dna that you can activate and your program activates that layer of dna that

01:00:36.800 allows you to must be what you can be and if you continue with it and don't quit on it a year two

01:00:41.560 years five years you're a completely different person but you have to recognize you're born at a

01:00:47.140 certain stage right that so you need to activate it so some people are born with a happy gene no matter

01:00:52.680 what the fuck happens they're happy all the time but you doesn't mean that everybody can't be happy

01:00:57.420 they just have to work at it the same way as anything else yeah and i just to sal's point

01:01:01.860 that he was making earlier you know i used to be the guy that would be like man why the fuck is that

01:01:05.660 guy so happy all the time and i'd be mad because i didn't i didn't have that right and you probably

01:01:10.180 had more money than that guy well i do now yeah but like the the point is is like even when i was

01:01:15.180 younger like when i was when i was 15 16 17 i'd look at people and i'm like why is that fucking guy

01:01:21.200 so happy to be here but what i learned and here this is to your point those people are still happy

01:01:27.420 and i admire those people i'm still friends with a number of those people and they're some of my best

01:01:31.020 friends and they're happy it's great but i also am grateful now that i wasn't that way because i've

01:01:37.640 had to figure it out and now i can teach other people how to do it and that to me is you know it's

01:01:43.420 kind of like you know god puts you where you can serve the most type of thing like i was trying to

01:01:48.440 tell you sal a minute ago you know you couldn't do what you do if you weren't born with a challenge

01:01:55.500 of that where you have to work to be physically in shape like you couldn't do it no but i mean the

01:02:01.320 hardest thing i ever did was walk on water oh yeah yeah you know what hey that was that was easy for

01:02:08.080 me no but the thing is this guy all the time hey no but to your point i mean that's that that is the

01:02:17.080 rubik's cube of life yeah you know it's very much internal yeah you know and it's not and listen we

01:02:22.860 all there's it's totally normal to want things you know and to want more things are cool as fuck yeah

01:02:27.960 it doesn't make you a bad person right but like there ain't nothing i get happier about than going

01:02:31.420 out my garage man it makes me fucking happy well but but there's nothing that makes you more proud

01:02:36.220 than understanding that you understand yourself that's right you know and there's a huge paradox

01:02:39.800 and understanding that where but you got to go through a little bit of the the spending losses

01:02:44.820 you know where you buy things and you're like oh yeah and you go look at it you're like that's

01:02:47.980 fucking stupid you know you got to make those losses no no no dude it's no different than you

01:02:52.700 know people people people don't get that like the first time it's cool you know like your first time

01:02:58.880 you get a car or a watch or something it's cool and then it gets less cool and then it becomes

01:03:03.620 less cool and then it gets less call yeah becomes and then all of a sudden you're like well fuck i

01:03:08.360 can't get the cool anymore that's when you have to start creating it well and that and that to

01:03:12.780 today's point where you know like you run from your fears kind of and or not kind of but like most

01:03:18.180 people do and i've played sports my whole life you know college professional whatever and i'm never

01:03:22.620 gonna run again once i'm done never gonna fucking run it never gonna run again you know one of the

01:03:26.260 most proud moments i ever had my whole entire life is i crossed the finish line at half marathon i started

01:03:30.140 crying because i was so proud of myself for doing something i said i'd never fucking do really

01:03:34.940 because i hated it and i was scared of it and i realized like inside of like wow there's something

01:03:38.860 in there i kind of like and chase a little more then you earn that respect for yourself a little

01:03:42.500 bit more and there's like all these little things that cost nothing do nothing that you realize can

01:03:46.660 bring you a lot of internal happiness then i started to swim and then i started to be one of

01:03:50.200 those guys that wore the stupid suit and the big helmet and get on a fucking big bike and you ride

01:03:53.780 down the street everybody makes fun of like i've been that guy guess what i kind of like it

01:03:57.320 you know what i mean like it doesn't make me a bad person but you understand it like sometimes

01:04:01.260 you wear one of those pointy helmets i don't i'm not i haven't graduated that yet i don't ride that

01:04:05.300 fast but the how does that work out by the way do you guys wear underwear no bro suits no bro

01:04:10.240 because i've seen them yeah i've seen i got friends that are doing that now you don't wear

01:04:14.980 underwear no that's crazy it's like a person i wouldn't know that either yeah i would yeah that's

01:04:19.260 why i asked bro yeah you sit on that seat so you're fucking happy that may be the best question

01:04:23.320 of this podcast it is no listen if i can like we do like an aerodynamic so so here's a real

