875. Q&AF： Making Moves Without Pressure, Handling No Man's Land & Cutting Distractions
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In this episode of the Realists, the guys talk about the new movie batman and how it sucks. Also, we have a new call-in question from a listener and we answer it and give you the answers!
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what is up guys it's andy purcell and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the thickness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
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we have q and af that's where you submit the questions or call in and we give you the answers
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now you can submit your questions a few different ways the first way is guys email these questions
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into ask andy andy for cello.com or you go on youtube in the comment section type your question
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right in there or you go down there under the youtube video click the link and you can uh
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apply to call in live on the show all right pretty cool we like it
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all right so if you're new which a lot of you guys are every week um we have shows within the
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show tomorrow we're gonna have cti that's cruise the internet as we talk about what's going on in
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the world we speculate on what's true speculate on what's not true and then we talk about how we the
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people have to solve these problems going on in the world uh other times we're gonna have real talk we
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got more of those coming uh we're gonna we're gonna get serious now we're gonna start staying on track
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uh you know we can't have a podcast without being professional about it because we're professional
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podcasters so we got real talk and then we have 75 hard versus 75 hard versus is where someone who's
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completed the 75 hard program comes on the show they talk about how their life was before how their
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life is now and how they use the 75 hard program to get their shit together all right if you're unfamiliar
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with 75 hard it is uh the beginning phase of the live hard program which is the world's most famous
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mental transformation program ever and uh it's available for free at episode 208 on the audio
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feed only again that's 208 on the audio feed only um it's not on youtube because we were on audio for
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basically you know seven years before we ever jumped onto youtube so most of our listeners on audio and
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we don't have it on youtube so that's what's up uh what else what am i missing here um there's a fee
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there is a fee yeah the fee is very simple uh oh there's a book you can buy called the book on
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mental toughness at andy for cella.com it is the entire live hard program plus a whole bunch of other
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chapters on mental toughness why it's important how to use it in your life and then we have uh what were
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you saying we had i'm tired bro the fee the fee is very simple we don't run ads on the show
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i uh don't take money from other companies to tell me what i can and can't say and uh very simply
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we need you to help us grow the show all right man uh i know a lot of you we have a massive massive
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massive audience on audio and we're getting there on youtube but uh guys please do us a favor and uh
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help us grow the show all right don't be a hoe all right so what's up man monday morning monday
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morning monday morning getting to the warriors man yeah what movies i found warriors oh that's
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that's the name of the movie yeah i've never seen that one i've never seen it i'm not surprised you
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haven't seen it is it good what is it is that basketball movie futuristic gangsters man what do
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i don't know if i like those uh those like sci-fi future gangster movies did you guys see that movie
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that's out now uh with uh broke back mountain oh yeah i saw you were in it the sequel yeah just broke
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yeah oh shit man what's that movie out right now with tom hardy it's on fucking netflix
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oh um no it's not anyway i don't know the name of it but i like tom hardy yeah i do too but the
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movie sucks did it yeah it's fucking terrible it's like just this it's just i don't know whatever man
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anyway yeah that's neither here nor there yeah we got warriors lined up we got warriors lined up to
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call into the show today so let's let's get started man yeah well let's get started with uh
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won't be a phone call though we gotta write in there's another warrior though uh you got a new
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listener oh really a new listener are they are they happy or are they angry no they're happy yeah
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let's get some of these angry people to call in let's get the angry people to call in on cti i did
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have a batman somebody batman reached out batman yeah filled out a thing what did he send the
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fucking bat signal to you no i mean literally what he was talking about he's what he says yeah something
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about gotham need saving or some shit okay yeah so he's a weirdo yeah for sure got it all right
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batman yeah yeah we get him every now and then be careful what you say about batman
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why fuck you up it's batman batman can't fight we talking about bro batman is the ultimate fighter
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he's not even a superhero he doesn't even have special powers he kicks people's asses he trained in the
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at the top of a mountain peak with like tibetan monks that know all the secret sauce yeah and he
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became badass bro i'm gonna be batman one day you guys won't know it though it could be batman
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well i mean so like is that fucking batman wait who said this years ago no well no one gives me
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credit for the things i say anyway so what the fuck does it matter everybody just acts like i didn't say
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it like i fucking say all this shit wait years in front of all these influencers and then somehow
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they get the credit for saying it yeah it happens joe and i were talking last night that maybe they
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get the credit for saying it because they don't curse the way i curse oh is it the cursing i don't
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know but like all these people that they're talking about i said this shit years ago yeah and they say
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it just without yeah see that's why people gotta you guys gotta have our backs bro like you need to
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straighten these people out be like bro these boys been saying this way before you with cursing
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yeah colorful language colorful language you always make color and everything else that's right and a
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diverse crew yeah that's it all right well let's make some people better today all right let's do it
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i got some good ones for you man um let's knock them out we got a question number one hey andy
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i'm a new listener uh to your content and i literally can't get enough i came across your content
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on tiktok and you are the real deal here's my question every breakthrough i've ever had came
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right after i hit rock bottom after the breakup the layoff the health scare i don't understand why
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it takes me falling apart to finally take action why can't i make moves when things are calm how do i
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learn to grow from clarity instead of collapse okay that's first of all this is a great question
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because many many many people struggle with this they they they think that when things are going good
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that they've caught some sort of like vibe or you know they've caught some good energy and things are
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just going good and yeah that does happen automatically sometimes through your life but very high
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achieving successful people they don't they don't allow themselves to fade back to the crumbles you
