Actions Follow Focus, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO108
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What better way to go through life than to be the motherfucking CEO of you? Have some confidence, have some swagger, and learn how to do things with a style that just stands out from the crowd.
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I want to be a motherfucking hustler. You better ask somebody.
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What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am
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the motherfucking CEO. Hey guys, if this is your first time listening, this is Friday Fire. Sometimes
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it's Thursday Thunder. Today it's Friday Fire. It really just depends on how my week goes.
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Now, if this is your first time listening, what is an MFCEO? That stands for motherfucking
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CEO. You have to understand one thing. No matter what you do, no matter who you are, no matter
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what position you currently hold in life, you are the CEO of you. You are the entrepreneur
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of you. And what better way to go through life than to be the motherfucking CEO, have some
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fucking confidence, have some swagger, and learn how to do things with a style and an ability
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that just stands out from the crowd. Okay? That's what you're going to learn here. That's
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what we're going to talk about here consistently. On Tuesdays, we've got practical lessons. Okay?
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We talk about things that can help with your mindset. We talk about things that can help
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you sell, skills. Okay? Practical things that you can put in play on how to build a life
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you want. On Thursdays, and sometimes Friday, as in this case, we talk about motivation.
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We talk about little mind tricks. Sometimes I'm going to get on and I'm going to tell you
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about, you know, certain things I do to help me be more productive. Sometimes I'm going to
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get on and I'm going to punch you right in the fucking eye. And I'm going to tell you,
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quit being a pussy. Because that is the ultimate excuse. All right? Most people spend their entire
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lives totally scared, totally, you know, afraid to even go out and try things. And if you listen
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to this podcast, you know that I don't buy into that shit. All right? You have to be willing
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to go out and take a chance. You have to be willing to take steps. You have to be willing
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to pick up the phone. You have to be willing to send an email. And most people never even
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get that far. All right? We're going to talk to you about things that can help you get that
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far and much, much further. All right? So welcome. We don't charge anything. I'm not going to
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ask you to buy anything. I'm not going to hawk my fucking, you know, $499 program. That's
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not what we do here. Okay? This is about helping you. This is about bringing people up. This is
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about instilling the values of America back into society. Hard work. Taking responsibility. Taking
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initiative. Owning your shit. All right? Going the extra mile. Being a good person. All right?
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All the things, not whining like a little fucking bitch that we've seen a lot of the last two weeks
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on the fucking internet and on the news. All right? That's what we're about. It's not for everybody,
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but if it's for you, all we ask is that you share with your like-minded friends.
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So today, if you can't tell, I'm battling a little bit of a cold or something in my throat.
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So I'm going to try to get through this the best that I can for you guys.
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I want to share with you a trick. All right? Something that I have used consistently in my
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life. And, you know, sometimes I failed at using this and it's really hurt me, but I want to talk
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about focus. Okay? I want to talk about achieving a goal in your brain that you're working towards
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and how what you focus on will actually help you achieve that goal. All right? And I'm going to use
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my personal fitness journey this year as an example for that. But this can also be used in business. It
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can be used in relationships. It can be used a lot of different ways. But I'm going to talk in terms of
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my personal weight loss fitness journey. Okay? I didn't just lose weight. I gained muscle. It's
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not just about weight loss. It's about body composition, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. If
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you want to learn more about that, you could check out our website, firstform.com, and we'll do our
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business over there. But here's the deal, guys. What you focus on and what you think about during the
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day is going to become your life. All right? There is, it's not just about the quote-unquote
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law of attraction, although it is about that. It's not just about the metaphysical, the quantum
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physical aspects of what you think about becomes reality, although it is about that too. But what it
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is more about is how your brain responds to the language that you are actually using internally.
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For example, when you go on a diet program or you go on a fitness program and you think about all
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the things that you have to give up to get where you want to go, your brain does not focus on the
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end result. It doesn't focus on the awesome physique that you're going to have. It doesn't focus on how
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fun it is to go in the dressing room and buy clothes that fit. It doesn't focus on how good you're going
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to feel. It doesn't focus on the energy that you're going to have. It doesn't focus on you not being
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embarrassed to go to the fucking swimming pool because you're a fat ass. Okay? It doesn't focus
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on that. But you know what it does focus on? It focuses on the pizza I got to give up. It focuses
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on the french fries I got to give up. It focuses on the TV time I got to give up because I'm at the gym.
