It's Time to Draw a Line in the Sand, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO207
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Summary
The biggest difference between people who succeed and people who fail is the ability to draw the line in the sand and live the lives they want. Once you cross that line, you will never be able to get back on it again.
Transcript
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what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the
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motherfucking ceo today i've got a little bit something different for you okay um i want to
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share with you a story that i had uh a conversation with my brother over the last couple days um
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last few days thursday i apologize i didn't get you a podcast uh we had our annual first form awards
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uh dinner and uh we have 400 people here in town so you know i've been working so uh today um
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i want to share with you a little bit of a conversation and what it meant to me
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over this past week and i was talking to sal my brother uh if you listen to the podcast you've
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heard him a number of times and we were talking about somebody that we knew that uh was off of
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her game okay uh this is somebody who we've been friends with who we've watched over the last few
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years and we've noticed that she's sliding off of her game uh she's not on it like she used to be
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she's not dedicated as she used to be she's not as sharp as she used to be and we were kind of
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talking about why and he said dude i think she might be doing drugs and i said i said you know
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what man uh i wouldn't be surprised i see drugs suck people in i've seen it a hundred times i've
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seen it in my own family and i'm sure you guys have seen it in your families too uh and i said
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you know i don't know i don't know what the deal is but you're right it doesn't make sense and the
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only thing i can honestly think is that it would be drugs well that got me thinking about something
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and i said to my brother and i always say this i said you know why i never do drugs you know why
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i've never done cocaine or smoked crack or done heroin or any of that shit and he's like why and
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i said because i know i fucking like it there's a reason people do drugs it's not because it makes
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them feel like shit and i know that if i did that if i started doing cocaine or i started doing some
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other drug that i would probably do it a lot more and that got me thinking even more and i said to him
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i said dude you know it's funny how certain people have these issues that can never break out of you
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know whether it be um they're eating too much or whether it be they're smoking too much or whether
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it be they're doing drugs or whether it be their career or whether it be something in their life
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that they're not happy with and i said to him i said dude you know i don't know if i would be one
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of those people who got sucked in because at the end of the day i know when to draw the fucking line
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in the sand and and we both kind of looked at each other and he's like yeah you're right and you know
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that got me that got me thinking about what we're going to talk about today and that got me thinking
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about the biggest difference between people who can succeed and people who can get shit done
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and people who live the lives they want is their ability to draw the line in the sand
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once i say that's it once i say that's enough it's enough and i will do every single thing i can
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to make sure i move forward from that point on a lot of people can't do that they talk about the line
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in the sand they say this is it i mean it this time no more i'm not going to do that again and what
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do you see two days later what are they doing they're doing the same thing they were doing
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two days before they're becoming the same person they're not changing they're lying to themselves
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they're telling themselves they're going to do something making a conviction based promise to
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themselves and when they say it they mean it it's not like they know they're lying to themselves
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they mean it at the time but when the time comes that the resolve is going to be tested
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that the changes they said they were going to make are going to be tested they're weak
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they can't stick out what they promise themselves every time they break this promise they lose
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self-esteem they lose self-worth they lose confidence and most importantly they lose belief
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and i think that being able to draw a line in the sand and say this is fucking it
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and being able to never go back on that line to stick through what you promise yourself that's
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the difference between winners and losers that's the difference between people who can take their
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life back and people who can't that's the difference between people who get hooked on drugs and fucking
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live their whole life ruined and the people who don't that's the difference between people who make
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millions and millions and millions and millions and millions and millions of dollars and people
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who don't they draw a fucking line and they don't cross it again and my biggest thing that my biggest
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point that i want to get across with this is that are you the kind of person that can draw the line
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in the sand are you the kind of person who could say this is enough are you the kind of person who says
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i am fucking done with that and i'm going to become what it is i know i can become
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none of us were born that type of person it's not a magic skill it's not something that we're gifted
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with it's not something that god gave us we just understand that if we don't draw that line in the
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sand and we don't stick to what we say that things aren't going to change and we want that change more than
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we want that pizza more than we want that cigarette more than we want that line of cocaine we want the
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fucking change more than the sacrifice we're going to make to get it
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those are the people who build extraordinary lives those are the people who you look up to and think
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what do they have that i don't they don't have shit that you don't have the only thing that they do
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that's different than you is that when they make a promise to themselves when they draw a line in the sand
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it's for real it's not some lie it's not some justification it's not some bullshit promise
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it's good as writing it down in the history books for 10,000 years from now because when they make that
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decision they follow through they make a true resolution
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and there's a difference there there's a difference between a decision and a resolution
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everybody can make a decision hey guess what i decided i want to be rich today well good for you
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so does everybody else but the guy who says i am resolving to become wealthy beyond any of my friends
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beyond any of my family beyond any of my expectations and i'm going to surprise myself
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by becoming so wealthy and i will do whatever the fuck it takes to make sure that happens
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those are the guys that succeed and this goes for weight loss too this goes for physical progress too
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we're in the time of year where a lot of you have already made promises to yourself and what are you
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doing now you're back to doing the same shit you were doing on december 31st you're back to being
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a lazy unmotivated undisciplined cupcake-eating motherfucker that isn't going to do the work
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that isn't going to follow through that isn't going to make the best out of their lives
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and you're telling yourself already well you know what it's the beginning of the year still we got a
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lot of year left blah blah blah dude that's what fucking losers say that's what people who are broke
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say that's what people who are extremely overweight and can't do anything about it say that's what people
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whose lives are in shambles say i got plenty of time left fuck your plenty of time left
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draw a line in the sand do everything that you can to make sure you don't cross back on it
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and you'll see your life change you'll see the people around you that are negative fall off you'll see
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people come into your lives that are positive and encouraging you'll see progress in your bank
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account and in your waistline everything in your life changes when you learn how to draw a line