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know what i'm saying so usually what's happening here is that if you look backwards and you see where
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you are today and you look back for the 30 60 90 days before you are in a good spot you will see that
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you were behaving in a way that produced this good spot in some way shape or form okay you might not
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have been doing everything right but you were doing something right um and it led to a position
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where things felt like they were going well for you and that might be the previous 90 days that might be
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the previous year it depends on how high or how low you are but what happens is is that when things
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start to curve up and we start to get to you know where things are good and we start looking around
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we're like man everything's going good you know the actions that we take are not the same as the
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actions that we take to dig ourselves out of the shit all right so what we have to realize and what
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this person needs to realize is that you are the result of your own decisions and your own actions
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even when you aren't conscious of the actions that you're taking and so what we need to develop here
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is a level of awareness to where when you feel like things are going well you should automatically
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start to do more of the things that got you to that point that's the that's the opposite of what
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most people do most people get in a position where they're making money things are going well
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um you know maybe they're at the top of their fitness game and then they're like oh everything's good
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and they stop doing the things that got them there and they start to drift down you know in in success
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in business in your career uh even as an as an entrepreneur or an intrapreneur what happens is
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is you know when you're at the bottom bro you don't you're like fuck my life sucks i'm not making any
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money my relationships are terrible i'm not happy i'm depressed i gotta do something different to get
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myself out of this and so you'll start to take an active role in your life that starts to produce an
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incremental increase towards the way that you're trying to go but when you're at the top or the
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perceived top like oh things are great i'm making what i want to make people let off the gas and they
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don't continue to do the things that moved them out of the place when in reality when you do find
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yourself when things are well that's where you really need to audit yourself because our natural reaction
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as humans is to get comfortable and to be like oh everything's good things are going well and when
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you don't have the awareness to understand that you're in control of your own momentum by creating
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it yourself it feels like oh the universe or you know uh the mystical powers that be are somehow
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punishing me or i you know there's a there's we start to like throw the responsibility off to other
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things and so what we need to happen here for this person is we need to understand that we are
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in control and whatever life we are living now is a result of our actions in the past okay so we see
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this a lot in business owners uh where you know things start to get well and they start to think
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fuck i'm so successful everything i touch is going to be great doesn't matter if i show up anymore
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it doesn't matter if i'm early or if i stay late it doesn't matter if i do these meetings it doesn't
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matter in fitness if i eat well because i'm already in shape i can have a couple days off i can go on a
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vacation and then what happens is you start to go back down okay and this is totally within your
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control this is with in every single one of you guys are in control of this process and so when you
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find yourself when things are going good that's the time to really audit what you're actually doing
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because when things are good we don't have that desperation or that urgency to do the things
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that dug us out of the low place and so what happens is people tend to go up and then they
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go down and then they go up and then they go down and then they go up and then they go down and they
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live their whole life like that truly successful people do not change the ownership or the actions
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or the urgency depending on how they feel that day they execute no matter what when things are good
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they come with the same urgency as when things were shitty and they had to get themselves out of it
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and so what that creates is a curve that instead of cresting and going back down it just continues to
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go up all right and this is what successful people do and it just really takes some awareness and some
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understanding that we are in control of our momentum if you are in a terrible place right now if your life
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sucks right now and you're waiting around for things to get better that's not what you should be doing
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that's not how it works you need to take action you need to control what you could control which is
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your food what you put in your mind how you move your body how much water you drink who you associate
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with the things that are in your control you need to execute on those in a positive manner just like
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this you know program that somebody developed that i might have heard of you know called 75 hard
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and then continue to do that even when things get good and that's the key to avoiding these ups and downs
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you have to continue to get better you have to continue to come with urgency you have to continue to control
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what it is that you can't control and you will avoid the dips now will you still have a little bit of a dip
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sometimes yeah because there's always things that we're dealing with that aren't in our control
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but the reality is is that you know i think off my experience you know 80 to 90 percent of the result
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that we have in our lives is in our control okay we can be fit no matter what you're saying there's
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very little that's outside of correct right right and most people think that everything's outside of
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their control and so it's a matter of awareness and ownership okay because if you are controlling the
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things that you control you can be intelligent you can be fit you can be productive you can get shit
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done you can be around the right people you can avoid negativity you can avoid things that that
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damage your progress like maybe alcohol or whatever your vices might be we are in control of those
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things and so the ultimate power that someone has to really cultivate and harness is the power of
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discipline so that they can adhere when things are not convenient but also adhere when things are
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really good and nobody talks about that because they think of it as a journey like once i get there
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everything will be good no they won't because you're going to stop doing everything that you do
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and you're going to fall back on your face which is what's exactly what this person is describing is
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there a silver lining here that this person can look at in the sense of like you know having to dig
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yourself out the hole well you know you got grit you got some you know i'm saying you can you can dig
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listen man everybody has problems yeah everybody gets low everybody gets their ass beat it's called
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fucking life all right and you have to understand that when you get punched in the fucking face
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and you're at the bottom it's probably because you're not controlling what it is you could have