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Okay? And when you are focusing on what you have to give up, your brain literally says this. And a lot
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of you guys can relate to this. You know, fuck. You know, I've got to give up pizza. And all your
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brain says is this. Pizza. Pizza. Pizza. Pizza. Pizza. Pizza. Pizza. Pizza. Until you become fucking
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obsessed with fucking pizza and you break down and you order two 18 inch pizzas with fucking chicken
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wings, french fries, and all the other shit that goes with it. You eat the shit, you lay on the couch,
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and then you wonder why the fuck you just did that. And I know a lot of you listening have done that
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before. All right? And it goes for any area of life. You've got to speak to yourself in the terms of
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your focus. All right? You've got to use language internally that helps you move forward. Okay?
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We talked last podcast about the power list and about creating momentum and about creating habits.
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Focus is a huge part of that because when you go along in the beginning of your journey, whatever that
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journey may be, you are going to naturally focus on the things that you have to give up. And you have
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to recognize that. And then you have to actually consciously switch your focus to the things
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you're going to gain. Okay? When you're focused on the things you're going to gain, like I just
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mentioned 10 of them about losing weight, you know, going to the pool and being able to take your shirt
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off, going to the dressing room and your clothes fitting, you know, feeling good about, you know,
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speaking in public, a million other things. Okay? That go along with being fit. When you're focused
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on those things and your focus is so intense and so strong and your visualization is so in tune with
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those things, you don't want to fucking fuck that up. You don't want a cheat meal. You don't want pizza.
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You don't want McDonald's. You don't want to go out with your friends and drink beer. That's not what you
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want. Because what you want is what you're focusing on. And your actions will naturally flow behind
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that focus and follow that focus up when you focus on the right things. Your actions will always follow
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your focus. It's just the way it is. Okay? When you focus on what you have to give up, your mind is going
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to be obsessed with those things. And it's not going to be obsessed with those things like, I don't want
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those things. It's going to be obsessed with those things to the point where it breaks you. You fall
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off your program. You lose your momentum. You lose your confidence that comes with that momentum and
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you're starting from zero. Okay? You've got to let these things work for you. You've got to let them
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take hold of you and push you through. Your actions will always follow your focus. All right? And this goes
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for business too. You know, when you're starting a business and let's say you're working a job
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and you have to work at night and you start thinking about, man, I got to give up all my free
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time with my kids. I've got to give up all my free time with my buddies. You know, I've got to give up
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this and this and this. Dude, that business is not going to work because you are obsessed with what
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you're having to give up. Instead, what you should be focusing on all the time and reminding of
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yourself on all the time is what you are doing this for. Why you are doing this. You look at your
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kid instead of thinking, oh man, I've got to give up these three hours at night. I am going to provide
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for that kid to go to a good high school, to a good college. I'm going to take care of them and I'm
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going to build awesome memories with them because of what I'm doing now. Okay. When you think about,
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oh, you know, I've got to give up my time with my buddies. Don't think about them sitting around
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at the fucking pub table at your local watering hole, drinking a fucking Budweiser. No, think about
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you being on the back of a motherfucking yacht with all your boys having a good time. That's why you're
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doing this shit. Okay. You've got to focus on the result. You've got to focus on the end goal.
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You've got to stay focused on what it is you are gaining, not what you are giving up. Remember
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your actions will always follow your focus. Okay. This, this doesn't matter what it is. It
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doesn't matter if it's training for the fucking tour de France. It doesn't matter if it's weight
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loss. It doesn't matter if it's building a business. It doesn't matter if it's interpersonal
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relationships. If you're always focused on the negatives of your wife or your husband and
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all the little things that are bad, you're going to fucking hate that person. It's just the way our
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brains work. So guys, you have to understand the power of focus. All right. I read a long time ago,
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one of my first books I ever read, uh, was by Tony Robbins. And in the book, he uses the example
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of driving a race car. And I like this example because I think it proves exactly the point.
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Your car, when you're driving a race car will go where you look. Okay. So when you start to slide
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out and you start to look, you start to look and you're sliding towards the wall, they teach you to
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look at the road, not at the wall, because your actions will always follow the, the way that you need
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to move to get the car back into the road. All right. It's just a natural reaction. It's the
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same thing. If you look at the wall, when you're sliding, you're going to fucking slide into the
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wall. You cannot avoid it because you're going to actually steer the car into the fucking wall.
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That's a prime real example. It's not a metaphor. It's actually a literal real example that your actions
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follow, follow your focus. Okay. You have to be disciplined and practicing this skill because
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that's what it is. It's a skill. Okay. You're going to think to yourself. And the reason I'm doing this
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podcast is because I want to bring it to your attention. I want you to realize that when you
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have these thoughts, you know, you're driving down the road and you see McDonald's and you start
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thinking about the 20 piece nugget and two double cheeseburgers that you want to get from McDonald's.