01:04:29.100 question then so do the skid marks go right in the suit oh no you always buy after a protein bar

01:04:35.220 but i tell you that you don't have any skid mark insurance there's a graduation believe it or not

01:04:42.680 you know what i'm talking about yeah yeah well believe it or not in the in a bike seat you pay

01:04:47.260 for less seat like the more expensive the seat the thinner it is oh man yeah it's it's a where do you

01:04:52.060 get one without one of them fronts on it because like i like that's the part that bothers me now

01:04:56.020 they make little cuts in there for your huevos do they well yeah huevos earlier you said something

01:05:02.840 i got the for tip and instantly my head was like propina you know like anyway no but i i i think

01:05:10.560 that that internal that internal justification of doing things that you said you'd never what was it

01:05:15.340 like to tell a joke that wasn't funny on the show i did did i do that do they edit oh you

01:05:21.500 fucking certainly did bro i'm like a one-liner for dj now joe this motherfucker's gonna come and try

01:05:27.780 to tell you to cut that out you leave that shit in bro i gotta as long as you amuse yourself

01:05:33.060 like that's all that matters internal internal i don't know if you haven't learned this yet but

01:05:37.620 i have the ability to do that as well those are the happiest people on earth dude i'm a good guy

01:05:42.240 car trip oh yeah so i always dreamed about like what it'd be like to be on howard stern's show

01:05:46.020 this is way better yeah this is i just need which one's robin yeah hey dave you want that's usually

01:05:52.060 dj hey dave you want i need to bring out the speaker and you're gonna sit on top of it

01:05:57.000 i do as long as they have a cutout on the speaker i'm cool i'm jewish from the eyebrows up remember

01:06:05.720 dude that part of the movie dude makes me laugh so hard dude and then like because i think about

01:06:12.640 it now and i'm like fuck dude i forget some of the shit that i say on the podcast and i forget that

01:06:17.960 like my family listens to the show you know like i know like i'm over fucking easter and everybody's

01:06:25.140 like hey i listen to the show and i'm like fuck is that good or bad i know i'm on the show my 10

01:06:29.960 year old my 10 year old was the best mistake of my life because he was an accident right and then i get

01:06:34.480 home and my son's like what what did you mean i was like oh shit i love you miles buddy i love you

01:06:44.360 daddy was just careful hey listen my twins right i think people out there man they they need to

01:06:51.400 understand that there's no there's no success without the pain you know what i mean yeah and

01:06:56.820 that's what they need to understand they see folks now you know the private jet or cars or you know

01:07:02.220 whatever and they feel like oh they kind of just landed there yeah you know but if you think about

01:07:07.620 every single even if you read something like manny koshman right the contrarian like he tells you he

01:07:11.860 was living out of his car right there's so many i mean nine out of ten times you're successful

01:07:16.440 entrepreneur you know you're highly active producer i mean they went through they went through all phases

01:07:23.400 of shit eating shit like eating shit stage for you know one year three year five year ten years

01:07:29.020 whatever the problem is bro is it's so the the eating shit stage is so bad that everybody thinks

01:07:34.260 they're the only one they had to do it yeah they're like no way it's really this fucking bad

01:07:38.100 you know what really blows their mind though is when you tell them like hey trust the process enjoy

01:07:43.720 the process one day you're going to look back on that and realize that you were growing the most at

01:07:48.480 that stage right now that you were having the most fucking fun that was the best part yeah but see

01:07:52.320 people don't they don't ever believe you oh they don't right now and the best stories come out of

01:07:56.520 those zones you know what i mean like all the stories we have that we all laugh about that we

01:07:59.400 only laugh about oh chris and i used to fucking have a fishbowl a fishbowl margarita fucking uh you

01:08:07.280 know like you go to a mexican place and they got like a big fucking fishbowl margarita we'd have that

01:08:11.980 and we would fill the motherfucker with natural light and see who could fucking drink it faster like

01:08:16.200 that's what we that's what we did the back of our fucking store you know why because we have any

01:08:20.000 customers didn't matter hey man i mean that's dude i could tell you so many fucking games and shit that

01:08:25.940 we had like yeah and i look back and dude chris and i you know we'll be fucking flying somewhere

01:08:30.560 on a jet or whatever like hey man remember that fucking fishbowl but i i think it kind of bringing

01:08:36.660 it back to beginning the podcast we start thinking about i don't say the dangers of social media but

01:08:40.380 one of the huge downfalls is everybody's so quick to show the success and oh man we should definitely