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been controlling the whole entire time if you're honest with yourself and you audit yourself and you tell
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yourself exactly the way it is you're a realist about it you will see that the things that got you to
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the high point you are no longer doing all right and so you have to do them and people get really
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humble when things are bad and they get really full of their ego when things are good so when they're
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humble they're looking around they're saying oh shit fuck what do i do i don't know what to do shit
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this worked for me two years ago so i'm going to do this again which is the natural human response
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okay but then when they get to the top because we're stupid fucking humans we don't realize that we have
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to continue to do these things that got us going in the right direction in the first place so
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we're always going to face hardship we're always going to have things not go our way but the truth
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of the matter is is that you can minimize the dips and keep the progress going by just understanding
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that we are in control and and it's not up to you know the outside circumstances or the conditions
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or things that might happen bro things happen okay you're gonna lose a job you're gonna
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lose a partner people are gonna die you're gonna get sick your dog's gonna pass these are things
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this is called fucking life man it's not the end of your world and it's not your identity so as long
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as you can maintain the things that you're in control of you will be able to take those hits
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and continue to move forward now might you flatten out when you go through a hard time you get sick or
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you know your family gets sick or you deal with something serious yeah you might flatten out
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but if you continue to control the things by developing discipline and developing the ability
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to adhere to a program which is exactly what live hard and 75 hard teach you you will be able to
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avoid these big crashes that seem devastating you see what i'm saying absolutely man absolutely i love
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it i love it man it's a it's a listen it's just an awareness that we are in control of our outcomes
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because the things we are in control of produce the majority of our outcomes so it's very simple
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if you think about it like that most people don't want to take responsibility because it's easier to say
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this happened or that happened or it's not fair it's this or that or this bro you guys are all full of
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shit you're not fucking doing it if i went to anybody any motherfucker on the planet and they said
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oh it's not fair my life sucks this that and i audited their last six months i fucking promise you
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they have not been in control of things they can control that's reality and anybody who says
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different is full of fucking shit that is that is a complete fucking lie i'm not talking about extreme
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circumstances there's always nuance there's always things your whole family gets killed in a car crash
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okay that's fucking that's a nuanced thing that's an asterisk right but what i'm saying is
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is that in most cases that's true you're not doing what the fuck you could be so you have no right to
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complain about it brother that's so real to your point though it's also crazy like it that reflection
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only comes when you're down low man yeah it only comes when you're low that's because you're when
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you're at high you think you're the shit if you're honest with yourself it's when you know i got fired
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well why did you back back pedal it let's go back a little bit yeah you wasn't doing your shit that's
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right dude yeah that's right and you thought nobody was noticing and you thought that you could skate
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by and this and that because you were at one time really good you know that happens all the time bro
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listen i cannot tell you how many times i've seen that happen in business where the best performing
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employee the best performing business operator thought that because they were great at one time
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that they had unlimited greatness in front of them and they stopped sharpening their blade they
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stopped improving they stopped controlling and doing the things they can do and then then they're
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surprised when their business goes out of business or they fucking lose their job bro no one gives a
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fuck what you did yesterday i hate to break this to you i really do the world doesn't care what you
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did it only cares what you're doing now and you don't fucking have to be a rocket science to understand that
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it's just reality the world does not give a fuck what you did even if it was yesterday they care what
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you're doing now what result are you producing today okay and that is that's reality that's real
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that's how the world judges people it is it right i don't know but that's how it is i love it i fucking
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love it well let's get to our first call guys we got a uh our first call in here this is uh o'neal
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dj what's going on man o'neal what's the word my man hey man i was waiting here call nervously
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oh what's nervous for me what's up o'neal how you doing bro oh andy's an honor and a privilege to
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speak to you ah bro it's it's all good man what can we help you with brother well i've been
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listening to you consistently for 10 years i'm saying i'm a huge fan i love the show share with
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everybody i know everybody in my bloodline knows about you o'neal ain't no hoe i love that bro i love
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that man thank you so much oh thank you for all you do so real quick my question is so i have a
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commercial cleaning business and we're growing substantially all right we started in covid
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really ballsy move very risky but we took we went in ball's deep and went in
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and we've been we were doing really good at it that's the only way to go in isn't it
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it's unique because not everybody can do that you know what i'm saying yeah like you
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all right so what we got man so um yeah so uh i was doing i'm doing my cleaning business you
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know pass forwards uh three years in uh i lose the majority of my accounts you know covid
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goes down nobody wants cleaning etc etc so i'm here to end of my rope and i like you say
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your options mentality double down i say i'm not going to quit my income has doubled consistently
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for the last three years which was great from where i started off at but in the process i let
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go of my previous friend group you had an episode about this recently regarding loyalty to friend
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groups and i took that to the heart i slowly started to distance myself from my friend group and
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i literally have like no friends i'm afraid to you to lose the momentum that i have currently
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in order to seek friendship what's your advice on that okay well first of all this is completely
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normal dude every single person who's ever built anything relevant goes through this okay we start
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out at the beginning with our friend group how old are you bro i'm 31 where am i dj and i are around
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the same age yeah you're older than dj you're probably dj's dad okay i think we might have the same
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back so so check this out dude this is exactly the process of it's totally normal it's first of all
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there's i just want you to know this is normal i've been through it and you're going to go through
