It Matters What People Think, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO147
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about how to become a bad motherfucker, and why it's important to have a bad attitude in order to be successful in your career, in your relationships, and in your life.
Transcript
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what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the
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motherfucking ceo guys the reason this is called the mf ceo project is because i am here to help
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you realize what it takes to become the ceo of you all right and why the mf why the motherfucking
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ceo because what fun is life going through being a timid meek wallflower okay if this is what you want
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to be this podcast isn't for you this is the how to become a bad motherfucker live your life with
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control live your life with power live your life with confidence and have a great fucking time doing
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it all right on tuesday we have a longer more practical podcast with my co-host vaughn the
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impaler the pastor of disaster as most of you know and on thursdays we have thursday thunder
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sometimes it's friday fire depending on the schedule that we have for the week today is thursday thunder
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and i want to talk about something that i see more and more and more of that you guys need
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to really think about all right we live in this society now where everybody wants to be real
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everybody's trying to be real everybody wants to give zero fucks all right you see it everywhere
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you see fucking people say it you see people wearing it you see people talking about it i give
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zero fucks i don't give a fuck what anybody thinks about me well motherfucker let me break it to you
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unless you're at the top of the fucking food chain you better fucking worry about it because you're not
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going to get any very far by going through life with an attitude of like take it or leave it i am
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who i am i know that's the pop culture thing i know that's the the uh the young people thing i'm going
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to be me and if you don't like it uh you know you're judging me well yeah that's what the world
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does the world judges you and the world judges you and the result of the world judging you is the
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amount of money you make uh the opportunities you have uh the connections you make and a whole bunch
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of other shit that can make your life very fucking fun or very fucking miserable so you better be
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thinking about your attitude and what you put out and how you feel about other people especially if
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you're coming up you're at the beginning of the stage you're not going to get very far if you come in
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to a new job or a new company or a new opportunity saying take it or leave it i'm fucking me and that's
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that that might work if you're a fucking celebrity or if you're a rock star or if you're a fucking
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you know somebody that has uh massive influence already you might be able to be a character but
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at the end of the day man it matters what people think and you better give a fuck if you plan on
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doing anything with your life so with that being said let's stop with the i'll give zero fucks
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bullshit all right the people who say i give zero fucks are the people who give the most fucks
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that's the truth everybody fucking knows it if you've got to go out of your way to talk about
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how much you don't give a fuck about what other people think that means you're the most insecure
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motherfucker on the face of the earth because the people who really don't care don't even care to say
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that so think about that the next time you say that on top of all the other implications now with
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that being said i want to give you guys a very useful very impactful very important tool to use
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to help you guys become successful if you're struggling in your career if you're struggling
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in a relationship if you're struggling in life it's going to come down to this what i'm about to talk
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about 99 of the time all right because opportunity doesn't just come out of anywhere opportunities
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come from other people they come from other people's perception of you they come from other
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people's perception of your character they come from other people's perception of how much they like you
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okay and that's where opportunities come from they don't just fall out of the fucking sky on your lap
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they come through connecting with other people and if you don't become amazing at connecting with
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other people you're not going to get very far all right so i want to teach you guys and tell you
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guys something that i learned a long time ago that has really really been impactful not only on myself
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but on my employees that work in our companies uh our our outside sales reps our inside staff
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it's something that just really makes a gigantic difference in how you go through life and i want to teach
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you this okay imagine if every single person and this is the tool by the way imagine if every single
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person that you came in contact with every person you had a conversation with every person you met
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every person you saw every person that you saw and made eye contact with but didn't even get a chance
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to talk to every single person you called on in business every single person period that you came in contact
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with wrote a review on the internet for the whole world to see about their perception of that interaction
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what would you change about how you treat people
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a lot of you guys are saying well i wouldn't change very much bullshit and that's why you'll be fucking broke
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let's be real 99 of you listening right now will try to turn it on and turn it off when it's when it's
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necessary when it suits you you'll you'll turn on the charm and the politeness and the manners and the
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treating people right when you think it's going to get something for you when you're on a sales call or
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you're trying to make a business contact you'll you'll do everything you'll treat people perfectly
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but when when you don't think it's going to serve you and when you don't think it matters you'll
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treat people totally different you won't be on and the key is guys is to be on all the time and let
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the on become part of your character part of your personality and guys i'm not going to sit here and
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say i'm perfect because there is times when i'm mad or i'm in a bad mood or stress is hitting me or i'm
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having things not go my way and you know what it's hard to fucking be nice to everybody and it's hard
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to like go over the top for people and make an amazing impression so they'll give you that five
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star review but that's what you got to shoot for you've got to shoot for it because if you shoot
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for it on a daily basis if you're always working you're always on you're always trying to to make
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people around you feel good have great opinions of you and and help them and create value for them
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and do everything you can so that you'll get an over-the-top five-star raving review
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you are going to fucking win you're going to have amazing opportunities presented to you you're going
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to have make more money you're going to meet better people you're going to be invited to new
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opportunities you're going to be invited to new circles that can create opportunities so many things
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come from this guys and the reason this doesn't work for you all the time is because you're trying
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to turn it on when you think matters it's not when you think it matters because it all fucking matters
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you don't know who that guy is across the room that you gave a dirty look to you don't know who uh that
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woman that you didn't hold the door for or that man you didn't hold the door for going to the grocery
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store you don't know what that person does or what they could possibly do for you that could be the
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person that changes your fucking life but because you were a dick and fucking closed the door and
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were rude you didn't even get a chance to meet them you have no idea the implications of what i'm
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talking about could be and i would say the reason that one of the biggest reasons that i've found
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somewhat a level of financial success and i have a long way to go so but i mean i'm doing all right
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and one of the reasons i've i've done as well as i have at this age is because i live this every day
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i don't try to turn it on i don't try to turn it off it has become who i am i try to make everybody
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feel important i try to make everybody feel good and i try to do everything i can to create value
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whether it be the fucking janitor or whether it be the ceo it doesn't matter because it's part of my
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character and guys when you when you say oh well when you start pre-qualifying your your your
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interactions with people well oh i gotta do this one better than this one over here dude you're gonna
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fuck up you've got to be a hundred percent a hundred percent of the time and if you are struggling in
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life if you're struggling with money if you're not having the opportunities that you think you should
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have i guarantee you it's because you're not living this on a day-to-day basis okay
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so many people miss the mark with this they they they try to overthink it they try to manipulate it
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they try to like turn on the charm dude anybody with the fucking brain can see when someone's turning
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it on or turning it off or when it's genuine and authentic or whether it's fake the key is to be
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fucking authentic with it a hundred percent of the time so that every single possible opportunity that
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you have in life is going to at least show itself in some way it isn't rocket science guys it's being
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a good person it's doing the right thing it's treating people with respect it's going above and
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beyond to give far more than you receive and if you could grasp that concept and it's hard to grasp
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that concept when you're fucking broke and you're eating ramen and you can't pay your fucking bills and
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you don't see anything positive happening it's natural to want to take but that is when it's
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most important to be the person who gives to be the person who contributes to be the person who makes
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other people benefit from your fucking presence it's not what's in it for you it's what you can fucking do