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You have to immediately start thinking, no, I don't want that. What I want is I want to be looking
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good when it's time to take my shirt off on the fucking boat this summer, or I want to be able to
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fit in those jeans, or I want to be able to show up in my high school reunion looking great, or I want
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to just be healthy so I don't fucking kick it at 40 years old. Okay. You've got to immediately
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recognize when these thoughts of short term creep in and fucking stop them and start thinking about
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what it is you really want. And what happens, guys, it's just like what happens, what we talked
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about in the last week's podcast or this week's earlier podcast, I'm sorry, where we talk about
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momentum. Okay. When you create the momentum and the discipline of doing this in the very beginning,
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after a few weeks, after a month or two months, you're going to automatically be focused on the
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result. And these little things that creeped in your mind in the beginning, you know, the missing
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the time with your kids, if you're working on a business or the missing the time here or the
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sacrifice here, or, you know, the pizza that you used to eat, those things are not even going to be
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thoughts for you. They're not even going to be in your brain. They're not even going to come in
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because you're going to be so fucking laser dial focused on what it is you want that your brain
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only thinks about the actions and only does and produces the actions that will follow that focus.
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So guys, if you're having trouble sticking to a diet, like I have for many years in the beginning,
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I said, you know, I failed at this sometimes because I failed to recognize either a what I
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really wanted and define that and visualize that the proper way, as we talked in the last podcast.
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Okay. I didn't do that. B I failed to recognize when the negative thoughts came in and to actually
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refocus consciously on my end goal, on my, my end game on what I really want. So that
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I can stay on track. And so it will not be a constant mental battle. And this is what
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discourages people so much guys, because people start out on a program. All right. And whether it
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be anything, they start out on a program in the very beginning, it's just hard. Okay. You're
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replacing habits that you've had for a long time. You're doing new things. You are doing things that
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are hard. But what happens is, is that after you do them for a long enough period of time,
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and that period of time is not that long, you create new habits. All right. So when you,
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when you're mentally struggling, you know, let's say you're, you're somebody who's trying to give
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up alcohol or you're trying to give up a food addiction and food addiction is a real thing.
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Okay. Try being fucking, you know, the, the funny thing I tried to explain to people about food
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addiction is this. And, and a lot of people don't get it is that, you know, with alcohol and cigarettes,
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you can quit cold Turkey. All right. Is it painful? Is it hard? Yeah. But what if to survive,
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you just had to drink a little bit of alcohol every day, or you just had to smoke a little bit
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of cigarettes because you had to do it to survive. That's why food addiction is so fucking hard for
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people because they've got to actually eat and do the things that they're addicted to, to actually
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survive. And it's a very, very real and very, very hard thing for people to do. So when, if you're one
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of these people or you're trying to do anything, just remember that you can still change the habits
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that you've created. It just takes discipline in the beginning. All right. Once you get three,
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four, five, six, seven weeks in these thoughts and these, these wants and these things that creep
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in your mind to where they're forcing, you know, you to be in agony because you want something so bad,
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they're not going to be there and progress is going to get easier. All right. And after two or three
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months, five months, it's going to be fucking automatic. All you have to do is stick it through
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in the beginning. And like I said, and I keep saying this goes for everything. It goes for business.
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It goes for physique. It goes for mental health. It goes for relationships. You've got to be able
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to understand and stick with all of this in order for the new habits to take place.
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Actions will always follow your focus. If you're going to take one thing away from this,
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understand that the way the world works is that what you focus on will become a reality.
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It will become a reality because your actions will follow it. It will become a reality because
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your unconscious actions will follow it. It will become a reality because the universe plays a huge
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role in lining it up for you to hit a fucking home run when you focus on the right shit. Think about
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all the times that you lose your focus. You spend an hour on Facebook here. You spend two hours on
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Instagram there. You spend another hour trying to create some funny fucking Snapchat so people laugh
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at you. All right. You read this post about so-and-so here. You get caught up in this person's
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drama here. You get, dude, what the fuck are you doing? You're spending all this energy and all this
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time on things that do not fucking matter, which is disrupting your focus. Learn to be focused. Learn to
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be disciplined about being focused. Learn to block out these instant gratification thoughts for the delay
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gratification thoughts. Learn to recognize when those thoughts come in that your job is to put
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a mental block up and refocus on the long term. All right. It's hard in the beginning. It gets easier
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and eventually it becomes automatic. All right. Focus on the shit you want and forget about the shit you