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it multiple times on your journey okay so here's how it happens you start out you have a group of
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friends and that group of friends is based around usually you know you just know them they they grew
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up in the neighborhood or you went to college or maybe you went to high school or whatever man and
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usually it's just social friends it's like you drink together you smoke together you hang out
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together you do fun shit together and when you start to get ambition and you want more for yourself
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when you first say it all these guys like oh yeah man that's awesome and some will say well dude were
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you sure are you are you sure you want to do that and it creates this weird dynamic because you're doing
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something that all of them aren't doing and so what happens is when you start to go down the path
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the nature of business is so difficult it takes so much time um that people just don't understand it
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if they've never done it so then they start to get negative and they start to say well don't forget
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where you came from and hey you know i think o'neill you're you know you're getting a little too big for
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your britches and they say stupid ass shit and it becomes it becomes a drag okay and then us as
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entrepreneurs we get blamed for it because we're trying to better our lives and we have to remove
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ourselves from this negativity because we only have so much energy and what happens is the our old
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friend group while we still might love them and we still might care about them and we might always
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be cool with them like i am so cool with everybody that i've ever had as a friend in the past but we
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might not talk every day we might not go to dinner we might not hang out i still love them but i don't
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have the time or the energy or the will to waste my time because i have big vision big goals and that
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naturally creates this place of isolation and what i call no man's land and so there's there's good news
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here the good news is is that it's temporary okay so what's going to happen is the more success that
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you have with your company you're going to start to meet some of these business owners who you know
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you're doing these cleaning services for and you're going to have more in common all right these guys are
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hustling these guys are working these guys have big goals and your new friend group and and by the way
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this takes time this doesn't happen in one day okay this could be a year this could be two years
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it depends on how hard you're pressing to move forward but you'll find a new grant a new friend
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group that has commonality shared interests and understanding of what you're doing because think
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about this if you go back and you know all your friends are talking about what's going on with the
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the sports game they don't have anything you don't have anything to talk about with them anymore so we
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just kind of grow apart and dude that's part of life but you end up with this new friend group who has
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all these things in common with you and by the way because they're on the same mission as you
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they don't drag you back bro they will actually encourage you they will teach you things they
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will connect you they will push you forward and it becomes a much more valuable um and fulfilling
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experience to be around friends who share the same goals and missions and the cool thing about these
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friends is you know there's a saying that i like to use is busy people understand busy
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people so you know they're not getting mad if you don't show up to the dinner and they're not
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getting mad if you don't text them back and they're not saying oh you know o'neill you're you're getting
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you getting too full of yourself dude you need to humble yourself they know that like when we hang
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we hang and if you know we text each other we don't hear back for a couple days it's no big deal
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and by the way i'm gonna stop right here and remind all of you guys that if you are a young
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entrepreneur and you text someone and they don't text you back and then you you hit them with oh i
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thought we were still bro nobody that's successful deals with that shit that is peasant behavior okay
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if someone texts me and then i don't text them back and then they hit me with oh dude what have been
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like some kind of guilt trip i will never talk to them again they're not my kind of people
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so if you're a young guy or young girl remember that do not fucking do that to the people ahead of
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you they will fucking cut you right out but anyway when you find this new friend group they're gonna
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push you forward they're not gonna drag you back and if you continue to go down the path and you
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continue to grow you're gonna go through the same process again all right because you're gonna outgrow
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that friend group and and then you're gonna go back to being in the middle where you feel like you
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don't really have any friends and then you're gonna find another leveled up friend group who can now
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associate with you more so i've done this number of times through my life where the different stages
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of business i had a different circle of friends and that's just the way it goes bro so you have to
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understand dude this is normal it has nothing to do with you it's called life and as we grow we are
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going to naturally disconnect with people who don't grow and connect with people who are growing and
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bro let me tell you something that'll help you deal with this it's not like they couldn't have
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went with you they could have went with you right okay so i know that if you listen to my show i already
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know that you're probably a really good dude and you probably care a lot and it probably makes you feel
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guilty and feel bad that you're moving on from this friend group but just remember they could have
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went with you they could have went down that path and they chose not to and you have no obligation
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and you should not feel guilty about taking care of yourself your family your future family if you
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so what do you think bro that's exactly what i needed to hear because my my fiancee was telling
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me this for years she's like distance yourself from this friend group they're holding you back
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they're holding you back and you know me being a loyal guy i'm like no these are my boys we have
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friends and for 14 15 no these are my boys you know they care about me and she told me once you
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let this friend group grow you will get everything you want in business dude exactly what she said
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that's a smart woman as soon as i distance myself as soon as i distance myself it's like i was trying
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to swim with an anchor on my my feet as soon as i distance myself it's like i was on a speedboat
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that's right bro that she's very smart woman it's good thing you you're probably probably good thing
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that you're marrying her um look bro uh let me tell you something okay as men we all handle and feel
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strongly about being loyal that's part of being a good man is you're loyal to your friends you're loyal
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to your family but remember dude they need to be loyal to you too and they could have went or at least
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they could have supported you um i'm friends with a number of people back from the old days who who