01:08:44.880 yeah but dude i don't want to i don't want to fucking give the wrong impression either because

01:08:48.780 like gary does this shit all the time and it annoys the fuck out of me and i love gary

01:08:52.700 but gary you know this annoys the fuck out of me is like he taught he shits on on six material

01:08:58.980 success and i think that's so irresponsible of anybody to do because you don't know what that

01:09:05.320 person's driver is like for some guys who who lived in a dirt floor having a fucking house that's nice

01:09:12.900 is a huge fucking deal yeah and if you say oh it big house or blah blah blah and i take away that

01:09:18.660 dream from someone who's grinding that might be the only thing that gets them through because i can

01:09:23.360 tell you for sure dude owning a fucking lambo for me and you know since then i've moved on to other

01:09:29.420 car other brands but like dude i was a passionate lamborghini fan my whole life since i was eight

01:09:34.940 years old and all those times that i was like fuck dude this sucks i would tell myself i'm like man you

01:09:42.160 know what though when i get that fucking lambo it's gonna be worth it and that sounds stupid

01:09:46.840 but the thing was it pulled me through so many difficult times and a lot of these guys out there

01:09:53.140 that are like oh material success is fucking bullshit dude they're stealing some of these young

01:09:59.120 dreamers dreams and and dude you have to let them have the the the growth process of understanding

01:10:06.420 like hey that's awesome great for you and then discovering that there's actually a whole lot more

01:10:13.360 past that and and dude by saying you know i think it's a very dangerous thing some of these guys say

01:10:19.140 when they when they shit on people's material goals because you know they're trying to sound

01:10:23.840 super spiritual and like you know um shit you know and fucking the truth is is like dude if it wasn't

01:10:30.620 for fucking lamborghini i would have quit well i'm spiritual af yeah and i will tell you this i teach

01:10:35.820 what before why yeah like and you my thing is i used to shit on owning a ferrari right used to say

01:10:41.360 all it did was make me an asshole i cared about the car too much and women knew my true anatomy yeah

01:10:46.260 but then i started realizing you know what it's true did it did it help with women but i needed

01:10:51.020 that i was like you owning that ferrari was a huge compliment yeah but then i learned about the ferrari

01:10:55.740 and my thing is pick what you want i don't give a hell or damn what it is learn from it if it still

01:11:02.080 makes you happy like your lamborghini still makes you happy yeah keep the goddamn car yeah if you learn

01:11:06.460 hey this is no big deal i've owned it move on move on and pick a new but pick another what and

01:11:11.720 it can be a material item it doesn't matter because if you're after something in the pursuit you're

01:11:16.980 going to expand grow and accelerate and help other people even if it's something stupid it's not stupid

01:11:22.300 to you even now like even now sal will tell you this like dude every night what do we text we text

01:11:27.640 cars back and forth or houses houses that's what we really have been on like because him and i want

01:11:32.400 to get we you know we don't want to we don't need to get our own fucking seven houses like me him and

01:11:38.020 chris and jason and the guys are close-knit here fucking share everything so like we send back you

01:11:43.360 know these crazy houses down in naples or on south beach or fucking key biscayne or like uh ball harbert

01:11:49.860 which by the way i'm gonna be neighbors with one of you motherfuckers soon hey i need that dave money

01:11:53.800 for the 52 million dollar houses that's what you need right here little fisher island that's where you

01:11:58.260 next to kim perel i'm just saying like dude but still to this day every day i'm sending him probably

01:12:05.100 10 houses that are i mean 35 million dollars and above you know what i mean and we send him back

01:12:13.020 and like even to this day we're like still like that it's just different things but what's

01:12:17.180 interesting is you go back seven years ago the house that andrew lives in he would text me oh yeah

01:12:21.880 right legitimately the same house you know what i mean so that that house that people don't really

01:12:27.180 know the whole story about that house i've been watching that house since i was fucking 19 years

01:12:31.580 old okay my ex-girlfriend from high school lived right down the street from that house when they

01:12:36.920 were building that house i used to drive up there and watch them build it like because dude the house

01:12:43.180 is fucking ridiculous and so i've never seen anything like it and they're putting up these big pillars

01:12:49.200 it's an exact replica of uh of uh oak alley in louisiana so um the house is fucking it's insane

01:13:00.380 like we like i could take a picture of and post it and everybody's like oh it's a nice house but look

01:13:05.500 at the fucking car next to it so you can understand what how fucking it's ridiculous to see in person

01:13:10.540 so i'm fucking 19 20 years old and i'm i'm you know fucking just starting in business and i'm looking

