REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 92. 4 Ways To Dominate Your Bitch Voice In 2021

00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00

00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mo changed to 50 got mo cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch

00:00:11.720 cost 250 what's up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to

00:00:17.300 the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality

00:00:23.680 guys today with uh 2021 being just a few days away um and seeing the plethora of comments talking

00:00:33.140 about how you're so glad that 2020 is over and you're looking on to 2021 normally i would totally

00:00:41.380 rip your ass for saying that but i am in agreement that 2020 sucked uh it was probably the best year 0.78

00:00:48.820 personally for me um got in the best shape business is doing the best uh that it's ever

00:00:54.840 been all my companies uh but like i told you guys i i wanted to make sure of that when all this stuff

00:01:02.120 started happening so i got very intentional about my daily routine and my daily execution habits

00:01:08.940 and i've been sharing that with you guys all year so i'm not surprised that you know this year's turned

00:01:15.340 out good for me personally and i'm not trying to rub it in anybody's fucking face um but it has been 0.97

00:01:21.480 and i've been trying to get you guys to understand that you know with uh the world and chaos it's a

00:01:29.840 great time for you to get intentional and to be intentional about your daily executions so that you

00:01:38.840 can widen the gap between you know where you want to be and where everybody else is and that's what i've

00:01:44.740 done this year for myself um some of you guys have also done that and it's been really cool to watch

00:01:50.420 uh but some of you guys you know you did the same shit you did you know last year and the year before 0.67

00:01:55.860 that and the year before that you're the motherfuckers that are posting the meme that says 0.83

00:01:59.360 you know 2018 was uh training camp 2019 was the warm-up 2020 was the warm-up after the warm-up and 2021

00:02:10.080 is going to be when i kick ass like this is the shit you guys saying you know you're full of shit 0.98

00:02:14.760 so let's be real for those of you who um actually intend on getting better uh you're sick of your

00:02:24.480 life you're sick of being frustrated you're sick of being mad about everything and you say dude

00:02:30.220 fuck this i'm getting i'm gonna do it uh that's what we're going to talk about today i'm going to talk 0.94

00:02:34.860 about um some things that we can do to make this easier for us to execute all right so uh we're not

00:02:43.980 going to talk about politics you guys know i love to talk about politics you know i love my tinfoil

00:02:48.960 hat and all this crazy shit that goes with it uh but today this is going to be about you guys winning 0.70

00:02:54.160 um so if you guys read uh my book 75 hard you know that i talk about a concept in that book um

00:03:03.960 where we have two voices and we have the bitch voice and then we have the boss voice all right 1.00

00:03:09.080 and those two voices are the voices that basically dictate our actions uh and our lives up until

00:03:19.860 we start to become aware of the voices and then we start to actually react in a different way

00:03:26.580 when these voices speak so real quick your bitch voice would be the voice that talks you out of 1.00

00:03:33.260 doing the shit that is going to bring you closer to where you want to be and your boss voice is the 0.77

00:03:38.400 voice that is always telling you what you should do uh and usually you know your bitch voice is trying 1.00

00:03:45.060 to talk you out of it so there's really like a three-party dynamic happening here right

00:03:49.280 there's you and then you have your bitch voice and then you have your boss voice you guys might 1.00

00:03:54.000 have seen a cartoon uh you know growing up they had the cartoon where you know the little uh good

00:03:59.560 the angels on one shoulder and the devil's on the other shoulder and then you're in the middle and

00:04:03.700 that's kind of what the dynamic is here uh only it's in your brain so the first thing is you have to be

00:04:09.940 aware that this exists now for a lot of you guys just being aware of your bitch voice and your boss 0.99

00:04:17.840 voice is going to make a huge impact on how you react and how you execute because once you realize

00:04:24.080 that you're talking yourself out of the things that are actually going to bring benefit into your life

00:04:29.680 you can stop that real quick for others you know this is a little bit more active and that's what i

00:04:35.220 want to talk about today what i really want to talk about is how you can beat the bitch voice 1.00

00:04:41.400 in 2021 and i'm going to give you uh you know three to six examples of what your bitch voice sounds 1.00

00:04:50.220 like and what the actual reality is of the scenario because these things are going to happen there's