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are just very supportive uh maybe they didn't go down the path but they supported and pushed you
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and here's how you could tell they're not your fucking friends dude when they start trying to
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gaslight you and guilt you because you're no longer loyal and you're no longer uh you know one of the
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dudes and you forgot where you came from the motherfuckers ain't your friends dude those dudes will hold
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you back they will ruin your life they will fuck up success and let me tell you the number one thing
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that ruins especially men's business uh aspirations it's our feeling that we all naturally have of
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loyalty it's the code right like we all live by we all know the code right hey these are my boys like
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he's saying these are my boys i'm loyal to them listen you could still be loyal to them and be moved
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you could still show up at 3 a.m if we got to bury a body bro you know what i'm saying like um but but
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dude don't let them leverage that against you because the number one thing that i've seen really
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hurt young men especially uh because i think men and women are a little different in this way i don't
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i don't think women operate on that same code exactly the same way that we do um we sort of define
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our our manhood by like how real we are and how loyal we are and so that's like always a touch
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point of sensitivity for men and um and dude i haven't seen more people ruin their business
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because they're loyal to the wrong people that either get them in trouble or or pull them down
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or get them involved in some shit like bro we think about this we see this in sports all the time
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we see young men come out of college and still hang with their old dudes when they've got 50 million
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dollars in the bank next thing we know they're out of the league and they're in jail so
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dude you got to let it go man it's just reality and and your your your uh fiance is a hundred percent
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correct so yeah i should listen to her earlier that's all right man listen dude sometimes it takes
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uh you know it's it's like you know when you listen to your parents versus listening to you like
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your uncle right like you'll listen to your uncle but the same shit yeah that's right that's right
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so dude oh hey real quick i just i just looked you up on ig bro we could be fucking related bro
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let's just listen like bro just a little bit let's see real talk man like andy to take take a look
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oh shit dude look like listen we do kind of look alike
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you sure you're sure your father's not dominican
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i don't know i don't know i don't know i'm not sure well neo bro i hope that helps you man
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well yeah you help tremendously and i listen every single day and i do appreciate
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taking the time your company is great thank you also your pb and j first home bar is fucking amazing
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thank you bro i've gained like 10 pounds because of it thank you dude we uh we're we're blessed to
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have really good people that work here i'm it's it's i'm living the dream here with these guys so uh
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they work really hard to to do everything you know that we can do for people and it's really good to
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hear that i appreciate it they have a great leader to guide them the same way the right way well thank
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you bro do my best andy thank you so thank you so much for your time i appreciate you dj thanks
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i'll see you at the family reunion thank you brother we'll talk to you soon
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all right take care guys all right see you that's awesome yeah that's cool look dude that's a hard
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thing man that's a hard thing because you know you know how it is it is touchy for us dude bro
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exactly you know i will say this is a a rare thing that's actually happened to me recently like one of
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my friend groups i got because i don't have many friends right but you know i'm your friend well
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you're my friend yeah for sure but that's your friend huh no that's not my friend z shan's your
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friend again z shan's my homie yeah you know i'm saying no but like i had i had a similar situation
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where it's like i mean dude like we're just on different paths but it was almost like what was
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understood didn't need to be explained like it wasn't this big like oh yeah call me back like bro we
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just kind of you know yeah and we both just kind of like we thought we nod to it you know i understand
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yeah it is what it is man it's cool listen dude this is something that okay when you're young
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a lot of guys can relate to this with their families right like when you're young and you got
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all these dude friends and shit and then they have a they get a wife and they start to have kids and
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they don't have the time to hang out and you you grow a little apart but that doesn't mean
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like dude i just reconnected with a buddy of mine who i hadn't seen matt mark way okay who runs a
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a really fucking awesome business here in st louis they they build super high-end homes and i had
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him build my duck coop uh which that's not even something that they do but he did it because
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we're friends we hadn't talked to each other in like 20 years bro and we saw each other and it was
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just like it was yesterday but that's because he's been living his life bro he's been doing and i've
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been doing my shit and now that we've done our shit you know we're still doing it but now that
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we've gotten through the the you know the the part of like building you know we're able to hang out
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dude and it's just it's just the way it is man it's one of the greatest things that happened to
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me this last year is reconnecting with him dude and see that they're they have they did go down the
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path yeah just different but dude it's not even that it's just like his kid like he's got a he's got
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a a son who's a stud playing football in nebraska um mac mark way like bro dude it's just life man
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yeah you know i i didn't see him and i'm like hey why didn't you fucking talk to me for the last
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20 years right what the fuck yeah what was that about you're not even real you don't fucking care
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about me like dude give me your best friend call yeah yeah dude so it's just called life man and it's
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hard especially as an entrepreneur um because there's jealousy feelings and there's you know you
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start making a little more money you start driving a little nicer car you start dealing with a little
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bit of jealousy from the people sometimes a lot comes in you know and then dude sometimes
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those people from the old days will start talking shit and start trying to sabotage you and dude you
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got to get away from them you know i'm saying one of the best things that entrepreneurs can honestly
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is like move the fuck away from their from their city you know i'm saying i moved away for eight
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years and i was able to focus and um i don't think i would have been able to do that if i stayed here
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that's real that's real man that's real um love it man let's keep moving let's uh got another
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question for you uh next question we got a write-in question um this question is uh question number
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three hi andy my name is cody and i am 25 years old and i started a residential window installation
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business four years ago now i've heard you say 24 25 25 start over is 21 cool yeah um i've heard you
