The Support Expectation, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO146
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Summary
In this episode of the MFCEO Project, I talk about why it's important to be the guy who supports his friends, family, and his acquaintances. And why if your product or service is not compelling enough for people to want to buy it, then it's probably not a good idea to start a business.
Transcript
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what is up guys you're listening to the MFCEO project I'm Andy I'm your host and I am the
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motherfucking CEO guys today is Thursday thunder which means I'm going to reach down your throat
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and rip your fucking tongue out and then I'm gonna eat it with some fucking sweet and sour
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sauce from McDonald's you know I haven't had McDonald's in like seven eight years believe
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it or not uh I don't know why that just came to my mind but I hate fucking McDonald's and I don't
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eat it but they're sweet and sour sauce on some chicken nuggets and we're talking about something
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I'm I can do something with that anyway if I was going to eat a tongue it would be with sweet and
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sour that's my fucking point here's what I want to talk to you guys about today all right so many of
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you guys are wanting to be successful you're wanting to start a company you're wanting to do this and
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they say you write in and you tell me Andy my friends don't support me my family doesn't
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support me my this my girlfriend doesn't support me my fucking uh friends from school they they don't
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support me well look let's talk about this for for a second all right you cannot just expect people
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to support you because you started something all right there could be a million reasons why they
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aren't supporting you you cannot put that obligation on other people and expect that to be the revenue
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driver for whatever it is you're trying to start too many of you guys start a company and you think
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you're going to rely on your friends and your family and people you know to shop there and buy from
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you and that's going to get you started that's wrong okay first of all they don't owe you shit
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all right unless you've been the kind of person that supports them and goes out of your way for them
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and has helped them they're not obligated to support you and even then they still might not support you
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number two that's not enough people I don't care how social you are to actually build a business from
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all right you cannot build a business counting on your friends and family to shop with you
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and think that's going to be enough it's just not enough people all right but my main point and what
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I want to talk about with you guys is the support expectation all right uh and before I get into that
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the point number three is if your product or service is not enticing enough for people to want to
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fucking buy it it's probably not a good idea to start that business you know most people understand
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that for common sense but I'm just telling you right now if if you can't go have a five-minute
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conversation with a stranger and show your your product how it solves a certain problem or helps
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them in a certain way you probably don't belong in business and you're probably going to get beat
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pretty hard all right so getting into this this this expectation of obligated support guys
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you have to think of support as like a bank account all right you can make deposits and you can
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make withdrawals all right and you might not be in business today you might not have something going
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on that you expect people to buy from you but one day you might and the reason I bring this up is that
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guys it's always a great idea always always always always a great idea to be the guy who supports his
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friends his family and his acquaintances and whatever it is that they do as long as it's not immoral you know
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what I mean show up at their barbecues buy their product give them a post be the guy who's going to
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go out of your way to support your friends all right not only is it the right thing to do but one day
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you might need their support back one day you might need the reciprocation of that deposits that you're
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making into that bank and you might need to take a fucking withdrawal all right and so many of you guys
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wait till you need to make a withdrawal when you haven't made any deposits and then you wonder why
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nobody's fucking supporting you all right and this is what I want to talk to you guys about mainly
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be the guy who supports people be the guy who cheers for people be the guy who helps people become
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successful be the guy who connects people and you know what's going to happen good shit not only for
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the people you're helping but it's going to come back to you it's going to come back to you when you
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need it most it's going to be the thing that lifts you up when you're struggling or when you start
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something new or when you're out trying to create something that is a little bit off the wall or a
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little bit scary or risky all right you've got to be the person who supports his friends who supports
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his family who supports his acquaintances before you could ever make a withdrawal or expectate expect
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them to support you back okay and too many of you guys get so fucking upset when people don't support
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you when who the fuck have you supported what have you done for these people just because you start a
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business just because you start something doesn't mean these people owe you anything and let me branch off
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onto another subject the idea that people owe you their support is very fucking arrogant and egotistical
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nobody owes you shit and that expectation that people owe you something is going to always hold
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you back because you're going to write into people like me crying and whining about why the fuck nobody
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supports you i'm going to give you a reason why nobody supports you it's probably because you don't
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fucking support anybody else so if you want to look at like why you're not getting the fanfare why you're
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not getting the love why you're not getting the excitement why you're not getting the shares why you're not
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getting the likes it's probably because you're not giving any of that shit first
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okay social media has people thinking there's some kind of fucking celebrity where it's like not cool
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to follow a lot of people or it's not cool to like their posts or it's not cool to support people because
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you're big time and they're just little folks dude that's a recipe for fucking disaster
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you are no better than anybody else you are no higher than anybody else you aren't on a fucking
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pedestal you're a human being treat other human beings with respect give support give encouragement
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give feedback help people and you will be fucking amazed at what good shit comes back to you
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but you cannot cannot expect people to support you because you share the same last name or you went to
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school together or you went to high school that is that is an unrealistic expectation people will
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support you when you help them people will support you when you support them people will support you
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when you do good for them first and if you can understand that concept you're not going to have
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a problem rallying support for your own projects when those projects come around so stop looking around
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and wondering why you don't have support the only reason you don't have support is this your product
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sucks you're doing something immoral you're not doing something that solves a real problem and you
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probably don't support other people and if you're that if you do one of those four things your business