01:13:17.700 at this house i'm like who the fuck lives there you know like how do you live there and i started

01:13:23.940 thinking so for for they kicked me off i would go up there to watch them build a house and they would

01:13:30.140 shoo me off so fast forward this is fucking 1999 2000 2001 fast forward 10 years okay 10 you're gonna

01:13:40.500 love this story yeah i already do so 10 years later you know i'm still not making any money my

01:13:46.920 first 10 years i made 58 000 in business okay the next couple years i started to make a little bit

01:13:53.080 of money all right and i started to think and see i'm like okay maybe i'm gonna get to that level

01:14:00.800 so what i start doing is trying to figure out who the fuck owns this house so i found him on tax

01:14:07.360 records and i found him on facebook and i sent him a dm and i said hey just letting you know and

01:14:11.120 this is like 2013 hey just letting you know uh maybe it was 2012 i'm not sure it was it was eight

01:14:19.860 years okay from the time i reached out to him till the time he sold me the house all right so i reached

01:14:26.240 out to him when i had no fucking money i i had just started making a little bit and i figured you know

01:14:32.500 oh this guy eventually he's gonna want to move so i just want to be the first in that line

01:14:37.320 and uh you know he was like are you a broker i'm like no i'm just a guy i want to buy the house

01:14:43.420 and he kind of like you know blew me off which you know i would probably do well then uh fast forward

01:14:50.840 it goes on the market a couple times it doesn't sell and you know so i'm sending the shit to sell

01:14:57.500 i'm like fuck dude i wish this was just a better time i wish it was a better time you know he ends

01:15:02.320 up staying there and then we we stay in contact so get to be around 2015 now i'm like oh fuck dude i

01:15:09.240 could i can do this for sure and uh i start telling him like hey man uh you know i want to really buy

01:15:17.040 your house and we go back and forth and back and forth and back and forth and back and forth and

01:15:19.560 back and forth finally in 2018 he's like hey i think i'm gonna sell the house that's how i fucking got

01:15:25.320 the house i bought the house with a fucking meme that's awesome okay so he sent me so i was at

01:15:29.820 billy g's and i was i was a little fucked up and i was sitting there with emily and you know uh that

01:15:36.440 meme you know the movie django yeah okay and you know the part where he's like uh where they're

01:15:42.520 having dinner and and uh like the dude what's his name leonardo caprio like slams the hammer down on

01:15:48.060 the fucking table sold sold all right so you know those memes yeah so there's a meme that says sold

01:15:53.740 to the man with a magnificent beard because that's what he says in the movie and that's how

01:15:57.940 i bought the house i sent him a fucking meme and i i got a screenshot of it if anybody i send it to

01:16:02.660 dan fleischman all the time so so he's like so we're gonna do this deal or not and i'm like

01:16:07.440 yeah and i sent back the fucking meme sold to the man with the ridiculous good beard

01:16:11.740 and that's how i bought that house so i've been chasing for 20 years and that house is a historic

01:16:17.060 house dude that was uh ulysses s grant's uh personal hunting property i mean dude there's all kinds

01:16:22.740 of history on that property it's fucking amazing but it goes into the manifesting thing you know

01:16:28.100 what i mean like i did the exact same thing with my beach house with my wife nothing for sale and

01:16:33.420 somehow it all folded itself and we're living the exact one i walked that exact one walked that

01:16:38.120 boardwalk said someday i'm gonna own that house played overline there went bankrupt never bought

01:16:42.820 the house go damn i wish i would have bought that house yeah and then literally the couple that

01:16:47.040 only got in a big fight and all of a sudden the broker called me said i think you could buy it now

01:16:51.140 wasn't on the market yeah i just called it the right time yeah have you guys noticed that um

01:16:56.540 you get to a certain level in your manifestation right your amount of your ability to manifest

01:17:00.960 that you start to like you visualize something and then next thing you know it like it's come so

01:17:06.940 much it comes so much quicker i see it just like a much quicker and i got to talk to dr joe about this

01:17:12.580 who who knows his shit about this stuff and he said that that's true as well why why is that

01:17:17.140 the more you it's just like a muscle dude the more you train it the better it works it's unbelievable

01:17:22.200 what you're doing like and i talked to dr joe i believe what you're doing is clearing the

01:17:26.300 interference and corrosion that you have between what already exists yeah and you yeah and so your

01:17:31.680 free will is actually not to go get something it's to clear the connection to what's already in

01:17:36.020 existence so when you're seeing that house right it already exists and it is yours you just have to