00:04:57.240 no way to completely silence your bitch voice all right there's no way to only have a boss voice we 1.00

00:05:02.580 all have both and anybody who says that they don't is full of shit okay so that's the reality so

00:05:09.140 what does your bitch voice sound like right well the first thing that i came up with here that we all 1.00

00:05:16.780 have and i think we'll all relate to when we think about our bitch voice is the little whiny thing 1.00

00:05:23.060 um you have plenty of time to get that done just wait until later or you know you don't have enough

00:05:29.400 time right it's one of the two things and it has to do with our scarcity of time your bitch voice 1.00

00:05:36.280 knows that actions are going to produce results and it can't really stop you from taking action

00:05:43.720 but it can talk you into delaying action and then eventually you run out of time and you're dead and

00:05:50.280 you didn't do anything all right this happens to a lot of people so when you have this bitch voice 1.00

00:05:56.320 come up that says to you you know oh dude what's the hurry here why why why are you rushing so hard

00:06:03.120 you know why are you taking this so serious um you know relax you got plenty of time when you start

00:06:10.200 to hear all of these things the key to overcoming this specific excuse is to clearly stop it immediately

00:06:19.780 and to take action on whatever it is that you're trying to do now i've talked about this for years

00:06:25.140 it's called a production pivot all right you actually learn to train yourself to use your

00:06:32.860 bitch voice as the trigger for you to actually get up and move all right so when you have the 1.00

00:06:39.120 bitch voice that says oh you know what we'll just wait until tomorrow we got plenty of time 1.00

00:06:44.160 you don't need to work out today all right that's what it says that's when you should get up

00:06:49.380 immediately off the couch and then just go walk for 30 minutes or or you don't have to go out and

00:06:55.680 fucking conquer the world guys we're talking about very slight changes that make a big difference over 0.86

00:07:01.580 time so if if you could train your brain to use this as a switch to actually trigger you into action

00:07:10.520 now you're in a position of power now you're in a position of control and now even though you know

00:07:16.560 you're not conquering the world right maybe you don't have the best workout you ever had maybe you

00:07:21.800 maybe you just go do something that you wouldn't normally have done what you normally would have done

00:07:27.340 uh over the course of time that adds up to a big thing at the end of the year all right so that's your

00:07:34.940 first one uh the second one we all have this too the the the the idea that we're not talented enough

00:07:42.460 right like oh dude do you really think you're good enough for that like dude when i was starting

00:07:47.460 in business i looked at all these other business guys and i constantly doubted myself i constantly

00:07:54.020 told myself in my head that i wasn't good enough or that i wasn't um equipped enough and dude i wasn't

00:08:00.940 equipped right i did i wasn't good enough at the time that was the truth i had to get better but

00:08:06.680 a lot of people tell themselves these things um and and it stops them from getting anywhere okay

00:08:14.240 because most successful people that i know they all understand that this isn't about talent

00:08:19.700 it's about choices all right your individual small choices over the course of time are what compound

00:08:26.260 into the overall result of success down the road all right and this is why it takes time this is why

00:08:33.920 you know all these motherfuckers online telling you that you're going to make a million dollars in 12

00:08:39.200 weeks or fucking two weeks or whatever the fucking new thing is this week they're saying you know if 0.95

00:08:44.600 you buy their course for 997 dollars um they're full of shit it just takes time you have to have these

00:08:52.040 little things compound over and over and over all right so it's not about talent like if you want to be

00:08:59.820 a writer you're gonna fucking suck at first all right but how do you get better at things by doing 0.96

00:09:06.160 them i used to have a guitar teacher very very smart guy he told me something that that stuck with me

00:09:12.980 forever um that i'm very thankful for and out of all the things that we talked about over the hours and

00:09:19.420 hours and hours but dude the hundreds of hours that i've spent with with this man the thing that stuck

00:09:26.160 with me the most wasn't you know the guitar lessons it was this one little sentence that he said to me

00:09:31.440 and he and he said he's right um he's like andy you know you're not very patient right and i'm not i

00:09:39.020 want to get there just like you guys i want to fucking become stevie ray vaughan and fucking two weeks 0.99