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say it's good to find a mentor who has gone through the path i wish to go as my business continued to
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grow i now work very close with my mentor and our businesses continue to grow at a rate i didn't
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really see possible um how is it that we can continue to navigate through the storm when both
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my mentor and i are at stages in the game that we've never seen uh never been we recently got a
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warehouse and neither of us know anything about running a warehouse our spectrum of the game has
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changed and now we're take uh we take on much different tasks than before in that specific case
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would i just find some sort of a warehouse manager like do i figure it out on my own do i reach out to
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competition please help and thanks for your time well first of all bro uh different journeys require
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different guides okay you're not going to learn from somebody who has never done the thing that
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you're wanting to do this is why i talk about buying courses and hiring these internet people to teach you
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how to build a company when they've never built one all right they don't fucking know then now they
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might say they know but they don't they know how to make a funnel and why and pretend there's something
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and then get you to buy it and it doesn't get you any value so uh again like i say often make sure
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that you vet whoever it is that they have actually done the things that you want to do and in the
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beginning you will find people who have done you know part of it and you can learn from those people
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absolutely and by the way there's nothing wrong with paying for that there it's a if i could pay
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to save fucking 10 years of my life i'm fucking paying whatever it costs that's 10 years you know
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what i'm saying um so when you get to a point where maybe that first mentor you've exhausted which
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is by the way that's awesome that's what you want to do great right but now it sounds like you both need
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a new guide for the journey okay and so you have to find someone who has done these things before
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um and you know could coach you through the process that's just part of understanding that
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there's levels to it and uh you know the guy that you might be learning from the beginning and
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sometimes bro the guy that you might be learning from the beginning is so far away from where the
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fuck you are that like he has a hard time getting back to that because he's forgotten those things or
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they're so second nature that he forgets that they're relevant you see what i'm saying yeah so
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what's that saying it's like you've got more than you know where they go like well i mean dude you
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know more than you forget or something no no you're talking about um like i've forgotten more than
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you'll ever know right right yeah i mean like it happened that that does happen like you're not
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gonna have elon musk come back and teach you how to fucking make a funnel you know how to you know
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what i'm saying like so there is there's that all right but here's here's the other thing dude like so
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my first thing is is that it's smart to use a mentor it's smart to invest in your education
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you just got to make sure that the person that you're learning from has done the thing that you
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want to do a lot of people say that i'm like they will say i'm totally against courses and this and
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that no i'm against liars i'm against people who fucking make shit up or pretend to be something that
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they aren't which is a lot of the internet right now and it's also very hard to tell uh if you don't
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know the questions to ask but i can tell you if all you got to do is say have you has what have
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they built what have they done how have they done it how long have they been doing it how many
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customers they've served you know what's their product can i order the product what's what's it
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like to use their product right do i recognize it do i not recognize it have i ever heard of this
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you know all these entrepreneurs on the internet seem to have these secret businesses that no one can
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see and have never fucking done business with oh i used to have this and i used to have okay
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prove it prove that to me all right the internet is full of liars and it's very very important that
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we understand that not everybody has a good heart there's lots of unethical people with that being
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said find someone who's doing what you uh want to do learn from them model their behavior pay them
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to teach you um and you'll be on the right path now the second part to that is when you scale
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there because we don't know something doesn't mean that there aren't positions that you can pay
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someone where they know it very well so if you were to hire a experienced warehouse manager they're
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gonna know what it is that you don't know and do it for you for a fee so you just have to find the
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right person that knows these things and you have to vet them and you have to make sure just like i said
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about the coaches you have to make sure they've done it you have to make sure you know you have
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to call their references see what they've actually done and uh you know our distribution and fulfillment
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center here i didn't set that shit up my mike and fucking brian set it up right so like these these are
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guys that had the knowledge that i didn't have and then they went and build it and i learned the
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knowledge as we went you see what i'm saying how important is that too though like i think it's very
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important to know a little bit about anytime i've ever not learned enough i've gotten take advantage
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of so you have to you know know enough uh to not get and take advantage of so and that's easier than
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ever right there's lots of information available for free about literally fucking anything go on
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youtube and see a video on how to do fucking anything i can do open heart surgery bro dude i'm
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just telling you yeah you can learn well you can learn enough about it to where you can have an
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intelligent conversation right right so uh there are no secrets like that anymore uh because
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everybody's making content there's much more information available the point is find get find
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someone who's done it before i could answer this one one fucking sentence find someone who's done it
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before pay them money to either do it for you or teach you how to do it that's what it comes down to
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yeah it's very simple i love it man there's just because it's a complex problem to you
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doesn't mean it's a complex problem you see what i'm saying like if i were to say hey i need to code
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well i do know how to code now but if i were to say i need to code a fucking basic funnel website
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three months ago i wouldn't know how to do that it would be mystical to me but fucking anybody who knew
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this shit could do it in a fucking hour well wouldn't you say too there's an energy component
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to that too like is it worth your energy actually doing yes absolutely that's another thing okay you
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have to understand where your energy makes the most sense we call that working on the business versus
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working in the business okay so he's growing to a point with his window company right residential
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window installation to where you know he's not understanding about warehousing and things like