01:17:41.080 clear all the junk out in between yeah so the better you get it clear and the faster that house is

01:17:44.840 going to come to you the car and i hate the word manifestation by the way because i get caught up

01:17:48.420 into the doc dr joe woo woo guy sometimes it's right manifesting only means you think about what you

01:17:54.680 want and you get it yeah intention exactly you get what you want if you are into getting what you want

01:17:59.600 yeah then manifest is a good word for you yeah it's an internal vision board you know i mean you think

01:18:04.160 about it and you think all right how i got to knock that out all right your problem that's already

01:18:07.300 in concept of what you're saying about clearing clearing the garbage out yeah and and once and you know

01:18:13.460 this just from studying you know the things that you've studied what people don't understand is

01:18:18.040 that you know time is not actually even linear it's what you think of actually is already existing

01:18:24.500 at a different place in the quantum universe and what you're seeing when you visualize is actual reality

01:18:31.880 at a different point recollect listen to these words yeah recollect remember what do you think i'm

01:18:39.100 remembering that i'm recollecting i got knowledge you're acquiring the knowledge to get it these

01:18:43.720 words are not mistakes right they're not coincidences you create the coincidences by clearing the vision

01:18:49.340 or the direction to what already exists and when you meet people like andy and you guys you really

01:18:54.000 see that muscle at work the other muscle too that i like before we quickly end right is focus like for

01:18:59.760 me people talk about focus and intention but it's also refocus what you know human mind can only focus

01:19:05.660 on one thing but people like all of you guys you refocus really quickly so people think you're

01:19:11.140 doing five things at once you're not you're doing one thing refocusing to this one refocusing back and

01:19:16.960 it seems like an instant so people are like how does he does three things at once you're not it's a

01:19:21.160 muscle it's quick yeah refocusing and focusing as a muscle most of things are muscles that we do

01:19:25.760 i'll give you an example um so i i i went to i went to uh one of my one of my good friends uh his

01:19:32.320 wedding in um hunting hunting hunting beach right flew down there and then uh one of my good friends

01:19:39.000 picks me up in a rose royce colonen right and i've been looking for a dad car i recently bought like a

01:19:45.180 porsche uh kyan turbo you know just to like put my little two-year-old back there right um i i normally

01:19:50.940 drive like a prius or something like that you know that's my daily driver to be honest yeah it's it's

01:19:56.320 something about prius i can go into the story of that uh delay gratification which you know but anyway

01:20:00.840 so he picks me up in the colonen and he's like hey what's up bro he's leasing it he's leasing right

01:20:05.320 he's like hey what's up bro you want one of these i'm like hey hey bro don't even start because if i

01:20:10.500 do right if i do then that's gonna be my sole focus for like the next week or two to like making this

01:20:17.940 happen so it becomes scary now of like you got to be careful of where you put your focus into as far

01:20:23.900 as the intention and what you want because then that's all that it happens pretty quickly yeah negative

01:20:28.760 and positive that's yeah yeah you're right it goes both ways yeah and it's like i don't really need

01:20:33.440 to do that right now so don't you know don't put that in my head because i do want it but i you know

01:20:37.540 i can yeah i've never heard someone say that's super i deflect it now when you think about

01:20:41.840 visualization like for me when i think about it you know like for example like that house i keep

01:20:49.840 sending you on ball harbor and the house i send you that's on uh uh gordon in naples like when i think

01:20:56.740 of those two house like i know one of those two houses gonna be my fucking house like i know for

01:21:01.000 sure time stamp that yeah another one will i already know because when i sit down to think about it

01:21:07.160 i see especially the ball harbor house for some reason i see myself there okay and when i visualize

01:21:14.800 that i used to think and this goes for everything i'm just painting an example of how you progress

01:21:20.500 with this visualization i used to think okay i'm closing my eyes i'm thinking of it and it could

01:21:27.420 possibly happen and what that made it very hard to to see the picture clearly what i what i do now

01:21:34.220 is i actually understand and this is this is where you get into the quantum and metaphysics

01:21:39.920 i actually understand that when i can see the picture clearly i'm not seeing something that's fake

01:21:44.540 i'm seeing i'm literally seeing another point in time of my of my actual life when you come to

01:21:50.880 an understanding that that's what you're seeing the ability to manifest it becomes almost instant and

01:21:57.740 and it's a hard you know what i'm talking about oh it's a hard thing to describe to someone

01:22:03.860 that isn't developed to that point yet like i'm when i see myself like at that house like i know that's