00:09:44.040 right like and that ain't happening and i still suck at guitar but what he said was so very very powerful

00:09:51.080 for me and i've i've carried it into my business life for a long time and that was this he said

00:09:56.760 andy you know you're not very patient i'm like well no shit matthew that's that's obvious and he's 0.81

00:10:02.280 like you know what you do to get more patience and i'm like no he's like you do things that require

00:10:08.040 patience and i'm like fuck that's pretty fucking brilliant shit right there bro and it stuck with me 0.86

00:10:13.900 and so this is the same thing when we talk about like what you want to get better at so many of you

00:10:19.860 guys let your bitch voice talk you out of doing the thing that you want to be great at because 1.00

00:10:27.140 you're not very good at it now and guess what you're not going to get any better by not doing it and so

00:10:33.460 what you have to realize is you have to understand that when you start to doubt yourself that is also

00:10:39.260 a trigger a production pivot like i talked about in the first point that you're going to take and then

00:10:44.920 you're going to apply that to whatever it is you want to do if you want to be fit when you start

00:10:49.320 saying hey you know you're you're not very fit well no shit what do you think you should do at 0.51

00:10:53.700 that time i don't know maybe something that will make you more fit you know oh dude i don't know if

00:10:59.860 you know i don't know if you're smart enough for that and this is our internal conversation right

00:11:04.040 this is the little devil saying you know you're not smart enough for that what should you do at that

00:11:08.960 time well do something that makes you a little smarter in that area whatever it is this is not

00:11:13.680 rocket science shit guys this is common sense if you could take the negative momentum and learn to

00:11:19.240 flip it over to positive momentum what's your life going to look like in two or three years versus what

00:11:23.840 it would look like in two or three years if you keep going the way you're going all right so

00:11:27.740 understand attack the things that you're bad at a lot of people will say uh you know the popular

00:11:35.160 thing is nowadays is go all in on your strengths and fuck your weaknesses well i'm going to tell you 0.82

00:11:40.080 the truth is you're just not going to get very far doing that because not all of us are naturally

00:11:45.860 gifted with really anything i know i'm not i'm not i've put in fucking work i've put in decades of 0.98

00:11:52.780 work i've put in years and years of work into everything that you guys look at and you think

00:11:59.160 that i'm good at or talented at this is not the case the case is is that i was fucking horrible and i put 0.98

00:12:06.360 in the fucking time because i didn't give a fuck how embarrassed i was or how horrible i looked to 0.99

00:12:12.040 people because i knew where i wanted to go and that was more important to me than looking stupid

00:12:16.820 that's the truth okay so the third point and this kind of goes along with the whole thing right when

00:12:24.880 you start out and you're trying to do great shit you're trying to do big things and you're trying to

00:12:28.780 grow a business or or change your life or you know do something uh that's very you know earth

00:12:36.220 shattering for you and your existence we got this little bitch voice that comes in and says 1.00

00:12:42.500 you know how you how are you going to do that you know andy how you how are you going to build one of

00:12:48.620 the most successful supplement companies on earth you don't you don't have any money you don't have

00:12:54.040 anybody backing you you don't have you know the expertise needed you don't have fucking anything 0.98

00:13:01.200 you don't have the connections that's what i heard right like those are the things that i heard in my

00:13:05.720 head but what are you hearing in your head you know you're hearing something along the lines of

00:13:10.300 you don't have the resources you need but what you guys have to understand is that those that lack of

00:13:16.560 resources is what's eventually going to make you super successful in everything that you do because

00:13:24.240 when you don't have the resources all right you're forced to learn skills all right and skills pay the

00:13:32.080 motherfucking bills you've heard that a million times all right so when you when you want to get 0.54

00:13:38.040 good at things and you want to fucking win you have to be willing to put in the extra blood sweat and tears

00:13:45.920 effort to learn and develop skills because you don't have the resources that other people have

00:13:52.900 all right and this was a big thing for me coming up in business because i was competing with a lot of

00:13:58.300 people who had investors right this is the thing we see in entrepreneurship right now you know

00:14:05.340 everybody's talking about how much money they raised i don't give a fuck how much money you raise i don't 0.91

00:14:09.220 care if you have 10 billion dollars in your bank account because i'm going to tell you if i had raised