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that you want to know enough but you want to focus on the growth of the business the running of the
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employees the big picture thing and you want to hire professionals to handle those things for you and
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you might not be able to afford it so you might have to do it for a while like when i first started
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in my warehouse dude i was packing boxes me and sal chris jason we went out there every day at four
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o'clock and packed fucking boxes there was a time at first form for years where it was me sal jason will
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aaron and a couple other dudes in the backpack and box at four o'clock every fucking day okay and then
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with the warehouse guys because we we fucking that's what we did um and i go funny enough those were
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some of my favorite days of business um but simple problem to solve dude really is and just because
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it's mystical to you let me tell you something dude i fucked my whole timeline up by not learning
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this lesson this one lesson will save you years okay i didn't know my second store
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until we were six years in and you know why because i kept telling myself they're gonna steal
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from me how do how do i get how do i get someone to work for me you know they're they're probably
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gonna do this and that and this guess what they did all that shit they fucking stole they fucking
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fucked my shit up you know not them specifically but along the way that happened it's gonna happen
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yeah so like these fears are irrational unavoidables yes and and dude had i just opened it the third
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year we were in we'd be that much more ahead but i'd lost three years of my life asking myself
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and struggling with the same question that he is yeah three years of my life that one the answer to
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that question that i just gave is worth three fucking years of my life that's what it took me to learn
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it that's so what's that worth yeah what's three years of your life worth you know i'm saying
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that's real man that's fucking real man but guys got one more question we got calling
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another we do all right calling uh so let's give i hope i pronounce this right amyra
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amyra amyra amyra amyra we'll hear it yeah we'll figure it out let's give her a call
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i'll let you do the awkward part of figuring it out yeah go ahead
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oh my god hey andy no not it it's dj can you hear me i'm in my car i got the car play on
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we can hear you just fine can you hear us okay okay all right so me and andy made a bet i'm trying
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to pronounce your name correctly amyra no damn it you already lost amyra yes it's amyra
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i dare you guys to try to pronounce the last name i don't know if i should even share that
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i don't even think it's there it's fine so what's going on how are you all right i'm good i'm even
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better talking to y'all this is so nice i love the new format oh thank you yeah
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so i don't want to eat up too much of your time i appreciate um you know you reaching out and
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answering my question that's awesome uh you know my big thing is i i feel i'm very mature for my age
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i'm 21 you know i've done a lot i've lived a lot of life i live on my own i've already graduated
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college working full-time i'm doing acting but my thing is and i've seen you talk about this on the
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show before you know i don't even have the instagram off of my phone i hate social media but i have to
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have it for what i'm doing what i'm trying to do um the thing is it's like there's so much you know
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excuse my language bs and noise and people lying and you know inflating themselves and i try to not
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let it get to me but it's it's things like people will act like they're on some huge set for instance
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and they're just a background person but they're going to act like they're next kevin hart like things
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like this happen all the time so i guess that question for you is because i'm sure you probably have
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had similar experiences in business coming up like how were you able to like get rid of that
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energy and just focus your attention and keep going it's funny that you say that another thing or two
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we were we were amira we were literally just talking about this in the last question before we called
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you like it's it's so weird that this connected like that so first of all first of all i get it
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right uh i i cannot stand these fake motherfuckers on the internet bro that all pretend like they
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built shit or did shit selling all these young people bullshit dreams and things they didn't do
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and and and taking their money when it's highly unethical to me because like look man these young
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people are paying you sometimes their last amount of money to learn some real shit that they don't even
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intend on teaching they just want to take the money and they do it through deceptive deceptive
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marketing and i wouldn't even call it that just straight up lying um yeah so i get it dude and it
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frustrates the fuck out of me and then i see you know so many of these dudes just dude i i totally get it
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all right um here's the answer focus on your own shit all right these people i've been doing this so long
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the people who were lying and faking and and pretending they're gone i've seen them come and
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go and come and go and come and go 20 times over the last 20 years so this is just the we are going
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to deal with these kind of people along the way who are going to pretend they're going to hype
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themselves they're going to lie they're going to cheat they're going to pretend like things are better
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than they are which by the way is the entire internet everybody pretends like they're living
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this highlight reel and then as we're struggling to do what it is that we do we are feeling bad
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about ourselves we're like oh we're not doing it as big as they are when we know they're full of shit
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all right so still gets us though yeah but it does dude it's it burns you you're like fuck this guy
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so here's the reality man those people come and go and the people who actually become something
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in reality they focus on their own craft they focus on their own skill set they every time they
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see something like this they just dismiss it as it's bullshit and like i'll tell you what i do what i do
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is when i see shit like that and it makes me mad i do something immediately that's going to move me
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more towards becoming the real deal okay not the fucking internet deal and so uh yeah look the
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answer is very simple and it's hard to that's a hard discipline to learn because we all care a lot
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about you know you're trying to become the best actress you're you know i'm assuming that you're
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not trying to be you know d-roll commercials for fucking local car dealers right like you're trying
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to be like you're trying to become a real deal actress and that requires you to practice to focus
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to learn your craft and so when you see people doing this i would learn to transition immediately
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like you start feeling upset and feeling frustrated i would learn to transition immediately to positive
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action okay and what we call this is called a production pivot all right i was just gonna say that i
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say i literally was gonna say that that you yeah you're reading my mind that's what it's called okay