01:22:13.140 that's like that's really well you start to feel it too yeah no and that's how you feel it yeah and

01:22:19.080 once you get to that level where you're you're seeing it and you're understanding that this is

01:22:24.200 something that actually exists now you're fucking super dangerous when it comes to your ability to

01:22:30.180 manifest and i say dangerous because it is dangerous because the minute you start seeing shit

01:22:36.260 that doesn't vibe that shit comes in twice as quick too so it's something that you have to learn

01:22:41.960 almost you know like to control that's right like dude you got to be responsible with a firearm

01:22:48.040 you know or people get hurt and your ability to manifest and bring things into you

01:22:53.420 um is is there's really nothing more dangerous than that if you're doing it wrong and it's almost

01:23:00.240 like you become limitless right right and that's why it's scary yeah it's no no dude what i'm saying

01:23:05.680 is what i'm getting at here is that there's a lot of people who are fucking manifesting the

01:23:10.740 negativity over and over and over and over again and they can't understand they're fucking doing it

01:23:15.640 well you got to be aware of the game you're playing before you fucking can play the game

01:23:19.240 and the way i think about visualization and quantum quantum realities and manifestation

01:23:25.280 and the way you should think about it and i'm not saying this isn't a fucking opinion this is me

01:23:31.560 telling you as someone who is fucking great at this okay my life speaks for itself yeah okay

01:23:39.400 i'm telling you this is no different than gravity if you we could argue about gravity you could

01:23:45.860 fucking say what you think and dave you could say oh well you think it's how you could say what you

01:23:50.300 think but if we go up on the top of this motherfucking building and step off the edge

01:23:54.020 there's only one outcome that's happening and it ain't good and that's the thing that people don't

01:23:58.620 understand about visualizing you may not be visualizing right now because you say in your

01:24:04.400 mind well that sounds hocus pocus or that sounds bullshit but what you don't understand is that you

01:24:08.940 actually are manifesting and what you're manifesting is the shit that you look around and call your life

01:24:13.640 and you've been manifesting that your whole life and you just aren't aware of it so if i could give you

01:24:19.280 anything today it would be to just accept that the shit is real and then start working with it

01:24:25.520 because the more you deny it the more you're going to unintentionally manifest negativity

01:24:30.960 and whatever it is you observe growing up because you're going to think well this just is the way

01:24:36.680 that it is when in reality it's actually nothing like that you're just picking that you know so

01:24:43.800 absolutely yeah become aware man it's a fucking it's it's you know when i say that about the gravity

01:24:50.660 people start to get it yeah like oh yeah i use i use voting especially now right people vote for what

01:24:55.760 they want they get what they want they vote for what they don't want they get what they don't want

01:24:58.800 they vote for what other people want for them they get what other people want which one do you want

01:25:02.580 vote for it so guys uh look we covered a lot of stuff i think you know if you didn't get something

01:25:08.840 out of this show man there's something wrong with your brain uh i just want to say you know

01:25:12.720 thanks david for coming out thanks carlos for making the trip you know a lot of these guys

01:25:16.700 uh you know they say oh dude have me on your show but dude we're in st louis missouri you know all

01:25:22.140 these other motherfuckers are out in miami or la and they're doing each other's show very few people

01:25:26.980 want to get on a plane and actually come here so uh i've been to springfield missouri for a sales

01:25:31.800 training springfield's cool it's a good good spot the uh the the entertainment for us was to go to

01:25:38.800 walmart and count cars yeah it was actually springfield was kind of dead yeah there wasn't a lot of people

01:25:44.100 so we were counting people out in the street you know what i mean dude springfield's a wonderful

01:25:47.980 place we went to i lived there for eight years we went to your minor league teams baseball game who

01:25:52.480 are they cardinals their cardinals team okay yeah we went to watch their game so that was cool

01:25:56.480 you know it wasn't the actual cardinals it was like a minor league team um like a minor league for the

01:26:01.540 bro springfield's still the soul of america to me man yeah attitude is to finish up you know we

01:26:06.420 were talking about the law of attraction the whole time and manifesting but the law of goya is the

01:26:11.400 reason i'm here right get off your ass yeah don't be a talker do what you do and why you all have

01:26:17.380 180 000 square feet here exactly 88 law of goya nothing's more powerful than the law of goya yeah

01:26:24.020 that will help get off get off your ass and get what you want i can tell you this i was just telling

01:26:29.240 uh andy i said hey man i don't really follow a lot of people i have i follow 240 some people on

01:26:34.640 instagram right and he's definitely one of them you know him and ed ed my let and i feel like