00:14:14.000 a billion dollars when i wanted it and i thought that i needed it and i thought that that was the

00:14:18.220 reason i wasn't doing anything relevant i would have wasted on dumb shit but because i didn't have 0.84

00:14:23.580 the finances that i needed i had to get creative i had to learn skills and i had to create pathways

00:14:29.480 that otherwise weren't there all right and then what happens is is the people who you're competing

00:14:37.720 against who had the easy way who had the the funding the rich parents all the shit that you bitch about 1.00

00:14:44.420 not having okay those people end up not developing the skills all right so they don't have the skills

00:14:51.360 because they relied on the the things that you wish you had that they actually had that you say

00:14:56.920 man it's not fucking fair they have that no actually what's not fair is that that you don't have it and 0.91

00:15:02.840 you have to develop these skills and so when you compete against them 10 years down the road you have

00:15:07.880 all the fucking skills and a little bit of money going and a little bit of momentum and you kick their 0.95

00:15:12.200 ass no matter how much money they have because they don't have any skills and that's where you want 0.99

00:15:16.480 to be and then the long-term trick here on that part the conversation which is worthy to note is

00:15:22.440 that when you start to get momentum how do you trick yourself into thinking that same way that

00:15:28.600 you thought on day one that's really the key man because and a lot of you guys ain't there yet some

00:15:34.240 of you guys are but if you get this is why we see businesses and people who grow companies get to a

00:15:40.380 point where they're selling you know they're comfortable right they got a big house they got maybe a

00:15:45.040 couple cool cars uh maybe they got a lake house or something and their business is going okay and

00:15:50.900 then all of a sudden in two or three years they're fucking broke and you know you're looking around 0.85

00:15:56.640 and you're like what happened to those guys what happened to steve man steve was kicking ass steve had 0.95

00:16:02.300 the world by the balls man he was doing great what happened to steve well what happened to steve was

00:16:07.880 uh steve got lazy and steve realized that he didn't have to attack so he thought the day every

00:16:16.420 single day like he did on day one or day two or day three right so he started to get a little comfort

00:16:22.760 he started getting he lost the zero options mentality okay zero options mentality is the trick that you have

00:16:30.540 to learn once you become somewhat successful so that you continue to be resourceful you continue

00:16:37.320 to think outside the box and you continue to develop new skills that'll help you uh in whatever

00:16:43.140 it is that you do all right but at the end of the day not having the resources and that bitch voice in 1.00

00:16:50.940 your head telling you you know oh you don't have what it takes oh you don't you don't have rich parents

00:16:56.800 you don't have investors those guys raised 30 million dollars you got three dollars that that's

00:17:03.240 shit in your head that's actually a competitive advantage and and you need to realize that okay

00:17:08.300 so what do we do then we when we start to hear this this doubt or this bitch voice that we don't have 1.00

00:17:15.120 the resources we start looking for ways to get things done right without the resources because that's

00:17:22.640 where the skills come from okay so this this this one will actually bring out the best in you long

00:17:28.680 term and short term if you're strong-minded enough to become aware of it and then also willing to you

00:17:37.000 know do the gritty work that's going to put you in a position to win long term all right now here's the

00:17:43.260 fourth one and this is the last one i'm going to cover because this is actually going a lot longer than i

00:17:46.700 wanted it to go where we at 20 minutes 20 minutes so far all right so the idea okay that you need

00:17:54.720 permission this is something that a lot of you guys struggle with okay a lot of people uh think that

00:18:01.220 there's some sort of club or there's some sort of like i call it a success fairy right i used to think

00:18:07.400 this is and this is this is for real dude like i used to think there was and i guess it's natural to

00:18:13.960 think this um but i used to think that there was some sort of like chosen one club all right like

00:18:23.600 the universe or the success fairy chose people certain people and i used to always think like

00:18:30.200 back when i was you know younger and uh very ambitious with nothing to show for it i used to

00:18:36.440 wonder if i was going to be one of those chosen people like was i going to be one of the chosen few

00:18:40.960 that the success fairy was going to come and hit on the head with her little you know wand and and i 0.94

00:18:47.220 would become what it is that you know i wanted to become and that's how i used to think of it and a

