REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 921. Real Talk： Average Is Your Enemy

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the real let's say goodbye to the lies

00:00:21.260 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today

00:00:25.220 i have a real talk i'm just gonna get right into it okay um look all of our lives from the time we're

00:00:34.960 born all of us by the law of averages are surrounded by average people average thinkers mediocrity

00:00:46.520 people who are just trying to get by and we have these people all around us they're always talking

00:00:56.420 about things in the same way i've got to get it done so i could take it easy i've got to work hard

00:01:06.380 till friday so i can relax don't go too hard don't forget where you came from it's not that

00:01:16.460 serious you need to take it easy these are the things that we grow up hearing we hear them from

00:01:23.980 our parents we hear them from our teachers we hear from people that we look up to unfortunately

00:01:30.360 and here's the problem with this all of those things because we hear them over and over and

00:01:40.260 over again become part of who we are and what we think and how we talk to ourselves and i hear you

00:01:50.520 guys and i see you guys talking about all these different things that make winning hard people

00:01:58.420 don't believe in me people don't support me nobody wants me to win people talk shit all of these 0.88

00:02:10.060 things are irrelevant the only thing that is keeping you from where you want to go and who you want to

00:02:19.680 become is your ability to recognize that you are your own biggest enemy and the reason that you're your

00:02:34.380 own biggest enemy is because for years and years and years you were filled with mediocrity you were

00:02:42.180 filled with the vocabulary of people that lose and your brain now talks to you in that same way

00:02:51.820 you worked pretty hard today you deserve a break you know what you did good on your diet for three days

00:02:59.480 cheat meals not going to hurt you that bad you know what i'll start tomorrow we'll start next week

00:03:06.760 we'll start on monday after the holiday after that wedding after that vacation i'm gonna get my shit 0.91

00:03:14.760 together and then when things are going good you're working too hard don't forget to smell the roses

00:03:21.100 don't forget who you are that's an interesting statement isn't it don't forget who you are who are you

00:03:31.800 what does that insinuate what it insinuates is that you are an average motherfucker

00:03:41.000 you're doing good don't forget where you came from what the fuck does that even mean what does that even 0.58

00:03:48.940 mean what does that mean that you are supposed to be average you are supposed to be like everybody

00:03:57.360 else don't forget where you came from isn't that the whole fucking reason you're doing all of this 0.97

00:04:03.160 isn't that the reason you want to win isn't that the reason you're sacrificing and investing all of

00:04:09.500 this time energy blood sweat tears frustration anger into creating this life that you desire so you

00:04:16.620 can get the fuck away from who you are that's why you're doing this but we are filled everywhere we 0.57

00:04:27.740 look with messages of average messages of mediocre messages of taking it easy from people who have never

00:04:38.760 ever done a fucking thing in their entire lives and i would suggest to all of you that if you 0.95

00:04:46.600 don't want to turn out like them you better become aware of their influence in your life

00:04:52.620 because that little voice that you hear that tells you oh you worked hard today you could

00:04:58.760 skip your workout we'll do double tomorrow that is your fucking enemy it's not the people talking 0.99

00:05:06.100 shit it's not the the you know the people from your hometown or the people on instagram or who you 0.74

00:05:12.900 went to high school with or they don't believe in me no motherfucker you don't believe in you 0.98

00:05:18.380 because you can't identify that you are your own biggest hater you are the person that has the

00:05:27.740 little voice on the inside that says yeah you know what they're right i don't think i can do this

00:05:32.840 yeah you know what i do need a break yeah you know what i have been working pretty hard

00:05:39.680 and that's the voice that kills your whole fucking life and you're so unaware of it that you can't 0.88

00:05:48.140 identify it you think it's coming from over here or over there when in reality it's coming from deep

00:05:54.960 inside of you because that's all you've ever fucking heard and if you want to change the outcome of your 0.96

00:06:01.820 life you're going to have to learn how to identify the voice inside of you that keeps you from doing

00:06:09.680 the things that you're trying to do all of us on the inside have two voices we have a bitch voice 1.00

00:06:17.480 and then we have a boss voice the bitch voice is the voice that's been crafted and formed and created 1.00

00:06:25.680 by our environment over time it is the voice that is listened to every critic every naysayer every bit

00:06:34.320 of negativity and then reminds you of it every time you are trying to do something outside of the realm

00:06:42.440 of everybody else it'll be the first one to talk it's not your friends it's not your girlfriend it's

00:06:49.680 not your boyfriend it's not your wife it's not your friend group that's talking shit it's fucking you 0.99

00:06:55.860 and you are blaming on everybody else instead of controlling your internal dialogue and identifying

00:07:02.260 the bitch voice and looking at him straight in his fucking face and saying you know what fuck you 1.00

00:07:08.020 i am gonna do this work i don't need a break i am gonna step the fuck up and do what i need to do 0.77

00:07:15.400 and when you start to identify the bitch voice and then start to defy it is when you start to make 1.00

00:07:22.680 progress towards who you are actually meant to become and the more that you silence that voice through action

00:07:31.740 the more progress you will make the stronger your boss voice will become when you have a strong boss

00:07:41.100 voice and you have a weak bitch voice the internal dialogue sounds completely different it sounds more 1.00