01:26:41.120 people will listen to this podcast they'll and they'll go to seminars and they'll do all that

01:26:45.860 shit but they'll never move forward with anything right that's unfortunate that's like the unfortunate

01:26:50.200 truth some god willing some do that's what we're here for some yeah absolutely but what i want to

01:26:54.500 tell people is that you know one percent of it is information and 99 of it is implementation that's

01:27:01.000 right you know it's like you can take one two three things from even an episode like this

01:27:06.200 and just run with it you know your entire life would change you know if you really and there's

01:27:11.160 too many cynical people out there too right it's too many cynical people they don't they don't believe

01:27:15.240 like oh man i could still you know become the best version of myself i can still become successful oh

01:27:20.800 i'm too old i'm too young right so folks need to just take take an opportunity on themselves man they

01:27:26.500 need to take a shot they need to take a shot and that's something that a lot of people now for

01:27:30.660 some crazy reason man i don't know what it is i don't know what's holding them back i don't know

01:27:34.860 if it's too much social media i don't know if it's the news i don't know if it's the programming i

01:27:39.300 don't know i think a lot of people are waiting for the i hear this a lot uh i'm waiting for all

01:27:44.320 this bullshit to calm down let me give you a fucking hint bro crazy it ain't ever gonna calm down it's

01:27:50.140 just gonna change and if it ain't gonna be this it's gonna be that and when it's not that anymore

01:27:53.500 it's gonna be this other thing and when it's not that other thing it's gonna be that other thing

01:27:56.940 and all that stuff is always gonna be going on let me ask you a question yeah when march hit march

01:28:03.040 16th was covid well march 16th the president made the announcement of like hey you know no more than

01:28:08.020 10 people at a at a place or something right what went through your mind when covid hit what went

01:28:13.460 through your mind what did you what did you say what did you say oh man i might have to really slow

01:28:18.080 things down or did you say how you go back and listen to my podcast what i said i fucking said

01:28:23.100 hey motherfuckers everybody's gonna slow down everybody's gonna go in their shell everybody's

01:28:28.860 gonna hide and guess what the winners are gonna keep winning and it's gonna widen the gap and i

01:28:33.620 warned everybody at the beginning of this that this was a huge opportunity to widen the gap on

01:28:38.160 everybody else and some people didn't some people didn't i spent this entire year every motherfucking

01:28:44.120 day getting better every day and and dude that's what winners gonna do winners gonna fucking win

01:28:50.060 everybody else gonna talk about it so the goya is exactly what i believe in let me let me tell you

01:28:56.800 this i'm in the you know i'm in the real estate uh investment world right the first thing i did when

01:29:02.560 that announcement was made is i called my private investors and these guys have been in the game for

01:29:08.360 i don't know three decades right and they've seen a they've seen two crashes and i said hey how are

01:29:13.440 you feeling about this because i'm feeling pretty fucking good i said i want to double down you know

01:29:17.340 i want to do more marketing i want to hire more acquisition guys i want to flip more houses

01:29:20.640 yeah right and then the uh my my guy i won't say his name but uh he's he's a mormon guy uh he i get

01:29:27.460 on my private capital for him he says he says you know what carlos i like where your head's at

01:29:31.960 you're right let's double down and sure thing man that separated us from the rest of the entire

01:29:38.320 southwest like private investment firms in the country we just started doubling down we

01:29:43.300 hired more contractors you know we we we took out more we spent more money on marketing

01:29:48.040 hire more sales guys started getting more more private capital from them and uh that really just

01:29:53.900 it turned everything around for us man on a practical note i mean it's been a hell of an

01:29:59.200 opportunity to build up your team too because a lot of people are transitioning from things they

01:30:03.780 were doing to new things i mean dude we've got what do we have 60 70 new employees since march

01:30:10.380 literally told the guys this morning they all come from somewhere else right right they're good

01:30:14.740 and they're good people who have come from a career path that they and that they were unhappy with or

01:30:20.180 unfulfilled with or just wanted something new and they took it as an opportunity to get better

01:30:25.380 they were forced out of their comfort zone fuck dude i mean how many do we have my my biggest thing

01:30:31.000 this morning was i told i was telling the guys i didn't build the office big enough

01:30:34.180 like i was like i was like you didn't build this thing big enough no no the actual office space

01:30:40.040 oh no no we're already in the office this is like football fields no i know we're gonna have to

01:30:45.360 literally build another building right here next door because of we fucking underestimated the size of