00:18:52.940 lot of people never shake that they still think that that's how it works and i'm here to tell you

00:18:58.000 because i'm i'm on the other side of that now uh after 22 almost 23 years in business um

00:19:05.700 that that's just not true it's just not there is no secret club there is no uh you know i mean

00:19:14.180 well i said i wasn't gonna get any tinfoil hat shit but all right in this regard there's no secret 0.71

00:19:19.600 club okay and there is no success fairy and there is no fucking luck there is none of this shit that 0.91

00:19:25.340 you guys put all your hopes and dreams in thinking that you know it might not work out for you

00:19:31.360 what stops most people is this thought what if i what if i do all this work what if i fucking do 0.93

00:19:39.440 all this what if i change my whole life what if i commit myself what if i do this work for the next

00:19:44.900 10 years and then it ends up not working and i don't get chosen and i didn't get tapped on the head

00:19:51.880 you know i know lots of people who who were never became successful that worked really hard

00:19:57.280 do you do you do you really because i don't think you do i don't think you actually know anybody like

00:20:05.200 that i don't think you know anybody like that i think people are where the fuck they deserve to be 0.94

00:20:10.520 and if you look at what they did over the last 10 years their life is going to look exactly

00:20:15.140 what it should look like that's reality and a lot of you are thinking right now well i know

00:20:22.120 fucking bob and yeah but you don't know bob does a fucking pound of cocaine every week 0.96

00:20:26.280 you don't know what the fuck is going on behind fucking closed doors you don't know what destructive 0.96

00:20:31.380 behaviors or habits people have you don't have any all you know is what the fuck people show you 0.87

00:20:36.820 and i'm telling you right now i know lots and lots and lots of very successful people in all areas of

00:20:43.160 life and i don't know one single person that isn't exactly where they should be based upon the time

00:20:48.440 they've put in and the work that they've done that's the truth okay so to think that you are going to

00:20:55.700 have someone that comes along and basically quote unquote like chooses you or you know approves of

00:21:04.860 you or gives you permission that's a common thing that our bitch voice will instill into our brains 1.00

00:21:11.120 okay and it's very important that you that you do not listen to that because it is not true

00:21:15.560 now i don't have a um you know a way to get around this one in terms of like hey what what should

00:21:22.340 you do uh i would and when it comes to this this particular excuse when we talk about you know

00:21:29.020 your own doubts telling you uh you know well one day you know i gotta get to know gary v well fuck man 0.86

00:21:36.660 you know uh gary v doesn't make or break you bro um if you're good enough eventually gary v will come

00:21:44.260 find you that's the truth so you need to focus on getting good and not worried about like you know

00:21:50.940 what all these fucking fake entrepreneurs say on the internet which is you know 0.92

00:21:55.720 go to network with so and so and slide in their dms and see what you can do to bring that

00:22:02.920 how about this how about start a fucking business learn some fucking skills start becoming good at 0.97

00:22:09.400 what you do offer a great product for a fair price and fucking do what the fuck you got to do 0.95

00:22:15.180 okay this there's no secret to this and there is no club there is no success fairy and the only way

00:22:22.000 to keep yourself on the track of what you're trying to do is to make sure that you hold a high standard

00:22:28.800 for yourself without compromising that standard for anybody this is what we talk about in the 75 hard

00:22:34.940 book right we talk about zero deviation we talk about zero compromise the reason these things are

00:22:41.540 important is because the plans that you make must be followed through on the reason people don't get

00:22:48.920 where they want to go isn't because their fucking plans uh you know are terrible like a lot of you guys 0.89

00:22:54.400 spend in every and some sometimes your plans are terrible but you know what you do when you make a bad

00:22:59.480 plan you still execute the plan you figure out that it's bad and you don't do that same one again

00:23:05.080 you add something to it or take something away and then you go at it again and then if that doesn't

00:23:10.360 produce the result you add something to it you take something away and this is how you learn it's

00:23:15.600 just most of you guys aren't patient enough and aren't willing to go through this process you want

00:23:20.500 to buy a fucking program and you want someone to give you some hack you can make an extra 300 a 0.93

00:23:26.100 fucking week so you could buy some cooler fucking tennis shoes to flex on the internet and look like 0.95