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so we we take in negativity and then we say fuck this and then we do something positive somebody hates
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on you they talk some shit on you they make you feel a certain way you immediately use that as a mental
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signal to go do something practice your craft read get in front of the mirror recite some lines talk to your
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acting coach talk to your voice coach work on your shit if you play an instrument you go practice
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so dude if we can if we can harness the negativity and pull it in and then put it out in productive action
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that's a recipe for not just success but honestly dominance because there's so much negativity out there
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you know we we are going to be faced as ambitious people with much more negativity than we are with support
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people aren't going to believe they're going to doubt they're going to put things in our head they're going to
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say things to us that upset us and if we don't learn to use the frustration and the doubt and the negativity
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as a trigger to then go practice it's very hard to get where you're wanting to go and i know there's a lot of
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people online to say uh prove yourself right don't worry about proving them wrong those people are
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usually fucking called losers okay i'm just being honest very few people yeah can actually do this
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without harnessing the majority of the energy that's out there which is negative so we have to be willing
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to see it for what it is bullshit take it in put it out into action and then we get better from it
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does that make sense awesome awesome that's good stuff yeah it makes total sense all right good
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stuff yeah okay fuck those people dude yeah and you know i got it yeah no that you know the one that
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drives me nuts are these influencers man oh my lord i know i know oh my god i won't say anything
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about that but uh yeah no that's that's good stuff andy i appreciate it all right amira thank you so much
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for supporting the show and it's uh it's a pleasure to talk to you just keep your keep your your goals
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clear keep your actions clear spend your emotional energy on getting better and uh you know learn that
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discipline of taking that negativity and and put in a positive action you're you're going to be just
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fine wonderful well thank you so much andy it was a pleasure talking with you i'm so excited i can't
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believe that like i just i love this new format i've been listening to you since covid and you've
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honestly changed my life you know i appreciate you both all right listen we appreciate you thank
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you so much for all the support of course of course y'all have a great day all right you too thank you
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all right bye bye so dude that's that is something that anybody who is ambitious is especially i mean
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dude we all deal with this in different ways i don't even know if it's just a bit like i've learned to
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look at social media a little bit in a different lens just from the like i feel like there's you
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know it's fake it's two groups of people yeah there's either like the over polished they're
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showing you what they want you to see right or you got the the victim crowd that's gonna cry on every
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post yeah because that's the only way they get attention that's it that's it you know i'm saying
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so that's how i've learned to look yeah but then there's the third people who's the third like the
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third people who take five years off of social media and build a fucking empire
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you know what i'm saying yeah i like seeing that shit yeah that's what i'm saying and dude here's
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the thing you know like you don't think that when i was taking time off social media i didn't see a
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lot of these other entrepreneurs starting to catch up on social you don't think i saw their fake
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engagement you don't think i saw them posturing like they were bigger than they are you don't think
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i saw all that every time i fucking saw it i'm like dude fuck that and i went to fucking work
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now we got all these different massive things happening and that's evidence my own story is
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evidence of that if you've been following me since 2012 when i started you guys saw me grow the first
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phase of our business when i stopped in 2019 to now it's flat we're in the we're probably in the fourth
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phase okay and every time i saw one of these motherfuckers doing their bullshit like fuck that guy and i
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went and did something and that's how things are produced so we have to learn we have to like like
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people say this in a different way which i don't agree with they say don't comparison is the thief
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of joy no actually you should get pissed off about the comparison and take that energy and go fucking
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use it you know like when i see motherfuckers doing better than me that i don't think deserve it
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quote unquote doing better that's right i'm like dude this dude couldn't hold my nuts in real world
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you know what i'm saying and i fucking go do the thing the point is to do the thing not pretend like
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you're doing a thing you know what i'm saying and there's very few of us doing the thing uh in this
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world as opposed to just talking about doing the thing so i would rather be doing the thing and i think
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amira would too and i think all of you guys would as well so don't get caught up in the illusion
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of social media uh because you know and there is some there is some there's a lot of value in
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building a tremendous social media presence but you need to leverage that into real business not just
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you don't want likes and shares and uh comments for the sake of having them you want to be able to
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leverage them and like dude if we're being real there's influencer fatigue you know people
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like the the game has changed dude there's a big difference between attention and influence
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attention is post every day use this hook do this thing fucking and there's nothing wrong with that
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if you could leverage it into into a business but don't do it for the sake of doing it okay you want
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impact you want depth you don't just want width and you want to be able to leverage it right so we
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being an influencer for the sake of being an influencer is a cycle that people get into and
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they can't get out of because now they're earning all their money from brands and they're doing
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the same content as everybody else and then the brands don't want to work with them because they got
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their profiles fatigued they can't reinvent themselves and they're and it happened dude they
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start getting this they get into like the cycle they can't break out of and do you don't want to be
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that you want to be somebody who is doing real things in real life and uh building your attention
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from inward to outward not outward to inward you know i'm saying like meaning like you built something
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you did something that's why you're getting the attention versus getting the attention and then
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trying to harness you could do it both ways but most people have a very hard time of getting the
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attention and harnessing it but if you build a thing and then that's that's influence because it's the
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the fucking receipts are there yeah you know that's real man that's real so well guys andy that's a
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hell of a way to start a monday yeah guys hey thanks for all the support don't be a hoe
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