01:30:53.260 the fucking building and which is the opposite of what is what we 24 months ago we were shitting our

01:31:00.720 pants like oh my god we're gonna build this building and it's gonna be like we have to have walkie talkies

01:31:06.740 to talk in it we we have 200 so i expanded the auditorium from uh from 190 to 222 and now now we

01:31:14.720 can't now we we can't do shit in auditorium because we had too many fucking people we have to split the

01:31:18.460 companies up yeah so that's a blessing yeah it's great but the point is is every single one of

01:31:24.520 those new people they've made the decision they said you know what i don't i don't want to be this

01:31:30.300 anymore i don't want to do this i don't i want to do something with purpose i want to do something

01:31:33.800 that matters i want to do something that i'm that i'm excited about i want to be a part of something

01:31:38.320 guess what guess who was there to scoop those amazing people up we were but i think there's a great

01:31:43.940 lesson that's not told in that story is what did we really do yeah we we faced fears and scared but

01:31:50.200 we had a meeting we said you know what i don't give a fuck what we do i don't care if we don't get paid

01:31:53.960 for the next three months six months nine months nobody's losing their job nobody's losing their

01:31:57.040 job we're not backing down their hours boom we're gonna keep everybody online and that that loyalty

01:32:01.420 piece and that conversation that spread out our spread through our culture our guys all knew we say

01:32:06.780 you're gonna work from home ever if you worked 37 hours over the last 30 days you're gonna we're

01:32:11.900 gonna pay you 37 fucking hours even though we don't know if you're gonna work 10 we're gonna

01:32:15.440 keep you online we don't know if you're gonna work 10 for the next six months yeah we're gonna pay you

01:32:19.340 every fucking week just like and that's what we did i think we're one of the only companies that i

01:32:23.520 know of that actually did that i saw other people on social media firing their whole fucking company

01:32:28.400 ran for the fences but here here's the other thing too that that i want to put out there uh p.s

01:32:35.540 we're hiring yeah good yeah but i think that culture goes back to like when you treat people good

01:32:41.600 be intentional about what like it wasn't like hey man we gotta keep these motherfuckers online

01:32:44.680 yeah this is our livelihood they went out and told their friends like hey man like we're hiring this

01:32:48.900 is a great place to work and guess what the best way to double your business is to fucking bring a

01:32:52.040 friend well hey how about this um where do people go to work at first form where do they go in a

01:32:58.000 warehouse oh i know how do they how do they fucking know about oh we have a uh what is it's work

01:33:03.500 here at first form.com yeah work here at first form.com you have to fucking move here and you got to

01:33:09.060 be willing to bust ass but as far as i know it's one of the only day one opportunities that you're

01:33:14.360 ever going to get for a company that in 10 years you're going to be saying that's the fucking new

01:33:19.160 nike okay best headquarters i've been in huh best headquarters i've been in i've been to nike indeed

01:33:24.720 is everywhere man we're gonna do it it's awesome yeah we're doing it and it's and and people say you

01:33:29.780 know oh dude like andy's just like huffing and puffing about it being day one no i'm not like i'm in

01:33:35.700 this for the fucking game dude and i'm it's not about me it was about me i would have sold the

01:33:40.560 company the fucking 10 times i've been offered to sell it you know uh we're just getting started

01:33:48.540 so if you are one of these people who's around and thinking like fuck dude you know i'm ready for

01:33:52.920 something new i'm ready i'm ready to be a part of something from day one if you're willing to start

01:33:57.280 at the bottom and put the time in uh and the time that you have to put in is not that long um

01:34:03.780 we're hired so anyway uh dude thank you guys so much for coming on this is a great show thank you

01:34:12.160 real quick where where can people follow follow you david it's at david melter i do free trainings

01:34:17.740 every friday so just at david melter david at the melter.com and carlos reyes um c-a-r-c-a-r-l-o-s-r-e-y-e-s

01:34:27.900 at carlos reyes on instagram so let's i'm very uh very active there i try to i try to you know

01:34:34.000 i try as much as i can to be responsive you know you're running a real business yeah exactly

01:34:38.720 brick and mortar we got jobs yeah that's right all right guys that's the show remember uh the fee

01:34:45.060 is the fee so if you if you laughed if you learned something if it brought a new perspective it gave

01:34:49.620 you a new way to think you know make sure you talk about the show and you know share it with your

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01:34:57.340 doing really good stuff all right thanks guys appreciate you guys see you next time

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 27, 2020

81. Manifesting Dreams Into Reality Ft. David Meltzer & Carlos Reyes

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