00:23:30.940 a fucking clown that's the truth so do you want to look like cool this week or do you want to look 0.93

00:23:36.920 cool for your whole fucking life because that's what we're talking about here all right so understand 0.82

00:23:42.840 that you don't need permission you don't need approval you don't need your fucking aunts and 0.99

00:23:49.040 uncles to believe in you you don't need your parents to believe in you you don't need your

00:23:53.160 fucking friends to believe in you all you motherfuckers gonna hit me up and say oh nobody 1.00

00:23:57.200 fucking believes in me well you know why nobody believes in you because you haven't done shit 0.90

00:24:00.540 you haven't fucking done anything what have you done to show people that they should even believe in you 0.93

00:24:06.040 think about that it's kind of arrogant to think people should believe in you when you haven't

00:24:12.120 done anything that's just my own opinion so guys these things that i'm going over this if you want

00:24:21.860 to read more about the bitch voice and the boss voice you know i will buy the book um and it explains 1.00

00:24:26.680 it in detail but these are just some common things that i wanted to bring up to you guys and make you

00:24:31.320 aware of them because if you if you can't become aware of your own internal dialogue and you can't

00:24:37.720 start to have control over your own internal dialogue and you can't start to tell the bitch 1.00

00:24:42.360 voice that you have in your head to sit the fuck down and shut up you're going to have a very hard 0.83

00:24:47.440 time making any year your year okay so yeah we're going into 2021 yeah i know everybody's hopeful

00:24:55.920 yeah i know everybody's ready for things to go back to normal and this and that and this and that's what we

00:25:00.980 want i understand all that but really the truth is guys all that shit is irrelevant to your personal 0.81

00:25:06.780 success it's irrelevant it might be it might make it more fun it might be nicer it might be uh more

00:25:15.060 convenient but at the end of the day it's it's irrelevant because what's going to be relevant

00:25:21.620 always no matter what year it is no matter what's going on in the world no matter what obstacles you

00:25:29.120 might have or excuses you may think you have no matter fucking what what it's always going to 0.93

00:25:35.800 come down to is your own actions and your own choices and your own thoughts and so becoming aware

00:25:43.580 when you're talking yourself out of the things you really want for the things that you can have at this

00:25:48.980 moment the instant gratification aspect becoming aware of your ability to negotiate with yourself

00:25:55.140 becoming aware of your ability of how good of a salesman you actually are to yourself when it

00:26:01.140 because dude you're going to find out how good of a salesman you are are you selling yourself on the

00:26:06.520 weak shit are you selling yourself on the fucking strong shit see what i'm saying so you guys have a lot 0.97

00:26:12.840 to think about when it comes into you know achieving your goals but guys i just wanted to hit you up

00:26:17.900 with some of these thoughts because i do want 2021 to be your year you know i do want you guys to win

00:26:25.460 i know there's a you know i'm sarcastic about it a lot of times and i start to you know make fun of

00:26:30.340 this shit but i have to make fun of it otherwise it would drive me fucking insane drive me insane 0.98

00:26:35.160 you know this shit that you know like the meme i mentioned you know 20 2018 was my fucking warm-up 0.99

00:26:41.100 2019 was my warm-up after my warm-up like well fuck well when the fuck is when are you going to do 0.70

00:26:45.900 this shit dude because today is a pretty good fucking time regardless of what's going on in 0.95

00:26:52.260 the world all right so guys that's the show i hope to help you if you want the 75 hard book you just go

00:26:58.640 to andy for seller.com uh it's in the store check it out that's the only place i think that it's

00:27:03.820 available now right yep yeah so that's where we do it uh love you guys appreciate you guys and uh

00:27:10.960 let's do have a good 2021 let's do kick ass let's do fucking dominate but let's not make it about 0.91

00:27:16.700 2021 let's just make it about our fucking lives 0.94

00:27:19.300 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm going to get millions watch this in the project living down 1.00

00:27:24.760 spoke it till existence

00:27:25.960 i'm from where you can't trust 1.00

00:27:27.700 so welcome

00:27:28.360 you

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - December 30, 2020

92. 4 Ways To Dominate Your Bitch Voice In 2021

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