00:07:48.960 like this yeah they can't fucking do it but i can yep that guy settled but i'm not yeah i probably could 0.91

00:07:59.440 take it easy but then i'm gonna end up just like that dude and i don't want that so i'm gonna go do

00:08:03.460 the fucking work and the way that you make this transition from a very loud bitch voice to quieting 1.00

00:08:12.160 it to a very loud boss voice that encourages you and pushes you and makes you better is through action

00:08:19.120 you have to understand that when your voice chimes up and starts talking you out of shit that is your 0.65

00:08:27.420 signal to act immediately the minute you hear your bitch voice chime in you need to get up and do 1.00

00:08:37.440 the exact opposite of what it's telling you to do if it's telling you to take a break you go do double

00:08:45.220 the work if it's telling you ah man it's sunday you don't need to do this you need to get the fuck up 0.97

00:08:51.200 and do it every time you hear it you need to take action because action is the only thing that will

00:08:58.840 squash that voice permanently it is the only thing that will get you to where you're trying to go

00:09:06.020 because you're not just fighting the outside elements you're not just fighting competition and

00:09:13.240 the economy and the marketplace that shit's hard enough you're also fighting a lifetime of mediocre

00:09:21.980 indoctrination that comes from every fucking place you've ever been in your life nobody grows up

00:09:29.080 around winners 360 degrees it doesn't happen if you're lucky you might know one or two people who win

00:09:38.860 big most people have never even met someone that is one big in life and because they've never even met

00:09:46.980 someone they think it's impossible for them and it's not you just have to understand that just because

00:09:56.300 everybody else has put limits on their life and everybody else has settled and everybody else has

00:10:03.520 accepted their reality for what they are given not for what they take

00:10:08.840 doesn't mean that you can't have a completely different life

00:10:13.540 you have to understand that this is in your control all of the things that are going to create

00:10:21.680 your ultimate reality come from things that you can control and anybody who tells you different

00:10:29.280 has never done anything you can control what you eat you can control what you drink you can control

00:10:36.640 how you move your body you can control who you associate with you can control the information you put in

00:10:43.280 your brain those are the things that are going to get you where you want to go and nobody can

00:10:50.720 fucking stop those things but you so ultimately what do you have to do to succeed well it's very 0.57

00:10:59.000 simple you have to stop listening to outside elements stop surrounding yourself with outside

00:11:06.920 elements that only think in mediocre terms that have long ago quit on what they could have become

00:11:14.460 and who you hang out with just because you think you're supposed to or because you did at one

00:11:21.220 point in your life there's not a motherfucker out here who wins big that surrounds himself with a 0.89

00:11:27.160 bunch of mediocre people it doesn't fucking happen and it's not optional you have to cut it out and 0.95

00:11:34.260 then after you cut it out you have to then audit your internal dialogue to over time remove their

00:11:42.720 influence from yourself which means every time that voice comes in every time that says oh i wonder

00:11:51.340 what they're gonna think or hey you know you're not very humble anymore or hey remember where you came

00:11:57.460 from or hey you know and you think about the thing someone said to you seven years ago that pisses you

00:12:02.520 off all of those things have to become part of what drives you they have to become something that you

00:12:09.900 silence through action they have to become the switch that as soon as it's flipped you are moving

00:12:17.440 towards where you want to be and when you become the person who can take the negative influence the

00:12:24.520 negative voice the doubt the frustration the pain the non-belief and you can turn that in to productive

00:12:32.580 action there is nothing and nobody on the fucking planet who can stop you from becoming who you want 0.94

00:12:39.520 to become everybody who says it's up to chance or circumstance has lost you never hear someone

00:12:48.260 who's winning tell you oh it was just i was in the right place at the right time oh you know i i don't

00:12:55.560 know i just fell out of the fucking womb and i became rich okay you don't have these situations for 0.96

00:13:01.620 most people most people who have ever become the kind of people that you want to become have done

00:13:08.800 the exact same way i'm telling you they take every fucking word they take every doubt they take 0.92

00:13:15.640 every frustration whether it comes from them on the outside or more than likely you on the inside

00:13:23.160 they take that and they use it they move they act they fight they sweat they bleed at the

00:13:32.220 thought of mediocrity and after a while you don't hear it anymore

00:13:37.760 you don't hear the bitch voice anymore the bitch voice goes away 1.00

00:13:42.380 and you become that version of yourself you've always wanted to become

00:13:47.520 so if you're wondering why it's so hard to win if you're wondering why you have such a problem with it

00:13:54.520 it's not the circumstances it's not where you came from it's not how you were born or what color you

00:14:02.200 are or this or that or the other somebody else had it easier it's none of those things it's that you

00:14:07.880 can't identify that you are taking direction from a literal fucking loser that has been implanted in 0.96

00:14:15.240 you from all the other losers that you've been surrounded by your entire life and your job

00:14:20.760 is to kill that version of yourself so that only the strong one exists if you can do that you can do

00:14:29.000 anything went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted 0.99

00:14:35.560 millions in the coke bad bitch booted swoke got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close 1.00

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 14, 2025

921. Real Talk： Average Is Your Enemy

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